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2024-06-1207 min
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam FraserQuicky #8: Unlearning Bad Habits (with Harris O'Malley)Quicky #8 is from Season 1, Episode 9: The New Dating Rules for Men (with Harris O'Malley)
On this episode, I chat with Harris O’Malley, a dating coach who provides geek dating advice at Paging Dr. NerdLove, as well as on Kotaku and elsewhere. He and his work has been featured on Nightline, Vice, The Guardian, New York Magazine, The Huffington Post, Wired, Sex Nerd Sandra, Daily Life, Slate, The Austin-American Statesman, Austin Monthly, Geek and Sundry, Boing Boing, Everyday Feminism, Buzzfeed, The BBC, The New Yorker, The New York Post, The Daily Dot, The Washington Post, Kotaku, Lifehacker, Ne...
2023-01-1708 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThis Is What Nobody Tells You About Having ADHDGrowing up, I knew I was struggling with things that other people seemed to be able to do without a second thought. I thought I was just lazy, that I needed to be more disciplined and to take things more seriously. But it never worked, and I never understood why. Now, after a lifetime of searching, I finally have the answers. This week, I want to talk with you about my experiences with having been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, how it can affect you and your relationships, and my experiences with getting diagnosed a...
2020-10-0727 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe 5 Things You Need To Know About DatingThe #1 reason why so many men struggle with dating is very simple: they don't know what it takes to be successful with women. Attraction isn't a checklist; having all the right "stats" isn't going to magically make you attractive to women. Learning to succeed with women isn't about having the right car or the right body, it's about learning how to become your best, most desirable self. That's why this week, I'm going to teach you the 5 things YOU need to know in order to succeed with women, become the man you've always wanted to be and b...
2020-09-2422 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveStop Being Afraid of RejectionRejection hurts... but the fear of rejection can often hurt even worse. In fact, when we give into the fear of rejection, we often set up a pattern that can affect us throughout our lives. Rejections we've experienced in the past can end up affecting us NOW. When we give into the fear of rejection, we can end up reliving that fear, long after it's happened... feeling the pain as though it's happening to us again, right now. When that happens, it becomes a way that we almost give up our free will; life becomes a series of steps t...
2020-09-0923 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow Do You Know She's Right For You?What makes one relationship last, while another falls apart? Why do you seem to have found your dream relationship, only to have it turn into a nightmare? Your partner may seem perfect, but it takes more than shallow commonalities to make a relationship work. Just because things are amazing in the beginning doesn't mean that everything is going to work out on it's own. If you've ever wondered whether she's "the one", or you want to know if your relationship has what it takes to go the distance, then you need to answer these questions. S...
2020-08-2723 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhat Avatar: The Last Airbender Can Teach Us About Finding RedemptionIt's very easy to feel like you’re forever going to be defined by your worst decisions or your biggest mistakes. But while you can't change your past, you can change your future. By examining one of the best redemption arcs in modern media, we can learn how Prince Zuko overcame trauma and earned his redemption... and find how we can learn to find our own in the process. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How our response to trauma can shape our lives... and why it can transform us into different people Why a desire for acceptance can turn peo...
2020-08-1326 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Talk to Anyone (At Any Time)One reason why a lot of guys have a hard time meeting women is because they’ve put ALL of their focus on ONLY talking to women, and even then, only women that they’re attracted to. The truth is that the most popular and socially successful men — the ones who do the best with women — tend to be the ones who talk to everyone. Part of the secret to their success is that they know how to connect with people and build relationships that lead to the results they’re looking for, whether it’s networking, making new fr...
2020-07-2316 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Transform Your Life (With Arden Leigh)What does it take to turn your life around? How can you learn to recognize negative patterns in your life that are sabotaging your progress? And what does it take to break those patterns and make positive lasting changes? This week, I've invited my friend and coach Arden Leigh of The Repatterning Project to talk about how to recognize the patterns in your life that are holding you back and what it takes to transform yourself so that you can find stronger, healthier and more positive relationships. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How we create and reinforce...
2020-07-0835 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Problem With "Nice Guys"Women often say that they want a nice guy, so why do so many of them think that nice guys are THE WORST? The trouble is that Nice Guy's behavior works against them; what they see as positive and respectful is actually pushing people away. Here's why being a Nice Guy drives women away... and why it can be so hard to STOP being a Nice Guy. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What "Nice Guy" behavior says about them Why "treating her like a queen" is actually unattractive How Nice Guys ruin their relationships The #1 m...
2020-06-1816 min
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser#9 The New Dating Rules For Men (with Harris O'Malley)In this episode I chat with Harris O’Malley, a dating coach who provides geek dating advice at Paging Dr. NerdLove, as well as on Kotaku and elsewhere. He and his work has been featured on Nightline, Vice, The Guardian, New York Magazine, The Huffington Post, Wired, Sex Nerd Sandra, Daily Life, Slate, The Austin-American Statesman, Austin Monthly, Geek and Sundry, Boing Boing, Everyday Feminism, Buzzfeed, The BBC, The New Yorker, The New York Post, The Daily Dot, The Washington Post, Kotaku, Lifehacker, NeilStrauss.com, The Good Man Project, MTV’s Guy Code, The Harvard Business Journal, and many othe...
2020-06-181h 05
Paging Dr. NerdLoveUse This Mindset To Overcome Your Self-Limiting BeliefsOver the course of my career, I’ve dealt with a lot of people who haven’t had much dating experience — from people who’ve only had one or two girlfriends in their lives to literal 40 year old virgins. They all had in one thing common: they had the same fears, beliefs and anxieties regarding dating and women that made them give up. Here's how to break through your dating fears, conquer your anxiety and overcome your self-limiting beliefs. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How we project our anxieties onto other people How self-limiting beliefs hold us...
2020-06-0418 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveAsk Dr. NerdLove Anything!This week, we have a special bonus episode: a live episode where my patrons got to ask me anything — from dating advice to moving to Austin to what shows I've been binging during the lockdown. Plus guest appearances from Mr. Senior Kitty! If you want to take part in the next AMA, be sure to support the podcast by becoming a Dr. NerdLove patron! SIGN UP FOR THE DATING ACCELERATOR PROGRAM Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove p...
2020-05-281h 24
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Art of Sexting Like A GentlemanSexting and knowing how to flirt over text is a skill that’s invaluable whether you have a friends-with-benefits relationship, a long-distance relationship, or if you and your partner are looking to keep things exciting. In fact, knowing how to start sexting with someone the right way may be one of the most invaluable skills you can develop for keeping the spark in your relationship. But you have to know how to get things started the right way. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How to lay the groundwork to start sexting with your partner Why th...
2020-05-2117 min
Paging Dr. NerdLove5 Things You Need To Get Your Life TogetherHow happy are you with your life right now? If you're like most people, you probably have a list of major changes you’ve wanted to make. You may even have looked at the current pandemic as your chance to work on yourself and get your life where you want it to be. Now tell me, how far HAVE you gotten on that list? The odds are not very far. You probably attacked it like a man possessed… only to find your motivation and desire drained away. Now you’re basically back where you started, just more frustr...
2020-05-0721 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Get Your Ex Back... The RIGHT WayLast time, we talked about the recent trend of folks reaching out to their exes, why it’s happening so frequently and why it can be comforting to try to rekindle an old relationship. But it's far too easy to fall back to old patterns and old routines with your ex, which means you're going to make the same old mistakes that lead to new pain. Today, I'm going to teach you the RIGHT way to get your ex back. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why the most popular ways to get your ex back DO...
2020-04-2914 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveShould You Get Back Together With Your Ex?With the stress and the chaos of the COVID-19 pandemic, more and more people are reaching out to their exes for comfort, for connection and something more. But is it ever a good idea to get back with your ex? If you're thinking of trying to get your ex back — or reaching out to them again — then you need to be able to answer these 5 questions first. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why we look to our past relationships when times are hard When an old relationship is better left in the past... and when it's worth tryi...
2020-04-2318 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Help Your Relationship Survive the COVID-19 QuarantineSelf-isolation can be a trial for even the happiest lovers. Couples under quarantine are starting to feel the strain on their relationship. Relationships are rarely tested the way that they’re being tested now, and many people are discovering their relationship isn't as happy or as strong as they they thought. In some parts of the world, divorce rates are starting to skyrocket as soon as quarantine orders have been lifted. Don't let that happen to YOUR relationship. In this free workshop, I'll teach you what it takes to keep your relationship happy, healthy, safe and strong, so...
2020-04-151h 07
Paging Dr. NerdLoveLove, Sex and Dating During QuarantineThe COVID-19 pandemic doesn't mean that your love life has to be put on hold. In fact, relationships are more important than ever. People are still meeting, dating and even falling in love during social distancing. The coronavirus pandemic has forced us to think about dating in new and different ways. In this replay of the live workshop, Dr. NerdLove will talk about how dating has changed, how we can change with it and how the current crisis has the potential to make us more desirable dates, better lovers and incredible partners. SIGN...
2020-04-081h 09
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Have An Amazing Social Life During COVID-19Loneliness is one of the unspoken side-effects of sheltering in place. And yet, we need our social connections more than ever. How can you build and maintain a social life when social distancing is the rule? In my latest live, free seminar, I talk about how to build and maintain those important social connections, meet new people and strengthen the friendships you already have. Want to take part? The next seminar is on 4/7 at 3 PM CST. Join me at facebook.com/DrNerdLove and join NerdLove Academy at facebook.com/groups/DrNerdLove DOCTOR'S NOTE...
2020-04-0151 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveManaging Your Emotional Health During COVID-19How do you manage anxiety in the middle of a pandemic? How is living under quarantine affecting you? In my first LIVE teleseminar, I talk about how to manage stress and maintain your emotional health during the COVID-19 pandemic. Want to take part? The next seminar is on 3/31 at 3 PM CST. Join me at the Dr. NerdLove Facebook Page and be sure to join the NerdLove Academy group! DOCTOR’S NOTE: So since I did this over Facebook Live, there’s a little funkiness with the audio. I’ve done my best to clean it up but so...
2020-03-2757 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Make A Long Distance Relationship WorkI’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours! This week: he and his girlfriend have been stuck in a long-distance relationship because of the COVID-19 pandemic. How can they keep their relationship alive while they're apart? Book a private coaching session with Dr. NerdLove Virtual Museum Tours Virtual National Park Tours Free Metropolitan Opera Live Streams 15 Broadway Musicals and Plays You Ca...
2020-03-1816 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe 5 Things You Need To Get Over A BreakupThe reason why you have such a hard time getting over your ex is because most folks have the wrong idea about breakups. The pain of a break-up is equal parts mental and physical. When you’re struggling with how to get over your breakup, you’re almost never handling BOTH halves of the equation. Getting over your ex quickly and successfully requires that you address both sides of the breakup. So today I want to give you the 5 things you MUST do in order to get over your breakup and move forward. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:...
2020-03-1119 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhat Letterkenny Can Teach Us About Positive MasculinityI’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours! This week: With all the talk about toxic masculinity, what does POSITIVE masculinity look like? Here's what we can learn about being better men from the hicks, jocks and skids of Letterkenny. What Does Positive Masculinity Look Like? Book a private coaching session with Dr. NerdLove Listen Here Download Here Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com
2020-03-0415 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveYou Are Your Own Worst EnemyThe reason why so many people struggle with dating isn't because of their looks, their height, their genes or their hairline. It's because they are caught in a cycle of bad habits and practices that destroy your confidence and sabotages your ability to improve. Here's how you can break out of this negative cycle and build the habits that will improve your willpower, your self-esteem and help you find the dating success you deserve. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How self-limiting beliefs cause you to fail before you've even begun Why negativity is so powerful and seductive...
2020-02-2622 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveAsk Dr. NerdLove: How Do You Handle Being "Just Friends"? I’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours! This week: Everyone's heard the "let's just be friends" speech from someone they've been attracted to. But how do you make a friendship work with someone you're attracted to? How do you keep sex from getting in the way of your friendship? Book a private coaching session with Dr. NerdLove The Secret to Being "Just Friends" Why "Men...
2020-02-1916 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhat Do Women Find Sexy In Men?Do you know what women find sexy in a man? Not attractive, not aesthetically pleasing but what makes a woman want to peel a man’s clothing off with her teeth. A lot of guys… don’t. In fact, a lot of guys have the absolute WRONG ideas about what turns women on. If you want to be sexier than other guys, then you should know what draws a woman to a guy... and why she says YES to sleeping with one guy and no to the rest. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What men DON'T...
2020-02-1220 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow Can You Learn To Love Being Single?I’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours! This week: Valentine's Day is coming, and it's stressing people out. How can you learn to be happy when you’re single, especially when it seems like the universe is determined to remind you that everyone else is coupled up and you’re not? Book A Private Coaching Session With Dr. NerdLove The Secret to Being Successful With Women
2020-02-0518 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Secret To Being Successful With WomenHere's something nobody will tell you about being successful with women: nobody is "naturally" good with women. Nobody is born with an instinctual ability to get dates. Everyone — people who seem to be naturally gifted and people who learned later in life — all developed their skills the same way. That's why all the people who are successful with women have the same things in common. If you want to learn how to have the love life you deserve, then you want to master the four key components to developing the skill to meet, connect with and date amaz...
2020-01-2918 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow Do You Keep The Spark In Your Relationship?I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours! This week: How do you keep your relationship from fading into boredom? What's the secret to keeping the spark making your long-term relationship feel as fresh and hot and alive as when you first met? Book A Private Coaching Session With Dr. NerdLove Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on i...
2020-01-2213 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Flirt With Women on Social MediaWe live more and more of our lives online, and that means that more of our relationships start there too. But most guys don't know how to flirt effectively on Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat. If you want to be the guy that women like to talk to and enjoy hearing from, not just another thirsty dude trying to slide into her DMs, then you want to follow these rules for flirting with women on social media. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: The three deadly sins of flirting on social media How to get women to want to respond to...
2020-01-1520 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Take The Perfect Tinder PhotoI’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours! This week: What are the best pictures for dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, Bumble and OKCupid? And how can guys look more photogenic and get more matches? Book A Private Coaching Session With Dr. NerdLove Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podca...
2020-01-0812 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Find the PERFECT GirlfriendHow do you find someone who's the RIGHT girlfriend for you... and how do you make sure that YOU are the guy that SHE'S looking for? We're going to talk about what you can do to turn 2020 into the year you meet someone who is your perfect match, and how to be the exact right man for her as well. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why online dating is the WRONG approach for trying to find the perfect girlfriend How men sabotage their own success when they go out to meet women Why even successful, socially skilled men meet...
2020-01-0118 min
Paging Dr. NerdLove3 Tips For Flirting Like A MasterDR. NERDLOVE MERCHANDISE: https://nerdloveacademy.com/shop/ One of the biggest reasons why people have a hard time flirting successfully is that they don’t understand how flirting is supposed to work. But when you understand the overall philosophy of flirting, you’re in a much better position to fine tune your flirting style to one that works for you and lets you adapt to whomever you’re trying to flirt with. These three unusual tips will teach you how to flirt like a master. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What guys get wrong about how to...
2019-12-1820 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveASK DR. NERDLOVE: How Do You Meet More Women? I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours! This week: How can you meet more women when you live in a small town? And how do you stop having a fear of missing out on the "perfect" relationship? Book a Private Coaching Session With Dr. NerdLove Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a...
2019-12-1113 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Get Over Your Fear of RejectionWhat would you do if you weren't afraid of being rejected? How would your life change if you could approach people you were attracted to without the fear of rejection? Eliminating your fear of rejection could create a profound transformation in your life. You can do this. You can learn to be absolutely fearless when it comes to meeting new people. It’s just a matter of making a very simple change in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why a fear of rejection is about a fear of loss How a sc...
2019-12-0420 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveAsk Dr. NerdLove: Should You Tell Your Date That You're A Virgin?I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours! This week: Should you tell women that you're a virgin, or is it better to keep it a secret. And is dating your co-worker a good idea? The Virgin's Guide to Great Sex Book a Private Coaching Session With Dr. NerdLove Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTun...
2019-11-2713 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhy Women Won't Text You Back (And What You Should Do)Why did she stop replying to your texts? Why won't she text you back? Is time to panic? When when stop responding to your texts, it can feel like she doesn't like you any more. But that's not always the case. If your text conversations are drying up before you can get her out on a date, then you may be having one of these common issues. Here's why women won’t text you back… and what you can do about it. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why most reason why women won't text a guy b...
2019-11-2017 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveAsk Dr. NerdLove: What Do You Do If She Gives You A Fake Number?I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe next week the question I'll answer will be yours! This week: Why do so many women have empty online dating profiles? And what do you do when a woman's given you a fake number? Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Get...
2019-11-1308 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhy Online Dating SUCKS (and 5 Ways To Make It Better)Online dating sucks. Doesn't matter if it's Tinder, Bumble, OKCupid or Christian Mingle. Men get next to no matches, women get flooded with awful messages, bots, trolls and zombie profiles run rampant on most apps... it's like trying to find a diamond in a pit of sewage. Most dating apps seem designed to be frustrating to ANYONE who wants to date someone of the opposite sex. But it doesn't have to bet that bad. Here's why online dating is so awful... and 5 ways you can make it better. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What science...
2019-11-0619 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveAre You Trapped In An Abusive Relationship?Toxic relationships can be hard to recognize. Are you being stubborn and selfish? Or is something actually wrong? Toxic people don't look like cartoon abusers, gloating about how great it is to manipulate folks. Learning how to recognize the signs of a toxic relationship — and how to avoid them in the first place — will strengthen your relationships, improve your confidence and make you 100% happier. Learn to recognize these signs and how to drive toxic people out of your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why toxic relationships are so hard to recognize How toxic people trade on myth...
2019-10-2317 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhy Women Don't Like Nice GuysWhy do women say they want to find a nice guy, but never seem to want to date them? The answer is that what women are not saying is actually more important. Whenever a woman says “I wish I could find a nice guy”, there’s the unspoken modifier: “I wish i could find a nice guy… who actually excites me." Here's how men can stop being so "nice", and start being amazing. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What women REALLY mean when they talk about finding a nice guy Why women aren't attracted to "nice" guys...
2019-10-1020 min
Paging Dr. NerdLove5 Things Men Do That Women HATEAre you ruining your chances of meeting incredible women before you even start? Women HATE it when the guys they meet do these 5 things. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How guys turn women off before they even say a word Why trying to impress women you're attracted to is the wrong move How to demonstrate REAL value and status when you're flirting Why you don't want to have TOO much in common How men manage to turn a win into a loss with this ONE mistake ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: 5 Signs Women...
2019-09-2516 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveConquer Your Social Anxiety and Develop Bullet-Proof Social ConfidenceConfidence isn’t about being 100% sure of your inevitable success, it’s simply feeling that you know how to handle the situation.
Taking away the fear of social awkwardness helps build bullet-proof social confidence. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why your attitude is the key to your social success How you accidently cripple your in-person social skills Why MeetUps, mixers and networking is better for developing your social skills than cold approaches at bars How to block out social anxiety by avoiding the Spotlight Effect How to make it easier for other people to approach YOU ... and so much mo...
2019-09-1219 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe 5 Things That Make You Irresistible To WomenWhat does it take to be someone that women want to date? It's not about looks, status or money. It's about understanding the secret behind why we fall in love and with whom. Show Highlights: Why guys focus on surface issues... and miss the most important parts of attraction Why women will reject you BEFORE getting to know the real you How guys turn off women long before they ever start talking to her Why you keep meeting the WRONG women What makes a woman decide INSTANTLY whether she will EVER sleep with somebody ...and so...
2019-08-2821 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhat REALLY Makes Men Attractive?Does personality matter, or are looks the only thing that's important? Why do guys have a hard time understanding what makes a man attractive to women? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How much your physique ACTUALLY matters to women Why "attraction triggers" and evolutionary psychology give men all the wrong answers How we let self-limiting beliefs sabotage our dating success Why attraction is about more than biology How we confuse power fantasies for sexual ones ... and so much more. RELATED LINKS: The Myth of What Women Want What Matters More, Looks Or P...
2019-08-1417 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhat Does A Real Man Look LIke?Men feel immense pressure to look a particular way and they're breaking themselves, physically and psychically to try to get to reach those ideals.
As bodies are marketed to us as products and men are sold self-loathing, we have to ask: what does a REAL man look like? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How male celebrities are getting the body-shaming treatment from the media Why the idea of what makes a "real" man is always in flux How the "perfect" body has changed over time What men get wrong about trying to achieve the perfect body Why the...
2019-08-0120 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveDating Tips for Short MenWhen Chris Morgan had a meltdown at the Bagel Boss in Long Island, he was tapping into real frustrations short men have in dating. Here's how short guys can learn to get the girl. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How the body shaming of Jason Momoa and the Bagel Boss meltdown are symptoms of the same problem Why your height isn't the deal breaker you think it is What Tom Cruise, Robert Downey Jr., Donald Glover and Bruno Mars have in common Why women like tall men How to seem taller than you really are ...and so much...
2019-07-1819 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Be Instantly Magnetic to WomenCharisma and personal magnetism aren't about being the handsomest or most impressive person in the room. It's about knowing how to connect with people in ways that other folks can't. Understand how to build the right connections with people and amazing women won't be able to stop thinking about you... instead of someone else. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What the story of one man's failure teaches us about personal magnetism and charisma Why your presentation matters more than your looks How your body language affects your connection with others Why intensity and authenticity is so important What most...
2019-07-0420 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveLearning the (Love) Lessons of End of EvangelionNow that Neon Genesis Evangelion is available on Netflix, what can we learn about love, life and loneliness from Shinji Ikari? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why so many fans relate to Shinji Ikari How the End of Evangelion and "The Beast That Shouted AI at the Heart of the World" represent two paths for Shinji... and us Why our fear keeps us from making the relationships we most need How loneliness can turn to anger and violence Why we're (not) alone ... and so much more RELATED LINKS: Pacific Rim and Lessons i...
2019-06-2824 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThis is Why Your Life Isn't Getting Better... And How To Fix It.Incels are spending tens of thousands of dollars on plastic surgery to become Chads and they're still miserable. Here's why your life isn't getting better... and how to fix it. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why there are no external solutions to an internal problem How a micro-revolution can give you back control over your life Why you're stuck in your comfort zone... and how to escape it Why it's important to embrace The Pain Period How to change the world around you to fix YOUR future ... and so much more. RELATED LINKS: Unlearning...
2019-06-2018 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Secret to Successful FlirtingFlirting with amazing women is far less complicated or difficult than people think it is. Here's the secret. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why we rarely recognize flirting when we see it The key to finding your flirting style What makes the difference between conversation and flirting How to make women become addicted to you An underused secret technique for successful flirting ...and so much more RELATED LINKS: How To Use Humor In Your Flirting The Subtle Things That Make Men More Attractive The Most Attractive Aspect of a Man...
2019-06-0715 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Mistakes That Are Costing You DatesThis common belief is ruining your relationships and making it impossible to find the dating success you want. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How one simple change in your mindset means the difference between romantic success and failure How guys sabotage their own chances with women What Doctor Horrible's Sing-Along Blog teach us about Nice Guys and Bad Boys Why being wrong can help you connect with women Why women REALLY choose the "Bad Boy" over the "Nice Guy" ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: 5 Simple Ways To Jumpstart Your Life What...
2019-05-2319 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhy Are Millennials Having Less Sex?Millennials in general and Millennial men are having less sex than ever. Why? And what does this have to do with #metoo and the recent #sexstrike? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What the Economist gets wrong about Millennials and sex Why #MeToo IS to blame for the "sex recession"... kind of Why a "sex strike" is bad activism How our attitudes towards sex affects our ability to please our partners The REAL reason why men are having less sex ...and so much more RELATED LINKS: F*ck Like A Gentleman The Unbelievable...
2019-05-1611 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Dr. NerdLoveLine SpecialYou've been waiting patiently, and it's finally here! This week, the Doc - and special guest host Crystal Donovan - take your questions from the NerdLove Hotline and dispense wit, wisdom, dating advice and digressions into side topics. Loved this episode? Have a dating question you'd like to hear answered on here? Call your question in to 512-522-6513 and leave a voice mail! Show Highlights: How do you talk about being an older virgin? What about when your friends want to talk about sex and you feel anxious? How do you approach women d...
2019-05-091h 04
Paging Dr. NerdLoveOvercoming Self-Limiting BeliefsAlmost every man who struggles with dating, is holding on to these self-limiting beliefs: beliefs and assumptions about yourself and the world that hold you back from achieving your true potential. It's time to break free from the lies we tell ourselves and discover what we're truly capable of. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How to understand what self-limiting beliefs really are How to recognize our own self-limiting beliefs Why our beliefs are a self-fulfilling prophecy What it takes to break free from the cycle Why compassion is the most important trait for self-improvement RELATED LINKS: These Sel...
2019-04-2518 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThis Is Why Women Won't Date You (And How To Fix It)Young men are having less sex than ever. But what's more important is how you respond to that information. Here's what's ruining your chances with women. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: ▶︎ How "why are men having less sex" is the wrong question ▶︎ The #1 reason why men ruin their chances with women ▶︎ How your attitude affects your love life ▶︎ The problem with "women are too picky" ▶︎ What a toxic waste monster can teach you about attraction RELATED LINKS: ▶︎ This Is Why You Fail With Women ▶︎ The Trouble With Incels ...
2019-04-1116 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Truth About Women and Casual SexWhy aren't more women interested in casual sex? What can guys do to find women who're interested in a no-strings hook-up? It's time to talk about the TRUTH about women, casual sex and how to find it... SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: ▶︎ Why women prefer relationships to hook-ups and casual partners ▶︎ How the orgasm gap affects our relationships ▶︎ Why being The Cool Girl works against women AND men ▶︎ Why "casual" sex is BAD sex ▶︎ What men can do to find more casual, no strings hook-ups ...and so much more RELATED LINKS: ▶︎ The...
2019-03-2912 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThis Is The Worst Dating Advice In The World (And You Need To Follow It)"Just be yourself" is some of the worst advice that you can give someone who wants to get better at dating. It's also the most important. So here's how to quit being yourself and learn how to become your BEST self. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: ▶︎ Why "just be yourself" is useless advice ▶︎ What we REALLY mean when we say "just be yourself" ▶︎ How you can learn to change who you are ▶︎ Why most people fail at changing themselves ▶︎ Why you should fake it 'til you make it ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS...
2019-03-1417 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Virgin's Guide To Great SexMany virgin men-- especially older virgins -- believe that no woman’s going to want to sleep with a guy who has no experience… but they can't they get that experience without having sex. So let’s ruin any chance of this episode being monetized and talk about what anyone — even a virgin — can do that will make them an amazing lover. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What women REALLY think of male virgins Why understanding YOUR needs can help you fulfill HERS The one thing men DON'T do (but they SHOULD) before their first time Why you need t...
2019-02-2817 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWho REALLY Holds The Power In Dating?The power dynamics of dating directly affect your dating success. But who REALLY holds the power when it comes to dating? Why do so many people get the power dynamic of dating wrong and what's the REAL power when it comes to love, sex and romance? Show Highlights How many of the "rules" about dating are self-limiting beliefs in disguise What we're REALLY talking about when we ask who has the power in dating Why women DON'T have it easier than men... and how that helps YOU How to control the interaction How understanding the power...
2019-02-1419 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveDid #MeToo RUIN Flirting?Did the #MeToo movement change flirting forever? Can men no longer approach women? What makes the difference between flirting and harassment in this day and age? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: The two types of complaints about #MeToo The goal behind the meme that men can't flirt anymore How men are getting the point of #MeToo wrong The MOST important part of flirting How to avoid being yet another creeper RELATED LINKS: What Does It Take To Be A Good Man? Perpetuating a Toxic Culture The Difference Between Flirting and Harassment Henry Cavill and Flirting in The #M...
2019-01-3113 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveIs Masculinity A Mental Illness?Don’t forget: I’m taking your questions for the NerdLoveLine special! Call (512) 522-6513 and leave a voicemail with your question! The American Psychological Association updated it's guidelines for the treatment of boys and men to say that toxic masculine ideologies are bad for men. Does this mean that masculinity is now a mental illness? Or is this an acknowledgement of the difficulties that men and boys face in modern society? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How being a man leads to unique mental and physical health issues Why men have a difficult time receiving effect...
2019-01-1715 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Keep Going (Even When It Feels Pointless)Don't forget: I'm taking your questions for the NerdLoveLine special! Call (512) 522-6513 and leave a voicemail with your question! Tell me if this has ever happened to you: you’ve started off trying to make some major change your life. You want to get better at dating, be more social, learn how to approach women, flirt a bit more... but once you’ve gotten started, nothing seems to be improving. Maybe you’ve made some minor progress, but the major changes, those big, life-changing moments, just aren’t happening. While any journey is easy at the star...
2019-01-0319 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveOffset, Cardi B. and The Wrong Way To Win Back Your ExThere are the right ways of getting back with your ex. And then there are the wrong ways. And then there’s what Offset did to Cardi B., which is one of the most astoundingly stupid ways of trying to get your ex back. Here's why those "grand romantic gestures" aren't romantic at all. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why it's so hard to let go of an ex Why "Grand Romantic Gestures" are actually creepy How public proposals backfire What Offset's "apology" says about him Why grand gestures are the WRONG way to win someo...
2018-12-2014 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveIs Masturbation Bad For You? Understanding The NoFap MovementTo fap or not to fap... that is the question. Are there health benefits to giving up masturbation? Is porn addiction a real thing? And just what is the NoFap movement, anyway? It’s time talk about sex with someone you love… yourself. Show Highlights: Why the “dangers” of masturbation haven’t changed in hundreds of years
The connection between testosterone and masturbation Why NoFap gives "super powers" Why stigmatizing masturbation can be dangerous Why the real problem is shame, not masturbation …and so much more. Important News: I'm taking ans...
2018-12-0620 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThis is Why You Can't Get Over HerFriends, do you suffer from uncontrollable longing for someone who barely knows you’re alive? Are you unable to get over that break up, even after months or years? Do you have the sinking feeling that nobody in the world could be as right for you or mean as much as she does? Are you afraid that this was your last chance for true love? Then you may suffer from a disease known as Oneitis. Symptoms include heart palpitations, hopelessness, anxiety, terminal loneliness, embarrassing Spotify playlists, failed romantic relationships and a tendency to seek out pornstars that lo...
2018-11-2916 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveIs She Flirting or Just Being Friendly?How do you tell the difference between when someone's flirting with you and just being polite? And why are we so bad at telling the two apart in the first place? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How men and women both misjudge flirting behavior in others Why "Straight Dude Thinking" gets in the way of flirting success Why we mistake politeness and friendliness for interest How to recognize the signs that someone is flirting with you The number one key to recognizing that someone is interested... and not just being friendly. RELATED LINKS: Ask Dr. Ne...
2018-11-2213 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveLet's Talk About Toxic FemininityOne of the subjects I come back to fairly often is the idea of toxic masculinity. It’s something that I personally feel is important to talk about because of how much it directly affects men and makes our lives that much harder and that much worse. However, whenever we talk about masculinity in any form, there is such a regular response from people, in the comments and on twitter and elsewhere, that you can practically set your watch by it: “when are you going to talk about toxic femininity?” And you know what...
2018-11-1518 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Build A Lifestyle That Attracts Amazing WomenWhen we talk about being more attractive to women, we tend to focus on the surface. We talk about how to dress, what to say, how to act. But that’s the polish, the sizzle, not the substance. It may get people's attention, but without any substance to back it up, it won't keep it. Your lifestyle is what makes you more interesting and more desirable to women. When you have built the right lifestyle, it will bring women into your life without effort. Show Highlights: Why your looks, your job, your ba...
2018-11-0815 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveDeveloping A Mindset For Relationship SuccessSuccess, whether in life or in relationships, doesn't come from having the perfect plan or never making a mistake. It comes a mindset that strips away the things that hold you back and keeps you focused on what matters. You learn to avoid all of the ways you sabotage yourself and develop the emotional strength it takes to get up and win. Whether you're looking for love or chasing your dreams, if you change your mindset, you change your life. Show Highlights: Why success is born out of your attitude, not your actions...
2018-11-0116 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThis Is Why You FailHow often has the frustration of being single gotten to you? How many times have you asked yourself: why aren’t you going to get any better? Why do other people find love and you don't? Why aren’t you able to build the life that you want to live and be the man you dream about being? It's time to talk about the reason why so many guys won't find a girlfriend or lover... and what you can do to avoid their mistake. Show Highlights: What is the Negativity Bias and why do...
2018-10-2517 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhat Men Get Wrong About WomenIf you’re looking for advice on dating women, then you're going to find many, many self-proclaimed experts in the female mind. The problem is that most of them are almost entirely wrong. Worse, they set men up for failure by insisting on an outlook that puts men and women in conflict. It's time to talk about WHY men often have a hard time understanding and relating to women... and why it's so important, if you want to be socially successful. Show Highlights: Why so much "advice" about women causes conflict instead of he...
2018-10-1815 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Be A Better ManOver the last month, the nation has had one of many conversations about sexual assault and the affect it has on survivors. And as more women speak up, sharing their stories, sharing their pain and their rage, there are guys — guys who don’t want to be part of the problem, who want to be good men — who want to know what they can do to make things better. And the answer is simple: men need to step up. We need to learn to be the men we were always meant to be and the men the world n...
2018-10-1114 min
Paging Dr. NerdLove#93 - Flirting Mistakes That Women HateThere's a lot of bad advice out there when it comes to flirting. Advice that not only does it not work, but is actually a masterclass in how to creep women out and occasionally piss them off. Meeting women can be hard enough without making flirting mistakes that’re going to backfire, messily and all over the place. The last thing you want to do is ruin your chances with a woman by making the wrong move. Women want to like you and for you to like them too. So don't screw it up. Learn how to avoi...
2018-09-1213 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Upgrade Your Style, InstantlyLearning how to dress well is one of the quickest and easiest ways to be more attractive. When you start dressing up sharp, you look amazing... and most people don't. But it takes very little to stand out and be sharpest dressed, most stylish guy in the room… and without spending a small fortune in the process. You just have to know the rules. Show Highlights: The one style rule that matters above all others The celebrity secret to looking incredible all the time How clothes are SUPPOSED to fit The secret to upgrading your w...
2018-09-0616 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Plan The Perfect First DateHow many times have you had a first date that you thought was amazing... but never lead to a second date? First dates can be tricky and frustrating. A lot of guys are good at getting a first date, but can never turn it into a second or third date. No matter what they seem to do, they’re left with a series of first dates to nowhere with nothing to show for it. And the problem is that most first dates are just bad. If you want to get that second date, then you need to und...
2018-08-3014 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Be More Attractive... Instantly!When we talk about being attractive, we tend to think of it in terms of being physically good looking. But there’s a difference between being good looking and being attractive. People can be stunningly beautiful but have all the sex appeal of a block of wood. Meanwhile there can be people who are ugly as sin and yet have an almost mystical level of sex-appeal. Being attractive isn’t about whether you have abs like whoah or cheekbones that you could cut cheese with. It’s not about your skull or your jawline; it’s about the way yo...
2018-08-2317 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Improve Your Social Skills... QuicklyOne of the mistakes a lot of people make is that they assume that social success is a binary. Either you’re good with girls or you aren’t and there’s nothing you can do about it. But the good news is: that’s not true. Dating, being more successful with women, even just being more socially fluent is a skill that you can practice, and if you can practice it, you CAN get better at it. And you can learn to improve those skills quickly by breaking things down and practicing those skills individually… and integrating t...
2018-08-1614 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhy Nice Guys Lose (And Bad Boys Win)Doctor's Note: There's a recurring audio issue with this week's episode that I wasn't able to fully eliminate. I've edited around it as best as I could but it'll crop up a couple times. Sorry about that. The idea that women like “bad boys” or “assholes”, and that there a bright line between guys who get dates — the assholes — and guys who don’t — the “nice guys” gets kicked around in dating circles as though it were gospel truth. It’s one that feels true, especially if you’re someone who thinks they fall into the nice guy side of the equation. ...
2018-08-0912 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Overcome NeedinessWhen it comes to dating, there is one common issue that men have that will kill any chance you have to build attraction or a relationship: neediness. Neediness and needy behavior is the Anti-Sex equation. No matter what else you have going for you in your life — you could travel the world, you could be world famous, you could be a millionaire with a mansion and a yacht — neediness will ultimately make people nope the hell out of your life, whether you’re in a relationship, or just trying to start one. Neediness drives people away because it's th...
2018-08-0213 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Approach Women In GroupsA lot of men don’t know how to approach women in groups — whether they’re with other women or a mixed group of men, women and more. As a result, they tend to focus on that one person… and end up coming across like a hyena trying to separate a gazelle from the herd. Fortunately, it’s actually very easy to join in a groups, in a way that not only encourage them to accept you, but help you make a powerful connection almost immediately. You just have to understand how to manage group dynamics. Show Highl...
2018-07-2618 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveUnderstanding The Difference Between Flirting and HarassmentRecently Henry Cavill gave his thoughts about flirting in a post #MeToo era during an interview with GQ Australia, where he claimed to be afraid that flirting with someone might lead to his being dragged through hell because… reasons. And while he has since apologized for his insensitive remarks, they struck a chord with many people: where do you find the line between welcome flirting and sexual harassment? Does it come down to “flirting is when women like you and harassment is when they don’t"? What are the rules that define what's flirting and what isn't? Show Hig...
2018-07-1917 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveCan Silicon Valley Save Sex Ed?The state of sexual education in America is appalling. If schools aren't required by law to only teach abstinence-only education, then at most we get a glorified plumbing lesson instead of what we really need to know. As a result: more and more people are turning to porn for lessons in sex and sexuality. But what if there's a better way? If the educational system fails us - either through ignorance or design - can we take sex-ed to the people? Can we disrupt sex education and give people access to the information they need via their sma...
2018-07-1234 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhat Terry Crews Can Teach Us About Standing Up for Male Victims(Content Warning: Sexual Assault) On June 26th, Expendables and Brooklyn 99 star Terry Crews testified before Congress in support of the Sexual Assault Survivor’s Bill of Rights. As part of his advocacy for survivors of rape and sexual assault, Crews talked about his own experience of having been the victim of sexual violence. In doing so he challenged the narrative of what it means to be the survivor of sexual assault... and showed us how we fail male victims of sexual violence. Show Highlights: Why few men ever speak up about having been se...
2018-07-0515 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Get Women To Approach YouLots of guys get anxious about approaching women that they're attracted to. But what if there were a way to change that. Ever wished you were one of those men who had women coming up to them? You can be... if you understand why women are willing to approach some men and not others. If you understand the secrets to why women do and don't make the first move, you can learn to be the guy that women notice... and they'll be eager to introduce themselves to you. Show Highlights: Why women don't make the...
2018-06-2815 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Texting Mistakes That Cost Men DatesHow often has this happened to you: you've got a woman's number, but you never seem to be able to actually get a date. You may be doing great at first, but then you notice that it’s taking longer and longer for her to reply and those replies are getting shorter and shorter until you get... nothing. And now you're left wondering just what happened... and why it keeps happening to you. Texting may have been a godsend to shy, awkward guys who want to get dates, but you still have to know how to do it r...
2018-06-2117 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Make New Friends (When You're Out Of College)Men on the whole, and white, heterosexual men in particular, tend to have fewer friends than women and the friendships they do have tend to be shallower and less fulfilling. It’s really not uncommon for guys to look up and realize just how few friends they have outside of family members and romantic relationships. And by then… it feels like it’s too late. After all, it's easy to make friends when you're in college. But how do you go about making friends when you're a grown man? Show Highlights: How men train themselves out of havi...
2018-06-1416 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveMen and the Epidemic of LonelinessMen, especially heterosexual men, tend to have very few deep, emotional connections, and of the ones they do have, very few of them are with other men. And that’s actually a problem. Men are dealing with an epidemic of loneliness and isolation and it's literally killing us. But despite the damage that loneliness can cause, men have a hard time finding and fostering emotionally close and intimate relationships. Why are male friendships so shallow and transitory and what can we do to build the relationships we need? Show Highlights: How loneliness is lit...
2018-06-0716 min
Paging Dr. NerdLove5 Tips for Unlocking Powerful Self-ConfidenceEveryone and their dog will tell you that confidence is sexy, it’s probably the oldest trope in dating advice besides “just be yourself”. And, in fairness… they’re right. Confidence is an important part of being attractive, and not having confidence is going to hold you back. Of course, nobody ever tells you just how you’re supposed to get that confidence. It’s easy to talk about being confident when you already feel it. When you don’t… well, as far as dating advice goes, “just be more confident” is about as useful as telling someone “it’s easy to...
2018-05-3120 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThis is Why You're CreepyWhat is it that makes one person creepy and another person attractive? Why do some men set off women's Spidey-sense while other men can do the exact same things and be perfectly fine? Guys - especially ones who aren’t the most socially well-calibrated - worry a lot about being creepy by accident. They worry that being a creeper, even if it’s entirely unintentional - will start be the start of a long process that begins with being called creepy and eventually leads to their dying alone in a cave because they’ve been kicked out of all...
2018-05-2416 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveThe Virginity ParadoxRecently, we’ve been talking about toxic masculinity and all of the ways that it damages men on the individual level and society on the whole. One of the enduring questions is: so what do we do about it. Part of the way we start end the damage that toxic masculinity does and help heal some of the pain is to talk openly and honestly about some of the issues that come bundled in the toxic masculinity package. And one of the biggest issues is the topic of sex - especially how it affects men who aren’t ha...
2018-05-1718 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow Do You Fix The Problem With Incels?Over the last couple of weeks, it seems as though the world has been talking about incels - people who refer to themselves as being involuntarily celibate. But while we are all bringing attention to the existence of incels, but there aren't many resources for people who want to stop being involuntarily celibate. What is the real issue that drives otherwise good people to the incel community? How can someone who calls themselves involuntarily celibate break the cycle and escape the hate and misogyny that's inherent in the incel scene? Show Highlights: Why getting laid...
2018-05-1020 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow Do You Escape The Friend Zone?The question of “how do I get out of The Friend Zone” is among the top Google searches out there when it comes to relationship advice. The idea of the Friend Zone as a sort of dating Stalag-17 has driven more people into the Pick Up and Red Pill community than almost any other topic. For a lot of guys, the Friend Zone is the ultimate expression of the dating binary: you’re good with women or you aren’t, and there’s nothing that you can do about it. Guys find themselves in platonic relationships with women that...
2018-04-2619 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveHow To Be A High-Value ManOne of the long-running questions that men have tried to solve has been why women choose to date and sleep with some men over others — and, more importantly, how we could become those men. This is something that a lot of men get wrong, in no small part because one of the mistakes guys make is that they tend to look in the wrong place. What women tend to find attractive isn’t looks or status or money, it’s value. Women who’re interested in men want to find a high-value man. But the question i...
2018-04-1913 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhat Does Positive Masculinity Look Like?Toxic masculinity doesn’t mean that that being a man is toxic, bad or even undesirable. At the same time non-toxic or positive masculinity doesn’t mean apologizing for being a man or trying to be as gender neutral as possible. While toxic masculinity refers to behaviors and beliefs about manhood and masculinity that are lauded as positive and to be emulated when, in reality, they’re painful, detrimental or destructive to the individual or society as a whole, positive masculinity expands what it means to be a man - physically, emotionally or even socially. But it’s...
2018-04-1215 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveWhat's Wrong With Men Today?What do Men’s Rights Advocates, popular self-help gurus, the alt-right and the movie Fight Club all have in common? They're all trying to answer the question of "What's wrong with men?" It’s pretty undeniable that men are facing a tipping point in today’s society. Whether we’re talking about the changes inspired by Me Too movement, the fact that women now outnumber men in undergraduate programs across the country, the way the economy impacts gender roles or the ongoing question of just what does it mean to be a man now… men are in a state...
2018-04-0514 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveBridging The Love Gap: A Conversation with Jenna BirchNormally when I talk about dating issues, I'm talking about issues that primarily affect men, from a man's perspective. However, it can also be incredibly useful to look at the dating issues that women face as well. Not only does this help overcome misconceptions that men often have about the dating experience for women, but also illustrates ways that our own misunderstandings about relationships and what women want can get in the way of dating success. So this week, I'm talking with Jenna Birch, author of The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win at Life And Love about he...
2018-03-2246 min
Paging Dr. NerdLoveBuilding Consent Culture with Kitty StrykerThis week we're doing something different. With the continuing progress of #metoo, #timesup and the questions about consent, there's no better time to talk about building towards a culture of enthusiastic consent. That's why I sit down with activist and writer Kitty Stryker, the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture" and talk about Aziz Ansari, what consent culture would look like, how society trains everyone to ignore their own boundaries and how to start examining the other ways we push boundaries - both our own and other people's. Show Highlights: How we get consent wrong Why w...
2018-03-1537 min
Everything is Awesome with Jeff and ?Hitting the Wall ft Harris O'Malley AKA Dr Nerdlove In which Jeff and KC call up Harris O'Malley AKA Dr Nerdlove; Harris starts in the pickup artist community; Harris hits the wall and confronts his false artificial identity; he reads every book; he starts doing advice for the league of extremely ordinary gentlemen; this week's blog; "women pure, men good"; dude book great, lady book bad; everyone lost their damn minds; we have to keep rediscovering the clitoris; kc interviews for an internship; bout week goes well; Harris finds Alan Moore and Batman; Crisis on Infinite Earth #7 changes his life; the sexy streets are paved with go...
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