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Inherited3 Life Lessons with Hugh van CuylenburgHello!
Today, we’re joined by Hugh Van Cuylenburg, co-host of The Imperfects podcast and Founder of The Resilience Project.
Hugh opens up about the moment he decided to stop drinking alcohol and how this decision has completely changed his life. He explains why he feels the happiest when his phone is nowhere near him, and why doing one defining event every year sets you on track for success.
Thank you so much to Moonpig for supporting this episode of Inherited. When you want to...2025-06-1836 min
The ImperfectsIsaac Humphries - Coming Out On Court💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au There is currently only one gay man actively playing in a professional, top-tier basketball league anywhere in the world. And today, we had the enormous privilege of welcoming him into the studio. Demonstrating Olympic-level vulnerability, Isaac Humphries made global headlines in 2022 when he came out as gay to his basketball teammates. However, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh learn in this chat, this moment was the result of a lifetime of chaos, confusion, darkness, and ultimately, courage. In this episode, Isaac talk...2025-06-151h 39
The ImperfectsDr Emily - Using The Force For Good💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au This is where the fun begins. Today we welcome the Return of the Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, to talk about the Force in all its (clinical) glory. Amongst the immense excitement of Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Emily talks through the lightness and darkness inside us all, and how the presence of a good mentor makes a world of difference. Bringing psychology back to the forefront of this ep, Dr Emily likens Yoda’s general vibe to the principles of Acc...2025-06-081h 19
The ImperfectsMonty Dimond - Sick & Tired of Being Sick & TiredIt’s a Monty type of day - and thank god, because this week we welcome the brilliant Monty Dimond into the studio. In this episode, Monty opens up about the heartbreak of losing her mum—her person, her sense of home and safety. She speaks candidly about the tunnel vision of ambition, living with imposter syndrome, and how a debilitating chronic illness left her bed-bound for 90% of last year. Hugh and Monty share an incredibly vulnerable chat about parenting neurodivergent children; sharing the intense challenges, boundless love and ways they can show compassion to them...2025-05-181h 38
The ImperfectsHugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon)It’s the episode we’ve all been waiting for – a peek inside Hugh’s brain. After our episode with psychologist and ADHD expert Janelle Booker - and a reboot of his algorithm that Hugh related to on a spiritual level - Hugh began to wonder whether his time-blindness, reject sensitivity and inability to focus on things he wasn’t interested in, could be explained by ADHD. Turns out, yeah. Hugh pretty much definitely has ADHD. Exploring Hugh’s lived experience, Ryan and Josh chat through how Hugh has reconciled his incredible frustrations into acknowl...2025-04-2755 min
The ImperfectsLet’s Talk About Hugh’s Open LetterIt’s been a big few weeks since Hugh released his Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People (episode linked below). If you haven't heard it, it’s best to listen to that before you listen to this episode. Today we wanted to catch up and reflect on whats happened since. Hugh shares some beautiful messages, and Josh asks, practically, how we can show less judgement and more empathy to neurodivergent people and the people who care for them. Then, Ryan does some quick maths to fact check Hugh’s claim to reply to every single...2025-03-2743 min
This Glorious MessUnderstanding Both Sides of Hugh Van Cuylenburg's Open LetterIn today's episode, we explore the thoughtful discussion sparked by Hugh Van Cuylenburg's viral and emotional open letter about parenting his autistic child, and the mixed reactions across the country. Dr Siobhan Lamb joins us with a valuable perspective. She is autistic, works as a Neurodevelopmental Educator, and is a parent to autistic children. She has been the parent, the teacher and the child. With warmth and insight, she helps bridge the gap between parents who felt seen by Hugh's message, and the adult autistic community who expressed concerns - and how we can move forward together.2025-03-2330 min
The ImperfectsHugh's Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent PeopleThis is an open letter to parents of autistic and neurodivergent people. It may be confronting. Please take care when listening. Love, Hugh See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2025-03-1315 minThe ImperfectsWe're Back! And A Little More ImperfectWell, well, well. We’re (officially) back for 2025, baby! On Hugh’s agenda for today’s episode: nugatory chat, ghosts, general excitement for the new season and we also reveal THE SECOND BIG ANNOUNCEMENT! That’s right, The Imperfects are bringing you a new show. A Little More Imperfects, which can be found on Patreon, is bonus fortnightly episodes featuring everything that you know and love (Josh going deep, Ryan being hilarious and Hugh giving life changing advice / intense second hand embarrassment) PLUS early access to live show tickets and events and great discounts...2025-02-0228 minThe ImperfectsJames van Cuylenburg - What’s Your Relationship Status?It’s our last episode of Summer School, and today we welcome back clinical psychologist (and “clinical cousin” of Hugh and Josh), James van Cuylenburg. In this episode, James tells us EVERYTHING we need to know about our relationships… well almost everything…there’s a lot to cover. From attachment styles, to breaking trust, to learning how to own your feelings and navigating coupledom through life’s changing seasons. Getting into the nitty gritty, Hugh asks James about intimacy and what happens when you’re not…. having any. And how to start a conversation with...2025-01-261h 35
You're A Good KidHugh van Cuylenburg - A Shy Kid with a StutterFor our debut episode, we enjoy a chat with our wonderful cousin, and hear the story of a surprisingly shy kid who had to find his confidence. To check out Hugh's child-photo and some clips from today's episode, head over to Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/youreagoodkidpodcast/?hl=en).Hugh van Cuylenburg is the founder of The Resilience Project (https://theresilienceproject.com.au/), best-selling author of "The Resiliece Project", and "Let Go", and co-host of The Imperfects, Australia's No.1 Mental Health Podcast (https://www.instagram.com/theimperfectspodcast/?hl=en). He is also very funny...2025-01-191h 01The ImperfectsImperfect Birth Stories with Sophie WalkerIn this episode of our Summer School, we are joined by Sophie Walker, creator, and host of Australian Birth Stories. With over 17 million downloads, and 500 episodes, Australian Birth Stories podcast has been accredited by the Australian College of Midwives and has been instrumental in educating and empowering both people who are giving birth, as well as birthing partners. Hugh shares the incredible trauma and fear involved with his first experience of birth, and how tools of education and empowerment, such as Lael Stone’s excellent counselling, helped him prepared for birth a second time around....2025-01-191h 01The ImperfectsBronnie Ware - What Are Your Future Regrets?There will come a time for all of us (unless we REALLY make some improvements with bio-hacking) where we are faced with our own mortality. Who is at your hypothetical bedside? Are you happy with how you’ve lived? Do you have any regrets? In this Summer School edition of the Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Bronnie Ware. Bronnie found herself in palliative care, caring for, and listening to, the dying. And boy, are we glad she did. Bronnie collated, and published, the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (listed be...2025-01-121h 03The ImperfectsLittle Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs ClausQuick heads up: Little Boy Christmas has a tenuous relationship with his parents, and therefore, this episode isn’t suited for kids. Have you ever wondered about Little Boy Christmas, the forgotten son of Santa and Mrs Claus? Nope, neither had we. That’s probably why he’s forgotten. Looking like an unbelievably shredded Dickensian orphan (you’re going to want to watch the YouTube for this one), Little Boy Christmas chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the physical and psychological pressures of being in the most famous family in the worl...2024-12-2227 minThe ImperfectsMichael Theo - Life on the SpectrumYou may know Michael from Love on the Spectrum, or his podcast Mr A+, or even his appearance on Ellen – he’s done it all and has gained an incredible amount of wisdom on his journey so far. We’ve been doing this show for six years, and no-one has ever summarised it as well as Michael Theo: trying to be perfect is a wild goose chase. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about how he found his voice after growing up as a non-verbal kid, and instils on the guys some a...2024-12-151h 03The ImperfectsLayne Beachley - Surf’s Up… And DownToday we welcome into the studio 7 time world champion surfer, and all-round legend, Layne Beachley. Layne, who had the self-described ‘compassion of a tiger shark’ during her competition days, has lived an incredible journey to learn how to love others, and more importantly, herself. Upon discovering that she was adopted, Layne internalised a fear of rejection and intense need to prove herself. What’s one way to prove yourself, you may ask? Becoming a world champion, no matter the cost. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh talk to Layne about the na...2024-12-081h 28
The ImperfectsJim Rogers - A Life Bigger Than DementiaToday we are introducing you to Jim Rogers, who, in amongst a wild and vibrant life, has been diagnosed with younger-onset dementia. So generous, and such an amazing storyteller, Jim tells us the three acts of his life, so far. The grief of losing his first love, the surprise of his second, and the shock of a dementia diagnosis at 55, this conversation left Hugh, Ryan, and Josh with an invigorated sense for the preciousness of life, love, and family. In Jim’s words, dementia strips you of the most important things: your memory an...2024-11-241h 36The ImperfectsDr Emily - Resent Less, Live MoreHow long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like? These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all. In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew. However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your re...2024-11-171h 05The ImperfectsPeter Bol - 800m & 3 Free HaircutsYou may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games. Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training. Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode. Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success. In...2024-11-101h 28The ImperfectsDr Julia Baird - An Awe-full ConversationAs an author, journalist and broadcaster, Dr Julia Baird has spent the last decade researching awe, wonder, grace and forgiveness (...and now the title makes sense!). Finding joy and purpose through ocean swimming, Julia shows us how impactful nature and community can be when we say yes to adventure (and also what to do when caught in a rip). With Josh out sick, Ryan and Hugh do the heavy lifting with bountiful good questions, Ryan becomes enlightened and discovers the meaning behind church (no really, he’s onto something), and Hugh and Ryan get deep wi...2024-10-201h 14The ImperfectsGetting Vulny - Josh’s Big AnnouncementWe’re gettin’ vullllnnnnyyyyy. Oooohhhhh yeahhhhhh. Yeah, that’s right. We’re trying something new. And, in the coolest way possible, we really hope you like it. Specifically, Josh is gettin’ vulny, and letting us in on a little something he’s been working on (or hoping to work on) (he’s nervous). We’re so proud of you Josh, and we can’t wait to see everyone there x TO BUY TICKETS TO JOSH’S GIG (!!!!!) - follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zG9XxG To watch this full episode on YouT...2024-10-1022 min
Empowering LeadersHugh Van Cuylenburg, the Resilience guy: Breathwork, treadmill, journal… even when it wasn’t working?Hugh Van Cuylenburg has been working in education settings for more than 15 years, teaching both primary and secondary in a range of different educational settings. He says the highlight of his teaching career was a year in the far north of India volunteering and living at an underprivileged school in the Himalayas. It was here that he discovered resilience in its purest form. Inspired, and having completed his postgraduate studies, The Resilience Project was born. Hugh has now developed and facilitated programmes for over 900 schools Australia wide. In 2015, the National Rugby League asked...2024-08-131h 16The ImperfectsHow I Built Dis - The Resilience Project StoryDis episode is a little bit different, but if you’re as obsessed with Hugh van Cuylenburg as we are, we think you’ll enjoy it. The Resilience Project (TRP) is the company that Hugh started building 12 years ago. Today, it delivers evidence-based, wellbeing programs to over 1000 schools in Australia, as well as countless work-places and helps provide people with strategies to build resilience too!Hugh always knew that TRP would be something special, but god, it took a lot of hard work (and some might say resilience) to get it to where it is now...2024-07-281h 16
The ImperfectsIMPERFIX: What is Rape Culture? with Chanel ContosLast season we met Chanel Contos from Teach Us Consent and we were completely blown away by her courage and the work she's taking on. So much so, that within minutes of Hugh opening and reading Chanel’s book, “Consent Laid Bare”, he had nominated her for Australian of The Year. In this snippet from the full episode, Hugh, Ryan, Josh and Chanel discuss the normalised and systemic nature of sexual violence against women and the pervasive issue of rape culture; including what it is and how we can all take steps to dismantle it. To learn...2024-06-2823 min
Living The Team Life with Kim & Rog#55 - Interview with Penny Moodie and Hugh van Cuylenburg: Vulnerability, Mental Health, Purpose, Mental Load, and Cricket AnalogiesWhen we think about our purpose in life, many of us hope we will, in some small way, contribute to leaving the world and our fellow humans better than when we arrived. Well, our inspiring guests today, Penny Moodie and Hugh van Cuylenburg, can actually say they've already achieved that mission and they're not stopping there.
These two have committed their lives and careers to making real change in the mental health space, and they've really struck a chord with the Australian public. Penny, author of the trail blazing book the Joy Thief, and Hugh, founder of...2024-03-121h 01
The ImperfectsIMPERFIX: Ben Crowe's PurposeIn this inaugural episode of the imperfix, Hugh takes us back to our very first Academy of Imperfection, where special guest Ben Crowe explores what it actually means to define your purpose. We discuss Ryan, Hugh & Ben’s purposes, how they defined them, and how important they are in shaping their respective every-days. We also delve a little deeper into Josh’s seeming ‘lack of purpose’ and find that he might actually have a bit more purpose there than he realises. To hear the full episode, the first time Ben visited The Imperfects click here https://bit.ly/3Mrxt...2024-03-0619 minThe ImperfectsPat Cummins - Love, Loss & LifeThey say that by the time he retires, Pat Cummins could be one of Australia’s most successful cricket captains. And if 2023 is anything to go by, "they" might be right. Pat captained the team winning The ODI World Cup, The ICC World Test Championship and retaining The Ashes. And individually, he was not only named The ICC Men's Cricketer of the Year, but also signed a record-breaking contract to play in India in the IPL this year. So yeah, Pat wins a lot. But this episode isn't just about cricket. Because as Pat talks about with Hu...2024-03-031h 32The ImperfectsA Very Imperfect Welcome BackWe’re back… almost! As has become tradition, Hugh, Ryan and Josh catch up for a formal welcome back episode to chat about the season ahead. They talk about their brand new extra weekly episode called The ImperFIX, the show’s foray into YouTube, aaaand just build general hype around the exciting upcoming guests on the show. Oh. And Hugh demonstrates his brand new sleeping position. It’s so, so good to be back. To watch this episode on YouTube (and see Hugh's sleeping position), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IcHHDn2024-02-2525 min
Good Weekend TalksGWT summer: Hugh van Cuylenburg on feeling happier through GEMWe'll be back in late January 2024 with plenty of exciting interviews booked in the calendar. But for now enjoy one of our most popular episodes from the past year. And remember to subscribe and share. We talk with Hugh Van Cuylenburg, a former teacher turned podcaster and public speaker who founded the Resilience Project and co-hosts The Imperfects podcast. Van Cuylenburg talks to Good Weekend senior writer Konrad Marshall about the twists and turns in his own life, the lessons he wants to impart to others and why he loves a good long run. 2024-01-0637 minThe ImperfectsSteve Hooker - The Ups & Downs & UpsNot many of us have won Olympic Gold. And even fewer of us have jumped over a 6m high bar. But Australian pole vaulting champion Steve Hooker has done both. And boy oh boy does he have a story to tell!? That was rhetorical btw, he definitely does have a story to tell.What would you do if you were the best in the world at something one day, and then the next day you suddenly couldn’t do that thing anymore?? At all. That’s pretty much what happened to Steve. And on this episode he tell...2023-10-291h 38
But Are You Happy?Hugh van Cuylenburg On Not Being Able To Look In The MirrorHave you ever felt stuck in a season of your life that you wish you could just move on from? Hugh van Cuylenburg has. Hugh is the founder of The Resilience Project, a best-selling author, a former school teacher and co-hosts The Imperfects podcast, which aims to show how perfectly imperfect we all are. As this season of But Are You Happy? comes to an end, Hugh talks about the seasons he’s found most challenging, his biggest insecurities and the things he regrets sharing with the world that he can’t take back. THE...2023-10-1150 minThe ImperfectsTim Minchin - Lucky To Be HereTim Minchin is an Australian comedian, actor, writer, musician, poet, composer, and songwriter. He’s probably best known for his music, his comedy, and well… his ‘Matilda: The Musical’… but has it really all been “luck”?Tim talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about so many different things in this fascinating chat about art and creativity, family, free-will, success, failure and the importance of taking life one level at a time.For tickets to Tim's new show, An Unfunny Evening with Tim Minchin and His Piano, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZxAGVsTo watch Tim perf...2023-10-081h 46The ImperfectsVulnerability Update: Josh Wrote a Song!If you know, you know. And if you do know, you’re just as bonkers excited as we are.Buuut if you don’t know, that’s totally fine too.Those that were able to make it along to our Live On Stage show this year were treated to the debut performance of a song, written and performed by our very own Josh van Cuylenburg. But this song was not without context.In Season 3 Josh shared a vulnerable story from 13 years ago that resulted in him losing the confidence to realise his lifelong dream...2023-10-0418 minThe ImperfectsPenny Moodie's New Book - OCD & Finding Joy AgainPenny Moodie first shared her OCD story on The Imperfects in 2020. Since then, we and she have been flooded with incredible feedback from OCD sufferers who finally felt seen. Now Penny is back because she’s written an incredible book about OCD called The Joy Thief and it’s out now (link below).In this beautifully moving episode, Penny talks openly with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about some of the confronting moments from her book. The reason Penny calls OCD ‘the joy thief’ is because it attempts to steal so much of the joy from your life. In Penny...2023-09-1345 min
Dos and D#158 - Hugh van Cuylenburg - Meeting Heroes, Cringiest Moments & Untold Stories!Hugh van Cuylenburg is the Founder of 'The Resilience Project', a program that reaches over 500,000 kids per year as well as huge corporate companies and sporting clubs at both grassroots and at the highest level. He is the author of smash hit books 'The Resilience Project' and 'Let Go' and is the host of the juggernaut podcast 'The Imperfects'.
We can't explain what it meant for us to meet Hugh and for him to join us on our podcast. And what an episode it is!
In the space of an hour, we covered so many to...2023-08-131h 07
Flow Seekers by Blue Derby Pods RideHugh van Cuylenburg - How Finding Flow Helped Hugh Survive Covid-19Welcome to our third season of the Flow Seekers podcast! We're delighted to bring you the first episode of season three which is a conversation with Hugh van Cuylenburg.If you don't know Hugh, here are a couple of achievements to his name:Founder of The Resilience ProjectAuthor of two books 'The Resilience Project - Finding Happiness' and 'Let Go'Imperfects Podcast Co-hostABC Radio National PresenterMy conversation with Hugh delves into the following topics:Hugh's first experience of flow stateHow finding moments of flow during the Covid-19 Pandemic helped him survive Melbourne lockdownsThe link...2023-08-0433 minThe ImperfectsJames van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky BricksOther than being a Clinical Psychologist (with a child specialisation), Dr James van Cuylenburg is not only Hugh and Josh’s cousin, but in Hugh’s opinion, he’s the greatest piano player in the world - which provides zero context for this incredible episode.James covers so much in this 90 minutes that it’s almost impossible to sum up here. Everything from the development of our kids today, screentime issues, the cost of ambition, the importance of self-compassion and James’s own experiences with bullying and how it motivated him to study psychology. Among MANY other topics.2023-07-091h 25The ImperfectsHugh & Penny - The Elephant in the RelationshipYou might remember Penny Moodie from her first appearance on The Imperfects when she talked about her own experience with OCD. Link below if you don’t! Well, Penny is back to talk about something else; her marriage with Hugh. Or, more specifically, and far less click-baity, the mental load in her marriage with Hugh. “The mental load” is the cognitive effort that’s required to juggle the often invisible labour of running a household. Something that Penny noticed was becoming too much for her to handle. In this unique episode, Hugh and Penny talk about ho...2023-06-251h 08
How I WorkMy Favourite Tip: Hugh Van Cuylenburg - Vulnerability is a speed-boost for connecting with othersHugh Van Cuylenburg was not having a great time, to say the least. He was already unpopular with his then-pregnant wife for being out of town while she and their children all had COVID (and fair enough, he says!), when a previously minor medical problem unexpectedly became very serious. After some painful injections, he managed to get on stage for a speaking engagement, only to finish his presentation suddenly feeling ill. So, when he finally sat down for a podcast interview with someone he barely knew, and she asked how he was doing, he said he’d bee...2023-04-1708 min
Life UncutMental fatigue and how to make vulnerability a strength - Uncut with Hugh Van CuylenburgHey Lifers, First up, Britt's back from Scotland and has an update on the psychic reading she received. Laura needs to teach Matt a thing or two about tampons and we asked you the sneakiest way they did the dirty on you! On today’s podcast we have the wonderful Hugh Van Cuylenburg. Hugh has joined the podcast before. He is the founder of the resilience project.In this episode Hugh speaks about why he has stopped telling the story of the resilience project, mental fatigue and who owns vulnerable stories.We speak ab...2023-04-171h 17The ImperfectsSome Things We Wish We Knew EarlierThis B-B-B-BONUS episode arrives thanks to Hugh - a man who claims to hate lists. At least he did until he saw a list called “40 Things I Wish I’d Known at 40” (link below).The list of things resonated with Hugh so much, that he sent it to Ryan and Josh and they decided to do an episode about it. This is that episode. It’d be weird if it wasn’t though wouldn’t it?There’s no guest in this one, it’s just Hugh, Ryan and Josh speaking about the things from the list that sp...2023-04-1234 minThe ImperfectsDilruk Jayasinha - When Drinking Stopped Being FunnyDil’s rise from accountant, to one of Australia’s most successful stand-up comedians is incredible. But what might be even incredible…er is how he was able to finally get sober after years of relying on alcohol.In this vulnerable episode, Dil reveals to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what his life was like when his drinking was out of control, and how when he stopped, it forced him to change the way approached his work and his life. To purchase tickets to Dilruk's comedy show "Heart Stopper", follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zqxaQE...2023-04-021h 44The ImperfectsHugh's Special... Verrry SpecialA lil b-b-b-bonus ep to announce some exciting news...Our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg has filmed and released his Resilience Project talk as a Special on Amazon Prime Video! It's called 'Hugh van Cuylenburg: G.E.M' and it's out now.Hugh has been talking to people about Gratitude, Empathy and Mindfulness for a loooooong time, but now it's finally been filmed so everyone can watch it whenever they want. Watch 'Hugh Van Cuylenburg: G.E.M' now on Prime Video, or listen to it on Audible.For Hugh's thickening hair spray r...2023-03-0820 min
CONSCIOUS LIVING PARENTS#9 - Resilience For Kids | Hugh Van CuylenburgAfter a little break, CLP is back and badder than ever… (Sorry… Dad Joke)
This week we spoke with The Resilience Project founder, Hugh Van Cuylenburg. What an insightful chat, and what an incredible, humble, hilarious human.
In 2008, Hugh was fortunate enough to spend a few months living and volunteering in the far north of India. In this desert community, there was no running water, no electricity and no beds; everyone slept on the floor of their hut.
Despite the fact these people had very little to call their own, Hugh was continually blow...2023-02-271h 00How I WorkMy Favourite Tip: Hugh van Cuylenburg - It all comes back to ‘why’Hugh van Cuylenburg hangs up the phone - he’s been speaking to his (very) pregnant wife, who’s struggling at home without him. He’s exhausted too, after days and days of back-to-back presentations. Oh, and the AC’s not working. Needless to say, Hugh’s not feeling his best going into this presentation. But a couple of minutes into his speech, he spots a boy in the middle of the audience, and something clicks. Hugh doesn’t know why this particular kid stood out, or if he even really stood out, but something shifted noneth...2023-01-2309 minThe ImperfectsHugh van Cuylenburg - Ageing, and Other ReflectionsIn this third of three b-b-b-bonus episodes, Hugh enters the Vulnerabilitea House and answers the question, ‘What do you see when you look in the mirror?’ For the first time in Hugh’s life, he doesn't see a young man reflected back at him, and he generously tells Ryan and Josh how this is effecting him. How do we feel when we realise we’re not “young” anymore? It really is the age-old question isn’t it? P.S. Keep an eye out for a very special Christmas episode next week!!! You won’t believe who ou...2022-12-1136 minThe ImperfectsJosh van Cuylenburg - How to Defeat EnvyIn yet another b-b-b-bonus episode, it’s Josh’s turn to draw from the deck Vulnerabilitea House cards. And in doing so he shares his struggle with envy and jealousy amongst his successful friends, but also how it’s changed for him in recent years. And why. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2022-12-0442 min
Change HappensChange Happens Power Bite Edition with Hugh Van CuylenburgPOWERFUL LESSONS IN CHANGE – BITE-SIZED. "I’m feeling pressure that I have to be okay ’cause I’m the “resilience guy” so if I’m not okay does that mean, you know, that I’m just a fraud?"In this Power Bite mini episode of the Change Happens podcast, host Jenelle McMaster is joined by Founding Director and Facilitator of the Resilience Project, Hugh van Cuylenburg, who shares his insights on being honest and vulnerable can make you a better leader. Host: Jenelle McMaster - Deputy CEO and Markets Leader at EY OceaniaGuest: Hugh van...2022-12-0104 minThe ImperfectsMark Wilson from JET - Dealing with LossIn 2003, JET’s Are You Gonna Be My Girl was one of the biggest songs on the planet. It was so big, Apple even used it for their first iPod ad. Remember? The one with the dancing silhouettes on the colourful backgrounds? Yeah, that was JET. As the bass player for JET, Mark Wilson has lived the dream of any musician. He’s toured the world and played to packed stadiums, and even stood with Beyonce and Jay Z at the MTV Video Music Awards before playing on stage in front of them. But Mark has...2022-09-041h 35The ImperfectsHow to Write a Gratitude LetterTo celebrate Father's Day, Hugh plays some intimate audio of him reading a chapter of his book, 'Let Go', to his Dad (and Josh's Dad incidentally). But not just any old chapter, the final chapter ABOUT his Dad. Afterwards, Hugh explains to Ryan and Josh, how writing a gratitude letter to your Dad (even if he isn't around anymore) can have a hugely positive impact. But of course, Gratitude Letters aren't just for Dads, they're for your Mum or any carer in your life as well. Happy Fathers Day. Have a listen, then...2022-09-0134 minThe ImperfectsDarcy Vescio - They/Them Matters & Here’s WhyCarlton footballer Darcy Vescio is one of the biggest names in the AFLW, having won multiple awards including the Carlton Best & Fairest, 2-time All Australian selection and the Mark of the Year. As a marquee player, Darcy is at the top of their game. But that’s just part of Darcy’s story. Less than a year ago, Darcy publicly came out as non-binary, announcing to the football community that they would now go by the they/them gender pronouns. In this Vulnerabilitea House, Darcy tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what that experience was like for...2022-08-2146 minThe ImperfectsWe Need to Talk... Again - Hugh, Ryan & Josh have a chatB-B-B-BONUS EP!!! A-A-A-AGAIN!!! Every now and then, Hugh, Ryan and Josh like to get together and chat about their own imperfections that they’ve been dealing with recently. This is one of those episodes. Hugh talks about “life seasons”, Ryan explains why European holidays aren’t always as perfect as they appear, and Josh talks about watching Morning Wars with Jennifer Anniston. To read Hugh’s recommendation of Kimberly Gillan’s article in the Age, ‘Are You In Tune With Your Life Season’, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q6o4iC ...2022-08-0749 minThe ImperfectsDr Emily - You Are Not Your EmotionsShe’s back again! Our very own psychologist, Dr Emily! In this emisode, Dr Emily reflects on a very moving chat we had with comedian Steen Raskopoulos. She talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the concept of Emotional Awareness, and explains why it’s not only important to identify your unpleasant emotions, but why it's even more important to express them when they arise. Oh, Hugh and tells us about going to Bondi. For book recommendation Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zm...2022-07-3147 min
Happy Hour with Lucy & NikkiGMST Challenge Day 20: Attitude of Gratitude ft. Hugh Van CuylenburgDay 20 of the July ‘Get My Shit Together Challenge’ and it's our FINAL DAY! We are finishing it off with one of the most important challenges when it comes to making positive changes in your life, and that is gratitude. Today we chat with the one and only Hugh Van Cuylenburg, the creator of The Resilience Project.Follow @happyhourwithlucyandnikki Join FB https://www.facebook.com/groups/379507759624102/** Don't forget to listen out in each episode for the mention of our SECRET WORD for your entry into the Grand Prize!GRAND...2022-07-2826 min
The ImperfectsDr Emily - Truth vs HarmonyIn this Emisode, Dr Emily returns to talk about a topic that is VERRRRRY close to the bones of Ryan, Hugh and Josh. The ongoing battle of Truth vs Harmony. Does that ring any bells for you? Do you choose to live truthfully? Or harmoniously? And what does that even mean? What’s the difference? And how do living ‘truthfully’ or ‘harmoniously’ affect us and the people around us? Dr Emily goes into all of it. In this episode, Dr Emily references conversations from Hamish Blake's episode and our last bonus episode. To...2022-05-2953 min
Tell Me What To ReadNon-Fiction - Hugh Van Cuylenburg, Paul Kennedy & Paul BarberaThis is Tell Me What To Read, the podcast of Booktopia, Australia's Local Bookstore. This week, we sit down with Hugh Van Cuylenburg, author of Let Go, Paul Kennedy, author of Funkytown, and Paul Barbera, author of Where They Purr. *Producer's Note: Due to our team being in social isolation, the sound quality is more variable. WARNING: this podcast contains coarse language. Interviews In this podcast: Hugh Van Cuylenberg - Let Go: 0:52 - 25:20 Paul Kennedy - Funkytown: 25:31 - 50:24 Paul Barbera - Where They Purr: 50:34 - 1:11:00 Books mentioned in this p...2022-05-201h 12
Feel Better Now with Jackie Bowker24: How Mental Health is Affected by Gratitude, Empathy and Mindfulness with Hugh van CuylenburgCan you create more happiness by increasing your resilience? Hugh van Cuylenburg is a veteran in the education field, author, and founder of The Resilience Project, an organization that provides practical, evidence-based mental health strategies to build life satisfaction. In this episode, he walks you through his 3 pillars of happiness—gratitude, empathy, and mindfulness. He explains why each one is so important and how you can easily integrate them into your life. The tips you get in this episode will help you build stronger habits and feel better in no time at...2022-05-0950 minThe ImperfectsWe Need to Talk - Hugh checks in with Ryan & Josh after a big monthB-B-B-BONUS EP!!! After what has been a very vulnerable month for The Imperfects, Hugh wanted to check in with Ryan and Josh to see how they’re feeling after some “big shares” in the first 4 episodes of the season. Firstly, Ryan reflects on how he’s feeling after revealing his worries around the supposed “love triangle” with Hugh and Hamish during Hamish’s Vulnerabilitea House episode. Then Josh talks about his self-doubt surrounding his role on the podcast, and of course where he’s at with his internet use since bravely sharing addiction with the group during the...2022-04-0743 minThe ImperfectsIntroducing Dr Emily… PSYCHOLOGIST!!!Please welcome the newest member of The Imperfects family... our resident psychologist, Dr Emily! Dr Emily recently joined The Imperfects behind the scenes, ensuring our episodes are released with care, compassion and professionalism. This season however, Hugh, Ryan and Josh begged Dr Emily to bring her knowledge directly to you with her very own regular episodes! Each month she will join Hugh, Ryan and Josh and bring in something from The Imperfects archives, to then give general advice and information based on the stories and themes from the episode. In this debut ‘Emisode’, Dr E...2022-04-0340 min
The ImperfectsHamish Blake - Let's Talk About Self-DoubtHamish Blake is a very funny man. No surprises there. But as it turns out, Hamish Blake is also a man who experiences self-doubt. Hmm, SOME surprises there! And as the latest guest in The Vulnerabilitea House, Hamish tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the self-doubt he’s experienced while performing on TV, even after doing it for almost 20 years. Whether it be during one of his many appearances on panel shows, or even while standing in front of the contestants on his first day as host of Lego Masters. Later in the ep, Hamish, Ry...2022-03-2751 minThe ImperfectsJohann Hari - Why You Can't Pay AttentionWe can all feel it. And unfortunately, it’s getting worse. Paying attention and properly focussing these days is getting harder and harder. And in the first Academy of Imperfection for 2022, Johann Hari is here to explain to Hugh, Ryan and Josh exactly why that is. The good news is... it’s not our fault. But luckily there are things we can do about it. If you want to delve deeper into the topics and themes from this episode, please read (or listen to - like Hugh and Ryan did) Johann’s incredible new book, Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t...2022-03-201h 11Happy Hour with Lucy & NikkiGratitude with Hugh Van Cuylenburg from The Resilience ProjectHey Punters, in today's episode we chat to the inspiring Co-Founder of The Resilience Project, Hugh van Cuylenburg. Hugh shares his remarkable story of how he learnt the secret to resilience - Gratitude, Empathy and Mindfulness. Breakdown of this episode - Wildest Story - Hugh shares his life-changing experience in India - What Hugh has learnt about resilience - How our devices impact our lives - How to practice gratitude, empathy and mindfulness CREDITS:Hosts: Lucy Jackson & Nikki Westcott @wethe_w...2022-02-061h 09The ImperfectsGeorgia & HughIn this extremely special episode, Hugh reads the opening chapter from his second book, ‘Let Go’ to his younger sister (and Josh’s older sister) Georgia van Cuylenburg - a heartfelt letter from him to her. What follows is an incredibly powerful conversation between the two of them that, for the first time, addresses unspoken feelings and issues that have existed for years. We’ve been fortunate to have witnessed many beautiful examples of vulnerability on this podcast over the years… but guys… seriously… this is next level. (And I can say that because...2021-12-2256 min
The ImperfectsThe Vulnerabilitea House - Peter HelliarWhether it’s TV, film, stand-up comedy, radio, books, podcasts... or... Straughanie, Peter “Pete” Helliar has been making us laugh for over 20 years and has found a lot of success doing it. But like anyone, Pete’s life has at times been imperfect. In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Pete speaks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about one of the most difficult times in his life when one of his close friends and colleagues, Richard Marsland, took his own life. Hugh then shares some practical ways you can talk to people in your life who you...2021-11-2250 min
Dyl & Friends#120 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton and Josh van CuylenburgThis week on Dyl & Friends I'm joined by the team responsible for the Imperfects podcast in Josh van Cuylenburg, Hugh van Cuylenberg and Ryan Shelton. The Imperfects explores themes around vulnerability, identity, resilience and how perfectly imperfect we all are. The show is heavily linked to the Resilience Project that Hugh founded. It's a program that delivers practical wellbeing strategies to build resilience. We spoke about how the team came together, the driving motivation behind the Imperfects podcast and some personal experiences that have exposed us as truly vulnerable. I can't thank the team enough for taking the time...2021-10-311h 24
The ImperfectsThe Vulnerabilitea House - Martin HeppellThere is no one else in the world quite like our guest this week. For years people kept telling Hugh he needed to bring on a new presenter to meet the demand from schools and workplaces around the country. He said he would only ever do it if he found someone extraordinary. In 2015, Hugh found that extraordinary person - Martin Heppell. In today’s episode, Ryan, Hugh and Josh are both moved and inspired as Martin steps into the Vulnerabilitea and shares a heart breaking story from his childhood. As only Martin can do, he starts the int...2021-09-2846 min
The ImperfectsThe Academy Of Imperfection - Daniel EllenbergReady to learn? Us too. In The Academy of Imperfection this week, imperfect students Hugh, Ryan and Josh speak with American psychologist, leadership coach and specialist in the area of male relationships, Daniel Ellenberg. Daniel shares some very insightful stuff on how men relate to other men - why they do what they do, and why they DON’T do what they don’t do! But by the end of the episode, what was supposed to be a casual “lecture” turns into a men’s workshop of sorts, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh show a lot more vulnerabil...2021-09-151h 05
The ImperfectsThe Vulnerabilitea House - Josh Van CuylenburgTwo episodes in a week, what is going on? Well, it's another Vulnerabilitea House that's what. This week it's Josh's turn. Lockdown rules meant this teahouse was spread across three tea houses but it doesn't detract from the quality of the tea, and the vulnerableness. Josh discusses an issue he's had for a long, long time and Hugh takes some time to delve a little deeper into the concept of vulnerability. What is it? Why is it important? How do we best practise it? Being vulnerable can be scary, but it creates stronger and more...2021-08-3044 min
The ImperfectsJust The Three Of Us (a bonus snap podcast because we needed a chat)In the beginning, it was novel. A change of pace. A good excuse to bake our own bread and believe that “we’ll always bake our own bread from now on because it’s so nice to wake up to the smell of fresh bread in the morning!” But come on... seriously... we’re not baking bread anymore are we? This whole COVID thing has become a proper bummer. Like, next-level maximum bummer. So, because we’ve all been feeling the pinch recently, Hugh assembled Ryan and Josh for a very unplanned Snap Podcast to talk about i...2021-08-2443 min
Change HappensChange Happens with Hugh van Cuylenburg - Episode 31"I’m feeling pressure that I have to be okay ’cause I’m the “resilience guy” so if I’m not okay does that mean, you know, that I’m just a fraud?"In this week's episode of the Change Happens podcast, host Jenelle McMaster is joined by Founding Director and Facilitator of the Resilience Project, Hugh van Cuylenburg, who shares his insights on managing and leading during the digital age, with a particular focus on how lockdowns, cognitive overload and loneliness pose prevalent threats to the mental health of children, youth and employees.Host: Jenelle McMast...2021-08-0848 min
KICPODAn Hour of Empowerment with Resilience Expert, Hugh van CuylenburgIn this week's much needed episode, Steph and Laura chat with the founder of The Resilience Project and host of The Imperfects Podcast, Hugh van Cuylenburg. Hugh shares his expertise on avoiding social media comparison, finding happiness, seeking validation, getting through lockdown and so much more. This episode couldn't have come at a better time! SPECIAL SHARESHugh: Couples Therapy on SBS on Demand + Acknowledgements by Becky Lucas Steph & Hugh: Love on the Spectrum on ABC iView Laura: The Imperfects - The Vulnerabilitea House - Missy Higgins + The Olympics, Channel 7 SPECIAL GUEST: Hugh van...2021-07-2757 min
The ImperfectsThe Vulnerabilitea House - Hugh van Cuylenburg... Round 2Our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg is back in the hotseat for a second round in the Vulnerabilitea House! And guys... wowee. Potentially inspired by the most recent Vulnerabilitea House episode with Missy Higgins, Hugh opens up about how much he is actually struggling right now. In fact, he’s probably as raw and honest and vulnerable as he’s ever been on The Imperfects. The Vulnerabilitea House (and the whole podcast tbh) is all about encouraging vulnerability by sharing our own struggles and imperfections. Why? Because being vulnerable creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. But like we’v...2021-07-0532 min
The ImperfectsChristian O'Connell - Breakfast Radio, panic attacks & starting afreshAt the beginning of 2018, Christian O'Connell was the host of the number one breakfast radio show in England, he averaged over 2 million listeners a day, he'd won basically every award possible in the radio industry, he was seemingly on top of his world. Unbeknownst to almost everyone in his life though, he could barely make it on the air. At the age of 45, Christian had started suffering debilitating panic attacks. And they were becoming an almost daily occurrence. In this episode of The Imperfects, we talk with Christian about his anxiety & the panic attacks that...2021-06-211h 22
Run Culture PodcastEpisode 114- Hugh Van Cuylenburg- Resiliency and RunningToday, I had the privilege to chat to author and founder of 'The Resilience Project', co-host of 'The Imperfects' podcast with Ryan Sheldon and running training partner of Aussie 800m record holder; Catriona Bissett... Hugh Van Cuylenburg.
It's a timely chat, with the ever present, global, COVID-19 pandemic, challenging everyone's 'resiliency'.
Resilience is defined as one's; 'toughness' or 'the ability to recover quickly from hardship'.
Hugh has developed and facilitated 'resiliency' programs for more than 1000 schools Australia wide. He has spoke about 'resiliency' to numerous AFL, NRL, Australian sporting teams and many corporate organisations.
Hugh articulates how; running, gratitude, empathy...2021-06-201h 10The ImperfectsThe Vulnerabilitea House - Josh van CuylenburgWe’re back in The Vulnerabilitea House! This time it’s Josh van Cuylenburg. The proven question-ASKER, becomes a first-time question-ANSWERER as he sips some Vunerabilitea and shares an honest and raw story from his past that not even his brother Hugh knew about - all in the name of vulnerability and connection. Pour yourself a cup of tea everyone... it’s great to see you again. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2021-05-0918 min
The ImperfectsJamila Rizvi - Living with the effects of a brain tumorJamila Rizvi is a writer/author, journalist, commentator, change advocate, feminist and all round wonderful human being.In 2018 Jamila was met with horrible news. She was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour. In the podcast, Jamila tells us of these challenging recent years...the multiple surgeries, the radiotherapy treatment the continuing recovery and the effects all of this has had on her life, her family and her mental health.If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. This...2021-04-251h 37The ImperfectsThe Academy of Imperfection - Ben CroweWelcome to the very first episode of The Academy of Imperfection! Presented by The Imperfects, this new series of conversational lectures will feature experts talking about different areas of imperfection with students Hugh, Ryan, Josh and you. The inaugural guest lecturer is someone we are extremely excited about. Ben Crowe. Along with Brene Brown, Ben has easily been the most mentioned person on The Imperfects over the last few years. Since working at NIKE for decades, Ben has worked closely with everyone from Andre Agassi to Cathy Freeman and surfing champion Steph Gilmore...2021-03-281h 14
The Mind Full Medic PodcastThe Resilience Project: From Page to Podcast to the Home, School and Workplace. Making positive impact through action with Hugh Van Cuylenburg. In this Episode I am delighted to welcome Mr Hugh Van Cuylenburg. Hugh wears many hats as teacher, athlete, author and mental health and wellbeing advocate but is most famous for founding The Resilience Project and as host of the very popular Imperfects Podcast. In this conversation Hugh discusses his personal journey and story behind the Resilience Project, which from humble beginnings has now reached over 900 schools Australia wide. We discuss his work and the framework for the project surrounding the GEM principles of Gratitude, Empathy and Mindfulness. Hugh shares his experience and perspective and common themes and threads emerg...2021-03-201h 21