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Dating on High AlertWhy You Keep Falling for the Wrong Ones (and How to Stop)You know that kind of relationship that feels like a rollercoaster? The butterflies, the intensity, the late-night spirals — we call it “chemistry,” but what if it’s actually chaos?In this episode, Ilja Abbattista unpacks why we keep falling for the wrong people — especially if you’re living with ADHD, trauma, or both. From trauma bonds and emotional addiction to the ADHD dopamine trap, this episode explores why calm can feel boring, why emotionally unavailable people feel addictive, and how to finally rewire what you crave in love.It’s raw. It’s real. It might sting a li...2025-07-121h 25Dating on High AlertSex, ADHD & Trauma: What No One Talks AboutSex is supposed to feel good — safe, connected, playful… right? But what happens when ADHD and trauma are in the room too?In this episode, I get raw and real about how distraction, impulsivity, hyperfocus, and body memories shape our experience of intimacy — and how healing isn’t always linear, even when we’ve come a long way.💥 I share personal truths, including a recent trigger that caught me off guard 🌀 We explore why you might crave sex and shut down at the same time 😂 And we lighten the load with some hilarious community confessions...2025-06-2143 minDating on High AlertADHD & Dating: Why We Fall Fast (and Hard)Ever fallen in love in a week? Named your future kids on date three? Felt like you were spiraling before they even texted back? Same. This episode dives into why those of us with ADHD and trauma tend to fall fast—and fall hard.We explore the brain science behind intense attachment, how trauma responses play a role, and what it means to date while constantly questioning your worth. Ilja shares deeply personal stories of past heartbreaks, boundary violations, emotional crashes—and the healing that followed.We’re unpacking:The ADHD-brain's craving for dopamineWhy CPTSD...2025-06-2036 minDating on High AlertBoundaries - The Lines That Holds Us.In this episode of Dating on High Alert, host Ilja Abbattista dives deep into a topic that’s essential for anyone navigating love, trauma, and the journey back to themselves: Boundaries.Boundaries aren’t just about saying no or keeping people out — they’re about creating space for safety, intimacy, and self-respect. Ilja shares how trauma, ADHD, and rejection sensitivity can make setting boundaries feel almost impossible, and she offers real-world strategies and stories to help you find your own voice.You’ll learn: 🌿 What different types of boundaries look like in dating and lif...2025-06-0304 minDating on High AlertOvergiving Isn’t Love — It’s Self-Abandonment in DisguiseOvergiving Isn’t Love — It’s Self-Abandonment in DisguiseThis episode explores how trauma can make us overgive in relationships — and how to stop. Ilja shares honest stories of self-abandonment, intimacy, and learning to receive love without losing yourself. Plus, how to steady your mind, hold boundaries, and recognise your worth beyond how much you do. 👉 Visit iljaabbattista.co.uk to read the full blog, join Truth Notes, or message Ilja directly. Until next spiral.🎧 Subscribe, share, and spiral with me. For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and bein...2025-05-2917 minDating on High AlertOverthinking Everything? Why Your Brain Won’t Let You RestAre you spiralling over a text? Rethinking your last date? Replaying conversations in your head? In this episode, I share raw truths and real stories about overthinking, self-sabotage, and how we can learn to wait, breathe, and respond with clarity - not anxiety. This one’s for you if your brain feels like it’s stuck on “What did they mean by that?”🎧 Subscribe, share, and spiral with me. For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and being a woman on high alert — head to iljaabbattista.co.uk Let’s keep this messy, mag...2025-05-1715 minDating on High AlertSpiralling: When Your Brain Won't Let You play CoolEver spiralled after sending a message? You're not crazy - you're wired for survival. In episode 2 of Dating On High Alert, I unpack the chaotic truth about overthinking, rejection sensitivity and the brain drama no one warned us about.You'll laugh, you might cry, But you'll definitely be seen!🎧 Subscribe, share, and spiral with me. For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and being a woman on high alert — head to iljaabbattista.co.uk Let’s keep this messy, magical conversation going: 📩 Get updates: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/truth-led...2025-05-1010 minDating on High AlertI'm Not Too Much - I Was Just Never Met FullyIn this first episode, Ilja cracks open the myth of being “too much.” ADHD, trauma, emotional chaos — what if it was never about being wrong, but being unmet? A voice-note style truth-drop to start unmasking the way we love.🎧 Subscribe, share, and spiral with me. For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and being a woman on high alert — head to iljaabbattista.co.uk Let’s keep this messy, magical conversation going: 📩 Get updates: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/truth-led-podcast-sign-up/ 🎙️ Submit a guest pitch or topic: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/%f0%9f%8e%99%ef%b8...2025-05-0607 minDating on High AlertDating On High Alert TrailerMeet Ilja Abbattista and discover why dating with ADHD and trauma feels like emotional whiplash. This podcast is your truth-telling space to unravel it all.🎧 Subscribe, share, and spiral with me. For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and being a woman on high alert — head to iljaabbattista.co.uk Let’s keep this messy, magical conversation going: 📩 Get updates: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/truth-led-podcast-sign-up/ 🎙️ Submit a guest pitch or topic: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/%f0%9f%8e%99%ef%b8%8f-submit-a-guest-pitch-or-podcast-topic/ 📬 Contact me: empowerher@ilja-abbattista.com 📱 Follow along on Instagram...2025-05-0601 min