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Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Politics in the FamilyPolitics: one of the hottest button issues every time families come together. Last year thanksgiving sparked extra emotions in our family and it taught us some valuable lessons about the reasons political conversations blow into such large proportions inside a family unit. We have found that those emotions don't necessarily come from the topic at hand but from a deeper place of misunderstanding. We hope you can glean some applicable advice from this story2021-11-2433 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Body ImageThis episode was originally recorded in the summertime - summer bod and all that. But if you're anything like me, my self-consciousness does not dwindle near the holidays. Everyone is coming together, dressing up, and eating so much food. While some of the metaphors involving bathing suits don't quite land, there is just as much to learn about loving however you look through the holiday season.2021-11-1736 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!How Therapy Helped UsWe have found that having an outside pair of eyes and ears, specifically those of a trained psychologist, continues to help both Mom and I through challenging sections of life. When things have become really rocky in our mom-daughter relationship, it is usually a sign that we each need to take a harder look at ourselves individually. Therapists help us do that. Here is our story about the first time Mom and I went through some therapy both together and individually and the way it bettered us. We also discuss the importance of having friends who act as "outside"...2021-11-1040 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Forgiveness - Re-ReleaseForgiveness is a tricky business. It is a vital practice, it takes practice; it includes both words and actions, and it is both an event and a process. And we're supposed to teach it to our kids?! Today we listen to a discussion Mom and I had a year and a half ago on the way she taught me to forgive and what I'm learning about forgiveness as a grow into an adult.Thanks to Julie Lythcott-Haims for her life-giving work in her new book: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/your-turn and her book referred to in this...2021-11-0332 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Communication StylesCommunication has many iterations but its principles remain the same. This week we listen back to the 2019 version of Ingrid and Vicki. Our lives were pretty different but the way we process information was much the same. We discuss the way we each make decisions and how that informs the way we talk to each other. As you listen, what can you learn about your own communication style?2021-10-2747 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Multi-Generational Friendship: Guest Gillian FritzscheLearning is often far more cyclical than it is linear - at that goes from relationships as well as timelines. This week we interview Gillian Fritszche, a director/writer/producer in the film and tv industry who also happens to be a lifelong friend to both Mom and Me. She tells her story of creating an adult relationship with her Mom and we get to learn from her experience and wisdom. There is something special, important, and celebratory about multi-generational friendship.2021-10-2035 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!What's Your Point of Reference?Everyone begins with their own point of reference: imagining the outlook of someone else based on their own experiences. So, one really helpful way to gain a more accurate picture of someone else's experience is simply to tell your own story and hear the other person's! Today Mom and I discuss what influces shaped us from college into young adulthood. Our values become evident through this conversation and that gives us a better understanding for each other. Whose persepctive can you take this week?2021-10-1325 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Differentiating a Little MoreThe transition out of childhood into co-adulthood is so so tricky. Two years ago we revealed what was difficult about communicating through college. Listening back to it, it’s easy to tell that we still had a lot to learn about sharing with each other lovingly. I have no doubt we’ll listen back to THIS episode in two more years and think the same thing. Progress is progress and family progress is always worth celebrating!2021-09-2924 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!The Delicate Art of Giving AdviceAfter three weeks of talking about parenting your kids, we ask once again, "How do you do that for your grown-up daughters??" Communication between grown-ups has unique challenges. The transition from Mom/Kid to Mom/Adult is pretty uncharted waters. This week we discuss helpful, applicable tactics for offering feedback to your mom, or to your young adult, taking into consideration the possible minefield of offense. Learning how to talk about hard things is vital for your relationship. It is very worth it. We hope you find these tips helpful!2021-09-2225 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Relational Goal Setting: Guest - Nellie HardenIn our last week with Nellie Harden, it’s time to put these parenting tools into action! Nellie shares some practical stories for how she gives her kids the chance to hold their weight in the family and support her as much as she supports them. Relational Goals are just as effective as the goals you set for your business; it’s almost like Family is just one big team project.2021-09-1529 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Self-Lead vs Parent Lead: Guest - Nellie HardenWeek 2 with Nellie Harden! This week's lesson is on self-leadership. How often do people move out of Mom's house and look around for the next person to give them direction - but the 'next person' is you! Nellie teaches us how to cultivate self-sufficiency in our kids so that they are prepared to leave the house after 6,570 days of childhood (ages 1-18). Listen in!2021-09-0833 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!What's In Your Bag: Guest - Nellie HardenMeet Nelli Harden: mom, entrepreneur, family, and parenting coach! She has a business and a podcast called the 6570 Family project and we had the honor of talking to her for a whole three episodes! This first episode introduces the concept of the proverbial "bag" of tools your child will take with them when they leave home. They're going to leave with certain skills and values - might as well be intentional about that those are! Nellie is encouraging, empowering, and such an expert. Check her out! https://www.nellieharden.com/2021-09-0128 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Back to School: Reinstating RoutinesIt is back to school season! Even if you've grown out of schooling, transitions in and out of seasons of life continue to pose relational challenges. Is it worth it re-state expectations that seem obvious to you? (always, YES). This week we reflect on how to back to school expectations changed throughout the growing-up years and we look for consistent communication skills that built the foundation for our ever-changing lives. Happy Back to School season!2021-08-2526 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Ingrid's 25th BirthdayIngrid has lived a quarter-century! This year she gained a new best friend, a boyfriend, and some really valuable lessons in leadership and entrepreneurship. In this episode, we give some life updates and reflect on how far Ingrid has come since you began listening to her post-collegiate journey 3 years ago. Happy Birthday, Ingrid! Here’s to year 26!2021-08-1823 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Book Study: Creativity: a short and cheerful guide by John CleeseWhen things feel hard, it’s easy to feel frustrated or even decide your situation is a lost cause. “My daughter just doesn’t make time for me.” “Mom doesn’t get me at all anymore; so annoying.” “I’m bored with my food or my closet or my schedule.” Creativity can be the answer! To be honest, every time we try something new or come at our situation from a new direction we are being creative! This week we wrap up our series on creativity by looking deeper at John Cleese’s book “Creativity: a short and cheerful guide” - the book we’ve...2021-08-1128 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Creativity: in CommunicationArguably the number one place we must constantly be creative is in communication with each other. My daughter doesn't look like she's comprehending what I just told her?...better try again a different way. That's creativity! And what a positive way to view all those attempts at communication we make every day. This episode is all about how to reframe rifts in communication as opportunities to be creative! Join us in reframing!2021-08-0427 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Creativity: In ParentingHave you ever felt pressured to be the "creative parent?" Keep your kids interested! No two meals are the same! -- In the world of mommy blogs and Pinterest, that part of Creative Living can feel pretty high stakes. Here is your sign to chill. Yes, we need to think outside the box when it comes to staying present and connected with those around us. But it's not up to you to deliver life to your child on a silver platter! Instead, it's actually to their benefit to invite them into the routines that make life sustainable. That's what...2021-07-2824 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Creativity: Gen-Z - Guest SisterToday we talk to a member of the most 'creative generation yet.' How do Gen-Z-ers think about creativity? Does social media affect your creativity? Audrey is remarkably wise at 18 years old and I found her thoughts really compelling. Her highlighted point: creativity takes courage and humility. Community, Audrey says, can facilitate better creativity. Be brave and diligent. Creativity isn't polished. It's about willingness. Listen in to other nuggets of wisdom from the next generation.2021-07-2134 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Creativity Part 1: BrainstormingCreativity. Let our next topical series begin! Can you be creative without messing with your whole world of consistency? Today we being to brainstorm that question. Creativity is not just about art - although we do love art. Where else in our lives is creativity deceptively important: communication? recipes? gardening? Where else? join us at this beginning of our quest to understand creativity better and invite it more consistently into our lives. Also-- we'll review John Cleese's book Creativity in a couple of weeks so pick it up and join us if you'd like!2021-07-1419 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Career Convo: Finding a CareerWe've traveled from High School graduation all the way through those first awkward jobs post-college. What about that elusive, classic 'career?' What does that even mean? How can Mom be supportive as Daughter finds it? What if Daughter never finds it? What about Mom looking for a second career? This week we discuss personal stories to try to answer these questions. The biggest takeaway: listen to the heart of the other person. Be just as interested in them as you want them to be in you. That goes for just about everything and it certainly will help the...2021-07-0725 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Career Convo: First Job Post GradHigh School is long gone, those first few summer jobs are under your belt, and College is DONE! Now what? The expectations post-grad are often high and so is the stress level. In this episode we deconstruct as many of those stress points as we can — and, of course, we give tips on how to navigate the mom and daughter relationship through it. The Curmudgeon's Guide to Getting Ahead by Charles Murray2021-06-3023 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Career Convo: Picking a Major in CollegeThe college decision process is always a stressful one. Particularly between parent and child. In this episode we talk through our personal experience with this tricky relational transition and offer advice accordingly. If you want to skip to the pièce de rèsistance of advice go to minute 21!2021-06-2326 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Father's Day: Guest Dad!Happy Father's Day!! Dad is our guest! Rick (Dad) shares what he has learned about being a dad past the classic 'dad-of-young-girls' stage. How did Dad learn to love his daughters and celebrate them well while still letting them fly the coup? How do Mom and Dad collaborate (and work through arguments) on parenting? Dad spills all the beans. Listen in!2021-06-1641 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Career Convo: First JobOne of the first big milestones in young adulthood is that first Job Search! As usual, it starts to easily intertwine with parental relationship. How did Mom feel when I looked for my first job? What did we fight about? What have we learned? (You're in luck, we answer ALL those questions in this week's episode -- and more!)2021-06-0931 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Gossip in the PTA: Mom judgementDo PTA Moms fight because they're respective kids aren't getting along? Or do kids fight because they've seen their moms be cold with each other? Chicken or the egg? Either way, we all know emotions run high in the PTA. Listen in to hear our stories about how to be discerning and kind.2021-06-0229 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!My Daughter's GossipingWhat do you do when your daughter starts gossiping? She's sharing with you. It feels good to be included in her life. How do you enjoy this openness without getting too whipped up inside her world of opinions? Or, maybe she's the target of someone else's gossip. How do you wrangle your Mama-bear rage enough to comfort her and find a diplomatic solution? This week, we answer all those questions. We also reference our Bullying Episode: https://www.himompodcast.com/listen-chronologically/episode/a3b56b83/bullying2021-05-2629 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Living with an Elderly Parent - Listener's Story!The mom-daughter relationship never stops. So many Moms who are sending their daughters into adulthood are also finding that they must become caretakers to their own Moms. You become sort of "in-between." Today a listener, Nicola, shares her experience living with her elderly mother. Need some honesty, clever advice, and heartwarming anecdotes? THIS is the episode for you.2021-05-1920 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Living at Mom's House - Listener's Story!Special Thanks to Brittany for making this episode possible! After a year of living back at her parents' house through the pandemic, she shares with us some of her advice. How DO you live with your mom once you're an adult? How do you draw boundaries? How to you find joyful connections? We learned so much from Brittany's wisdom, listen in!2021-05-1224 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Mother's Day BlessingsHappy Mother's Day! This year we are specifically blessing many different types of Moms. You all define what it means to be Mom so beautifully. We reference some of our favorite characters as a guide for different types of Moms - none of them are perfect. Just like none of us are perfect. But we can still identify with them. Here's a list- Marmee (Little Women), Ma Ingalls (Little House on the Prairie), Fran Fine (The Nanny), Mama (All of a Kind Family), Mother (Ramona and Beezus), Lorelai Gilmore (Gilmore Girls), Mary Jackson (Hidden Figures...2021-05-0527 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Dyeing My HairIngrid dyed her hair and all of a usdden she didn't know who she was anymore - well, maybe it wasn't quite that extreme, but it was close. Today we talk about how much we rely on our physical appearance to communicate for us. And how do we learn to trust the history of our relationships when we aren't feeling confident in ourselves? Have you ever felt totally misrepresented by your physical appearance? Tell us the story: talk@himompodcast.com2021-04-2823 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Saying No to MomYou've raised your daughter to respect their authority figures, especially you. But now that she's grown up, what do you do when you'd still like to ask something of her? What is the difference between respect and obey? We just went through this in our own lives last week. So we debriefed it on the pod to share our conversation with you. It's blunt but it's helpful. For us anyway, hopefully for you too! Ross Green book: Raising Human Beings https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Human-Beings-Collaborative-Partnership/dp/14767237612021-04-2129 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!"Am I Doing Anything Right?"Every. Single. Mom. has asked this question. First off, hear us loud and clear- the answer is YES! You are doing plenty right. Now let's talk about why we start to feel this way through parenting and what we can do to encourage ourselves and each other. Take it from this grown-up daughter, we appreciate you and love you even when we don't know how to show it.2021-04-1424 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Quarantine AnniversaryWhat sustained us through this year of Pandemic? What have we learned? What do we wish to take into our future? Mom and I found many ‘helpers’ this year.Here’s a shortlist of references:David Kessler’s Sixth Stage of Griefhttps://www.amazon.com/Finding-Meaning-Sixth-Stage-Grief/dp/1501192736Harry Potter and the Sacred Texthttps://instagram.com/hpsacredtext?igshid=1bxn8cjbt8h6jJohn Green’s podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-anthropocene-reviewed/id1342003491Burnout, by Emily and Amelia Nagoskihttps://m...2021-04-0728 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Adult FaithFaith Series Part 3.In this episode, we discover just how important Patience is to both faith and relationship. We share some vulnerable stories from our own past arguments and insecurities and we learn from them.Here we also quote Beth Moorehttps://www.instagram.com/bethmoorelpm/Fuller Youth Institutehttps://fulleryouthinstitute.org/search?q=§ion=all&category=emerging-adulthoodAnd Erickson’s Stages of Developmenthttps://www.pinterest.com/pin/9148005484425908/visual-search/2021-03-3127 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Faith with Tweens and TeensFaith Series Part Two! Tweens and Teens. After the wonder-filled childhood years it can be a rude awakening with the tweenagers begin to grapple with the more complex world around them. It can also be hard to know how to keep their trust as they question - and as you question. Today we explore the freedom that comes from admitting you don't have all the answers. Woof. Come be courageous with us, take a listen.2021-03-2424 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Instilling Faith in Your ChildDeep stuff about how faith and parenting inform each other today. Tell us what you thought about it by rating us on iTunes, please! According to our conversation, we really ought to rename this episode"Directing the Faith Your Child Naturally Has" or alternatively "Your Child Instilling Faith In You." We reference Tedd Trip's program Shepherding A Child's Heart https://shepherdingtheheart.org/ and Dr. Justin Barrett's book Born Believers https://www.amazon.com/Born-Believers-Science-Childrens-Religious/dp/14391965402021-03-1624 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Adult Kids Visit HomeHow does it feel to rebuild the bridges that are burned in the college years? It's natural for teenagers to be hyper-critical of their parents. And it's just as usual for the parent to just feel punched in the gut by that lack of gratitude and understanding. How do you come back from that? We talk about how we are doing it in this episode! - plus, circle back to episode 20 which we reference as a guide from a grandmother looking over multiple generations of her parenting.2021-03-1030 min
Hi Mom, Let's Talk!School Prep for All AgesEarly spring is the time to start looking ahead to next year's school year! Crazy right? School poses specific challenges and opportunities at every age. Today we talk about school for kindergarteners, the school of life as an adult, and everything in between. It turns out, those things that helped you get ready when you were 5 still apply. We reference John Medina's book Brain Rules in the ep.Follow us on Instagram for more highlights from this week's conversation! https://www.instagram.com/himompodcast/2021-03-0328 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!NAME CHANGE - announcement!Hi Listeners! Big new - we are changing the name of our podcast! It'll be the same Ingrid and Vicki conversations like always, we just want to focus in a little more specifically on Mom/Daughter content. Our new name is...Hi Mom, Let's Talk!Doesn't that just make a lot more sense for us? Next Week our logo will be changing on all platforms! Head over to instagram right now to see what our new artwork looks like; and look for us in your feed next Wednesday, March 3 - new and improved!Instagram: himompodcast2021-02-2402 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Politics in the FamilyOoofPossibly the number 1 elephant in the family room is drastically differing political beliefs. It's messy. It often instigates arguments. Why does it get everyone heated so fast?Recently, a political argument in our own family led us to explore just what is behind these raw emotions and easy-to-pick fights? In many places, politics may actually be the side effect to a deeper issue. Listen to us discover that in this episode!2020-12-2431 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Holiday CommunicationIn a holiday season that will forever be marked by smaller gatherings and hours-long zoom calls, verbal communication is all we've got. Every year we tackle the cocktail of emotions that come with gathering as a family for various holiday celebrations, but this year is even more unique.In this episode we tell stories of communication gone wrong. And then we analyze it. What can we learn from past experience? Can I extend grace to myself and those who know how best to push my buttons? How does that translate to Zoom Calls?Join us...2020-11-2929 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!How Media Shapes UsHave you ever looked back and just laughed at who you thought you'd become - because who you are now is just wildly different, and of course more authentic to you? I did recently. And then I realized how much the movies and tv shows played into that expectation.Today we look at the media that gave us false expectations about ourselves or our future; and the shows that are remarkably accurate to life. What were your favorite movies growing up? How did they shape you?2020-10-2728 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Reading, Reading! Ready, set, READ! Do you remember your journey to becoming a reader? For many people, this journey is rocky and arduous. Today Ingrid and Vicki talk about their work helping young learners become readers, a particular passion of theirs’. Vicki has worked as a learning specialist for years, including helping Ingrid move past her dyslexia when she was in kindergarten and first grade. This brainiac episode dives into the neuroscience of literacy and the explicit, strategic steps people walk through to become proficient readers. Special thanks to mentors on this journey:Jill Stowell, Vi...2020-10-1434 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Resilient Learning"Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again" --- Did you know someone had to TEACH you this skill? Resilience doesn't always come naturally. Turns out, in the classroom, at home, with your young daughter, with the kids you babysit; it is important to practice Trying Again. In this episode, we discuss tips for communicating with your young child. How to set expectations and how to stay encouraged when things get hard.Below are all the resources we mention in the podcast!Carol S Dweck's book mindset: https...2020-10-0735 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Music Through Our LivesWhat song do you wake up singing? What songs from childhood do you still sing? How do you acquire new music, and how have your musical tastes shifted through the years?Ingrid and Vicki consider all these questions on this episode, Music Through Our Lives.2020-09-2330 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Food!This week, we chronicle our favorite foods to eat - for every occasion.What to do when guests invite themselves to dinner (in a non-pandemic situation)?!How can dinner time become an intentional parenting moment?How do we get out of these quarantine slumps?It's not like we're here with all the answers, but maybe our ideas will give you some new ones!2020-09-1528 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Boundary Erosion...Not Anymore!“The consent that isn’t enthusiastic, or the emotional erosion is what really hit home with me as something that we need to continue to label as harassment.” Have you ever had someone speak over you? Or someone not take your opinion at face value? Have you been faced with a person who brings up a subject over and over to argue their own point?In this episode, Ingrid and Vicki discuss interpersonal boundary erosion that can lead to harassment. This topic was prompted by a video training Vicki took regarding interpersonal violence.2020-08-2836 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Finding "the One""How did you get up the courage to say "Yes" to Dad for what you knew would be the rest of your life?" Ingrid asks Vicki questions about dating and marriage after she notices young women like her spouting cliches that feel insincere. "It just feels different." "You guys were meant for each other." ...How does that actually play out in a way that makes marriage feel like the exciting, natural next step. This is also one of our first conversations on the subject while Ingrid is single. (turns out, this is way easier to...2020-08-1929 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Commercial in Quarantine!Life has been pretty routine for five months in our lives during quarantine. However, this episode we have a fun, new development to share. An in-person, onsite commercial shoot for a healthcare company came Ingrid’s way. Hear what surprised her on this first-of -it’s-kind event for Ingrid.2020-08-0724 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Body Image"Does this shirt make me look?..."Who knows how to push our insecurity buttons more than anyone else: our family. oof. This week we discuss how our relationship has affected the way we think about ourselves. Turns out weight changes with hormones. Living in LA raises the "prettiness pressure"...or does it? Maybe it's less about our outside pressures after all. The main question is: How can we be uplifting in a relationship that often makes body confidence worse? For more info and encouragement-BMI isn't a real measurement...2020-07-3035 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Book Study - Dressmaker of Khair KhanaThis book by Gayle Tzemach Lemmon is an inspiring and challenging true story. We discuss oppression and privilege quite a bit. These kinds of conversations show differences in our beliefs and open space for healthy discussion. That's pretty difficult for mother-daughter sometimes. We don't get everything right here. How do you feel about each of our perspectives? What did we get wrong? Where are we at least on the right track? Honestly we'd love to hear from you. hugandahighfivepodcast@gmail.com2020-07-0925 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Camping We GO!Pile the sleeping bags, tent and marshmallow sticks in the car. Grab your hat and book, it’s time for a CAMPING TRIP. Wait, who is packing what? Did we get everything? Who is making dinner? Not me! Camping as adults looks and feels different from camping as kids. Come along as Ingrid and Vicki unpack expectations and inpirations of their family camping trip. What do rustic adventures look like in your family? How have they changed as the children become adults?2020-06-3031 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Racial Justice ConversationIt is up to the privileged in our society to dismantle white privilege and systemic racism. So, this is one of the many ways we are taking action. Are we perfect? Absolutely not. We will fumble, you may feel uncomfortable, you may have critiques for us. This is not a how-to. It is a humble, questioning conversation. Below you'll find some resources we are finding helpful as we make steps toward dismantling systemic racism in our country and world, beginning with our own hearts and homes.So You want to Talk about Race, by Ijeoma Oluo2020-06-1234 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Giving and Receiving FEEDBACK!Did I ask for that?…Do I want your opinion?…or…Do I want to spout out my opinion in the guise of “feedback.” Giving and receiving feedback is a delicate communication skill to cultivate between parents and their children who are transitioning to adults. Ingrid and Vicki talk about when and how feedback is easier to give and receive. This podcast was recorded prior to the riots that resulted from the death of George Floyd. Our next podcast addresses this topic in more detail. We left this FEEDBACK podcast in because of the value of honing this skill.https...2020-06-0422 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Therapy - Courageous Conversations"I had to recognize that I had been wholehearted in my parenting. And that you are a different human being with your own brain and your own choices. (that was healthy for me, and that was hard to do)." -VickiThis is the most raw and vulnerable we've been to date. Counseling has been instrumental in our relationship. Quite honestly, it is a big part of the reason we are close enough for this podcast to even exist. What REALLY happens when Daughter begins to differentiate from Mom - and doesn't do it kindly. We can tell...2020-05-2835 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Meaning vs SignificanceWhat does “home” mean to you? What does “home” mean to me? When you say it, what significance do I place on what you say? Ingrid and Vicki discuss the difference between meaning and significance. How do words change in significance to the recipient and what meaning does the sender place on the words over time. Misunderstandings often have to do with the difference between meaning and significance. Come along for our ride considering meaning and significance.2020-05-1734 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Sense MemoryLET'S PLAY A GAMEAre you ever just minding your own business when WHAM a smell wafts past you and you're sent right back to an old memory? Or you hear that one song and you're right back in a different time and place?This week, Vicki and Ingrid test how well they know each other with a fun little quiz. Can they guess the other person's cherished memory with just one clue? Turns out, being Mom gives you a vast advantage.Enjoy this little pick-me-up in the middle of our global pandemic!2020-05-0830 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Guest Interview: Role ModelsWho are your roles model? Today, Ingrid and Vicki visit with their first show guests, the Kroll daughters and their mom. Kari Kroll, her sister, Dawn, and their mom, Doris, share their memories of the awkward conversations, surprises and changes in expectations along the journey to becoming adults. Dawn appropriately says, “It’s a dance, it’s a balancing act.” Hear how they learned to give preference to each other in love. Laugh at familiar memories.2020-04-2931 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Quarantine LifeWe are all stuck in quarantine, all over the world. And, as hard as it is to talk about sometimes, it is also really encouraging to find all the ways that we are similar. Today, we're talking about books, cooking fails, mask fashion, and keeping our endorphins up. We are figuring this outttttttttSanity Sustained by:Pop Sugar Fitness: https://www.popsugar.com/Fitness-VideoBurnout (the book!): https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/198481706XHarry Potter and the Sacred Text (the podcast): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/harry-potter-and-the-sacred-text/id1096113994?i=10004704296342020-04-2333 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!StressIs stress tiring?...YESIs this podcast gonna whip up my anxiety?...NO! (I mean, I sincerely hope not; we talk openly and pretty joyfully.)For the first time in at least 4 years we interacted with each other in a high stress situation IN PERSON. Stress in our relationship feels pretty different compared to when Ingrid was a little kid! Here's an honest conversation of how we are navigating it.p.s. We recorded this one week into the U.S.'s Covid-19 isolation. I know we're further along now, so some of...2020-04-1435 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!ForgivenessIn this episode we set out to talk through forgiveness. Which, according to psychologists, is “the act of releasing resentment, regardless of how much the other person deserves it.” Ouch.We thought we were going to talk about just our mom-daughter relationship...turns out Ingrid had more baggage to unpack. Come for the mother-daughter convo, stay for the daughter-initiated debate on the way her parents communicate.😬 This is our relationship shifting (a little painfully) into adulthood right before your eyes.2020-04-0135 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Hospitality PhilosophyHospitality. We all aspire to it. But it's often inconvenient? I know that's not exactly a pc thing to say. But let's be honest, its hard to open my home and my life. Vicki made some big changes in her life to facilitate hospitality. And Ingrid is a huge beneficiary of that. - This podcast falls during the world-wide COVID-19 crisis. ironic right? Let's talk about hospitality at the exact moment we all have to self-isolate... But there are things to learn there too. Listen in!2020-03-2334 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Sibling RivalryMOM! She...!Remember hearing the demanding yell for mom to referee between siblings? Remember gaming the parents to get your way? Remember your best kept secrets shared between siblings and kept from parents?Siblings, here we go. How do they effect our relationship as mom and daughter? Discover with us. And while you are at it, drop us a line about your sibling rivalry and relationships.2020-03-1631 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Movin' Right AlongHow do you feel about moving? How about packing up and moving via TRAIN?Moms how do you feel when your adult child does this, and all you can do is listen to the story?One of the bigger stressors in life, where a mom would like to retain control for presumed peace-of-mind, though misguided, is when her child moves her life via public transportation.Today you get to hear the play-by-play of Ingrid on the train from NYC to Washington DC during her move to Williamsburg, VA for her first long-term paid...2020-03-0816 minHi Mom, Let's Talk! Phone BoundariesBrrringgg! Alright we know the phone is frustrating. Daughters feel like Mom is way too protective and annoyingly invasive. Moms feel like daughters are hiding things and being really rude at the flip of a switch. No? Just us?Well, we've had a lot of questions about how phones work in our home and our relationships. We've come a long way since Ingrid's first flip razor in 2012 - both technologically and emotionally. Listen in on what we've learned and where we go from here.Do you have stories about phones in your home? We'd LOVE...2020-02-2245 minHi Mom, Let's Talk! Money Money Money...must be funny. In a rich man's world.Money is always a little awkward to talk about. Especially with your parents. (or with your kid who is trying to not be a kid anymore)We discuss what we know about money - which is not everything. not by a long shot. What have we learned? Where have we succeeded? Where have we failed? We're just trying to figure it out. One day at a time. Ya feel?2020-02-1143 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Public SpeakingDo you lay in bed at night replaying what you WISH you would have said in that one conversation?Same.Is your daughter super nervous about her book report?Been there.How do we find courage and collect our thoughts when we feel it matters most?We share our own experiences with public speaking, and a few tips and tricks.2020-02-1031 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!"Me too" FearsWe love each other very much. And that means we worry too. This week we work through some big fears about safety. Being a woman in America has specific challenges, which Vicki has faced and Ingrid is quickly discovering. Ready for a frank - hopefully helpful conversation? Listen in.In this podcast we reference a This American Life article. We highly recommend taking a listen to it as well! https://www.thisamericanlife.org/640/five-women2020-01-2932 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Information SharingDo you have a hard time talking to your daughter about things? Figuring out the right questions to ask? Do you conveniently sidestep Mom's question because you feel awkward? Let me tell ya, we've been there. In this episode we share where we've hit communication road blocks and where we are in that process now.2020-01-2400 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!BullyingOof. We've all been bullied haven't we? I mean pretty much. And what a tough tough thing to work through with your mom or with your daughter. Vicki and Ingrid share their own stories and all the things we've learned.2020-01-1538 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!New Year 2020! (books, lessons, hopes)It is the year 2020 and it is our 20th episode! Happy happy new year. (ps. Vicki read wayyyy more books than Ingrid this year)2020-01-0835 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Christmas Eve 2019Quick, list your favorite Christmas things!! Vicki and Ingrid tackle their LEAST favorite part about the biggest holiday of the year...and the good parts of it too, Christmas story included! Happy Holiday Joy to all (and to all a goodnight)2019-12-2428 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Think, Feel, DoHow do you primarily interact with the world? Feel all the feelings? Get lost in your thoughts? Be a busy little bee? Turns out, whichever of those you like best says a lot about who you are - and might be the reason you can't understand someone else.2019-12-1846 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Epic Quest for Optimal HealthVicki has searched far and wide for the best medicines around. We've tried TEN different remedy methods ...and counting. Why did we need to search any further than western medicine? What does Ingrid do when Mom finds a new method? Listen in and find out!2019-12-1031 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!The Things We CarryWhat things do you want to be remembered for? Vicki has her answers, Ingrid has hers. It's a lot to ponder really. Want to join us? Listen in!2019-12-0434 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Celebrations!!...Happy Holidays 2019Vicki kicks off the holiday season every year with her birthday! And NOW, here we are at Thanksgiving week. So we're naming allllll our favorite holiday traditions. Email us and share yours too!2019-11-2743 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Play to your STRENGTHS(finder)Vicki happens to be a certified expert on Strengths Finder! Want to know when to use your strengths and when to focus on your weaknesses? Vicki and Ingrid discuss what they've learned from Strengths Finder and how it's helped their relationship.2019-11-1936 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Homemade SoupVicki and Ingrid discuss their regrets and hopes. Turns out a lot of the must-do things for a 20 year old and the things 50 year olds regret not doing. How true will that be for us? We used these articles as our guideline to find out!https://bestlifeonline.com/most-common-regrets/https://www.businessinsider.com/what-to-do-in-your-20s-2017-102019-11-1247 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Independent TogetherVicki and Ingrid are learning how to be independent. You mean I don't have to do exactly what you say? You mean my identity isn't totally wrapped up in being a parent? We're experimenting...and reflecting as we discover things!2019-11-0531 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Auditions and Time ManagementWe sing the praises of the freedom and anxiety-reducing schedule. Vicki talks through time management, Ingrid confirms her methods work. - also, want to hear about a ditsy moment from Ingrid? It's all here!2019-10-2926 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!The College YearsWe used to fight a lot!! This episode explains a little more deeply why we started podcasting and what happened in college that made things so hard. ALSO: This is YEAR 2! Welcome to a year of innovative topics every Tuesday!2019-10-2237 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Indiana Hoosiers...sorry we forgot this episodeLAST EPISODE OF YEAR ONEIn April 2018 Vicki and Ingrid met in Indianapolis for a special family reunion! Here's the life update about Year One Spring, excessive busyness, and being in Indiana. Now, we get to travel back in time and fill you in on some very important goings-on of the Spring.Next week we launch in REAL TIME into year two: September 2019.2019-10-1520 minHi Mom, Let's Talk! Buzfeed QuizzesHow well do we know each other, according to buzzed?!2019-10-0826 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Mom Comes to New York! (2/19/19)Vicki visited Ingrid in her new home and they crammed as much as they could into NYC time together! Props to Mom for being a good sport, jumping in to Ingrid's crazy life. We're thankful for REAL LIVE hugs and high fives.2019-10-0236 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Growth Mindset, Growth Mindset, Growth MindsetIngrid feels humiliatedddddddd. She asks Mom for help.2019-09-2514 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Brush Up Your ShakespeahIngrid's rugs got lost in the mail. She's also a dance teacher now. Vicki completed a great achievement!: Christmas cards were completed BEFORE Christmas. Can any other moms relate?2019-09-1720 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!China!...and sauce pansVicki went to China: her first trip without another family member since she was in COLLEGE! Hear her favorite parts and reflections!2019-09-1024 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!I Got Stitches...a Thanksgiving SagaLife in New York is beginning for Ingrid. She's learned a lot in the first few months - including major injury.2019-09-0419 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Pitstop at the GrandparentsOn Ingrid's way to NY, she stops at Vicki's parents' house - and there are lots of feelings2019-08-2928 minHi Mom, Let's Talk!Meet the Fam!Episode One! Vicki is about to send Ingrid off to live across the country. We talk about our feelings about the coming changes and introduce you to our family! P.S. we love pizza.2019-08-1911 min