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Strangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Why Are U.S. Women Shunning Marriage?As the Wall Street Journal and other sources have discussed recently, more and more women in the United States are stopping their search for a man to marry. Why is this happening? Irina and Michelle discuss what the average woman feels like she is (and isn't) getting in heterosexual marriage today, including in this economy. The Dating Professors analyze what happens when women are the higher earners, how young women now view marriage, as well as how children affect the labor dynamic in couples and why expectations often don't end up meeting reality. Pull up a chair and join...2025-04-2951 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with "Balloon Guy" Mike SchneiderOn this special episode, Irina and Michelle speak with Portland-based creator Mike Schneider whose balloon art and other works have gone viral. Now with over 800K Instagram followers and a full-time career as an artist inspiring, delighting, and sometimes provoking with quotations displayed in balloon letters on colorful walls or in other formats, Mike shares his thoughts. He talks all things dating, grief, mental health, politics, creative process, and books (the second of which will be published shortly!). Come join us for a heartening conversation with one of social media's top art darlings! Mike Schneider’s IG...2025-04-1453 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: When Your Partner Has a Trauma History with Dr. Karen Dwyer-TesorieroIrina and Michelle host trauma expert and NYC-based therapist Dr. Karen Dwyer-Tesoriero on this episode. She explains what distinguishes complex post-traumatic stress disorder (c-PTSD) from other types of trauma and how it may express itself in romantic and other relationships. How do people with c-PTSD become activated, and how can they settle down and practice self-care? What happens when both partners in a relationship have c-PTSD? For a conversation about these questions and much more, tune in!Karen A. Dwyer-Tesoriero’s websiteKaren's self-care guide Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pr...2025-04-0245 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Regulating Moods and TempersHow can you stop yourself and conversations from blowing up? In this episode, Irina and Michelle talk about bringing down the temperature, especially when it comes to conflict within romantic relationships. The Dating Professors discuss how to use breaks effectively in arguments, muddle through if a break is infeasible, and distinguish between expecting respect and tone policing. Let's talk about creating peace and accountability! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2025-03-1850 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Surviving Catastrophic PoliticsA month into the new presidency, many couples are facing existential questions. Perhaps one person lost their federal job, or the couple disagrees on just how unsafe the country has gotten. We discuss how to handle questions such as whether to leave the United States, especially if both people in the couple are not on the same page. Irina and Michelle also go over how to try and maintain balance in an imbalanced world, and how to handle people who either cause national misery or at least downplay its existence. Amanda Ripley's book "High Conflict"2025-03-0350 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Work-Life BalanceHow do workplaces support or undermine people's personal lives, and especially romantic relationships and family lives? What happens when toxicity in the form of poor pay or other bad treatment affects workers' wellbeing even once home? Irina and Michelle discuss the difficulties of workplaces regarding benefits and flexibility, and who all loses out in the end. Come join the conversation about life-work balance! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2025-02-1850 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Can Relationships and Friendships Co-Exist?It is a tale as old as time: someone enters into a romantic relationship, and they let their friendships drift away or even suddenly cut them off. Irina and Michelle discuss why this keeps happening to people and what to do about it. What are reasonable expectations regarding one's own friendships and those of one's partner? What roles do jealousy, narcissism, and co-dependence play in making demands in this area? Join the chat as the Dating Professors share their experiences and explore how to make it all work! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2025-02-0447 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: You Seem Really AngryA lot of women are angry today. As the United States inaugurates Trump as president (again), women feel like equality is slipping away in the personal, professional, and political arenas. Why is female anger so reviled and denied? Come hear how Michelle and Irina have dealt with men commenting on their clothes and eating habits, plus what they think underlies statements about women needing to calm down or being hormonal. They also discuss why old-fashioned value systems have not necessarily helped men thrive and why psychologists often refer to anger as a secondary emotion. Check out an explosive conversation!2025-01-2058 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Return Interview with VulgaDrawings Cartoonist Lily O'FarrellViral cartoonist and writer of VulgaDrawings fame Lily O'Farrell returns to kick off our fourth season of the podcast! With Irina and Michelle, she dissects the international political landscape in the aftermath of the 2024 U.S. presidential election. Where do Europe versus the United States stand on women's rights? What has been the response to the story of Gisele Pelicot, whose husband enabled her being sexually assaulted by dozens of men? We discuss all that, the South Korean 4B movement, the Taliban's prohibition on windows in spaces containing women, and much more in this explosive start to 2025 - come...2025-01-061h 04Strangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: When Elections Meet RelationshipsOn the day before the U.S. presidential election of 2024, Irina and Michelle examine the impact of this event on relationships. First and foremost, what happens if two romantic partners disagree on their choice of presidential candidate? The Dating Professors also discuss questions such as what if a partner neglects household duties to engage in political news consumption or wants to put up a political sign that may raise safety issues. This episode takes on election anxiety and disappointment during one of the most charged times in American history. Join the conversation! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy...2024-11-0443 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Nobody Wants This?On this episode, Irina and Michelle dissect the new Netflix hit show "Nobody Wants This," a tale of a non-religious woman who falls in love with a rabbi and of the mayhem that ensues. The Dating Professors then go on to discuss interfaith dating generally. What are the things to watch out for? In what ways are religious beliefs likely to affect romantic relationships and child-rearing much beyond debates over what services to attend or holidays to celebrate? Hypothetically, would Michelle and Irina date much outside their beliefs again (and why does only one of them say yes to...2024-10-2147 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Defusing Emotional Predators with Steven WolhandlerIrina speaks with dispute resolution specialist Steven Wolhandler, who uses his dual background in law and psychology to help people handle emotional predators. The author of "Protecting Yourself from Emotional Predators: Neutralize the Users, Abusers, and Manipulators Hidden Among Us," Steven dispenses practical advice on how to recognize, avoid, and if need be defuse personality-disordered individuals at work and in the private sphere. Whether you have to raise a child with an emotional predator or are trying not to date such individuals in the first place, this episode will guide you through recognizing destructive pathologies and throwing off predators...2024-10-0751 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Recovering from Narcissists with Justena KavanaghOn this episode, Irina speaks with psychologist Justena Kavanagh who specializes in helping people to overcome coercive control and other narcissistic abuse. Justena talks about the different insidious forms that narcissism can take, including relational narcissism. She explains why these behavior types are so difficult to uncover and combat. Justena and Irina discuss what people need to understand about narcissists and their victims, and how both therapists and legal professionals need to catch up in their conceptions. As someone who has treated both narcissists and those they have hurt, Justena provides a unique perspective on this major societal problem. Take...2024-09-2357 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Closing the Deal with Carlos FariniIrina's special guest on this episode is no other than her husband (and "Strangers on the Internet" sound editor) Carlos Farini. They discuss the beginning of their relationship, from Bumble to exclusivity in three dates. Carlos also explains what he would say to men who do not value relationships and/or do not wish to date smart women. Come find out how things almost fell apart after their second meeting due to the vagaries of NYC dating, and why you should resist the temptation of the paradox of choice! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2024-09-0951 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Interracial Dating with Prof. Solangel MaldonadoIn this episode, Irina discusses all things interracial dating with Prof. Solangel Maldonado of the Seton Hall University School of Law. Solangel introduces listeners to her new book "The Architecture of Desire: How the Law Shapes Interracial Intimacy and Perpetuates Inequality." How have not only anti-miscegenation laws but also laws related to property and other matters, including zoning-related regulations, led to lower levels of interracial coupling to this day? Have racial filters on dating apps exacerbated the state of things? And how can we have conversations with individuals about their dating preferences without their getting defensive? For all that...2024-08-2644 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Fierce Desires with Dr. Rebecca DavisDr. Rebecca Davis, the Miller Family Early Career professor at the University of Delaware, recently completed the first major account of the history of sex and sexuality in America in three decades. She talks with Irina and Michelle about her new book "Fierce Desires," which complicates our understanding of how issues such as gender identity and sexual orientation have evolved between the early colonial period and today. From the societal treatment of nonconforming individuals to recent Supreme Court decisions on reproductive choice and to the upcoming presidential election, Rebecca covers it all in this fascinating episode filled with surprising...2024-08-1246 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Fighting Coercive Controllers with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy PolackoOn this episode, Irina speaks with clinician Dr. Christine Cocchiola and divorce coach Amy Polacko about their new book "Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld." These coauthors describe the devastating consequences that many women experience when they try to leave their abusers and to protect their children during and after divorce. The podcast guests explain how courts often let coercive controllers run loose and what victims can do to stand up to physical, emotional, financial, legal, and other forms of abuse. The conversation delves into both the need for education on coercive control and legislative change to address...2024-07-2958 minStrangers on the Internet#metoo Coverage: Dilan Esper Follow-up on Joshua Wright's LawsuitsIn the fifth part of this coverage of the sexual misconduct allegations against ex-George Mason University (GMU) law professor and former FTC Commissioner Joshua Wright, Irina invites back Dilan Esper, an experienced litigator in areas that include defamation law and the First Amendment. Together, they analyze the most recent legal developments in two lawsuits that Josh has launched. The first is his defamation lawsuit against two of the women who accused Josh of misconduct--Elyse Dorsey and Angela Landry--where the judge allowed the lawsuit to proceed past a successful motion to dismiss after Josh amended his complaint. The second is a...2024-06-1048 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: The Neurobiology of Relationships with Dr. Dixie MeyerWhat are the neurobiological underpinnings of relationships? Irina and Michelle delve into that question and its implications with St. Louis University professor and director of SLU's relationships and brain sciences research laboratory Dr. Dixie Meyer. She explains how couples co-regulate their emotions and what can go awry in the process, whether the phrase "happy wife, happy life" has empirical backing, and how the pandemic has affected romantic relationships and women's societal roles. Come nerd out with your favorite hosts and another awesome guest!Dixie Meyer’s profileDixie’s researchDixi...2024-05-2743 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: How to Deal with Commitment PhobiaOne of the chief complaints of dating app users (and especially straight women) is that commitment phobia abounds in those they meet. Can people with commitment phobia ever change? And if so, can they ever be nudged into such change? What happens when someone commits out of fear of losing the other person? Irina and Michelle discuss all that and more on this episode, so listen up! Show notesbell hooks's book "All About Love: New Visions" Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2024-05-1451 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: The Philosopher and the Engineer with Dr. Michele Merritt and Paul HiebingOn this episode, Arkansas State University philosophy professor Michele Merritt joins us from Tennessee with her engineer husband Paul Hiebing. The couple discusses meeting online and navigating life from dating in Florida to getting married, moving states twice, and adding both kids and pets. How have they weathered mental health challenges, including ones resulting from Michele being adopted and reconnecting with her biological relatives? The couple opens up about depression, suicidality, emotional labor, and the integration of their busy lives. Come check it out!Michele Merritt's websiteMichele's faculty profile...2024-04-2949 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Should You Ever Date at Work?According to recent data and media reports, Gen Z has some enthusiasm for dating in the workplace. Is that a good idea, however? Irina and Michelle dissect the pros and cons of finding a significant other at work. What happens if things fall apart and people have to keep collaborating after a break-up? And how might scenarios play out if there is an uneven power dynamic between the individuals involved? The Dating Professors take a look at the issues involved from regular dating situations to extramarital affairs. You won't believe what happened when Michelle worked at Blockbuster Video and later...2024-04-1541 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Sex Addiction with D.J. BurrOn this episode, Irina and Michelle chat with psychotherapist and sex addiction specialist D.J. Burr. In recovery from sex addiction himself, D.J. explains the condition and the path toward improvement. He discusses how trauma connects to addiction, how dating apps cause special problems for those with addiction, and why he thinks porn can never be used in healthy ways. D.J. also describes the therapy process involved in recovery and the importance of addressing the issue of shame. Check out this episode filled with information and vulnerability.D.J. Burr's website...2024-04-0250 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Do Opposites Attract?"Opposites attract," the old adage goes. Is that really true, however? Irina and Michelle delve into the ways that disparities are a drawback versus advantage in relationships. What are some of the Dating Professors' personal habits and preferences that they think would cause conflict if a mate was diametrically different? Come listen to an exploration of the role of athletic commitment, love of or distaste for going out, and the clash between early birds and night owls. Plus don't forget to check out our "Strangers on the Internet" Facebook page for a bonus relationship exercise mentioned...2024-03-1250 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: The Artist's Way with SebastianOn this episode, Irina and Michelle talk to German visual artist Sebastian, whom Irina met on a long train ride in Europe over a decade ago. He is a photographer, comic artist, graphic designer, illustrator, silk-screen printer, painter, and musician who has lived as a digital nomad for some time. From photographing Iggy Pop to having his work appear in the New York Times, and from living in Germany to England, Brazil, the United States, and Japan, Sebastian has seen it all. He opens up about why he finds dating difficult and how he does not want to use a...2024-02-2745 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Should You Meddle in Others' Relationships?When and how should you intervene in loved ones' romantic relationships? The Dating Professors address the issue in this episode. Irina and Michelle talk about the things that make them uncomfortable to watch in other couples, and discuss various attempts to help. How did Michelle react when a friend butted in as she was preparing to enter a real estate arrangement with a romantic partner? And would some people really rather cut off a BFF than hear hard truths? All that and more in this podcast conversation! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2024-02-1342 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Surviving and Thriving Post-Betrayal with CassieCassie, a NYC professional in her 40s, did not see her live-in partner's cheating coming. She tells Irina and Michelle about the way her 49-year-old boyfriend--whom she met in a physical therapist's office at the start of the pandemic--betrayed Cassie with a 27-year-old mutual friend! Find out how Cassie's dog played a key role in sniffing out the situation. Cassie also talks about how she is rebuilding her life with the support of her family and friends, and dipping her toes back into the pool of the dating apps. You will not want to miss this inspiring story of overcoming...2024-01-2950 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Never Too Old for LoveIs there hope for finding love late in life, including after being widowed or divorced? The Dating Professors explore in this episode the stereotypes and true challenges--but also advantages--of looking for a match in one's later years. Irina and Michelle discuss the higher degree of self-knowledge present in one's senior years, the complications that might arise from relatives unhappy about one's new dating endeavors, and much more. Pull up a (rocking?) chair for this episode about golden times!ABC's "The Golden Bachelor"New York Times article "Dating After 60: A Lot of Roses, Some...2024-01-1546 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: A Match Made on Friendster with Dr. Aislinn Black and Prof. James GrimmelmannSeason 3 begins with the feel-good tale of how Rutgers emergency physician Dr. Aislinn Black and Cornell information law scholar Prof. James Grimmelmann met in the early days of social media. Learn how 19th century Danish philosopher Soren Kierkegaard played a key role in their connecting and how Aislinn initially tried to matchmake James with a friend of hers. Irina and Michelle accompany the couple from their early days of zipping up and down the East Coast (so they could hang out) to their decision to commit after bumping into a Belgian medieval pageant. Aislinn and James discuss why the...2024-01-0151 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: A Retrospective Celebrating Our 50th EpisodeIrina and Michelle guide listeners through a retrospective of the "Strangers on the Internet" podcast on the occasion of the show's 50th episode. What lessons have the Dating Professors learned from their guests and conversations? Our hosts discuss societal loneliness and disconnection, the state of the dating apps, and the key traits and situations to avoid while dating. They also explore the ways that communities can support both single and coupled people in today's world. Come celebrate this big milestone and final episode of season 2 with us! Time article on AI assistance in dating and matchmaking2023-12-1957 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with Award-Winning Writer L.L. KirchnerAward-winning screenwriter and author L.L. Kirchner takes Irina and Michelle through the whirlwind of her life in this episode you will not want to miss. While living in Qatar, L.L. received a phone call from her husband announcing that he wanted a divorce. Afraid that she would spiral back into substance addiction, L.L. promptly decided to take a spiritual journey to India where she quit smoking cigarettes as soon as she landed and threw herself into yoga and meditation, even visiting a sex cult at one point. L.L. tells it all, from the start of...2023-12-0450 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Finances and Dating with Serise LangeOn this episode, Irina and Michelle interview marketing consultant Serise Lange, who moderates the popular Facebook group Women's Personal Finance. How do finances impact dating, and how do we figure out who should pay for what? What does Serise think about folks who send out a Venmo request after a date did not go as desired? And what exactly are "hobosexuals"? We learn from Serise's wisdom not only about money but also emotional wellbeing generally!Serise Lange's TwitterWomen's Personal Finance website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more...2023-11-2055 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: The Hardships of Single LifeWhy is being single so frustrating sometimes? Irina and Michelle explore both the emotional and practical side of single life. In addition to dealing with feelings of loneliness, single people--and frequently especially single women--face tasks that are difficult or even impossible to accomplish on one's own. Michelle talks about the lawn mower she physically couldn't start while single without her (male) neighbor's help, while Irina discusses the challenges of building furniture that requires two people. The Dating Professors analyze how to overcome some of these obstacles and how community members can best support each other with life's small and...2023-11-0644 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Dating While Sober with Felicia HermleHistorically, dating has been deeply entwined with going out for a drink. But what happens if one of the two dating parties has opted for a life of sobriety? And what are the pros and cons of replacing substance use with romance, or what is the effect of infatuation on the brain? Irina and Michelle discuss with California-based social worker and addiction specialist Felicia Hermle how to handle recovery from substance use in the dating context, and how partners can show their support. Felicia talks science, introspection, and empathy on this important episode.Felicia Hermle's website2023-10-2550 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: When Pets Block Your Love LifeWhile a cute pet picture can attract someone to your dating profile, pets can also be a major hindrance in romance. What happens when a significant other's pet prevents spontaneous travel or acts up jealously when someone comes over? What are reasonable expectations for how pet owners and non-owners should adapt to each other in relationships? Irina and Michelle--both long-time pet owners--break down the possible challenges that even a well-behaved Fido or Garfield might bring to the dating game! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2023-10-0953 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Fighting Image-Based Sexual Abuse and Online Harassment with Prof. Mary Anne FranksIrina and Michelle sit down with sexual abuse and online harassment expert Prof. Mary Anne Franks from the George Washington University Law School to take stock of the state of Internet safety (or lack thereof) today. Mary Anne explains why "revenge porn" is generally a misnomer, why women are particularly at risk in a variety of online settings, and what has made it so difficult to pass federal legislation to protect individuals from having naked images of themselves distributed nonconsensually. The law professor and Krav Maga instructor also discusses what readers will find in her forthcoming second book "Fearless...2023-09-2558 min
The Evolved Caveman Podcast w/ Dr. John SchinnererManeuvering Online Dating In Today’s WorldLying. Ghosting. Stalking. Sexual assault. Bread crumbing. There is a lot that has changed in today’s dating world. The vast majority of people now meet their partner via online dating sites (e.g., OKCupid, Match, Tinder, Bumble, etc.). What are the best ideas about how to expertly maneuver this ever-changing landscape? Join Dr. John with Irina Manta (Law School Professor) and Michelle Lange (Psychologist), both of whom have both had recent dating experience and whom host Strangers On The Internet, a podcast focused on online dating. Topics Covered In This Episode:...2023-09-181h 08Strangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with Comedian Allison GoldbergComedian Allison (Alli) Goldberg is on a mission to make dating fun again. Once named one of the top 10 funniest women in NYC by Time Out NY, the now-Los Angeles based performer delights her public both on the stage and on the air. A friend of previous SOTI podcast guest Talia Lerner, Alli tells Irina and Michelle why dating provides such fertile material for her work from her matchmaking live comedy show "Love Isn't Blind" to her "How to Break up by Text" performances (the latter will soon be released as an audio show with celebrities reading the texts...2023-09-111h 00Strangers on the Internet#metoo Coverage: Dilan Esper on Joshua Wright's Defamation LawsuitIn the fourth part of this coverage of the sexual misconduct allegations against ex-George Mason University law professor and former FTC Commissioner Joshua Wright, Irina has a conversation with Dilan Esper, an experienced litigator in areas that include defamation law and the First Amendment. Dilan walks listeners through Josh's highly unusual defamation legal complaint against two of the women who accused Josh of misconduct, Elyse Dorsey and Angela Landry. Irina and Dilan focus on some of the most controversial parts of this legal document, and Dilan explains how Josh likely fails to meet the standard to get past a...2023-09-021h 13Strangers on the Internet#metoo Coverage: Aliza Shatzman on the Joshua Wright Allegations and Law School CultureIn the third part of this coverage of the sexual misconduct allegations against ex-George Mason University law professor and former FTC Commissioner Joshua Wright, Irina speaks with a victim of judicial harassment and retaliation, attorney and activist Aliza Shatzman who founded the Legal Accountability Project. After graduating from the Washington University School of Law in 2019, Aliza began clerking for a judge in the Superior Court of the District of Columbia. After subjecting her to harassment and sex discrimination, the judge fired her and then went on to derail her legal career by providing false statements during her final reference...2023-08-2855 minStrangers on the InternetBreaking News: Exclusive Interview with Prof. Brandy Wagstaff on the Joshua Wright Sexual Misconduct AllegationsFollowing up on our last episode in which Prof. Christa Laser discussed her sexual misconduct allegations against ex-George Mason University law professor and former FTC Commissioner Joshua Wright, a second alleged victim of his speaks out in full for the first time. GMU adjunct professor Brandy Wagstaff opens up in this exclusive interview about her alleged sexual relationship with Josh during her time as his student and research assistant. She also narrates the allegations made against Josh to her by her students over the years and her efforts to motivate the law school to act. Irina and Brandy discuss...2023-08-2649 minStrangers on the InternetBreaking News: Exclusive Interview with Prof. Christa Laser on Her #metoolaw Sexual Harassment AllegationsOn this Breaking News episode, Irina interviews patent law scholar Prof. Christa Laser about her sexual harassment allegations against just-departed George Mason University antitrust law professor and former FTC Commissioner Joshua Wright. In a tweet (accompanied by a screenshotted email) viewed by hundreds of thousands of people, Christa described how Josh asked her out on a date while GMU hiring chair when he knew that she was desperate to remain in the DC area to maintain custody of her two children. Christa's tweet prompted multiple former students and employees of Josh's to come out publicly with allegations of his...2023-08-171h 08Strangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Should You Matchmake Your Friends?Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match! Irina and Michelle delve into whether it's wise to matchmake your friends and how to minimize the risks to your own friendships if you're going to do it. How do you choose whom to match? Should you remain involved after the initial introduction? The Dating Professors dish about how they themselves have been matchmade (but both only sort of) and what would make them reluctant to matchmake others. They also discuss the problem of flakiness in people being matchmade and beyond. Join the conversation in our giggliest episode yet!SOTI...2023-08-1458 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: The Internet Law Scholar Seeking Love Online with Prof. Derek BambauerIrina and Michelle catch up with law professor and Internet law scholar Derek Bambauer as he reviews his dating life in Tucson, Arizona before his big move across the country to Gainesville, Florida. Derek talks about his mostly positive experiences meeting people online, his penchant for women in academia, and the challenges of making schedules work when both daters have kids. He also uses his scholarly expertise to discuss dating app algorithms, online safety, and possible tweaks to current technology. Come join us for an episode where the professional is the personal!Prof. Derek Bambauer's faculty...2023-08-011h 05
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Irina and Michelle analyze the difference between boundaries and coercive control, the ways in which boundary speak doesn't absolve the speaker of...2023-07-171h 01Strangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Evolving out of the Man Box with Dr. John SchinnererOn this episode, executive and relationship coach Dr. John Schinnerer tells us what we need to know about how men can achieve true emotional growth and meaningful lives. An educational psychologist and expert consultant for the Pixar movie "Inside Out," John first made a name for himself in the area of anger management; he later expanded his work into high performance, stress management, positive psychology, and the creation of happy relationships. John helps men step out of the "man box" that society has created for them and that prevents them for fulfilling their potential as human beings. Why do...2023-07-0343 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with Jewish Matchmaking Star Stuart ChasemanWhy do people try to find love on reality TV? Irina and Michelle asked that and many other questions of Stuart Chaseman, the middle-aged Chicagoan musician and entrepreneur who quickly emerged as the fan favorite of the Netflix show "Jewish Matchmaking." While TikToks declared him a male role model to emulate, conservative pundit Ben Shapiro singled him out for only wanting to date women with liberal values. What Stuart has to say to Ben Shapiro, how Stuart experienced his own Beatlemania moment at a Jewish-Greek food festival in NYC, why a girlfriend lied to him for two years about...2023-06-191h 01Strangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Bisexual Erasure and Polyamory Rights with Prof. Nancy MarcusOn this episode with guest law professor Nancy Marcus from the California Western School of Law, the personal is the political. Nancy tells Irina and Michelle about her own life as an out bisexual and polyamorous person, as well as about about her public writings and advocacy on these topics. While bisexuality has increasingly become more accepted, the same is less true for the various forms of ethical non-monogamy. Nancy discusses how to communicate about difficult issues such as jealousy in poly relationships, but also describes the legal battles that continue to plague the LGBTQIA+ community. Come find out...2023-06-051h 05Strangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with Ex-Wives Undercover Amber & Athena and Prof. Brenner FissellThis episode provides a special interview with the top 1% podcast (over a million downloads!) "Ex-Wives Undercover: Liars, Cheaters & Love Cons" hosts Amber Rasmussen and Athena Klingerman about how their ex-husband Brandon continued freely harming women and children despite seventeen protective orders in three states against him. After law enforcement in the state of Washington and elsewhere didn't stop him, it is only his eventual near-murderous attack on a woman in California that put him in jail for ten years. Criminal law scholar and Villanova University professor Brenner Fissell provides expert commentary on what went wrong and what the difficulties...2023-05-291h 05Strangers on the InternetGuest Chat: The Art of Dating and of Survival with Dr. Robin RogersFor this episode that will leave you breathless, Irina and Michelle get to speak with NYC-based sociologist Dr. Robin Rogers. She tells the tale of how she escaped her marriage after her then-husband developed severe schizophrenia, became violent, and killed the family pets. Robin not only got through the six-year court fight to maintain sole custody of her two sons but in fact managed to thrive despite it all. Her dating goal became all about having life-affirming fun, whether an interaction would lead to a long-term relationship or not. From a spontaneous trip to a wedding in Brazil to...2023-05-221h 05Strangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Finding Romance in Online Communities with Jane-Ashe and DamonDating apps are not the only place where strangers meet on the Internet! On this episode, Irina and Michelle have the chance to host couple Jane-Ashe and Damon who met in a Facebook group tied to a nerdy fandom podcast (Binge Mode). Damon hadn't had much luck with dating apps, while Jane-Ashe got tired enough of people wasting her time that she became a sugar baby to at least be paid for her efforts. In the Facebook group, Jane-Ashe attracted Damon's attention via her "high thoughts" upon first watching Star Wars. They started chatting privately and one visit by Damon--complete...2023-05-0839 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: The Sex Robot in the Closet with Dr. Kate DevlinIrina and Michelle welcome international sex robots expert Dr. Kate Devlin, who explains the current state of technology and her views on the moral panic surrounding parasocial relationships with robots. Kate believes that most of people's fears about sex robots or AI replacing human relationships are overblown in a world in which even carrying around and finding a place to store a robot (the closet?) are challenges. In the second half of the episode, Kate also shares about her personal life, be it her search for balance with bipolar disorder, her polyamorous and dating app-related experiences, or the loving...2023-04-2542 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with VulgaDrawings Cartoonist Lily O'FarrellOn this special episode, Irina and Michelle sit down with popular feminist cartoonist and writer Lily O'Farrell, who has amassed over 300K followers on her VulgaDrawings Instagram account. We talk about the British artist's earlier days in the comedy world, encounters with the incel community, recent book "Kyle Theory," and love-hate relationship with dating apps. Why did Instagram try to shut down her cartoon response to the "not all men" trope? How can we speak with boys who fall prey to manosphere influencers such as Andrew Tate? And what are the dangers of meeting trolls with "himpathy"? Lily talks...2023-04-171h 04Strangers on the InternetGuest Chat: "Cripfished" with Anna Pakman, Bree Klauser, and Melissa Jennifer GonzalezThis episode features director Anna Pakman and actors Bree Klauser and Melissa Jennifer Gonzalez, who are all part of short film "Cripfished" (an entrant in the 2023 Easterseals Disability Film Challenge). This romantic comedy tells the fictional story of Logan, who fakes being blind on a queer date with visually impaired Amy because the latter only wants to go out with disabled people. On the podcast, we discuss not only the film but also dating with a disability in real life; come hear about Melissa's journey to love with autism, the questions Anna has to answer about her wheelchair use...2023-04-101h 08
Ex-Wives Undercover: Liars, Cheaters & Love ConsNot My Type | Elvi | 1 of 5Have you ever tried giving someone a chance who was outside your 'norm'? When Elvi saw la Petite Douche on a dating app, instead of swiping left, she decided to give him a chance. Within two months of dating, she discovered la Petite was still on Tinder, and while he was great in theory, she also noticed that mysteriously she got locked out of a credit card account. Can you guess who the culprit was? This may have been a foreshadowing of what was to come. Special guests: Strangers on the Internet...2023-03-2859 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: A Jeopardy Champion Seeking Answers with NickIn this episode, Irina and Michelle have the pleasure of talking to Nick (a pseudonym), a Jeopardy champion in his late 30s whose work has taken him from academia to the policy world. Originally from NYC, he has tried his luck at dating all across the country and abroad. Nick talks about the difficulties with finding a significant other who shares his interests and values, as well as with staving off his family's old-fashioned requirements for his future partner. Does Nick think that his identity as an Asian-American man has led to being stereotyped and devalued on dating apps (including...2023-03-2847 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with Writer Aimee LutkinOn this special episode, Irina and Michelle talk to writer, director, and performer Aimee Lutkin. Her memoir "The Lonely Hunter: How Our Search for Love Is Broken" has made waves through its poignant account of how society treats the perpetually single. Aimee discusses how the world is structured around couples and how marriage has morphed over time in ways that can leave people feeling more isolated than ever. What are some of the best and worst parts of being single? How have dating apps affected the ability to find love? Do many people who want to remain coupled engage...2023-03-1546 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: What Are Dating App Operators Thinking?In this episode, Irina and Michelle explore why dating app providers behave the way they do and why they don't do more to protect their users. Irina talks about her legal research into this area and what has happened when victims have tried to hold providers accountable via the courts (spoiler: not much). The Dating Professors also examine the cultural implications of bad behavior on apps, such as the high frequency at which users lie on them. Michelle and Irina discuss how this relates not only to the anonymity of the Internet but also a sadly common general societal willingness...2023-02-2855 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: A Rationalist Guide to Dating with Prof. Ilya SominIrina and Michelle sit down with the show's first solo male guest: George Mason University's Prof. Ilya Somin, who decided to put his scholarly chops to use in the romantic arena to increase his odds of success. He turned to both the academic and popular literatures to develop his rationalist approach to dating and shares his wisdom with listeners looking for love. How should one cope with rejection while trying to find a mate? What do many women want when it comes to men planning dates? And what did Ilya say when a woman asked to go on a first...2023-02-2048 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Dating and Mental HealthIn this episode, Irina and Michelle discuss how to handle mental health issues in dating and relationships. Given that half of the population will receive a mental health diagnosis at some point in their lives, to what extent does there continue to be meaningful stigma around this issue? How early in dating should you disclose a mental health condition? And which mental illnesses are less likely to be treatable? This episode also delves into the role that therapy, and couples counseling specifically, can or should play in relationships - even before they run into trouble. Come hear Irina ask the...2023-02-1346 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Second Marriage in the Second City with Prof. Talia Lerner and Phillip NightingaleJoin Irina and Michelle as they talk to their first guest couple (and first male guest altogether) on the podcast! Northwestern University neuroscientist Prof. Talia Lerner did not think that a heavily tattooed former military sniper would be in her romantic future, and yet that is how the dating app process shook out in the end. Phillip Nightingale proved to be the interesting, open-minded, poetry-writing partner that would turn into a capable stepdad to her son and involved father to their subsequent daughter together. Our Chicago-dwelling couple came from different socioeconomic classes, ethnic backgrounds, and religions, and via therapy...2023-01-3146 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: AI Dating AdviceArtificial intelligence (AI) chat bots have been all the rage in recent months. From concerns about academic plagiarism to questions about whether they may replace workers in many industries, the news has been abuzz with articles about platforms such as ChatGPT. Some chat bots specialize in particular areas, such as providing dating coaching! Irina and Michelle put several bots to the test to see if their dating advice is up to snuff. What does AI think about the quality of the male versus female dating pools? Does it believe there is someone out there for everyone? And would AI...2023-01-1658 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with Bestselling Author Nancy Jo Sales - Part 2Part 2 of this exclusive interview with bestselling author and award-winning journalist Nancy Jo Sales takes us deeper into the heart of what all the famous critic thinks is wrong with dating apps. Irina and Michelle discuss with her why she believes these apps are deeply embedded in frat boy culture and rape culture, as well as what role social media whisper networks play in protecting female app users. Why and how do dating app operators make it so difficult to conduct independent research about the apps? How do conversations between Nancy Jo and incels go down? And does she...2023-01-0944 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with Bestselling Author Nancy Jo Sales - Part 1On this special first episode of season 2, Irina and Michelle welcome bestselling author, award-winning journalist, filmmaker and producer Nancy Jo Sales. A long-time critic of online dating and social media, Nancy Jo talks in part 1 of this interview about why dating app operators consider her such a thorn in their side, how dating apps are intentionally addictive, and why we see so much victim-blaming when apps lead to nefarious encounters. What does evolutionary biology have to do with dating apps? And why does Nancy Jo think that these apps have deep cultural effects such as turning men callous? Come...2023-01-0244 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: How to Survive Divorce and Break-ups with Amy PolackoOn this final episode of season 1, Irina and Michelle talk to divorce coach and journalist Amy Polacko. She tells her story of overcoming two divorces and being a happy, successful single mom and entrepreneur. Hear Amy's top advice on how to get over every sort of break-up and leave narcissistic abuse behind. How long should you wait to date again after a divorce or break-up? If you're a parent, what is the right time to introduce a significant other to your child? Is there still a stigma against dating people who have been previously divorced, and are they actually...2022-12-1955 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with Tinder Swindler Star Victim Cecilie Fjellhøy - Part 2In part 2 of this exclusive interview, Irina and Michelle continue their conversation with Tinder Swindler celebrity victim Cecilie Fjellhøy. Find out what fraudster Simon Leviev is up to these days (spoiler: it involves additional alleged crimes). In this episode, your hosts also delve into the details of where international law enforcement went wrong so far, but why Cecilie thinks that Simon's days as a free man may be numbered. Could he end up in an Israeli jail before we know it or will he successfully continue his lucky streak? Hear what Cecilie has to say about Simon, victim b...2022-12-1242 minStrangers on the InternetSpecial: Exclusive Interview with Tinder Swindler Star Victim Cecilie Fjellhøy - Part 1In this exclusive interview, Irina and Michelle sit down with Tinder Swindler celebrity victim Cecilie Fjellhøy. See what the London-based Norwegian IT consultant has to say about swindler Simon Leviev and the continued battles to bring him to justice, her and his current dating status, life after starring in Netflix's most-watched documentary of all time, her experiences with British law enforcement, her anti-catfishing activism, and much, much more. Want to know what Simon's victims thought "was one of the questions [they] wanted explored in the documentary" that didn't make it through? Plus, why did Cecilie and other victims k...2022-12-0549 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Ten Years of Tinder - Where Are We Now?As hard as it may be to believe, the mainstream swiping era recently turned a decade old. Irina and Michelle discuss how dating has changed during that time, as has their own perspective on it. The Dating Professors review some of the recent popular writings on the topic of ten years of Tinder, including on the issue of burnout. The Dating Professors cover how apps have gamified dating and how some women have raised their standards in positive ways while others come in with unfair expectations and act flaky. Should women tell each other "You're the prize!", and what...2022-12-0254 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: A False Sense of Safety with LisaIn this episode, in which Irina and Michelle host Midwestern graduate student Lisa (a pseudonym), the focus of the conversation is on physical safety. Lisa shares her experiences with being stalked, owning a gun, conducting background checks before every date, and having to take out restraining orders. Find out how people who lie about their age on dating apps sometimes do so for much more nefarious reasons than you might expect, and listen to Lisa dish about why dating fellow academics might not be all roses! You will walk away with new insights and important safety tips from a guest...2022-11-2843 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: The Secret Lives of Law Professors with Katherine MacfarlaneIrina and Michelle welcome a special guest from Louisiana on this episode: disability law scholar Katherine Macfarlane. Kat has navigated dating, marriage, divorce, and then dating again with an invisible condition. How have significant others reacted when she has needed accommodations for her lifelong rheumatoid arthritis? And what's it been like dating (and when need be, breaking up) as an immunosuppressed person during the COVID-19 pandemic? Come for a lesson in empathy from this brilliant and wise academic who tells all about her interactions with strangers, whether in NYC or Idaho, and from Los Angeles to the other "LA"! 2022-11-1454 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Dating as a Criminal Law Professor with Prof. Erin SheleyIn this guest episode, Irina and Michelle have the chance to sit down with Californian criminal law professor Erin Sheley who found love (and indeed, a fiance) on Bumble after dating app adventures across North America. While last time we had Catgate, this week's episode brings us Fishgate: this vegetarian scholar and her avid fisherman date from the apps did NOT see eye to eye when it comes to how many fish are okay to kill in a year. Erin also tells the tale of how a man tried to throw her on the train tracks in Calgary and...2022-11-0349 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: A Philosopher Walks into a Bar with Dr. Rebecca RoacheIrina and Michelle talk to British philosophy professor, life coach, Twitter favorite, and host of "The Academic Imperfectionist" podcast Dr. Rebecca Roache. A self-described introvert, Rebecca is of two minds about dating apps these days. Should she bother meeting new men or comfortably stay home, knit, and hang out with her kids and cats? And speaking of cats, come hear about "Catgate", the incident in which a (narcissistic) then-boyfriend became enraged with Rebecca because she dared to pet a stray kitty while the couple was talking! We also discuss how to learn to trust yourself again after falling prey...2022-10-1854 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Happy Relationship BehaviorsAfter covering how to enter a romantic relationship in the modern era, Irina and Michelle now delve into how to make it a successful one. How do you apply the Golden Rule (treat others like you would want to be treated) in a relationship? Even better, how do you upgrade to the Platinum Rule (treat others like THEY want to be treated)? Is the idea of the Five Love Languages just a scam or can you use them as guidance to maintain the spark? The Dating Professors share with you the key insights from researchers such as John Gottman, Esther...2022-10-1048 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Bad Dating AdviceIn this episode, Irina and Michelle scour the Interwebs for recent dating advice and critique what they find. Will that article in The Cut teach you about whether you're too picky on dating apps? What about the pearls of wisdom in those (in)famous advice listicles? The Dating Professors go through the good, bad, and ugly of these pointers and show YOU how some of them definitely point in the wrong direction! Plus, hear what our hosts have to say about Hollywood's vision of dating over the last twenty years. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more...2022-10-0336 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: How to Spot a NarcissistIn this episode, the Dating Professors teach you a thing or two about how not to fall for a narcissist. Irina and Michelle explain why narcissists may seem particularly attractive at first, what makes love bombing so powerful, and how to break the narcissist's cycle of idealization and devaluation. Resist becoming narcissistic supply and get rid of energy vampires whose lies and manipulations will suck you dry.YOU can learn how to detect gaslighting and find safe ways to get a narcissist out of your life even if he managed to sneak in at first! Hosted on Acast. See...2022-09-1934 minStrangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Catfishing Beyond the Tinder Swindler with Anna Rowe and Jennifer (Part 2)In this episode, Irina and Michelle return for part 2 of their conversation with catfishing victims Anna Rowe and Jennifer. At the end of part 1, we had left off with Anna realizing that she had been catfished and collecting clues to uncover the perpetrator's true identity. After triangulating his work location near a small airport, she jumped in the car to begin what would turn into a multi-year (and still ongoing) quest for justice.Jennifer, meanwhile, had to come to terms with the fact that the father of her youngest child was a complete fraud that had...2022-09-051h 01Strangers on the InternetGuest Chat: Catfishing Beyond the Tinder Swindler with Anna Rowe and Jennifer (Part 1)On the podcast's first-ever guest episode, Irina and Michelle talk to two women whose existence was turned upside down by male catfish from dating apps. British teaching assistant turned international anti-catfishing activist Anna Rowe thought that Antony Ray was the perfect mate. How the unassuming mother of two put Sherlock Holmes to shame in her hot pursuit of his real identity and how she got fired in her search for justice will leave your head spinning!Meanwhile, Midwestern academic Jennifer spent years with a man and had her (fourth) child with him without a clue about...2022-08-2951 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Going on Dates - Less Stranger Danger, More FunIt's time actually to go out with some of the people from the apps! The Dating Professors tell you about the best settings for first dates, and how to stay safe while enjoying yourself. Should you Google your date before meeting up? Is it ever okay to ghost someone? What's even the goal of a first date? Irina and Michelle answer the most pressing questions about what happens when you go from virtual to in-person interactions. Plus, learn what Michelle found out when she did a background check on a guy and how someone blew up when Irina sent her...2022-08-1542 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: First Chats - Did You Come Here to Make Friends?How should you talk to strangers on dating apps about whom you know next to nothing? Should men always approach women first? What happens when you start by just saying "hi" to someone? Irina and Michelle are your guides to figuring out the best early interactions for YOU. You will hear about how Irina impressed her now-husband with her thorough response to his four-bullet-point text and how Michelle prefers a less formal approach. The Dating Professors will help you stay away from chat pitfalls and find the way to conversational greener pastures instead! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com...2022-08-0132 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: Tinder or Bumble? - Thinking about App Choice and Profile ContentTinder, Bumble, Hinge, OKCupid, and all the others - so many decisions and so little time! Irina and Michelle walk you through how to choose the best dating app for YOU. Even more importantly, they discuss how you should select your app pictures and write a genuine and attractive profile text. Plus, what should you look out for in other people's profiles when swiping? What does a guy mean when he says he wants someone "sweet" or who has "no baggage"? Does stating in your profile that you want "no hookups" work in keeping away the more casually minded? Come...2022-07-1831 minStrangers on the InternetThe Dating Professors: To Swipe or Not to Swipe - Are You Ready for Apps?In this pilot episode, Irina and Michelle share their own histories with online dating. They teach you what all YOU should consider before jumping into the app world. How do you know you're ready for dating after a break-up? What kind of expectations do you have from the process? For those back in the game after a long absence, how has the dating world changed since Tinder and other apps came on the scene? Join the Dating Professors for an exciting journey through the swiping universe! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2022-07-0729 min