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Curious Fox#polyproblems with Effy Blue and Jacqueline MislaWhat are some of the most common pitfalls when couples are opening up? Which conversations are essential when discussion non monoamy? What are some of the common myths when it comes to open relationships? And what about jealousy? Open relationships have a unique set of challenges and it’s often hard to know how to resolve them as open relationships have no specific roadmap. In this revisited episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore some of the common #PolyProblems that people face and share insights, tips, and personal stories for how folks have navigated through those challenges. List...
2023-11-231h 00
Curious FoxTolerating Disconnection in RelationshipsWhat exactly is connection, and what happens when we encounter disconnection in our relationships? Is there any value in temporary disconnection? How can we improve our tolerance to disconnection?In this week's episode, Effy and Jacqueline delve deep into the intricate dynamics of connection and disconnection within relationships. Effy and Jacqueline unravel the multifaceted aspects of disconnection, shedding light on its causes and manifestations. They candidly explore the potential benefits that can arise from moments of disconnection, challenging the assumption that it's always detrimental and offer strategies and practical tools to enhance emotional resilience in the face...
2023-09-2055 min
Curious FoxRelease The Rainbow, Coming Out in AdulthoodWhat happens when you discover your sexual orientation later in life? How can you embrace a new identity when you have already established one? What does it mean to be queer?In this revisited oldie, Jacqueline goes galavanting through the NY lesbian bar scene for her birthday with her partner, making up for some classic lesbian experiences that she never got to have. Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride month by exploring experiences of coming out later in life, discuss what it means to be queer, and explore the nuance of why they identify the way they do.
2023-06-281h 03
Curious FoxCompartmentalization: Friend or FoeHow important is compartmentalization when you are in multiple relationships? Can we go too far with "don't ask, don't tell"? Are there consequences to keeping parts of our lives separate?In this week's episode, we take a trip into the multiple worlds within Jacqueline's mind and explore the reasons for compartmentalization and integration. Effy and Jacqueline examine why we separate some of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, particularly within open relationships; and reveal how too much compartmentalizing can degrade our wellbeing, our connections, and our relationships. Willy Wonka TunnelSupport the show
2023-05-311h 03
Curious FoxFox Tales: Two Relationships, Two Homes, One Big Change with Jacqueline MislaHow do you break out from societal norms? What does it take to design a relationship that we can thrive in? What happens when you open your mind to all the possibilities? In this week’s episode, we bring you another installment of Fox Tales: stories of people who are living, loving and connecting in unique ways. Jacqueline balances a life with her daughter, her wife, and her partner living between two homes. Jacqueline tells the story of how she went from a hetero-mono-normative marriage, to this very unique parallel poly vee relationship. More abou...
2023-03-0141 min
Curious FoxNurturing Compersion According to Research with Dr. Marie Thouin (Interview)What is compersion? What are the factors that promote compersion and the factors that hinder it? Does it have a place outside of non-monogamy.In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Marie Thouin about her research on compersion. Dr. Thouin shares the factors that promote or get in the way of nurturing compersion. Effy and Jacqueline reflect on their personal journeys with compersion, and share the highs and lows of trying to embody this most elusive feeling.Free Session for Curious Fox Listeners: If you are interested in learning more about...
2022-12-0757 min
Curious FoxUnpacking Infidelity, Surviving the EarthquakeWhat happens to a relationship after there is betrayal? Is it possible to rebuild after trust is destroyed? Can infidelity exist within a non-monogamous relationship? In this revisited episode, Effy and Jacqueline take a deeper dive into Jacqueline's story of surviving what felt like an earthquake when she discovered some shocking information about her wife.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: f...
2022-11-0939 min
Curious FoxThe Same Argument a Million Different WaysEven though it sounds different why does it feel like we are having the same fight with our partners over and over again? What does it take to change the patterns we fall into when we are amidst an argument? What are some of the common mistakes that lock us into seemingly irreconcilable discourse? This week Effy and Jacqueline do a coaching session to address the argument patterns Jackie and her partner find themselves in over and over again. After a long text exchange in the middle of the night after one of those arguments, Effy and J...
2022-05-251h 11
Curious FoxNot All Therapy Are Created Equal with Thomas WhitfieldAll mental health providers are not equal. That doesn't mean good or bad, but simply different training, specialties, and personalities. In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla sit down with Dr. Thomas Whitfield to discuss the best way to find a therapist for your sexual and mental health needs. They explore everything from key phrases to google, the distinction between the types of therapies, and some controversial therapeutic methods for addressing sexual trauma. As mentioned on the episode; Waking Up The Tiger - Peter LevineEpisode 92: Trauma, Sense of Safety and the...
2022-05-101h 18
Curious FoxDate Nights Beyond Dinner, Masturbation, and the SoapboxWhy are date nights so important? What happens when date nights become an obligation or duty? How can we approach date nights with creativity and ensure they are in service of the relationships and those in it? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline discuss how to design-conscious date nights (and days and weekends) that serve different purposes depending on what the relationship might need and share creative ideas and inspiration for all sorts of experiences. As referenced in the episode, check out these ones if you like:Episode 57 - Masturbation as Self Love with St...
2022-04-2050 min
Curious FoxExploring Tantra with Barbara Carrellas (Interview)Tantra, which means woven together in Sanskrit, brings the spiritual and sexual together in an experience that deepens connection and intimacy. Though thousands of years old, many have not explored this practice because of myths and misinformation. Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Barbara Carrellas to explore urban tantra, an accessible adaptation of this ancient tradition.To find out more about Barbara: Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®, an approach to conscious sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She is the author of U...
2022-04-1353 min
Curious FoxFox Tales: My partner is a sex worker with Mistress Lucy Sweetkill and NickWe are going back to our roots with this episode. Curious Fox started in Brooklyn basements, with regular people courageously sharing personal stories of going against the grain in love and connection. This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are introducing Fox Tales: Stories of lives that challenge the status quo. They are bringing you the tale of @lucy.sweetkill, pro Dom and BDSM life coach, and Nick, her partner of 5 years. How they met; what it is like to nurture a relationship while actively working as a sex worker; the ups and the downs.T...
2022-04-0643 min
Curious FoxModern Monogamy, Fidelity, and Relationship SatisfactionHow do you define modern monogamy? What does fidelity mean in the context of monogamy? How do you design a monogamous relationship so that both parties can thrive?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that monogamous relationships have to be one-size-fits-all. They celebrate those who are choosing to nurture one romantic relationship, take a meaningful look at our understanding of fidelity, and discuss how to identify what values lead to longer-term monogamous relationship satisfaction. Support the showConnect with us on IG and m...
2022-03-3042 min
Curious FoxConscious UncouplingWhat is conscious uncoupling? How is it different from breaking up? How do you go through the process of uncoupling with intention and kindness? What if the other person does not want to go through this process, can you do it on your own?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that all relationship transitions end in shouting matches and slamming doors. They take a deep dive into conscious uncoupling and talk about what it takes to exit a relationship with dignity and respect. Support the showConnect with us o...
2022-03-2345 min
Curious FoxHistory of Hair Removal and Sexual Self-Esteem with Prof. Rebecca Herzig (Interview)In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are hanging out with the author of Plucked: A History of Hair Removal Prof. Rebecca Herzig to talk about hair removal and sexual self-esteem. They are curious about: What is the history of hair removal and what role have race, gender and age played in it?What caused the medicalization and then industrialization of hair removal and why?How does what we know about hair removal bust the myth of personal choice and individualism in America and expose how the unrecognized impact of c...
2022-03-1652 min
Curious FoxErogenous Zones, God, and Sexual Self-Esteem with Jocelyn Silva (Interview) (Revisited)As a part of their sexual self-esteem kick, Effy and Jacqueline revisit an episode from the archives where discuss erogenous zones, religion, and their impact on our sexual self-esteem with sexual empowerment coach Jocelyn Silva. Guiding us this week is Jocelyn Silva:Jocelyn Silva is a Sex and Intimacy Coach that works with women and femmes to break through their sexual shame and embrace their sex lives with confidence. With 10 years of experience as a sex educator, Jocelyn's favorite thing is teaching others about the beauty of sexual empowerment. As a...
2022-03-091h 03
Curious FoxErotic Blueprints and Sexual Self-esteem with Jessie Fresh (Interview) (Revisited)This week Effy and Jacqueline revisit an episode with Jessie Fresh all about aligning with your Erotic Blueprint to nurture your sexual self-esteem. They are curious about: Why is pleasure important?What gets in the way of pleasure & fulfilling sex?How to increase sexual satisfaction?What are Erotic Blueprints and how do they affect our sexual self-esteem? Guiding us this week is Jessie Fresh:Jessie a certified Sex and Relationship Coach who helps women and couples create a deep, intimate connection so they can experience the mind-blowing sexual pleasure th...
2022-03-021h 02
Curious FoxColorism, Featurism, Texturism and Sexual Self-Esteem with Dr. Donna Oriowo (Interview)This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are curious about colorism, featurism, and texturism and they are joined by Dr. Donna to chat about:What are colorism, texturism, and featurism? Where does it come from? How does it show up day today?How does it impact sexual self-esteem?How does this impact relationships between people of color?What can we do now that we know this?To guide us in our exploration, our guest this week is Dr. Donna Oriowo:Dr. Donna Oriowo (oreo-whoa!) LICSW, CST, is international speaker and...
2022-02-2353 min
Curious FoxCouple Privilege, Hierarchy, and Valentines' DayThis week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are curious about couple privilege and hierarchical relationships: What is couple privilege?How does it differ from hierarchy in relationships? How does it affect relationships?How can we design our relationships with privilege and hierarchy in mind? Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
2022-02-1656 min
Curious FoxJealousy, Biological Sex Differences, and Mate Selection with Prof David Buss (Interview)This week Effy and Jacqueline are curious about the purpose of jealousy: What is jealousy? How do you characterize it?What are the evolutionary roots of jealousy? And what purpose does it serve in the emotional portfolio of the human species? What are the distinctions between the biological sexes and jealousy, based on existing research?We are challenging the status quo that jealousy is bad and something that non-monogamous people should not feel. To guide us in our exploration, our guest this week is Prof David Buss:David Bus...
2022-02-091h 04
Curious FoxFriendship, Jealousy, and For the 100th Time with Dr Jaimie KremsThis week Effy and Jacqueline are curious about friendships and jealousy: What defines a friendship? What distinguishes a friendship over other relationships? Are female friendships different from male friendships? Is friendship jealousy different from romantic jealousy? We want to challenge the status quo that romantic relationships are more important than friendships and female friendships are ultimately about rivalry and threat. To guide us in our exploration, our guest this week is Dr. Jaimie Arona Krems: Dr. Jaimie Arona Krems is a social psychologist who uses interdisciplinary theories--from evol...
2022-02-0257 min
Curious FoxCelebrating Relationships, Break-ups, and Queering Weddings with Ambyr D'AmatoWhat happens when a traditional ceremony like a wedding honors the queerest of relationships? What are some other ways to celebrate a relationship(s)? What is it like to celebrate a break-up?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline hang out with queer wedding planner Ambyr D'Amato to challenge the status quo that Weddings are the only types of relationship ceremonies Only traditional relationships have and deserve to celebrate with a ceremony We should only celebrate when we merge into a relationship This week's guest Ambyr D'Amato: Hi, I’m Ambyr. I’m a wedding p...
2022-01-2154 min
Curious FoxMagic, Embodiment, and Sexuality with Haylin Belay (Interview)Is magic and witchcraft for fairy tales? Can magic, witchcraft, and rituals be a way to connect with our bodies and tap into our intuition? Can tarot be used to help us get clarity on the choices we have and the decision we have to make? Effy and Jacqueline hang out with Pleasure Witch Haylin Belay to talk about how magic and tarot can provide a framework for us to get in touch with what we know intuitively. To find more about Haylin Belay, go to his website www.haylin.co or follow her on...
2022-01-141h 00
Curious FoxFoxy Listeners' QuestionsHow can a couple in an open relationship deal with a new crush or new relationship energy? How can someone deal with the shame/guilt of exploring a non-traditional relationship or sexual path?How can you figure out if someone is a good match for a kink experience?How to make addressing fears fun?How can I tell my child that I/ we are opening up our relationship? Effy and Jacqueline kick off the year by answering questions from our foxy listeners. Support the showConnect with us on IG...
2022-01-0751 min
Curious FoxHoliday Message and a Well Deserved Rest 2021Effy, Jacqueline, and the Foxy team are taking a break for the holidays. Listen for their holiday wishes and some recommendations on what to listen to while they are away. HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
2021-12-2506 min
Curious FoxHuman Evolution, Relationships, and Playboy Covers with Dr. Adar Eisenbruch (Interview)How much does evolutionary wiring impact the types of relationships we seek? Does it really come down to nature vs nurture? How much of whom we are attracted to impacted by our ancestors? Is there such a thing as free will? Effy and Jacqueline get nerdy with evolutionary psychologist Dr. Adar Eisenbruch - whose research centers around cooperation, friendship, and behavioral endocrinology - to talk about how much of our relational choices are contemporary and how much is written deep into our source code over millions of years ago. To find more about...
2021-12-1755 min
Curious FoxRelationship Math and the Equal Division of EffortWhat does it mean to put effort into relationships? Does one person always show up more than the other? Is relationship maths is as simple as 50+50 makes 100%? Effy and Jacqueline sit down to work out what is the right maths when it comes to the division of effort that goes into a relationship while comparing parental relationship dynamics to adult romantic relationship dynamics. Not all relationships are created equal. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Ema...
2021-12-1059 min
Curious FoxPegging and Butt Stuff with Lola Jean (Interview)No matter your gender, orientation, or relationship construct, everyone has a butt. Booty play can be a subversive and fun addition to your sexfolio. Effy and Jacqueline chat with sex educator and pro-domme Lola Jean to get into the whats, hows, and whys of pegging. From tops and bottoms, to toys and hygiene, they go through the ins and outs (pun intended) of backdoor play. Here are the links promised: Effy’s fave harness: Spareparts Joque HarnessLola’s toy suggestion: Perfect Fit The Bumper Thrust Buffer, BlackPerfect Fit The Bu...
2021-12-031h 07
Curious FoxPassivity is not the same as PeaceIs it ok to be in a relationship when you are chronically dissatisfied if there are no arguments? Why do people end up staying in relationships that are not making them happy? What do we need to make us pull the plug on lifeless relationships? Effy and Jacqueline jump on the airwaves to challenge the idea that passivity is the same as peace. They discuss what Esther Perel calls stable ambiguity or what Effy calls relationship purgatory where people remain in a holding pattern in relationships where things are undefined, lines are blurred, and desires go unsaid e...
2021-11-121h 07
Curious FoxHalloween Special: Haunted House of Relationships FearsIn this Halloween Special episode, Effy and Jacqueline create a house of horrors made up of their relationship fears. From negative body image to feeling stuck on a relationship escalator, they imagine a terrifying room after a terrifying room of the gruesomest, the creepiest, and the most disturbing contraptions that represent their deepest dreads. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.co...
2021-10-2936 min
Curious FoxDaddy, BDSM, and Gender Fckry with Lucy Sweetkill (Interview)Let’s talk about “Daddy.” Why is it a hot turn-on for some and abhorrent for others? What does the “Daddy role” embody within a power exchange? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by professional and lifestyle dominatrix, BDSM educator, kinky life coach, Mistress Lucy Sweetkill, as they challenge the notion that “Daddy” is only for those with daddy issues. To learn more about Lucy Sweetkill, follow her on Instagram @lucy.sweetkill, or via her website: lucysweetkill.comSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheff...
2021-10-151h 08
Curious FoxHow to Find a Sex Worker with Miss Shayla (Interview)Can sex work be a viable alternative for those who want to open up an existing relationship because they are looking for a specific sexual experience? How do you safely and ethically connect with a sex worker who’s not trafficked or coerced? What is the best way to determine if someone is the right person to work with? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by pro-domme, kink educator and owner of Chez-La, Miss Shayla to discuss what sex work is and what it is like to work with a sex worker, the impact of SESTA/FOSTA on the...
2021-10-081h 04
Curious FoxCulture, Identity and Polyamory with Michelle Hy (Interview)What is intersectional polyamory and how to find meaningful representation in the community? What is the impact of prescribed cultural identity on our relationships? How can we find and connect with online communities for support? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Michelle Hy of Polyamorous While Asian to discuss how different parts of our identity impact the way we practice non-monogamy, how representation matters within polyamory, and the importance and the risks of online communities. To learn more about Michelle, follow her on Instagram @polyamorouswhileasian, or via her website: polyamorouswhileasian.comSupport the sh...
2021-10-0155 min
Curious FoxLove, Sex and Relationships During the ApocalypseWhen the world feels like it’s tearing itself apart, how can we keep our relationships together? When the news feels terrifying, how do we revel in the erotic safely? When meeting new people feels like a health risk, how can we nurture new connections? Effy and Jacqueline return from their Summer hiatus and kick off our Fall programming by talking about the impact of global current affairs, the hyper-fast news cycle of apocalyptic headlines, and the still restrictive new normal on our nervous system and consequently our relationships and sex lives.Support the show
2021-09-1742 min
Curious FoxPlay Party EtiquetteFrom ancient civilizations to modern times, why have people been going to play parties? Are they only all about hedonistic indulgences? What happens at a play party?Effy and Jacqueline talk about their first experience at sex parties, why they go and what they have learned from their experiences, and how to throw your own party while discussing Effy’s book Play Party Etiquette.You can get the book from playpartyetiquette.com. You can find Polysecure on our website at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglistSupport the showConnect wi...
2021-08-021h 05
Curious FoxAttachment Styles, Trauma and Non-Monogamy with Jessica Fern (Interview)Do you think that there is a correlation between attachment style and one's propensity towards non-monogamy? How are our sex lives affected by our attachment styles? How those in a non-monogamous relationship can work towards secure attachment?Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert, and the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy to discuss attachment styles and trauma and how they impact our relationship structures and sexuality. You can find Jessica Fern via her website: jessicafern.com. On there, you can access her w...
2021-07-251h 04
Curious FoxRoots and Wings and The BeanstalkWhy is it that when we feel comfy and settled, we suddenly long for passion and freedom? And conversely, why do a string of spontaneous adventures have us longing for stability? Is it possible for us to be both planted and to fly? Effy and Jacqueline discuss how to balance the comfort of being rooted and settled with the desire for variety and passion but not before they catch up on crushes, books, family, and city life vs country. You can find the Fuel Gauge Activity worksheet mentioned in this episode here: https://craftyourpath...
2021-07-171h 01
Curious FoxAsexuality with Angela Chen (Interview)Why do some asexual folks have sex? In a hypersexualized society, what is it like to be asexual? Can asexuality be an important factor for female sexual liberation? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by journalist, editor, and the author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, Angela Chen to talk about the asexuality spectrum, its role in identity politics, and why her book is important all sexual orientations to understand the role of sexuality in society. To learn more about Angela Chen, follow her on Twitter @chengela, on Instagram at...
2021-07-1254 min
Curious FoxQueer Dating with Ariella Serur (Interview)Is there a difference between queer dating and mono-normative dating? What are the main concerns and common strategies? What is one thing that we can all do to be braver in our dating lives?Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur to talk about how to approach dating intentionally, navigate queer space when dating and remain connected to "feelings-based standards." To learn more about Ariella, follow her on social media @queerdatingcoach, or on her website: queerdatingcoach.comSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:
2021-06-1856 min
Curious FoxBisexuality is RealHow prevalent is bisexuality? What is it like to be attracted to all genders? Why don't see more representation of bisexual folks? Effy and Jacqueline continue to celebrate Pride month by talking about bisexuality, bi-visibility, and the erasure of bisexual identity. They bust some myths and share some action points for how to be inclusive, not intrusive. If you like the song at the top of the show, follow @sillymissallison on TikTokSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue...
2021-06-1154 min
Curious FoxPride March, Late to Lesbian, and To Queer or Not to QueerWhat happens when you discover your sexual orientation later in life? What does it mean to be queer? Is Pride still relevant? Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride month by exploring experiences of coming out later in life, discuss what it means to be queer and how they each identify when it comes to their sexual orientation. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the co...
2021-06-0454 min
Curious FoxCodependency, Non-monogamy, the Octopus and the TurtleAre we overuse words like codependency, trigger...etc? What does codependency look like and how can you move towards interdependency in your relationships? Effy and Jacqueline start a conversation about codependency and discuss how it may show up as you explore non-monogamy. They discuss the difference between attachment styles and codependency and talk through what it means to be dependent.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.c...
2021-05-2849 min
Curious FoxRelationship Transitions Live (Revisited)People change. Relationships change. How can you navigate through those changes in a way that honors everyone involved? How can you and your partner(s) create an environment that supports evolution and growth? From monogamous to open, a couple to a triad, a partner to solo poly, to conscious uncoupling - what can you learn from other people’s experiences around transition? Effy and Jacqueline revisit the first-ever Curious Fox episode to explore relationship transitions through the experiences of a brave and diverse set of panelists.Support the showConnect with us on IG...
2021-05-2157 min
Curious FoxMoms, Money, and Meet UpsWhy is money so hard to talk about? How do finances impact non-traditional relationships? What are some of the creative ways to approach finances that reflects your relationships design? Effy and Jacqueline delve into the tough topic of money and money conversations within relationships. They share how they have set up their finanes and give suggestions on different ways of thinking about money and easing into regular money dates. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Ema...
2021-05-1453 min
Curious FoxWhat's Age Got To Do With It with Ashton Applewhite (Interview)Do we stay in relationships longer in our older age because we think we won't find a new partner later on in life? What would online dating look like if age wasn't a part of the profile? When we "eeeew" older people having sex, do we realize we are "eeewing" our future selves?Effy and Jacqueline are joined by author, speaker, and ageism activist Ashton Applewhite to discuss the intersection of age, ageism, relationships, and sex. Effy and Jackie have also come to realize that they'll never be too old to giggle at the fact that this...
2021-04-3052 min
Curious FoxRelationship Anarchy (LIVE) (Revisited)What is Relationships Anarchy? Can it be a sustaining and nurturing relationship structure that one can thrive in? Is there anything we can learn from this niche structure? Effy and Jacqueline revisit the most popular CF episode of all time where a panel of relationship anarchists share their stories and talk about their approach to relationships. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the co...
2021-04-2359 min
Curious FoxButt-Plugs and Pick Up Lines, And F**k Your Definition of JoyDo you need a break from the heaviness of our last few episodes? Do you want to skip your next zoom meeting and talk about butt plugs and pickup lines instead? Do you need a new outlet to get some joy because the status quo isn’t cutting it?Effy and Jacqueline stick to their word and in this light hearted episode explore butt plugs and talk about pick up lines on online dating platforms. They round off the episode by redefining joy. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:
2021-04-1648 min
Curious FoxEaster Special: Sex in the Bible with De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson (Interview)Can your faith in the bible support your sexual expression? Is there scripture that encourages sexual exploration? Are we all going to hell because we like to give and get head? On this Easter special, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson as they embark on an Easter egg hunt to find passages and scriptures in the Bible that talk about sex not as a literally device for high drama or a word of warning but as beautiful, sensual expression and connection for the pleasure of it (marriage not required). To find more about...
2021-04-0941 min
Curious FoxUnpacking Infidelity, the Other Side (Part 2)Why do people cheat? Are the people who cheat always the villan of the story? Can you break your relationship patterns? Effy and Jacqueline continue their exploration into infidelity through their own stories. In the final episode of the infidelity trilogy Effy tells her story of cheating. She explains why she cheated, what impact it had on her relationships and what she's done to break her patterns. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or...
2021-04-0251 min
Curious FoxCompersion and Jealousy (LIVE) (Revisited)Can jealousy be a revered teacher? Can you feel joy about your partner connecting with someone else? What does it take to cultivate sympathetic joy? Effy and Jacqueline revisit a classic episode about jealousy and compersion from the days where we recorded live panel discussion from the Curious Fox Socials. They are joined by Clara, Eric and Ltee who share their stories, thoughts and wisdom from years of practicing non-monogamy.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla
2021-03-201h 03
Curious FoxUnpacking Infidelity, Surviving the Earthquake (Part 1 / Take 2)What does your relationship look like after a betrayal? What happens when you explore the depths of your experience of infidelity? What does it take to the authentically bare your soul? In part 2 of our, now 3-part episode on infidelity, Effy and Jacqueline take a deeper dive into Jacqueline's story of surviving what feels like an earthquake when she discovered her wife was having an affair despite being in an open relationship.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @j...
2021-03-1440 min
Curious FoxStop the Press! A Message from Effy and JacquelineSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
2021-03-0603 min
Curious FoxWhat About the Children with Dr. Eli Sheff (Interview)What about the children??? Can children thrive in a polyamorous family? What are the downsides to raising children with an open construct? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak to Dr. Eli Sheff, doctor of Sociology, the author of “The Polyamorists Next Door” and “When Someone You Love is Polyamorous”, and more. They discuss Dr. Sheff's book “Children in Polyamorous Families: Research Findings in Brief", which highlights her findings from her decade’s long research on polyamorous families. To find out more about Dr. Eli Sheff on her website and on Facebook and Twitter. Support the s...
2021-02-191h 07
Curious FoxSh*ting all over Valentines' Day, History of Everything and The Soap BoxValentines' Day sweeps the nation this weekend. Are you smothering your loved one in love hearts and chocolates or are you denouncing it all together? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline dig into the history of Valentines' Day, discuss alternative ways to celebrate and get on their Soap Box about Instagram. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
2021-02-1343 min
Curious FoxSomatic Approach to Boundary Setting with Seza Aslanbas (Interview)How do know where your boundaries are -- especially faced with new experiences? Can our body give us clearer direction than our mind when it comes to knowing what feels good and what doesn't? Often considered to be an intellectual exercise, boundary setting is a key skill for life -- yet one most of us struggle with. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Seza Aslanbas, a yoga and meditation teacher and a conscious living coach to discuss a somatic approach to figuring out what our boundaries are. Seza has developed a guided m...
2021-02-051h 23
Curious FoxI'm not ok! and Curiouser and Curiouser: Listener's QuestionsWhat are YOU curious about? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline answer listener questions.How should you prepare yourself and your children when families begin to blend? Is polyamory different for demi and asexuals? How do you manage the jealousy and hurt when opening up? Should you wait to find your career or get financially stable before starting a relationship? What if you want poly and they won't open? Effy and Jacqueline dive into these questions while sharing some personal stories and reflections of their own. Support the showConnect with us...
2021-01-2259 min
Curious FoxTypes of Human Bonding and Dating Apps with Dr Eli Sheff (Interview)You know your love language, do you know your bonding style? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak to Dr. Eli Sheff, doctor of Sociology, the author of “The Polyamorists Next Door” and “When Someone You Love is Polyamorous”, and more. They discuss Dr. Sheff's most recent collaboration, The Bonding Project. This quiz "helps people identify their bonding preferences and connect with partners with compatible bonding styles." Effy, Jacqueline, and Dr. Sheff take a deep-dive into the way humans connect to one another challenging the notion of human pair bonding.To find out more about Dr. Eli...
2021-01-1658 min
Curious FoxAn Anticlimax, Reflections and Trying Something NewHow can we approach newness in love, sex, and relationships in the new year? How can we reflect on the year gone and embrace change? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline look back to the year gone and reflect on what they'd like to avoid, preserve, and create going forward. They also discuss how they will personally challenge the status quo in the way they love, approach sex, and relate to others in 2021.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline M...
2021-01-0855 min
Curious FoxFox Tales: A Holiday Family Story with Ryan DiMartino (Part 2) (Interview)As the new year rolls in, can we renew and expand our ideas of love, parenthood, and family? Can we rethink how we approach pregnant people and the assumptions we carry around about motherhood? On this New Year episode, Effy and Jacqueline continue to talk to Ryan DiMartino who kindly shares the story of their family. In this second part of a two-part story for the family like no other, we hear the final twist of this riveting and inspiring story.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious F...
2021-01-0133 min
Curious FoxFox Tales: A Holiday Family Story with Ryan DiMartino (Part 1) (Interview)On a day where we often think about family the most, can we think about family differently? Can we untangle pregnancy from motherhood; motherhood from womanhood and blood from family? On this Holiday episode, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Ryan DiMartino who kindly shares the story of their family. In this two-part story for the family like no other, we hope to warm your heart and challenge your ideas of love, parenthood, family, and more all at the same time.Support the showConnect with us on IG and m...
2020-12-2538 min
Curious FoxCuriouser and Curiouser: Listeners' QuestionsWhat happens when you break up with one partner to focus on the other and remain in each others' social circles? How do you know you are ready to date? Can you ignore hypocrisy in a partner? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline answer questions submitted by our Foxy listeners.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
2020-12-1948 min
Curious FoxBoredom, Sex as a Hobby and The Soap BoxCould there be a miracle hobby that can help us stay connected to others, be creative, be physically active, and put us in a better mood? Effy and Jacqueline consider turning sex into a hobby, and explore ways to build sexual experience, become more sexually creative, and practice new sexual skills alone or with a partner(s). Looking for something to do in the comfort of your air conditioning? Sex may be the hobby you've been looking for.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue...
2020-12-041h 01
Curious FoxFrom the Mouth of Babes, Sex-Positive Parenting and SlimeAmidst culture wars, identity politics, and the evolution of relationships as we know it, what does it take to bring up children who understand differences while remaining true to themselves? In this very special episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Jackie's 9-year-old daughter about what it's like to be a part of an open family as well as discuss sex-positive parenting, tips for anyone who's around children, and the joys of slime. For the best slime around go to www.slimessquareslime.comUse promo code CURIOUSFOX for 20% off AND Curious Fox s...
2020-11-201h 13
Curious FoxGlass Ceilings, Friends with Benefits, and The SoapboxCan friends with benefits arrangement really work? What does it take to maintain a friendship with people you have sex with? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore if friends with benefits are a good option given the struggles around meeting new people during COVID and discuss best practices when approaching such topics with existing friends. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the co...
2020-11-1354 min
Curious FoxAnxiety, Attachment Systems, and Finding JoyGiven the current state of affairs, how do we manage anxiety so it doesn't trigger our attachment struggles?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline talk about how our anxieties about the election, COVID, and subsequent worries can trigger our attachment systems and impact our relationships; how we can cultivate a sense of safety, self, an joy so we can show up for our relationships and our partners. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us o...
2020-11-0659 min
Curious FoxHalloween, Relationship Changes, and the Soap BoxIf change is the only constant, how can we be prepared for it in our relationships and in our lives? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline talk about all the ways change can be experienced, managed and felt that aligns with our thriving state; frameworks to think about change, and what gets in the way of smooth transitions. This episode also sees the inauguration of a new segment we are calling The Soap Box where Effy and Jackie have a bit of a rant about topics that make them mad.Support the showC...
2020-10-301h 03
Curious FoxCaretaking Dynamics and the Erotic Space in RelationshipsCan a caretaking dynamic and the erotic exist in the same place within a relationship? How can you be caring without slipping into co-dependency? In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla talk about how leaning into caretaking in relationships can erode both a sense of self and eroticism within relationships and what people can do to disrupt old patterns. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.co...
2020-10-231h 03
Curious FoxSex, Spirituality and the Bible with De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson (Interview)Can you reconcile your faith with your sexual expression? Can your spirituality be an inspiration for celebrating your body and pleasure? In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla talk with De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson about the ways in which spirituality has been separated from sexuality and how you can be a person of faith while celebrating your sexual expression. To find more about De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson follow her on Instagram @sankofasex and check out her website sankofasextherapy.com.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxes...
2020-10-171h 10
Curious FoxSex, Culture, and Exploring Beyond the Erogenous Zones with Jocelyn Silva (Interview)Can you reconcile your sex-negative culture and your sexual expression? What does it take to get to your pleasure and your body? How do you do discover the parts of your body that arouse you?In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla chat with queer, Latinx sex educator Jocelyn Silva about reconciling culture, religion, and sexuality; getting to know yourself and your body, and discovering the erogenous zones beyond what's between our legs. To find more about Jocelyn Silva follow her on Instagram @sexcoachjocelyn and check out her website jocelynsilva.comSupport...
2020-10-091h 10
Curious FoxTrauma, storytelling, and sex with women with Krystyna Hutchison (Interview)Can you heal trauma through storytelling? Can your biggest fears be your hottest fantasies? What can you women learn from having sex with another woman? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Krystyna Hutchison about fighting slut-shaming and healing trauma through storytelling; embracing fears through exploring kink; and encouraging all women to consensually experiment with other women. To find more about Krystyna Hutchison follow her on Instagram @krystynahutchSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla
2020-10-021h 00
Curious Fox#polyproblems with Effy Blue and Jacqueline MislaOpen relationships have a unique set of challenges and it’s often hard to know how to resolve them as open relationships have no specific roadmap. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore some of the common #PolyProblems that people face and share insights, tips, and personal stories for how folks have navigated through those challenges. Listen in as they explore common misconceptions that we have to unlearn in order to successfully practice non-monogamy for the long-term, as well as answers to some of the most asked questions.Support the showConnect with us...
2020-09-181h 00
Curious FoxConsensual Non-Monogamy 101 (Part 2)Are you curious about non-monogamy? Did you give it a go thinking it would be fun or freeing, but instead it stirred up questions, fears, frustrations, or heartbreak? You are not alone.In this two-part series dedicated to consensual non-monogamy 101. In Part 1, Effy and Jacqueline share their personal relationship stories of heartache, discovery, and joy. They explore lessons learned (often the hard way) and how they practice non-monogamy now.In Part 2, Effy and Jacqueline explore three common misconceptions that we have to unlearn in order to successfully practice non-monogamy, as well as answers to the...
2020-09-0554 min
Curious FoxConsensual Non-Monogamy 101 (Part 1)Are you curious about non-monogamy? Did you give it a go thinking it would be fun or freeing, but instead it stirred up questions, fears, frustrations, or heartbreak? You are not alone.In this two-part series dedicated to consensual non-monogamy 101. In Part 1, Effy and Jacqueline share their personal relationship stories of heartache, discovery, and joy. They explore lessons learned (often the hard way) and how they practice non-monogamy now.In Part 2, Effy and Jacqueline explore three common misconceptions that we have to unlearn in order to successfully practice non-monogamy, as well as answers to the...
2020-09-0437 min
Curious FoxEmotional Intelligence as Erotic Wisdom with Shadeen Francis (Interview)Our emotions provide insight into what we want to experience in pleasure. If we are tapped into these emotional clues, we can amplify our connection as well as our erotic experience. On this episode Effy and Jacqueline talk to Shadeen Francis about how our emotional intelligence leads us to our erotic wisdom. And how erotic wisdom guides us into our fully embodied pleasure. Listen in to this exploration of what prompts us to feel awake, charged, sexually alive. To find more about Shadeen Francis and her work visit her website www.shadeenfrancis.com and on In...
2020-08-171h 00
Curious FoxFinding The Right Therapist for All Lifestyles with Dr. Thomas Whitfield (Interview)All mental health providers are not equal. That doesn't mean good or bad, but simply different training, specialties, and personalities. In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla sit down with Dr. Thomas Whitfield to discuss the best way to find a therapist for your sexual and mental health needs. They explore everything from key phrases to google, the distinction between the types of therapies, and some controversial therapeutic methods for addressing sexual trauma. To find more about Thomas Whitfield and his work visit his website www.SexEdByThomas.com and on IG and Twitter @twhitfieldphd....
2020-08-081h 11
Curious FoxRecovering from Religious Dogma and Embracing Full Sexual and Relational Expression with Marie D'Elephant (Interview)Religion can be a source of strength, community, meaning and purpose for some people while it can be a tool for oppression, control and exclusion for others - especially around sex and relationships. For those who grow up with or around ultra-religious families and communities, it can be hard to tell dogma apart from facts as they embark on a journey of self-discovery and expression.In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline talk with Marie D'Elephant about life after religion; figuring out what happens when what you are told God wants for you is different than what you...
2020-07-3157 min
Curious FoxEstablishing a QuaranTEAM as We Settle Into the New Normal with Steve Dean (Interview)As COVID-19 begins to surge in states like Texas, Florida, California, and Arizona - it is becoming increasingly clear that our lives will not be returning to the way it was any time soon...if at all. This reality has meant that everyone from business owners to parents to partners to those who live alone have had to strategize around how they will survive and thrive in the coming months. Effy And Jacqueline chat with Steve Dean about how to establish a QuaranTEAM to support us through the next phases of this pandemic by using principles from...
2020-07-241h 04
Curious FoxThe Non-Monogamy Paradigm Shift: Challenging the Frameworks that Limit and Oppress with Angie Gunn (Interview)Globally, we are confronting oppressive systems of race, class, gender-identity, and sexual orientation. As we fight in the streets and in our minds to overcome these archaic systems, how can challenge the oppressive narratives that we have been prescribed around love, sex, and relationships?Angie Gunn returns to the Curious Podcast and joins Effy and Jacqueline for a conversation on oppression, power, and the relationship prescriptions that limit our options and our opportunities to thrive. To find more about Angie Gunn you can visit her website at connectivetherapycollective.com and follow her on Instagram and F...
2020-07-171h 12
Curious FoxTantra and Trauma, Pain and Pleasure, Grief and Healing with Adam Bee (Interview)What would it be like if you were fully present for the grief in your body? What if you didn’t push it away and promise to come back later? What if you actually sat with it, witnessed it, and invited it to be present - or even expand? What would it be like if you brought pleasure to be with your pain? Effy and Jacqueline sit down with sacred intimate and Tantra teacher Adam Bee about accessing the pain and grief that is stored in our body, and how to connect with your body in order to...
2020-07-101h 05
Curious FoxArt, Kinky Porn, and Tale of a Bondage Model with Madison Young (Interview)Is porn art or a menace to society? What's feminist porn? How can we be a responsible porn consumer?Effy and Jacqueline catch up with feminist porn producer, actor and author Madison Young to chat about her journey to being one of the most recognised porn actors in the country; what makes porn art; how to be a responsible porn consumer; and her new show Submission Possible where she exopler sexuality of cities around the world.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue...
2020-06-2747 min
Curious FoxFirst Step to Opening UpWhat are the first steps when exploring non-traditional relationship structures? How can we design a relationship that meets our needs and desires?Effy and Jacqueline discuss the importance of strengthening the relationship we have with ourselves while considering non-monogamy and how we can better communicate our vision, reflect on the past, and design our future.For tools to help you reflect on your own needs, desires, and opening up process join us in the Virtual Curiosity Salon on June 24th at 8 PM ET!Support the showConnect with us on IG...
2020-06-191h 07
Curious FoxUnderstanding Our Erotic Blueprint with Jessie Fresh (Interview)How can we gain deeper understanding and insight into our pleasure? How do we communicate our erotic needs and desires, and our pathways to pleasure to our lovers and partners? Effy and Jacqueline sit down with certified Sex and Relationship Coach Jessie Fresh to discuss the Erotic Blueprints™ and how with a clear understanding of how we are wired, we can get to pleasure mastery. Want to find out what your Erotic Blueprint ™ is? Take the quiz! https://bit.ly/fresheroticblueprintTo find more about Jessie Fresh you can visit her website at www.je...
2020-06-051h 02
Curious FoxAttachment Patterning and Sexual Expression with Angie Gunn (Interview)How do our early relationships with our parents impact our adult relationships today? How does the way that we relate to one another impact our sexual expression? Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla sit down with Angie Gunn to discuss what are attachment styles and how we can lean into our relationship with ourselves and others to heal past traumas and develop a sense of safety.Find more about Angie Gunn you can visit her website at connectivetherapycollective.com and follow her on Instagram and Facebook @connectivetherapycollective. Support the showConnect with us...
2020-05-221h 05
Curious FoxMasturbation As Self Love and Care With Stella Harris (Interview)Riddled with shame, secrecy, and stigma, can masturbation be reclaimed as a self-care and self-love experience? Too often a utilitarian act for relaxation or release, masturbation wields the power to connect us with ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually.Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Stella Harris to discuss all of the ways in which we can indulge ourselves through self-touch and exploration – from laying in the sun, to massaging oil on our body, to sexual touch.In celebration of Masturbation May and in collaboration with Stella's May 20th workshop, we ha...
2020-05-1548 min
Curious FoxLoneliness with Jillian Richardson (Interview)Why does it hurt so much to feel lonely? How is it possible for us to feel lonely, even when we are not alone? How can we find our way back to connection with ourselves and others?As social distancing drags on, more people are experiencing loneliness - whether or not they are quarantined with others.In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline take a deep dive into loneliness and speak with loneliness expert, and the author of “Unlonely Planet”, Jillian Richardson about why we experience loneliness, and how we can create a path towards connection - wi...
2020-05-101h 10
Curious FoxRedefining Dating and Sex During COVID-19What does sex look like when you have to stay six feet apart? How can you create intimacy and romance when you are feeling anxious? And how do our pre-COVID ideas about sex manifest during this time of social distancing?Effy and Jacqueline get personal about sex and dating during COVID-19, and how the messages we learned about sex as children can impact how we explore pleasure as adults.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla ...
2020-05-021h 03
Curious FoxHow to Communicate Our Desires With Partners We Are Isolated With or Away From With Stella Harris (Interview)Talking about sex is not always comfortable...particularly in the midst of a pandemic.Effy and Jacqueline speak with Stella Harris, a certified Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach, about how the current pandemic is affecting the way we communicate with our partner(s), how to navigate having difficult conversations, and how to have intimate conversations that may feel uncomfortable.To learn more about Stella Harris visit www.stellaharris.net or follow @stellaerotica on Twitter or @stellaharriserotica on Instagram. She is offering coaching and classes online, and you can use promo code STAYHOME for 20% coaching.
2020-04-1858 min
Curious FoxNonviolent Communication in the Time of Covid-19 with Dr Clara Moisello (Interview)With many of us isolated with or away from our partners, communication can become strained and relationships might be tense.Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Clara Moisello about the fundamentals of non-violent communication, the distinction between needs and strategies, the importance of giving voice to our feelings, and creating room for self-empathy. For more resources about NVC visit: https://www.nycnvc.org/To learn more about Clara visit her website at: https://www.claramoisello.com/Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @w...
2020-04-131h 32
Curious FoxConnection, Intimacy, and Dating During a Pandemic with Steve Dean (Interview)At a time of social distancing and self isolation, connection and dating can feel like a distant memory. But it doesn't have to be that way. In this episode Effy and Jacqueline chat with Steve Dean, a dating and relationship coach, about how to feel connected, keep dating and meeting new people in meaningful ways. To keep up with Steve's latest events: https://getvokl.com/channel/dateworkingTo learn more about Steve visit: http://dateworking.comTo support Steve become a patron: http://patreon.com/stevenmdeanSupport the show...
2020-04-041h 10
Curious FoxInitiating The Conversation About Non-monogamy with Karolyn Ramos (Interview)Sometimes the hardest part of the conversation about non-monogamy is initiating it. Effy and Jacqueline speak to Karolyn who shares her experience of approaching her husband to discuss what non-monogamy might look like in the context of their existing relationship.Follow Karolyn's blog at: karolynsdiary.wordpress.comSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
2020-03-271h 14
Curious FoxKink and BDSM with Midori (Interview)Are you curious about kink? We have been conditioned to believe that kink can be painful or shameful, as opposed to a playful exploration of toys, power, and sexual expression.Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Midori - author, artist, educator, and “The Supernova of Kink” – to explore BDSM and kinky play. We dispel myths, rethink assumptions, and reintroduce kink as a fun and playful way to curiously engage with your partner(s).Follow Midori on social media for updates: @planetmidoriTo sign up for her weekend workshop on Feminine Dominance, visit www.fortefemme.com
2020-03-141h 05
Curious FoxIf Not Fidelity, Then What?Is your relationship focused on creating, preserving, or preventing? Are you spending more time discussing behaviors or values? If a relationship is not defined by sexual or emotional fidelity, then how is it defined?Effy and Jacqueline explore the difference between rules, agreements, boundaries, and promises - and answer the question “If not fidelity, then what?”Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conv...
2020-02-2857 min
Curious FoxThreesomes (Interview)Threesomes are often the first port of exploration for both couples and solo adventurers. But how much of it do you plan and how much of it do you leave to chance? No one ever seems to talk about the uncomfortable parts of setting up a threesome, what makes a threesome good or bad, and what happens afterward. Effy and Jacqueline invite Taylor to talk about her experience as a unicorn (the majestic creature that joins a couple for a night of wonder and magic) and now her quest for a third to join her an...
2020-02-131h 11
Curious FoxManaging Change in Relationships: Transformation vs EvolutionThis time of year always brings pressure to let go of the old and embrace the new. Faced with a new decade ahead marked as the "decade of transformation," it can feel like a time of grand change. Transforming from one version of ourselves to another. We have decided to take a different approach to this thinking - to challenge the status quo if you will - and are focusing on evolution. While transformation denotes a dramatic change from one thing to another, Effy and Jacqueline discuss how we are focusing on evolution - by stripping away t...
2020-01-291h 04
Curious FoxMissing the People We LoveFrom gift to family dinners to demands on our time and attention holidays are fraught with opportunities to feel frustrated and grateful. It can be a tender time of year as people gather in groups to celebrate the holidays. Effy and Jacqueline explore the delights and complications nonmonogamy can bring to this time. Effy and Jackie focus on missing the people we love and feeling left out during the holidays as well as discuss what can be done to minimize heartbreak and pain that can come up.Support the showConnect with us o...
2019-12-1846 min
Curious FoxWhat Happened at Consider This 2019In this penultimate episode of the year, we recap our annual conference Consider This: A Day of Challenging the Status Quo in Love, Sex and Relationships 2019. With speakers and panelists covering topics from living with an incurable STI to the impact of porn in our society to adoption and family, Consider This was bigger and bolder this year. Listen as Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla take you through a summary of each talk and panel and bring you the insights from the day. You can see the videos from the day on our Patreon: patreon...
2019-11-271h 29
Curious FoxComing Out as Non-monogamous (LIVE)Figuring out the right relationship design for you and your partner(s) is key to thriving. If that design falls outside the status quo, how do you communicate it to other people in your life? Do you talk about your husband’s boyfriend at work? Do you include your girlfriend in the family christmas card? Do you ask for another plus one for partnered events?Effy and Jacqueline sit down with a live panel to hear their diverse stories and to discuss coming out as non-monogamous.Support the showConnect with us on IG...
2019-10-281h 32
Curious FoxHierarchy vs Non-hierarchy Discussion Group (LIVE)What is relationship hierarchy?Effy and Jacqueline lead this lively discussion where Foxes shared from the heart as always. Unlike our usual panel discussion, we tried out a different format where we held a discussion group focusing on hierarchy in open and polyamorous relationships. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
2019-09-241h 46
Curious FoxVision and Mission of Curious FoxWho is Curious Fox?Effy and Jacqueline call a family meeting to discuss the vision for Curious Fox and invite you to be a part of the mission. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
2019-08-291h 03
Curious FoxPoly and Open DatingFrom budding romantic relationships, to long term partnerships, to connections with metamours and friends; we are interested in how to build and maintain connections that meet our needs, bring us joy, and help us feel seen. Effy and Jacqueline discuss making new connections in the world of polyamory and open relationships when it comes to dating with a brave Fox, Ben, who had a very interesting story to tell.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla
2019-07-1658 min