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Steadfast Life CoachingDo it Scared: The Surprising Freedom of Feeling Fear and Building your Business Anyway
Business Coach Melanie Childers explains exactly how build a multiple six figure business without need to defeat fear before you’re allowed to start. You are allowed to DO. IT. SCARED.
…but it’s nice to hear the wisdom and insights from someone who is doing it scared a little but ahead of you. Give yourself 25 minutes to check this out, then get connected with Melanie on her podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-bad-b-tch-entrepreneur/id1568845105
Or Connect with her here: https://www.melaniechilders.com/
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We teach you ho...2023-05-0927 minSteadfast Life CoachingSTOP STOPPING YOURSELF: How to Overcome Fear when Starting a Business
Meet Jennifer Abraham, the Owner of The Dog Spot in Salado, TX
She struggled with people pleasing, self doubt, fear of failure, and a belief that if she got too big, the town would turn on her ...and she succeeded anyway!!
She shares how she did it, what she learned, and what you need to know to rise up to your own fears and find the success that lives on the other side
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We teach you...2023-04-2513 minSteadfast Life CoachingThese 12 Words will make you an EPIC Dad to your TEENAGERPaige’ 18th birthday is 4 days away …I made it. I raised a teenager!!!
I’ve learned a lot through mistakes and successes over these teenage years and somehow my daughter has turned out to be an amazing, adventurous, independent, Christ loving, book writing, virtue filled human being.
This is my take on why 🙂
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.
There are...2023-03-2815 minSteadfast Life CoachingThe Shocking Story of How Snakes Taught Me to Understand Fear!Everyone is always asking “What’s the deal with the snakes?” …and it’s a fair question. There aren’t many social media accounts for life coaches that include equal parts life change posts and snake posts!!
The truth is that it all started as a journey I took with fear that resulted in the powerful knowledge that fear doesn’t actually know anything even though we tend to give status as if it knows the future, loves us, and is warning us of the certain doom that awaits.
Fun side note …I was literally lost in a mess of...2023-03-1409 minSteadfast Life CoachingCan you believe Jesus and still grieve death?Whit lost her father earlier this month and I watched navigate the tightrope of living a life of faith in Jesus Christ and all he promises while simultaneously experiencing WAVES of sadness and loss.
The blessing for me - and for you - is that Whit is a pro! (Not perfect, but a PRO) and I got to see what it looks like when an ELITE LIFE ATHLETE is faced with the loss of her dad and I had the opportunity to learn from her courage, love, and resilience.
Don’t miss this one!
...2023-03-0118 minSteadfast Life CoachingHow do you RESPOND after you Fight?Happy Valentine’s Day!!! In honor of this celebration of love and relationships I figured I talk a bit about fighting with Whit 🤣
I’m sure you already know and practice “getting some air” - but is it an “I need to get some air” like …you’re so annoying you’ve made me need to get air? Or is it more like “My next step in being a great teammate is getting some air?”
Rather than walking around ruminating and fuming about how wrong your spouse was, what if you had a 6 step process to go through while you wer...2023-02-1413 minSteadfast Life CoachingNot Everyone who Plays Sports is an ATHLETEThere are people who play sports and there are athletes - you will find that not everyone who plays sports is an athlete, and not every athlete plays sports. The classification of “Athlete” comes down to values:
An Athlete values a friendly relationship with discomfort
An Athlete values developing the SKILL of self talk
An Athlete values taking 100% responsibility and REFUSES to blame
An Athlete values teammates and contribution to something bigger than themselves
An Athlete values the process and is driven to find the next 1% adjustment
To awa...2023-01-3111 minSteadfast Life CoachingWhat if you ACTUALLY Lived as a Child of God?“You are a child of God” - Have you already heard this 4 billion times? Do you even remember why it matters? …I struggle with the same thing.
So let’s dive into it - why does it matter what family you belong to? What if you were a Kennedy? A Manning? A Kardashian? …what if you were a member of a family whose last name is CHRIST?
You see, it matters!!
In this episode of the Steadfast Life Podcast you will learn what it means to actually live as though God is your Dad.
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Soraya -Be Convinced! Sharing Lifechanging Stories of HopeEp. #100 - Master Christian Life Coaches Jake and Whitney Roehl Inspire You to Develop a Lifestyle Steadfastly Committed to ImprovementDid you know that being steadfast in your decisions and achieving your goals requires a lifestyle committed to improvement? My guests Jake and Whitney Roehl are master Christian life coaches who provide elite mindset coaching based on Christian values. They share their personal stories that are filled with challenges from alcoholism to instability to financial lack to children and blended families. They will inspire you with their own steadfast success, both personally and professionally. Their business Steadfast Life Coaching is built on using Christian values and principles to help you break through to new and better levels and they have...2022-12-0527 minSteadfast Life CoachingTrash TalkThe purpose of trash talk is to decrease the effectiveness of a player who is clearly effective. Your opponent is attempting to decrease your performance.
Once you understand the purpose, then you have the knowledge to avoid many of the traps of your own trash talk.
We often trick ourselves by wondering if there is any value in our self criticism. The old tough love or “iron sharpens iron” defense. But when you understand trash talk in competition, you understand that it only has ONE PURPOSE …to decrease performance.
When dealing with opposing fans - NEV...2022-09-1317 minSteadfast Life CoachingI have Jesus - Why would I need a Life Coach?Of course - Jesus is the answer, I want to find my joy in Jesus, I want to put my worth in Jesus, Jesus is trustworthy therefore I never need to worry, and I am righteous because of Him. Soooooo I guess I don’t need a coach …but I do
The main reason - because God chose to limit His authority when it comes to my mind.
As Joyce Meyers puts it -
“You are the only one that can deal with your thoughts. It’s not something that another person can do for you...2022-09-0612 minSteadfast Life Coaching5 Reasons to NOT Hire a Life Coach
Your desire for the breakthrough is less than your desire for another purchase
You can make the change on your own
You already provide more accountability to yourself than you care to have
You know that someone else’s path to success is not the same as yours
You are not looking to inflate yourself - you are looking glorify Jesus with your life
I’m sure you have a lot of thoughts about life coaching - so do I. I’ve worked with about 15 different coaches in different capacities …personal, marriage, business, group settings, individual settings, and sometimes just Whit...2022-08-2327 minSteadfast Life CoachingDon’t Watch this if you Don’t want to Stop OvereatingWe eat food because we desire it
We over eat food because we over desire it
Over desire is caused by 3 factors:
Hormones
Patterns
Unpleasant Emotions
Every GOOD life coach already knows this and can help you lower that desire, but what does it look like to take this incredible knowledge from the secular world of self-help and align with the teaching and values of Christ?
I’ll tell you what it looks like! It looks STEADFAST
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Lif...2022-08-1621 minSteadfast Life CoachingMindfulness is Trusting God“Have faith in God.” - Jesus
What if trusting God is the greatest gift I can offer Him? In that case the more dire the situation, the more honoring the trust.
So how cool would it be to adjust the way you see the world in such a way that you ACTUALLY believe that God works ALL things for your good?
Pretty scary?
…Or would it change everything?
Here is the link to the FREE meditations I mention in the video: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/offers/Qfgqhr5g/checkout
2022-08-0920 minSteadfast Life CoachingForgive YourselfOne of the most important questions that Whit and I are called on to answer is, “How do I forgive myself?”
In this video, I break the process down into 4 parts.
First - let’s get clear on the general idea of forgiveness toward others
Second - we’ll take a look at the value of self forgiveness, so you’ll know exactly WHY you are doing it for those moments when it gets difficult
Third - you’ll learn the process that we use with clients, so you can guide yourself thr...2022-08-0225 minSteadfast Life CoachingYou’re not REALLY going to QuitLast Saturday I reached the top of Lone Pine Peak alongside Renee Watson and my daughter, Paige Roehl. When we reached the bottom, Paige said, “Dad, that was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.”
After we had water and food, I asked Renee and Paige if they would share some insights into their mindset, fears, and self talk during the morning’s adventure - they happily agreed.
How do you keep climbing when you’re terrified …for good reason?
How do you keep climbing when you think you can’t take 5 more minutes and the...2022-07-1919 minSteadfast Life CoachingHow to PlayWe all KNOW the benefits of play …
Reduced stress, recharge, increased ability to be present, access to flow state, increased creativity and innovation …and a more fun life!!!
…but so many of us don’t know how to do it, or are unwilling to prioritize it over productivity, so we just DON’T.
This video was filmed playfully …in the mountains, in one take, with a phone propped up on a boulder, and even a dog that jumped into a lake during filming. It was filmed playfully to honor playfulness!!
Take 15 minutes and l...2022-07-1215 min
Steadfast Life CoachingThe Mindset of Caylea HeringCaylea is an up and coming pop artist who writes, performs, and produces her own music …and it all started because the family iMac her parents purchased for the family came loaded with Garage Band.
Caylea was courageous enough to peel back the curtain with full vulnerability to share her fears, her doubt, her dreams and her desire to surrender it all to God.
This 30 minute video will inspire you, it will show you that your fears don’t have to stop you, it will deepen your relationship with God as you pursue YOUR dreams
2022-06-2830 minSteadfast Life CoachingMy Shoutout to Joyce MeyerI recently read the book: Mind, Mouth, Mood, and Attitude and had my mind blown. Here are some of the things Joyce said that made me smile with excitement.
Check it out for yourself: https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Mouth-Moods-Attitudes-audiobook/dp/B01AYA38I6
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.
Apply for a FREE breakthrough Session: https://oykk2m84esb.typeform.com/to/aoDyvObT
Lea...2022-06-2121 minSteadfast Life CoachingTrust U - Christian Life CoachingWe run into Christians who have some questions that usually fit in 1 of 2 basic categories:
I have Jesus, why would I need coaching, plus, isn’t it kind of idolatrous to be thinking I can “self-help”?
Are you just going to tell me to pray about it and that it’s all part of God’s plan? I know that’s true, but it is not going to help me right now.
We just decided to address them both head on. SPOILER ALERT: The short answer to both is “NO”
Additionally - the next place this conversation...2022-06-1423 minSteadfast Life CoachingHow I met WhitOn May 27th 2016 I sent a message to one "Whitney Joeckel" on the dating app Ok Cupid. May 28th she responded ...and May 30th we met in person for the first time. But here's the crazy part ...on May 26th I was completely unaware that Whit existed and I had tons of stories about what was possible for me, what limits were "just facts" about my life, and what my best course of action was for the life that was in front of me.
It was all 100% WRONG!!
With that experience in my back pocket, I re...2022-06-0728 minSteadfast Life CoachingThe SKILLS of BeliefJust because you know what a hammer is and what it is for doesn’t mean you have achieved mastery - that comes from building your SKILL at using the tool.
The same is true with belief - awareness of the tools doesn’t give you authority over your thinking, but building these 5 skills does!!
The Skills of Belief:
The Skill of Perspective
The Skill of Focus
The Skill of Self-Trust
The Skill of Emotional Maturity
The Skill of Self Respect
Want to learn the specific path to belief that we teach our clie...2022-05-3123 minSteadfast Life CoachingThe TOOLS of BeliefWhen you’re building a house, there are tools that make things go way faster once you know they exist …then there are the skills of knowing just how and when to use each individual tool
The same is true with belief - you don’t have to just believe whatever pops into your head and hope that someday you believe stuff that helps you be the person you want to be. There are tools that make things go way faster when you’re setting out to build belief.
The Tools of Belief:
Awareness of Belief
...2022-05-2427 minSteadfast Life CoachingThe MYTH of BeliefMark 9:24 Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!”
There is a HUGE myth about belief that keeps us feeling stuck and feeling guilty. The myth is this: Belief is something outside of me that will take root in me once there is enough evidence to support it.
When we subscribe to this myth, our doubt is a problem that requires a solution. But that’s a lie!
Take Aways:
Belief is a decision …and only a decision
Jesus understood the myth and taught us how to break free...2022-05-1723 minSteadfast Life CoachingThe Enneagram and your Christian FaithI had a great conversation with Enneagram coach Kelsey Taylor where we dove into some layers that lie underneath “The Number” . We talked about skepticism, application, her personal testimony, and how Christians sometimes look on self help tools like this one with suspicion.
Kelsey patiently walked me through my questions ..as she does :) …and now YOU get to benefit from her expertise.
Take Aways:
The same tools and skills that are promoted through in depth study of yourself through the lens of your enneagram number are present in The Gospel
Your enneagram number does not pred...2022-05-1030 minSteadfast Life CoachingBoys Weekend - 4 days alone with a one month oldWhit headed out to California to grow her mind with some of the best in the world, and I got to spend 96 hours with my son who needs a bottle every 3rd one. I decided to use the same technique we coach clients with: Plan, Execute, Evaluate, Adjust …and I documented it as I went so we can ALL learn from the film room :)
Lessons:
Plans are better held loosely otherwise I spend my energy trying to bend reality to meet the fantasy I created rather than adjusting my response to the situation I’m actually in
Ta...2022-05-0318 minSteadfast Life CoachingThe Amazing Whitney RoehlHaving a front row seat to Whitney’s journey through a new type of difficult time, I wanted to share some observations on the specific qualities that both inspired and blessed me in hopes that you will be inspired to bless others.
I unpack:
Her relentless pursuit of “Eureka” as she navigates the 2 great pitfalls of self growth
What massive action looks like when it is a value rather than a means to and end
Whitney’s powerful why - the one that is so powerful that sometimes I am just a passenger on the train her pass...2022-04-2625 minSteadfast Life CoachingLife with Maverick Jon: Mindset Shifts in Real TimeWe are currently 4 weeks into a MASSIVE life change as we are raising our son Maverick Jon.
Whit delivered Maverick on March 21st at 1:06pm and he was 1 foot 9 inches tall and weighed in at 8lbs 5oz
Since then - life has been a whirlwind of gratitude, doubts, immeasurable blessings, and overwhelming fears. We know we have amazing mindset skills …and we know that sleep is REQUIRED if we’re going to access them. And this poses a problem
Bottom line is that Whitney and I are practicing what we preach (we’re pulling...2022-04-2026 minSteadfast Life CoachingFostering Emotional Resilience in the ClassroomWe are in some unprecedented times in education - like teaching 7th graders who haven’t had a full year in a classroom since the 4th grade!! And teachers asked to become IT experts and teach students they’ve never seen in person.
So what if we accepted this reality instead of trying to “should” it back to something it is not? What if the innovating and creating to succeed in this situation actually applied to THIS situation instead of the situation we wish it was? What if this could be JUST the adversity needed to create the most re...2022-03-151h 03Steadfast Life CoachingAllowing AnxietyThere are certain emotions that are just a bit more enjoyable to experience than others and in full transparency, if resisting, numbing, or pretending they weren’t there actually worked - I’d be the first in line to learn how to do it.
But the truth is that the more we try to resist an emotion, the louder it gets …and if we numb is or deny it, it’s only a matter of time until it breaks free with a vengeance.
So what if you tried a different approach? What if you allowed it? What...2022-03-0824 minSteadfast Life CoachingCoaching Skye DumontWhit and I had the chance to coach the amazing Skye Dumont and you get to sit in on the session.
Learn about her framework for obstacles
Understand how she sees her journey and where Whit spots adjustments in her thinking
Gain insights into her vision for her future, her plan for stewarding her blessings, and her decision making process as she sets out to impact the next generation.
This is a great opportunity to let her example inspire you and to see how an outside view of your journey can launch you through obstacles that could...2022-03-0126 minSteadfast Life CoachingShe’s a Pregnant Business OwnerEnjoy this Q&A with Whit as she gets vulnerable about the fears, the negative self-talk, the uncertainty - and the compassion that changed it all.
If you are looking for big growth, but find that you are denying yourself the experience of being grateful for the blessings you’ve already received. You’ve got to check this out.
It is safe to wish things were different AND feel gratitude at the same time!!
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We bridge the gap between the se...2022-02-2220 minSteadfast Life CoachingThe Devil is in the AssumptionsPowerful question - is that 100% true? Because if it’s not, then its not a fact - it’s a choice
We make the choice (consciously or subconsciously), then we never look back and think it was a fact. No problem - unless its a problem and I start believing that dreams of mine are impossible because of these “facts” I have chosen over the past 30 years.
Here’s what I want you to try:
Think about your dream or goal and why it is difficult to achieve
Set a timer for 5 minutes and write down E...2022-02-1514 minSteadfast Life CoachingSafety Second - Is your love affair with safety holding you backWhen you set out on an adventure, people love to say, “Be safe out there.” …and I totally get what they mean, but the TRUTH is that being safe is NOT why we got there.
In school we’d always hear adults sayin, “Safety first.” - but I believe that is why so many people have a hard time making the big change that will lead to their new identity, making the big investment that will lead to financial freedom, or taking the risk that will build their resiliency.
So what if you tried something new - what i...2022-02-0811 minSteadfast Life CoachingThe Unshakeable Power of AcceptanceWe all believe that holding our standards and demanding people rise to meet them is a powerful stance - but it is NOT!!
The most powerful person in the room is the person who does not need anyone in the room to do or be any particular thing in order for them to be okay.
The person who has the self awareness to know what it is they are hoping to get when the world changes to meet their expectations, then builds the skill of offering it to themselves …so THEY hold the power instead of...2022-01-2518 minSteadfast Life CoachingForgiveness. Your NEW F-WordCognitively we KNOW that forgiveness is a good thing, but what about our safety?
If I forgive, doesn’t that just let them off the hook?
Doesn’t it remove ANY accountability for their actions?
How will they learn their lesson?
Won’t people just walk all over me?
Let’s take a look at options that become available if forgiveness is safe!
And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” - Mark 11...2022-01-1820 minSteadfast Life CoachingChoosing to Love..Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.
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IG: https://www.instagram.com/steadfastlifecoaching/2022-01-1112 minSteadfast Life CoachingHow to Have a Game you can TrustDr. Bob Rotella puts it in his book "Golf is Not a Game of Perfect”:
"The trusting mentality is essential for getting ready to play competitively. If you want to be able to trust your swing on the golf course, you have to spend time doing it on the practice tee. Human beings are creatures of habit.
They cannot, as a general rule, spend all of their practice time in the training mentality and then switch to the trusting mentality for competition.
…so how do you practice in a trusting mindset if you need...2022-01-0414 minSteadfast Life CoachingThe Art of Disappointing People“I can’t disappoint people - I just have a big heart” - Do you? Or are you really just avoiding the emotion that comes up when your actions don’t match someone else’s expectation?
Disappointing people is simply a name we give to the experience of making choices that don’t match OTHER people's expectations. There are a lot of times when taking the value aligned action that defines showing up authentically is to everyone’s benefit. Especially when it is the only way to pursue the mission that God has charged us to steward.
So how do...2021-12-1418 minSteadfast Life CoachingHow to Handle GuiltThere is NO benefit to guilt!! Okay ...maybe there’s a tiny miniscule benefit, but the way you show up in guilt is so unhealthy that even THAT doesn’t get to add value to your life.
So what DOES it look like to show up WELL in guilt?
You don’t over explain yourself
You don’t always change the plan you made before it was challenged
You don’t resist guilt or allow it to drive your choices
You trust yourself to make a value aligned decision in real time
Whit and Ja...2021-12-0717 minSteadfast Life CoachingHow to Make Decisions without the AnxietySkip the “pros and cons list” it’s ineffective and it leads you to this stressful place where your decision making skill is more like future predicting skill. If I have to know the future to make good choices ...then yes, I am definitely living in stress!!
So what if you separated the SKILL of choosing from the outcome? What if you elevated your experience of choosing? How fast could you move forward then?
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help...2021-12-0109 minSteadfast Life Coaching4 Myths about Weight Loss get BUSTED by WhitThe thing about myths is that they tend to keep us in a box. Then we use the limits of the box to determine if we’re doing good or bad - and if we are or are not capable of success in the future.
In this episodes, Whit Busts these FOUR MYTHS about weightloss
I MUST eat perfectly at least 80% of the time to lose weight
I MUST workout 3-5 times per week to lose weight
I MUST become a “health freak” to lose weight
I MUST shame myself for errors so that I can stay ac...2021-12-0117 minSteadfast Life CoachingDitch the Food Guilt - how to stop feeling guilty after you eat ‘bad’ foodIt’s a pretty common cycle when you’re trying to change an eating habit - restrict, overeat, guilt, restrict ...ad nauseum. The big error is actually WHERE we attempt to disrupt this cycle. Right in the little space between restrict and fail.
The REAL culprit is the guilt!
Without guilt, you can evaluate, you can learn, you can experiment, you can make 1% adjustments, you can find out what works best for you now, and you can understand how to make adjustments as needed in the future.
With guilt - you punish, you berate...2021-11-1616 minSteadfast Life CoachingSuper Hero Syndrome - The day life taught me that I am NOT supermanI've wanted to be the hero since I can remember. My first concussion came from jumping off of a boulder onto my dad without him knowing because I had seen the hero do it on TV.
Unfortunately that incident was not enough to teach me the danger of the love affair with swooping to the rescue. When I became a father, in my mind it was hero or failure. I set out to be my daughter's hero ...and full transparency, it was more like her invincible, bulletproof, unstoppable SUPER hero.
It was WAY too much pre...2021-11-0916 minSteadfast Life CoachingFood Confessions - Food, Emotion, and finding your authorityYou open the fridge, you see the cupcakes, you’re tired - it’s been a long day, you decide to just eat one, then you feel terrible. WHY would I eat that at 10pm?? Now the one next to it starts to look really good - and you know where it goes from here.
Whit and Jake do it too - we eat refined sugar, empty calories, the foods that make our joints hurt or make us feel bloated ...and we do it because it is just such an easy way to feel a little bit better...2021-11-0221 minSteadfast Life CoachingHow to make your Stress Reducing Changes actually STICK for the long term1. Take on the IDENTITY FIRST, then work toward the action
2. Use your VALUES to build a lifestyle
3. Learn to watch out for AVOIDANCE
4. FORGIVE and communicate BOLDLY
5. Give because you CHOOSE GENEROSITY
6. Make a CUE based plan
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.2021-10-2613 minSteadfast Life CoachingWhit’s Take on StressWhit’s stress management style is extremely effective and a bit different than Jake’s. She treats stress as an emotion and uses her breath and meditation as effective ways to dance with it.
It is important to Whit that she doesn’t attack, resist, or attempt to escape from stress. She finds it most effective to allow it to be there, then allow it to move through her body, so she can get back to bolding pursuing the purposes God has put on her heart.2021-10-1214 minSteadfast Life CoachingHow to Handle StressThe Holidays are fast approaching and Whit and I hear so much about the “stress” of the time period. In this video we decided to tackle the topic head on!!
We built a scouting report around stress
We learned to recognize it in all 5 of its forms (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Flop)
We chose to allow it
We build a mental framework that helps it do it’s thing and move on
And we chest a little at the end by talking about the process of simply placing it at the feet of Jesus :)
Whit and Jak...2021-10-0520 minSteadfast Life CoachingFaith. Adventure. Purpose. The Impact of IdentityYour identity becomes a filter through which all possibilities for your life must pass. That makes the ability and desire to adjust the settings on that filter extremely important.
If you a business builder, you know first hand that your business has an identity of it’s own - and THAT identity is going to have a massive impact on what is possible for your business.
Take a behind the scenes look at the role IDENTITY plays in business building and how it has shaped Jake and Whit.
Whit and Jak...2021-09-2816 minSteadfast Life CoachingIs the Baby a Boy or a Girl?We’ve got a few more days of waiting to find out if we’re having a boy or a girl, so we’re taking this opportunity to look at some of the mindset strategies surrounding expectations, control, and disappointment.
Especially that disappointment is 100% determined by expectation ...but does that make expectations bad? Or is disappointment actually okay?
Don’t miss the gender reveal coming soon!!
Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching. We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transf...2021-09-1415 minSteadfast Life CoachingLessons from 365 Days of MeditationAfter a vasectomy reversal, Jake was looking for exercise and the ONLY option was to walk slowly. Jake decided to use the time for meditation and before long he fell in love with the practice and continued the daily practice for an entire year.
In this episode, Jake explains how 365 days of meditation and walking by the lake with Jesus has impacted his life.
The biggest take away? ...the PEACE!
Want to try this meditation out 100% FREE?? Click the link: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/offers/Qfgqhr5g2021-08-1719 minSteadfast Life CoachingWhit Summited Mt. Langley ...PREGNANTWhit and I had just returned from a fast paced 60 mile backpacking trip in the Sierras where Whit had noticed her body doing some strange things:
Waves of nausea
Dizzy spells
Easily fatigued
It was interesting ...but all could be chalked up to the elevations we reached on the trip. And then we got the results of the pregnancy test!!!
With about 60 hours before her next trip, we had to keep cool heads and make some high stakes choices. This is the story we weren't sharing with social media th...2021-08-1016 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to set REALISTIC goals. Plus eating healthy with kidsWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
How do you set realistic goals?
Every time I get honest about the goals I REALLY want in my life I just blow them off because they’re so unrealistic, but the realistic goals don’t get me excited about the life they create - how do I bridge the gap?
How do you eat healthy when you have young kids eating with you?
The...2021-08-0312 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to prevent plan amnesiaWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
Sometimes I make a plan and I’m pumped to follow it ...but then I forget. How do you remember stuff you’re not used to doing?
The thing about a plan is that it often has to do with changing an old pattern - well the thing about patterns is that you probably find yourself doing them without much thought. So how do you remember to do some...2021-07-2011 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to be consistent about MAKING the planWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
When it comes time to plan ...I DON’T!! What does the planning process look like for you two?
It can be really hard to be successful following a plan when you don’t even have one!! But how can you make a plan when you don’t know what to do? Or what the day will bring? Or what you’ll feel like doing at that time?
...2021-07-1314 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to know if you’re quittingWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
How do I know the difference between quitting and simplifying/focusing?
Do you ever have those moments where it feels a little irresponsible to have peace because there is so much on the line? If your performance increases with peace, it would be really nice to access your peace in these moments too!!
Why do you guys go backpacking every year?
Why choose th...2021-07-0614 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to feel peace when the pressure is realWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
When the consequences are REAL, how can I feel peace?
Do you ever have those moments where it feels a little irresponsible to have peace because there is so much on the line? If your performance increases with peace, it would be really nice to access your peace in these moments too!!
What do you each love most about Life Coaching?
Why choose th...2021-06-2913 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to (NOT) Resist Dessert & Mustangs vs JeepsWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
I Love Dessert - so how do I resist it every night?
Do you have a dessert you love? Are you in a season of attempting to NOT eat it? That can be rough and we’d LOVE to help you resist that craving, but it’s just not how we do things around here.
What’s a better vehicle - Mustang or Jeep?
I write...2021-06-2211 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to be appreciated in your marriageWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
How do I get my spouse to appreciate me?
When you do “all the work” and your spouse just acts like it’s expected!! How do you change that so you can get the recognition you deserve??
How do Whit and Jake DISAGREE?
There are only about 1000 decisions per day that come up in a marriage, and you can add another 1000 when you own a bu...2021-05-1816 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to believe and trust your spouseWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
How do you continue to believe when the stuff you’re believing doesn’t happen?
Belief is ABOUT the future, but it’s benefit is all about TODAY. Whit and Jake talk about this powerful mindset shift that will allow you to maximize your attitude and effort in the present.
What role does trust play in your marriage?
Whit and Jake dive into the mech...2021-05-1116 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: Whit’s 168 hours without foodWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this episode - Whit discusses her experience of a SEVEN DAY FAST. Spoiler alert - weight loss never even comes up in our conversation because the REAL benefits are so incredible.
The Lessons:
Day 1-3: Mastery of the skill of allowing urges
Day 4: Yikes - maybe I can white knuckle to the end
Day 5-7: Whit is set free
Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you build the consistency required to live as...2021-04-2115 minSteadfast Life CoachingJose Mendoza - How to be unstoppable in the face of adversityWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this episode, they talk to Jose Mendoza who was in a dark spot when the scale read "ERROR". The most action he could muster was to throw away some of the pizza boxes around his living room ...so that's what he did! Through setbacks, ice storms, injuries, and a pandemic, Jose just kept getting knocked backwards, then taking the next step forward. You're going to want to spend 20 minutes understanding THIS mindset. It just might make you UNSTOPPABLE
The Jose Mendoza Mindset:
Community
...2021-04-1424 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to stop online shopping and plan spontaneityWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
EPISODE QUESTIONS:
How do I stop online shopping?
Can you plan spontaneity?
Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you build the consistency required to live as big as you secretly want to? Start here: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com2021-04-0717 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How do you decided its time to be Ok ...or time to be not OK?EPISODE QUESTIONS:
Sometimes it seems like I WANT to be OK, but I feel obligated to disappointment or anger. Other times I WANT to allow the authentic emotion I'm feeling, but I feel like I SHOULD just suck it up and be OK.
How do I know which one to do when??
Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you build the consistency required to live as big as you secretly want to? Start here: Trust U2021-03-2415 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: Believing after failing and good thoughts about bad stuffEPISODE QUESTIONS:
How can I believe that I can accomplish something I've never accomplished before or failed at repreatedly?
How can I be optimistic about 2021 when 2020 was so measurably bad?
Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you build the consistency required to live as big as you secretly want to? Start here: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com2021-03-1012 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: Goals - How to decrease pressure while maintaining motivationEPISODE QUESTIONS:
I don't really LIKE to set goals, they give me a lot of pressure. Do I NEED to set goals?
If it's not about the goal, then HOW do you stay motivated day in and day out?
Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you build the consistency required to live as big as you secretly want to? Start here: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/trust-u-info-page-12021-03-0311 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to balance self worth and your worth in Christ - also how is Jake so funny?EPISODE QUESTIONS:
1. How do I have SELF-worth when my faith says I am worthy only through Jesus?
2. Whit - is it hard to get stuff done when you're always around Jake and he's so funny? Do sometimes spend the whole day laughing?
Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you build the consistency required to live as big as you secretly want to?
Start here: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com2021-02-2009 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: Our Business is a Love StoryFrom the way we met to our decision to take on the entrepreneur journey to God's favor as we connected with Brooke Castillo to the importance of our faith in both our business and our marriage - this has been the ride of a lifetime and we wanted to highlight THE LOVE
Want to check out the ACTUAL PODCAST where Jake proposed to Whit? Proposal Podcast
Want to get in on this magic for yourself so you can make some of your own? Check out Trust U 2021-02-1013 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast: How to forgive when it's hard and stay process focused when results ARE measuredWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
EPISODE QUESTIONS:
How do I forgive someone who has actually wronged me without letting them walk all over me?
My kid plays sports and I want them to be process focused, but they are ACTUALLY judged based on their results by coaches, teammates, and even the community. How do I do that?
Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you...2021-02-0313 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast - Judgements of Others and Feeling AnnoyedWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching. In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
EPISODE QUESTIONS:
My mom is rude and judgmental. Do you have any suggestions besides avoiding her?
Do you ever annoy each other? What do you do about it?
Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you build the consistency required to live as big as you secretly want to?
Start here: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/trust-u-info-page2021-01-2710 minSteadfast Life CoachingAsk Steadfast - Annoying People and Self Worth meets Strength in ChristWhit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.
In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.
EPISODE QUESTIONS: How do you two work together day after day, then continue to hang out after work without getting sick of each other? Is it possible to step into your personal growth success AND believe that it is God's strength that makes your success possible?
Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you build the consistency required to live as bi...2021-01-2312 minSteadfast Life CoachingI got in a FIGHT with WhitSometimes Whitney and I fight!! We have built a business on a foundation of us being connected and in love - we did that on purpose!! We WANTED the inspiration to FIND SOLUTIONS instead of numb, pout, and hide. Well ...it worked.
I had a BIG BREAKTHROUGH a few nights back and I wanted to share it. If you've ever felt angry with someone and simultaneously wished you weren't feeling angry, don't miss this.
There's no "step 1 step 2 and step 3" in this one - it's raw and it's real ...but everything you need is in ther...2020-12-0320 minSteadfast Life CoachingEpisode 34 Teaser - When Jake is Mad at WhitCheck out this teaser and watch for the full episode on Thursday. It turns out even the most fun coaching couple get's heated from time to time. This time, they cracked the code on what to do about it.
Want to learn the system Jake used to break free from anger? Start HERE2020-11-3000 minSteadfast Life CoachingTaking Risks in Real LifeI was an EXPERT high school math teacher - On the first day of school you could hear me welcoming my new students with, "Welcome to your FAVORITE class this year." I was confident ...and I could deliver.
Then one fine day I left that world and set out to build a business - BOOM!!! Talk about a blow to the ego. My swagger suddenly looked more like a limp.
In this podcast Whitney walks me through the transition - the obstacles I didn't see coming, the social awkwardness of failing at my day job, the...2020-11-0425 minSteadfast Life CoachingYour Worth is NOT a Number on a ScaleWhen Chelsie started her time with Steadfast Life Coaching, her biggest obstacle was that she didn't believe she was worth the tough choices required to reach her goals. She was plagued by lies running on repeat in her mind that had been so well practiced they now felt like truth.
The journey away from one framework of belief to another can be extremely uncomfortable, so Chelsie started off by borrowing belief from Whitney and I ...and her supportive husband. As she kept doing the work she built some belief in herself and the progress was even faster....2020-09-2422 minSteadfast Life CoachingLife After People Pleasing with Shanna NailYou've been there before. You're committed. You've got a plan. You've prepped your veggies and protein. This is the week you're going to make the changes. And then it begins:
"Mom - I'm not going to be able to eat before practice tonight."
"Is it OK if Maddy spends the night?"
"Hey babe, let's do date night Thursday night. What do you say to going out to a nice restaurant and getting appetizers AND dessert!?!?"
Maybe you even get the words out, "I had planned to eat healthy this week."
But the rebuttals come in, "Oh com...2020-09-1017 minSteadfast Life CoachingShanna Nail "Life after People Pleasing" TrailerJust a taste of Shanna's Transformation2020-09-0700 minSteadfast Life Coaching5am - That sounds miserable. I'm not a morning person.Whit and I break down our path through the obstacles to becoming "morning people." The biggest game changer was getting honest about what we'd have to give up and what we would gain. Having the TRUTH on the table ...NOT just the story we were telling ourselves ...allowed to us to truly understand what we were trading.
If you find that you want to make changes like this faster than you're actually doing it - let's get connected!
https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/2020-08-2723 minSteadfast Life CoachingHow to Overcome ImpossibleAs Whit and I get back to life after taking 12 teenagers on a 7 day wilderness adventure, we reflect on some of the insights that came up while the kids were staring at challenges with NO BELIEF that success was possible. Then what they learned as they leaned into the impossible hard enough to make it possible.
The key is the fuel ...the emotion ...the feeling that you are experience as you are taking on a difficult challenge. I KNOW you have a "mountain" of your own - that challenge in your own life that just looks impossible fr...2020-08-1219 minSteadfast Life CoachingYou've Got to Believe it to See it."I'll believe it when I see it" - we've all thought it, we've probably all said it, but what if the entire premise is wrong.
Every time I've tried to chase down a scary goal or make a big change in my life I do a risk/reward or cost/benefit analysis in my head. Ultimately I come to the same conclusion - if the result was guaranteed by certain date and come a certain way, then the goal wouldn't be scary. The scary part is all the risk and all the reward have to be put in...2020-07-1314 minSteadfast Life CoachingWhat if Backwards isn't WorseWhit and I went on a 5 day mountain climbing expedition. There were so many things that happened, so many choices that had outcomes, so many times we tried to evaluate if those outcomes were better or worse than before we took action. At the end of the day, things that we thoughts were great were more of a hindrance once we knew the whole story, and by the same token, things that we thoughts were errors turned out to be JUST the outcomes that ensured a successful summit of THE TALLEST MOUNTAIN in the Lower 48 States.
What's th...2020-07-1317 min
Steadfast Life CoachingThe POWER of ForgivenessA mentor of ours, we'll call her Patty, loves to help people forgive. Whenever she is presented with a new story of suffering, she smiles and asks in the most loving tone, "who do you need to forgive?" As we navigate this unique season, we are often confronted with people who stir up discomfort inside of us. Want to be free from that discomfort? FORGIVE.2020-06-0618 min
Steadfast Life CoachingThe Unseen Threat to Relationshipshttps://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/trust-u-info-page
Discomfort is the currency for growth and relationships are no exception. The first step to accessing that growth is to resist the temptation to buffer that discomfort - in a relationship, buffering can be exceptionally damaging. If you're concerned about anxiety, resentment, or disconnection, these next 15 minutes could change the whole game.2020-05-2815 min
Steadfast Life CoachingPracticing a New Belief 2https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/
Ever notice how if you're at work looking bummed out no one says a thing about it, but if you're bouncing around smiling and offering free hi-fives people tend to demand a reason!! What if you decided you were allowed to support yourself ...for NO REASON!!2020-05-0914 min
Steadfast Life CoachingHow to Practice a New Belief Part 1https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/
You know how you sometimes get in argument on Facebook and the other person just won't listen to your facts ...and then you realize that YOU are the one who's ignoring the fact that facts are the worst way to change an opinion. That same dynamic can be limiting your ability to convince YOURSELF of the belief you want. Let's talk about how to work around that.2020-05-0915 min
Steadfast Life CoachingConsistency and Self-TrustThe ability to do what you say you're going to do breaks through the dam that is holding back your potential. How many times have you given up on your plan, or failed to make a plan a plan at all.
Whether you are pursuing an increase in performance in your health, your business, or or your relationships, it all begins with your relationship with YOU.
Consistency is path to Self-Trust.
Find out more at https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/programs2020-05-0218 min
Steadfast Life CoachingThe Space BetweenThis isn't new to you - you've already had events in your life that made you feel as if everything was course, there's too much uncertainty, I'm isolated, I am limited, and this is going to hold me back. If you had to do that time over again, how would you want to come out on the other side? What does that teach you about the way you want to show up now?
https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/2020-04-0613 min
Steadfast Life CoachingThe Re-FrameIf you ever felt like you're just trying to survive terrible circumstances - take the time to check this out. I promise, I'm not going to tell you that terrible stuff isn't terrible ...but I'm going to show you that there is MORE to the story than the terrible you're staring at.
Go deeper at: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com2020-03-2320 min
Steadfast Life CoachingHow to Allow the TOUGH EmotionWhen you've done this work for a bit, you learn that you have a lot of say of what emotions you live from, but shouldn't we be feeling the emotions that are a natural part of life? That's a big yes and it can get a little complicated - so let's un-complicate it!!
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Steadfast Life CoachingWhit's Search for MeaningThe lesson to hold on to our value rather hand it over to others might be the most difficult, yet important lesson we learn in life. Sometimes those moments where our worth seems to be stomped on and thrown away can be the most empowering when we are willing to take 100% responsibility for the wisdom they offer.
Whit Mentions: GET OUT OF THAT PIT by Beth Moore
https://www.amazon.com/Get-Out-That-Pit-Deliverance/dp/07852897392020-02-2028 min
Steadfast Life CoachingPeeeerrrrrfectIt's the question that reveals your thinking - Is perfection unattainable ...or is everything always perfect? Who decides? And what is the danger of simply believing it's all been perfect up to this point?
Dive in - let's find out!!
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Steadfast Life CoachingEye DisciplineThere is a MASSIVELY underrated skill in sports that coaches refer to as "EYE DISCIPLINE" - this is the skill of being in charge of where you are looking and it can be the difference between victory and defeat.
When you're ready to stop spending time to save money and START spending money to save time - give us a look:
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Steadfast Life CoachingIt will Probably be OKhtttps://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com
What if when you boil it all down, anxiety is simply the inability or unwillingness to imagine being OK? What if imagining the future going well is a skill? What if the secret ingredient to that skill is the belief that even if whatever comes next does NOT go as expected, you're still OK?
Would you want that skill?
Then let's get to work because skills require practice2020-01-0618 min
Steadfast Life CoachingHypnotizedIt turns out that SUB-conscious is a terrible name because the subconscious mind is a powerful beast. Unfortunately, we tend to go through a lot of our lives without offering the proper guidance to move this incredible power in the direction we choose.
In this episode, learn to harness the power of TRANCE to communicate more clearly with your subconscious.
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Steadfast Life CoachingExpectations. Reality. Standards. Gratitude.I promise this isn't your run of the mill "count your blessings" take on gratitude. The question is, when reality and your expectations do not align, which do blame for your missing gratitude?
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Steadfast Life CoachingGrowth and GodI feel empowered when I take responsibility for my success ...but I'm supposed to give the glory to God.
I have big goals and I want to pursue my impossible dreams ...but I'm supposed to follow God's plan, not mine
If I "should" myself I cause my own suffering ...but God says there IS a way I should live
Austin Fischer, author of Faith in the Shadows and Pastor at The Vista Community Church, offers insight into the tensions that Christian Thrivers tend to live in2019-11-1418 min
Steadfast Life Coaching"My Brain is a Sacred Space" - A.E. DohertyBad acting comes from the misconception that it's all about actions. Anne Elise Doherty is a professional actress trained in the Meiser Method and she explains how the good actors can act authentically even though they're not being themselves. This could be a game changing skill when it comes to living authentically as the person we want to become.
Find out more: www.steadfastlifecoaching.com2019-11-0117 min
Steadfast Life CoachingMeditation. What's Really Real?One thing I've learned about meditation is this ...it is UNIQUE to each person. Everyone seems to have a different style and different reason. Whitney and I are no exception!! We both take different approaches, but we do agree on why it's worth the effort - and it's NOT just for inner peace.2019-10-1719 min
Steadfast Life CoachingThe TwoJayswww.steadfastlifecoaching.com
"Failing isn't OK ...it's mandatory" - Trevor Ragan
Failing feels LAME - so we tend to either JUSTIFY (pretend we didn't fail) or JUDGE (Decide that the failure means we ARE A FAILURE). The problem is that both of these responses prevent us from the value of the failure ...the lesson it is guarding.
Let's build the skill of failing well so we learn our lessons faster.2019-10-0412 min
Steadfast Life CoachingClaim your PowerWe tend to place an incredible value on evidence - but there are so many significant aspects of our life where the evidence is NOT conclusive. In this episode, you will challenge the default obligation to evidence and explore the true power that exists when you see the credibility in choosing.
Claim your power!!
When you're ready to go deeper: www.steadfastlifecoaching.com2019-09-1716 min