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Divorced & Determined AF79 - Navigating Property Purchases for Non-Married Couples with attorney Tiffany ByrdIn this enlightening episode, I sit down with Tiffany Byrd, a NC & SC family law and estate attorney to discuss a topic that can significantly impact your financial security and property investment decisions, especially if you’ve gone through a divorce.
Tiffany and I dive deep into the concept of co-ownership agreements, which are crucial for protecting your hard-earned equity when purchasing a property with a partner you’re not married to. We start by exploring the reasons why such an agreement is necessary and beneficial and we'll break down the key components of a co-ownership agreement, inclu...2024-08-0533 minDivorced & Determined AF78 - The Unexpected Impact of Divorce on Female Entrepreneurs with Corrine BrownIn this insightful episode, we sit down with Corinne Brown, a seasoned business owner who shares her personal story of running a business through marriage and divorce, not once, but twice. With candor and insight, Corinne shares her experiences of running a business while dealing with the personal turmoil and challenges of two divorces. There are so many unexpected feelings that surface, oftentimes leaving you questioning yourself in the aftermath of a divorce. From the financial implications to the emotional roller coaster, Corinne offers valuable lessons and advice for other women entrepreneurs facing similar situations.
Learn about the importance of l...2024-07-2942 minDivorced & Determined AF77 - Avoid Future Conflicts: The Power of Specificity in Your Divorce AgreementIn this episode I'm diving into a topic that I wish more women knew to spend more time on in their divorce process: the importance of having a detailed and specific divorce agreement.
This crucial episode explains how clarity in your agreement can prevent future disputes, protect you legally, and provide peace of mind. I'll share practical tips and real-life examples, highlighting areas such as being specific with dates, timelines, financial details, and defining terms, to ensure your agreement is as precise as possible. Need help making sure it's drafted with that intention? Sure thing! In addition to working with a...2024-07-2238 minDivorced & Determined AF76 - Emotionally Charged Communication in a DivorceDivorce is an emotional rollercoaster and I've certainly been experiencing the turbulence while dealing with my divorce, even years after the separation. When you're riding the wave, it can be easy to respond with emotionally charged reactions, especially when it comes to communicating with your ex. However, maintaining your sense of self-control is so important, even if it's not easy.
In this episode I'm going to highlight several cues that can help you identify when you're emotionally charged and provide six practical strategies for managing your emotionally charged state so you can regain control of your responses. Join me as I...2024-07-0122 minDivorced & Determined AF75 - Supporting Your Teenager Through Divorce with Ann Coleman (pt 2)Getting a teen to open up isn't always the easiest, so how do we do it in this especially difficult time? How do we regulate our own emotions so that we can support them in regulating theirs? And most importantly, is it possible to actually strengthen our relationship with our teens during and after a divorce, and if so, how do we do that?
This episode continues the conversation with parents of teens educator, Ann Coleman, diving into how you can maintain and even strengthen your bond with your teenage child during this transition. Learn tips on the parenting style t...2024-06-0337 minDivorced & Determined AF74 - Telling Your Teenager About Your Divorce with Ann Coleman (pt 1)It can be tempting to think of your teens as mature enough to handle more information than what you may tell the little ones, but what is actually appropriate to communicate with them when telling them about your divorce? Does that differ if you're not able to sit down with your soon to be ex and tell your teen together? Do we ask their preferences and involve them in the decision making process to the upcoming transition? What type of expectations do we set with them?
Discover expert advice on how to talk to your teens about separation, the delicate b...2024-05-2732 minDivorced & Determined AF73 - Financial Considerations for Women in Divorce with CDFA Jessica GarciaDivorce is more than just an emotional rollercoaster; it's a significant financial transition that demands careful planning and consideration. Often, the elements of finance in divorce, such as asset division, long-term impacts on finances, and considerations for future needs, are overlooked in the rush to finalize the separation.
Joined by Jessica Garcia, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Divorce Coach, we dive into the intricacies of managing financial assets and liabilities during a divorce, providing insights and strategies to help you navigate these turbulent waters with greater confidence and foresight.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of...2024-05-2036 minDivorced & Determined AF72 - Understanding Marital Interest in Divorce with divorce attorney Theresa VieraSplitting your assets in a divorce is no fun, and for many situations it can be convoluted and confusing. There's marital property, separate property, some states have divisible property... how do you differentiate between it all?
I've asked family law attorney, Theresa Viera, to join me today and help us understand the nuances of what constitutes separate property versus marital property, and to offer specific examples to illustrate how assets like retirement accounts and homes are evaluated and divided. Learn about the impact of contributions to marital assets and how that can create a marital interest even in what you m...2024-05-1342 minDivorced & Determined AF71 - The Overwhelm Antidote You Need in a DivorceAs women, we tend to carry a burden and responsibility in our minds that's considering everyone else but us. And we hardly speak up about it. When we do start to think about what we want, we somehow find a way to downplay it, dismiss it or even try to convince ourselves we're being unreasonable. "I should be able to just get over this." "I just have too high of expectations." Statements like that can lead to pressure and shame spirals, which lead to overwhelm.
Too much overwhelm can (and certainly will) lead to an elevated and reactive emotional state. A...2024-05-0623 minDivorced & Determined AF70 - First Thing to Do When Considering a DivorceIf you're at your wits end with your marriage, feeling lost, and have a thousand questions swirling in your head about your future's unknown, this is the episode is for you. This episode provides emotional support and practical advice for women considering divorce, feeling overwhelmed by the decision-making process.
We discuss how intense emotions like anxiety and stress biologically messes with your ability to process information and make decisions, so you can understand why it's so hard for you to figure out what to do first. Then I'm going to share what you want to do first, in the very b...2024-04-2925 minDivorced & Determined AF69 - How to Manage Communication with Your Ex in a Divorce w/ divorce coach Christina ButlerWe naturally have a tendency to react emotionally during communications with a soon-to-be ex-partner, but directing those emotions at them can greatly compromise your divorce process. Even if you're not labeled as "high conflict" within your proceedings, you can still encounter challenges if you aren't equipped with some best practices for communicating with your ex.
I've asked Christina Butler, a certified High Conflict Divorce Coach, to join me today to help us understand what those risks are and how we can do our best to avoid them. With a masters in counseling and having experienced divorce herself, she understands the n...2024-04-2239 minDivorced & Determined AF68 - Your Social Life in Suburbia Changes After Divorce: How to CopeAre you feeling a little out of place in your social circles now that you're going through a divorce? Do you feel like you get invited to less things by your couple friends. Is your new co-parenting schedule making it a little difficult to get on the same page as your friends? Maybe you're like me, and you find yourself not relating to your neighborhood the way you once did. Life in suburbia certainly can feel different once your family dynamics shift after a divorce.
It can be a struggle to find your footing again in social settings after you s...2024-04-1525 minDivorced & Determined AF67 - Rebuilding Social Circles: Rosa's Post-Divorce JourneyAfter marriage - and especially after having children - it can be hard to maintain or even create a friendship circle outside of your marriage if you aren't ever able to really get out to see spend time with them. Some women begin to feel so isolated and alone within their own home and aren't able to experience the connection with friends they once enjoyed so much, adding to the overwhelm and loneliness when their marriage is ending.
I've invited a local divorcée, Rosa Sprinkle to share her personal journey of navigating life and building supportive friendships after a ta...2024-04-0835 minDivorced & Determined AF66 - A Teacher's Guide to Supporting Children of Divorce w/ Natalie ParmenterKids can really struggle when they're experiencing their parents separating. And the little ones especially don't know how to communicate what they're feeling or the circumstances, and it can in turn affect their behavior. Today Natalie Parmenter, a former elementary school teacher of ten years, and I delve into how children's behavior in the classroom can reflect their experiences of divorce at home. In this episode we're discussing the importance of expanding your kiddo's support system and maintaining a stable environment for them in their school environment - a place they spend a huge amount of their day in. She'll g...2024-04-0134 minDivorced & Determined AF65 - 3 Step Formula to Building Your Confidence in Personal Finance with Sarah CharlesI'm tired of hearing that women aren't the best at managing the financials. It's a stereotype that is outdated and it's not serving us. You are capable. In fact, what if I told you that statistically, women are actually better investors than men?
Today I am joined by Sarah Charles, who had found herself on the sidelines of her own financial life in her first marriage. At the age of 33 and facing divorce, Sarah decided to get her financial shit together. Today, not only is she a financial advisor, she is a champion of women’s financial empowerment and an adv...2024-03-2540 minDivorced & Determined AF64 - Decoding the Triggers in Your Divorce to Regain Your PeaceI never would have imagined that focusing more on me, rather than who or what triggers me, would actually help me more than weighing my pros and cons list. This one practice has been the foundation to rediscovering my peace and finally being connected to myself in ways I never had before. And I want you to experience the same.
Get ready to decode subtle cues your body emits when you're triggered, discover practical methods for deconstructing such triggers, and understand the profound influence they hold over your life choices and relationships. Tune in and prepare to transform your understanding o...2024-03-1820 minDivorced & Determined AF63 - Setting Up for a Successful Collaborative Divorce with expert attorney Jackie Caputo (pt2)Can collaborative law actually work? You and your ex can barely stand speaking to one another so how could you actually be in a collaborative process together? What if I told you that it could work even in high conflict cases, but that there are actually things you need to be on the lookout for to ensure it works effectively?
This is Part 2, following episode #62, and I'm continuing the conversation with NY family law attorney, Jackie Caputo, who highlights that collaborative divorce is not a one-size-fits-all approach and while it may not be suitable in all circumstances, it certainly can w...2024-03-1127 minDivorced & Determined AF62 - Breaking Down Collaborative Law Divorce w/ attorney Jackie Caputo (pt1)Have you been told you need a bulldog of an attorney for your divorce... maybe that's the initial thought bc you've heard of people being dragged through court for months or even years just to settle for less than they ever wanted in the first place.
Let me ask you, When you hear the word collaborative in divorce, what comes to mind? Many people think it means amicable and so they assume this couldn't be the right route for them if they think they need a bulldog in their corner. But what if I told you, the idea of you a...2024-03-0426 minDivorced & Determined AF61 - Avoiding an Identity Crisis After a Divorce with Emily Reiner, LCMHCWho am I now? I'm no longer a wife. I don't feel like I fit in to the social circles I've been a part of. I feel like an outlier in the mom groups. What do I even enjoy? Why do I feel a bit lost, like I need to find myself again?
If any of these thoughts have crossed your mind as you find yourself navigating this whole divorce thing then this episode is for you.
It's normal for us to feel a little lost and have to re-learn who we are. It's natural to feel a bit of a...2024-02-2639 minDivorced & Determined AF60 - Navigating Firsts and Emotional Expectations After Separation or DivorceDivorce brings a mix of emotions that can catch you off guard. Some days you're so relieved to finally have made the decision to part ways and sometimes it hits you like a ton of bricks.
Are there significant events that trigger those more intense emotions? What if I told you yes there are, so that you know what you might be able to expect?
If you could create a little more space for yourself in some of those most triggering firsts, would you be able to experience a little more peace in the midst of it?
In this episode I o...2024-02-1937 min
Divorced & Determined AF59 - Preparing to Date Again After Divorce with Sade CurryGetting through a divorce and on the other side can leave you with a lot of emotional confusion, insecurity, and well, loneliness. You may have even thought it'd be a long time before you'd want to date again because you are so done with relationships. Until suddenly, you're not. Getting back out into the dating field can be nerve racking. But what if there's a way for you to navigate it more peacefully?
In this episode, Sade Curry, a dating coach, provides practical guidance and advice for women navigating the complex waters of dating after divorce. If you've asked yourself "h...2024-02-1242 min
Divorced & Determined AF58 - Finding Clarity in Relationship Crossroads Through Boundaries with Mary Brown"Do I stay or do I go?"
Making the decision to leave any relationship is hard. We typically find ourselves at these crossroads because we aren't feeling valued or maybe even respected. How did we go from so lovey with one another, to now trying to decide if you can even stand to remain in the relationship? And how do we get out of this emotional turmoil and take a turning point to finally feel valued again?
Having and honoring healthy boundaries is a major component of aligned living. This skill will empower you to identify spaces that aren't valuing yo...2024-02-0543 minDivorced & Determined AF57 - Dismantling the Guilt Your Feel in a DivorceThis episode focuses on the emotional aftermath of divorce and the guilt commonly associated with it, stressing. Women tend to blame themselves, especially when children are involved, whether they initiated the divorce or not. Why is that? Why do we feel guilty for wanting to leave our marriage, if it could ultimately make us happier? Why do feel like it's our sole responsibility to keep the family unit together?
Let's dive into how to overcome the feelings of guilt stemming from the end of a marriage. When we recognize the guilt we're feeling, we can then move into understanding it a...2024-01-2931 minDivorced & Determined AF56 - Strategies for Leaving an Abusive Marriage with Divorce Attorney Theresa VieraLeaving any relationship is hard. Leaving one that involves domestic violence can be scary. Combining all of that with divorce - talk about overwhelm.
What if I told you that there are actually things you may do that could create further legal difficulties if you do them reactively, rather than strategically? If children are involved especially.
In today's episode I am joined by divorce/family law attorney, Theresa Viera, founder of Modern Legal law firm in Charlotte, NC. She walks us through what the courts look for, other forms of domestic violence aside from just physical harm, and what's considered wh...2024-01-2241 minDivorced & Determined AF55 - Navigating Mortgage Options to Keep Your Home in a Divorce with Pam AbirachedKeeping the marital home is a common (and major!) consideration in a divorce for those who would prefer to stay. All too often though, divorce agreements get finalized without the proper diligence being done to ensure that the intended actions can even be performed accordingly. There are several options available to homeowners to help them keep their home, but are they available and applicable to your situation??
In this episode I am joined by Pam Abirached, a Certified Divorce Lending Professional™, and we discuss valuable insights into the pros and cons of each option, emphasizing the importance of understanding the tim...2024-01-1544 min
Dating After Divorce208. Dating - The Friends with Benefits Edition with Jamie MilamIn this episode, Jamie Milam shares her journey through divorce, offering wisdom for those navigating the entangled paths of real estate, mental health, and the exhilarating leap back into dating post-divorce. My conversation with Jamie dives into the intricacies of post-trauma dating. We share stories of moving cities and life transitions, underpinning the theme that change, although challenging, can be the catalyst for profound self-discovery. We explore the essence of modern relationships – communication and boundaries. With my own dating experiences on the table, we discuss the dance of articulating and respecting needs and expectations, whether in fleeting rom...2024-01-1056 min
Divorced & Determined AF54 - Options for Your House in a DivorceWhen we own a home with our spouse, it's often the biggest shared asset we have. Some of you want nothing to do with keeping the home and some of you would fight tooth and nail to keep it. But do we actually know what the options are, which are actually available to us and how to determine which may be right for us - regardless which it is that we initially want?
In this episode I'm going to help you understand which elements of home ownership need to be considered in a divorce, what information you...2024-01-0826 minDivorced & Determined AF53 - How I Knew it was Time for Marriage Therapy
In this episode, I share my personal story about the difficulties and disconnect I faced in my marriage. The struggles we face in our marriage are not an overnight issue, they're a compound of multiple little things overtime. Making a decision to engage outside help of some capacity can be hard - it can feel like we're admitting that our marriage feels a bit like it's failing or that we're finally saying it out loud that we aren't sure if we want to stay in it for the long haul. It's no wonder so many of us avoid it for...2024-01-0134 min
Divorced & Determined AF52 - **REBRAND LAUNCH** Christmas, Divorce and a PEACE of MindToday is the big rebrand launch day and I couldn't be more excited to share it with you. In fact, it's my Christmas gift to you my friends.
In this episode, I open up about my own experiences with divorce during the holiday season, and how it's evolved over the years. I share personal stories of how Christmas changed for my son and me, and discuss the emotional toll that divorce can take, especially during the holidays.
You'll be surprised by the statistics on divorce and the lack of resources available to support women through t...2023-12-2520 min
The Knowing Self Knowing Others Podcast40 Validating Emotions, Setting Boundaries and Cultivating Success with Jamie MilamWelcome back to another episode of The Knowing Self Knowing Others Podcast! In today's episode, we have the pleasure of hosting Jamie Milam, a passionate advocate for acknowledging and validating emotions, especially for women navigating professional spaces. Jamie shares invaluable insights on the importance of recognizing that conflicting emotions can coexist and be valid. They guide us towards finding inner peace by understanding and acknowledging our emotions, focusing on the next step, and managing and comforting ourselves. Setting boundaries is another crucial aspect Jamie emphasizes, as they discuss the significance of honoring our needs and prioritizing personal...2023-11-2042 min
Divorced & Determined AF51 - Awareness Leads to Aligned Opportunities **Big Announcement**BIG ANNOUNCEMENT**
I've continued to stress the importance of practicing self-awareness and tuning into our body's energy to make decisions that align with our true selves. In today's episode I share a personal experience about an opportunity that came my way, and how I'm following my gut feeling and signs from my body to pursue it. This is something you can do too as you continue to work on your business plan for the upcoming year.
I'm making a big announcement, related to a taboo topic that I believe needs more conversation and awareness. I invite y...2023-10-2315 min
That Big CEO Energy78 | From Despair to Triumph: The Power of Self-Awareness and Resilience in Jamie Milam's StoryI'll never forget the first time I heard Jamie Milam's story. It gave me chills and ignited a spark of admiration within me. Her journey of resilience, from the throes of teenage pregnancy, addiction, homelessness, and domestic abuse to the heights of entrepreneurial success, is nothing short of awe-inspiring.Jamie joins us today, opening up about her life's most testing chapters, laying bare the despair, the struggle, and ultimately, the triumph. She shares her process of harnessing self-awareness that was instrumental in helping her navigate through life's choppy waters to reach the shores of...2023-10-181h 04