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Not AllowedAre we the first generation of women who will remain single?We are the first generation of women who might actually stay single, not because we can't find love, but because we’re done settling. In this episode, I get into why modern women are choosing themselves over outdated gender roles, and how men still benefit from a version of patriarchy they’ve never had to question. From emotional unavailability to weaponized incompetence, I talk about how so many men are still operating from a playbook handed down by their dads, while we’ve had to rewrite ours from scratch. It’s not that we hate men... we just want them to...
2025-06-2414 minNot AllowedHow Your Girlfriends Might Be Giving You Toxic Dating AdviceEver heard the phrase "You can do so much better than him" from your girlfriends? Yeah...maybe that's not really nice to tell someone. I know this might not seem like the best thing to hear, it might even feel like I'm betraying my girls who make dating in today's world, so much more bearable. I know that I rely on my female friendships to get me through this crazy time. But you ever wonder if maybe their advice is actually stopping you from getting the love you want? Maybe there's some projections of insecurities happening? Sometimes, even though...
2025-03-2427 minNot AllowedA Dumb B*tch Guide To The Friendzone: Don't Take Your Crush To A Singles MixerNo one can dumb-b*tch harder than this bish. In my journey of dating in a more healthy way, I kinda sorta self sabotaged myself. Luckily I made it out with a slightly bruised ego but learn from my mistakes. If you like a guy, probably don't tell him at a SINGLES MIXER event that was CURATED for both of you to find other potential mates. It's like bringing sand to the beach. Dating is a meat market whether its on the apps or on the field. But I stand by asking for what you want, just a bit...
2025-03-1742 minNot Allowed25 ways to take up space in 2025Happy New Year! It's time to get focused and get ready for a new chapter for the podcast. Join me in my journey to disassemble the patriarchy, get educated, get less hostile and more communicative through this podcast. This year I want to not just talk about the topics we should be talking about but also build resources, have important takeaways and solutions or at the least, cultivate a support system. Expect more social commentary, more lewd jokes ( I will never stop making dirty jokes), laughter and lighthearted heaviness.
2025-01-0628 minNot AllowedNot Your Backup Plan: Why We're Done Being Disposable in DatingIt's time to detox from toxic dating cycles. I really can't deal with the dating app culture anymore, it just leaves me feeling so empty and worthless. An endless cycle of situationships, half-getting to know someone, silently stalking them on social media for years just to avoid the feeling that you'll never find love - I am sick of it. There is so much more I want to do with my time and energy and so much that I've wasted on the idea of "happily ever after". Time to take it off the pedestal and call out the apps...
2024-11-1329 minNot AllowedWhen 30 Meets 24: The Tea on My Cougar CrushThis is the story of a boy, a girl, goatees and really hard nipples. What better way to start Virgo season than spilling the tea on a Virgo boy and my cougar crush. I just had to get this story out there because this is the only way I turn lemons into juicy content. I do wanna say though, who's not an idiot at 24? I know I was. Fair warning however, don't date people who's prefrontal cortex still has some developing to do. Disclaimer: all people mentioned in this story who probably know who they are, I just wanna...
2024-08-2645 minNot AllowedGhosted By A Mallu BoyI am back after a looong break and boy have I missed recording my ramblings. It has been a crazy two years filled with failure, heartbreak, loss of jobs, an ADHD diagnosis and turning 30 - basically still having no idea where my life is headed and no plan for it either. But I can't help but think of this as an opportunity to get back to the things I love and sharing my stories to make someone feel less alone but most importantly, help me make sense of this chaotic life and all that comes with it.
2024-08-1940 min
Not AllowedWhy is the sex with toxic guys so good?I hate to admit it, but it's good. Like indulging in a snack that's definitely not good for you, sex with toxic guys is like Mcdonalds at midnight. But it goes deeper than that. Wanting connection is in our nature as human beings, but insecurities are the tricky part of the equation that our animal instincts don't know how to configure. We are taught how to love and be loved, that plays a pivotal role in our sex lives. So when we learn that love is conditional or to be earned, we end up in toxic relationships with mind...
2023-01-0941 minNot Allowed2023 - Unemployed, Single, Broke & Exactly Where I Need To BeI love New Years because it feels like we all collectively hit the refresh button. And if there's anything I want, it's hitting refresh on the last few months of 2022. Entering this new year wasn't the most exciting time for some of us going through rougher parts of life. Getting fired, being dumped, losing someone - you feel like you're drowning and suddenly it's a new year and you have to figure it out. You desperately want a fresh start but some old wounds are still healing. I'm here to remind you that you *don't* need to figure it...
2023-01-0234 minNot AllowedExchanging Dating App Stories, Sex with Mr Pringles & WTF is a Fatehabad with Veena (Pt. 1)Welcome to SEASON 3 BABY!! With more real and (hopefully) relatable stories and experiences - in conversation with friends, family and the real people experiencing the world that celebrities aren't. We're kicking off this season with my Leo, bad bitch, 26F friend Veena. We talk all about our dating stories -matching with the same guy, lets call him Mr Pringles, sending 'thank you' messages after sex, being into the tall-skinny-with-glasses boy, and discussing the possibility of considering arranged marriages. We had so much conversation to cover that THIS IS ONLY PART 1! Stay tuned for Part 2.
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2022-11-2146 minNot AllowedFriends to Lovers, Lovers to Friends & the Person In-BetweenIs it worth risking a friendship to pursue something more? I never really got the people that say that their partner is their best friend. On paper it seems like a good idea to date a friend but to me friendships have a different dynamic. Conversely, could we remain friends with an ex? It's hard to switch relationship dynamics back and forth because feelings are complicated and things get messy. Then of course, there's always that ONE friend you wonder about. The one you have insane chemistry with, palpable sexual tension, you can't stand when they're with someone else...
2022-10-0633 minNot AllowedYou Will Never Find The ONE & That’s OkayWhy do we feel like a failure when we aren't in a relationship or haven't found the 'one'. We have put traditional monogamous relationship structures on a pedestal and failed to give credit to new relationship structures that might actually work for us and our modern lives. Entering the dating world, expecting to find the ONE just sends us on a spiral of constant disappointments and slowly shattering our self esteem. But what if for a change, we didn't see ourselves as failures. Is it possible to re-wire our outlook on what kind of relationships work for us? What...
2022-09-1533 min
Not AllowedTit Bit #6 - Brahmastra & Foreplay PornTit Bit minisodes are BACK!!! I'm so excited now that I'm fully self employed to come back with casual, unedited (kinda, mostly) episodes of storytimes, general musings and most importantly - angry rants. We're back on the minisode today talking about the much talked about movie Brahmastra, foreplay porn, the dramatic b*tch in the elevator, and my cool-girl-with-anxiety breakdowns.
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2022-09-1218 minNot AllowedQuitting Your Job And Re-Building Your Self WorthQuitting a job is not always easy, the mental exhaustion of the decision, taking the step that's right for you and disrupting a cushy stable routine. It's not easy but it is something we all have done or will do at some point. Our jobs and careers can be strongly tied to our self worth and sense of purpose in this world. Quitting can therefore feel like a failure, when in reality it is an opportunity. An opportunity to re-asses, re-build and get on the path that was meant for us instead of the path we 'think' we should...
2022-09-0831 minNot AllowedIs He Taking It Slow Or Wasting Your Time?Honestly, “taking it slow” can mean “this is never happening”. Some of us have been benched, waiting on guys to finally be ready to commit, finally be ready to be in a relationship if we just hold out long enough. But the truth is that no one has the f*cking time. If its not a hell yes then its a hell no. We got shit to do, dreams to make come true and careers to build. No one is worth the wait, and you’re too worthy to be waiting.
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2022-07-2846 min
Not AllowedPost Hookup Texting Rules & The Naked ZoneThere are definitely a few "post-seeing-each-other-naked" manners and texting rules that we should follow, but don't. Communication post coitus tells you a lot about what the relationship will look like going forward. Is he suddenly really busy or just blowing you off because he got what he wanted? Should you text him first after hooking up or should he? Is talking about your ex after sex a red flag? Janani navigates all the post sex rules and talks about the "naked zone" - the zone right after sex when you're laying in bed (cuddling or not) where everything is...
2022-06-0647 min
Not AllowedOrganic Dick Diet & Chuckle FuckingJanani turns 28 and is now on to the organic lifestyle. Moving on from the dating apps and into meeting people "organically" out in the wild. Janani tells you the juicy organic details about two dates (kinda) and the fun in fucking funny guys. Text banter, communication styles and expectations from the Y chromosomes all leads into a new chapter of Not Allowed.
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2022-05-1444 min
Not AllowedConstructed Crushes and mini deathsI have a crush on someone...or is he just one of the few single people around me? As a hopeless romantic who wants to so desperately be in love, sometimes I just construct a crush around a cute guy who's giving me attention. If we have some cute negging banter, his hand touches my hand, he looks at me 3 seconds longer than normal - that's it. I'm in LOVE. kinda. Inevitably though, when the lack of compatibility starts showing up, the end of a crush is well...crushing. Kind of like a mini death. Crushes are so fun...
2022-03-1439 minNot AllowedCasual Dating, Serious Dick2022 for us is all about coming into your own and discovering yourself and your truest desires. On this new year and new episode we’ll be talking about casual dating! What is casual dating? We're really defining the term and boundaries and how it's not the same thing as a situationship. Also why I recommend casual dating to anyone that's like me and on the look out for a long term relationship. I tell you how you can do it too without the risk of heartbreak, enjoying the game of getting to know yourself and what makes you tick....
2022-01-1041 minNot Allowed#RELATABLE with Tanya Malik: Ditching the labels in relationships, dealing with a "health" obsessed mom, organic dating and performative sex.#RELATABLE is a sub series of the podcast where I sit across the table and interview REAL women and talk about their REAL-ATABLE experiences. With the first ever guest and my oldest friend Tanya Malik - a psychologist by trade. On this episode we talk about triggering fatphobic Indian mothers and Indian doctors, does organic dating exist anymore?, being in a relationship that doesn't require a label, performative porn sex and Tanya's 90 min date trick.
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2021-11-181h 14Not AllowedHow to start being a fucking bitch and stop being a people pleaserA bitch is an assertive woman who makes no apologies for what she wants, isn't afraid to challenge authority and is an overall badass going after the life she envisions. But this world isn't ready for a bitch. We tear down women who possess the same traits we uplift in a man. Any woman who stands up for herself is met with a toxic society that wants to "put her in her place" aka back in the misogynistic box of being a good girl. People pleaser turned bitch, I explore the very real backlash from being a powerful and...
2021-11-1126 minNot AllowedTaylor Swift didn't tell you that sparks flying is a red flag + an EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT!!We're back on this Diwali special episode with a special announcement!! Keeping in the theme of Diwali on this episode we're talking about feeling the initial sparks fly when you're crushing on someone new and if it's stopping you from spotting the red flags.
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2021-11-0526 minNot Allowedthe isolating experience of standing up for yourselfa raw and unedited episode (and video episode) of the podcast triggered by a personal shit week. This past week I learnt some hard realities, realities about speaking up. When you're at the receiving end of any kind of injustice, especially women, and stand up against it, you're met with tone policing and the expectation to present your case in a palatable manner. If you dare challenge the status quo, expect hate, criticism and also...loneliness.
I talk about the boys club, gatekeepers and their desperate cling to relevance, challenging the dynamics of your industry, owning your s...
2021-09-0235 minNot AllowedLimp Dicks & Probiotic VaginasToday we're talking about Limp Dicks - not erectile dysfunction in the physical sense but we're talking about weak men who constantly find themselves in situationships or lure women into them. PLUS a storytime about my situationship trying to get my vagina to become probitic.
What is SO appealing about having sex (or at least trying to) with multiple women and not enjoying intimate, safe sex, both emotionally and physically, with one person? We talk about how Limp Dick men are extremely insecure and feel the constant need for validation by trying to control the dynamics in a...
2021-08-2639 minNot AllowedPeer Pressured Pussy - Virginity Shaming and Bad SexThe moment any girl learns about sex in India, the first thing she learns about is not that sex is a pleasurable act but that she has this thin(-ly veiled in misogyny) tissue inside her pussy that, all of a sudden, the world has ownership on and that she must protect this tissue at the risk of dishonoring her family. Apart from an antiquated cultural expectation, the reality is this discussion still comes up today - sneeringly asked by classmates, discussed amongst boys & girls and the peer pressure and shame around virginity that still very much exists. The...
2021-08-1936 minNot AllowedTo all the Single Ladies & Independent Women - An Independence Day SpecialWe're back with season 2!! Today's episode is an Indian Independence Day Special to all the independent single ladies out there, paying their own bills and for their automobiles. Our culture has normalized celebrating a ring on your finger and a corny wedding hashtag but we don't often celebrate - you. You, the woman who's learning about herself, you, the woman who's killing it at her job, you, the woman who's taken a leap of faith to start working on your dreams, you, the woman who's starting her own business, you, the woman who's traveling the world, YOU, the woman...
2021-08-1532 minNot AllowedStorytime: My traumatic experience dating a NarcissistOn this episode I share a personal story about the time that I dated a narcissist. Dating a narcissist to me is classified under going through an abusive traumatic experience. The kind where you always consistently find yourself stressed out, in flight or fight or fawn mode, along with moments of euphoria. Things look ideal but don't feel it. Suddenly your emotions work against you, you question your own logic and you turn against yourself. You're being gaslighted, taken advantage of and all by the most toxic kind of person. And there seems to be no way out because...
2021-07-2234 min
Not AllowedTit Bits #5 - Will I ever be successful?I have been thinking about the idea of success, of "making it". If you had to define it, could you? We're sold this dream of being successful, our generation is full of online success stories unlike any generation before them. But if it really came down to it, do we ever know when we've reached this destination?
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2021-07-2008 minNot AllowedCan my boyfriend have a female best friend?...and am I ok with that?Opposite sex friendships can get tricky in relationships. Especially if they're referred to as "best friends". When the lines get muddy and red flags start showing up, is it something you can be comfortable with? Insecurities are normal, toxic dynamics in relationships aren't. And can straight women and men actually be best friends? I don't know....I have doubts.
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2021-07-1529 min
Not AllowedTit Bit #4 - Bf's that think its ok to comment on their girlfriends life choicesI HATE it when guys think it's okay to comment while being subtly condescending. It's such a pet peeve of mine and it's not cute. He's an asshole sis, move on.
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2021-07-1207 minNot AllowedWhen everyone you know is getting married...except youAre you sick of scrolling through facebook and watching all your friends get married? In this episode we talk about the familiar fear of ending up alone. Marriage is a big deal to every Indian girl growing up. But what happens when things don't quite fall into place where we expected them to? What are we supposed to do then?
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2021-07-0827 min
Not AllowedTit Bits #3 - Are you in the Meme Zone?You have the friendzone, the brozone and now the more popular Meme Zone. What is it, are you in it and is this the best zone to be in?
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2021-07-0605 minNot AllowedWhy smart women are attracted to toxic menOn this episode we discuss the age old question, a running joke amongst girlfriends - "I'm just automatically drawn to toxic guys, I don't know what it is about them" - What kind of guy is considered toxic? How do you spot toxic behaviors? Why do we come across them so often? and what is it about them that's so attractive that even the smartest woman in the room has had a toxic man in her life.
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2021-06-2827 min
Not AllowedTit Bits #2 - "Pick me" guys and their extra specific, totally redundant criteria to date womenI'm so SurPRiSeD you know Tame Impala! Do you even know what PuLp FiCtIon is? Have you ever watched a Quintin Tarantula film? I bet you listen to Taylor Swift. In this Tit Bit episode we talk about indie softboy "pick me" guys that make me breakout in hives with their niche requirements to be impressed by a woman.
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2021-06-2405 minNot AllowedFlick of the ClitLet's talk about the ol' nubbin rubbin' and the stigma around it that burdens us with guilt. Female pleasure is not prioritized, not taught and definitely not spoken about often, hence -enabling- the stigma around it. Masturbation is wet with misogyny and we need it to stay away from the rights we have as women over our bodies and our pleasure. In this episode we talk about learning to ask for pleasure in the bedroom, giving it to ourselves, the dilemma around porn and the de-stigmatization that needs to occur through normalizing an open conversation around masturbation.
2021-06-2130 min
Not AllowedTit Bits #1 - Tits Out, Chill OutWelcome to TIT BITS!!! Tit sized or bite sized episodes of the podcast where we do storytimes, quick rants, thoughts of the day and talk about anything under 15 minutes. Tit bits are for those of us that have a hard time listening to entire episodes (hello ADHD, it's me Janani), and just want to tune in for some daily dose of entertainment without the commitment. So get your tits out, chill out and enjoy!
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2021-06-1612 minNot AllowedBad Bitch LonelinessA little vulnerable episode where we talk about how getting lonely is part of being a bad bitch. I've coined a phrase for it - bad bitch loneliness, where not settling for less in life and keeping your standards high can come with a period of loneliness. We talk about societal milestones that we impose on ourselves, ideas of an ideal scenario and how things never happen according to our predictions. And to set things in perspective, if Jennifer Aniston, the baddest single bitch of them all, is doing fine, we're ALL doing fine.
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2021-06-1328 minNot AllowedEmotions with an Expiration DateCasual relationships, the most popular and in demand kind of relationship in this generation. Ironically the relationship that's the least bit casual and the one seemingly with the most rules to follow. Let's talk about the REAL reason why people seem to want this kind of non comital form of romance. Is it just for the sex? Is it to establish control? Is it fear of abandonment? Is it fear of getting hurt again? And most importantly, is it for you?
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2021-05-2036 minNot AllowedThe reality of being an Indian woman today - A Women's Day RantToday's episode is a special episode, find out how! Let's talk about the realities of being a woman in India, the sad reality and how just celebrating one day isn't enough...
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2021-03-1437 minNot Allowed5 signs of a good first dateDoes the first date tell you all you need to know, signs of a good first date, spotting the red flags early on and not romanticizing the outcome too quickly. In this episode we dive into dating, Janani's personal first date stories, awkward first dates and the 5 green flags to spot. Dating is not easy, putting yourself out there is not easy and bad dates are plenty. But at least we get to share our misery here on the podcast and laugh (while secretly cry) about the worst part of finding love. Support the podcast on IG @notallowedpodcast https...
2021-02-2237 min
Hopeful, not Helpless6 ~ Advocacy Through Leadership and Legislation with Janani RamachandranJoin Shreya Suresh as she talks to Janani Ramachandran about the importance of representation in government, and the ways in which we can all broaden our mindsets to consider the intersectionality of various issues. Social justice lawyer, artist, and activist, Janani is currently running for California State Assembly in District 18. Hope you enjoy this episode, and it empowers you to take action!
2021-02-1437 minNot AllowedAll Talk No CockDealing with an ‘almost relationship’, knowing what you’re looking for, players playing the ‘potential game’ and mediocre sex. It's the big V day and I'm here to eat my metaphorical box of chocolates in front of the TV, crying my eyes out and realizing that I'll never know true love. Have you also found yourself in one or many 'almost relationships'? Been cucked by 'players' leading you on with the potential game? Settled for mediocre sex? Let's talk about the 2 month free trial that is an 'almost relationship' when you're like me and looking for the lifetime subscription. Follow us...
2021-02-1439 minNot AllowedYou're my GirlfriendI'm not afraid of putting a label on us - heyy girlfriend! Welcome to the first episode of our long committed relationship. We're at a cafe, chatting like girlfriends do, gossiping, complaining, learning and sharing stories to feel validated. We have a lot of ground to cover so let me kickstart by telling you what this podcast is going to be about, who I, Janani (your host), am and how we're here to feel a little less alone, and a lot more seen. Follow me for more @itsjanani
2021-01-3122 min