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LOVE IS FEARLESS#166: We've Forgotten How To LiveWe've become really good at managing crises, but somewhere along the way, we forgot how to live. In this season premiere, we introduce what it means to restore the lost art of being family—creating homes where a hard life is experienced differently, in secure relationships. This isn't about behavior modification or quick fixes. It's about life cultivation. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, or anyone raising or influencing children, this episode sets the foundation for everything we'll explore together this season. In This Episode, You'll Discover: Why modern parenting has become crisis management—and what we're missing The Performance/Pain Reli...
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Entrepreneurial Blueprint PodcastEpisode 26 | Janet Newberry & John 15 AcademyIn Episode 26 of The Entrepreneurial Blueprint Podcast, we’re joined by Janet Newberry, founder of John 15 Academy, for a conversation that challenges the way we think about leadership, connection, and success. 🌿What if growth in business—and in life—doesn’t come from demanding more, but from connecting deeper? Janet shares powerful insights on building relationships rooted in trust, humility, and love, and how these same principles can reshape the culture and direction of your organization.At L&Y Business & Tax Advisors, we believe transformational relationships form the foundation of every great business. Our wraparound CFO and adv...
2025-10-312h 24LOVE IS FEARLESS#165: Building a Life of the Mind: How Mental Freedom Transforms Family LifeSummary What if the "practical" parenting strategies you're searching for require something deeper first - the liberation of your own mind? In this episode, Janet and Doug explore the third instrument of formation: LIFE - the intentional pursuit and savoring of ideas that are good, true, and beautiful. Drawing on research about manufactured mental captivity and personal stories about breaking generational cycles, they reveal why parents can't create relational safety for their children while their own minds remain captured by anxiety-producing information systems. This isn't about adding more to your overwhelmed schedule - it's about recognizing that ideas are already...
2025-10-0856 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#164: How Attachment Shapes Your Faith, Family, and Freedom – with Dr. Todd HallWhat if the key to spiritual growth isn't trying harder—but learning how to feel safe, seen, and loved? In this episode, Doug and Janet sit down with psychologist and author Dr. Todd Hall for a powerful conversation about attachment, transformation, and the kind of love that reshapes your life. Together, they explore how our early relational patterns affect not just our parenting and marriage—but our relationship with God. You'll learn: How to recognize attachment patterns that keep you stuck Why behavior doesn't change until your nervous system feels safe How to respond to your child's big emotion...
2025-09-031h 06LOVE IS FEARLESSBonus Episode: Rooted in Kerrville – A Restoration Story from the Inside OutIn today's special episode, Doug and Janet share the story behind Rooted in Kerrville—a project born from their deep love of the Texas Hill Country, their partnership with Mercy Gate Ministries, and their heartache for a community forever changed by the devastating July 4 flood. This is more than a relief effort. It's a long-term investment in soul restoration. When the flood hit, the physical damage was immense—but so was the emotional and spiritual toll. Local nonprofits like Mercy Gate are overwhelmed. Families are grieving. And pastors and helpers are exhausted, yet still showing up. In thi...
2025-07-3015 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#159: All the Things We Say to God: A Conversation with Tanner Olson on Prayer, Parenting, and PoetryWhat if prayer wasn't about getting the words right, but about being real? In this tender and honest conversation, Janet and Doug sit down with poet and author Tanner Olson, whose new children's book All the Things I Say to God is helping families make prayer a natural part of everyday life. They explore Tanner and his wife's journey through infertility and adoption, the power of surrender, and what it means to live a creative life anchored in faith, family, and honest conversations with God. You're in the Right Place If… You want to raise...
2025-06-1845 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#158: Parenting Adult Children: Is It Too Late to Restore Our Family? If your children are grown—or even moving back home—and you've just now found language for what it means to live loved instead of afraid… this episode is for you. Today, we're responding to questions from listeners who've read the manifesto, heard the message at Network 220, watched this YouTube conversation with Janet and Robby Angle, or started exploring Practicing the Art of Being Family. They're asking: "Do these truths still apply if my kids are already out of the house?" And, "Is there still great hope if my children are already grown?" The answer is yes. Because y...
2025-06-0451 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#157: An interview with Robby Angle - A Conversation About Trusting Jesus In Everyday LifeToday, we have the joy of welcoming Robby Angle, President and CEO of Trueface, to the Love is Fearless Podcast! Robby is passionate about helping people move from simply knowing about grace to living out their true identity in Jesus—with trust, freedom, and relational depth. Before leading Trueface, Robby pastored thousands toward authentic community at North Point Community Church. Now, he's helping steward a powerful new resource called The Path—an experience designed to move believers beyond striving and into a transformational life of trusting God. Also, The Path Experience Guide is designed for community groups to...
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TruefaceTransforming Family Dynamics Through Grace // Janet NewberryWhat if the biggest transformation starts at our own dinner table?In this episode, we sit down with our friend Janet Newberry to unpack how grace-based living shapes not just education but the very heart of family. We explore what it means to “practice the art of being family,” and how atmosphere, discipline, and life can form a discipleship model that heals generations. Janet shares stories from the frontlines of parenting and education—reminding us that our kids don’t need perfect parents, just growing ones. Together, we ask deeper questions about behavior, identity, and how to create h...
2025-05-1746 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#156: How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Kids in a Chronically Overstimulated World | with Sarah BoydIn this special episode of LOVE IS FEARLESS, Janet and Doug are joined by Sarah Boyd—author, child and adolescent development expert, and founder of Resilient Little Hearts. Sarah's new book, Turn Down the Noise, offers a much-needed guide to raising emotionally healthy kids in today's overstimulated world. This warm, insightful conversation explores the realities families face and the hope available when we slow down, simplify, and create a safe emotional atmosphere at home. You're in the Right Place If… You feel caught between wanting to slow down and fearing what will happen if you do. You've...
2025-05-0755 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#155: How the Story We Live Shapes the Family We Build What if your parenting struggles aren't about strategy—but about the story your family is living? In this episode, Janet introduces The Three Doors—a simple but powerful framework that reveals how the emotional and spiritual atmosphere of your home helps conform or transform the people your children become. Whether you're stuck in survival, exhausted from striving, or longing for something more—this conversation will give you hope, clarity, and practical next steps. We're not managing behavior—we're building a culture where transformation grows. 🔑 You're in the Right Place If... You've tried every parenting strategy and...
2025-04-2350 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#153: Why We Struggle With Struggle—3 Steps to Strengthen Your Family's Emotional ResilienceStruggle isn't the enemy, but how we navigate it can either weaken or strengthen our families. In this episode of Love Is Fearless, we're tackling a fundamental shift that can change everything about the way we experience challenges at home and beyond. The world teaches us to fear struggle, to fix it, avoid it, or control it. But the kingdom of God offers a completely different way forward—one that leads to peace, connection, and resilience instead of exhaustion and shame. Today, we're diving into the power of relational terrain—the unseen atmosphere of trust, connection, and security that determines whet...
2025-03-2642 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#152: Restoring the Lost Art of Being Family - A Rallying Cry for Kingdom ParentingIn this special episode of the Love Is Fearless podcast, we're excited to launch something deeply personal and transformative—our manifesto: "Restoring the Lost Art of Being Family." These aren't just words on a page; they're an invitation to reimagine what's possible for your family. 🔑 In this episode, we discuss five key ideas from the manifesto: 1. Great parents are first great children. Before you can lead your family well, you have to embrace your identity as a child of God. Parenting isn't just about what you do—it's about who you are in Him. 2. You can't give what you haven't received...
2025-03-1339 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#151: In Defense of a Beautiful Life – A Manifesto for Transforming Family and FaithWhat if family wasn't meant to be about striving but about abiding? For generations, we've been taught that good parenting means controlling outcomes, managing behavior, and setting our kids up for success. But what if that approach isn't working? Today, we unveiled something deeply personal: our manifesto, Restoring the Lost Art of Being Family. This isn't just a collection of words—it's a call to reimagine what's possible for your family. It's a rallying cry to turn away from fear, shame, and transactional living and step into the freedom of abiding in God's love. 🔹 You're in the right place if… ✔️ You're tire...
2025-02-2646 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#150: Eight Benefits of Abiding You Can't Get From StrivingIf you've been going to church for a very long time, you probably think "abiding" is something you do - and you don't have time for one more thing! Join us in this conversation to be reminded that abiding is NOT what you may think: It doesn't need to happen at a specific time. There is no need for a "secret place" - at least not in your house. It's not about checking "read my Bible" off your to-do list. It's not about praying because you think you're supposed to. It's not your bid to connect with Jesus. Good news...
2025-02-1238 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#149: How to Handle Disrespect As A ParentJoshua Gordon is a son, brother, husband to Sarah, dad to five children, lay pastor, author, and Senior Editor of theleadpastor.com. We're grateful that Joshua agreed to share a dad's response to the challenges of living in an economy of love. In our previous episode (#148), we challenged parents with these questions: If the kingdom of God is at hand, what's really changed in our homes? If the law is love now, what's different? If I trust the finished work of Jesus for my secure identity, how does that change my relationship with God? How does that change my relationship wi...
2025-01-2957 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#148: An Economy of LoveWelcome to Season Six: Restoring the Lost Art of Being Family. This first episode of the new year is dedicated to the letter T in The Curated Life episode. In it, we discover what love has to do with tension, transformation, and trust. Have you ever played with the nuances of a new life in Christ? Ask yourselves: If the kingdom of God is at hand, what's really changed? If the law is love now, what's different? Since Jesus finished the work and made me righteous, how can I let that truth change my relationship with myself? How doe...
2025-01-1537 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#147: Growing Through the Pain: Celebrating the Journey to WholenessIn this end-of-year episode, we're reflecting on our journey, celebrating the present, and looking ahead at 2025 with gratitude and hope. Join us to hear some of our favorite transformation stories from 2024 and our clarified vision for 2025. You're in the right place if... You believe growing pains are worth it because they mean you're maturing into who God created you to be. You're looking for hope and encouragement as you embrace transformation in your family and life. You want to celebrate the moments when God's clarity shines through, even on a winding road. At John 15 Academy, we're embracing the mission of Re...
2024-12-1856 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#146: R is for RESILIENCE, RECEIVE, and RESTYou're in the right place if… You've been longing to understand how to build true resilience in yourself and your family, especially in a world where life often feels chaotic and overwhelming. You're looking for practical insights on how receiving from God rather than striving in your own strength can transform your peace, relationships, and daily life. You want to create a home where connection with God and others isn't just an idea but a way of life that fosters rest, resilience, and growth for you and your loved ones. Doug and Janet share an energizing and inspirational conversation about th...
2024-12-0444 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#145 Q is for QUICK to Reconnect and RepairYou're in the right place if - you've ever wondered why your home sometimes feels like a battleground rather than a safe haven, and you long for more connection and peace. you feel stuck in cycles of fear, control, and performance in your relationships and want to learn how to build a truly supportive home environment. you're ready to shift from focusing on "good" appearances to creating a home where everyone feels safe, loved, and truly supported. if you want to understand how to make quick and meaningful repairs in relationships, even when things go wrong, to build a culture...
2024-11-2057 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#144 P is for PEACE, PATTERNS, and PARENTSWe recorded this episode less than one week after Hurricane Helene ravaged the southeastern United States, knowing it would publish one day after the presidential elections. Devastating loss is all around. So is chaos. Fear has been eating our peace for lunch since this decade began. Maybe it's because what we're experiencing isn't really peace. Maybe it's pseudo-peace. Listen in as we share wisdom from Dr. Jim Wilder, Dr. Todd Hall, Dr. Curt Thompson, Jamie Winship and more. We start this episode with this working definition of PEACE: Peace is not just the absence of conflict; it's a deep sense...
2024-11-0648 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#143: O is for OUT WITH THE OLDOnce upon a time, gas stations gave you a choice - leaded or unleaded fuel. Now, the choice we make is now how unleaded do we want to be? If we pay more, we get cleaner fuel - which is better for our vehicles, but also better for the environment. We have this choice at home, too. We can either run on the fuel by design or fuel by default. By default, we buy the cheap stuff. Fear and shame get the job done. It burns dirty, but it doesn't cost much - and it works. By design, we make a d...
2024-10-1653 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#142: N is for NUTRITIONAL RELATIONSHIPSWe're jumping back into THE CURATED LIFE alphabet in this episode - marking places on the map of our new life in Christ in the Kingdom of God. You're in the right place if... you're ready to make a change - not just in what you're eating or how much you're exercising, but you're ready to look honestly at the stories you're telling yourself and at the relationships that are having a significant effect on your soul. you feel exhausted by performance-driven living and parenting and want to create a home where love, acceptance, and growth are non-negotiable. you want...
2024-10-021h 02LOVE IS FEARLESS#141: "One of Us" - Embracing Our Shared Humanity with David GregoryWe're honored to welcome David Gregory to the Love Is Fearless podcast today. David is a bestselling author known for his compelling storytelling and insightful exploration of human connections, including our connection to God. His upcoming book, One of Us, promises to explore profound themes that resonate deeply with our journey of living loved and fearless. Join us as we dive into a conversation about identity, belonging, and the transformative power of understanding our shared humanity. We highlight these quotes from this retelling of the gospel, set in current times, in modern-day America: "God is going to completely change things...
2024-08-2150 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#140 M is for MARRIAGE, MONEY, and MYSTERYToday's episode is about how the traditions of fear and law teach us to navigate marriage, money, and mystery–and how safe relationships and secure environments transform our distorted stories. You're in the right place if… Your marriage is good. You have a good routine. You even have date nights built into your routine. But if you're honest, even the conversations you share on date nights have become routine–and if you're really honest, you wonder if there's something better than a good routine. Your finances are in good shape. You've survived COVID, and the inflation of grocery prices has been n...
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Your True Identity with Ray LeightLiving powerful and free with Janet Newberry Join us with Janet Newberry in today’s conversation on "Your True Identity." Janet is an author, speaker, podcaster, and love researcher. She brings freedom to the powerless by helping families nurture emotional well-being and relational growth at home. Listen in as Janet shares her journey of freedom from a childhood of codependent performance. You can be free! Check out Janet's websites below: https://www.janetnewberry.com https://www.john15academy.com Find more resources for your healing journey at these websites: https://www.faithbygrace.org/identity-coaching
2024-07-301h 27LOVE IS FEARLESS#139: L is for Listening, Language, and LegacyThe worldview of the state we grew up in significantly impacted our view of personal identity, worthiness, and purpose in life. Our worldview teaches us what to value. It also teaches us our language, including the words we use and the stories we tell ourselves. More than that, our worldview constructs our nervous systems, so even when we want to change, we can't--without supernatural intervention. You're in the right place: If you're brave enough to admit you're stuck. It's not that you don't fit it in--you do. You may even be successful. But the underlying stuff that's nagged you for...
2024-07-1756 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#138: K is for KING, KINGDOM, and KEY CHANGEIf you've listened to even a few of our latest episodes, you know we're digging in pretty deep into Jamie Winship's teachings about our God-given unique identity and his teachings about worldview. Why is identity and worldview important? Jamie reminds us that organized religion is very resistant to paradigm shifts, and he explains it this way. "We've exchanged the great commandment for the great commission. Instead of lovers, we're theological conflict starters, with a goal of overpowering." How we see the King determines how we interact with the King. How we see ourselves determines how we interact w...
2024-07-0351 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#137: J is for JOY, JESUS, and TRUTH-TELLINGChristopher Cook says, "Transformation doesn't happen in a day. Transformation happens daily." And this is true, too: Conforming doesn't happen in a day either. Conforming to the patterns of our insecure attachments happens daily, too. Until it doesn't. Father is committed to our healing and transformation, friends. Our part is to let it happen. We get to keep putting ourselves in the way of faith, hope, and love. We get to keep on remembering that we are in the Father's keeping. Join Janet and Doug in this episode about the power of JOY, JESUS, and TRUTH-TELLING and linger in these...
2024-06-1946 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#136 I is for IDENTITY, IMAGINATION, and INNOVATIONEpisode #136 is all about wiping the fog off the mirror and looking more clearly at our worldview. For a long time, "worldview" was a philosophical concept, but it wasn't very practical to us. This episode unveils the freedom we find when we admit there's more than one way to see the world. God doesn't see us the way the world does. God doesn't see the world the way we do either. Seeing ourselves from God's perspective is a big deal. Seeing the world from God's perspective is a big deal, too. How does God view me? That's my identity – and He...
2024-06-0651 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#135: H is for HONOR, HUMILITY, and HOPELOVE IS FEARLESS is a lifestyle that embraces intentionally curating a personal narrative with a different MO because we recognize experiences of peace instead of anxiety and love instead of fear. Season Five is a journey through THE CURATED LIFE alphabet. We're making a map of these experiences in the Kingdom of God. You're in the right place if - You're aware of the dangers, risks, and threats in the world today but you don't want your nervous system shaped by what you're afraid of. You want your nervous system transformed by what you love–and what loves you. You've se...
2024-05-1551 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#134: G is for GRIEF, GRATITUDE, and GENEROSITYIn season five, we're having conversations about the atmosphere we breathe in, the rhythms we create, and the relationships and ideas we trust—and how different these things are when we live loved instead of living afraid. You're in the right place if - You're ready to create a lifestyle for yourself that builds a context for transformation instead of a context for conforming to the patterns of this world. You're NOT ready to plant a flag in the land of losing, even though you're NOT winning right now–at least not in the way the world describes victory. You're reco...
2024-05-0139 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#133: F is for FREEDOMYou're in the right place if: You're curious about FREEDOM because you want it but you're not experiencing it. You're afraid of FREEDOM because when you offer it to your kids, life seems to go off the rails and circumstances seem to get worse instead of better. Control seems to be a better option. You've heard the original good news of the gospel—that you're not a sinner striving to become a saint, but a saint who sometimes sins—AND you're wondering why you feel stuck in your old story instead of hopeful in your new life. In this episode, Doug...
2024-04-1758 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#132: E is for ENERGYThe kingdom of God offers us a different kind of energy than the empire of the world. The source of kingdom energy is God. His energy is love, and when we're aware that we're plugged into this power, we experience peace--not anxiety. Love energy is supernatural energy. That's one big reason why living loved feels so different from living afraid, so you're in the right place if - You're tired of running on the fuel of fear and anxiety and you're hungry for permission to believe in something more. You enjoy hearing supernatural stories that empower you to bel...
2024-04-0338 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#131: D is for DREAMSThis episode could be titled: Tomato Plants, Polar Bears, and Humans - that's going to make more sense as we get farther into our conversation, but you're in the right place if: You need more than relief - you need a new story. Sometimes, your imagination runs wild with love instead of fear. You have ever dared to consider this idea - Jesus didn't come to train a few followers in a new message who then went out and changed the world. Jesus changed the world and sent out followers who embodied that change because they had trusted and experienced i...
2024-03-2050 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#130: C is for CONVERSATIONSWe're recording this episode one month after the end of the holiday season - and as much as we all get excited about Christmas parties and family gatherings…most of the families we talk to are still navigating some confusing and maybe some painful relationship struggles that have carried over into the new year. You're in the right place if - You come from a good family but your family relationships are some of the most challenging - or maybe most painful. You want to be a good family member and do the right thing but honestly, sometimes, family is th...
2024-03-0647 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#129: Beauty Is HopeB stands for BEAUTY in THE CURATED LIFE alphabet because we're letting God be our narrative therapist and He is helping us draw a map out of the land of fear stories into the land of love stories. If you missed episode #128, "B is for BEAUTY," check it out! Our guest in this episode is Joshua Gordon. Josh is a lay pastor, husband, dad to five kids, business owner, and author of Antidote For My Anxiety. He writes honestly and openly about his journey of faith, and how Jesus brings change in areas of struggle, frustration, and difficulty.
2024-02-2152 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#128: B is for BEAUTYYou're in the right place if - You're wondering why you've checked off all the boxes on the roadmap to success but you're still struggling - with your habits, your finances, your spouse, or your emotions. You're wondering why you keep getting sucked into the same destructive cycles in your story even if you're really smart. You're beginning to recognize that your relational assets are as important in your story as any other assets. In season five, we're committed to helping you embrace a primary goal of living loved instead of simply measuring up. Trying to measure up makes us afr...
2024-02-0742 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#127: A is for AFFECTIONSWe're fresh into a new season titled The Curated Life - A Fresh Take On Living Loved and we're circling back to this vital question: What if you create a lifestyle for yourself that builds a context for transformation instead of a context for conforming to the patterns of this world? Here's what we've discovered - The more an environment is about being perfect or measuring up to a standard, the more people hold their breath, judge each other, and hide their issues. Environments that focus on "being good" are cultures of fear and fear brings ou...
2024-01-2453 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#126: How To Live Loved Instead of AfraidWelcome to Season Five! We're calling this season "The Curated Life - A Fresh Take on Living Loved" because we're all at a real fork in the road. It's a brand new year. Which direction will you go? How will you curate your story? We only have two choices and it's often not what we think. We're not looking at a new year, hoping that more good choices and less bad choices will finally tip the scales in our favor. No matter what our culture keeps telling us, conforming to the patterns of this world will never lead us to t...
2024-01-1046 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#125: How To Help Your Child Live A Secure StoryWe're starting a new conversation about helping our children live loved instead of afraid. You're in the right place if: Your child is experiencing a lot of success - but your relationship with your child is struggling. The distance between you keeps getting bigger and bigger - and you're more convinced than ever that putting one foot in front of the other on the familiar path you've been walking is going to offer any relief. Your relationship needs something transformative. Your child is rebelling. They're getting in trouble at school and stay in trouble at home. You've tried punishment. You've t...
2023-11-2948 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#124: How do you write a love story?Did you know there is a formula for love stories and we're all living in one? If you haven't gotten to the part where love casts out your fears, your story's not over yet! That's good news! Even better...that's THE GOOD NEWS! You're in the right place if - You've given up on living a love story. If you were brutally honest, you don't even want a love story anymore. You've found a comfortable rut on the road of self-reliance and you've decided connecting with people is too complicated. You're afraid of a love story. You've risked l...
2023-11-1541 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#123: Changing The Standards For ChildhoodDon't let the title of this episode fool you. You're in the right place if... ...you're tired. You're tired of your job, you're tired of the struggle that won't seem to end with your children (or your parents), and you're tired of the chaos in the world that gives you a million reasons to be afraid. ...you're curious. You've noticed on the days you take a break from the crazy cycle and go stare at a beach or hike in the mountains, there's still something inside of you that dares to be moved by inspiration. You're not dead yet, and you th...
2023-11-0145 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#122 A Tale of Two Wineskins"I'm recognizing that transformation is not possible in an achievement-oriented culture, it is only possible in an identity-oriented culture. When achievement is the goal, our identity will come from our accomplishments, and we'll live fueled by the power of fear. Shame will be the voice we hear. Fear conforms, not transforms." "When we put new theology - even the theology of love, into a culture identified by accomplishments and success, fear will be the fuel we run on. Our children will recognize the voice of Shame more than the voice of Love. Love can help our children make...
2023-10-1847 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#121: Exchanging Lies for LoveThe inner voice of Love always speaks the liberating truth of God - but our worldly development has programmed us to tune into another voice. We're more familiar with the voice of fear. We're more familiar with our own truth than God's truth. This episode is for you if: You're more familiar with the voice of fear and shame than you are with the voice of love and truth. You know well the language of condemnation, cutting sarcasm, blame, control, and manipulation - but it sounds weird and very uncomfortable when you hear affirmation, encouragement, or simply a compliment. M...
2023-10-0444 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#120 Why Survival Mode Might Be Killing Your Relationships This LOVE IS FEARLESS episode is for you if - You're curious about building a different lifestyle to help you heal or restore a relationship because when you stop to think about it, the lifestyle you're living is based on cultural values, and those values are not helping you enjoy healthy relationships. You're starting a new relationship. You're ready to admit that you don't treat people who are struggling with kindness and empathy - and that's a sign that you don't really like yourself very much. You are sitting with the idea that seeing yourself differently will help you see o...
2023-09-2037 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#119 Creating a Family IdentityThis LOVE IS FEARLESS episode is for you if - Conflict is killing you. You're seeing a pattern in your relationships, even with yourself. Whenever there's a disagreement, the result is deconstruction instead of constructive. You know you have a new identity in Christ. You know the theology of grace. You know your new focus in life is love instead of avoiding sin. But when you're honest with yourself, your story goes around in the same cyclical protection patterns when life is difficult - and you feel stuck. You're confused about what to do with your emotions. You've lived for de...
2023-09-0641 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#118 Are Emotions Our Enemies Or Our Friends?Difficult days can go from bad to worse when we forget emotions are intended to be our friends instead of our enemies. When we live as if emotions are our enemies, we try to control them or pretend they don't exist. When we engage with emotions as our friends, we notice and listen to them. Valuing our emotions for the information they give us, we discover our core values and deep desires. We learn to pause and consider how to move forward in the direction of our goals instead of staying stuck in our self-protection patterns. ...
2023-08-2354 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#117 A New Conversation about "What Are We Aiming For?"Season 4 of the LIF podcast is all about starting new conversations. We're leaning in instead of leaning away from fresh perspectives…even if they seem to lead us away from the traditional life and lifestyle we've worked to achieve for so long. We're willing to admit that sometimes we experience peace before we experience success. We're discovering that living loved really is different from living afraid, that saying NO is as much an option as saying YES, and we literally feel different in our own bodies and our own stories when we're benefitting from love instead of motivated by the fear...
2023-08-0947 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#116 A New Conversation About Living A New Life As A Child Of GodJoin us in this episode as we dig deep into a new conversation about The Connected Life, by Todd W. Hall. This week, we're talking about the power of love that changes everything, especially when we begin to experience God as a safe and secure Father, rather than a distant and threatening judge. In his book, Todd Hall tells about a man diagnosed with schizophrenia who is now functioning well and has a fulfilling life, due in large part to the power of loving connection to overcome genetic vulnerabilities. "Though genetics and medication certainly play a role, they ar...
2023-07-2640 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#115 A New Conversation About Relating With Others and Why It Matters More Than You Think The connection crisis in our culture is running parallel to the mental illness epidemic in our world - for us and for our children. The crisis is more than what we see when we notice families sharing a table while all staring at their phones. Connection is not a personal preference or a check off on our to-do list. It's a human need. Without it, we get sick. The real crisis started more than a generation before smartphones kidnapped our attention and we didn't bother to fight our captors. For all of us, the challenge to connect in...
2023-07-1244 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#114 A Conversation About Learning How to Relate to YourselfLOVE IS FEARLESS is having a birthday! Born on July 4, 2018, LIF has been downloaded in over 60 countries and is transforming families worldwide. Share this episode to help us celebrate! In this Season 4 episode sharing new conversations about transformational books, Doug and Janet talk about Education by Design, Not Default - and the power of connection in childhood. As parents, we teach our children how they should be treated - for better or worse. Then our children teach others how to treat them, using the blueprint we've given them. If we teach our children we don't have tim...
2023-06-2840 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#113 A Conversation About Life and Loss with Dan Herod Dan Herod is known for starting conversations we didn't know we needed to have. Gifted with an uncommon path in life, he writes and speaks to empower. Born to a deaf father and surviving the aching wake of his parent's divorce prepared him for the most crushing loss a parent can meet. He knows that a soul that screams heavenward in frustration about their situation can discover how hope sometimes lives between the lines. His newest release, The Three Mile Valley is a book and video series that equips the reader to live better by thinking better - with G...
2023-06-1432 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#112 A Conversation About Family, Faith, and Forgiveness with David Zailer The LOVE IS FEARLESS podcast is a safe place to have conversations about painful and difficult stories. If you experienced childhood in a dysfunctional family story and you're staggering through your own healing journey, this episode is for you. If your children are experiencing their childhood in a dysfunctional family story, this episode is for you, too. David Zailer is our guest in this conversation about the painful family of origin stories and the addictions that often become our ways of coping. David is an author, speaker, and founder of Operation Integrity. He is also on the faculty o...
2023-06-0349 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#111 A Gift To the Class of 2023Janet was invited to share the commencement speech with a graduating class in Stephenville, TX and the message was so powerful and well-received, we promised some friends we'd share it on a podcast episode. If you have a 2023 graduate in your family, please tell them about this episode as our gift of congratulations and encouragement for their future. If it's been a while since you graduated, this gift is for you, especially if you're dreading Mondays in a fear story instead of living inspired with purpose, safety, and impact in a love story. Doug chose these takeaways from Ja...
2023-05-1534 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#110 A Conversation About Safe RelationshipsA safe relationship is different from a good relationship because a safe person is different from a good person. When we experience good relationships with good people, we are influenced by their goodness, but often it is the kind of "good" that's evident because of their success. They have good jobs, make a good salary, drive a good car, and wear the latest "good" shoes. When we experience safe relationships with safe people, we are influenced by the way they care for themselves and others and the way they let others care for them, too. Safe people help...
2023-05-0145 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#109 A Conversation About Living a Vulnerable LifeThe Cure is undoubtedly the book that's changed our lives the most. Truly! If you're wondering where the Bible fits in our stories, it is the most important book for us, hands down. But The Cure changed how we read the Bible, and is helping us live loved by God instead of afraid of Him. The back cover of the book is a great intro to this episode. It says, "We thought we were cured. But eventually, most of us unwittingly carry an old, dead outlook into our new life. We couldn't measure up to a standard we creat...
2023-04-0337 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#108 What if we don't call them bloopers?This is our first-ever BONUS episode! As we launch Season Four we're promising great conversations about books and authors that love us well. We're admitting that books are some of our best friends and we're excited about introducing you to some of the best. We're also committing to at least one new episode every month. While we're fundraising for John 15 Academy and Doug is still working full-time, we know we can be true to that commitment. Maybe you never thought about it much, but podcasting takes a lot of time. And it can be expensive, too. So we're...
2023-03-0849 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#107 A Conversation About Unconditional LoveWelcome to Season Four! We're excited to share meaningful conversations about great books and maybe a few great movies, too. :) What do great books have to do with living loved instead of afraid? That's a good question. This season is all about building relationships with great authors and letting the ideas in books love us well. That means great books are good FOR US, not simply good. Powerful ideas are nutritious food for the mind, and abiding in them long enough to have a conversation is transformational. The short way to answer that question is that...
2023-03-0641 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#106: How Love Meets Our Need For AcceptanceWhen we sit with the weight of the truth that LOVE IS A PROCESS OF MEETING NEEDS, we are reminded that if we're going to love someone, that means we're going to: Notice their needs and do what is in our power and capacity to meet those needs so that the one we love can live in truth, and can experience personal growth and emotional healing. Intentionally build a relationship of trust with the person we care about so they will let us love them. When we sit with the weight of that truth, it also reminds us that if WE...
2022-04-0642 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#105: How Faithful Love Offers Us HopeHope is soul food. We can live without it for a few days or maybe a few weeks, but living without it for very long causes us to be careless about life, experience depression, feel overwhelmed by shame, and isolate ourselves in the very moments we need connection in healthy relationships. Faithful love meets our God-given need for trust and offers us hope. Faithful love reminds us we are not alone, especially when we're experiencing struggle. Living with hope, we experience emotional elasticity. We bounce back from hard times and recognize that struggle is a normal part...
2022-03-3030 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#104: How Love Meets Our Need for SignificanceIn our Everyday Love series, we're talking about our God-given needs. This episode is all about our real need for significance and attention. Love meets our need for significance with affirmation. Without trusting this love, we'll experience a loss of identity and be driven to perform for our acceptance. Love meets our need for attention with servant love. Without letting someone love us, our lives will be characterized by low self-esteem and an unhealthy self-story. Even though God is always loving us perfectly, our culture doesn't often tune our hearts to God's love. Our culture often tunes our hearts to a...
2022-03-2335 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#103: How To Experience The Freedom Love Offers Season 3 is all about learning how to love ourselves and each other every day in practical ways. We're not talking about five love languages or how each Enneagram type prefers to be loved. We're talking about the God-given needs that we wake up with every day because we are human, not because we're weak or wounded or wired in a way that's unique to our personality. Our God-given needs are the places we can receive love, and experiencing love makes life deeply satisfying! In this episode, we unpack all the ways love meets our God-given need for protection. Wi...
2022-03-1631 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#102: How can we experience correction as love?Every day we wake up with God-given needs. Having our needs met is the way we experience love. One of our everyday needs is for direction and love meets this need with corrective love. When we don't trust corrective love, we'll live misguided lives. Without corrective love, our children will be vulnerable and seriously affected by wrong life choices. A lack of direction will always make me a victim of my circumstances. Sorting out the difference between punishment and discipline is worth our time and energy in this episode. Both offer corrective love, but punishment offers toxic love and discipline off...
2022-03-0938 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#101: How Love Meets Our Real Need For SecurityHow do I experience love, practically speaking? How can I put it into words? If I can put it into words, I can put it into action. I can recognize love when I see it if I know what I'm looking for. Putting love into words and actions is our focus in season 3. In this episode, we're sharing how love meets our real need for security with passionate loyalty and commitment. Without experiencing dependable love, we'll be persons who are insecure in life. Our insecurity will be evident by these symptoms: fear, anger, an attempt to co...
2022-03-0240 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#100: What is the impact of love?This is episode 100! Wow! Thank you for celebrating with us! For 100 episodes we've been wrestling with the differences between a lifestyle of fear and a lifestyle of love. In today's episode, we're laying out some clear lifestyle markers that are present when love is trusted instead of fear. Listen in as I (Janet) tell the story of a conversation with Bill Thrall about the impact of love and the symptoms we will notice in our stories when love is not trusted. Bill says, "Love is a process of meeting needs." It's true! We are all born with God-given nee...
2022-02-2340 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#099: What does it feel like to love someone? Welcome to Season 3! We're calling this season "Every Day Love" and our goal is to make love practical in our everyday lives. Recognizing the practicality of love requires us to let go of some of the common UN-practical definitions and ideas that we have about love. Love is so much more than an emotion or something you feel when you first start dating or when you bring home a newborn baby. Being loved is very different from being "in love." Love is an experience that changes us…for good! In this episode, I (Janet) share the story about the night I real...
2022-02-1638 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#098: 6 Key Ideas in a Lifestyle of LoveWe are recording again! This episode catches our audience up on the changes that have impacted our story since we shared a conversation with podcast mics in front of us. In this conversation, we're honest and admit that, too often, we can all unintentionally participate in a lifestyle built by fear. And, there is great hope! We have a choice to build a lifestyle of love. Listen in as we each share our favorite key ideas in a "love is fearless" lifestyle. I (Janet) also share why I picked "Uncomfortable" for my word for 2022. My reasons may surprise you and, if you h...
2022-02-1438 min
Growing Home Together PodcastHow Love Can Unlock the Door to Learning for Your Child - with Janet NewberryBefore your son or daughter even started kindergarten, you dreamed of all they’d do. You imagined an excitement to learn, fun friendships, and positive teachers who cherished your child and brought out their best. Yet perhaps you’re like many parents who grieve the gap between your hopes and expectations and the tough realities your child is facing at school. Pressure to perform is crushing your child emotionally. Learning or behavior struggles attach negative labels to your child’s identity. Maybe your child is so discouraged or frustrated that they want to give up and quit. Today’...
2021-10-1958 minTruefaceJanet Newberry // Representing Love to AllOn this episode of the NEW Trueface podcast, Robby is with Janet Newberry. Janet is an educational consultant and an unshakeable believer in the transforming power of love. Janet has spent the past fifteen years studying educational philosophy, adolescence, neurology - specifically how the brain responds to fear and love, and theology - specifically the power of grace. You will not want to miss this episode. Want to know when we release episodes? Sign up here: https://www.trueface.org/podcast-subscribeAs always, if you enjoyed this episode please share it with a friend and r...
2021-05-1337 min
Thrive: Mental Health and the Art of Living FreeCreating healthy relationships with your children: Interview with Janet Newberry [Episode 27]I'm joined today by the inspiring Janet Newberry who has helped families adopt a culture of love. Janet Newberry is an educational consultant and an unshakeable believer in the transforming power of love. Janet and her husband Doug offer a weekly LOVE IS FEARLESS podcast and support families in both an online community called John 15 Academy and in private consulting. Janet dives deep into how parents can foster healthy, strong relationships with their children. Also, we discuss her powerful book, Education by Design. We also talk about: How children are running on dopamine and c...
2020-08-2849 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#097: Zealous for the Whole TruthZEALOUS is an adjective that describes someone who is passionate, fierce, and wholehearted. In a culture of love, we're invited to be zealous for the whole truth. That's very different from simply wanting to be right. In a culture of fear, we can become apathetic and indifferent to the whole truth in our quest to keep our place in the invisible hierarchy, or because we're afraid of crossing the line in the sand between us and them. In this episode, we talk about parenting, church, divorce, masks, and a few other topics that are controversial if...
2020-07-0851 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#096: Cancel Culture, Fear, and LoveWe've been building an alphabet on the LOVE IS FEARLESS podcast for months now. We've been talking about building cultures of love in our homes and communities by choosing LOVE instead of FEAR. Without healthy attachments, fear is our only option. Every choice for love requires that we have someone we trust to help us experience that choice. If that isn't humbling enough, left in a home--or a community--full of fear, our brains physically develop in a way that limits us to "fear only" choices because living in toxic stress literally causes measurable changes to bra...
2020-06-2444 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#095: Ego, Sacrifice, and RacismConversations about racism may be at an all-time high in America right now. Conversations are the seedbed for change and it's past time for healing racism in our land. In this episode, we're offering new tools to equip you to have a different conversation about racism, the pandemic, the next election, or any topic ripe with fear and trauma. This episode leaves out a focus on right and wrong or good and bad, not because those truths aren't important, but because starting from a moralistic viewpoint can stall conversations instead of moving them forward to...
2020-06-171h 00LOVE IS FEARLESS#094: Privilege and ResponsibilityIn a culture of love, work is the way we invest our time and energy that has an impact and influence for good in our own lives and in the lives of the world around us. In a culture of fear, we learn to avoid work and avoid responsibility. We learn to use manipulation and shame to deal with apathy and negligence--just to get things done. Join us in this episode as we untangle the stories we tell ourselves about work and discover some practical ideas to embrace in relationship with yourself and others that...
2020-06-1043 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#093: What Are The Benefits Of Being Vulnerable?Transparency, authenticity, and vulnerability are popular buzz words these days. We sometimes use them as if they were synonyms, but they're not. Transparency means we're open and not hiding anything; authenticity means what we offer to others is valid and accurate. Vulnerability means I'm willing to be transparent and authentic because I need and trust your help. We say, "I'm hurt" or "I'm afraid" or "I'm ashamed" in the same conversation with "…and I don't want to stay this way." Listen in as Doug and Janet unpack the power of vulnerability and share personal...
2020-06-0338 min
The Jill Monaco Show#060 The Power Of Fearless Love With Janet NewberryJanet is a self-proclaimed love researcher, podcaster on the LOVE IS FEARLESS podcast, author of the book “Education by Design, Not Default–How Brave Love Creates Fearless Learning,” and founder and visionary of John 15 Academy. Janet understands a life bound to fear. We talk about how she came to recognize her fear-based convictions and trade […]
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2020-05-1300 min
Jill Monaco | Christian Speaker, Author, Life Coach#060 The Power Of Fearless Love With Janet NewberryJanet is a self-proclaimed love researcher, podcaster on the LOVE IS FEARLESS podcast, author of the book “Education by Design, Not Default–How Brave Love Creates Fearless Learning,” and founder and visionary of John 15 Academy. Janet understands a life bound to fear. We talk about how she came to recognize her fear-based convictions and trade […]
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2020-05-1300 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#092: Why Giving Yourself Permission To Be Sad May Be Good For YouIn this episode, we are reminded that, as believers in the finished work of Jesus, all of our sins (past, present, and future) have been forgiven. "It is finished!" We are made new. But all this newness now exists in physical bodies that are holding onto things (toxic emotions, habits, relationships...) that we've had for a long time and that aren't going to help us live in the truth of our newness. Some of the things we hold tightest to because they are traditions began in response to an emergency--not in response to truth. Some...
2020-04-0147 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#091: How to THRIVE in a pandemic and in relationshipsA virus is an abuser--and we're all learning how to wash our hands and keep our distance so the toxic Coronavirus will make fewer people sick--especially those at high risk. Sometimes our relationships make us sick with a different kind of virus. In toxic relationships, lies can attack our integrity and weaken our emotional immune system. U in the LOVE IS FEARLESS alphabet stands for UNWILLING. Love gives us permission to be unwilling to live a life without healthy boundaries. This episode offers these TAKEAWAYS: Make two lists: willing and unwilling. (Doug a...
2020-03-2548 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#090: How Changing Your Beliefs Can Change Your LifeIf we aren't trusting love, we're trusting fear. The opposite of trusting truth is trusting lies. When we refuse to trust God, we're left trusting a resource that's less powerful and less trustworthy than a loving heavenly Father. None of us have trust issues; we have issues with the stuff we trust. Behavior is the echo of belief. For example, if I eat a sleeve of Oreos, it might be true that I KNOW better, but I BELIEVE it's ok to do the wrong thing. The same is true for the ways we relate in...
2020-03-1848 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#089: Leading With Love: A Transformational Approach To LeadershipAs leaders, we leverage either the power of love or fear to motivate or to manipulate those in our care. Love helps us stay connected, especially in a season of struggle. In healthy relationships, we can work together in ways that build strength and maturity. Fear requires that we "divide and conquer." Manipulation often keeps our eyes on the prize instead of on the people around us, who may need our love. Manipulation is an almost guaranteed way to keep us disconnected, weak, and immature. In this episode, we wrestle with a gr...
2020-03-1145 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#088: Reclaiming The Lost Art of Personal ResponsibilityIn a culture of love, we grow in our capacity for responsibility. In a culture of fear, we are non-responsive to the things that are important, or we react instead of respond. In this episode, we wrestle with some difficult topics as we offer five guidelines for personal responsibility in a culture of love. I am responsible for building trust in relationship with others. I am responsible for resolving my own emotions. I am responsible for participating in my own healing. I am responsible for participating in my own maturity. I am responsible for setting boundaries in...
2020-03-0453 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#087: Where To Start When Life Isn't Working OutThe origin of the word "frantic" is a word that means "insane/gone mad." In a culture of fear, life gets noisy and feels frantic. Sometimes it seems we're at war with ourselves. Who we are and how we spend our lives gets out of sync. We need some quiet to decide which way to shift—away from what has become normal, that feels anything but healthy. QUIET is a gift in a culture of love. Will you give yourself permission to trust some quiet time to synchronize your life in a way that feels like...
2020-02-2638 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#086: Why Love Is The Only Weapon Against Self-SabotageJohn Lynch is our special guest on this powerful episode that offers freedom in the way only love can. John is one of our favorite authors, a dear friend, and one of the few people in the world who can talk about "permission and protection" in a way that has the potential to unlock a lifetime of bondage. Many of us would make a 100 on a true/false test if the quiz asked if we knew that cheating was wrong, too much alcohol is bad for us, anger can be hurtful, or if pornography destroys trust. We a...
2020-02-1945 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#085: What Does Love Protect?Protection is a gift of love that can get lost in a culture of fear. Fear is the voice that demands we have no boundaries. Without boundaries, identity gets confusing and lies boldly claim their place as truth. When we're confused about truth, we're confused about what to protect and what to expose. Unprotected, harm happens. Hurt happens. Exposure invites injury--sometimes to our souls. We don't have a choice today to be changed...or not. Today, we will grow stronger or weaker. Our choice is to be changed by the power of love or the power...
2020-02-1249 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#084: 3 Questions To Help You Discover Your PurposeFear invites us to experience life differently than love does. What we experience, we will share. You're in the right place if you want to experience and share love--not fear. You're in the right place if you're hungry to discover your true PURPOSE in life and, perhaps, let go of an invalid identity that's wearing you out and keeping you afraid. In this episode, I share a vulnerable story from my childhood about an experience that offered me an invalid identity. And I admit that my real destiny just sat waiting for me while I pr...
2020-02-0541 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#083: How To Break The Cycle of StressThe power of love holds the secret to completing the stress response cycle and experiencing long-term healing from real stress. In this episode, we'll tell you more about this one BIG reason to keep choosing love over fear. Here's what research is teaching us: learning to power through stress isn't enough. Even learning to eliminate some sources of stress won't provide all the relief we need because there will always be tension and trauma we can't avoid. Unavoidable stress--left unresolved, will make us sick. There is great hope. We can find ways to experience LOVE in tr...
2020-01-2942 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#082: Building A Life That Nourishes Your Soul"We keep doing good...thinking it will make us good." Those are the words written on an index card laying on the desk in our living room. This one idea is the fundamental flaw that upends our cultural compass, sends us to bed both exhausted and sick, and keeps us in racial and religious bondage. In a culture of love, we're beginning to experience the power of a different reality. Truth tells us we don't become good by doing good; rather, we become good because of what we trust and receive--in relationships. When we t...
2020-01-2235 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#081: MIRACLES--A Conversation With Sports Psychologist David CookIt doesn't seem reasonable that we'd have a conversation with a top sports psychologist and peak performance coach when our topic this week is MIRACLES and the power of LOVE. It's NOT reasonable. It's a miracle! David Cook is a speaker, consultant, coach, author, and film-maker in the field of Sport and Performance Psychology. He served as "Mental Training Coach" for the San Antonio Spurs from 1996 – 2004 that included two World Championships. Golf Digest (2013) named him one of the "Top 10 Mental Game Experts" in the world of golf. He has coached several of the Tour's...
2020-01-1544 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#080: Why Laughter Is The Best MedicineEvery week we're offering new discoveries about the power of love, how we can practically CHOOSE LOVE, and how we can become aware of the ways we're choosing fear--without even knowing it. L stands for laughter in the LIF alphabet and it may be more powerful than we think. As living beings, we literally vibrate with energetic frequency. The body resonates at a frequency between 62 to 72 Hz when healthy. Disease starts at 58 Hz. Death begins at 25 Hz. And, there is a good reason for the expression "scared to death" because the frequency of fear is 19 Hz.
2020-01-0841 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#079: How Does Fear Make Us Weak?Welcome to the ROARING 20s! We hope this decade will be remembered as the time in history when LOVE roared louder than fear. Together, there is great hope. Most new year's resolutions involve self-discipline and are motivated by a lack of satisfaction with life as we're experiencing it right now. CHOOSING LOVE OVER FEAR is a resolution that involves more self-awareness than self-discipline--and here's something we're willing to guarantee by the end of 2020: When you become fluent in love the way you are now fluent in fear, you're going to notice a change in...
2020-01-0139 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#078: The Best New Year's Resolution of 2020One resolution is all you need for the new year and the new decade. Imagine your life next year at this time...without fear. Most of us don't realize it's possible to live a life without fear, where love removes anxiety, anger, and shame from every conversation, every challenge, every decision. We are not people who lack faith. We are all depending on something or someone. The question for all of us in the new year is: Are we depending on LOVE or something less? LOVE is our greatest source of strength. In this e...
2019-12-2534 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#077: Choosing JOY Instead of FearLOVE or FEAR will be our source of strength today and our bodies will develop reliance and a comfort level with one or the other. In our LIF community, we're learning what fear looks like and sounds like, and we're learning to respond to these signs and symptoms with love. In this episode, Doug shares about a time in his life when he was afraid and living DISCONNECTED from safe and meaningful relationships. DISCONNECTED is the LOVE IS FEARLESS contrast to JOY. JOY describes life by design--in a culture of love. Join us to hear a...
2019-12-1838 minLOVE IS FEARLESS#076: Why Integrity Matters--with Scott MorrisonScott Morrison was an anomaly to me (Janet) when I first met him--about 5 years ago. In some ways, he still is. He is kind, but he has boundaries. He is wise, and he is tender and helpful. He has a weird sense of humor that invites me to laugh, especially in those moments I need to be reminded just to breathe. We invited Scott to record this episode with us because we're talking about the transforming power of INTEGRITY. He's the best man to join us for this conversation. And, here's my bet: You're going to want to wri...
2019-12-1134 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#075: HUMILITY--Where Healing BeginsIn a performance-obsessed culture, we learn to hide our mistakes. We defend our perspectives--not because we're always right, but because we're afraid of the penalty that comes with being wrong. In a culture of love, we build relationships of trust and value the truth that others offer us that we don't yet see for ourselves. We change our minds on our personal journeys from hurt to healing and from immaturity to maturity. Humility is where healing begins--emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Humility is our part in the Good News narrative. Join us on this episode for a gr...
2019-12-0436 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#074: What Chick-Fil-A Knows About GratitudeOne of the best parts of going to Chick-Fil-A is the way every employee always responds to a customer's "Thank you" with a sincere "My pleasure!" Have you ever wondered why those two words hit such a sweet spot...deep in your soul? It's because we are wired to find deep satisfaction having an impact for good in someone else's life. This is what it means to love one another. And we were made for it. GRATITUDE is the thankful admission that we have been influenced for good by the love of another. Despit...
2019-11-2728 min
LOVE IS FEARLESS#069: How do you respond to "not good"?We're filling a tool box with the things that help us build cultures of love. In the previous episode, we added AFFECTIONS to our tool box. This week, we share our own lists of "things we love" and how we sorted our loves into two categories: affections and addictions. In this episode, we're admitting that BEAUTY can be a power tool for real transformation--especially when the details of our lives are "not good." Enjoy the personal stories we share, and linger in these TAKE AWAYS: The key difference between a culture of fear and a cultur...
2019-10-2328 min
Life Builders By Julie HamiltonJanet Newberry: Life & Parenting by Design, Not by Default“When we aim at the target of performance, maturity always suffers. But when we aim at the target of maturity, the performance goes off the charts.” This is one of the best parenting episodes we've ever had! Janet Newberry shows us how growing up in a performance based culture & education system harms our children, ourselves and our relationships. Thankfully, we have a choice to live free by design and not stay stuck in the default. In this episode, we chat about the differences between design vs default, how to know whether we're performing for others or being our t...
2019-06-2738 min
Practical Family PodcastEpisode 061 | Moving from Transactional to Transformational Education - Janet NewberryJanet Newberry shows us the model for transformational relationships where children grow in maturity when they get the love that they need. Connect with Janet Facebook | Instagram www.janetnewberry.com John 15 Academy Brave Love Podcast Resources Mentioned in This Episode Education by Design, Not Default: How Brave Love Creates Fearless Learning Communicator Academy with Kathi Lipp The Leverage Conference
2019-05-2327 min