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The Rhythm of Us142. Jason and Tori Benham | Staying Connected in Every SeasonThis week on The Rhythm of Us we’re chatting with our good friends Jason & Tori Benham. Jason and Tori are incredible speakers, marriage coaches and best selling authors of Beauty in Battle.
Jason & Tori share some of the lessons they’ve learned over the last 25 years of marriage, rhythms that have helped them fight for and not against each other, and practice ways to stay connected in every season.
Wherever this finds you today, we hope God will speak directly to your heart and circumstance through this wonderful conversation.
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2025-06-0541 minThe Rhythm of Us142. Jason and Tori Benham | Staying Connected in Every SeasonThis week on The Rhythm of Us we’re chatting with our good friends Jason & Tori Benham. Jason and Tori are incredible speakers, marriage coaches and best selling authors of Beauty in Battle.
Jason & Tori share some of the lessons they’ve learned over the last 25 years of marriage, rhythms that have helped them fight for and not against each other, and practice ways to stay connected in every season.
Wherever this finds you today, we hope God will speak directly to your heart and circumstance through this wonderful conversation.
Listen in.
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2025-06-0541 min
All Things Possible With Bethany HamiltonEmbracing God's Guidance for Intentional Family Living | Jason and Tori Benham | Ep.04In this heartwarming and insightful episode, Bethany Hamilton and Adam Dirks are joined by Jason and Tori Benham for a meaningful conversation about marriage, family, and faith. Together, they explore the challenges of parenting through trials, the value of creating margin in family life, and the power of shared experiences to strengthen relationships. With a blend of personal stories and practical wisdom, this episode offers encouragement and inspiration for anyone looking to be more intentional with their faith and family life.
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Jason Benham, author and speaker, offers insights on marriage in h...
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Beauty in Battle PodcastDiscovering Your Childhood MessageSend us a textYour childhood was the university of your relationships. How you thought and what you believed as a child plays into the way you respond as an adult. In today's episode, Tori will dissect the nine types of childhood messages and dissect the fears and desires they are built upon. Your inner child is still speaking. Shining a light on this subconscious voice will make sure it does not sabotage your marriage!Enjoy. If you haven't gotten your copy of our newest and best-selling book Marriage A To Z...
2023-12-2741 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow To Get Your Needs MetSend us a textEverybody has needs that must be met. How you go about getting them met is what this episode is all about. Join us as Tori dives deep into three key "stances" we all take to get our needs met and how we typically lean to one more than the others. Building on the foundation of emotional intelligence, these three key stances will help you understand yourself and your spouse in a much deeper way. Enjoy.
2023-11-2829 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow To Win Your SpouseSend us a textWhat do you do when you are giving your 100% best to strengthen your marriage but your spouse isn't on the same page? That's the question we're going to answer on today's episode. Taken from Tori's own journey through this same issue, we will share three keys to winning your spouse even when your spouse doesn't think there's an issue. Enjoy!
2023-11-0832 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Four Habits Of A Joy-Filled MarriageSend us a textToday's episode is based on a great book by the same title "The Four Habits Of A Joy-Filled Marriage" and how you can experience joy in your marriage by incorporating four simple habits into your daily life. Built on the foundation that love is all about attachment, the authors show us that the more joy you build into your marriage the more you’ll feel in love.It's loaded with brain science and all the latest research on what makes couples tick. So join us as we disc...
2023-10-2536 minBeauty in Battle PodcastGetting To The Heart Of Your SpouseSend us a textToday's episode is taken from 1 Samuel 25 where a woman named Abigail shows us five keys to calling out the best in our spouse. She did it with her soon-to-be-husband, King David, and it literally magnetized him to her. You won't want to miss this one. Enjoy!
2023-10-1834 minBeauty in Battle PodcastMarriage, Family, and Business w/David & Lori BenhamSend us a textToday's episode is a fun one - we're joined by Jason's twin brother, David, and his wife Lori to talk about all things marriage and family. They've been married for 25 years, have five kids together, and own multiple businesses. We dive deep into the best advice they have for married couples and the parenting best-practices they've used to raise five children who all love Jesus. A few highlights: Learn their #1 marriage habit that keeps their relationship strong. Discover the "cone method" for parenting that ensures the greatest outcome for kids. How...
2023-10-1050 minBeauty in Battle PodcastGetting Your Edge Back In MarriageSend us a textOften times pain from the past robs you of power in your present and it sabotages your ability to connect deeply with your spouse. We heard it said, "If you never heal from what hurt you, then you’ll bleed on those who did not cut you.” Anytime you put two human beings together, at some point, sparks are going to fly. But what we’ve found is that the sparks that fly are often a fruit of the issue, not the root. They are simply symptoms of the real problem. The...
2023-10-0426 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow To Stop Conflict Before It StartsSend us a textResearch shows that arguments over small, nagging things happen as often as 312 times a year for the average married couple. The little stuff, if not managed properly, can ultimately damage your relationship. A small conflict can blow up into a big one if you don’t pay attention to these little things. In this episode, we share the two keys you need to stop conflict before it starts, as well as a research-backed exercise that will help you alleviate the damage of all the little things that can cause perp...
2023-09-2723 minBeauty in Battle PodcastMarriage & Parenting Advice From Our MentorsSend us a textToday's episode is a special one because we get to interview our own mentors, Scott & Beth Volk. For the last 20+ years, we have watched these two pour themselves into their ministry while falling deeper in love with each other and raising mature, Jesus-loving kids. And anytime we've needed advice, they're always a phone call away. Here's a sneak peek at some of the topics we cover: How hospitality and loving others will draw you close in marriageThe importance of being positive in the midst of conflict Why using “I” statements is the b...
2023-09-2055 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Four Horsemen of MarriageSend us a textDr. John Gottman, the foremost researcher in all things marriage, and he's discovered four characteristics evident in all marriages that fail. He calls them the "Four Horsemen" of the Apocolypse, and if these four qualities are not dealt with quickly and properly the end of the relationship is inevitable. Fortunately, there's an antidote - four of them, to be precise. And in this episode, we're going to discuss all four. You won't want to miss this timely and valuable conversation on how to counteract the Four Horseman that can ruin your...
2023-09-1228 minBeauty in Battle PodcastCreating Relationship SystemsSend us a textWhat do you want to accomplish in your life and marriage? Whatever it is, it will be impossible apart from systems. A system is a series of steps to help you achieve a desired result. If it works in business, it can work in your relationship! That's what today's episode is all about - helping you create systems in your marriage that will help you achieve what you desire. We start w/two powerful questions: WHAT DO YOU WANT? WHAT PROBLEMS ARE YOU HAVING? Once you answer these questions, it's...
2023-09-0526 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow To Bring Out The Best In Each OtherSend us a textWhen you were dating you probably heard someone say, "You guys bring out the best in each other." But what does that really mean? And how do you know if you're actually doing it? That's what this episode is all about. Building off a marriage blog we recently read, we're going to share 8 ways that reveal you are bringing the best out of each other. Enjoy!
2023-08-3025 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThree Pillars of TrustSend us a textIn today's episode we're going to dive into the five core human needs and how they all pivot on our #1 core human need - Security. Security answers the question, "Who can I trust?" All relationships move at the speed of trust. But what does it mean to be a trustworthy person? And how do you practically work on the trust factor in your marriage? That's what this episode is all about. We're going to share with you three keys to trustworthy behavior and how you can become...
2023-08-2233 minBeauty in Battle Podcast8 Qualities of a Healthy MarriageSend us a textDid you know the divorce rate in America has steadily declined in the last 20 years? We didn't either! But that prompted Success Magazine to write an article on marriage and the eight traits that make relationships strong. Check out today's episode as we dive into each of them!
2023-08-1535 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Amazing Love Story Behind Auntie Anne's PretzelsSend us a textWe can honestly say, of all the podcasts we've ever done, this one BY FAR takes the cake (or pretzel, if you prefer!). If you've ever eaten an Auntie Anne's pretzel you know how incredibly delicious they are. But what you might not know is the incredible love story that lead to its inception. The story you're about to hear is a story of passion, loss, betrayal, forgiveness, and transformation that will leave you on the edge of your seat! You're going to hear how God's miraculous power working in a...
2023-08-081h 04Beauty in Battle PodcastBecoming More Sensitive To Your SpouseSend us a textDid you know that it's your responsibility to take care of your spouse emotionally? The marriages that succeed feel compelled to take care of each other's feelings.This means you have to be in tune with your spouse to know how they’re feeling. In this episode, we're going to dive into what it means to be sensitive to your spouse and the two key questions you have to ask yourself every day to make sure you are being the sensitive partner God made you to be. The...
2023-08-0129 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Gift of GivingSend us a textWhen we first fall in love the "feeling" of love precedes "giving" love. But in marriage, it is reversed. We give love before we feel love. You will love whatever you GIVE to! Why? Because giving is the foundation of love. In today's episode, we're going to dive into three key areas in which giving to your can take your relationship to the next level. Enjoy.
2023-07-1827 minBeauty in Battle PodcastConcentrate to CaptivateSend us a textRemember when you were dating how attracted you were to each other and how you could talk for hours on end only to feel like the time flew by? But then you got married and the things you once loved about didn't seem so loveable anymore.One of the biggest problems in marriage is that we stop being captivated by our spouse. But there's a secret to staying captivated, and it's built on the understanding that God wants you to be captivated by your spouse and has given you the power t...
2023-07-1133 minBeauty in Battle PodcastBecoming InterDependentSend us a textTo really connect with your spouse, your lives have to INTERSECT! This allows you to move from ME to WE. We've heard it said, "Compatibility does not lead to a successful marriage - connectedness does!"While independence is worthy to be celebrated, we have to understand that when it comes to marriage interdependence is much more important. Why? Because interdependence brings strength and meaning to your relationship. In this episode we'll dive into the power of interdependence and four ways you can grow in this vital area of your...
2023-07-0529 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThree Components of Romantic LoveSend us a textDid you know that you can grow the romantic aspect of your relationship? In this episode we're going to dive into the three aspects of romantic love and how you can grow in each. We'll also explore how to unlock your five senses to get the most out of your relationship. Spoiler alert - it may mean you need to stop wearing cologne/perfume!!!Enjoy!
2023-06-2233 minBeauty in Battle PodcastSix Types of LoveSend us a textThe Greeks are smarter than we are. At least, that's what it feels like! Today we're talking about the six types of love the ancient Greek philosophers talked about and how you can grow stronger in each one. Applied to our marriages, these six types of love cover the full array of relational bonding and will draw you close to your spouse. Enjoy!
2023-06-1626 minBeauty in Battle PodcastTerms Of EndearmentSend us a textDid you know one of the best ways to grow your attraction for your spouse is through an attitude of endearment? And when you do, the things you could easily criticize will become cute? In today's episode, we're going to share five steps (our "terms of endearment") for growing an attitude of endearment toward your spouse where attraction and affection are the norms in your relationship. Enjoy! Oh, and if you haven't taken our free 5-Day Marriage Challenge, jump in HERE.
2023-06-0727 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Science of RelationshipSend us a textToday we're talking about the recent findings of an 85-year-old study called "The Harvard Study of Adult Development" which shows the #1 characteristics of adults who experience the happiest, most fulfilling lives. As the oldest ongoing study in history, it's discovery on what makes the healthiest and happiest people is mind-blowing. Spoiler alert - it has something to do with relationships! Tune in and find out.
2023-05-3129 minBeauty in Battle PodcastDealing With a Scrolling SpouseSend us a textDoes your spouse spend a lot of time scrolling on their smartphone? Mindless scrolling is a problem for millions. It’s become a leading obstacle to intimacy. Why? Because it violates the law of Priority. Our #1 asset/gift is our TIME. A scroll session takes away that time and is subconsciously received as a lack of priority. In today's episode, we're going to share the science behind distraction addiction and five keys to stopping the scroll to connect with our spouse!Enjoy
2023-05-2434 minBeauty in Battle PodcastManaging ConflictSend us a textDid you know that most conflict in marriage cannot be resolved? You and your spouse are two different people, so resolving perpetual issues isn't the right way to think about it. In marriage, we need to be thinking about managing conflict more than resolving it.When you learn how to properly manage conflict, the very fight that once tore you apart now draws you together. Today, we're doing to talk about four keys to manage conflict to draw us closer rather than tear us apart. Enjoy.
2023-05-1831 minBeauty in Battle PodcastForgiveness in MarriageSend us a textToday is our final installment in our series "The Neuroscience of Connection." In this episode we'll dive into the various aspects of forgiveness and show you the power it has in your relationship. We'll also give you a different angle in which to view forgiveness, one in which you might not have thought of before. A marriage built on forgiveness is a powerful marriage. This episode will help you do it.
2023-05-0932 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow to Think Better in MarriageSend us a textToday is our 8th installment in our series on the Neuroscience of Connection where we answer the question "Am I reinforcing the behaviors that I like or dislike in my spouse?" Based on Dr. Amen's book "You Happier," this episode is a deep dive into the value of positive thinking toward our spouse and how to combat those negative thoughts that rip us apart. We'll give you three steps to overcoming negative thinking and discuss the amazing way our brains are wired to help us connect deeper with those we love.
2023-05-0332 minBeauty in Battle PodcastOvercoming Negative ThinkingSend us a textHow you think determines what you say and how you act. Ultimately, how you think determines how you love. Nothing could be more important in your marriage than cleaning up your thoughts. In today's episode, we're going to dive into nine different negative thinking patterns that sabotage relationships, along with five keys that will set you free in your mind and bond you to your spouse. Based on Dr. Amen's best-selling book, "You Happier," this episode will dive deep into the most important component of your marriage - how...
2023-04-2634 minBeauty in Battle PodcastSpending TIME TogetherSend us a textTime is not just a way to discover the hour of the day, it's also a way to bond you closely in marriage. We often thing quality time is the most important. While it's true, it also holds that quantity time is just as vital if you want a thriving relationship. In today's episode, we're diving into the 5th installment of our series on the Neuroscience of Connection to focus on the value of TIME in marriage. We'll look at six keys to spending quality time together and how we can m...
2023-04-1931 minBeauty in Battle PodcastAssertiveness In MarriageSend us a textLet's talk about the value of being assertive in marriage. Before we do, here are a few definitions of assertive: “The quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive to defend a right point of view or a relevant statement.”"A life skill that involves being able to express your thoughts and feelings in a confident, polite, and reasonable way.”Assertiveness in relationship is all about needs - meeting those of your spouse, and expressing those of yourself. Dive into this episode and we'll talk abo...
2023-04-1234 minBeauty in Battle PodcastBecoming An Active ListenerSend us a textWe're in week three of our deep dive into the Neuroscience of Connection, and today we'll be talking about the power of communication. We've heard it said that "in the absence of communication, negativity fills the void." In marriage, the lack of communication is the death-bell for your relationship. So today, we'll be talking about the number one characteristic of good communication: Becoming an active listener!We're going to show you the eight typical bad habits of poor communicators, as well as the seven keys to becoming an...
2023-04-0529 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Power of EmpathySend us a textWe're in Week 2 of our discussion on the neuroscience of connection (based on the book, "You Happier" book by Dr. Amen). We're talking about the eight keys to staying deeply connected to your spouse, and answering the question, "Am I reinforcing the behaviors I like or dislike in my spouse?" Last week we talked about the importance of taking responsibility in your marriage. This week we're talking about empathy. We're going to show you the latest research on empathy - how it develops and how we can grow it in - a...
2023-03-2930 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Neuroscience of ConnectionSend us a textWe get jazzed about all the new research that's coming out on the brain and how our thoughts affect every aspect of our life, especially our relationships. In this episode, we're going to dive into the latest studies that show how marriages can be enhanced by understanding how our brains work. We'll be looking at Dr. Amen's recent book "YOU HAPPIER" and dive deep on the eight aspects of brain activity that can strengthen your marriage. You're going to like this one! Enjoy!
2023-03-2133 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Power of a Circular RelationshipSend us a textAs a married couple, you were made to energize each other. In today's episode, we'll discuss exactly how you can do it. We'll share the two key components that lay the foundation and the three characteristics that follow - all of which are qualities that God exhibits in His own nature. When we apply them to our marriage, great things happen! Enjoy.
2023-03-0826 minBeauty in Battle PodcastFighting The Right WaySend us a textWe've got good news - you don't have to top fighting in marriage! Actually, fighting together will draw you together when you learn to do it the right way. In today's podcast, we're going to take a look at the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (coined by Dr. John Gottman) - four things that will destroy your relationship. But we're also going to share four keys to keep these evil destroyers far away. We're going to dive into some serious research-based information that will shine a light on conflict in...
2023-02-2835 minBeauty in Battle PodcastStrength Through StrainSend us a textJoin us as we interview our good friends, Zach and Andi Wooldridge, and they share how they've been able to balance a growing family, make it through a crazy military life, and manage a hectic schedule all while growing closer to each other in the process. Zach and Andi are a part of our Beauty In Battle Marriage Mentorship program, and today they're going to share some of the keys they've discovered that have helped them draw together in the midst of strain and struggle rather than grow apart. Bo...
2023-02-2239 minBeauty in Battle PodcastRedefining Your Win in MarriageSend us a textWe're excited about this special Valentine's Day edition of our podcast, as we've brought on an amazing couple who is a part of our Beauty In Battle Marriage Mentorship program. Tanner and Brittany Hoyt are former college athletes who got married, lived the dream life for almost five years, then moved away for business while having kids at the same time. They moved from Easy Street to Sesame Street and found themselves trying to hold on to their ever-increasing chaotic life. But they figured out how to manage it...
2023-02-1540 minBeauty in Battle PodcastKeys to Great SexSend us a textWho doesn't want a great sex life in marriage? Research shows the healthiest marriages are those who report having healthy, fulfilling, and frequent sexual engagement. In this episode, we dive into an online study of 70,000 people in 24 countries that revealed 13 keys to great sex. The researchers were curious about what might be different about couples who said that they had a great sex life, compared to couples who said that they had a bad sex life. Here's their findings - Couples who have a great sex life everywhere on th...
2023-02-0835 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe POWER of LoveSend us a textHuey Lewis sang about it. So did Celine Dion. But the power of love is not about the emotional pull we feel when we love another person. It actually carries intense spiritual and biological power that gives us strength beyond our normal capacity. In today's episode, we tackle the deeper meaning of "love" and how it can literally transform your genes when you are in a loving relationship with another person. We'll also show you what this looks like in a marriage back in Bible days - how love gav...
2023-02-0127 minBeauty in Battle PodcastCreating Healthy Marriage CultureSend us a textLast week we talked about best practices in marriage and gave seven things couples can do to help strengthen their marriage. This week we decided to bring on some friends of ours who model many healthy marriage habits that have allowed them to embrace a busy life while growing close together at the same time. Tune in and learn how laughing together draws you together, how to use celebration as a tool to draw you close, why communication is the lifeblood of relationship, and the number one way to assure success i...
2023-01-2540 minBeauty in Battle PodcastMarriage Best PracticesSend us a textOne of the best things you can do if you want to accomplish a goal is to find others who have achieved what you would like to achieve and ask what some of their best practices are. This allows you to glean from their knowledge bank and apply it to your own situation. That's what we do in this podcast. We discuss seven "best practices" that we have learned from others and have applied in our own relationship and found them to be worthy of the title. Enjoy!
2023-01-1827 minBeauty in Battle PodcastSeven Traits of a Strong MarriageSend us a textYou want a strong marriage, right? Well, the book of Philippians has some timely advice on how to make that happen. In this episode, we're going to dive into seven characteristics from Paul's letter to the Philippians and how his way of relating to them is a great example for us to relate to our spouse. Even though the dude wasn't married, what we can learn from the way he writes to this church will help our relationships immensely! Enjoy!
2023-01-1125 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThree Goals For Your MarriageSend us a textA dream written down is a goal. A goal broken down is a plan. While this is true in every aspect of life, one of the areas which we often fail to have goals is in our marriage. So in this episode, we're going to talk about three specific goals that will help you connect deeper with your spouse. These three goals, when applied consistently, will foster the most healthy environment for your marriage to flourish. Happy new year!
2023-01-0431 minBeauty in Battle PodcastFour Powerful QuestionsSend us a textBefore oneness in marriage, you need two-ness - two healthy individuals to make up one healthy marriage. But it's not always so easy, especially when the chaos of life hits. In this episode, we're going to look at four powerful questions you can ask yourself to help you become the best version of yourself. When you're the best you individually, you can be the best us relationally. Enjoy.
2022-12-2833 minBeauty in Battle PodcastConnecting Through VulnerabilitySend us a textIntimacy is to "be fully known and fully accepted." God wants us to be intimate with Him, and He gives us the recipe on how to do it. The same way we connect with God we can connect with our spouse. And when we do, we'll experience a deep level of intimacy. But to be fully known you have to be willing to be vulnerable. To open yourself up so your spouse can "see it all." However, vulnerability must be met with safety in order for a spir...
2022-12-1329 minBeauty in Battle PodcastOvercoming Christmas ChaosSend us a textOn January 2nd every year, divorce attorneys and marriage counselors are overwhelmed with new business. January is often referred to as “Divorce Month.” Why? Because the chaos of the Holidays puts added stress on already unstable relationships. So what can you do to make sure this doesn’t happen to your relationship? That's what this episode is all about. We're going to give you four keys to connect this Christmas even in the midst of all the chaos! Let's dive in!
2022-12-0127 minBeauty in Battle PodcastRe-Membering in MarriageSend us a textEvery relationship is about connection. But what do you do when you're disconnected? How can you connect once again and stay connected? That's what this episode is all about. We're going to share a secret that will keep you connected without a trace of disconnection. And the beauty is, it's so easy and fun! Tune in as we share this relational secret. And we'll even share with you our story of how we got engaged - it involved candlelight and a little "foot washing" ceremony (no joke!). ...
2022-11-2324 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow to Stay Fully Present in MarriageSend us a textYour presence is the greatest present you can give your spouse! But it's not easy, especially in a day when technology and busy schedules saps our focus and pushes us to the point of mental exhaustion. So what do we do? We can just give up and slide into a relational comfort zone or we can stop what we're doing, take control and do something about it. That's what we talk about in today's podcast. We're going to talk about two important keys to experiencing presence in your marriage and...
2022-11-1631 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHealthy Life Healthy MarriageSend us a textBefore oneness in marriage, there's "two-ness." You have to be individually healthy before you can be relationally healthy. The second greatest commandment echoes this when we're told to love others (our spouse) "as we love ourselves." A healthy life is the foundation for a healthy marriage. In today's episode, we brought in an expert to show us how we can be the best version of ourselves by thriving in our body, mind, and spirit. A former middle school teammate with Jason, Dr. John Skelton has worked more t...
2022-11-0934 minBeauty in Battle PodcastA Surprising Solution to Your Marriage ProblemSend us a textHave you ever gotten into an argument with your spouse and you felt like you were getting nowhere? We never have. Ok, so that's a lie. In those moments when you feel as though you're at an impasse, there's a surprising solution that will be uber-helpful for you. Tune in to check it out.
2022-11-0222 minBeauty in Battle PodcastUsing Humor to Manage ConflictSend us a textThere are two types of marital conflict - the kind that can be resolved and the kind you have to live with. Solvable conflict relates to a specific situation or behavior. Unsolvable conflict is more about personality differences and underlying issues. Most conflict falls into the unsolvable category. But you don’t have to resolve these marital conflicts in order to thrive. Dr. John Gottman, a world-famous psychotherapist, said that after 40 years of research he found that using humor to be one of the best ways for coupl...
2022-10-2636 minBeauty in Battle PodcastEstablishing Emotional SafetySend us a textDid you know that Google spent millions of dollars on a research project that revealed the #1 characteristic of the best teams in their business? The good news for us is that their findings can help you immensely in your marriage. Dive in to find out what in the world we're talking about!
2022-10-1933 minBeauty in Battle PodcastFive Keys to Peace in Your MarriageSend us a textEvery couple wants and needs peace in their relationship in order to become all that God designed them to be. But it can oftentimes be difficult to get there. In today's episode, we'll tackle five keys that will lead to peace in your personal and relational life, that ultimately leads to a marriage laced with tranquility. Based on Paul's second letter to the Corinthians, we'll dive into how the peace of God is determined by our peace with others and the practical ways we can get it. If...
2022-10-1238 minBeauty in Battle PodcastDealing With Buried EmotionsSend us a textDid you know that buried emotions never die? They show up in the strangest places and at the most random times often wreaking havoc on our closest relationships. Insecurities from the past, doubts about the future, fear of failure, overwhelming self-consciousness - all of these and more can creep their way into your marriage and hold you back from becoming the vibrant couple God made you to be. In today's episode, we'll dive into the two keys to properly dealing with emotions from the past so they won't hold you back i...
2022-10-0532 minBeauty in Battle PodcastTools For Deeper ConnectionSend us a textEvery human being was created to connect with others. This is even more so the case in marriage. But disconnection is the natural tendency in our sin-fallen world. However, there is a way to connect on a deeper level with your spouse - and it starts with being emotionally intelligent about where to look. In this episode, Tori will share three core "stances" we take to meet our needs and how understanding the one we predominately rely on is the key to connecting deeper with our spouse. ...
2022-09-2829 minBeauty in Battle PodcastEmbracing Your Role in MarriageSend us a textGod created you and your spouse to operate in very specific roles within your relationship. So long as you stay in your proper lane, all is well. But the minute one or both of you move outside your role, or even worse - you switch roles - it could be devastating to your marriage. Listen in as our familiar guests Eric and Rachel Beck talk about the roles we were designed to play, how we can function within those roles, and how to encourage your spouse when he/she is not...
2022-09-2132 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Power of a Praying CoupleSend us a textDid you know that married couples who pray together are 90% more likely to report higher satisfaction in their sex life than couples who don't pray together? Call us crazy, but we've discovered that incorporating prayer in our marriage does way more than simply increase physical satisfaction - it draws us together unlike anything else can. Why? Because all truly healthy marriages involve three people - husband, wife, and God. When you bring God into your relationship great things happen. God is your Father, so He knows what...
2022-09-1430 minBeauty in Battle PodcastEstablishing Good Marriage CultureSend us a textIn this episode we welcome back to our podcast Eric and Rachel Beck. Two of our faves, the Becks dive into some of the best advice you can get on how to establish good culture in your marriage. There's so much good content in here it's going to blow your hair back (maybe!!). And Rachel gives her favorite buffalo taco recipe just for kicks!Enjoy! Want to get coached in your marriage? Check out what we have to offer HERE.
2022-09-0733 minBeauty in Battle PodcastFighting FamiliaritySend us a textWe've all heard that familiarity breeds contempt. But is that true? In today's episode, we'll show you a different side of familiarity and how it can help you and hurt you at the same time, and how you can leverage it to your advantage. Based on a small verse tucked away in Psalms 71, we'll look at the one thing you need to do in order to keep your relational pursuit vibrant. And, if you hang around, you'll discover how the Roman Colleseum can teach us a thing o...
2022-08-3130 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow to be WILDLY Attracted to Your SpouseSend us a textWhen you and your spouse first met, FEELING came before EXPRESSION. You “felt” something before you expressed how you felt. But then we get married and the chaos of life hits, and that "lovin feelin" seems to be the last thing on our minds. It's at these moments that we learn a valuable truth - while feeling came before expression before marriage, after marriage expression comes before feeling! Actions come first!!!Think about this - you don’t feel healthy and then run three miles do you? You don...
2022-08-2428 min
The Best View in Town with Nathan Wesley Smith & FriendsJason & Tori - Fighting For Your MarriageJason & Tori Benham have been pouring into couples for years but have recently released a book and podcast called Beauty in Battle to go along with their marriage coaching and training. Today Nathan sits with Jason & Tori to talk about how they met, what life has been like for them through 22 years of marriage, and how couples can learn how to fight shoulder to shoulder instead of face-to-face. Know someone who is struggling to find ways to move forward in their relationship? This episode would be a great encouragement to them so be sure to share it...
2022-08-1742 minBeauty in Battle PodcastConnection Through CommunicationSend us a textThe most important thing you can do in your marriage is learn how to communicate properly to your spouse. Why? Because communication is all about CONNECTION! When you dated your spouse you had no problem communicating. But then you got married and all of a sudden communicating became hard. But it doesn't have to stay that way! In this episode we'll dive into two familiar stories in the Bible that shows the power of communication, and draw out three key elements that are important for us to understand if w...
2022-08-1741 minBeauty in Battle PodcastLet's Talk About Sex (p2)Send us a textToday is part 2 of a two-part series on sexual intimacy in marriage. Here's a quick sneak peek: The Purpose of sex is intimacy The Product of sex is LIFE That’s why it’s PleasurableBut when the pleasure overtakes the purpose then you forfeit the product. Here are the FOUR KEYS TO GREAT SEX: Rhythm Recognize Relax Reward Are you interested in being coached as a couple? We have a new program we just released that we'd love to have you join. You can learn more ...
2022-08-1025 minBeauty in Battle PodcastLet's Talk About Sex (p1)Send us a textThis is a topic we've been waiting to tackle! In this episode, we are going to share a three-part framework on how to view sex as well as four powerful keys to great sex. Can't get any better than that, can it? Today is part 1 of a two-part series on sexual intimacy in marriage. Here's a quick sneak peek: The Purpose of sex is intimacy The Product of sex is LIFE That’s why it’s PleasurableBut when the pleasure overtakes the purpose then you forfei...
2022-08-0332 minBeauty in Battle PodcastBelieving In Your SpouseSend us a textA few weeks ago we had lunch with one of our pastors from church and his wife. The way they interacted with each other was one of the most refreshing and enlightening experiences we've had with a couple. After 22 years of marriage, they are still "madly" in love with each other, love being around one another, all while being in full-throttle parent mode. We sat in our car afterward and both agreed - "we're gonna get these two on our podcast, period!" Fortunately, we didn't have to threaten them or anything l...
2022-07-2751 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow to Magnetize Your SpouseSend us a textWould you like a very simple three-step plan to magnetize your spouse to you? In today's episode, that's exactly what we'll tackle. We share three keys that will unlock gridlock in your relationship and put you on a path to thrive. But it's not just for hurting couples - healthy couples can (and should) use these same keys to move their relationship forward and make it even better. Here's a sneak peek - If you want to magnetize your spouse to you it will involve these three thi...
2022-07-2027 min
Taking the Leaps with Rachel G. ScottJason & Tori BenhamSend us a textToday on the podcast Rachel will be chatting with Jason and Tori Benham. Jason and Tori Benham have been married for more than twenty years, own several businesses together, and are passionate about helping couples thrive in marriage. Their family hit the public stage in 2014 when Jason and his twin brother, David, were fired by HGTV for their public stand on Biblical values. Many consider the Benhams to be the "OG of Cancel Culture." Since that time, the brothers travel the country encouraging believers to stand strong for their faith, whatever the cost.
2022-07-1329 minBeauty in Battle PodcastChoosing Hope in Your MarriageSend us a textJoin us as we share a story about our 12-year-old daughter who was in a traumatic accident that threatened her vision. What we have learned from her during this time has helped us in our own relationship. Specifically, little Lundi has shown us three keys for choosing hope in the midst of a trial. Applied to your marriage, these keys are pivotal in keeping your hope anchored on the one unchanging person who has the power to change your relationship for the better. Listen in. You'll enjoy this story.
2022-07-1328 minBeauty in Battle PodcastStress & MarriageSend us a textNever before have we lived busier lives and needed to put safeguards in place to protect ourselves from the stressors that crush our bodies and ruin our relationships. In this episode, we're going to talk about the dangers of "busyness" and distraction on our bodies and our marriages. We've learned that the real issue isn’t the increased stress, it's the prolonged release of adrenaline that seeks to alleviate that stress. We're going to dive into how our body functions to alleviate stress, and how that very function is the...
2022-07-0645 minBeauty in Battle PodcastConnecting Deeper With Your SpouseSend us a textThis episode will blow your hair back (assuming you have hair!). We interviewed some close friends of ours, Eric and Rachel Beck, about how to connect deeper with your spouse by discovering the unconscious emotions that fuel your emotions. You guys are going to love these two! Eric is a rock-star business coach who's helped thousands of entrepreneurs own their business without it owning them. Rachel is a former model turned wellness coach who's created eight online courses to help women heal from the inside out. They have been m...
2022-06-2949 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow to Help a Hurting SpouseSend us a textWhile in college, our old strength trainer used to say, "You’re only as fast as your slowest leg!" In marriage, this means you're only as strong as the weakest partner! All of us go through times of pain and heartache, struggle and strain. This is one of the reasons God gave us the gift of marriage - we have a built-in helper in our time of need! The question is, how can we help our spouse when he/she is hurting. In today's episode we're goi...
2022-06-2226 minBeauty in Battle PodcastDealing With Emotions in Marriage (part 2)Send us a textLast week we looked at the power of emotions and how trapped emotions wreak havoc on our bodies, our souls, and our relationships. This week we'll look into some practical steps we can take to process those emotions. An emotion is tied to what happened to us. A feeling is tied to how we process that emotion. If we don't process our emotions properly, we'll end up with feelings we never should have had. In this episode we'll discuss three simple steps to process emotions: * Let it...
2022-06-1531 minBeauty in Battle PodcastDealing With Emotions in Marriage (part 1)Send us a textTrapped emotions rob us of joy and destroy our relationships, leaving us a shell of the marriage God intended for us. Not only that, they destroy our physical bodies. In this episode, we'll take a look at a powerful verse that shows us the importance of exposing hidden emotions and how God can help us get to the bottom of them. Psalms 139:23-24 states, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if there be any hurtful way in me, and...
2022-06-0828 minBeauty in Battle PodcastWhen Perfect Isn't So PerfectSend us a textIn this episode, we interview some longtime friends, Denny and Heather Smith, who show us that even a seemingly perfect couple is anything but perfect! Denny and Heather are both on staff at a church in Indiana and they share their powerful story of how they found love in the midst of difficult times early on in marriage. Heather also shares her story of how anxiety almost wrecked her life, to a point where she actually wrote out her own funeral service. But God pulled her out of that pit while s...
2022-06-0146 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow to Affair-Proof Your Marriage (part 2)Send us a textWe live in a time when threats to our relationship are at an all-time high. Marriages are being ripped apart at break-neck speed, and one of the most pressing issues is the threat of an affair. Even the most spiritual leaders among us are falling prey. This episode is part 2 of a dive deep into ten principles to affair-proof your marriage. These are simple things we can do to assure our spouse that we'll last the test of time. We went from the perspective of what we can do in...
2022-05-2525 minBeauty in Battle PodcastHow to Affair-Proof Your Marriage (part 1)Send us a textWe live in a time when threats to our relationship are at an all-time high. Marriages are being ripped apart at break-neck speed, and one of the most pressing issues is the threat of an affair. Even the most spiritual leaders among us are falling prey. So in this episode and the one that follows we dive deep into ten principles to affair-proof your marriage. These are simple things we can do to assure our spouse that we'll last the test of time. We went from the perspective of wh...
2022-05-1824 minBeauty in Battle PodcastSelf Awareness in MarriageSend us a textMany of you know that Tori is a certified coach for the Enneagram and Emotional Intelligence, but for those who don’t, well, she is! And in this episode she’s going to dive deep into the three “instinctual subtypes” of the Enneagram. Knowing how you behave “instinctively” will help you not only understand yourself but relate to your spouse on a deeper level. In short, there are three sub-types (or “instincts”) we all have. They are: Self Preservation - my instinct is mostly about “ME.” Social - my instinct is mostly ab...
2022-05-1125 minBeauty in Battle PodcastFive Core Human NeedsSend us a textWe all have five core needs: Security - Who can I trust?Identity - Who am I?Belonging - who wants me?Purpose - why am I alive?Competence - what am I good at?In today's episode we're going to dive into each of these and show you how God meets those needs in you through your spouse. We'll also discuss the core relational need of a husband and the core relational need of a wife and how you can make sure you're meeting those needs on a re...
2022-05-0529 minBeauty in Battle PodcastStaying in Love While Parenting KidsSend us a textToday we're going to dive into the four stages of parenting and a very simple, practical way we can stay in love while parenting our kids. As any married couple with kids will tell you, it can be a real challenge! Our foundation is in Exodus 33 where we see how God parented the Israelites and stayed connected with them at the same time. Throughout the book we see the Four stages of parenting: • 1) Babysitter - A babysitter says, “I’ve GOT you!” • 2) Referee - A ref says, “I’ll PUNISH...
2022-04-2723 minBeauty in Battle PodcastDating in MarriageSend us a textThis episode is all about dating in your marriage. Often times when we get married that's the thing that gets pushed aside because of our busy lives. But it's vitally important if we want to keep our relationship strong and growing. We'll discuss three key aspects about dating: DATING IS ABOUT DISCOVERYDATING IS ABOUT CONNECTIONDATING IS ABOUT DREAMING We'll also talk about the value of play and the five things it gives you as a couple: Deeper connectionPositive emotions (cancer breeds on negative emotion) Relational satisfaction Better communication Better p...
2022-04-2027 minBeauty in Battle PodcastOvercoming Fear in MarriageSend us a textBefore two can become one, one needs to be one (a whole person). Relational health is born out of individual health. Often times in marriage the problem isn’t US - it’s ME. The problem we’ll talk about today is FEAR. We're going to show how fear is literally debilitating to your relationship. Fear draws us away from those we love. Faith draws us toward those we love. KEY - God often orchestrates scary situations to prove His power. How do w...
2022-04-1322 minBeauty in Battle PodcastClosing the Love LoopSend us a textToday we're talking about THE LOVE LOOP. This is just a fancy term for when spouses are connected and nothing is hindering their relationship. Like your wedding ring - it's fully connected in a perfectly formed loop around your finger. Marriage is the same way. And in order to keep that loop secure, we have to excel in the power of GRATITUDE! When your spouse does something for you it opens up a half loop. Expressing gratitude closes the Love Loop and results in connection. Unexpressed gratitude leav...
2022-04-0627 minBeauty in Battle PodcastAccepting Your SpouseSend us a textWhen we first got married we quickly discovered one of the most difficult things to do was to accept each other for who we really are. Not because we didn't love each other, oh no! But because we discovered certain things we didn't like about each other. Fortunately, we made it through those early years and learned some powerful keys that helped us along the way. Here's what we discuss in this episode: * How to be accepting of your spouse * How to be acceptable to your s...
2022-03-3024 minBeauty in Battle PodcastCommunication in MarriageSend us a textGeorge Bernard Shaw once said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” To strengthen your marriage you have to learn to communicate well. We know it goes without saying, but all-too-often we think we're saying one thing but our spouse hears something completely different. What do we do in those situations? How can we learn to communicate in a way where we stay on the same page? That's what we'll tackle in this episode. We'll talk about how good communication is abo...
2022-03-2320 minBeauty in Battle PodcastForgiveness RedefinedSend us a textWhat married couple doesn't have to deal with forgiveness? It's something Tori has to deal with on a regular occasion. HA HA! In this episode, we're going to tackle the issue of forgiveness and the danger of unforgiveness, and how unforgiveness in the heart gives someone control over your life. We've heard it said, "Refusing to forgive is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die." To help us wade through the murky waters of forgiveness, we've broken this episode down into two categories: * Whe...
2022-03-1635 minBeauty in Battle PodcastCreating Healthy HabitsSend us a textWhen you got married you became ONE with your spouse. This gave you the 10x factor! But Satan wants you divided because he knows he can't win if the two of you are operating on the same page. One of the ways to combat this is by proactively creating healthy habits in your relationship. A healthy habit is anything that draws you together with your spouse. It's finding something you can do together and making a consistent habit in your relationship. In this episode, we'll discu...
2022-03-0926 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Power of Two-Way ThinkingSend us a textDid you know there are two main types of thinking in marriage? If you want a thriving marriage you have to learn to think both emotionally and transactionally. Emotional thinking is subjective and is tied to how you "feel."Transactional thinking is objective and is tied to "logic." Typically, you will fall into one category more naturally than the other. But when you learn to think both ways, with the ability to pivot naturally, you'll discover a powerful tool in your relationship. The Bib...
2022-03-0225 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Emotionally Intelligent MarriageSend us a textOne of our greatest needs in marriage is emotional connection. But that's impossible if you're not first emotionally intelligent. In this episode we're going to look at the two parts of the brain - the emotional and the logical - and discuss how we can make sure the emotional side of us stays healthy and strong so we can remain connected to our spouse. We'll also talk about the four parts of emotional intelligence and the research that shows how our emotional intelligence far outweighs our cognitive intelligence when i...
2022-02-2328 minBeauty in Battle PodcastDiscovering Motivations in MarriageSend us a textOne of the best things we've done in our marriage that's helped us understand each other better is taking the Enneagram. Knowing our enneagram types has given us new eyes to see each other and understand the core motivations that fuel our behavior. And, as many of you may not know, Tori is a certified Enneagram coach. As such, she has a deep understanding into this powerful tool and how it can help you and your spouse get along better! So in this episode, we dive into the nine e...
2022-02-1629 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Power of DesireSend us a textGet our new book Beauty in Battle: Winning in Marriage by Waging a War by ordering HERE!How badly do you want the spark that started your relationship back?The power of desire is so important in a relationship because it's where it all starts. What's interesting is the longer you're married, (Can I get a witness?!) that desire begins to wane off.You can restore your desire for your spouse. Don't buy that freaking lie of, 'Well, when you get married, you...
2022-02-0919 minBeauty in Battle PodcastFrom Conflict to ComfortSend us a textGet our new book Beauty in Battle: Winning in Marriage by Waging a War by ordering HERE!Conflict is the one topic that nobody wants to talk about, but everybody wants to talk about.And it comes down to one thing:Do you know how to fight well with your spouse?When we start talking about conflict, we have to remember who the real enemy is (hint: it's NOT your spouse!).It takes a mature person to be in the heat...
2022-02-0220 minBeauty in Battle PodcastA New Pair of GlassesSend us a textSeeing isn't just believing - it's behaving! If you want to see positive change in your marriage you have to adjust the way you see your relationship. How you see determines how you act. In this episode, we dive deep into practical ways you can change the way you view your spouse and your marriage so your relationship will thrive no matter how crazy and chaotic your life may be!* Learn more about Jason and Tori HERE* Purchase a...
2022-01-2620 minBeauty in Battle PodcastThe Importance of PursuitSend us a textYou can harness and utilize dopamine (the feel-good chemical for your body) consistently for your marriage.Wait, what?Did you know that your brain releases dopamine when you pursue a goal? When you have that sense of fulfillment and accomplishment...when you achieve it.This is great news for married couples because when you pursue your spouse with a sense of winning their heart, dopamine floods your body and it feels good. That's what we're going to talk about in this episode - the value...
2022-01-1924 minBeauty in Battle PodcastMarriage FoundationsSend us a textYou can't build a house without establishing a foundation first. In this episode, we'll dive deep into several fundamental concepts upon which you can build your marriage. We'll also talk about how your marriage is a lot like a triangle. The closer you draw to God individually the closer you get to each other relationally. And when you do, everything in your marriage changes for the better. Tune in as we talk about some key foundational thoughts on marriage and why your spouse was meant to be a little bi...
2022-01-1221 minBeauty in Battle PodcastSomebody Call 911Send us a textDo you remember where you were when 911 took place?We had only been married nine months, and the image of the weeks and months that followed etched in our memories forever. All of us as Americans felt so connected to each other, and for a brief moment in history, we put aside our differences and chose to fight alongside each other against an enemy who wanted to take us out. We saw firsthand how fighting together drew us together and knew from that moment forward the lessons we learned f...
2022-01-0530 min
Get Lost In This Inspiring Full Audiobook — Perfect While Cooking.Beauty in Battle: Winning in Marriage by Waging a War by Jason Benham, Tori BenhamPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/2/audible/175651to listen full audiobooks.
Title: Beauty in Battle: Winning in Marriage by Waging a War
Author: Jason Benham, Tori Benham
Narrator: Jason Benham, Tori Benham
Format: mp3
Length: 5 hrs and 20 mins
Release date: 10-15-21
Ratings: 5 out of 5 stars, 30 ratings
Genres: Conflict Resolution
Publisher's Summary:
Beauty in Battle is not just another marriage audiobook - it’s a blueprint for how to energize your relationship, give you purpose, and draw you close to your spouse by turning the tension that divides you into energy that fuels you. In these sections, Jason and Tori Benham sh...
2021-10-155h 20Begin Into A Heart-Pounding Full Audiobook On The Go.Beauty in Battle: Winning in Marriage by Waging a War by Jason Benham, Tori BenhamPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/2/audible/175651to listen full audiobooks.
Title: Beauty in Battle: Winning in Marriage by Waging a War
Author: Jason Benham, Tori Benham
Narrator: Jason Benham, Tori Benham
Format: mp3
Length: 5 hrs and 20 mins
Release date: 10-15-21
Ratings: 5 out of 5 stars, 30 ratings
Genres: Conflict Resolution
Publisher's Summary:
Beauty in Battle is not just another marriage audiobook - it’s a blueprint for how to energize your relationship, give you purpose, and draw you close to your spouse by turning the tension that divides you into energy that fuels you. In these sections, Jason and Tori Benham sh...
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