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Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 225: Compassion and Conviction with Gender and Sexual IdentitySexuality and gender identity. These topics can sometimes be triggering or hold all kinds of connotations. Whether you have fears, concerns, or are so excited to finally hear us talking about this on the podcast, welcome. Take a deep breath and be ready to learn, wherever you are coming from today. Whether you are a part of a more conservative community or progressive community, whether this is personal or impacting those you love. Whether you are raising children or working with teens and young adults and you see this conversation impacting all of what they discern about God, the...2024-05-211h 07Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 220: Leadership, Gen Z, and the Mental Health CrisisToday we are talking about the mental health crisis, GEN Z and leadership tips for our own mental health.We discuss the power of rest and four key aspects of healthy leaders. Dr. Van Der Kolk, one of the leading researchers on trauma, says that we are seeing unresolved trauma as the leading health crisis of our times.Mental health counselors have become the new “priest” or “pastor” to many, helping people find a healthy way toward God and others. Not saying this is right, but it is true.So to talk about the curr...2024-03-2648 min
Let's Parent on Purpose: Christian Marriage, Parenting, and DiscipleshipEpisode 202: Parenting Series - Raising Wholehearted Kids, with Dr. Danny HuertaThis is the first episode in our fall parenting series. As parents ourselves, we know parents need a lot of support. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed and unsure about what messages and parenting philosophies to trust. In this episode we talk with parenting expert, Dr. Danny Huerta. Listen in as we talk about; the common struggles parents are facing today, what a mentally healthy child and home really look like, practical tools to help build healthy children who know they are loved and love others well, and how parents can care for themselves well as they balance the we...2023-10-1038 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 201: Healing From Church Wounds - Being Known & Finding Hope in Suffering, with Dr. Curt ThompsonThis is the final episode in our series, Healing From Church Wounds. The theology of suffering is one area where we have struggled as a church - but we see signs of improvement. It’s not a fun topic, but it’s at the crux of our human experience and even our faith, rooted in the suffering of our Savior Jesus Christ. On our podcast we love to bridge the gap between Biblical, clinical and relational wisdom - and for this episode our guest is one of our mentors and influencers, Dr. Curt Thompson. He was o...2023-10-0346 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 197: Breathe - How to find rest in the midst of stress with Bonnie GrayWe love talking with this guest. In fact, we aired her first interview as one of our favorites as she shared her own story of being a leader who has faced the trauma in her past. We are passionate about helping leaders, who often appear quite confident and polished on the outside, but who are doing the difficult and messy work of healing from the inside out. In a western culture that values image, productivity, and impressive resumes, we enjoy talking to leaders who have come to terms with what it means to love God as He loves us - f...2023-09-0551 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow to avoid over committing and say NoSaying no is hard and mom guilt is real, but we were not made to do everything. Join us as we talk through setting up a support system, language to use when you are put on the spot, and choosing what to commit to. Check out these similar resources: Is doing it all what God asked you to do?: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/is-doing-it-all-what-god-asked-you-to-do/ Learning to be in the no: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/learning-to-be-in-the-no/ Pleasing God, not people: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/pleasing-god-not-people/ ...2023-07-1706 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 189: Raising Prayerful Kids with Steph ThurlingParents ask how much is too much? How do I balance all the things? Should we do club sports or music lessons? Should I homeschool or send my kids to public school? How do I make sure my kids don't lose their faith after they leave? Help! If you are a parent (or would like to be someday), this conversation is for you. Leading in the home is one of the greatest responsibilities we have - shepherding the life of a child. Though there are countless books written about all the research, wisdom, and personal stories of parenting, there...2023-07-1136 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat to do when your adult child is in an unhealthy relationshipWatching your child be mistreated is heartbreaking at any age, and we are here to walk this journey with you. Join us as we discuss how to ask healthy questions, listen, and try to understand why your adult child is choosing an unhealthy relationship. Check out these similar resources: How do I tell my adult daughter I don’t like her boyfriend: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vyAhGBAmrDQ&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=25 Learning to trust God with your adult children: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/lear...2023-07-1005 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraEncouraging my child to eat healthy and exercise without making it about appearanceWhat do you do if your teen is eating unhealthy, not exercising and gaining a lot of weight? Join us as we talk through how to engage your teen, find a fun way to incorporate exercise into the day, and encourage healthing eating without negatively impacting your child’s self esteem. Check out these similar resources: How to help our kids fight body shame: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZQSWagXi_s&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=35&t=13s Three ways to model a healthy body image for your daughter: https://www.c...2023-07-0306 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow to teach manners and raise a gentlemanTeaching manners is always a challenge, but when one parent doesn’t model the behaviors you are trying to encourage in your child, it is extra challenging. Join us as we talk through tips on teaching your son to be a gentleman and discussions to have with your spouse to parent as a team. Check out these similar resources: Three character qualities that set your kids up for success: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/3-character-qualities-that-set-your-kids-up-for-success/ What your son needs most from you now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SSq6U2c_AF...2023-06-2604 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat to do when your child is NOT a morning personWhat do you do when your child has a hard time getting up in the morning and their attitude affects the whole family? Join us as we talk through strategies to set up a calm morning routine, conversations to have the night before, and how to rewire the brain to look forward to getting up in the morning. Check out these similar resources: Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/ How do I help my kids with big emotions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LFjLYA0c-8&list=PLdPzQ_cU...2023-06-1906 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I help my shy child engage with others?Shy and introverted children are wired to need more information and tend to be more cautious in new situations. We will encourage you to practice and talk through social situations at home, learn what introverts need and speak life into your child and their wiring. Check out these similar resources: How do I get my introverted child to communicate with me?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h95dVDrs2GQ&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=48 Helping our kids overcome fear: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UfMN78Hu...2023-06-1205 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraParenting a perfectionistTeaching your children to understand their design and wiring will help set them up for success in life. In this episode we will talk through the language to use when parenting a perfectionist, physical outlets when frustration sets in and how to help your child have a kingdom mindset. Check out these similar resources: How do I help my kids with big emotions?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LFjLYA0c-8&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=3&t=71s How to ease the press for perfection in your pa...2023-06-0506 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHelp! My kids fight all of the time.Managing sibling rivalry can be exhausting, but teaching your kids to fight well will set them up for success as adults. Join us as we talk through tips to help your children cool down and teach true reconciliation. Check out these similar resources: Stop the sibling rivalry: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ma_5W99C3uA&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=27 Sibling Rivalry: How to survive daily conflict: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/sibling-rivalry-how-to-to-survive-daily-conflict/ Teaching your kids to fight well: https://www.you...2023-05-2907 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I let my kids know I value them as individuals?When you have multiple kids, it can be easy to find yourself comparing them to their siblings. Join us as we encourage you to share with your child their unique contributions to the family, ask the Lord who he made each of your children to be and lean on each family member's strengths. Check out these similar resources: Trusting God’s plan for my kids: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fbTyoz-_X9E&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=7&t=1s Helping our children love each other well: https://www.christianparenting.org...2023-05-2205 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHelp! Homework is a constant battle in our home.Homework can be a frustrating battle where both you and your child end up in tears. Join us as we talk through ideas to set up a homework routine, fight negative self-talk and stay engaged with your child and teachers. Check out these similar resources: Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/ Five things to remember as your kids start school: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/five-things-to-remember-as-your-kids-start-school/ 10 truths middle schoolers should know: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/10-truths-middle-schoolers-should-know/ 2023-05-1508 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow to navigate dating as a divorced parentWhen it comes to introducing new boyfriends/girlfriends into your kids' lives, the key is to take it slow and listen to your kids. We will encourage you to have open conversations with your kids, honor their pacing and be careful about infusing your lives too quickly. Check out these similar resources: How do I help my kids deal with divorce: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bet0-1rmNas&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=52&t=29s Helping your kids with the home is splintered: https://www.ch...2023-05-0803 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do we encourage our parenting practices with grandparents?Grandparents are a huge blessing to our children, but sometimes they use different discipline techniques and methods. Join us as we talk through how to have hard conversations with parents and in-laws, the importance of affirming their love and contribution, and when it is time to set boundaries. Check out these similar resources: Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Teaching kids about boundaries How do I set boundaries with my parents and in-laws? 2023-05-0103 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 176: Sexual Wholeness - Secrets to Sex & Marriage (Part 2) with Dr. Michael SytsmaWe’ve started a series on sexual wholeness and today we are going to continue our conversation about Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All The Difference. If you missed last week, make sure you check out our initial interview with Shaunti Feldhahn. Today, in our conversation with Dr. Michael Sytsma we dive deeper into the practical reality of the data and how it can inform, and maybe transform, our thinking and our attitudes about sex and our spouses. Warning, when you talk with a sex therapist, nothing is off the table! Our guest unpacks the myths and th...2023-04-1134 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhich battles are worth fighting with a preschooler?When it comes to preschoolers, you have to pick and choose which battles are worth fighting. Join us as we give you tips on how to step out of power struggles and give your preschooler choices. Check out these similar resources: Help! I am always saying no to my toddler: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_zYBI0w5Bs&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=19&t=12s Pointing your preschooler to Jesus: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/pointing-your-preschooler-to-jesus/ Discipling and sowing seeds of faith with tod...2023-04-1002 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 175: Sexual Wholeness - Secrets to Sex & Marriage (Part 1) with Shaunti FeldhahnSexual intimacy is more deeply connected to emotional and spiritual intimacy than most of us realize. Maybe you’ve wondered why you don’t talk with your spouse about sexual intimacy? Maybe you feel like the years are full of too much hurt. Maybe you're a newlywed and want to build health in this area. Wherever you are today, we hope the conversation with our guest will be a catalyst to more wholeness in your sex life. Whether you're pastoring or counseling couples, engaged or newly married and ready to get your sex life off to a great start, or y...2023-04-0434 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraShould we pay our kids for household chores?When it comes to allowance and chores, we think it is all about balance. There are some things you do because you are part of the family and some things you get paid for. Join us as we give you ideas and tips for finding the balance in your home. Check out these similar resources: Generosity starts in the home: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/generosity-starts-in-the-home/ Teaching kids to be smart with money: https://www.christianparenting.org/podcasts-post/teaching-kids-to-be-smart-with-money/ 2023-04-0305 min
Let's Parent on Purpose: Christian Marriage, Parenting, and DiscipleshipEp. 323: Antidotes to Anxiety with Terra MattsonWhat if you could lower some of the sources of anxiety in your children’s lives and build a greater sense of stability and connection? My guest Terra Mattson rejoins me today for a conversation on the digital drivers of anxiety in our children, especially our young ladies. In this episode, you will learn about The science behind the wiring of male and female brains and how it contributes to higher female anxiety. The various ways our cell phones promise connection but instead bring isolation. What are the right questions to ask yourself befo...2023-04-0245 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I encourage my child to stay in their own bed at night?Some children experience more worry and fear than others and creating a daytime plan is the first step to help your child overcome their fears and stay in bed. Join us as we talk through how to set up a comforting bedroom environment and reward system and remind you that consistency is the key. Check out these similar resources: Helping our kids overcome fear: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UfMN78Huyc&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=40 Making a toolbox for anxiety: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/making-a-toolbox-for-anxiety/ How to...2023-03-2706 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat do you do if your child walks away from God?It is heartbreaking when your child chooses to walk away from God, but remember you are parenting the long game. Join us as we encourage you to ask clarifying and curious questions, stay engaged and walk you through the steps to practice effective listening. Check out these similar resources: Help! What do I do when my child is not attending church: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUGMCNxueX0&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=16&t=1s Return to sender: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/return-to-sender/ Raise you...2023-03-2005 min
Grace Enough PodcastJeff & Terra Mattson | Become the Leader You Would FollowJeff & Terra Mattson join Amber to discuss their book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap between What Leaders Preach and Live. They dive into how unresolved trauma impacts a leader, the gap between our values and habits, and some healthy tips for shrinking the gap.Questions Discussed During Become the Leader You Would Follow:
The two of you have invested more than two decades in leadership coaching and trauma-informed therapy. Share a little of what you've found to be the root issues contributing to many of the leadership crises.
What's some of the impact and dangers you've seen f...2023-03-1451 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do you handle potty talk with little boys?Potty talk with little boys is a very normal thing. As parents we need to communicate when and if that type of humor is appropriate. Join us as we walk through the ACT model to help curb unwanted behaviors in a positive loving way. Check out these similar resources: How do you balance discipline and grace in parenting?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMSG9xPfVNU&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=46 Raising boys with boundaries and freedoms: https://www.christianparenting.org/podcasts-post/raising-boys-with-boundaries-and-freedoms/ How to av...2023-03-1306 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraShould I bend on our kids' technology rules when friends come over?Kids are craving real connection and parents that will set some boundaries. How do we know when to enforce the rules and when it’s ok to bend them because friends are over? Join us as we discuss technology and teens and give you tips for creating a fun, compelling environment that will help teens put their phones down and connect face to face. Check out these similar resources: Helping your son navigate the digital age: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-your-son-navigate-the-digital-age/ My kid is addicted to their phone, help!: https://www...2023-03-0605 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat to do when your child is a picky eaterThere are many reasons a child might be a picky eater. Join us as we give you tips and tricks to make mealtime less of a battle. In this video, we talk through setting boundaries at mealtime, inviting your kids into the meal prep process and picking and choosing what battles are worth engaging in. Check out these similar resources: How to avoid power struggles with your children: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-avoid-power-struggles-with-your-children/ Help! I am always saying no to my toddler: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_zYBI0w5...2023-02-2706 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 169: Tips and Tricks for Raising Daughters with the Founders of Courageous Girls, Jeff & Terra MattsonBeing a girl can be hard - especially in a world of confusing messages. We wanted to jump onto today's episode to share some insights from years of raising our own two daughters, teaching others about raising girls, and the deeper needs all women have (young and old). Whether you are raising daughters or working with girls (of any age), this episode is for you. From anxiety and big emotions to changing bodies, healthy boundaries and more…we hope to give you some tools you can use today! We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husb...2023-02-2130 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHelp! My college kid is partying a lotCollege is a carefree wonderful time. Sometimes partying can become the thing to do, but it may be masking real life issues. Keep pursuing your college child and don’t be afraid to let them know that you care and are worried. Join us as we give you some ideas on how to connect with your child at this stage of their life. Check out these similar resources: A word to parents of college-bound kids: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/counting-the-days-a-word-to-parents-of-college-bound-kids/ Parenting 2.0 - The empty nest stage: https://www.youtube.com/watc...2023-02-2005 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraWhat Makes a Healthy Marriage and Tips for Couples Who Work Together with Jeff & Terra MattsonMarriage. Work. Life. It’s hard to juggle it all, especially if you have chosen to work together as husband and wife. Today, we are unpacking some of the myths around being a husband and wife team and looking at the layers of a healthy marriage through the lens of the Gottman’s Relationship Sound house. You want real insights about growing a healthy marriage? Listen in to this episode and then choose one thing to take into your world this week. We are Jeff and Terra Mattson, a husband and wife team who co-founded Living...2023-02-1437 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I help my kids deal with divorce?Divorce is hard, and having a support system for you and your child is so important. Join us as we talk through ways to help your children process grief, the importance of keeping routines consistent and how to guard against meeting your own needs through your children. Check out these similar resources: Helping your kids when the home is splintered: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-your-kids-when-the-home-is-splintered/ Seven ways children react to grief: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/seven-ways-children-react-to-grief/ Our kids are struggling too: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/our-kids-are-struggling-too-heres-how-to-help-them/2023-02-1305 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraAs a single mom, how do I talk to my son about puberty and sex?Discussing puberty and sex is a nerve racking conversation for every parent but having those conversations as a single mom presents its own unique challenges. Join us as we remind you that talking openly with your son about sexuality and the body takes shame out of the picture. It is great to pull a dad or male figure into the conversation if one is available, but don’t be afraid to engage your son just because you are a mom. Check out these similar resources: When should I start talking to my kids about sex...2023-02-0608 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I teach my child to be thankful and not entitled?Don’t just talk about being thankful, teach your children how to serve others. Join us as we talk though ideas on how you can teach your kids to use the gifts that God has given them to serve others in your community. The experience of serving others helps curb entitlement. Check out these similar resources: Teaching kids to love their neighbor: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/teaching-kids-to-love-their-neighbor/ Raising generous kids who see others: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xjaemZ9tcMk Raising grateful kids: Three ways to practice gratitude https...2022-11-2805 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I get my introverted child to communicate with me?Introverts need more time and space to articulate their feelings. They enjoy the quiet spaces of the world, and if we want to connect with our introverts, we need to join them in those spaces. We will encourage you to figure out what your child is into, be curious, and join them in their passions. And remember silence is ok. Check out these similar resources: How to thrive as the parent of a sensitive teenager: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-thrive-as-the-parent-of-a-sensitive-teenager/ How fifteen minutes could save your relationship with your teen: https://www.christianparenting.or...2022-11-2105 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I explain same sex families to my young child?Keep it simple and point your child towards God’s Word and his design for families when these questions arise. We will encourage you to continue to talk about God’s love, how we can love and serve families that are different from us and how to point your children to what we are for as opposed to what we are against as Chrisitans. Check out these similar resources: How do I explain homosexuality to my kids?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V_-6OKLvjms&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=21&t=1s How...2022-11-1403 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do you balance discipline and grace in parenting?Grace and discipline are not exclusive of each other and parenting requires both. Rules without relationship breeds rebellion and on the flip side relationship without rules leads to entitlement. Join us as we talk through how to find a balance between discipline and grace in parenting. Check out these similar resources: Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/ Parenting teens: Grace or consequences?: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/parenting-teens-grace-or-consequences/ Modeling and teaching love: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/modeling-and-teaching-love-it-starts-with-christ/ 2022-11-0706 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat to do if your child gets caught cheatingWhat do you do if your child gets caught cheating at school? It is important to get to the root of why your child cheated and determine an appropriate consequence. Join us as we discuss the three things you need to address if your child cheats. Check out these similar resources: When your child has a character misstep: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a4bAqKQW9A0&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=5&t=10s 3 character qualities that set your child up for success: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/3-character-qualities-that-set-your-kids-up-for-success/ Helping your child with lying: ht...2022-10-3106 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat to do when your preschooler is touching themselfChildren begin to discover and learn the differences between boys and girls between the ages of 2 and 4. It is very normal for them to be curious about their bodies. We will guide you through how to help your children understand what their bodies are for, their design and healthy coping mechanisms. Check out these similar resources: Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/ When should I start talking to my kids about sex?: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/when-should-i-start-talking-to-my-kids-about-sex/ Tough conversations with our kids: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OCxbgR0Tp8o...2022-10-2405 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat do you do when your child lies?Children lie for a variety of reasons, and it is important to get to the root of lying. Affirm your love for your child, so that they know their actions do not affect your love for them. Join us as we talk through ways to encourage your child to tell the truth, what to do when you catch them in a lie and the importance of setting a good example in truth telling. Check out these similar resources: Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/ Helping your child with lying: https://www.ch...2022-10-1705 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHelp! My husband is the fun parent and I do all of the discipliningChildren need to see parents as a team with both participating in the discipline and fun. Join us as we talk through how to encourage your spouse, affirm each other in parenting and explain the “why” behind joint discipline. Check out these similar resources: Prioritize your marriage over your parenting: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/why-you-should-prioritize-your-marriage-over-your-parenting/ Parenting from a healthy marriage with Jamie and Aaron Ivey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZonZdGSYxkA How to model God’s design for marriage: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-model-gods-design-for-marriage2022-10-1006 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow can I get my kids to listen without yelling?Yelling works in the short term, but eventually children will ignore the yelling. It is ok to take a parent time-out and calm yourself before you respond to a situation. Join us as we talk through the ACT method and encourage you to acknowledge your child’s emotion, communicate a limit, and target an alternative. Check out these similar resources: How do I keep from losing my temper and yelling at my children?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6I_X4SKQUI&t=4s Visuals over verbals: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/visuals-over-verbals/ 5 ways...2022-10-0306 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow to deal with teens talking backThe teenage years are a developmental stage that require a lot of patience and grace. But, we do not want to normalize or tolerate that teens talk back to their parents. You are helping your children develop a life skill and how we talk to each other is important. Join us as we give you tips on how to react when your tween or teens talk back. Check out these similar resources: Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/ Practical help for parents raising teens: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/practical-help-for-parents-raising-teens/ How to...2022-09-2605 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I get my child to listen?Being consistent and following through on what you say are so important in parenting. They are the keys to building trust and help children feel safe. Join us as we give you practical tips to get your child’s attention and let them know you mean what you say. Check out these similar resources: Help! I am always saying “No” to my toddler: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_zYBI0w5Bs&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=19&t=5s Raising rule benders, breakers and believers: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles...2022-09-1905 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat age should I let my child have social media?There is really not a compelling reason for our kids to have social media. The data is clear and there is a direct correlation to all of the mental health issues kids are struggling with and social media. Join us as we talk through why it is important to regulate the overwhelming pressures our kids are facing today by delaying social media as long as possible. Check out these similar resources: Social media, screens, and the overindulgence of information: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/social-media-screens-and-the-overindulgence-of-information/ What if you kids already have screens, and you’re h...2022-09-1206 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraTalking about gender pronouns and sexuality with our kidsHow do we address gender pronouns and sexuality with our kids? As professionals in leadership and therapy we have been processing this with parents and kids for many years. We will encourage you to stay curious, research topics as questions arise and step into these conversations with your children. Your voice as the parent is the key factor in how your children will react to these issues, so remember to approach sensitive topics with truth, grace and gentleness. Check out these similar resources: How to approach transgender topics with your teen: https://www.youtube.co...2022-09-0511 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 144: Leadership at the University & Beyond with Joseph ClairJeff Mattson sits down with Joseph Clair, Executive Dean at George Fox University, to discuss life and leadership on the university campus and beyond. Joseph shares how he has integrated his passion for faith and learning, stemming from his own story, finding Christ in high school and being hungry for knowledge and intellectual challenge. He wants students to have the same experience where they do not have to compromise one or the other. Joseph also shares his observations on the changing landscape of college life for students from a pre-pandemic to a post-pandemic world. As an expert student of...2022-08-3052 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I help my children build lasting friendships?God wired us all differently and some children just need a few friends and others prefer a large circle of friends. Join us as we talk through practical ideas to help your child build lasting friendships. We will also encourage you to affirm your child so that they feel known and seen and will in turn be better at engaging with others. Check out these similar resources: The friendship fix Three character qualities that set your kids up for success Navigating friendships with our kids Living Wholehearted Episodes 2-5, 140-141 Helping moms raise co...2022-08-2906 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraShould I pull my kids out of school sex education?As a parent, we want to equip our children and be the first voice they hear on topics like sexuality and gender. Join us as we talk through options when it comes to opting in or out of public school health curriculum and how to know if it’s too much too soon. We will encourage you to consider your children’s differences, what they may be vulnerable to and to know the curriculum being taught. Check out these similar resources: When should I talking to my kids about sex? How to tackle tough topics...2022-08-2207 min
Moms in Prayer PodcastEpisode 219 - Godly Counsel for Raising Daughters with Terra Mattson“At the end of the day, a moms voice is really powerful in her daughter’s life.” How do we use that voice to love and raise our daughters well? Today Stacy talks with Terra Mattson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Professional Counselor, and founder of Living Wholehearted. Listen in as Terra graciously offers herself as our coach and shares what she has learned in over 20 years in the field and in raising her own 2 daughters. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Terra Mattson, a Christian Parenting spokesperson, is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Licensed Profession- al Counsel...2022-08-2230 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I protect my kids from school bullies?We want to protect our children from school bullies, but the reality is the greatest defense against bullies is building up our child’s confidence and sense of identity. Join us as we talk through how to coach your child to have healthy boundaries, ways to build their confidence and how to identify red, yellow and green light relationships. Check out these similar resources: Teaching kids about boundaries Try these helpful parenting phrases Back to blahs, blues and bullies too Helping moms raise confident daughters 2022-08-1508 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 141: A roadmap for LESS conflict using the Core Values Index (part 2 of 2-part series)This second part of the Core Values Index series addresses the very heart of conflict. Did you know every wiring has a unique type of conflict strategy? Using the wisdom of the Core Values Index, Jeff and Terra explore how our unique wiring gives us clues about why we act the way we do and how we can better navigate our relationships - at home, at work and in the community. If you missed episode 140, make sure you listen before diving into this one. If you are not familiar with the Core Values Index, the M...2022-08-0941 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 140: Living by our design through the lens of the Core Values Index (part 1 of 2-part series)Living with integrity is not just about living from the right motives. It’s about living within one’s design and learning to love your limits. Have you ever wondered how your wiring impacts the way you communicate, your energy levels, your passions, your anxieties and your greatest contributions to any community? This week, Jeff and Terra take time to share insights, based on their experience using the Core Values Index (CVI), that will impact every relationship that matters to you. If you are not familiar with the Core Values Index, the Mattsons have used this time-tested assessment for the...2022-08-0236 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat to do if your child says “I hate you”The most important thing to remember if your child says “I hate you” is not to react or take it personally. We all say things we don’t mean when we are tired, hungry or afraid, and we put these emotions on those we feel safest with. We will remind you to ask questions, not let your children’s behaviors dictate how you love them, and to get professional help if this is an ongoing issue.2022-08-0105 min
Raising SinnersRaising Confident Daughters with Terra MattsonSome days podcasting is easy and today was one of those days. Terra Mattson joined us for this episode, and she is so easy to talk to, so knowledgeable and just REAL! She’s raising two daughters, we’ve raised two daughters each, so we were all on the same page! And that was good because our subject was GIRLS! Terra is a spokesperson for Christian Parenting so maybe you’ve seen her videos on your feed! She and her hubby, Jeff, live in Oregon and have a ministry called Living Wholehearted. It’s a professional counseling and organizational developmen...2022-07-2832 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I help my high school child plan for the future without putting too much stress on them?God created your child and knows the plans he has for them. When we get our perspective as parents in check it helps lead our children in peace. It is important to remind our children to work hard and do their best, but who they are as a person is separate from what they do. We will remind you to frame this conversation as an adventure, remember that there are a lot of options besides college, and that ultimately we can’t mess up God’s plan. Check out these similar resources: A word to par...2022-07-2507 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I set boundaries and discipline my toddler?Two year olds are learning that they can do it themselves and build confidence apart from you. There is a balance between giving them freedom to learn cause and effect and disciplining. Join us as we talk through ideas on how to give your toddler choices that will help them feel independent while also setting boundaries. Check out these similar resources: Help! I am always saying “No” to my toddler Decide to discipline: Toddlers Pointing your preschooler to Jesus 2022-07-1806 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 139: Why Leaders Need Rest & Play AND How We Actually Do ItJoin Jeff and Terra for a conversation about why it’s so hard for leaders to rest and play. They address two common lies leaders believe: The first, “If I don’t do it, no one else will … do it, do it right, or do it well.” The second lie, “I am what I do” and playing and rest feels outside my sense of self or identity. Though it’s common for leaders to regularly fire on all cylinders, to live in a constant state of busyness, the Mattsons are calling wholehearted leaders to LEARN how to rest and play. This is cr...2022-07-1237 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I help my child find their activity or sport?We live in an achievement oriented culture and the pressure to know your expertise at an early age is an outside pressure. As a parent we want to help our children discover their passions, but remember it takes time to figure out what you are good at and what you enjoy. It is important to remind your child that we are not what we do. Join us as we talk through ideas to help your child find out how they are wired and what activities they may enjoy. Check out these similar resources: Are par...2022-07-1106 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 138: Raising Girls in Today’s World: A Conversation with the Host’s DaughterAdonia Mattson is Jeff and Terra Mattson's oldest daughter. She's 15 and just finishing her freshman year of public high school outside Portland, Oregon. Listen in as Terra interviews Adonia about the impact of their years having intentional conversations. She talks about confidence, identity, comparison, pressures, and she shares an inside peek at Jeff and Terra's marriage. Adonia leaves parents with a word of encouragement. Terra hopes that this open and honest conversation with Adonia will not only encourage your parenting journey today, but will inspire you to lead well and pursue your daughter's heart. Terra i...2022-07-0533 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraAre sleepover parties safe?You are the parent and need to discern what's best for you and your child, but we say no to sleepovers in our family. It’s about risk assessment, and we decided sleepovers are not worth the risk. A lot of experimentation and exposure occurs at sleepovers and just because a family says they love Jesus does not mean they are safe. Join us as we discuss “late overs” and ways your child can join in the fun without the risk of sleepovers. Check out these similar resources: Teaching kids about boundaries Talking about sex: Big...2022-07-0407 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHelp! My teen doesn’t like our churchIt’s normal that teens begin to pull away from their family and are focused on their peer group, so what do you do when that impacts the church they want to attend? Join us as we walk you through steps to sit down and have an open conversation with your teen. We will encourage you to validate, empathize and help your child think critically about the reasons behind their desire for change and be prepared to compromise if appropriate. Check out these similar resources: Teenagers are church members, too What if my child hate...2022-06-2705 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 136: How Fathers Can Shrink Their Integrity GapsDo you enjoy the episodes when the Mattsons jump on the podcast to share their own insights and the principles they live and lead from? Well today is one of those days. Terra and Jeff are honest about their own humanity as they come alongside leaders from all over the country. So, Terra thought it would be fun to interview Jeff about his own journey as a dad to their two daughters as well as the many struggles and triumphs he sees walking alongside men who are attempting to shrink their own integrity gaps at h...2022-06-2136 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow to help your child navigate anxietyAnxiety at all age levels is at an all time high. Children have not had the opportunity to navigate normal social situations the past few years, so they may be extra anxious when new situations arise. Join us as we walk through tips to prepare your children for new situations and what to do when anxiety arises. Links for Supplemental Resources: Making a toolbox for anxiety Three things your kids need today 10 Bible verses about anxiety Helping moms raise confident daughters 2022-06-2008 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhen friends turn parenting into a competitionIt’s natural to do some comparing when you have children the same age, but it can quickly turn into a competition. Close friendships go through seasons, and it’s important to view conflict as an opportunity to grow closer and deepen true friendships. Join us as we talk about healthy ways to move through conflict. Check out these similar resources: Helping our children love each other well Three tips for managing family conflict as a solo parent Three reasons why I am a “Judgy Mom” and three ways to stop Helping mo...2022-06-1304 minLiving Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 134: Faithfully Different: Living From a Biblical Worldview in a Secular World with Natasha CrainIn an increasingly secular society, those who have a biblical worldview are now a shrinking minority. As mainstream culture grows more hostile toward the Bible’s truths and those who embrace them, how can Christians stand firm as they face the mounting pressures—from family, friends, media, academia, and government—to change or even abandon their beliefs? Today the Mattsons talk with Natasha Crain about leading well in the midst of our modern American culture, both in our homes and in our communities. Natasha Crain recently published a book, Faithfully Different: Regaining Biblical Clarity in a Secular Culture. 2022-06-0749 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraStop the sibling rivalryJoin us as we discuss sibling rivalry and how to encourage our family members to intentionally affirm each other. We will walk you through practical ways to encourage your children to celebrate their siblings' gifts and achievements. Competition isn’t a bad thing, but sometimes we need to reframe it so that our children acknowledge and see others' gifts as well as their own. Check out these similar resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-our-children-love-each-other-well/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/are-your-kids-sick-of-each-other/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/sibling-harmony/ 2022-05-0904 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHelp! My child whines all the time.Whining is a form of manipulation and we need to teach our children a better way to communicate. Join us as we walk through 3 important communication skills your children need to learn to stop the whining. Teaching our kids healthy forms of communication is a life skill worth investing in. Check out these similar resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/3-ways-to-love-your-challenging-toddler-well/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/becoming-sensitive-to-gods-presence-in-a-hypersensitive-world/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/try-helpful-parenting-phrases/ 2022-05-0205 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I tell my adult daughter that I don’t like her boyfriend?As our children grow into adulthood, we have to lean into the investments we have made in them throughout their childhood. If you do not approve of the relationship choices your child is making, we will encourage you to express your concerns, give tangible reasons for your opinions, and open up the lines of communications. We will also remind you that sometimes it is appropriate to keep our opinions to ourselves and give the situation to God. Check out these similar resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/learning-to-trust-god-with-your-adult-children/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/independent-dependents-the-faith-of-your-grown-children/ ht...2022-04-2503 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraIs time out an effective discipline method?Time out is a great method to calm ourselves down, and it teaches children to self regulate their emotions. We will walk you through effective ways to use the time out and time in approach with your child and encourage you to use it as a parent when you need a break as well. Check out these similar resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/visuals-over-verbals/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/help-kids-learn-mistakes/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/children-are-complex/ 2022-04-1804 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow to approach transgender topics with your teenWhat do you do if your child tells you they are transgender? As a professional counselor we have been processing this with parents and kids for many years. It’s ok to be sad and concerned, but don’t panic, this doesn’t surprise God. We will encourage you to get support, continue to pursue a relationship with your child and hold the tension of love and truth as you navigate this journey. Links for Supplemental Resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/meet-them-with-jesus-responding-biblically-to-our-kids-problems/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/talking-with-your-kids-about-dating-and-relationships/ https://www.centerforfaith.com/ 2022-04-1106 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I get my kids to help out with chores?Having our kids help out around the house can seem like more work for us, but remember we are teaching skills that will benefit our kids into adulthood. Join us as we give you practical ideas to implement chores for your children and talk through ways to set your child up for long-term success. Links for Supplemental Resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/raise-your-children-to-be-independent-its-ok-if-its-hard/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-raise-diy-kids/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/letting-go/ 2022-04-0406 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I explain homosexuality to my kids?With media at our fingertips, most kids are exposed to sex and homosexuality from a young age. We need to have age appropriate, intentional conversations with our kids early so that we will be their trusted guide, and they will come to us with questions. Join us as we walk through how to discuss homosexuality with care and grace as we remind our children that everyone is worthy of dignity and respect and that we all need a Savior. Links for Supplemental Resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/talking-about-sex-big-words-for-little-ears/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/m...2022-03-2805 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraShould I let my child connect with friends online?Kids that are constantly on social media and video games are missing out on the face to face connections that are vital to our human development and long term life skills. Join us as we talk through how to pursue your child and learn about the games he is playing and the friends he is connecting with online. We will also discuss how to create options and experiences outside of the digital space to foster those face to face connections that our children need. Links for Supplemental Resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-your-son-navigate-the-digital-age/ h...2022-03-2103 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHelp! I am always saying “No” to my toddler.The toddler and teen years are when kids push the limits, so it is normal to feel like you are constantly saying “No”. Join us as we walk through how to become a “Yes” parent by offering choices and consequences. We talk about when children are old enough to understand consequences, how to redirect younger toddlers and the correct language to use that will set your child up for success. Links for Supplemental Resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/3-ways-to-love-your-challenging-toddler-well/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/decide-discipline-toddlers/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/pointing-your-preschooler-to-jesus/ 2022-03-0704 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I set boundaries with my parents and in-laws?Grandparents are a huge blessing to our children, but sometimes they do not realize that we parent differently than how we were raised. We will walk you through three steps that will show you how to affirm grandparents contributions, while still setting boundaries. Links for Supplemental Resources: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/four-truths-about-childhood-for-grandparents-to-embrace/ https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/three-ways-to-strengthen-the-bond-with-your-grandkids/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=px5AzUGaHow&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=13 2022-02-2805 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I encourage my daughter to dress modestly?The way we dress informs the world a little bit about you. We want to take shame and legalism out of the modesty discussion and make sure that we do not put the pressure of others' purity on our daughters. Instead join us as we discuss how to encourage our daughters to dress in a way that will highlight who they are and not put the focus on their body.2022-02-2105 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHelp! What do I do when my child is not attending church?When you regularly attend church and make God a priority, it is extremely hard to watch your college child not make that same choice. College is when a lot of kids make their faith their own and live that out in different ways. We will encourage you to give your child room to breathe and make their own choices, but continue to pursue them as a person and stay connected. Grace takes the long view and this time away from church may just be a small part of their story.2022-02-1405 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWhat to do if my child is a bullyAs a parent, we are on alert and try to protect our children from being bullied, but what happens when we realize our child is the bully? Remember insecurity is at the core of bullying and you need to discover why your child is acting out. We will walk you through teaching your child to ask for forgiveness and how to work with the other parents as you build a safe community that encourages our children to repair relationships after they mess up.2022-02-0706 min
Let's Parent on Purpose: Christian Marriage, Parenting, and DiscipleshipEp. 263: Closing the Integrity Gap in the Home with Jeff and Terra Mattson Our culture is obsessed with influencers and leadership, but parents often forget that their primary opportunity for leadership and influence is in their own household. My guests Jeff and Terra Mattson talk with me about the distance between what we say and what we do in our families, and how that damages our credibility. We discuss the necessity to recognize the influence of our own childhood families, the importance of grieving trauma and loss, and empathizing even when we don’t agree with the other side. Jeff and Terra are a husband and wife team who...2022-02-0639 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I encourage my child when they don’t receive awards?We live in a culture that focuses on achievement and grooms our children to desire recognition. The scriptures are full of parables and ways that we can talk to our kids about how God sees us even when others don’t. Join us as we discuss how affirming our children’s gifts even those that are unseen is a powerful way to ease the pain and jealousy of lacking recognition and helps our kids celebrate others well.2022-01-3106 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow to deal with my child viewing pornWe live in a hyper-sexualized culture and the porn industry is out to create addicts. So what do we do if we discover our child has been viewing porn? Join us as we discuss how to turn toward your child and take shame out of the conversation. We will encourage you to take a proactive approach to discussing pornography with your child and remember that it is less about sex and more about connection and emotional intimacy. Links for Supplemental Resources: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-freedom-fight-and-the-pornography-conversation/id1483802883?i=1000526358181 https://podcasts.apple.com/us...2022-01-2906 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow to handle meltdowns in publicHelp! What do I do when my toddler has a meltdown in public? Join us as we walk through specific steps to make a plan to tame the tantrums. We will remind you to set reasonable expectations, set up a simple reward system and give lots of grace as we train our little ones.2022-01-1704 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 113: The Power of Time Budgeting & Our Core Value Index (Part 2)It’s the beginning of the year and as you are considering what goals to set or reset, the Mattsons thought it would be the perfect time to discuss the skill of TIME BUDGETING. In Part 2 of this conversation, Jeff and Terra explore the impact of one’s Core Value Index on the way they view and steward time. If you are not familiar with the Core Values Index, the Mattsons use this time tested assessment in their twenty years of practice, helping parents, couples families and organizational teams grow in their understanding of self and others. The CVI is o...2022-01-1136 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I talk to my child about sex?Sex can be an uncomfortable conversation to have with our kids, but we need to have these discussions early and often so that that our children have a healthy biblical view of sexuality. Join us as we talk through when and how to start the conversation. We will encourage you to have an ongoing open dialogue about sex so there is no added shame and our kids will feel safe to come to us with questions.2022-01-1005 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 112: The Power of Time BudgetingIt’s the beginning of the year and as you are considering what goals to set or reset, the Mattsons thought it would be the perfect time to discuss the skill of TIME BUDGETING. Like budgeting money, time is a resource we often believe we have little or none to give away. Leaders are at the top of the list, running ragged and sacrificing what they say they love the most at the end of each day. So in this episode, Jeff and Terra talk about the art of stewarding our calendars, giving practical tips to shrink the integrity ga...2022-01-0434 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I build healthy self-esteem in my children?How can we raise our children to have a healthy self-esteem and be confident in who God created them to be while still encouraging humility? If we expect perfection and are constantly correcting, this leads to insecurity. Instead, we will encourage you to notice and affirm who your kids are and the gifts that God has given them, so that they will not seek that affirmation elsewhere. 2021-12-2006 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow can I encourage my kids to love people no matter their beliefs?How do we shield and protect our kids while still encouraging them to have non-Christian friends? Teaching our kids to identify counterfeit by knowing what is real and studying God’s word is the best place to start. We will walk through three tips that will help us get out of our comfort zone while still holding true to our core values and beliefs.2021-12-1312 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I be consistent in discipline?God gives us limits and guardrails because he loves us, and we need to do the same for our children. Rules without relationships breeds rebellion and relationships without rules breeds entitlement. Join us as we walk through how to find the balance between the two and become the parents God wants us to be.2021-12-0606 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I help my kids make their faith their own?We take our children to church and read the Bible to them, but how do we help our kids develop real faith? Join us as we seek to recognize that God made each of our children uniquely in order to encourage them to experience God in their own way. Be open about your faith and talk about all that God is doing in your own life and your children will be encouraged to make their faith their own as well.2021-11-2908 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraI want to be a good parent but I am exhausted all of the timeRaising kids is exhausting and balance is an illusion when parenting young children. The order of our priorities should be God, marriage, children, and when we get those out of order, life can feel overwhelming. Quality time with your children is important, but put your guilt aside and remember that your kids do not have to be constantly entertained.2021-11-2206 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I keep from losing my temper and yelling at my children?The Mattsons give us practical steps for regulating our own emotions before we take them out on our children. When we inevitably mess up, they remind us that owning our responses and asking for forgiveness repairs relationships and models those skills to our children.2021-11-1506 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraMy kid is addicted to their phone, help!More than ever, smartphones are a part of our children’s lives, but they can become addictive and cause more harm than good. What are some steps we can take to set parameters with technology as a family? The Mattsons are in this technology battle with us and remind us that ground rules are important, but relationships and modeling are the most important thing when it comes to teaching our children how to use technology.2021-11-0808 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow do I help my kids with big emotions?Parenting teens and the roller coaster of emotions that they experience can be difficult without the right tools to help them along their journey. The Mattsons show us how to stay calm and keep our children grounded when big emotions are on the rise. Join us as we learn to mirror emotions, create 5 calming strategies and parent our teens with grace during emotional times. 2021-11-0211 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraHow young is too young for my kids to have a boyfriend or girlfriend?Jeff and Terra kick off episode one of their new series by answering the question every parent wants to know...How young is too young for my kids to have a boyfriend or girlfriend? The Mattsons remind us that every child is different and they walk through questions to discuss with kids to help navigate the intimidating subject of dating. Join us as we forgo shame in our parenting and work to have open communication with our children, especially as we cross these big milestones.2021-10-2505 min
Dear Mattsons with Jeff and TerraWelcome to Dear Mattsons!Parenting is one of the greatest leadership roles. And yet, most parents feel ill-equipped for its up and down challenges. There are no manuals or graduate schools for how to parent your unique child(ren) and at the end of the day, parenting can just feel a little too much like gambling. That’s why we are bringing you Jeff Mattson, MA Org.L and Terra Mattson, MA LPC, LMFT, a husband and wife team who are raising two daughters of their own in the great Northwest. With 20 years of experience in marriage and family ther...2021-10-1503 min
Stay Forth Leadership Podcast151 - Jeff & Terra Mattson ”What are warning signs for leaders?”HAPPY THANKSGIVING! From everyone at Stay Forth Designs we hope that even in the midst of these interesting times you have a blessed day with your those closest to you.
On today's episode of the podcast Alan sits down with Jeff and Terra Mattson for a great conversation about warning signs leaders need to be aware of and pay attention to. Jeff and Terra recently spoke at our Healthy Leaders Summit.
About Jeff and Terra
Living Wholehearted founders Jeff & Terra Mattson are passionate about living lives that reflect integrity, healing, and authenticity. They m...2020-11-2634 min
The Flourishing Culture Leadership PodcastS5E35: Why Exceptional Leaders Make Integrity a Priority // Jeff and Terra Mattson, Living WholeheartedEvery leader leaves a wake behind them. Whether the wake is positive or negative depends on their integrity. Today's episode is for Christian leaders who hope to live and finish strong. What are the secrets that are creating an integrity gap in your life, today? To learn about the common pitfalls and anecdotes that will help you flourish, stay tuned! If you’re a leader, or if you work alongside a leader, or you aspire to be a leader, get ready. We’re going to talk about one of the biggest trouble spots leaders face. Something we’ve never...2020-11-0944 min
Pardon the Mess with Courtney DeFeo - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian KidsRaising courageous girls with Terra MattsonTerra’s ministry lies at the corner of theology and therapy. She is available NOW to share healthy relationship wisdom with parents of girls (from her new book, Courageous): ª How to raise courageous girls in a world of fear, anxiety and loneliness ª Teaching the truth about intimacy: we are loved and can have intimacy with God and others outside of sex ª Empowering daughters (and moms!) with five tools for creating calm in the midst of anxiety ª How emotions help us discover our authentic self and deeply connect with God and others ª S...2020-05-1534 min