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Rearview Mirror PodcastDiscussing a Dr. Delony talk about DadsIn this episode, Jeff and Steve unpack key takeaways from a recent talk they heard by Dr. John Delony, focused on the pressures, struggles, and internal battles men—and particularly fathers—commonly face. They appreciated Delony's honest, vulnerable approach, noting how he shared personal stories that resonated deeply without shifting into a rigid list of "shoulds" or prescriptions.Instead, Delony invited men to sit with their experiences, to acknowledge the weight they carry, and to reflect on the complexity of their reality without rushing to fix or dismiss it. Jeff and Steve reflect on how refreshing that post...2025-06-2735 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastListener's Question: Caught in the Middle of Family ConflictsIn this episode, Jeff and Steve respond to a listener’s question about how to support a family member who frequently finds themselves caught in the middle of two others in conflict. They explore the concept of triangulation—the unhealthy dynamic where a third party becomes the go-between—and offer practical guidance on boundary setting to avoid being pulled into drama that’s not theirs to resolve. Jeff and Steve also discuss the value of understanding our conflict styles, and how recognizing whether we tend to avoid, accommodate, compete, or collaborate can shape the way we engage (or disengage) from rel...2025-06-2036 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastListener's Question: Work and AmbitionIn Episode 19 of The Rearview Mirror podcast, Jeff and Steve dive into the topic of work—how it shapes us, stretches us, and sometimes stirs up deeper questions of calling and identity. They respond to honest listener questions about generational shifts in how we approach careers, how ambition fits with faith, and how to discern when it's time to move on from a role. One listener wonders if the guilt of taking personal time as a working parent ever fades, and Jeff and Steve reflect with empathy and experience, acknowledging the tension many feel between responsibility and renewal. Throughout th...2025-06-131h 01
Rearview Mirror PodcastContentment vs. ComplacencyIn episode 18 (or season 2, episode 2!) of The Rearview Mirror Podcast, Jeff and Steve dive into the fine line between contentment and complacency—a conversation sparked by a probing question from one of Jeff’s sons. With honesty and humor, they unpack what it means to live with peace and gratitude without losing drive or purpose. Are you truly content—or just stuck? Tune in for a grounded and relatable take on ambition, aging, and learning to rest without giving up.2025-06-0647 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastBlind SpotsIn this episode of The Rearview Mirror, Jeff and Steve take on the topic of blind spots—the unseen patterns and behaviors that quietly shape our lives. They discuss how these blind spots often come to light not through introspection, but through relationships. It’s the people closest to us—a spouse, a close friend, a mentor—who often see what we can’t and have the clarity to call it out.This conversation is both a mirror and a challenge—encouraging listeners to identify who in their life has permission to speak truth and urging them to listen wh...2025-05-3053 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastListener's Question: Loneliness vs. Being AloneIn this episode of the Rearview Mirror podcast, Jeff and Steve respond to a listener’s question about the difference between loneliness and being alone and how easy it is to use those words interchangably. They reflect on how loneliness can be an emotional signal—often tied to deeper feelings like sadness or fear—while being alone can be a conscious, healthy choice that leads to self-awareness and clarity. Understanding the difference is important. The discussion encourages listeners to sit with their loneliness, explore what’s underneath it, and recognize it as a call for connection, not just company. At its c...2025-05-1645 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastRambling ReflectionsIn Episode 15, Steve and Jeff settle into a relaxed, free-flowing conversation that meanders through a variety of topics without a set agenda—true to the spirit of looking back in the rearview mirror. They reflect on the journey of the podcast itself, wondering aloud whether they've covered all the ground they can, and whether it's time for a break or just a shift in pace. The upcoming Mother’s Day gets a mention, prompting some appreciation and reflection.The conversation drifts to the joy—and occasional disbelief—of watching their adult children find success and independence. They also exp...2025-05-0948 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastGame Changing MomentsIn this episode of The Rearview Mirror, Jeff and Steve reflect on pivotal, “game changing” moments that have shaped their lives. Through honest and engaging conversation, they explore how certain events, comments, and decisions—both big and small—have had lasting impact across different seasons of life.Whether it’s a mentor’s encouragement, a moment of crisis, or a personal realization, Jeff and Steve show how looking back reveals the ways these moments were more than chance—they were turning points that continue to echo forward. The conversation is rich with personal stories, spiritual reflection, and an invitation...2025-05-0251 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastParenting Adult ChildrenEpisode 13 of the Rearview Mirror Podcast features a thoughtful conversation between Jeff and Steve as they explore the evolving dynamics of relating to adult children, rather than continuing to "parent" them in the traditional sense. They reflect on their own relationships with their grown kids, recognizing that the parenting role has shifted into something more consultant-like—offering wisdom when invited, but primarily being a source of trust, encouragement, and support. This episode offers a heartfelt and relatable take on what it means to parent with open hands and a full heart as roles evolve over time. Connect: re...2025-04-2554 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastLoss, Change and the Hope of EasterIn this deeply personal Good Friday episode, Jeff and Steve reflect on the reality of change and the importance of healthy transition--especially in light of the recent miscarriage of one of Jeff's grandchildren. Drawing on William Bridges' wisdom that "change is external, transition is internal," they explore the three stage of transition: an ending, the messy middle and a new beginning.They discuss how we navigate that difficult middle space, where grief, uncertainty and growth often collide. From the changing of seasons to the story of Easter, and from personal loss to life's many shifts--aging, sports, job...2025-04-1843 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastReframing Mistakes, Mishits and MisbehaviorsIn this episode, Jeff and Steve dive into the power of reframing—shifting our perspective to navigate life’s challenges more effectively. From mishits on the golf course to missteps in relationships, they explore how setbacks don’t have to define us. Instead of getting stuck in the moment, they encourage listeners to see failure as part of a bigger story—one that’s still being written.The episode emphasizes that failures aren’t final and that we always have the chance to ask, “Maybe?” or “And…?” to discover new possibilities. By choosing to “just do the next right thing,” we mo...2025-04-1145 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastThe Power of Connecting with OthersIn this episode, Jeff and Steve explore why community and connection are essential for a healthy life. From church groups to dinner parties, they discuss what makes a group thrive—trust, vulnerability, and shared purpose. They highlight the value of going deeper with others and why some groups succeed while others don’t.The conversation covers different types of groups, including organic friend circles, study groups, and accountability groups rooted in recovery principles. They clarify that true accountability isn’t about control, but about supporting each other with honesty and grace. Building real community takes risk—but it’s wor2025-04-0450 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastI Had a Beer With My Younger Self Last NightFollowing the social media trend of "I had a cup of coffee with my younger self this morning", Jeff wrote his own story called "I had a beer with my younger self last night." This exercise of self-compassion provides a chance to look in the rearview mirror at what a 20 year olds world view looked like and what advice and wisdom an older version wants to offer. After reading this to Steve they discussed key topics such as viewing authority with a better perspective, financial management, how to leave wounds in the past and move forward with healed scars. 2025-03-2857 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastFitness, Food and Figuring it OutIn this episode, Jeff and Steve dive into the world of health, wellness, exercise, and nutrition—not as experts, but as two guys figuring it out along the way. Steve shares some of his best workout practices, while Jeff opens up about his struggles with discipline and makes a commitment to a new approach. It’s an honest, lighthearted conversation about the challenges and small victories of staying healthy. Tune in for relatable insights, a few laughs, and maybe even some motivation to get moving!2025-03-2144 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastThe Triads of the Enneagram, Part 2In episode 7 of the Rearview Mirror Podcast, Jeff and Steve continue their discussion on the Enneagram, focusing on the concept of triads. This is Part 2 of their exploration of the Enneagram, where they break down how the nine personality types are grouped into three triads, each defined by a core emotional response to the world.The triads include:The Gut (Instinct) Triad (Types 8, 9, and 1) – Driven by anger, these types react to life based on instinct and a desire for autonomy or control.The Heart (Feeling) Triad (Types 2, 3, and 4) – Motivated by shame, individuals in this group seek affi...2025-03-1451 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastOur Introduction to the Enneagram, Part 1In Episode 6 of The Rearview Mirror Podcast, Jeff Helton and Steve Pierce give a high-level overview to the Enneagram, a personality framework that explores nine distinct types. They discuss how each type expresses itself in a healthy, resourceful way and contrast that with the shadow side—unhealthy patterns that can emerge under stress or insecurity.Using real-life examples, Jeff and Steve illustrate the strengths of each number, such as the natural leadership of Type 8 (The Challenger) or the compassionate care of Type 2 (The Helper), while also highlighting potential pitfalls, like control issues or people-pleasing tendencies. Their conversation pr...2025-03-071h 05
Rearview Mirror PodcastBurnt Brisket, Undercooked Chicken and Getting OlderIn this episode of Rearview Mirror, the conversation heats up—literally—with fire stories, cooking successes and failures, and the glory of Texas BBQ. But just like life, the discussion takes an unexpected turn, shifting from sizzling grills to the arrival of a new grandbaby. With this milestone, the conversation deepens into reflections on aging, the second half of life, and learning to embrace change. Instead of dwelling on regrets, Steve and Jeff explore how mistakes can shape growth, the importance of moving forward, and how to navigate the inevitable transitions of life with grace and humor.A mi...2025-02-2858 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastReflections on Valentine's Day, Love and MarriageIn this post-Valentine’s Day episode, Jeff and Steve look back on their combined 65-plus years of marriage, reflecting on the lessons learned along the way. They discuss their "marriage faux pas" with their wives, share personal stories, wisdom and things they wish they had known in the early days.A major topic was conflict in marriage, including emotional flooding and the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse of relational conflict, as described by Dr. John Gottman (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling). They talked about how the horsemen can erode intimacy if left unchecked. At the same time, wh...2025-02-211h 06
Rearview Mirror PodcastMessy Looks Different for Our KidsIn this episode of The Rearview Mirror Podcast, Steve and Jeff explore how the next generation is navigating and embracing their faith in an ever-changing world. They discuss themes like relativism, deconstruction, and the remarkable openness this generation brings to their spiritual journeys. Honoring their compassion, grace, and tolerance, Steve and Jeff reflect on how younger believers walk in others’ shoes with a deep awareness of their own limitations. It’s an inspiring conversation about the evolving nature of faith and the lessons older generations can learn from the next.2025-02-1435 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastMessy SpiritualityIn this episode of The Rearview Mirror Podcast, Jeff and Steve dive into their journeys from rigid, legalistic faith backgrounds to a more open and authentic spirituality. Reflecting on how life has shaped their perspectives, they explore how faith, while still rooted in foundational truths, has become more nuanced and less black-and-white than what they were taught growing up. It’s an honest and thoughtful conversation about the beauty of growth, doubt, and embracing the messiness of faith.2025-02-0745 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastFrom Panera to a PodcastIn the debut episode of The Rearview Mirror Podcast, Steve and Jeff reflect on their 20-year friendship, countles coffee chats at Panera, and the journey that led them to launch a podcast. With no rigid agenda, they dive into the heart of their goal: creating a space for honest conversations about life’s wins, losses, and everything in between. Two imperfect guys, sharing lessons and laughter, and inviting you to join the ride.Connect with us: RearviewMirror25@gmail.com2025-01-3139 min
Rearview Mirror PodcastRearview Mirror TrailerRearview Mirror Podcast with Jeff Helton and Steve Pierce is a heartfelt and reflective journey through life’s twists and turns. In each episode, the duo looks back on where they’ve been, candidly sharing lessons learned along the way. With honesty and humor, they explore their successes, missteps, and the in-between moments in areas like relationships, faith, family, and personal growth. Steve and Jeff’s relatable storytelling and thoughtful insights invite listeners to reflect on their own paths, reminding us all that life is a mix of mistakes made, wisdom gained, and moments worth cherishing.2025-01-3000 min