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Off The RocksEpisode 31: Taking Breaks, Summer Holidays & TTFN!# Episode Notes
Episode Thirty One: Taking Breaks, Summer Holidays & TTFN!
In this episode, Jen and Sara talk about the vital importance of taking breaks. They discuss the many benefits of stepping away from things in order to gain perspective and take time to reassess, recharge and redirect.
They chat about the value of taking breaks from all manner of things; work, booze, people, exercise, diets. (Just don’t expect Sara to take a break from smoked salmon ok. She appears to have a raging addiction to it and we should probably stage an in...2019-05-3059 minOff The RocksEpisode 30: Can You Really Be Friends With An Ex?# Episode Notes
Episode Thirty: Can You Really Be Friends With An Ex?
Today Jen and Sara are asked: can you really be friends with an ex?
It’s a tricky question, with many variables and they give their honest views and personal experiences, but only after Sara suddenly derails the convo with an anecdote about cat rape.
Back on topic though - Sara has an ex who’s become one of her closest friends. Jen has an ex who doesn’t give her the time of day. It takes all sorts to mak...2019-05-2351 minOff The RocksEpisode 29: I Thought This Was Meant To Be Fun?# Episode Notes
Episode Twenty Nine: I Thought This Was Meant To Be Fun?
Today, Jen and Sara have a little catch up. Jen is about to move flats from a tiny studio to a (comparatively) huge place, which will look super minimalist because - thanks to living in a tiny place for the past year - she has no furniture anymore.
Sara is soon to take a trip to New Zealand, where she plans to ask Jacinda Ardern whether she fancies coming on the podcast. So, that’s as good as in the ba...2019-05-1647 minOff The RocksEpisode 28: This Is What I Want To Be! (I think.)**# Episode Notes
Episode Twenty Eight: This Is What I Want To Be! (I think.)**
In this episode Jen and Sara answer another listener email. This one is from Brittany; a marathon running legend who wants to take a booze break but doesn’t know if she has what it takes to make that change.
Jen thinks cognitive dissonance commonly precedes any big lifestyle adjustment. That it’s just par for the course and dwelling on uncertain outcomes only serves to keep us stuck, fearing failure.
So just do it, Britt! You tota...2019-05-0954 minOff The RocksEpisode 27: Snooping, Sneaking & Coming Clean**# Episode Notes
Episode Twenty Seven: Snooping, Sneaking & Coming Clean**
On the podcast this week Jen and Sara address a listener’s dilemma about whether he should confront his girlfriend about some troubling things he’s read about in her diary.
The advice is that, firstly, he should stop bloody well reading his girlfriend’s diary!
And secondly, he should tell his girlfriend that he’s been reading her diary and unreservedly apologise for being a gigantic boundary-overstepping nosey parker.
Probably not the sympathetic advice he was hoping for, but what you...2019-05-0245 minOff The RocksEpisode 26: Childhood Trauma, Feeling your Feelings & Sitting with DiscomfortEpisode Notes
Episode Twenty Six: Childhood Trauma, Feeling your Feelings & Sitting with Discomfort
In this week’s episode Jen and Sara help a listener who’s written in saying that she can’t stand her boyfriend’s children.
Sara offers her perspective as a therapist and as someone who’s dated a single mother.
Jen draws on her experiences of being a child of divorced parents.
Essentially, Sara handled her situation by encouraging the child to make her toast.
Jen dealt with things by developing attachment issues which late...2019-04-2559 minOff The RocksEpisode 25: Dating, Failed Relationships & Being Disappointed with DollyEpisode Notes
Episode Twenty Five: Dating, Failed Relationships & Being Disappointed with Dolly
Sara’s all loved up at the moment (so is Jen but she doesn’t bang on about it half as much). So the topic of convo today is mostly about relationships; how to get into them, how to stay in them and how to spectacularly fail at them. Both Jen and Sara have extensive experience in that department and they’re not afraid to exploit it in the name of podcast fodder.
They also chat about the phenomenon of being ghoste...2019-04-1848 minOff The RocksEpisode 24: Ethical Dilemmas, Frog Collections & E.T.Episode Notes
Episode Twenty Four: Ethical Dilemmas, Frog Collections & E.T.
What do you do when someone gives you a gift (an ornamental frog, for instance) that you don’t like? What do you do when that person keeps giving you gifts (several ornamental frogs) that you don’t like? Do you lean into it, get a few display cabinets and become a reluctant collector or do you have a word with them?
Jen and Sara discuss this tricky ethical dilemma and ultimately decide that it’s all about boundaries (and vaginas) again.
...2019-04-1149 minOff The RocksEpisode 23: Good Loving, Bad Reviews & Subpar Post OfficesEpisode Notes
Episode Twenty Three: Good Loving, Bad Reviews & Subpar Post Offices
In this episode Jen and Sara give advice to a listener who’s still single at 35 and worried about being left on the shelf forever. He wonders if his standards are too high and we agree that they probably are. ‘If you want to get into a relationship, all you have to do is lower your standards sufficiently.’ That’s the basic gist of our amazing advice and you can’t argue with that.
Jen realises she’s had a negative review for h...2019-04-0451 minOff The RocksEpisode 22: Polyamory, Gayness & BoobsEpisode Notes
In this episode Jen and Sara help another listener out with some great advice. (We use the word ‘help’ very loosely and ‘great advice’ is also a bit strong.)
Concerned Of Yorkshire wants him and his hubs to open their relationship up to a wider audience, but wonders if that’s wise. So we discuss the pros and cons of polyamory, whether we’d do it ourselves and, if we did, what our boundaries might be.
Sara chats about her experiences of coming out as gay and Jen ponders how strange that is. 2019-03-2858 min