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Light Work by Dear PatriarchyPart Two of Presence Practice in Times of ChaosIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Light Work — a soft place to land in what could otherwise be a hard moment. We’re two sisters walking the path of healing together. In this space, we share honest conversations about the practices that have helped us reconnect with presence and a deeper sense of meaning in our daily lives.This episode is the second part of our multi-part series on healing modalities, beginning with something beautifully simple and profoundly accessible...
2026-02-0531 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyToolkit: Drumming MeditationIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Light Work — a soft place to land in what might otherwise be a hard day. We wanted to offer up a short, unguided drumming meditation as another way to rest the thinking mind and allow the body and nervous system to lead.The buffalo drum has deep roots in Indigenous and shamanic traditions across many cultures. This offering is shared with respect for those lineages, without claim to title or ancestry, and with gra...
2026-01-2610 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyToolkit: Embodied Presence PracticeIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Light Work — a soft place to land in what might otherwise be a hard day.We wanted to offer up a short embodied presence practice for moments that feel heavy, loud, or disconnected. Making time in your day to pause & connect back in is a beautiful way to be present.In this practice, we focus on the body and the breath first and then notice the subtle aliveness that’s always present in us ben...
2026-01-2611 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyPresence Practice in Times of ChaosIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Light Work — a soft place to land in what could otherwise be a very hard day. We’re two sisters walking the path of healing together. In this space, we share honest conversations about the practices that have helped us reconnect with presence and a deeper sense of meaning in our daily lives.This episode opens our multi-part series on healing modalities, beginning with something beautifully simple and profoundly accessible: meditation — or presence pra...
2026-01-2332 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyHealing Modalities: Part 1 - Bio Tuning & MeditationIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Light Work, a space where two sisters on the path of healing explore powerful and transformative healing modalities.This week's episode is the start of our multi-part series on Healing Modalities.Through sharing our personal experiences and insights from spiritual practice, we dive into the many ways people can reconnect with their true essence, release what no longer serves them, and step into a greater wholeness that allows them to be of servi...
2025-03-2420 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyLight Work: The New UsIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome back to you - and to us! We're returning to our regularly scheduled podcasting (sort of) and we're so excited to take you along on our amazing journey of exploring different healing modalities and ways to bring lightness, and Light Work, into all of our lives.We're looking forward to sharing the future with you - it's going to be a beautiful ride...Lisa & Jen xo
2025-02-1016 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyKat Courtney: Ayahuasca, Plant Medicine & the PatriarchyIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to season 5 of the Dear Patriarchy Podcast - we're back, baby!Season 5 is the beginning of our evolution of the Dear Patriarchy offering. A year and a half ago, we stepped away to start healing and we're bringing back what we've learned and want to continue the healing journey with you.Our first conversation is with the incredible Kat Courtney, founder of Plant Medicine People, who has been involved in the plant medicine and sh...
2024-04-291h 29Light Work by Dear PatriarchyNila Varman: The Joyful ActivistIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to the ninth episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week’s episode, Lisa chats to the fabulous Nila Varman, host of the Nila Extract, an award winning radio show and educational platform that amplifies the voices of those from minority ethnic communities, dispels stereotypes and navigates socially pressing issues that are not spoken about enough. Nila has won many awards for her work...
2023-06-2844 minLight Work by Dear Patriarchy✨Beltane Re-Release✨Shifra Nerenberg: Using intuition to overcome the PatriarchyIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to the eighth episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In honor of Beltane (roll on summer!), this week’s episode is a re-release of our amazing conversation with Shifra Nerenberg (she/ her), owner of Spiral Intuitive & an intersectional feminist based in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina. With more than 20 years experience as an Intuitive Advisor, Shifra guides clients all over the w...
2023-05-0157 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyRE-RELEASE ❤️ Joshua Jernigan: The truth about gender-affirming care for trans childrenIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to the seventh episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.Due to the unprecedented onslaught of anti-trans legislation and the steep rise in anti-trans and anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric in the United States of America, we’re re-releasing our last episode in the hopes that it will spread some much needed truth about trans youth and the support they require. In this episode we...
2023-03-2351 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyJoshua Jernigan: The truth about gender-affirming care for trans childrenIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to the sixth episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week’s episode, we’re hosting the incredible Joshua Jernigan, a trans rights activist and philanthropist living in Charlotte, North Carolina. Josh started the GEN (Gender Education Network) organization which helps transgender and gender diverse kids aged 12 and younger. Josh is a born educator and is deeply passionate about ensur...
2022-12-2150 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyRainbow Connections: Jessica Olzak and Shannon Collins Share Their Overflowing CupsIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to the fifth episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week’s episode, we’re hosting Jessica Olzak and Shannon Collins, creators and co-hosts of Rainbow Connections from the Abington library, a program designed to give youngsters a safe space in which to discuss LGBTQ+ themed books and topics.We started our love fest by chatting with them about the origins of...
2022-12-0551 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyTrans Awareness WeekIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to the fourth episode of series 4, where we’ve been focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us. However, because this week is Trans Awareness Week, we're taking a short break from hosting guests to focus on the trans community and how cis people can be better supporters and allies.We're using information from the excellent Schuyler Bailar, the Human Rights Campaign, and PFLAG to guide this conversation and we've linked back to...
2022-11-1625 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyShifra Nerenberg: Using intuition to overcome the PatriarchyIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to the third episode of series 4, where we’re focusing on the educators, activists, and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week’s episode, we’re hosting Shifra Nerenberg (she/ her), owner of Spiral Intuitive & a lifelong feminist based in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina. With more than 20 years experience as an Intuitive Advisor, she guides clients all over the world in connecting with their own powerful inner wisdom. Shifra does her best to...
2022-11-0757 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchySasspatch: Good stuff is always worth the waitIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to the second episode of series 4 where we’re focusing on the educators, activists and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week’s episode, we’re hosting Gonzy, the fabulous owner of sustainable, feminist British brand Sasspatch. Gonzy's designs uplift you while keeping you grounded, and she specialises in Sassy Positivity: Sweet designs mixed with savage honesty. We talk about the struggle to balance motherhood with paid (and unpaid) work, how all parents...
2022-10-2631 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyUju Asika: The work is more important than your comfortIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to the first episode of series 4 where we’re focusing on the educators, activists and influencers who inspire and guide us.In this week’s episode, we’re hosting the incredible writer Uju Asika. She’s based in London, runs the “Babes About Town” social media accounts and is the author of two incredible books: Bringing up Race: How to Raise a Kind Child in a Prejudiced World and A World for Me and You.We discuss c...
2022-10-1246 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchySeries 3 FinaleIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 20, the finale of series 3! This is our series recap where we discuss which episodes were the most important to us and how we feel the series progressed. We talk about the short-sightedness of the term imposter syndrome, the differences between how both us prepare and gather information for new episodes (research vs. anecdotes), and whether we feel there is a shift taking place which is slowly moving us away from the entrenched patriarchy of societal struc...
2022-08-0318 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyMini-breakdown: Eugenics & Forced SterilizationIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 19(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown on eugenics and how it relates to reproductive healthcare, specifically forced sterilization. She starts by explaining what eugenics, and scientific racism, is at a high level, touching briefly on Margaret Sanger & Planned Parenthood as well as the inherent ableism of eugenics. She goes on to talk about how, in the wake of SCOTUS overturning Roe vs. Wade, many people are suggesting that boys & men (presumably cis-het) should be gi...
2022-07-0512 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyRoe didn’t fall in a dayIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to series 3, episode 18 where we talking about the overturning of Roe vs. Wade by the US Supreme Court. We talk about how we got here, starting with the election of Donald Trump who was voted in overwhelmingly by White women. While the Democratic Party needs to clean their house, White women (us included) need to look at and accept the responsibility we carry because we have historically chosen not to have uncomfortable conversations with each other. We talk...
2022-06-2847 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyRaising Good KidsIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 17 of series 3 where we’re talking about how to raise good kids, which involves educating them (and yourself) about diversity, inclusion and consent. Jenni shares an experience she had with her daughter and Lisa talks about raising White boys, who need a lot of education to ensure they are informed enough to reject the White supremacist, heteropatriarchal and ableist messaging they receive from our social construct. We share books and other great resources for parents and car...
2022-06-1414 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyMini-breakdown: Social Media AllyshipIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 16(ish) of series 3 where Jenni does a mini-breakdown on social media allyship. She starts by running through how important an inclusive mindset is to have and how “un-learning” is the place we all need to start from and continue with as we amplify and share the work of other educators and activists. Jenni goes on to discuss how the systemic foundations of discrimination built around us work to keep us separated and that the right-wing denigrati...
2022-06-0110 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyMini-breakdown: Mass Shootings & The PatriarchyIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 15(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown on the connection between mass shootings and the Patriarchy. There is a clear link between toxic masculinity, misogyny and violence and this mini-sode focused on connecting the dots between them all. Instead of offering thoughts and prayers, we want you to come away from this episode with daily actions that can be applied to yourself, your children (if you have them), and your wider community. If we want t...
2022-05-2609 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyPull the ThreadIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to series 3, episode 14, where we’re talking about all things reproductive and social justice. We start by discussing the potential impact if Roe vs. Wade is overturned, particularly the impact on Black women and women of Color, which leads nicely into breaking down what reproductive justice is, where the term originated (Sister Song) and how we can work for it collectively. We talk about the weight and expectation of activism and how doing the work can sometimes feel li...
2022-05-1832 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyGirlboss ToxicityIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to series 3, episode 13 where we’re discussing the toxicity of the girlboss mentality and how it sets out to use feminism as a cloak for capitalism. We talk about how prominent “girlboss” companies and figureheads successfully weaponised guilt and shame to force women deeper into hustle culture and dispensed advice from a place of privilege that is inaccessible to most women. Jenni dives into her experience of how the impact of the pandemic has pushed women and carers even...
2022-05-1018 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyReimagining SuccessIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 12 of series 3, where we’re discussing what success and achievement look like, particularly for people who identify as women. We break down what society says women need to have to "have it all" and discuss our experience of what having it all does to you on an individual basis. We talk about how the disproportionate care and domestic workload that women are expected to shoulder creates an environment that is incompatible for women to achieve substan...
2022-05-0531 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyInternalized MisogynyIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 11 of series 3, where we’re breaking down internalized misogyny, often misnomered as “toxic femininity.” Before we started our main conversation, we discussed Debanhi Escobar and the global problem of femicide as well as the growing disappearance of girls and women not just in Mexico/Latin America but around the world as well. We then moved on to the hostility women and girls can often exhibit towards other women and girls and the patriarchal reasons behind it. We brea...
2022-04-2740 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyMini-breakdown: Imposter SyndromeIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 10(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown of Imposter Syndrome and why its use as a catch-all term is problematic. Lisa discusses a tweet posted by @theconsciouslee from Juana Hollingsworth (@jewelsfromjuana) about how Dr. Amanda Tachine (@atachine) explained that the original concept of Imposter Syndrome was theorised in 1978 by two White women (psychologists Pauline Rose Clance & Suzanne Imes) to describe how a large majority of women, disproportionately Black women and women of Colour, are margin...
2022-04-2008 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Reckoning: Get a Job Your Way (Part 3)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 9 of series 3, where we’re closing out our "Get a Job Your Way" series. We open the discussion by breaking down the perception that setting out your requirements and coming from an empowered place where you know what you deserve, and won’t accept less, can be perceived as privilege. We move into the final stages of hiring, closing out negotiations, running through work contracts and how to spot (and respond to) red flags. We hope this...
2022-04-1439 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchyMini-Breakdown: White FeminismIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 8(ish) of series 3 where Lisa does a mini-breakdown of White Feminism and why it’s so problematic. All the information used to inform this conversation is from @everydayracism_ on Instagram and we urge you to follow this account so you can learn from Naomi & Natalie as we have and jump on the pre-order for their upcoming book, The Mixed Race Experience. Check out our social media to find the original source material - we hope this mi...
2022-04-0605 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Reckoning: Get a Job Your Way (Part 2)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 7 of series 3 where we’re (still) talking about applying for jobs. We start by discussing how to follow up after an interview and a few ways to stand out from the crowd. We share personal stories about how we’ve navigated the hiring process and obstacles to success in the working environment. We discuss the mental pitfalls women can face when negotiating their salaries and how to get your head right when it comes to asking for...
2022-03-2946 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Reckoning: Get a Job Your Way (Part 1)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 6 of series 3 where we’re talking about applying for jobs. We start by discussing how to lose the mindset that companies are owed our labour and be aware of the obstacles that exist for those who identify as women and disproportionately impact on Black women and women of Colour. We discuss the tools and processes we use when we job search and how to spot red flags during the interview process. We discuss pay inequity, negotia...
2022-03-2136 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyWe say gay.If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 5 of series 3 where we're discussing the current attack on LGBTQIA+ children and adults by conservative lawmakers in the United States and how that manifests in the workplace. We say gay, you should too.- We discussed statistics and research from McKinsey on how the corporate environment treats those form the LGBTQIA+ community, find it here.- We recommend that if you live in the US, you check out the Human Rights Commi...
2022-03-1636 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyNever fully dressed…If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 4 of series 3 - we kick off with discussing how women get penalized for their own sexuality because, within a patriarchal construct, they’re not “allowed” to be in control of their bodies and own their own sexual power. We talk about the shame and responsibility that is placed on women’s bodies from a very young age in order to control the emotions and sexual urges of boys and men, instead of putting that responsibility where it belo...
2022-03-0943 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyDress to ImpressIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to episode 3 of series 3 where we’re discussing the policing of women’s bodies, in particular the bodies of Black women and women of Colour.We start by discussing the treatment of Mary J. Blige in the aftermath of the Super Bowl half time show and define some important terms that relate to the hyper-sexualised scrutiny that disproportionately impacts Black women/girls and women/girls of Colour. These are the Politics of Respectability (first defined by profes...
2022-03-0233 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyFeminist MishmashIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to our second episode of series 3 where we chat about it all: Childcare deserts, the patriarchal systems in place that negatively impact and marginalize anyone who isn’t a White man, the lack of matriarchal lineage and equal representation of women in history and so much more. We hope you enjoy listening to the mishmash as much as we enjoyed talking through it.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a loo...
2022-01-2531 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyReturn to WorkIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍 Welcome to our first episode of series 3 where we discuss the return to work. We run through the new statistics coming through on the mass exodus of women from the workplace and the lack of infrastructure which is, particularly in the United States, one of the key reasons behind the loss of women from the work environment. Jenni dives into the closure of care settings, particularly nurseries and schools, which lead to women leaving (or being forced out of) th...
2022-01-1031 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyHoliday Burnout 2.0If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to our Holiday Burn Out episode (version 2.0): We’ve re-purposed episode 10 because the issues we’re discussing are just as relevant today as they were a year ago. COVID-related stresses and strains, the emotional and mental load heaped onto those who disproportionately take on domestic tasks & unpaid care work (typically women & mothers) during the holiday season and the inevitable body image issues so many of us battle. We hope our suggestions for bringing balance back to the forefront...
2021-12-1044 minLight Work by Dear PatriarchySeries 2 FinaleIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 20, the finale of series 2! This is our series recap where we discuss which episodes were the most important to us and how we feel the series progressed. We discuss the beauty of saying "no" to what no longer serves you or makes you happy, how soul-crushing jobs can sometimes feel like the easiest road to travel, and why you deserve more. We hope you've enjoyed the journey of season 2 as much as we have & we look f...
2021-09-2322 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyAsking for a RaiseIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to our penultimate episode of Series 2, Episode 19, where we dive into the subject of asking for a raise. This is a topic which is emotionally loaded for many people, particularly women, who tend to be raised to not ask for more and/or be happy with what they've been given. Asking for a raise can bring up oppressive conditioning, imposter syndrome and feelings of being "less than" when it should be an encouraged part of a working enviro...
2021-09-1531 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyToxic Masculinity (Part 2)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 18 of Series 2, where we finish our dive into toxic masculinity on a high by having our very first interview with the awesome Alex Shafiro. We talk about his experiences in the corporate world, specifically how his work as a designer in the construction industry has put him in front of very toxic behaviours. We asked how he makes space for women in his workplace, what he feels like toxic male behaviour in the workplace looks like...
2021-09-0138 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyToxic Masculinity (Part 1)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 17 of Series 2 where we dive into toxic masculinity: What does it mean? What are its ties with toxic femininity and is that even a thing? The short answer is no, it's not, it's a "men's rights" dog whistle but we digress. We talk about how kind, caring, nurturing little boys grow into unemotional but overly aggressive men and what the signs/markers are for toxic masculinity. We dive into how toxic masculinity affects the corporate workp...
2021-08-2543 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyWorking to ThriveIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 16 of Series 2 where we're discussing the reasons behind why huge numbers of people are choosing to leave the workforce. We discuss our personal experience of stepping away from unhealthy work environments and feeling set free because we recognise that we want, and deserve, better for ourselves and our families. We dive into the prevalent issue of people not being paid a living wage, much less a thriving wage, and how that and the impact of COVID...
2021-07-2928 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyHow to Be a WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 15 of Series 2 where we dive into what it means to be a woman. We talk about why the patriarchal ideas of femininity are both inaccurate and exclusionary, how gender non-conformity is both normal and ancient across global communities and discuss the fundamental misogyny of Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminism/Feminists (TERFs). We break down the danger posed to the transgender community by "biology" based anti-trans rhetoric and speak about why thinking of gender on scales instead of a...
2021-07-2137 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyHow to Leave a Toxic Culture BehindIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 14 of Series 2 where we're discussing how to leave a toxic culture or environment. Jenni discusses a recent trip back to where she and Lisa grew up and how, for some people, going back to where you came from can be really difficult. We talk about "tortilla gate" and other racist incidents connected to our hometown and how dangerous and insidious intolerance is in a closed environment. We discuss how educational travel has been for us and ho...
2021-07-1426 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyFatphobia in the WorkplaceIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 13 of Series 2 where we're discussing fatphobia in the workplace. We talk about the lack of government protection against weight-based discrimination, dive into statistics of how people with larger bodies are viewed and treated in the corporate world and how sexism and racism intersect with this. We discuss the taking back of the word "fat" as a neutral descriptive term and how weight-based discrimination often slips under the radar in a patriarchal society where women are press...
2021-07-0627 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyDemanding What You Need From Your PartnerIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 12 of Series 2 where we're discussing what working women and working mothers need from their partners in order to survive & succeed. We work through 8 key points, starting with acknowledging that all mothers work (whether or not they get paid for it..!) and finishing with the need to show up every day for that partnership. We talk about how hard it is, particularly for women, to ask for what they need in a relationship with society's heteropatriarchal expect...
2021-06-2830 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyGender ContaminationIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 11 of Series 2, we start with a brief discussion of important statistics for Black women, women of Colour and women from LGBTQIA+ communities. Due to a technical error, they were not included in last week’s episode, Shecession. Next, we define what gender contamination is, what it means as a marketing term and how it draws from a hetero-patriarchal socio-political system. We dive into specific brand examples of gender contamination (prepare to be angered!) and why its dee...
2021-06-1632 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyShecessionIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 10 of Series 2 where we're focusing on the so-called "Shecession", which is the massive loss of women from the workforce post-pandemic. American media are doubling-down on the story that people in America don't want to go back to their low paying jobs after having it “so good” on unemployment when really, the missing infrastructure of childcare and other much needed supports for working women is a huge reason behind people, disproportionately women, having to leave the workforce...
2021-06-0933 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyFinding Your Way BackIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 9 of Series 2 where we're diving into our own personal experiences working in an abusive/toxic environment. Lisa discusses how her own poor boundary setting lead to an exploitation of that weakness which, over time, negatively impacted her mental health to the point of constantly feeling trapped, crying at inopportune moments (like Zoom calls!) and leading her to complete lose her sense of joy. We highlight two important choices working women/mothers have to make: Choosing not t...
2021-06-0127 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyHaving a Hard TimeIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 8 of Series 2, the subject of which we think will resonate with many of you: Having a Hard Time. We start off by discussing the impending lunar eclipse (Super Blood Flower Moon) and how it can represent and/or bring about closure and evolution. We discuss abusive work relationships and how hard it can be to drop what doesn't serve you as well as divest yourself of the old trope that "this is just the way things...
2021-05-2730 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyTaking Back Your PowerIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 7 of Series 2 where we're discussing how to take back your power. While this is not an issue solely limited to women, the constant struggle to earn, hold and maintain our own power is unique to women both in the workplace and the wider world. We discuss how childhood trauma and ancestral/generational trauma combine with toxic stress to render many women more susceptible to feeling incapable of wielding their own power or speaking out in defen...
2021-05-1132 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyWhat Keeps Us Up At NightIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 6 of Series 2, we're sharing our recent guest spot on the "Things That Keep Us Up At Night" podcast with Abby DesJardien. We spoke about a variety of topics ranging from why we do what we do, the Patriarchy and activism, the weight of expectation on working mothers (because all mothers work, right?), how we take care of ourselves and how little sleep Jenni is actually getting. We hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much...
2021-05-0340 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyWhen to Call itIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 5 of Series 2 where we are talking about when to call it. We start by breaking down what a toxic workplace is and what some major red flags are that you're working in one before diving into reasons why some women may feel that they need to quit a job they still really love. We discuss a few of our own experiences when we had to call time on an abusive relationship with a workplace before closi...
2021-04-2645 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyHow Not to be Racist at WorkIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 4 of Series 2 where we start by talking about global racial injustice, specifically what’s happening in the U.S.A. & the U.K. We talk about the unending police shootings in North America, the Sewell Report in the UK, racist Dr. Seuss books and how disappointing it is to see so many social media accounts ignore the inhumanity of what is taking place prolifically around the world. We discuss why no one doing anti-racist work should...
2021-04-2239 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Pursuit of JoyIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 3 of Series 2, where we explore joy. We examine some of the reasons why women struggle to retain and engender joy in their lives and discuss how we personally feel joy is lost during the day as a working woman. We talk about the ways in which people and pressures can strip joy from daily life and what can be done to lighten your load and help to make space for the pursuit of joy as an in...
2021-04-1249 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyGaslightingIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 2 of Series 2 where we dive into a topic we're deeply passionate about: Gaslighting. We discuss how we've encountered this in a multitude of ways in both our personal and professional lives as well as how women with prior experiences of sexual or physical violence may be more susceptible to gaslighting. We touch on the many ways women might experience gaslighting in the corporate environment, how our experience with it spurred us into writing our book and s...
2021-04-0637 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyAnger & EntitlementIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Series 2 of the podcast! We jump right into the deep end with our discussion about how current events (femicide, mass shootings) are all directly tied to anger, specifically male anger. We dive into how toxic masculinity and White privilege feeds our global problem with male anger before applying it directly to a corporate setting where the protective stereotype of the "hard to work with, but good at his job" businessman is rarely, if ever, allowed to apply...
2021-03-2925 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchySeries 1 FinaleIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 20, the finale of series 1! This is our series recap of all the discussions we had along with some background behind each conversation and further fleshing out of some of our previous discussions. We hope you've enjoyed the journey so far as much as we have, we look forward to our next round of difficult, thought-provoking conversations with you starting very soon. - Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here if you're at a...
2021-03-0134 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyPandemic Motherhood Penalty vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 19, one for the working mamas out there! We recorded this episode on the 21st of February, the anniversary of Malcolm X's assassination and John Lewis' birthday, so we start the conversation talking about their impact, as well as Gloria Richardson's, on our lives. We move on to our central discussion of how mothers, whether or not they are engaging in paid work as well as looking after their children, are being chastised for their coping strat...
2021-02-2237 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Female Form vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍 *** TW: Sexual Assault/Sexual Abuse ***Welcome to Episode 18: It's Britney, bitch! Or rather, it's the truth about what happens to many (if not all) young girls on their journey to womanhood. We dive into some triggering topics in this week's episode, including society's sexualisation of young girls, sexual abuse and assault and the insidious impact of rape culture. We talk about how the fetishisation of young girl's bodies translates into the way in which women are policed within the corporate worl...
2021-02-1539 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchySelf Doubt vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 17 which is a purely anecdotal session, no research or statistics on this one, just an intimate discussion about mental health, religion and the ways in which self doubt insidiously finds its way through any amount of armour. Jenni & Lisa discuss how a recent interaction in the process of submitting their book proposal brought out deep-seated insecurities, anxieties and doubt about their own abilities. They discuss how they've overcome those feelings and also discuss how the chang...
2021-02-0829 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Myth of the Good Girl vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 16 where we briefly touch on trolling & cancel culture before jumping into our main subject of why being a "good girl" gets you nowhere. Jenni shares a recent experience where she was forced to evaluate how the rules she was taught as a girl were vastly different to what boys are taught (she also explains what a "risk bucket" is). We discuss what would happen if women stopped adhering to the social rules of being beautiful, smilin...
2021-02-0141 min
Light Work by Dear Patriarchy2020 Job Loss vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 15 where we discuss a tweet that was sent to us detailing how women represented the total US job losses in December 2020. The article and statistics behind this tweet as well as the global statistics we found outlining that women are (once again) the biggest losers in the job market due to fallout from the COVID-19 pandemic, among other factors, shook us to the core. We discuss what it means to be a woman in a workf...
2021-01-2537 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Pandemic Wall vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 14 where we discuss the burnout of nearly a year living in the grip of the COVID-19 pandemic combined with the political and social upheaval that is taking place around the world. We begin with a conversation about the trope of the angry feminist and how it has personally affected us before moving on to a conversation about the multiple levels of stress and pressure weighing down on us all at the moment, including how it affec...
2021-01-1840 min
Light Work by Dear Patriarchy#NotAllMen vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 13 where we go off on the popular hashtag #notallmen and what it actually means when it's said in relation to the sharing of women's lived experiences. We talk about how using this phrase centres men in women's issues (a common tactic of the Patriarchy) and discuss where the phrase is believed to have originated and when it came into popular use. We take a couple detours on this episode, starting our conversation with the Capitol Hill...
2021-01-1152 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchySystemic Racism vs. The Working Woman (The Introduction)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 12, our first discussion on systemic racism and how it impacts the working women, specifically those from BIPOC/BAMER communities. We discuss the US & UK statistics on the endemic racial inequity within the corporate world and read several narratives highlighting the experiences of BIPOC/BAMER employees within a racist workplace. This episode is the introduction to what will be a series of conversations about systemic racism in the corporate world, some of which will involve special guest...
2021-01-0447 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyTaking Up Space vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 11 where we end 2020 by burning down the house on women taking up space. We dive into how the historical pressure on women to shrink, expand and, ultimately, shrink again has a direct correlation to our socio-political enfranchisement. We discuss why women apologise far more then men and what we can do to stop it. We debate how women can authentically take up space, get angry about NASA's treatment of its female astronauts and ultimately agree that...
2020-12-2845 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyHoliday Burnout vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 10 where we discuss the burn out many women feel around the festive season, especially with the added stressor of navigating the holidays during a global pandemic. We talk about emotional labour/labor, mental load and how our culture of “more is better” is grinding us all down. We delve into the stress and pressure women feel to make things “magical” while grieving our loss of “normality” due to COVID-19 and how it can trigger unhealthy coping strategies...
2020-12-2146 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Boardroom vs. The Working Woman (Part 2)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 9 where we do a deep dive into 3 key terms we discussed in Part 1 of the Boardroom: Mansplaining, Hepeating and Imposter Syndrome. We talk about where these terms originated and their background, how they present in the Boardroom and our personal experience with each of them. We finish up with 4 ways you can turn the tide within your own company and help nurture a safe environment for working women to thrive in.- Rebecca Solni...
2020-12-1443 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Boardroom vs. The Working Woman (Part 1)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 8 where we dive into the Boardroom and how it's keeping anyone who isn't a White man at arm's length. We go over the current statistics for diverse representation in the boardroom (spoiler alert: they're abysmal), how White women have historically been used as the "next best thing" to a White man, and how you have to change the corporate culture in order to create a truly diverse environment. We also discuss the "glass cliff" phenomenon, impos...
2020-12-0736 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyClearing the Air: Boys ClubIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 7 where we're taking a moment to feed back on some of the interactions we've had around our Boys Club episode, and other past episodes as well, as well as "clear the air" about what the Dear Patriarchy podcast is and what we're trying to accomplish. We hope you enjoy this more informal episode before we swing back into our research-based, story-telling pieces moving forward.- Please check out our "Feminism 101" suggested reading list here...
2020-11-3030 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyBoys Club vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 6 where we dive into Boys Club: What it is and the ways in which women and other groups that have been marginalised within our patriarchal social construct may experience it in the workplace. We talk about how to recognise if your own organisation has a Boys Club culture and share our personal experiences with it in the corporate world. We discuss strategies to fight against Boys Club but also why we should ALL fight against it fr...
2020-11-2336 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Patriarchy vs. The Working Woman (Part 2)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 5 where we finish what we started in our last episode by unpacking how the Patriarchy affects women's views on, and relationships with, other women. We delve into why record numbers of White women in America voted for Donald Trump and how the behaviours & beliefs that lead so many women to abandon their gender (among other things) in favour of their race translates into the corporate environment. We discuss the Sisterhood and how to start the proce...
2020-11-1642 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyThe Patriarchy vs. The Working Woman (Part 1)If this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍TW: Contains discussions of miscarriage, stillbirth, foetal/fetal demise and abortion from 40:00 - 43:30Welcome to Episode 4 where we open up the densely packed topic of what the Patriarchy is and how it impacts us all on a daily basis. We discuss how it is believed the Patriarchy came into being, how it now translates into the world around you and who it impacts (spoiler alert: everyone). We unpack toxic masculinity as a symptom of the Patri...
2020-11-0952 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyBurn Out vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 3 where we dive into the burn out we're all experiencing at work and home, which is being dramatically escalated by the global pandemic and political upheaval taking place in many countries around the world. We discuss the impact gender and race has on individual burn out levels, what self-care really looks like and how companies can support their employees by addressing specific causes of burn out.- Official WHO information on burn out...
2020-11-0242 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchySexual Harassment vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to Episode 2 where we do a deep-dive into sexual harassment in the workplace. We discuss our own experiences with workplace harassment (sexual and otherwise), how it has affected us and explore the current statistics for sexual harassment across different groups, including BIPOC / BAMER, LGBTQ+ and disabled women. We also give suggestions for reporting harassment and how companies can safeguard their employees. - Base sexual harassment statistics taken from Trade Union Congress' 2016 report "Still Just A Bit of...
2020-10-2644 min
Light Work by Dear PatriarchyCOVID-19 vs. The Working WomanIf this episode is resonating with you, send us a message - we’d love to hear from you 🤍Welcome to our inaugural episode where we discuss the impact that COVID-19 is having on the lives of working women and what that means in a global and corporate sense. We touch upon 5 key ways in which governments and individual companies can overcome what is a potentially disastrous loss of women from the corporate space. - Base article material taken from the Wall Street Journal's September 2020 article entitled "Sheryl Sandberg: Companies and Women are at a Cross...
2020-10-1441 min
Recording Library of West TexasCenters Solutions- we've had our podcast for a year!We have been podcasting for 1 year--join the Centers' Solutions team as we clink glasses in celebration of the year in review--followed by a discussion about the JOY WE FOUND IN QUARANTINE! (If we have tagged you, we mentioned you in the episode!) Recording Library of West Texas Kim Jennings Collier--you were our most listened to episode! Stephanie Leigh Moses Reflection Ministries of Texas Sibley Nature Center Jennifer Whitehead Buckner Midland Senior Life Midland Kathleen Kirwan Haynie Libby Shapiro-Campbell West Texas Food Bank Breaking Bread Kitchen Protect Our Frontline - West Texas Audrie Palmer Valerie Acosta Emily Holeva Emily Weinberg Trish...
2020-05-2847 min