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The Happiest Lives PodcastE134: Emotional Courage* Make sure you grab your FREE Printable The Heart Scan Framework to tuck in your Bible or journal at www.myhappyvault.com/heartscan.In part three of Happiness & Unhappiness: Finding Jesus in the 50/50, we’re talking about emotional courage—the strength to face what we feel instead of running from it.Most of us aren’t actually afraid of the emotion; we’re afraid of the story our mind attaches to it. In this episode, Jill unpacks why unhappiness feels threatening, why emotions sometimes overwhelm us, and how the Israelites became “discourage...
2026-01-1627 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE133: Happiness On PurposeThis is the second episode in the series Happiness and Unhappiness: Finding Jesus in the 50-50. Life will always hold both joy and sorrow—but happiness doesn’t happen by chance. It’s something we build through habits, perspective, and practices that make room for the Holy Spirit to flow through us.In this episode, Jill shares the three movements of a happy soul—delight in the Lord, contentment in Christ, and purpose in love. You’ll learn how to cultivate joy in the middle of ordinary days, how gratitude rewires your brain for peace, and how to find me...
2026-01-0921 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE128: The Listening Life: How To Hear God's VoiceHave you ever wondered if you’re really hearing God’s voice—or just your own thoughts? In this first episode of The Listening Life series, Jill Lillard unpacks what it means to live attuned to God’s presence and guided by His Spirit. Through the “one thing” thread woven across Scripture—David’s desire for God’s presence, Mary’s attentiveness, the rich young ruler’s call to surrender, and Paul’s focus—you’ll see how the listening life is about centering everything on Him. Jill also shares how the Holy Spirit teaches, reminds, gives wisdom, and brings Scripture to life, ma...
2025-11-0715 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE127: Receiving Correction Without Falling ApartThis is the final episode in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.Over the past five weeks, we’ve looked at what it means to offer correction in a way that reflects the heart of God—truthful, loving, and wise. But today we’re flipping the perspective. What does it look like to receive correction without spiraling into shame, defensiveness, or fear?In this episode, Jill unpacks what Scripture says about feedback, why our bodies and minds react the way they do, and how to stay calm and grounded when c...
2025-10-3124 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE126: Giving Correction Without Playing GodThis is part four in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.Correction isn’t easy—and when we step into it, it’s tempting to slip into the role of “fixer,” as if it’s our job to make someone else change. But scripture reminds us that’s not our role. We are called to speak the truth in love, with gentleness and humility, while entrusting the outcome to God.In this episode, Jill unpacks:Why posture matters more than having the perfect wordsThe dangers of superiority, anger, shame, and con...
2025-10-2423 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE125: When To Speak & When To Let Love Cover ItThis is the third episode in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.In this conversation, Jill explores one of the most important skills for healthy, godly relationships: discernment. How do you know when to speak up and when to let love quietly cover an offense? Both can be acts of love. Both can protect trust. Both can honor God. But knowing which response to choose in the moment takes wisdom.Drawing from Scripture, Jill unpacks examples of Shem and Japheth covering their father Noah’s shame, and Paul confronting th...
2025-10-1716 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE120: Mood & MenopauseThis is the seventh in the series on Hormones, Happiness, and the Holy Spirit.If you’ve been feeling more anxious, irritable, or just not like yourself, it could be connected to perimenopause or menopause. In this episode, Jill talks with Dawn Valentino, a registered nurse and holistic health practitioner, about what’s really going on in your body, how hormone changes impact your mood, and what you can do to find support—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Together they explore the root causes of common symptoms, the truth about hormone replacement therapy (HRT), and simple lifestyle shifts that ma...
2025-09-1259 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE118: When Thought Work Isn’t Enough: A Real Talk on Mood, Medication & Mental HealthThis is Episode 5 in the series Hormones, Happiness & The Holy Spirit. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things—journaling, praying, renewing your mind—and still feel stuck, discouraged, or just plain off, this episode is for you.Today I’m joined by my favorite guest (and husband), Dr. Richard Lillard—a clinical psychologist with decades of experience in both therapy and integrated health. We talk about what’s actually going on when emotional tools aren’t working, the difference between situational struggles and clinical mood disorders, and how to know when it’s time to con...
2025-08-291h 00
The Happiest Lives PodcastE116: The Brain-Mood LinkIn today’s episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, we’re continuing our Hormones, Happiness, and the Holy Spirit series with a deep dive into brain health. Jill shares insights from her recent certification as a Brain Health Practitioner with the Amen Clinics and introduces six key brain systems that influence how you think, feel, focus, and function.You’ll learn:Why your brain is like the hardware that runs your entire lifeThe six core brain systems and how they relate to anxiety, depression, and attentionWhy traditional mental health diagnoses sometimes miss the mark—and what...
2025-08-1529 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE114: Hormones, Happiness & The Holy SpiritWhat really makes us happy—and what gets in the way?In this kickoff to a new series, Jill Lillard explores happiness from a whole-person, Spirit-led perspective. Drawing on her experience as a therapist, coach, and ministry leader, she unpacks how our thoughts, hormones, and spiritual life all interact to shape our emotional well-being.You’ll learn:Why happiness isn’t about ease or getting what you wantHow biology and belief both impact your moodWhat the Holy Spirit has to do with joy—even on hard daysIf you’ve ever said, “I just want to...
2025-08-0118 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE100: Worth The WaitIn this special 100th episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, Jill Lillard dives into the lessons of waiting from the first 25 chapters of Genesis. She explores how God uses waiting as a powerful, active process that binds our hearts to His. Jill shares how waiting isn’t passive, but a season of building faith, patience, and trust. Using the stories of Noah and Abraham, she reflects on how waiting strengthens us and prepares us for the blessings ahead. Tune in for encouragement and three tips to navigate your own season of waiting.If you want to take this wo...
2025-04-2516 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE99: Messy RelationshipsIn this episode, Jill Lillard dives into the messy side of relationships through her study of Genesis. She shares how God continues to work even in our mistakes to bring about his purposes, urging us to shift our focus from who’s right and who’s wrong to how God is working and what he is calling us to do. With practical questions and biblical wisdom, Jill helps you see how God’s redemptive work can transform your heart and relationships. Don’t miss out on this powerful episode that invites you to look at your relational struggles through a whole...
2025-04-1810 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE98: Human FrailtyEver feel like you—or others—need to be perfect? In this episode, Jill explores how Genesis reveals the beauty of God’s grace amid human weakness. From Adam and Eve’s fall to Cain’s destructive choices, see how God’s promises remain steady, even when we fall short. Tune in and be reminded that His strength meets you right where you are.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Discover ways to work with me at www.theh...
2025-04-1112 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE97: The Love Story BeginsThis week, we begin a new series, Genesis Takeaways, where Jill shares what God has revealed to her in the first 25 chapters of Genesis. In this episode, she explores the beauty of God’s covenant, the patterns of human weakness, and how His faithfulness remains steadfast. From Adam and Eve to Abraham and Sarah, discover how God’s love story has been unfolding since the very beginning.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Discover ways to wor...
2025-04-0409 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE96: Be A FinisherIn this episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, Jill Lillard wraps up the month’s series on Spirit-Led Planning and Execution by exploring how to be a finisher. She reveals why we lose momentum on our goals and the role of the prefrontal cortex in follow-through. She shares ten practical strategies to overcome obstacles and finish strong. Discover how perseverance, accountability, and trusting God’s guidance can help you achieve your goals with grace even when your faith wavers.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share...
2025-03-2813 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE95: Time ManagementIn this episode, Jill shares how to manage your time with intention and purpose, which is part of her series on Spirit-Led Planning and Execution. Discover 12 practical tips to align your schedule with your core values, prioritize relationships, and balance work, rest, and spiritual growth. Learn how to invite God into your planning, steward time as a gift, and stay proactive in focusing on what truly matters. Tune in for insightful strategies that honor God while improving your daily life.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share fre...
2025-03-2111 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE94: Commitments, Values & What's ImportantThis is part two of the Spirit-Led Planning & Execution series, where we explore how to align your life with God’s will by prioritizing commitments that align with your values. Jill offers practical guidance for evaluating your time, energy, and focus to ensure they reflect what matters most. Tune in to learn how to recognize misaligned priorities, make intentional choices, and steward your resources with purpose.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Discover ways to work...
2025-03-1413 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE93: Spirit-Led Planning & ExecutionIn this new series, discover how to align your plans with God’s will, partner with Him through obedience, and execute your goals with faith and surrender. Jill shares personal stories, biblical insights, and practical tips to help you balance spontaneity and control, stay anchored in your relationship with the Lord, and make decisions that reflect His greater vision for your life. Tune in for spiritual wisdom and actionable guidance to navigate life’s challenges with grace and purpose.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resour...
2025-03-0714 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE92: Receiving FeedbackIn the final episode of her series Reconciliation & Forgiveness, Jill Lillard dives into the art of receiving feedback—a vital part of having conversations that foster reconciliation. Jill explores the emotional challenges we face when receiving feedback and offers practical strategies for processing it effectively, regulating emotions, and delivering meaningful apologies. Tune in to discover how to approach feedback with a heart open to growth and reconciliation, grounded in your identity as a child of God.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to s...
2025-02-2815 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE90: The Process of ReconciliationIn this episode, Jill Lillard continues part 2 of the series on Reconciliation & Forgiveness. Through personal stories and biblical principles, she shares practical steps for healing relationships, setting healthy boundaries, and balancing peace with realistic expectations. Whether in friendships, family, or marriage, you’ll gain valuable insights on building deeper connections through the ministry of reconciliation.Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and app...
2025-02-1430 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE87: But We Are So DifferentThis is part 4 of the series Marriage Designed By God. In this episode, Jill Lillard explores the inherent differences in marriages. Discover why God designed these differences and how they can bring couples closer together. This episode is perfect for couples and anyone looking to strengthen their relationships through understanding and embracing differences.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Em...
2025-01-2419 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE86: A No-Matter-What Kind of LoveThis is part 3 of the series Marriage Designed By God. In this episode, Jill discusses the concept of covenant love in marriage, exploring its biblical roots and offering practical tips for living out a committed, sacrificial love in modern relationships.Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resource...
2025-01-1728 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE85: Naked & UnashamedIn this episode, Jill explores God’s design for intimacy in marriage, the barriers we face, and paths to vulnerability and deeper connection. This is part 2 of the series Marriage Designed By God.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com
2025-01-1018 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastThis Isn't an Episode (But I had to share this!)I am seeking 10 women to join me in The Happiest Lives Academy 2025 Cohort. Will you be one of them? We start on January 1, but we are enrolling NOW. Secure your spot today. Contact jill@thehappiestlives.com if you would like to chat about this opportunity. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com
2024-12-0605 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE76: Constrain & FocusThis is episode 2 of the series How to Get Unstuck. In it, we explore why we often feel stuck and how our minds can trap us in repetitive cycles of worry or overwhelm. When we don’t know how to approach a problem, we either obsess over it or let it grow bigger in our minds. Today, Jill introduces a tool that will help you step back, organize your thoughts, and understand the problem so you can focus on what to do next. Constraining the problem allows you to break free from the cycle and start making real progress. Tu...
2024-10-1117 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE75: How To Get UnstuckIn this new series, Jill will share a straightforward process she uses whenever she feels stuck. Whether you’re dealing with overwhelm, indecision, or feeling lost, this method will help you gain clarity and take the next step forward. Tune in to discover practical tools you can use today to break free from what’s holding you back and start moving forward with purpose.Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyva...
2024-10-0418 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE72: Assume The BestToday, we’re continuing our series on Defensiveness. Last week, Jill shared a personal story about becoming defensive with her family and promised to return with insights gained after interviewing her family about it. In this episode, she shares what she learned from those conversations.Our focus today is on assuming the best when you feel defensive. The alternative is to assume the worst, which hinders meaningful conversations and connections. We will discuss how approaching situations with a grace-filled mindset can transform relationships and promote understanding.If you are ready to become the woman God sa...
2024-09-1315 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE71: DefensivenessToday, we begin a new series on defensiveness, one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse identified by John Gottman. In this episode, we explore what defensiveness is, why we experience it, and how it affects our interactions. Jill shares a personal story about feeling defensive during a family vacation and how it impacted her relationships. She introduces practical steps to manage defensiveness using the Heart Scan Coaching method.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Di...
2024-09-0617 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE69: Break The Shame CycleToday, in Part 4 of our URGES series, we tackle the destructive cycle of shame. • Shame Uncovered: Understand shame and how it differs from guilt. • Lisa’s Story: Learn how Lisa overcame shame around answering unhealthy coping mechanisms /urges in her marriage. • Practical Steps: Discover strategies to move past shame, reframe thoughts, and embrace God’s kindness when you are stuck in a cycle of obeying unwanted urges. • Biblical Insights: Reflect on scriptures that help us overcome shame and embrace our identity in Christ.Join me as w...
2024-08-2325 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE68: A Way OutThis is part 3 of the series Urges. We all experience urges, and nothing is wrong with you because you feel tempted to do things that don't honor your greatest values. The good news is that God is faithful, and He promises that the urge won't last forever and that he will provide a way out. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and app...
2024-08-1625 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE67: Power To ChooseThis is part 2 of the series Urges. Urges are strong desires, almost a compulsion. Answering them may bring relief and even pleasure, but in the long game, answering urges that don't align with our goals and values creates greater suffering. Often times we will go unconscious and act like urges are happening to us, and yet we have the power to choose how we will respond. In this episode, I outline ways to respond to an urge and encourage listeners to choose a response that honors what is most important to them. If you want to take this wo...
2024-08-0922 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE66: UrgesThis is part one of the series Urges. An urge is a pressing desire, almost a compulsion, manifesting in all life areas of living, including relationships, health habits, and work goals. Urges feel uncomfortable, even painful when we don't answer them. However, when we obey unwanted urges, we experience prolonged and acute suffering. In this episode, I introduce and normalize the concept of urges including their purpose in our lives. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stu...
2024-08-0228 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE65: Christian CommunityThis is part 4 of the series Cultivating a Fiery & Fresh Relationship With Jesus. Today, I discuss the crucial role of the church, referring to the body of all believers as well as local congregations. We. Look at the reasons you may be discouraged from attending church and why regular fellowship is still important. I share with you about my involvement with the Christian community, reminding you that God has given us community not only to benefit us ,but so that we can be a blessing to others. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Fra...
2024-07-2635 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE64: Delight In His WordThis is part 3 of the series Cultivating A Fiery & Fresh Relationship With Jesus. God's Word is the ultimate source of truth, guidance, and transformation. Many Christians struggle with consistent Bible reading due to busy lives and distractions. In this episode, we examine how you think about Bible reading and offer practical tips and strategies for getting excited and inspired to engage in God's Word.Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/heart...
2024-07-1929 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE63: Conversations With GodThis is part 2 of the series Cultivating A Fiery & Fresh Relationship With God. In this episode, I will show you how to transform your prayer life from routine and one-dimensional to a powerful way to connect with God.Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connecte...
2024-07-1237 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE62: Cultivating A Fiery & Fresh Relationship With JesusThis begins the series Cultivating a Fiery & Fresh Relationship with Jesus, where we explore what it truly means to passionately desire, turn toward, and experience God. Join me as we examine three distinct types of relationships: legalistic, complacent, and passionate. We will also delve into the depths of passion, uncovering the barriers that hinder intimacy and discovering practical tools for examining your relationship with God. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear mom...
2024-07-0540 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE61: Work Hard, Play HardThis is part 4 of the series Making Everyday Life Productive & Fun. Join Jill and Coach Stephanie as they discuss how to balance work and play, the role of play in their lives, what they consider fun, and obstacles and antidotes to having a good time. At The Happiest Lives, we believe if you aren't enjoying the journey, you are probably doing it wrong. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If...
2024-06-2835 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE60: The Chore Lottery & Other Techniques For Getting Things DoneThis is part 3 of the series How To Make Everyday Life Productive & Fun. In this episode, I share some of my favorite ways to get things done. Though "Plan A" is always to be flexible and open to how the Spirit leads you, "Plans B-Z "may include systematic processes and techniques that help you stay engaged with your life and increase efficiency. When we find ways to make the daily grind interesting, we increase the pleasure we experience in the mundane tasks of everyday life. If you want to take this work and apply it, visit m...
2024-06-2117 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE59: RoutinesThis is part 2 of the series Making Everyday Life Productive & Fun. We all have routines, whether we are conscious of them or not. Your routines are the rhythms of your life and create the results you are experiencing. In this episode, we talk about the value of routines in honoring our values and what is important to us, as well as the challenges faced in establishing routines and strategies to address those obstacles. I also walk through my daily, weekly, and annual routines. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a sim...
2024-06-1427 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE58: Making Everyday Life Productive & FunIn this podcast episode, I introduce a new series focused on making everyday life productive and fun. When you can find meaning and joy in your routines, you become more engaged and excited about life. Seeing your life as a partnership rather than a series of busyness shifts our energy. Practical tips are provided for incorporating productivity and fun into daily life,If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Discover ways to work with me at www...
2024-06-0721 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE57: Courageous LivingToday, we wrap up the series Path To Aliveness as we explore courage in everyday life. We discuss how courageous individuals acknowledge and confront their fears, take risks in relationships even though they could be rejected, and remain authentic to their values despite adversity. When the Holy Spirit lives inside us we are emboldened to take life-giving action despite unwanted feelings. If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Discover ways to work with me at w...
2024-05-3114 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE56: DesiresThis is part 4 in the series Path To Aliveness. If God promises to give us the desires of our hearts, why don't we get everything we want? Is it okay to want things, or should I relinquish my desire to be a selfless person? How can I make all my longings and wants work for the greatest good? We consider all these questions and more on today's podcast; as you forge the path of life, let desire become a catalyst for growth rather than a trigger for growing numb and detached.Free Resource:
2024-05-2425 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE55: Abundant LifeThis is part 3 in the series Path To Alive-ness. If you are thirsty, come! If you have exhausted all your resources, COME. Isaiah 55 shows us a new way contrary to our logic and ways of doing things. Here, we are promised peace and joy that does not depend on our circumstances. If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Ema...
2024-05-1722 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE54: Change Begins With...This is part 2 in the series Path To Alive-ness. If you have been trying to change outwardly by adhering to or imposing a rule list/script on others, you will be constantly in despair. Beating yourself up, blaming others, or defending your tender heart through self-protective strategies won't improve things. There is only one way to create change; thank goodness, it does not all depend on you. However, it does start in your mind and heart. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I u...
2024-05-1024 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE53: The Two PathsWelcome to part one of the series Path To Alive-ness. In response to life's hardships, we either move toward contempt, numbness, and detachment or fight to keep our hearts tender and alive. In every situation, we choose a path of life or death. In this episode, I lay out the two options and show you what it looks like to choose alive-ness.Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/heart...
2024-05-0334 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE52: Actions Create ResultsThis is part four of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. In this episode, we will reverse-engineer a new result to discover a new way to think about our circumstances.Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Dis...
2024-04-2624 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE51: Feelings Fuel ActionsThis is part 3 of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. Your mind creates feelings that direct your behavior, which creates results. Therefore, you have to look at your mind to get new results. When we focus on creating change by changing our actions without looking at our minds- the cause of our actions- we can’t create sustainable change. Pressing on despite unwanted emotions requires being willing to feel discomfort even as you take action from new thoughts. If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share f...
2024-04-1922 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE50: Thoughts Create FeelingsThis is part 2 of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. Every feeling you have can be traced back to a thought. When we get curious about our feelings and thoughts, we can't start picking them on purpose. In this episode, I show you four common misconceptions about emotions. I then walk you through four steps to FEEL better and I introduce you to the 4 P's that will help you face any circumstance. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the...
2024-04-1241 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE49: Power Of Your Thought LifeThis begins a brand new series, Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. You can let your mind run on default or you can take your brain out of the box and consider what thoughts are running your life. When you take your thoughts captive, beginning with awareness, you change your life. In this episode, I walk you through the process of living your life with intention, whether it's managing your time better, improving your relationships, or reaching a personal goal. It all starts with a thought. Free Resource:Download the He...
2024-04-0538 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE48: Invest In Your Shared DesiresThis is part nine of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this finale, we talk about creating shared meaning in your relationship, which Gottman refers to as the roof of our relationship house. I show you how to find a 'want match" and highlight the importance of small, consistent changes in positively impacting the fabric of your relationship. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/he...
2024-03-2928 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE47: Create Rituals Of ConnectionThis is part 8 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Today's episode discusses creating regular connection points in your relationship. As you are intentional with a few things, this helps foster shared meaning in your marriage and increases the likelihood of spontaneous connections.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected.Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill...
2024-03-2222 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE46: Make Requests Without DemandingWelcome to part 7 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this episode, we explore making requests in your relationship in a way that increases your influence and leaves you feeling better about yourself. Generating feelings of calm and openness before asking for help will serve you better than asking from a place of hurt, frustration, or resentment, which only leads to more disappointment. When we make requests without demanding we are showing up in a powerful way. If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That...
2024-03-1518 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE45: Share HonestlyThis is part six of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this episode, I explore what it means to show up as yourself. You want to be in a relationship with someone because they value YOU, not you being who you think they want you to be. Awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and desires is crucial to express yourself and feel close and connected to others. We consider obstacles to speaking up and the benefits of sharing yourself in an honest and true way.If you want to take this work and...
2024-03-0820 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE44: Listen UpThis is part 5 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Recall the last time you felt truly curious and understanding as someone shared their thoughts and feelings. This week, we unfold the layers of becoming an adept listener, from fostering a nurturing space for heartfelt dialogues to recognizing the unspoken dreams woven into our conflicts. .Listening isn't just about passive absorption; it's a call to active engagement. Join me on today's podcast and unlock the full potential of every conversation.If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.co...
2024-03-0118 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE43: Find The Hidden DreamThis is part four of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Have you ever felt like your relationship is stuck in a cycle of the same old arguments? In today's episode, we dive into the heart of recurring conflicts, revealing how behind every gridlock issue is a hidden dream. This isn't just about finding common ground—it's about fostering a deeper understanding and intimacy with your partner. Join us as we share strategies for creating a safe space for dialogue, where supporting each other's dreams helps strengthen your relationship.If you want to...
2024-02-2320 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE42: Make Deposits In Your Love BankThis is part three of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. When you nurture positive sentiments and good feelings in your marriage, you are making deposits in your love bank. These emotional investments become valuable resources that you will withdraw from when you face conflict in your relationship. Join me to learn three ways you can make deposits in your love bank today. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moment...
2024-02-1624 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE41: Regulate Your EmotionsThis is part two of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Learn the importance of being emotionally aware and regulating your emotions in your relationship. You can validate and make your emotions work for you as you deepen intimacy in your relationship. Let me show you how in today's episode. Free Resource:Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work an...
2024-02-0930 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE40: Create A Healing SeparationThis is part 1 of the series, How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. A foundational step to building a healthy relationship is creating a healing separation. The goal of a healing separation is always healthier connections. Creating a healing separation does not mean you are living separate lives and dealing with things independently. Instead, it means you are able to view yourself and the other person as parts of the greater whole so that you can show up and love better. You recognize the other has their own models (thoughts, feelings, actions, and results) . You chann...
2024-02-0232 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE39: True SelfIn the Western World, we tend to indulge the view of self as we focus on personal development, self-actualization, and becoming the best version of ourselves. Eastern religions lean toward renouncing self and suppressing wants and desires to move to a place of spiritual enlightenment. Neither of these perspectives seems to fall in line with Biblical truth. Rather than losing ourselves as we die to our flesh, we find that we actually become more of our true selves. When we receive Christ, our true identity is restored, and we can serve purposefully in the body. Our desires lead...
2024-01-2620 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE38: Letting Go Without Giving UpCan you trust in God's goodness and sovereignty, even when the road seems rough? What does it look like to let go of how you think things should be without giving up hope?The pathway to surrender often involves suffering. We must be willing to feel our pain and gently move to a place of trust. The alternative is powering our way through which leads us to greater self-reliance, exhaustion, and frustration, rather than greater dependency on Jesus.In this episode, I give you tips for how to hit pause on reacting to you...
2024-01-1925 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE37: The ImpossibleEver wondered how to go about accomplishing the impossible? This episode illuminates the four stages of achieving just that, from the despair of being unable to achieve your goals to the joy of leaning on God's strength. We delve into Apostle Paul's passionate journey of faith, where he learned to rely on Christ's atonement, not his self-will. We take a step towards surrender by accepting our helplessness and then shifting our focus entirely so that we can move from despair to expectant joy. We wrap up this episode with a promise - though sin may work in us, it...
2024-01-1225 min
The Happiest Lives PodcastE36: Flesh vs. SpiritJoin me for this podcast series, The Surrendered Self. To understand the concepts of surrender and self, we must plug them into the story of mankind's relationship with God, which is a story of redemption. In this episode, I remind you of the ongoing battle between the flesh and the spirit. I encourage you as a believer to find your identity and worth in Jesus rather than define yourself by your sin or fallen nature. Though we live in mortal bodies, the Holy Spirit dwells inside us and our days can be fueled by his spirit. I discuss how sur...
2024-01-0535 min