Jillian Andre & Ally McArthur

Shows

Co-Parenting and CoffeeOver-functioning, Can you change it?Keywordsover-functioning, relationships, co-parenting, boundaries, emotional intelligence, self-care, empowerment, women, parenting, mental healthSummaryIn this conversation, the hosts discuss the dynamics of over-functioning partners, particularly in the context of relationships and co-parenting. They explore the emotional toll of over-functioning, the importance of setting boundaries, and the need for self-care. The discussion also emphasizes the role of women in breaking the cycle of under-functioning partners and empowering the next generation to foster healthier relationships. The conversation concludes with practical strategies for change and healing, encouraging listeners to recognize their worth...2025-05-011h 03

Co-Parenting and CoffeeBuilding a Community for Women in CrisisKeywords:The Sparrow Collective, divorce support, women's empowerment, community housing, financial literacy, holistic wellness, nonprofit funding, collaboration, women in crisis, supportive livingSummaryIn this conversation, Susan Trippi of the Sparrow Collective discusses the challenges women face during and after divorce, including financial burdens and the need for supportive communities. The Sparrow Collective aims to provide a holistic living environment for women and children impacted by divorce, offering various support services, including legal, financial, and emotional assistance. The discussion also highlights the importance of community involvement and collaboration in creating impactful solutions for...2025-04-0159 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeADHD and Co-parentingSummaryIn this conversation, the hosts discuss the complexities of co-parenting, particularly when one or more children have ADHD. They explore the challenges faced by parents in maintaining consistent routines and communication, the importance of structure for children with ADHD, and various strategies to support these children effectively. The discussion also highlights the significance of positive reinforcement, the need for clear communication between co-parents, and practical tools to help manage ADHD behaviors. The episode concludes with resources for parents seeking additional support.TakeawaysCo-parenting can be challenging...2025-03-2058 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: What is a GALAlly and Jill explain what a GAL in Massachusetts is and their experiences with them.2024-11-2012 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: The holidays are coming!Ally and Jill talk holidays!2024-11-1312 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeA family doesn't divorce; they restructure.keywordsco-parenting, divorce, family restructuring, Concilium process, support systems, women's empowerment, litigation abuse, family dynamics, domestic violence, conciliation, family law, co-parenting, attorney-client relationship, guardian ad litem, legal process, empowerment, judicial system, divorcesummaryThis conversation explores the complexities of co-parenting and divorce, emphasizing the importance of support systems, the Concilium process, and the empowerment of individuals, particularly women, during and after divorce. The speakers discuss the emotional and legal challenges faced by families restructuring after divorce and the need for a holistic approach that includes legal, financial, and mental health support. In this conversation, experts discuss the complexities of domestic violence cases...2024-11-061h 16

Co-Parenting and CoffeeReplace financial shame with a plan - advice from a professional!co-parenting, divorce, financial planning, financial advisor, single parents, college costs, financial education, emergency funds, financial shame, support community Summary In this conversation, Jill and Ally discuss the complexities of co-parenting and financial challenges that arise during and after divorce. They emphasize the importance of community support, understanding financial implications, and the role of financial advisors in helping individuals navigate their new financial realities. The discussion also covers practical advice for single parents, managing expectations around college costs, and the significance of having an emergency fund. The speakers highlight the need for empathy...2024-10-101h 00

Co-Parenting and CoffeeCo-Parenting Your LGBTQ+ ChildSummary Hilary Smiley shares her experience of parenting a transgender child and the challenges she faced. She emphasizes the importance of early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics. Hilary discusses the medical aspect of caring for a transgender child, including puberty blockers and hormone therapy. She also talks about the emotional journey of accepting and affirming her child's gender identity. Hilary encourages parents to forgive themselves for any mistakes and to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being. The conversation explores the challenges and experiences of co-parenting a transgender child. We discuss the importance...2024-09-1056 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: Back to School!We discuss all things co-parenting and back to school in this short espresso shot! 2024-08-2514 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: SummerIn this epresso shot we discuss schedule changes, vacations, and how to manage summer break while co-parenting! 2024-06-1311 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: Things between housesIn this espresso shot Ally and Jill discuss their experiences with sharing clothes, toys, sports equipment between houses. They also discuss things that have worked and not worked so well for them in keeping track of the stuff!2024-05-3010 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeReclaiming my voiceA story shared from one of our listeners reclaiming her voice! These stories are sponsored by Soberlink! Special Offer From Soberlink for Co-parenting and Coffee listeners! https://www.soberlink.com/partners/coffee 2024-05-2903 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeA Conversation About Coercive ControlThis very special episode covers an important and serious topic: coercive control, a form of domestic abuse. Our Coffee Date today is with advocates Larissa Crane, MSW, LICSW, MRT and Hilary Purtell. We will explore what coercive control is, how to recognize it, and what to do if you or someone you love is in a relationship with a coercive controller. Even if you have not experienced coercive control, this is a must-listen to know how to recognize it, either for your future self, or to know what to look for as you support friends and family going through...2024-05-2148 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeStories: Heartache and HopeThis Mother shares a letter she wrote to her sons about her choice to get divorced and the heartache and hope that she knows they will share through this experience. These Stories are sponsored by Sober link: Lay the groundwork for brighter days ahead. Visit ⁠⁠www.soberlink.com/coffee⁠⁠ to learn more and get $50 off your device. 2024-05-1504 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeMother's Day with our MomsAlly and Jill invite their Moms on this special Mother’s Day episode. We talk about how they managed our divorces and watching us go through such challenging times as their children. We discussed how they felt, What was their biggest fears were, and how they feel now. Main Points Today’s Quote: “As you prepare for all possible outcomes, may you also remember to prepare for positive outcomes, too. May you prepare yourself for good memories, good lessons, and all the little places where sunlight will come shining through.” -MHN Shared St...2024-05-0742 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: Your Ex found someone..Now what?Jill and Ally discuss this common milestone in a co-parenting experience. 2024-05-0211 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeStories: Watching your kids happinessIn this story our listener shares their experience of stepping back and recognizing their kids growth and happiness after divorce. This episode is sponsored by Soberlink: Lay the groundwork for brighter days ahead. Visit ⁠www.soberlink.com/coffee⁠ to learn more and get $50 off your device. 2024-04-3007 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeBringing Good Energy into Your SpaceOne of the most empowering experiences after a split can be arranging and decorating your living space to make it your own. Our Coffee Date today is with LInda Varone, RN, MA, CFS, a former nurse who turned her passion for working with people into an interior design and Feng Shui business. We will explore how even little things can bring positive energy into your living space as you work to make it your own, whether you stayed in the home you shared with your ex or you’re settling into a new place. Main Points ...2024-04-2345 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: LonelinessDivorce and Co-parenting can be very lonely. In this espresso shot we talk about what loneliness is..How we have experienced it in our process and some things we have done to combat it. 2024-04-1811 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeStories: 1,000 ChancesIn this story our listener shares their experience with the breakdown of a relationship struggling with addiction. This episode is sponsored by Soberlink: Lay the groundwork for brighter days ahead. Visit www.soberlink.com/coffee to learn more and get $50 off your device. 2024-04-1603 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeCo-Parenting and AddictionAddiction in a relationship is complicated and challenging to navigate. It becomes even more complex when it is part of a divorce, custody negotiation, or during the co-parenting phase. Our Coffee Date today is with Laura Crossett, a certified drug and alcohol counselor and senior business development/outreach manager at Soberlink. We will explore how to navigate addiction as a part of your co-parenting journey, and how to help your kids through it. Main Points Today’s Quote: “You can’t save people. You can only love them while they learn how to save themselves.” - Lori D...2024-04-0942 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: Step ParentingWe discuss our thoughts, feelings, and experiences with step parenting either as a step parent or our children having step parents on the other side. 2024-04-0411 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeStories: The Real MeA story shared anonymously by one of our listeners on the the hopeful and exciting opportunity that divorce can create...The journey back to or discovering the new you. 2024-04-0203 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeGetting Intimate - With OurselvesRecovering from your divorce or breakup is a process. It can take longer, especially if your divorce gets drawn-out. Eventually, we all get to a point of wanting to feel better, or examining our part in how things ended. For some, therapy is a lifeline in processing experiences. For others, coaching can help with moving ahead. Our Coffee Date today is with Lindsey Hall, a divorce and intimacy coach. We will explore how intimacy coaching can help people heal and give their lives the refresh they need after their relationship ends. And, how this work can have an impact...2024-03-2654 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeStories: Not having the best situation but seeing the best in your situationA story shared anonymously by one of our listeners on the painful discovery of infidelity and trying to maintain perspective to navigate co-parenting after betrayal. 2024-03-1903 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeMortgage Maze before, during, and after divorce.Mortgages, home buying and selling are often topics that come up with divorce. A home is typically your largest asset, so join us as we have coffee with mortgage expert George DiGregorio from Zenith Mortgage to pick his brain about mortgages, different kinds of loans, what's common with divorce, or where to start if you are looking to buy a house in the near or far future. George is a great resource with 27 years experience, and he helps us understand the process of home buying and selling. Main Points Quote of the episode: “If there’s eve...2024-03-1341 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: Should you date? Are you ready to date?Ally and Jill talk about their experiences in dating after divorce and talk about the two big dating questions... Are you ready to date? Should you date? 2024-02-1611 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeFamily Court After Your DivorceEpisode Summary: In this episode, Ally and Jill speak with attorney Jolee Vacchi of Foundations Family Law, and share insights on navigating the legal and emotional challenges of divorce. We discuss effective co-parenting strategies, legal considerations, coercive control and narcissistic abuse and navigating it in the court. Jolee offers valuable advice for parents navigating court for the first time or modification. Main Points Extended Espresso Shot: Contemplating Divorce Coercive control and narcissistic abuse Navigating the courts NEW SEGMENT: Open Mic: People share anonymous stories of pain, strength, re...2024-02-0656 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: Telling People and What to ExpectWe discuss when you tell people and losing friends during your divorce. How to manage telling people. What to share and what not to share. How to manage losing friends. In-law relationships and how they can change. Join us! 2024-01-2508 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: The First Overnight without KidsIn this espresso episode we talk about our experiences on the first over night without kids and how we coped. 2024-01-1808 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeCo-Parenting with Teenagers: Don’t forget to laugh!Episode Summary: Not all co-parenting is the same. We talk with our guest, Julie Burton, about the differences in co-parenting younger children and teenagers. Topics include managing their schedules, how your co-parenting relationship changes as your kids' needs and social lives change, and some laughs about this new part of the journey. Main Points Our insights from last week's grow work: New Year's resolutions/Intentions What is the differences in co-parenting with teenagers as opposed to younger children Teenagers - How to manage the loss of time with them a...2024-01-1135 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot - When the Divorce Bomb is Dropped on YouThis is a quick chat or "espresso shot" i where we discuss when the divorce isn't your choice and you're blindsided with the news. 2024-01-0609 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeEspresso Shot: Contemplating DivorceThis is a quick chat or espresso shot if you will where we discuss if you're contemplating divorce. 2023-12-3008 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeComing Soon: C&C Espresso Shots! (Trailer)We are so excited to share the news of our coming mini-episodes, or "espresso shots" of Co-Parenting & Coffee! Jill and Ally will share their perspectives on specific elements of divorce and co-parenting, and encourage you to join us on our Instagram page and Facebook group to continue the discussion!2023-12-3000 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeCo-Parenting with a CheaterIn this episode, we talk about the mess that infidelity creates in a family when it comes to co-parenting. Our guest is Tracy Schorn, the self-named “Chump Lady,” who shares her experience co-parenting, and she gives some insights to how to best navigate dealing with a cheater. How do you maintain your relationship with your kids? Do you tell your kids and how? How will your kids and you recover from this? Main Points Our insights from last week's grow work: Taking time for yourself How to deal with a cheater Being...2023-12-2646 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeNavigating Co-Parenting and Setting Healthy BoundariesEpisode Summary: In this episode, we delve into establishing boundaries in the context of co-parenting with our guest Katie Davie from Co-Parenting Peacefully. Setting and respecting boundaries is fundamental in navigating the complexities of co-parenting. We explore why they are so hard to establish with your co-parent and what setting boundaries can look like when done successfully. We talk about why we need them and how we feel when we set and maintain them. Main Points Our insights from last week's grow work: Review from boundaries art therapy exercise Why are bo...2023-12-0547 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeHow you ACTUALLY feel, not how you SHOULD feel.Episode Summary: Just in time for the holidays, we welcome Scott Pinyard from the Modern Co-Parent. If you feel stressed, anxious, and angry, either during a divorce or while co-parenting, our guest Scott explains his approach to helping his clients heal and find peace. His motto when it comes to healing is “the sooner the better.” If you’re in a good place, your relationship with your ex, and your attitude toward them will be better, regardless of the person you're co-parenting with. We laugh about how he has only ever worked with the “good half” of the divorced couple, abo...2023-11-1455 min

Co-Parenting and CoffeeNo is an answer.Episode Summary: Whether you're in a high conflict co-parenting situation or an amicable one, there are always important things to consider in your journey. In this episode, our coffee date guest is TikTok influencer and founder of The Ugly Truth of Divorce, Samantha Boss. She shares how she matched her passion and pain to start a wildly successful parenting plan business and helps people navigate divorce. Sam is authentic, unapologetic, and really wants her clients to learn from her mistakes to make their experience different and better. We chat about things we’ve done wrong, how being the...2023-10-311h 07

Co-Parenting and CoffeeThe Birth of Mom GuiltJoin us for our very first episode of Co-Parenting and Coffee, a podcast for women who are co-parenting or going through a divorce. This week we had coffee with Christina Pavlina, co-founder and executive director of Jane Does Well, a non-profit that helps women going through a divorce. Christina shares her experience of co-parenting four children, who were each in very different developmental places when she and her ex-husband decided to divorce. This eventually brought her to discover the need for women to have support through the divorce process and how Jane Does Well came to be. 2023-10-1743 min