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Communicate to MotivateStriking a Deal: My Conversation with Alexiou Gibson, Shark Tank Deal Winner & Founder of The Transformation FactoryThe biggest episode of the podcast to date! I am joined by the founder and president of The Transformation Factory, Alexiou Gibson. They develop sea moss gel, a super food packed with nutrients and health benefits. Alexiou was on ABC's Shark Tank and struck a lucrative deal with Mark Cuban & Kevin Hart. Watch Alexio on Shark Tank here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YL_Efp4H6z0 Alexiou and I talk all about his Shark Tank experience, his revolutionary product, style of leadership and views on company culture and communication. Alexiou also has an e...
2023-04-0340 minCommunicate to MotivateDelayed Dreams: Still Worth ChasingIn this episode we look at delayed dreams and when we should start pursuing them again. Most times, it is about timing and credibility. Some are still worth it and should be pursued now...others need more time before the timing is right. --------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is the Vice President of Schools with The Jon Gordon Companies. He runs The Energy Bus for Schools program which helps to build positive school campuses across the country. Jim speaks to schools and companies on leadership, communication, culture, vision, and more. He is also a Professor o...
2023-03-1310 minCommunicate to MotivateAvoiding Coasting in Your Relationship: Special Conversation with Stephanie Van Allan of The Fitness MissionNo matter how long you have been together with your partner, we still should make genuine attempts to understand each other. Personalities shift over the years, and relational maintenance is needed! In today's episode, I am joined by my wife, Stephanie Van Allan, who runs a fitness non-profit You Tube channel called The Fitness Mission. She believes in a healthy mind, body, and soul. Enjoy this great conversation on a little-known yet very important aspect of communication: chronemics- how each person values time....it says so much about personality and actions! *This was recorded LIVE o...
2023-02-1620 minCommunicate to MotivateThe Hybrid Relationship: Collaboration Breeds CommunicationWhen taking a hybrid approach to a relationship, the traditional gender roles and responsibilities are significantly shared. When two people have the right mentality about the relationship and engage in a shared experience, it will solidify a stronger relationship. In this episode, we look at what this new 'hybrid man' looks like and ramifications for future generations. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is the Vice President of Schools with The Jon Gordon Companies. He runs The Energy Bus for Schools program which helps to build positive school campuses across the country. Jim speaks to schools a...
2023-02-0614 minCommunicate to MotivateHow Bad Do You Really Want a Habit Change?It all starts with you. How bad do you want to make a shift in your life? Until you really recognize and want something, it tends to not happen. If this is the year you finally want to make a change, you have to go all in...with a plan that works for you. In today's episode, we explore 4 ways to really succeed at habit and life changes. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is the Vice President of Schools with The Jon Gordon Companies. He runs The Energy Bus for Schools program which helps to b...
2023-01-3011 minCommunicate to MotivateInfluence to Action: What Made MLK Such a Great SpeakerToday we celebrate and honor the life of Martin Luther King Jr. He truly found his purpose and calling preaching and leading the Civil Right Movement in the late 50's and 60's. His impact led to many legal changes and way of life for Black people across America. In this episode we look at the Top 6 things that made MLK such an impactful and brilliant speaker. If you are looking to improve your public speaking, this is a must listen. Dr. Jim Van Allan is the Vice President of Schools with The Jon Gordon Companies. H...
2023-01-1617 minCommunicate to MotivateThe Comeback: 5 Things To Do As You Walk Your Path in 2023What path are you on in 2023? What kind of anxiety do you have about new ventures and goals you set for yourself? Every path is an opportunity to change your life for the better and inspire others in the process. Learn 5 things to do as you start down your path in 2023. --------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is the Vice President of Schools with The Jon Gordon Companies. He runs The Energy Bus for Schools program which helps to build positive school campuses across the country. Jim speaks to schools and companies on leadership, communication, culture, v...
2023-01-0914 minCommunicate to MotivateWe're Back! The Return of Communicate to Motivate for 2023The Return is Here! Communicate to Motivate is back for 2023. There will be new episodes, special guests, and lots of important take-aways as we move from series to series. Everyone loves a big return and a great comback. This goes for all of our listeners as you ring in a new year...what will your comeback be? What positive habits will you return to? Listen in as we talk all about our great comeback! --------------------------------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is the Vice President of Schools with The Jon Gordon Companies. He runs The Energy Bus...
2023-01-0211 minCommunicate to MotivateAn Origins Story: Airline Pilot to Professional Speaker- The Twisting Path of LifeIf you asked 8-year-old Jim Van Allan what he wanted to do when he is older, he would have emphatically said: airline pilot! My father was a commercial airline pilot for a long time, and I always loved air travel. However, fast forward through different life experiences, and I am not an airline pilot! My story begins like many of you- a thought or dream to be or do something, but it doesn't always end up like we planned. As our interests and personalities shift, so do our priorities and hopes and dreams. Keep being introspective and find that...
2022-05-2315 minCommunicate to MotivateEmotional Intelligence: Giving Feedback to OthersIt's all in how we say it...and from where it comes! Giving feedback to others can be a treacherous task sometimes. People often take things very personally especially if there is not a solid relationship already in place. In this episode we dive into some simple strategies when giving people feedback and what to do when our ideas are not adopted. Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also...
2022-05-0210 minCommunicate to MotivateEmotional Intelligence: Look for the Good FirstLooking for the good in others, first, is a powerful way to develop better emotional intelligence. In this episode, we look at how the rule of recognition helps us to: 1) Encourage others to continue the positive behavior 2) Build trust and psychological safety 3) Make it easier to share constructive criticism Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Co...
2022-04-2716 minCommunicate to MotivateEmotional Intelligence: Help FirstIn a game of tug-a-war, someone has to lose. People can even get hurt in the process if they are not careful. The same goes at work and at home where to-do lists are a mile long and emotional weight burdens us. It is a game of tug-a-war with our emotions and problems. I have my problems...and so do you. I have my worries...and so do you. Is anyone doing anything to help others or do we just want to deal with our own stuff? When you 'help first' you prioritize the needs of others and recognize...
2022-04-1814 minCommunicate to MotivateEmotional Intelligence: Building a Positive EnvironmentThe rule of positive psychology is simple. It basically states: When you build an environment focused on nurture, positive reinforcement, and highlighting strengths and potential, you help people to be the best version of themselves. Today we look at the impact emotional intelligence has on building a positive culture. This is especially important as businesses and schools struggle with retention. This helps to breed positive relationships that will allow the managers to hold people accountable while loving them at the same time. ------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer...
2022-04-1114 minCommunicate to MotivateSpecial Edition Power 5: Living a Life of SignificanceSPECIAL EDITION Two questions we need to ask ourselves after this episode: 1) Am I living a life of significance? 2) Where can I best invest my time moving forward? ------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public speaking, and interpersonal communication. He's also a family man and...
2022-04-0706 minCommunicate to MotivateSetting the Stage: 5 Burning Questions about Emotional IntelligenceWouldn't it be nice if you controlled your emotions and not the other way around? We begin a series on emotional intelligence and how this impacts our communication skills and relationships. Those who are emotionally intelligent are able to identify & control their emotions instead of being controlled by them. This is going to lead to more rational thinking, less outburts, and healthier bonds between people. So join us as we set the stage for a dynamic look at emotional intelligence on multiple levels. ------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and c...
2022-04-0417 minCommunicate to MotivateExpanding Our View: Understanding the Power & Significance of Nonverbal CommunicationAs human beings, we tend to focus on one stimulus at a time. Our brain does not like to handle multiple interactions and stimuli and is less effective in these environments. In this episode, we learn about the 1999 Simons & Chabris experiment of the 'invisible gorilla' and how that changed our viewpoints on stimuli and the brain. There is so much nonverbal communication information out there, that we tend to miss most of it since we are singularly focused on the verbal message and not any of the 80% that is actually nonverbal. We miss a lot of what happens around...
2022-03-2812 minCommunicate to MotivateUnderstanding & Capturing Our Negative ThinkingThe average human being will have between 12,000 and 60,000 thoughts per day! Additionally, 80% of our thoughts are negative and 95% are exactly the same as the day before. We are caught in the habit loop of negative and repetitive thinking, and many of us do not even realize it. When we learn to capture our negative thoughts, we begin to speak truth into the lies we tell ourself. ------------------------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with c...
2022-03-2113 minCommunicate to MotivateSpecial Edition Power 5: Turning Off the Noise of LifeSPECIAL EDITION Life is very noisy. In last week's episode, my guest- Tati Garcia- talked all about never being alone with our thoughts. This can cause high levels of anxiety because we are never dealing with what is on the inside. If there is constant noise (social media, TV, music, etc.) we never have a chance to sort through our own issues. In this Power 5, learn some quick lessons on how to effectively embrace the silence in our lives. Regular episode will be released on Monday! Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker...
2022-03-1105 minCommunicate to MotivateManaging High-Functioning Anxiety Inside Relationships with Special Guest: Tati GarciaEpisode 100! Personal anxiety can be a debilitating force and can harm your relationships as well. In today's episode, I talk with Tati Garcia, a licensed professional counselor and coach, all about managing high-functioning anxiety within relationships. We talk about what the symptoms look like and how to best communicate with a significant other about your anxiety. It's also important to realize how important self-awareness is to breaking unconscious behavior actions and make positive changes. Connect with Tati Garcia! Tati is a Licensed Professional Counselor and coach specializing in high-functioning anxiety. Her p...
2022-03-0735 minCommunicate to MotivateBonding, Uniting, and Developing: How GLUE Can Help You Succeed as a Leader and Team with Special Guest- Amy P. KellyIn this episode, I am joined by the Vice President of Consulting Services with The Jon Gordon Companies, Amy P. Kelly. She has a new book out called, GLUE: A Leadership Development Strategy to Bond and Unite. Here's more about the book: -------------------------------- Have you ever had a disagreement that caused a break in a personal or professional relationship and wished you could go back and handle things differently? Have you ever had a relationship dissolve when you thought someone stole your idea for a business, product, or program? Have you ever stood your ground...
2022-02-2845 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Do I Say: When You've Been WrongedThere are times when people say things that end up hurting you. Whether it is out of anger, frustration, or issues from their past, sometimes there is no dodging a verbal assault. The key is not to meet fire with fire and develop an inner-voice that lets you hit pause. In today's episode, we learn about accessing the logical side of your brain as well as the power of I-language when addressing someone who has hurt you. This will conclude the series on What Do I Say. ------------------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & t...
2022-02-2119 minCommunicate to MotivateSpecial Edition Power 5: Becoming a Great Meeting/Small Group FacilitatorSPECIAL EDITION Many of us find ourselves in situations where we have to lead a meeting, a small group, a PTA, a church event, or anything involving organizing a group of people. Learn 3 quick strategies to help you develop confidence as a meeting facilitator. 1) Involving everyone 2) Watching your timing 3) Don't let conversations get away from you Regular episodes release every Monday! -------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience...
2022-02-1705 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Do I Say: Difficult Conversations Inside a Relationship with Special Guest- Stephanie Van AllanValentine's Day Special! Join my wife, Stephanie Van Allan, and me, as we talk through 5 different topics you may encounter with your significant other. We discuss what you say and how you navigate the difficult conversations of a relationship. 1) Handling discipline with children 2) Household duties and roles 3) Finances 4) Getting irritated with each other 5) Faith -------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership...
2022-02-1441 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Do I Say: Communication in a Hostile & Divisive ClimateNo doubt more people are riled up and have intense view points on many social and political issues. It can be easy to simply surround yourself in a bubble of like-minded people, but what does that solve? Come learn some strategies for communicating with people who have different view points. Too many of us are afraid to engage with the 'other side' for fear of what we will say or how we will react. This podcast episode dives into that line of thinking and gives 4 strategies to operate in a divisive climate. ------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan...
2022-02-0720 minCommunicate to MotivateSpecial Edition Power 5: Trust & Culture with Remote WorkingSPECIAL EDITION This Power 5 looks at how employers and employees can develop more trust in remote working conditions. Sometimes there is a fear that culture will be lost or minimized with remote working, however, this is a unique opportunity to tweak culture. Workplace cultures are often fluid any way, and the same mission and vision can be upheld even with remote working conditions. Regular episode releasing this Monday! Look for these *special edition* episodes released throughout the year. ---------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies...
2022-02-0306 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Do I Say: Communicate to....UnMotivate!?There are going to be plenty of times ahead where you are approached by someone who has a great idea to tell you about. They think it will change the world or at least their current situation. The pressure is on! We have to be sure not to immediately dismiss the idea, ask the right questions, delicately express our concerns, and use empathy. Come listen in as we dissect this pivotal conversation. -------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of e...
2022-01-3119 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Do I Say? Break-Ups & LossWhen you find yourself in a conversation with someone dealing with a break-up or death, it can seem daunting. The spotlight is on you to provide the support and 'right things to say'. There is sometimes real pressure not to lose credibility as a confidant. Learn the right temperament and key phrases to say in both those situation right here on the podcast. --------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development...
2022-01-2413 minCommunicate to MotivateSpecial Edition Power 5: Communication is the Top Skill Employers Want in 2022SPECIAL EDITION This Power 5 looks at a Yahoo Finance article from early January highlighting the importance of communication as a top skill employers want in 2022. Regular episode will be available on Monday. These 'special edition' Power 5's will appear randomly throughout the year for extra content! -------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches c...
2022-01-2006 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Do I Say? Strategies & Phrases To Get Through Tough ConversationsWe've all been in those situations where a friend, colleague, or family member approaches us and opens up about a difficult situation. All of a sudden, our minds go blank on what to say or we say something completely garbled. It's time to be prepared in the area of 'What do I say?' if you are caught in this situation. Most of the time, they happen out of nowhere so it is best to be prepared. --------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has...
2022-01-1718 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Three Ways to Improve Friendships in 2022Our last Power 5 episode before we switch back to regular episodes. I explore three ways you can strengthen your friendships and friends' groups in the new year. We are meant to strive for personal relationships in this world and just need some strategies to make them better and more fulfilling. You can look forward to future series such as: The Ripple Effect and What To Say coming up next. Enjoy! --------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping...
2022-01-1006 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Where is Your Mind in the New Year?Take.Your.Thoughts.Captive. The only way 2022 will feel different than 2021/2020 is if you finally say: I am in control of my mind, actions, thoughts, and responses. This is a year about being in control of you and your family. Let's not fall for the traps and go 'down the rabbit hole'. ------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of C...
2022-01-0305 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Consistency & Encouragement in the New YearConsistency. Consistency. Consistency. Consistency. Consistency. Need to hear anymore? Goals, development, and everything else is always a process and requires two things: encouragement and, you guessed it....consistency! Make this year the best one yet! ----------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public speaking...
2021-12-2705 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Lessons Learned from 2021What a year and what a year of podcast series' it has been! We touched on many fascinating subjects from personality and communication types, public speaking, communication with the self and what every relationship needs. It was a personal and honest look at many broad communication topics to motivate you in the best areas of your life! Come listen to some of the most important take-aways and lessons from 2021. ---------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals a...
2021-12-2105 minCommunicate to MotivateFeeling 'ROOTED' in Your Vision for 2022We are all on a journey of personal and professional development. The process can feel long and tiring at times. Let's not complicate the process with unrealistic expectations and long visions and resolution lists. A one-word vision has the power to fuel and motivate you as you venture into the new year. It can give you a strong foundation in which to grow from as the year moves on. Visions are meant to be shared, celebrated, and put into motion. The best is yet to come! Jim Van Allan's One Word Vision for 2022: ROOTED John 15:5
2021-12-1314 minCommunicate to MotivateCommunication Do's and Don'ts at Holiday PartiesTis' the season for holiday parties and get-togethers. Listen in as we focus on asking the right questions to party-goers and avoiding the wrong ones. This episode contains some party tactics and techniques to give you the edge in conversation and, most of all, enjoy yourself! ----------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public...
2021-12-0615 minCommunicate to MotivateFamily Communication Tips for the Holidays Part 2: No Communication BulliesWe continue looking at how to have good family conversations this holiday season. This episode looks at not being a communication bully, turn-taking, not interrupting, and not sweating the small stuff. Embrace the family quirks and enjoy the experience! ------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public speaking, and interpersonal communication. He's...
2021-11-2911 minCommunicate to MotivateFamily Communication Tips for the HolidaysWe begin a short series on exploring the best communication practices for interacting with family over the holidays. Each week we'll reveal some tips to help you feel more engaged as you interact with many different people this holiday season. This episode focuses on asking the right questions, having an exit strategy, finding commonalities, and asking yourself 'Am I talking too much?' ---------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and...
2021-11-2214 minCommunicate to MotivateTransforming the Mind with Special Guest, Tim Kremer, of Peak Performance Mind CoachingIn today's episode, I am joined by Tim Kremer, the founder and lead coach with Peak Performance Mind Coaching. Tim has dedicated the last 20 plus years to helping athletes tap into the inner power and winning edge that lie beyond physical talent. He teaches them to access and activate new skills within themselves and to see that anything they want is possible through the power of the mind. He helps to take them from where they are now to where they want to be. Tim is the perfect guest as we conclude our series on...
2021-11-1642 minCommunicate to MotivateLiving a Longer Life with Improved Self-CareIn this episode, we look at what self-care looks like in our lives, why it is important, and how you can start a healthy routine. Filled with medical sources and doctor opinions, intentional self-care has the power to make you healthy from a spiritual, emotional, and physical standpoint, and it just may extend your life! -------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor...
2021-11-1014 minCommunicate to MotivateIdentifying & Managing our Emotional TriggersIf you are human...you have emotions. In this episode, we learn how to identify what our emotional triggers are and where they come from. We also look at strategies to mitigate these in the moment. The key is to catch yourself right before you go over the emotional cliff! ------------------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches...
2021-11-0113 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat's Holding You Back: Lack of FlexibilityHave you ever been called stubborn? We all have at certain points in our life. Is this stubbornness causing you to miss out on better ideas? More creative thought? More control over emotions? In this episode, we look at why so many of us are not flexible when it comes to productivity and what we can do about it. Emotional control and embracing change are two big topics of discussion in this show. Join Jim and Jon Gordon for a free webinar on October 28 at Noon Eastern: Energizing Our Schools! https://powerofpositiveschools.com/o...
2021-10-2518 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat's Holding You Back: Expecting Instant ResultsWe live in a society of instant gratification and that can cause addiction to that way of thinking. It can also lead to destructive behavior, negative thoughts, and impulsiveness. In this episode we look at why people expect success so quickly and some ways we can re-wire our brains to a more patient, alternative approach. --------------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor...
2021-10-1817 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat's Holding You Back: Developing the Fire WithinWhatever goals you are trying to accomplish, whatever person you are trying to become, whatever you are trying to create...you have to know your why and believe in the process and yourself. A great quote to define this episode is 'Awareness is the beginning of all change' so we have to look inward to determine where we want to go. It's time to cast aside the negative thoughts and visualize the process toward success. --------------------------------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a...
2021-10-1114 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat's Holding You Back: Comparison with OthersA lot of us are trying to build something, create something, and/or accomplish something. We can't continue to live in a world where we look left and right and see what others are doing all the time. We will find feelings of inadequacy there and not feelings of progress and encouragement. --------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies a...
2021-10-0413 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat's Holding You Back: Fear of FailureOnly you know 'the thing' from which you are being held back. This fear of failure can force us to live in a world where we are paralyzed to move...even though the fear isn't real. We are caught in a habit loop of thought and need to break free. We talk about all of this and steps you can take to overcome this fear of failure and get started on your idea...today! --------------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade wor...
2021-09-2812 minCommunicate to MotivateIdentifying & Managing Our Negative Self-TalkIn this episode, we look at the latest research from the Mayo Clinic that helps us identify the types of negative self-talk we engage with. Also, we discuss the ways to overcome these- scenarios so we can be the best version of ourselves. ---------------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public speaking, and interpersonal...
2021-09-2013 minCommunicate to MotivateEngaging in Positive Self-TalkDo you talk to yourself? Let's face it...we all do it! Learn how we are trapped in a loop of negative thought and some important strategies to break free from negative self-talk. A positive, healthy mindset is the key to seeing the big picture, seeing solutions, seeing opportunities, and having the best relationships possible. ----------------------------------- ------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is a...
2021-09-1313 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Learning to Love YourselfIn our final Power 5 episode, we dive into all things YOU. The brilliance of your uniqueness should not be overlooked. This will bridge into our new series coming up about having positive self-dialogue. ------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public speaking, and interpersonal communication. He's also a family man and lives...
2021-09-0606 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Dealing with the Negativity Around UsIn today's Power 5, we look at how negativity is unavoidable in life. However, we have the antidote- control what you can control! You may not like the answers that lie ahead but they are crucial to becoming more resilient. ------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public speaking, and interpersonal communication. He's...
2021-08-3006 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Learning to Motivate and Encourage OthersIn today's Power 5, we look at the importance of motivating others as a way to energize them...and ourselves! ------------------------ ------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public speaking, and interpersonal communication. He's also a family man and lives with his wife and two boys in South Florida. N...
2021-08-2305 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Having a Healthy Mind, Body, & SoulIn today's POWER 5, I look at the advantages of having a healthy mind, body, and soul. When we focus on taking care of us, we communicate to ourselves and others that we care and love ourselves. We want our bodies and minds to be at peak positions because we know that will allow us to be the best version of ourselves moving forward. It's time to stay energized, be productive, go work out, eat healthy, and gear up for the best FALL of your life! ------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for...
2021-08-1605 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Less Control is More FreedomIn today's POWER 5 episode, I discuss how we can loosen our grip on always wanting to be in control. When we learn to trust others, show ourselves grace, and adopt a service-like attitude, we realize that everything is not all about us. It's time to stay motivated, energized, have some fun, and let...go! ------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of...
2021-08-0905 minCommunicate to MotivatePower 5: Getting Things DoneNew Series Alert! For the next six weeks, you will hear 5-minute long POWER episodes that focus on a different area of motivation to bridge you into having the BEST Fall season of your life. Time to stay energize, stay motivated, and get...things...done! 1st episode is all about staying productive, getting plugged into time, and being as efficient as possible. ------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, a...
2021-08-0207 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Every Relationship Needs: Giggle (Creating Humor Together)We continue in our series on 'What Every Relationship Needs' talking about the potent power of laughter! Social scientists have studied articles and journals over the last 30 years and found that laughter is a giant determinant of relational success. Couples have to find ways to naturally connect over laughter and humor. The beauty is in the humor that couples create together. ------------------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development s...
2021-07-1910 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Every Relationship Needs: Stop Taking Each Other for GRANTEDAs we continue our series on 'What Every Relationship Needs,' we look at how we can stop taking our relational partner for granted. There is a great quote that sums up why this episode is so important 'when you take someone for granted, you are teaching them how to live without you'. This should be an eye-opening moment where we face the truth if we are taking the other person for granted and how to change things on our own. ------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across...
2021-07-1211 minCommunicate to MotivateThe Communication That Fueled a Revolution: Celebrating America's Independence DaySpecial episode alert! Come hear all the major aspects of communication that helped to fuel the American Revolution. From pamphlets and symbols to speeches and word-of-mouth, the American Revolution was built on effective communication from men and women who had their lives on the line! ----------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public speaking...
2021-07-0513 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Every Relationship Needs: GLOW (How Can We Communicate Happiness?)When something glows, it makes us happy! In today's episode, we look at how to communicate happiness inside our relationships. There have been many scientific studies done on how to achieve happiness with relationships. Two things stand out from the research: being emotionally responsive and working on positive actions every single day. A relationship takes work! That is why you are here listening to these episodes so you can be armed with knowledge and motivation to keep your relationships strong. ------------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies ac...
2021-06-2814 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Every Relationship Needs: GratitudeThank you for listening to this show; I appreciate all my listeners! Gratitude is necessary in every aspect of life. This is true in the business world to the education world and to our relationships. According to studies, marital satisfaction can significantly decrease if both partners are not equal in levels of gratitude. We need to show gratitude and encouragement in our partner's areas of personal growth as well. Most relational partners want to add value to the other person's life and have value added to theirs. When we show gratitude, we are communicating a deep and p...
2021-06-2109 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Every Relationship Needs: GivingWe continue in this series talking about the value of giving in multiple areas of our relationships. Being a 'giver' in the relationship shows your partner that you 'get them' and 'understand them'. Understanding is a deep level of relational connection that binds two people together for the long haul. We look at how we can understand and give better in relationships through teamwork, acts of service, and loving them for who they are. ------------------------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a...
2021-06-1412 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Every Relationship Needs: GrowthYour relationship needs to be constantly growing to keep up with changing situations, personalities, and challenges. Both people have to be ALL-IN on the growth and it must be in an organic form. Too much change can result in rebellion sometimes, and humans need a chance to get their feet wet first. Aspects of growth in a relationship are no different, and goals must be realistic and attainable. There are many potential areas for growth for couples, and while it will not be easy, the journey is worth it. ------------------ Dr. Ji...
2021-06-0717 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Every Relationship Needs: GraceGrace is the ability to show love and mercy to someone even when we feel they do not deserve it. This must be the cornerstone of healthy relationships because there is freedom in letting something go. Relationships, especially marriages, are going to involve their fair share of challenges and ups/downs. We all make mistakes and negatively impact people, but the hope is that it is not the norm! The goal of engaging in a conflict should be to get the point of showing and receiving grace. In this episode, we talk all about the importance of...
2021-05-3114 minCommunicate to MotivateBONUS Episode: Men and Their Relationship with God featuring author Dustan ChristensenAs a sub-episode to our series on 'What Every Relationship Needs' I bring on author Dustan Christensen who talks all about men and their relationship with God. This has a lasting impact on the family and the legacy left behind. We talk about the need to control, pursuing worldly-things, spending time with God, leaving a legacy, and the need to have a community of guys to help go through life. Follow Dustan on Instagram: @dustanrc21 Check out the book exclusively on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Obedience-Sacrifice-Quest-Align-Purpose-ebook/dp/B08WLXBYVG/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=obedience+v...
2021-05-2434 minCommunicate to MotivateWhat Every Relationship Needs: GodWhat does every relationship need? God. We are kicking off our series talking about strengthening your relationship with God at the center of it. With God, you discover a new kind of love and a better way to communicate. God wants to see our relationships succeed and wants us to use positive communication for the long-haul. No matter your spiritual/religious journey, God exists, and we just have to crack the door open to draw closer to Him...individually and together as a couple. ---------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer...
2021-05-1713 minCommunicate to MotivateOne Year Anniversary Show! 'Coming Full Circle'We made it! We celebrate the 1-Year Anniversary of the show by coming full circle back to our original topics. It has been a true joy to create and produce this podcast over the last 12 months. With 55 episodes now, listeners have a firm foundation for how to use better communication skills in their lives. This show started out talking about communication skills inside relationships as a way of showing listeners the value of investing in the people in your life. Communication is the main way to bridge divides, heal tension, and grow inside that relationship. We'll talk m...
2021-05-0319 minCommunicate to MotivatePublic Speaking: Weapon or Building Block?In our final episode of the mini-series on Public Speaking, we look at the art of speech and how people use it in our society. We also take a broad-look at messaging in general and what it can do to manipulate people. Public Speaking is a way of transmitting information and motivating people to act either in thought or in person, sometimes both. We take a hard look at not allowing ourselves to be manipulated and controlled by brands and people who want to use speech as a weapon. We, as a society, need to be better t...
2021-04-2615 minCommunicate to MotivatePublic Speaking: Voice and Delivery Part 2 'Creating an Experience for Your Audience'In this episode we explore what it takes to become a mindful speaker. This is someone who is cognizant of both their body and voice while simultaneously delivering good content with their presentation. Your body is your instrument to help the audience stay engaged in the message. In turn, this will help them to remember the content and do something with the information. I give tips and suggestions for body placement, gestures, hands, pacing, and more so you can become a well-rounded, complete, mindful speaker. ---------------------------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & t...
2021-04-1919 minCommunicate to MotivatePublic Speaking: Voice and Delivery Part 1 'Taking Them on a Rollercoaster of Emotions'The wonderful world of public speaking continues with a deep dive this week into the power of voice. Your voice is your tool to develop emotional bonds with the audience. We can take them on a roller coaster ride with our voices. Whether it be through inflection, tone, rate, or volume, our voice tries to captivate the audience and hold their attention. We also look at using filler words like um, uhs, like, ya' knows. We try to understand why we do it and how we can combat against it. --------------------------- Dr. Jim...
2021-04-1215 minCommunicate to MotivatePublic Speaking: Audience is Everything!A speaker has many goals as they develop a presentation, but one goal remains central: leave a lasting impact. This is where audience comes into play. Everything the speaker does before, during, and after the presentation is all about the audience receiving the message. It is important to know that how they perceive the message matters so we must leave very little room for misconception. When we know who is in our audience, we can deliver an exception message intended for them. They will feel more engaged with the message knowing they are getting something specifically for...
2021-04-0514 minCommunicate to MotivateThe Amazing & Terrifying World of Public SpeakingThere is so much talk about people fearing public speaking over pretty much everything...including death! Like anything, public speaking can become a learned skill that just takes intentional refinement and trial and error. In this episode we discuss the whys behind a fear of public speaking and how the body goes into survival mode if we are not prepared. There are many links between being prepared for a presentation and the amount of nerves you feel. The end goal is to know that we must learn to manage anxiety with speaking because it will never truly...
2021-03-2916 minCommunicate to MotivateUF Gymnast Leah Clapper Joins the Show!Leah Clapper is a gymnast for the currently ranked No. 1 University of Florida gymnastics team. Her path to UF started in Ann Arbor, Michigan, where she became a 'senior elite level' gymnast before signing with UF three years ago. Listen in as Leah talks about life as an ambitious student-athlete, her trials and hardships during her freshman year and how it was actually her Mom that helped snap her out of a difficult mental situation in her life. Leah discusses the importance of communication among team mates, the love they share for each other (even as...
2021-03-2250 minCommunicate to MotivatePersonality Types & Communication: The Encourager, The Challenger & The PeacemakerJoin us as we look at the final three Enneagram descriptions and the communication strategies best suited for each one. This has been an enlightening look at just how different we all are. There are so much variations to our personalities, and the way in which we all want to be communicated with is so vastly different as well. ------ Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He...
2021-03-1517 minCommunicate to MotivatePersonality Types & Communication: The Individualist, The Investigator & The LoyalistThis week we are focusing on the Enneagram descriptions of the individualist, the investigator, and the loyalist. All three of these personality types are very different and each comes with a unique communication strategy. Take the time to figure out which Enneagram description you most identify with as well as the people around you. It's important to learn about the personality types of others so we can mirror communication strategies that are common with each type. When type people are communicating effectively, the relationship can grow to new heights. Enneagram Descriptions: https://www.e...
2021-03-0819 minCommunicate to MotivatePersonality Types & Communication: The Reformer, The Helper & The AchieverThis week I take a deep dive into the first three Enneagram descriptions which are the reformer, the helper, and the achiever. After doing a brief review of the common personality traits associated with each description, you will hear about specific communication strategies for each personality type. Take the time to figure out which Enneagram description you most identify with as well as the people around you. It's important to learn about the personality types of others so we can mirror communication strategies that are common with each type. When type people are communicating effectively, the relationship...
2021-03-0115 minCommunicate to MotivatePersonality Types & CommunicationKnow thyself! This ancient phrase rings true today as we should be seeking a deeper understanding of who we are, what our personality is about, and HOW we want to be communicated with. Once we achieve this, we can seek understanding of others around us. This new series will take us through the Enneagram descriptions of our personality and cover all 9 over the next few weeks. This introduction episode will serve as an opener to the importance of understanding personality types and the communication styles associated with each one. Take Personality Tests here: ...
2021-02-2219 minCommunicate to MotivateLove & Communication: My Conversation on the Podcast 'Relationships GPS'I was fortunate to be the first guest on the hit podcast 'Relationships GPS' with Anna Feggari & Madalina Miron. We talk all things communication and love in a 'take the gloves' off type conversation. This interview covers topics related to intimacy, conflict, kids, significant others, breaking communication barriers, male-to-male communication, and so much more. It's a true, genuine look at the impact communication has on relationships and love. ------------------- Find Relationships GPS: https://open.spotify.com/show/3ddNtoDLvBVp86ELJ7sAVK https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relationships-gps/id1517647506 --------------------
2021-02-1550 minCommunicate to MotivateAre You a Civil Communicator? Understanding Will-Power & The Effect on Communication SkillsThis episode will encourage all of us to look inward and ask: Am I a civil communicator? As a society, there are times we are addicted to self-expression when restraint may be the best form of expression there is. If we are to heal divides and fix broken relationships, we need to develop a level of understanding and empathy. Additionally, we begin to free ourselves from the burden of always needing to express an opinion or thought and listen better. ------------------------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies a...
2021-02-0815 minCommunicate to MotivateLiving for the MomentIt's time to end our mini-series, Don't Blink, with some simple but powerful reminders that we must enjoy the moments, large or small. I will ask the question during the episode: Why do something if you're not going to enjoy it? Don't Blink has been all about spending quality time with our loved ones, our kids, our significant others, etc. because we can't get moments back! When you live in the present, you live for the moment and attach meaning and significance to memories. Your emotions and your memories are tied together. So enjoy this f...
2021-02-0114 minCommunicate to MotivateThe Conscious Relationship: Time is PreciousLiving in a conscious relationship means putting in the time and effort that it deserves. Our relationships should not be a source of constant frustration or anxiety as we have enough of that in our world. Quality time with our relational partners over the years builds strong bonds of emotional intimacy. It is this intimacy that fulfills many attachment needs that we all have. When needs are not being met, that can cause people to act out verbally and nonverbally so an examination of our relationship is in order. Quality time is the perfect way to block...
2021-01-2515 minCommunicate to MotivateThe Center of Your World: Top Tips for Quality TimeListen in as I go through some of the top strategies to spend more quality time with your kids, family, and significant other. This is all backed by some of the latest research into quality time & communication and the impact it has on the development of children. Their brains are growing and developing at rapid rates providing the ultimate opportunity to impact them with our time and energy. Relationships and the amount of effort put in from a time and love standpoint is a choice! Make the best choices today to secure your family and y...
2021-01-1817 minCommunicate to MotivateNew Series: Don't Blink- Quality Time Matters More Than EverOur new series will focus on spending quality time with those around us and what role communication plays in this area. As we begin the new year, it’s important to re-evaluate our priorities, where we spend our time, and start getting our own houses in order. ‘Don’t Blink’ will be a personal and genuine approach to the subject of quality time. It will include topics on repairing broken relationships, changing dynamics as parents and kids get older as well as being present in the moment. No one is promised tomorrow and as 2020 taught us, ever...
2021-01-1115 minCommunicate to MotivateOne Word Vision for 20212021 is here! Now is the time to start thinking about your personal vision and motivations for the new year. All of us want 2021 to be the ultimate rebound year but that requires intentional choices on our end! Having a 'One Word' vision for the new year allows you to simplify your goals, resolutions and motivations into one word from which everything can link. Next, we share our one-word vision with those around us in order to hold us accountable and encourage them to pick a word as well. This is a great activity for schools, companies, and...
2021-01-0418 minCommunicate to MotivateSmart Phone & Social Media Use- Lessons for Us and Our FamiliesSmart phones and social media dominate our society but that does not mean they have to take over our lives or the lives of our children. Miles and Jenae Hunter from Treasure Coast Community Church join me this week to discuss research and strategies surrounding smart phones and social media usage. Miles is the Student Pastor at TC3 and actively engages with our teenagers on social media and phone issues. This episode is not telling you to throw away your phones but to have more conscious awareness for yourself and your kids on screen time and social m...
2020-12-2848 minCommunicate to Motivate11 Lessons from 11 Years of MarriageYou learn a lot after 11 years of marriage, and in this episode, my wife, Stephanie Van Allan, joins me to share some lessons, insights, and experiences. Our 11-year anniversary is today, December 21, and we felt it was the perfect time to release this episode. Identifying emotional triggers Showing appreciation Recognizing and taking ownership of poor behavior Splitting household duties Alignment with plans and purchases Alignment with interests and finances Intentional about quality time Acting as a team Being romantically available
2020-12-2129 minCommunicate to MotivateMost Likely To SucceedWe live in a culture of achievement where expectations and pressures are high; all of which can cause us to doubt our own success. We also live within a system that is teaching us how to act, think, and what certain ideologies of success or failure look like. In today’s episode, we look at certain societal stigmas, analyze success, and what is probably has already looked like in your life...or can look like. --------- Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a dec...
2020-12-1520 minCommunicate to MotivateFormer Police Commander & Army Paratrooper Patrick Fitzgibbons Drops Into The ShowPatrick Fitzgibbons is a retired Police Commander from Colorado with over two decades of experience in many different roles. He is also an adjunct college professor and enjoys teaching the next generation of criminal justice professionals. A former Army Paratrooper with the elite 82nd Airborne Division, Patrick is an avid supporter of active military members and veterans. Patrick is a personal coach, speaker and is the host and creator of CJEvolution which is a top ranked criminal justice podcast. He is also the author of EVOLVE – A collection of Routines, Habits and Advice to Take Charge of yo...
2020-12-0724 minCommunicate to MotivateLeading an Authentic Life: Event Planner Katrina Hutchins Joins the ShowThe type of events and weddings that Katrina Hutchins plans are the ones you actually look forward to attending because it will be a visual experience. No details go unchecked for Katrina as she leads the planning and execution of the some of the most gorgeous events you will see or be part of. Katrina joins the show to talk about her journey from our hometowns of Palm Harbor, FL to working as a consultant to high level hospital administrators to accomplishing her dream of starting this company. She found her passion and is helping others to...
2020-11-3033 minCommunicate to MotivateThe Accidental Culture: CTM Customs Owner Matt Okerson Drives the ShowWhen Matt Okerson started his custom, automotive, truck, and motorcycle shop years ago, he never dreamed he would be taking on a mentorship role for many of the people who work there. He has built a culture of relationships, faith, and stewardship as he interacts with all of his employees on a daily basis. Matt is a US Army veteran, served in Iraq, and now owns one of South Florida’s largest custom shops. He describes the amazing culture at his shop as an ‘accidental culture’ because it became something he felt called to do. He is more t...
2020-11-2329 minCommunicate to MotivateA Real-Life Rocket Scientist: Chester Durnin Joins the ShowMr. Durnin contracted with NASA and the Department of Defense starting in the 1960’s and retired in 1992. Listen as he shares real stories related to the early launch days of the Apollo missions including the very sad fire that occurred with Apollo 1. Chester shares how miscommunication led to some incidents that the media never found out about and walks listeners through the disciplined launch communication that must occur for a successful launch. He is still just as passionate as ever about the space program and believes we will soon have a person on Mars! My favorite line fr...
2020-11-1634 minCommunicate to MotivateLeading from the Inside Out: Special Guest Alex DemczakFormer Mizzou QB and now author/speaker Alex Demczak joins me this week to discuss all things communication and leadership. Hear about his up-and-down time at Mizzou which led him to write his first book 'ThriveU' while serving his team mates in the process. Alex believes in leading from the inside out and a stewardship responsibility to give away content and strive to help others achieve their personal and organizational best. He is a great storyteller who shares some personal examples of struggle, growth, and ultimate success. You can find out more about Alex Demczak h...
2020-11-0929 minCommunicate to MotivateIt's Raining Carpenter Ants: The Ultimate Distraction EpisodeNo politics. No elections. Just fun this week. I tell two stories from different eras of life and the lessons that accompany each one. I felt this was a week where we needed to laugh a little bit. What is the central component of each talk? You guessed it: communication. Learn about how I stood at the wedding alter with no money and a rental car my mom paid for and then how I had carpenter ants rain down on my head during our home renovation. Great stories from the past and some powerful lessons along the w...
2020-11-0220 minCommunicate to MotivateBringing It All Together: No Complacency in Our FamiliesWe have reached the conclusion of our series on ‘Protecting the Family’ and it is time to review some of the most important moments and lessons from the past 13 episodes. One of the main lessons is that families cannot become complacent as they move through society and time. Life and people will evolve, so the collective family needs to maintain open lines of sustainable communication. I talk about some of the most important episodes from this series and what the main take-aways are for our listeners. This is a great moment to take a breather as we tran...
2020-10-2616 minCommunicate to MotivateThe Resilient American FamilyThis week's episode dissects the results of the 6th Annual American Family Survey conducted by BYU. Over 3,000 Americans participated in the extensive survey, and the results are conclusive: despite the challenges of 2020, the American family is resilient. The survey covered many items from faith, Covid, politics, and issues most affecting American families. Most of the results are split according to Republican, Democrat, and Independent results. While there may be gaps according to a family's political affiliation, the general conclusions show American families are ready for the challenges ahead and survived 2020 feeling stronger than ever. Let's no...
2020-10-1916 minCommunicate to MotivateCherishing Family TraditionsThe year 2020 draws to a close, and we need to cherish our family traditions like no time before. These traditions help families to form a unique identity that works to bond everyone together. People feel a sense of comfort and security knowing they will be able to practice that tradition because it has become part of who they are. Traditions are another nonverbal way to communicate to your family your love and respect for the group and specific activity. These family traditions create a sense of belonging, which many psychologists say, is just as important as food...
2020-10-1216 minCommunicate to MotivateYour Family's Collective BeliefYour family’s collective belief is knowing who you are as a family, what you stand for, what your goals are, and where you are going. It is something that is actively discussed and implemented in everything your family does. The collective belief becomes your marching tune and changes the environment for everyone. This week we dive into a family’s collective belief being a way to unify families and provide kids with a healthy emotional environment in which to grow up. They may be more willing to open up to parents and guardians if that has alwa...
2020-10-0514 minCommunicate to MotivateThe Wake-Up Call: Lessons from a Broken RelationshipIn this episode, I get real and personal with you as I share the story of my father and I and our tumultuous relationship. The intention is hopefully a wake-up call on your end to fix a damaged family relationship or perhaps a reminder to keep strengthening the ones you have. Emotions cut deep with family conflict and can last a lifetime. If we truly want to 'protect our families' as this series is named, we can start on the relational level and not let issues build-up over time. Dr. Jim Van Allan i...
2020-09-2814 minCommunicate to MotivateUsing Communication to Set Healthy BoundariesIn this episode, we discuss what internal and external boundaries look like for a family as well as the strategies to help you secure them. By setting healthy boundaries with our kids, we do not create added pressure and responsibility to their lives. Additionally, by setting healthy boundaries with others, we become more genuine in our actions and find a nice rhythm for how we interact. It’s time to listen and then sit down with your significant other and family to determine what your family boundaries look like. Boundaries are meant to be discussed, set, and th...
2020-09-2113 minCommunicate to MotivateUnder Pressure: Our Dads with Special Guest Devin ShawThe latest research into fatherhood reveals that 72% of Dads feel emotionally and physically worn out. Our Dads set high expectations for themselves in their family and work lives and can experience all forms of stress, pressure, and anxiety to reach those levels. Additionally, some Dads may struggle to maintain some assemblance of rhythm in their family lives. I am joined this week by Devin Shaw, a nurse anesthetist, Presidential Founder with Green Compass, and father of three kids all under the age of 6. He shares amazing insights into the world of being a Dad and husband who...
2020-09-1430 minCommunicate to MotivateUnder Pressure: Our Moms with Special Guest Stephanie Van AllanThis week we are joined by my wife, Stephanie Van Allan, who is also a working Mom and great team mate in life. She answers some questions that both Moms and Dads will want to hear as we explore what causes Moms so much stress, anxiety, and pressure. She reveals some personal examples on how to handle stressful triggers, enjoy personal time, and find a great balance between work, life, and family. This is a great episode for families dealing with the daily pressure of life and can feel the stress mount up. Our Moms carry a...
2020-09-0721 minCommunicate to MotivateUnder Pressure: Our KidsOur children, no matter the age, deal with a very different world right now. With a culture of achievement, high expectations, threatening social climate, and intrusive social media, pressure and anxiety can build within the young minds of our children. This episode will show parents and family members the harmful side of an anxious kid and ways we can better communicate with them. Parents need to learn to have the difficult conversations and acknowledge what kids go through every day. We can see how powerful it is to have our kids be more connected to w...
2020-08-3116 minCommunicate to MotivateUnder Pressure: The American FamilyThere's always something! How can our American families better manage the anxieties and pressures of life in 2020 and beyond? This episode explores how communication can help the active family be more available and understand how to deal with anxiety and pressure as it enters our households. Dr. Jim Van Allan is a speaker & trainer for schools and companies across the nation. He has over a decade worth of experience helping individuals and organizations with communication, leadership, and personal development skills. He is also a Professor of Communication Studies and teaches classes on communication, public speaking, and interpersonal...
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