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She's Just Not That Into YouHow to enjoy being single as a womanDespite what all the romcoms and Disney movies lead us to believe, being single as a woman is not just an unfortunate condition to be tolerated, it's something that you can actively enjoy! Research shows that by 2030, 45% of women are predicted to be single, and single women tend to be happier, healthier and live longer than married women. But even though most women nowadays are financially independent and we know that being single has a lot of benefits both to our physical and mental health, in our current society it's still seen as bad for a woman t...2025-04-1339 min
She's Just Not That Into YouBook Club 03: The Wedding People by Alison EspachIn this Book Club episode, we discuss The Wedding People, a popular novel by Alison Espach. We discussed what we liked about the novel, especially how it touches on important feminist themes such as how modern-day wedding culture is toxic, the dangers of centring your life around a man, and the way a lot of women make themselves small because they lack confidence. We also liked how the novel comments on how you're never too old to change yourself or try new things.We also talked about some problematic aspects of the novel, such as t...2025-04-0637 min
She's Just Not That Into YouWhy it’s crucial to choose the right friendsIn this episode, we discuss the importance of surrounding yourself with the right friends. A study at Harvard showed that your close friends determine your life outcomes such as your physical health, lifestyle choices, career prospects, financial situation, and happiness levels, even more so than your spouse, your parents, or your siblings. Our friends have a huge impact on our life, but how do we make sure we're surrounding ourselves with the right ones?We discuss how we personally choose the right people to be friends with, how to avoid getting into unhealthy friendship dynamics w...2025-03-301h 14
She's Just Not That Into YouBeauty standards are killing women all over the world and how we can free ourselvesIn this episode, we discuss how beauty standards universally affect women in every country all over the world, and how we can free ourselves.Beauty standards are highly subjective, shaped by the cultural and historical context of each specific society. But no matter where you live, how old you are, what your background is, how powerful you are or how much money you have, no woman on the planet can escape beauty standards. Firstly, we discuss all the different types of beauty standards and expectations that are placed on women that men don't have to d...2025-03-2349 min
She's Just Not That Into YouWhy women should never invest in a boyfriendIn this episode, we talk about why women should never invest in a boyfriend, or a man they’re dating.What do we mean by investing in a man? We mean investing your time, energy and money into a man you are dating (and not yet married or engaged to), by doing things such as helping him build his career, helping him buy his house, supporting him financially, moving somewhere to suit his convenience, living together with him while splitting rent 50/50 and doing most of the housework, and everything in between. A lot of the tim...2025-03-1643 min
She's Just Not That Into You10 life lessons we learnt from our twentiesIn this episode, we discussed 10 things we wish we'd known when we were 21, summarising all the life lessons that we learnt from our 20s. We discussed everything from the importance of investing in your experiences and reading more books, to why you shouldn't compare yourself to others or feel pressure to meet social expectations. It's a fun conversation where we share lots of our personal stories and experiences!If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to follow us and leave a review. And if you have any ideas or topics you’d like u...2025-03-0243 min
She's Just Not That Into YouFilm Club 02: Netflix Original TV Series "Black Doves"For our second film club episode, we discussed Black Doves, a Netflix Original TV series. It's set in London and centres on a strong female protagonist Helen Webb (played by Kiera Knightley) who leads a double life as an undercover spy. This six-episode series is an interesting mix of action-packed spy movie, thriller and murder mystery, with a good dose of self-deprecating British humour, and powerful female characters.We discussed the elements of the show that we found progressive and gender-subversive: - the way the female characters are depicted is not misogynistic, nor ar...2025-02-2835 min
She's Just Not That Into YouShannon Read: What tattooing women has taught me about womenIn this episode, we interviewed Shannon Read, a female tattooist who specialises in tattooing women. Shannon shared her experiences working in a male-dominated tattoo industry, which lead her to create her own female-friendly tattoo studio, and told us about everything she’s learnt from her 10+ years of experience tattooing female clients. We discussed: women tend to underestimate themselves and their strength, women are conditioned to suppress their pain, lack of diversity in shapes and sizes of female bodies modelling tattoo designs, women feel sorry too much, women are overly self-critical, unrealistic beauty standards that put pres...2025-02-2349 min
She's Just Not That Into YouWhy wedding culture is toxic and misogynisticIn this episode, we talk about why wedding culture is toxic and misogynistic. We’re not against weddings or marriage, but the way that most wedding ceremonies are performed feels outdated and misogynistic, and we rarely think to question this.We discussed: the father giving away the bride, pressure on the bride to meet certain beauty standards and look perfect for her wedding day, the extreme dieting that a lot of women do in preparation for their wedding, why should the bride wear a white dress?, how the bride often takes on the burden of doi...2025-02-1642 min
She's Just Not That Into YouReclaim your power: why women need to learn to say noIn this episode, we discuss why women need to learn how to say no!Despite cultural differences between different countries, it’s still especially difficult for women to say no - in any culture! We explore how women are socially conditioned to be people pleasers and put others’ needs above our own, and discuss personal experiences of situations where we’ve both personally struggled to say no.We also discuss women not being able to say no in the workplace and the impact that it has on their careers, and how it’s interpreted differently when men...2025-02-0251 min
She's Just Not That Into YouBook Club 02: Against White Feminism by Rafia ZakariaIn this episode, we discuss the powerful themes explored in the book Against White Feminism by Rafia Zakaria. We reflect on what it means to confront white feminism, by discussing its definition and the cultural forces that shape how it's experienced and understood around the world. We talk about cultural differences between feminism in different countries, and discuss how contemporary Asian feminism is in many ways more progressive and radical than Western feminism. We also talk about the shocking historical and cultural context behind why so much of contemporary Western feminism is about sexual empowerment. An...2025-01-3136 min
She's Just Not That Into YouHaein Shim: Why some women are boycotting menGiving up men is becoming a trend! And it all started with the 4B movement. In Korean, 4B stands for four “no’s”: no dating men, no sex with men, no marrying men, and no having children with men. It’s a bold feminist movement created by Korean feminists to break away from the toxic patriarchal system and build a community that truly centers on women and their needs.In this episode, we spoke with Haein Shim—a passionate women’s rights activist, documentary producer, and freelance journalist—to unpack what the 4B movement is all about and why it’s r...2025-01-2654 min
She's Just Not That Into YouEverything you need to know about periodsIn this episode, we talk about everything you need to know about menstruation! We discuss the stigma around periods, discrimination against women in medical healthcare, how society would be if it were men who got periods instead of women, misinformation about periods, how women's bodies change throughout the course of the menstrual cycle, why society's work culture isn't set up to honour women's body cycles, period poverty, and the dangers of period sex. We also share our own personal stories, discuss cultural differences between different countries, and brainstorm changes that we think society needs to make...2025-01-1940 min
She's Just Not That Into You10 non-negotiables women need for sex with menIn this episode, we share 10 non-negotiables that heterosexual women need when having sex with men! We share why it’s important for women to have higher standards for sex than men do. We encourage women to work out what their own standards are, so that we can all be aware of what we really deserve.We discuss everything from contraception and STDs, to sexual pleasure, emotional connection, objectification, and how women are socially conditioned to please their partners, as well as the importance of having sex for the right reasons, with someone you feel truly com...2025-01-1240 min
She's Just Not That Into YouHow to stick to New Year's resolutionsHappy New Year! Our first episode of 2025 is about how to stick to your New Year’s resolutions.We discuss: why New Year’s resolutions often fail, the importance of setting realistic goals and expectations for yourself, and that it’s totally okay even if you haven’t made any progress on your resolutions in January. Don’t give up too soon!We also share our advice about: how to set goals, how to become a better version of yourself, how to develop healthy habits, how to make vision boards that actually work, the benefits of creatin...2025-01-0535 min
She's Just Not That Into YouFilm Club 01: The Substance by Coralie FargeatOur first Film Club episode is a deep discussion of Coralie Fargeat’s provocative and visually stunning film, The Substance. The film won Best Screenplay at the Cannes Film Festival, and is a shocking exploration of the impossible beauty standards that our society places upon women.We discuss its gripping narrative, the symbolism throughout the film, and the way it explores themes like the objectification of women, fetishisation of youth, the internal struggles and self-criticism that we face as women, fear of ageing, depictions of female madness, and our society’s collective destruction of women through the pres...2024-12-3040 min
She's Just Not That Into YouDian Zhou’s experiences appearing on reality TV show ‘The Bachelor’In this episode, we spoke with Dian Zhou about her experiences appearing on reality TV show The Bachelor Japan Season 5. Dian gave us an exciting glimpse into the behind-the-scenes of the filming process, including the best and worst moments! We also discussed: pressure to fit Japanese beauty standards, social norms for how women are expected to behave, the friendships that she formed with the other girls which lead to a sense of sisterhood rather than competition between the female contestants, cultural differences between Western and Japanese reality TV shows, and the importance of being yourself. 2024-12-2936 min
She's Just Not That Into YouDian Zhou’s experiences appearing on reality TV show ‘The Bachelor’Send us a textIn this episode, we spoke with Dian Zhou about her experiences appearing on reality TV show The Bachelor Japan Season 5. Dian gave us an exciting glimpse into the behind-the-scenes of the filming process, including the best and worst moments! We also discussed: pressure to fit Japanese beauty standards, social norms for how women are expected to behave, the friendships that she formed with the other girls which lead to a sense of sisterhood rather than competition between the female contestants, and cultural differences between Western and Japanese reality TV sh...2024-12-2837 min
She's Just Not That Into YouEverything you need to know about female masturbationIn this episode, we’re covering everything you need to know about female masturbation—a topic that’s deeply personal and important, yet often silenced and ignored.We discussed: the stigma around female masturbation, differences between perceptions of male vs. female masturbation, lack of sex education about masturbation, differences in attitudes towards masturbation in different cultures, differences between how men and women masturbate, and why masturbation is empowering for women, as well as sharing our own personal masturbation stories and experiences using sex toys and visiting sex toy shops.This episode goes beyond just a simple...2024-12-2248 min
She's Just Not That Into YouHow to make big life decisions using intuitionNo matter where we are in life, we all face moments when we need to make big decisions that shape our future—whether it’s moving to a new country, changing careers, or deciding to get married.In these moments, intuition often serves as a guiding voice that helps us realise what we truly want deep down. However, following that inner voice isn’t always easy amidst the noise and distractions of our modern society. If this resonates with you, this episode is for you! We share personal stories about some life-changing decisions we’ve made, and...2024-12-1540 min
She's Just Not That Into YouJiyoon’s first-hand experience of martial law in South KoreaOn the night of 3rd December 2024, Jiyoon was at a vintage bar in Seoul, enjoying a glass of whisky with her friends. But everything changed as soon as this one news headline appeared on her phone: “Martial law declared.” Without hesitation, she left the bar and headed straight to join the protests at the National Assembly.Helicopters hovered above as crowds gathered, demanding that the government revoke martial law. What Jiyoon witnessed that night was extraordinary: the collective power of lawmakers and ordinary citizens coming together, to successfully lift martial law within just two hours.2024-12-0827 min
She's Just Not That Into YouWhat's wrong with Black Cat Energy?Have you heard of Black Cat Energy? Maybe you’ve seen it on Instagram or TikTok—those catchy videos comparing “black cats” and “golden retrievers” in relationships. If you found it funny, intriguing, or maybe just a little off, then this episode is for you! We’re diving into this viral trend that’s been dominating social media and asking: what’s really going on here?In this episode, we discuss the phenomenon of Black Cat Energy, which has recently gone viral in the dating advice space. Black Cat Energy refers to a power dynamic whereby women are e...2024-12-0125 min
She's Just Not That Into YouBook Club 01: The Vegetarian by Han KangFor our first Book Club episode, we’re discussing The Vegetarian by Han Kang, who was the first Asian woman and first Korean writer to win the Nobel Prize in Literature. We couldn’t think of a better choice than this powerful and deeply feminist novel for our first pick. The Vegetarian tells the story of Yeong-hye, an ordinary woman living in contemporary South Korea, whose decision to stop eating meat becomes a shocking act of rebellion. As her journey spirals in a surreal and unsettling way, she seeks to abandon her physical self entirely.Descr...2024-11-3047 min
She's Just Not That Into YouSarah Abdoo: Women’s community power against gender violence in BoliviaCan you imagine packing up your life after university and heading to South America to start a community project? That’s exactly what Sarah Abdoo did. After graduating from Oxford University, she flew to Bolivia and began building connections that changed her life and the lives of the women in Cochabamba, Bolivia.Meet Sarah Abdoo, the founder of Adelante Mujer. Sarah’s mission began with small workshops in safe houses, offering local Bolivian women a path to life free from violence. Over time, it grew into a bridge connecting tourists with local communities, a network of women suppo...2024-11-2454 min
She's Just Not That Into YouMaking friends as an adultIn this episode, we discuss why it’s so hard to make friends as an adult, cultural differences towards friendship in different countries, whether we find it easier to be friends with guys or with girls, how our parents influence our friendships, how a lot of people prioritise dating or meeting romantic partners over making new friends, and the importance of surrounding yourself with the right friends.We also give advice about different ways to make new friends - it doesn’t have to involve going to parties! Finally, we tell the story behind how we en...2024-11-1744 min
She's Just Not That Into YouCamila Fumarola: Feminist victory for abortion rights in ArgentinaOur first guest interview episode is with Camila Fumarola, an illustrator from Buenos Aires, Argentina. Camila talks about her participation in the protests there that lead to the legalization of free, accessible abortions in Argentina. We also talk about: feminism in Argentina, can men really be feminist allies, internalised misogyny among women, gender inequality for contraception, and what we imagine abortions would be like if it were men who got pregnant instead of women! The episode begins with an introduction about Camila, and the main discussion starts at 12:53. If you enjoyed this episode, don...2024-11-101h 14
She's Just Not That Into YouPros of being single as womenIn this episode, we're getting real about why we're single—and why we’re more than okay with it. We share stories from our single lives, dive into the realities of being single in our 30s, and talk about embracing this chapter wholeheartedly. From how long we’ve been single, to what’s kept us from rushing into new relationships, we’re here to break down the realities and celebrate the perks of being single as women in our 30s. Tune in for laughs, insights, and a reminder that being single isn’t just okay—it can be amazing!If you en...2024-11-0342 min
She's Just Not That Into YouFun facts about your hosts Jiyoon and RhianWelcome to our very first episode! In this intro episode, we’re giving you a sneak peek into who we are, sharing a few fun facts about ourselves, and diving into what our podcast is all about. From friendships and relationships to career moves and feminism, and the little things that make life interesting, we’re here to bring you honest conversations and a safe space to connect. Whether you’re here to laugh, reflect, or just hang out with us, we’re so excited to have you along for the ride x If you enjoyed this episode...2024-11-0335 min