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The Openlove101 ShowHow the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our RelationshipHow the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our Relationship | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 In this candid conversation, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com open up about how embracing the swinger lifestyle has reshaped their views on sex, love, and connection. Jackie shares her personal journey from monogamy to empowerment through sexual exploration, while John reflects on how swinging has brought more honesty, freedom, and trust into their relationship. Together, they explore how non-monogamy has helped them grow individually and as a couple—challenging societal norms, reframing jealousy, and redefining intimacy. Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or already pa...2025-07-2907 minThe Openlove101 ShowBeyond the Myth: Insider Perspectives on the Swinger Lifestyle with CourtneyJoin hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they welcome their marketing guru Courtney on camera for the first time to discuss common misconceptions about swingers clubs. With Courtney providing a monogamous perspective on the lifestyle, this episode offers valuable insights for both newcomers and those curious about what really happens at Colette Swingers Clubs. In this eye-opening conversation, they tackle everything from outfit anxiety to unexpected encounters, proving that reality is often far different from what people imagine. Learn how the communication skills and relationship strategies in the lifestyle can benefit any relationship, regardless of your personal...2025-07-2237 minThe Openlove101 ShowHow We Talk to Our Kids About Open RelationshipsHow do you explain non-traditional relationships to your children? In this thoughtful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com open up about parenting while living an open lifestyle. With eight kids between them, they share how they’ve approached honest, age-appropriate conversations about love, trust, and relationship diversity—without oversharing or crossing boundaries. They emphasize the importance of transparency, emotional intelligence, and modeling values like honesty and integrity—regardless of relationship structure. If you’re a parent navigating how to talk to your kids about alternative lifestyles, this conversation offers reassurance, guidance, and real-world experience. 💬 Real talk...2025-07-1506 minThe Openlove101 ShowThis or That: Exploring Consensual Non-MonogamyJoin hosts John and Jackie Melfi in this fun and revealing episode where they play "This or That: Lifestyle Edition"! The couple behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning openlove101.com blog share their preferences on various aspects of open relationships and swinging. In this candid discussion, John and Jackie answer questions about full swap vs soft swap, playing together vs separately, and much more. With over 13 years of experience in consensual non-monogamy, they offer valuable insights on jealousy, vulnerability, and how their preferences have evolved over time. Whether you're curious ab...2025-07-0825 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwingers Lifestyle & New Way of Looking at JealousyJealousy in Open Relationships: Fix It or Ignore It? | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 What do jealousy and a broken refrigerator have in common? In this thoughtful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com use a clever analogy to explore how people handle jealousy—whether they choose to fix it, ignore it, or live with it. Through personal stories and practical insights, they explain why open communication is essential in relationships, especially in non-monogamous dynamics. Instead of avoiding jealousy, they encourage viewers to see it as a signal for growth, intimacy, and deeper understanding. 💡 Learn how t...2025-07-0106 minThe Openlove101 ShowThe Psychology of Open Relationships: Insights from a Sex TherapistJoin hosts John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning blog openlove101.com, as they dive deep into relationship psychology with licensed professional counselor Dr. Alyssa Webb-McCune. This enlightening conversation explores various relationship models, from traditional monogamy to swinging and polyamory. Dr. Webb-McCune shares her expertise on building healthy relationships, navigating boundaries, and understanding the psychology behind different relationship styles. Whether you're curious about consensual non-monogamy or looking to strengthen your current relationship, this episode offers valuable insights for everyone! Key Topics Discussed: [00:00:00] Introduction to the Open L...2025-06-2440 minThe Openlove101 ShowWhat Is Compersion? Exploring Joy in Non-Monogamous RelationshipsCan you feel joy when your partner finds happiness with someone else? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive into the concept of compersion—the emotional opposite of jealousy—and how it can create deeper connection, trust, and personal growth in non-monogamous relationships. They share their own experiences, discuss challenges rooted in traditional relationship norms, and explain how compersion can reduce pressure, expand emotional freedom, and even strengthen primary partnerships. 💡 A must-watch for anyone exploring open love, emotional maturity, or new ways to connect with their partner. #OpenLove101 #Compersion #NonMonogamy #Relatio...2025-06-1706 minThe Openlove101 ShowCan You Love More Than One Person?How to Reconnect After a Lifestyle Misstep In this heartfelt episode, John and Jackie dive deep into the emotional side of open relationships—exploring the joys, challenges, and growth that come from forming emotional connections beyond a primary partner. They share how maintaining friendships, embracing vulnerability, and communicating openly can actually strengthen the bond between partners. Jackie discusses how love isn't finite, and John reflects on how emotional openness has enriched their lives. Together, they challenge the idea that intimacy with others weakens a relationship—instead, they show how it can deepen trust, compassion, and conn...2025-06-1015 minThe Openlove101 ShowHoney, wanna go to a Swinger's Club?Curious about exploring a swingers club but not sure how to bring it up with your partner? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share personal stories and thoughtful advice on approaching the lifestyle with someone who may feel hesitant. Filmed in New Orleans during Mardi Gras, they discuss common fears, misconceptions, and the importance of honest, pressure-free communication. Jackie opens up about her own early doubts—and how one visit changed her perspective. Whether you're just curious or considering taking that first step, this video offers guidance on creating a safe, respectful, and open co...2025-06-0307 minThe Openlove101 ShowJealousy in Relationships: How to Talk About ItJealousy in Relationships: How to Talk About It | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Jealousy isn’t just one emotion—it’s a mix of fear, anger, and vulnerability. In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive into the emotional complexity of jealousy and how couples can navigate it with open, honest communication. They share personal stories and explore how different people process jealousy in unique ways. Discover how understanding your emotional triggers—and embracing the idea of compersion (joy in your partner’s joy)—can actually strengthen your relationship. 💬 Learn how talking through tough emotions...2025-05-2009 minThe Openlove101 ShowHow Single Men Can Succeed in Swingers ClubsHow Single Men Can Succeed in Swingers Clubs | Tips from John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Filmed during Mardi Gras in New Orleans, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive into what single men need to know before stepping into swingers clubs like Colette. From respectful etiquette to building genuine connections, they offer practical advice for creating positive experiences in the lifestyle. Learn why starting with friendly conversation—not propositions—is key, how to approach couples with kindness, and why emotional intelligence goes a long way in forming both friendships and intimate connections. 💡 Real talk, real tips, a...2025-05-0607 minThe Openlove101 ShowBreaking Myths About Swinging: A Unicorn’s PerspectiveCurious about an open lifestyle with your partner? Ever thought about what it’s like to embrace intimacy, trust, and communication in new ways? Let’s explore it together! 🌟 In this eye-opening conversation, John and Jackie from OpenLove101 chat with Black Coco, a proud unicorn in the swinging world, as she shares her incredible journey and breaks common myths about threesomes, swingers, and the open lifestyle. Discover the secrets of what it truly means to be a unicorn, how lifestyle clubs differ from societal assumptions, and the empowering message of freedom through sexuality! Tune in to learn how embracing your de...2025-04-2935 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwingers Lifestyle: Working Past Uncomfortable FeelingsIn this candid conversation, John and Jackie from Openlove101 dive into how relationship dynamics evolve over time—especially in open and non-traditional partnerships. They share real-life experiences of how initial excitement around adventurous intimacy (like inviting others into the bedroom) can shift into feelings of jealousy and insecurity as emotional bonds deepen. From skydiving metaphors to intimate storytelling, they explore how emotional responses change, how communication is the glue that holds it all together, and why embracing uncomfortable feelings—like jealousy—can actually lead to growth, trust, and a stronger connection. 👉 Whether you're in a non-monoga...2025-04-2208 minThe Openlove101 ShowThe Hidden Truth About Partner Jealousy I Finally DiscoveredDiscover the hidden truth about partner jealousy in open relationships! Ever struggled with feelings of control when your partner is with someone else? In this raw and honest video, I share my personal journey from experiencing intense anxiety to finding peace and excitement in open relationships. Want to know how I transformed those uncomfortable feelings of jealousy into genuine excitement for my partner's experiences? I break down the exact steps that helped me overcome my fears, including practical communication strategies and mindset shifts that changed everything. You'll learn: • Why jealousy is often about control, not love • How to identi...2025-04-1516 minThe Openlove101 ShowVisiting Swingers Club as a Single Woman In today's throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about visiting a swingers club as a single woman! They discuss expectations, ways to break the ice, and how to make the most of your experience inside of a lifestyle club! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2025-04-0808 minThe Openlove101 Show5 Brutal Myths About Open Relationships DEBUNKED 🔍Debunking 5 brutal myths about open relationships! 🔍 Curious about the lifestyle? Let's explore together! Ever thought STDs were inevitable? Or that open relationships always fail? Think again! We're busting common misconceptions and revealing the truth about swinging, intimacy, and trust in non-monogamous partnerships. Discover the secrets of successful open relationships and how they can actually strengthen your bond! Tune in to learn why cheating isn't part of the equation and how religious beliefs don't have to hold you back. Ready to challenge your assumptions? Hit subscribe and join us on this eye-opening journey into the...2025-04-0117 minThe Openlove101 ShowDealing With Fear And Jealousy In Open Relationships In this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about dealing with fear and jealousy in an Open Relationship. Do you throw in the towel and call it quits? Or figure out a game plan on what you can do in the future if it happens again and how to move forward from here. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2025-03-2509 minThe Openlove101 ShowThe Truth About Non-Monogamy: My 40-Year JourneyCurious about non-monogamy? Join us for a fascinating journey through 40 years of open relationships! Ever wondered how someone's upbringing shapes their view on sex and love? John shares his eye-opening experiences from Catholic school rebel to swinger club owner. You'll be surprised by his candid stories of threesomes, roller rink hookups, and personal growth! Want to explore open relationships with your partner? This video is packed with insights on honesty, boundaries, and self-discovery. Learn how therapy and sobriety transformed John's approach to intimacy and trust. Discover the secrets of maintaining healthy connections in t...2025-03-1823 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwinger Relationships and Coming Out To Your Kids In this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about "Coming Out" to your kids. They discuss the intense feelings, navigating having an intimate conversation with you children, and knowing when it is the right time to tell them. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2025-03-1111 minThe Openlove101 ShowOur First Lifestyle Experience: Raw and Unfiltered 🔥Our First Lifestyle Experience: Raw and Unfiltered 🔥 Ever wondered what it's like to dive into the open lifestyle? Join us for some juicy stories! Curious about threesomes, swinging, or open relationships? We're spilling all the details! From our very first encounters to cringe-worthy moments, we're holding nothing back. You'll hear about unexpected house calls, DVP adventures, and how we navigate separate play dates. Want to know why lifestyle experiences can actually improve your relationship? Tune in to discover the secrets of better communication, increased intimacy, and stronger trust. Who knew swinging could bring cou...2025-03-0422 minThe Openlove101 ShowOvercoming Fear in Open Relationships A Different POV In this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about Overcoming Fear in Open Relationships (A Different POV)! They discuss the early stages of the relationship, how you are taught to feel, when to go ahead, and when to pump the breaks! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2025-02-2507 minThe Openlove101 ShowThe TRUTH About Swingers Clubs Most People Don't KnowThe TRUTH about swingers clubs? It's not what you think! Ever wondered what really goes on behind those doors? Surprise - it's not just for swingers! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner? Let's explore it together :) Discover how these clubs offer a safe, respectful space for everyone - even if you're not looking to swap! Tune in to learn why couples love the sexy atmosphere, open conversations, and judgment-free zone. Did you know many go just for the vibe? It's true! Want to spice things up without crossing boundaries? Th...2025-02-1813 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwingers Lifestyle - Self Empathy and Giving Yourself a Break In this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about the self care through self empathy and giving yourself a break. They discuss the intense feelings, both positive and negative, that come with being in the lifestyle and how to manage both sides of the coin! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2025-02-1110 minThe Openlove101 ShowThe Ugly Truth About Open Relationships: Not CheatingThe ugly truth about open relationships? It's NOT cheating! Join John and Jackie as they tackle the biggest misconception about ethical non-monogamy head-on. Ever wonder why people automatically assume open relationships are about cheating? We're breaking down the real difference between consensual non-monogamy and infidelity. Discover how trust, honest communication, and mutual respect are actually the foundation of successful open relationships. Ready to challenge your assumptions about love and commitment? We share our 12+ years of experience navigating the open lifestyle, proving that love isn't about exclusivity - it's about honesty and tr...2025-02-0419 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwinging Relationship Issues Defusing ArgumentsIn this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss how to defuse arguments within the lifestyle. They discuss how most arguments are rooted in fear of the unknown and how to find a way to work through that fear in order to communicate with your partner. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2025-01-2808 minThe Openlove101 ShowCelebrating 10 Years of OpenLove101: Reflections, Growth, and GratitudeJohn and Jackie commemorate a decade of OpenLove101, reflecting on their journey in the world of consensual non-monogamy advocacy. They share memorable moments, challenges, and triumphs while emphasizing the growth of their community and its impact on relationships worldwide. From their early days blogging to becoming prominent voices in their field, this episode celebrates their passion for education, connection, and empowerment.2025-01-2119 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwinging Lifestyle Highs and LowsIn this throwback episode, John and Jackie talk about the Swinging Lifestyle Highs and Lows! They discuss the intense feelings, both positive and negative, that come with being in the lifestyle and how to manage both sides of the coin! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2025-01-1407 minThe Openlove101 ShowHotel Takeover Tips: Everything You Need to KnowIn this episode, John and Jackie dive deep into the fascinating world of hotel takeovers and conventions in the lifestyle community. They share essential tips for preparation, settingboundaries, meeting new people, and maximizing your experience at these unique events. Whether you're a seasoned attendee or considering your first event, this episode is packed with insights to make your next hotel takeover unforgettable!2025-01-0722 minThe Openlove101 ShowVisiting Swinger Clubs and Dealing With Peer Pressure In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss dealing with the pressure of visiting a Swingers Club. They most common answer for why people do not go to a swingers club is because they feel an overwhelming pressure to either find a play partner or fit in with the crowd. Today, John and Jackie discuss these fears and more! Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.2024-12-3107 minThe Openlove101 ShowVisiting Swingers Club and Embracing Your Bi-Sexuality In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss feel confident in embracing your bi-sexuality while attending a swingers club! They discuss the change over time with people embracing their sexuality at swinger clubs. Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.2024-12-1709 minThe Openlove101 ShowThis is Why Non Monogamous Relationships FailsIn this episode, we tackle a difficult but important topic: "What happens when couples in the swinger lifestyle go through a breakup or divorce?" We dive into the unique challenges faced by those who continue to attend the same parties, events, and clubs after their relationship ends. We also discuss the double standards people face in open relationships compared to monogamous ones and how to navigate friendships and shared spaces post-breakup. Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.2024-12-1010 minThe Openlove101 ShowWhat is Swinging? The Definition Of Swinging In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss the definition of Swinging and what is really means! Is Swinging what mainstream media paints it to be or is there something more to it? Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.2024-12-0309 minThe Openlove101 ShowWhat Is Your Relationship Model: 14 Different Varieties of Open RelationshipsJoin John and Jackie in this engaging episode as they dive into the diverse world of open relationships. Today they're exploring 14 different varieties of open and swinger relationships. They discuss the nuances and dynamics of each relationship model, shedding light on terms like ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and kitchen table polyamory. Whether you're curious about these concepts or looking to understand how different relationship structures work, this episode is packed with information that will both educate and entertain you. Don't miss out on this comprehensive guide to alternative relationship styles!2024-11-2623 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwinging Lifestyle: Fear of Being Honest In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss the most common fear they hear from other's in the lifestyle. The Fear of Being Honest Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.2024-11-1909 minThe Openlove101 ShowBuilding Up to the Moment: Navigating Playtime with Ease In today’s episode, we're diving into a question from one of our Openlove101+ members: "How do you smoothly transition to playtime with another couple at a club?" This is a scenario many couples face, and we’re here to offer some practical advice and share our personal experiences. Whether it's your first time or you're a seasoned pro, we’ll discuss the nuances of creating organic opportunities for connection, managing expectations, and ensuring clear communication with your partner. Tune in to learn how to navigate these exciting moments and enhance your lif...2024-11-1207 minThe Openlove101 ShowHow Different Cultures Embrace the Swinging Lifestyle In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss how the Swinging Lifestyle is different in different cultures! They discuss the difference and similarities they have experienced first hand on their travels living in the lifestyle. Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.2024-11-0507 minThe Openlove101 ShowManaging Boundaries in Open Relationships: Communicating and Respecting Limits In this episode, John and Jackie are tackling some tough questions from their viewers about navigating boundaries in open relationships. "What do you do when your partner is interested in playing with another couple, but you're not?" And how do you handle shifting boundaries when one partner isn't comfortable with the change? John and Jackie share their personal experiences, practical advice, and the importance of communication and respect in maintaining a healthy relationship. Whether you’re new to the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode offers valuable insights into handling these...2024-10-2909 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwingers Lifestyle And The Subject Of Consent In this throwback episode, John and Jackie discuss how the topic of "consent" has changed over the years. They discuss the importance of both nonverbal and verbal consent, respecting someone's answer if they consent or not, and how everyone should respect consent in any situation. Tune into learn how to handle these situations with grace and maintain respectful, loving communication.2024-10-2208 minThe Openlove101 ShowKeeping It Spicy: How New Experiences Can Revitalize Your Relationship In this episode, John and Jackie dive into the exciting world of keeping relationships spicy and vibrant. They explore how introducing new experiences, whether it's through food, activities, or even new people, can bring a fresh spark to long-term relationships. They discuss the importance of novelty in maintaining intimacy and connection, sharing personal anecdotes and practical tips on how to keep things interesting. From trying new restaurants to playing relationship-enhancing games, this episode is packed with ideas to help you and your partner stay connected and energized.2024-10-1507 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwinging Advice For Non-Swingers Join John and Jackie as they discuss how the relationship advice they give for non-monogamy helps their monogamous friends in their relationship! Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode is packed with enlightening information and plenty of laughs. Tune in and expand your swinger vocabulary with us!2024-10-0809 minThe Openlove101 ShowDiscover Swinger Terms You Won't Believe!Join John and Jackie as they dive into the fascinating world of swinger terminology. Ever wondered what terms like "unicorn," "soft swap," or "airtight" mean? Join us as we play a fun game hosted by Courtney, where we define and discuss various terms used in the lifestyle. We share our reactions, insights, and some hilarious moments along the way. Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode is packed with enlightening information and plenty of laughs. Tune in and expand your swinger vocabulary with us!2024-10-0118 minThe Openlove101 ShowWhen Swinging Doesn't Go As Planned! Join John and Jackie in this blast from the past episode as they discuss what to do when you have a bad experience inside a lifestyle club or swinger party! If you have ever had a bad experience, you are not alone! Through out the years, many of our followers have reached out with their own stories and asking for advice when the night does not go as planned. So be sure to listen or watch this episode and see what you can do if you find yourself in a similar situation!2024-09-2408 minThe Openlove101 ShowAre You Someone's Fantasy? (Surprising Truth About Body Image In Lifestyle!)John and Jackie dive into the important topic of body image within the lifestyle community. They share insights on how everyone, regardless of their appearance, can find a place and feel accepted in lifestyle clubs, parties, and events. John and Jackie discuss common concerns from those new to the lifestyle, emphasizing that attraction is diverse and subjective. They highlight the inclusivity and acceptance found in lifestyle spaces, contrasting it with the often judgmental atmosphere of mainstream nightclubs. This episode is a must-listen for anyone feeling apprehensive about their appearance and considering joining the lifestyle community.2024-09-1711 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwinging As A Solution Can swinging be a solution to marriage issues? Today we talk about a married couple who are having some challenges in their relationship and decided to try something different to see if it could help. The husband suggested they open up their relationship and see other people, which is something completely new and different for them. But what about the fears and concerns that come from that as they explore this new option? Things like insecurity, managing communication, and the importance of focusing on the positives and not just the negatives. 2024-09-1009 minThe Openlove101 ShowFrom Playing Solo to Tik Tok Famous with The Swing Nation In this episode, we sit down with the dynamic duo from The Swing Nation, Dan and Lacy, to hear about their incredible journey within the lifestyle. We kick things off with a fun chat about how they first met as a unicorn and a bull. Dan and Lacy share the story of their relationship’s evolution from casual encounters to a deep, loving connection, all while navigating the complexities of non-monogamy. We discuss the challenges and triumphs of maintaining an open relationship, including how they dealt with jealousy, set boundaries, and eventually found a balance tha...2024-09-0353 minThe Openlove101 ShowDifferent Types of Open Relationships In today's blast from the past episode, John and Jackie discuss different types of Open Relationships. From Swinging Relationships to Myths to Emotional Attachments! This short podcast is the perfect introduction to the different types of Open Relationships! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2024-08-2707 minThe Openlove101 ShowThe New Relationship Energy: Embracing Change in Open RelationshipsIn today's episode, we dive into the exhilarating yet sometimes challenging topic of New Relationship Energy (NRE). We discuss the powerful emotions that arise when you meet someone new and how it can impact you and your partner. Whether you're new to open relationships or a seasoned pro, NRE can catch you off guard. We share personal experiences and practical tips to help you understand, embrace, and navigate these feelings with your partner. Join us as we explore how NRE can be a positive experience, offering joy and excitement, while also a...2024-08-2020 minThe Openlove101 ShowHow We Deal With Discrimination in Our Swingers Lifestyle John and Jackie answer a follower submitted question in today's episode! "Have You Ever Faced Discrimination in the Swingers Lifestyle?" In today's episode, they discuss their experience with people judging their relationship and how they deal with the stigma that comes from being in a "non-traditional" relationship. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2024-08-1309 minThe Openlove101 ShowSetting Positive Boundaries in Relationships: A New ApproachJohn and Jackie explore the transformative power of setting boundaries in relationships from a positive perspective. Instead of focusing on what we don't want, we discuss how emphasizing what we are comfortable with can foster a more supportive and exciting partnership. Join us as we share practical tips and personal experiences on creating positive boundaries that enhance intimacy and connection.2024-08-0608 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwinging Lifestyle And Playing Alone John and Jackie sit down in this blast from the past episode and talk about Swinging in the Lifestyle and a few questions they received regarding swinging alone. They share about their journey navigating through the lifestyle and how they have grown as a couple. Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2024-07-3009 minThe Openlove101 ShowSingle Men At Swingers Clubs (What Not To Do)As owners of lifestyle clubs, we hear all the common complaints from members about single guys, so we figured we make a video and share some things NOT to do as a single male at swingers clubs. AVOID these at all costs if you want to connect and play well with others! Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner?…Let’s explore it together :)2024-07-1608 minThe Openlove101 ShowAsk John and Jackie: Exploring Dynamics in the Swinging LifestyleIn this episode, John and Jackie tackle various aspects of navigating the swinging lifestyle based on questions from their audience. "How do I deal with the emotional challenges in witnessing my partner's satisfaction with someone else outside group scenarios?" Listen in for practical advice on handling attraction dilemmas, emphasizing communication and individual comfort levels in play situations. 2024-07-0917 minThe Openlove101 ShowOpen Relationship Workshop - True Sex and Wild Love (2019)We went to an incredible open relationship workshop in Austin, Texas called "True Sex and Wild Love" and here is recap in case you missed it! (And yes we talk about the pink thing.) The event was hosted by Aubrey Marcus, CEO of Onnit, a company that makes and markets nutritional supplements, fitness equipment, and more in the spirit of optimizing human performance, and his fiance Whitney Miller, who is a relationship coach. (And they both happen to be in an open relationship.) The guest speaker at their event was Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of...2024-07-0211 minThe Openlove101 ShowEmpowering Women in the LifestyleIn this episode, John and Jackie dive into a conversation about the positive impact of the lifestyle on women. Jackie reflects on the acceptance and camaraderie among women in the lifestyle, where competition is replaced by celebration. They explore how consensual non-monogamy can empower women, providing a platform for sexual growth, independence, and breaking free from societal constraints.2024-06-2511 minThe Openlove101 ShowPoly Relationships and How to Get Your Partner Into ItWant to have your cake and eat it too? Well, it takes two to tango. But, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. And, that's enough old proverbs (for now) :) Being in a swinging or poly relationship DOES take consent and understanding from all parties involved, but how do you do that? Well, we've got the video for you because that's the question we address today! Let the discussion begin!2024-06-1812 minThe Openlove101 ShowHandling Rejection and Canceled Dates In today's episode, John and Jackie discuss the common experience of handling rejection and dealing with canceled dates. They explore the emotional impact of these situations, sharing personal anecdotes and insights on how to navigate the complexities of dating in both single and married life. The discussion emphasizes the importance of not jumping to conclusions, maintaining open communication, and learning from rejection experiences. John and Jackie offer practical advice for those new to the lifestyle, encouraging a positive outlook and resilience in the face of canceled plans.2024-06-1113 minThe Openlove101 ShowOpen Relationship Partner Permission and ConsentWhen it comes to consent, what's usually discussed is getting consent from the person with whom you would like to have a physical interaction. What's not talked about as much is giving consent to your partner on what you're comfortable with them doing with others so that they don't cross any boundaries you may have. The tricky part to this whole thing is doing it without being too controlling or possessive. After all, shouldn't each person have the right to their own body and actions? (You're not the boss of me!) Let the...2024-06-0416 minThe Openlove101 ShowOpen Relationships and Playing With CouplesYou know what they say, "The only thing constant is change." And that includes playing with couples in our open marriage. How it started is not how it is today. How we go about it. What we do while we're playing. The things we think about. The things we do with our partner. What's ok and what's not. Check it out!2024-05-2112 minThe Openlove101 ShowThe Ups and Downs of the Lifestyle: Cultivating Good ExperiencesIn this episode, John and Jackie explore the concept of transforming negative experiences in the lifestyle into valuable learning opportunities. The conversation revolves around handling discomfort, setting boundaries, and fostering positive communication within the swinging community. Reflecting on past experiences, Jackie shares personal insights on the significance of being an advocate for oneself. The discussion touches on the challenges of vocalizing boundaries and preferences, highlighting the evolution of communication skills over time.2024-05-1413 minThe Openlove101 ShowOpen Relationship Advice: How To Handle Fear & JealousyOpen Relationship Advice: How To Handle Fear & Jealousy John and Jackie answer a follower submitted question in this week's episode! Do you have any advice or techniques to help alleviate self-doubt and stress and is it common for the wife to take the leadership role in the lifestyle adventure? Listen hear John and Jackie's answer! 2024-05-0717 minThe Openlove101 ShowNavigating Friendships in Open RelationshipsIn this episode, John and Jackie delve into the intricacies of friendships when one person is in an open relationship. Courtney shares her experiences as the friend in an open relationship, facing both positive and negative reactions from friends in monogamous relationships. The conversation explores the dynamics, challenges, and societal perceptions surrounding open-relationships within friend circles.2024-04-3018 minThe Openlove101 ShowThreesomes are AmazingToday we talk about threesomes because they are amazing! What guy (and even lots of gals) doesn't fantasize about a threesome experience?! In fact, it's one of the most popular ways to break into the lifestyle and we'll tell you why in our video!2024-04-2314 minThe Openlove101 ShowNavigating Religious Perspectives in Open RelationshipsIn this episode, John and Jackie respond to a viewer's question about reconciling religious beliefs with an open relationship. John and Jackie share their personal journeys of questioning and deconstructing religious beliefs as they explored open relationships John and Jackie encourage you to embrace your authentic self, challenge societal norms, and recognize the strength in holding strong, shared values within your relationships.2024-04-1615 minThe Openlove101 ShowHow to Talk to Your Dating Partner About Your Open RelationshipIn this episode, we answer one of your questions posted in the YouTube comments in one of our videos: What about the folks you're dating? Do they know about your relationship and how do they fit in? And if there are issues, why did you continue and why not just stop? A very good series of questions, I might add!2024-04-0912 minThe Openlove101 ShowNavigating Uncomfortable Boundaries in Open RelationshipsIn this episode, John and Jackie discuss the complexities of dealing with uncomfortable boundaries in open relationships. The episode explores various approaches to handling discomfort when partners want to explore activities that may challenge established boundaries. They touch on options such as refraining from the activity, finding ways to ease discomfort, and introducing play partners to fulfill certain desires. They emphasize the importance of communication, honesty, and self-reflection in navigating these sensitive situations2024-04-0216 minThe Openlove101 ShowImportance of Honesty in Open Relationships#116 So what happens when your partner is honest (which of course you want them to be) and they share something with you... And that honest something makes you sad, makes you angry, makes you scared, or worse. What do you do now with that? That's what we talk about today!2024-03-2612 minThe Openlove101 ShowDoes Fantasizing About Someone Else Mean Cheating?#112 A couple asked us the other day if it's bad to fantasize about someone else while being intimate with your partner. Is that wrong? Is it cheating? Is it bad? Let's dive into this rabbit hole of fantasy talk and where it could go!2024-03-1210 minThe Openlove101 ShowBecoming Role Models in the LifestyleIn today's episode, John and Jackie explore the topic of being role models in the lifestyle. Jackie shares her personal journey into non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance ofexploring sexuality with love and breaking free from societal stigmas. They discuss how beingopen about their experiences has allowed them to become advocates for the lifestyle,encouraging others to prioritize their relationships and embrace new adventures.2024-03-0512 minThe Openlove101 ShowHow do you NOT approach couples in swinging lifestyle? 🚩Today, John and Jackie discuss red flags to keep in mind when you are looking to meet people in the lifestyle! From being too direct out the gate to ignoring their boundaries, there are many red flags to look out for when talking to someone.2024-03-0511 minThe Openlove101 ShowDealing with Fear in Open Relationships#113 The other day we did some coaching for a couple who wanted some help with their open relationship. They had finally found a third person who was interesting and attractive to both of them and they wanted this person to be part of their throuple. The couple was both excited about it, but as time went on, the woman in the relationship became more encompassed in her fear, which then of course triggered some of her partner's fears (based on past relationships). So at this poin...2024-02-2711 minThe Openlove101 ShowWhy Non-Monogamy Fails!In today’s episode, John and Jackie explore the reasons why non-monogamous relationships may fail. Listen in as they discus the crucial aspects of communication, consideration of partner’s feelings, managing expectations, and the significance of respecting boundaries. They also share personal insights and experiences, emphasizing the importance of open and honest discussions in navigating the challenges of consensually non-monogamous relationships.2024-02-2023 minThe Openlove101 ShowIntroducing Consensual Non-monogamy to Your Partner#111 Ok so you're interested in this consensual non-monogamy thing, but how do you tell your partner about it? How do you approach the topic and introduce them to CNM without freaking them out?! Watch this video (perhaps together) and discover how!2024-02-1315 minThe Openlove101 ShowHow to Find Play Partners#110 We had a comment/question from a couple in an open relationship where the wife is having a much easier time finding play partners than the husband, which led him to ask the question: How do I find more play partners? Let's jump in and discuss that!2024-02-0609 minThe Openlove101 ShowIs CNM all about sex?#109 When people think Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), many of them think about the exciting and juicy non-monogamy part where you get to have sex with multiple partners. Lots of it. A lot of the time. But is that true? Is that what CNM is all about? Let's explore and discuss that today!2024-01-3008 minThe Openlove101 ShowIs sex all about penetration?#108 We talk about what to do if someone in a couple is having trouble staying hard during a swinger encounter and address common misconceptions about swingers always having perfect sex. Since staying hard can be challenging for some men, we discuss ways we can take pressure off our male partners and how sex isn't just all about penetration. 2024-01-2309 minThe Openlove101 ShowSharing Your Partner is OK#107 How the heck can I watch my partner with someone else and be ok with it? This is a very common question for those who are getting into the lifestyle and haven't tried it before. And for some people who do try it, they have negative feelings and wonder how that can dissipate and transform into compersion for their partner. We talk about all that and more in this video! 2024-01-1610 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwinging is Fun#106 We talk a lot about the deep emotional side of swinging - jealousy, fear, etc., so today we'd go the opposite direction and talk about the fun and lighter side of swinging and being in an open relationship. 2024-01-0909 minThe Openlove101 ShowEstablishing Defined Boundaries in your open relationship (part 2)#104 In part 1 of our discussion on boundaries, we talked about the importance and nuances of creating them. In this part 2, we're going to talk about the transition into re-establishing boundaries. This is where a month or two and some playdates have gone by and now it's time to look back at what worked and what didn't work, how do we make our box bigger, smaller, or different, and what really to do next now that you've come this far.2023-12-2608 minThe Openlove101 ShowJohn and Jackie Exploring the Swinging Lifestyle: Questions and Insights#103 In this episode of "Ask John and Jackie" they will engage with questions from their audience, providing valuable insights and advice on topics related to the swinger lifestyle. They cover a range of questions, from entering the lifestyle as a single individual to the importance of discussing and revisiting boundaries within a relationship. " There's no rigid rule in a swinger club that says you have to do something. You can do whatever you want to do." Jackie2023-12-1915 minThe Openlove101 ShowEstablishing Defined Boundaries in your open relationship (part 1)#102 What's the big deal about boundaries one might say? Well, it could lead to a disaster in the start of your open relationship before it even begins.2023-12-1210 minThe Openlove101 ShowOur Sexual Journey in the Swinging Lifestyle: The Good and the Bad#101 In this episode, John and Jackie share their personal experiences in the swinger lifestyle, discussing both the positive and challenging aspects. They talk about how they got started in the lifestyle, navigating open relationships, and the growth of their own relationship over the years. "Being invested in a long-term relationship doesn't preclude having an open exciting dynamic." John2023-12-0518 minThe Openlove101 ShowYour Open Relationship will FAIL Without This#100 Whatever spectrum of the lifestyle you're playing at, let's say everything is sailing smoothly...until... You hit those rough waters. Maybe it's a playdate that went wrong. Maybe it's taking a step too far past a boundary. Maybe it's a nasty emotion that rears its ugly head that you weren't prepared for. So what do you do now? Watch this video so that you know what to do when the time comes (because it will).2023-11-2810 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwinger Lifestyle Secrets: How to Maximize Your Hotel Takeovers#99 In this episode John and Jackie explore the exciting world of hotel takeovers within the swinger lifestyle. They discuss the preparation, expectations, and experiences that come with attending these unique events. From themed parties to meeting new people, they share their insights to ensure listeners make the most of their hotel takeover experiences.2023-11-2112 minThe Openlove101 ShowEmotional Attachments#98 Is it true that men don't get emotionally attached after sex? Which means they're better at open relationships than women? Interesting questions/claims posed by one of our Podcast listeners that we will be discussing!2023-11-1407 minThe Openlove101 ShowNavigating Boundaries & Threesomes in Open Relationships#97 In todays episode John and Jackie discuss the complexities of navigating boundaries in open relationships,particularly when it comes to overnight stays with other partners. They share their personal experiences and offer valuable insights into building trust, open communication, and respecting individual comfort levels within the swinging lifestyle.2023-11-0720 minThe Openlove101 ShowExcitement and Anxiety of Being in Open RelationshipsThe lifestyle can be quite the rollercoaster ride. One day on your elated on cloud nine and really excited about getting into the lifestyle. The next day you have anxiety about whether this was the right/proper thing to do. (I'm sure my religious upbringing had something to do with it.) So how do I explore my sexuality now? Today we talk about this topic and what to do.2023-10-3111 minThe Openlove101 ShowWATCH THIS before you start an open relationship (jealousy, boundaries & emotions)#95 Today we answer a doozy of a question in our video. It's a great question actually that we've certainly gone through and you may too. Here's the situation: My wife and I have been married for some time and we recently opened our relationship. I was the one who brought her into this and of course I'm the one who is overcome with jealousy. And it's not the sex part. Seeing her physically with another man doesn't bother me. It's the emotional part that bothers me. I find myself overcome with jealousy when...2023-10-1711 minThe Openlove101 ShowMisconceptions About Consensual Non-Monogamous Relationships#94 In this episode, John and Jackie address common misconceptions about consensually non-monogamous relationships. They explore the misunderstanding that such relationships are solely about sex, debunking this notion and emphasizing that they encompass much more than physical intimacy. John and Jackie also discuss the stereotype that people in the lifestyle have exceptionally high sex drives.2023-10-1020 minThe Openlove101 ShowWe own 4 swingers lifestyle clubs.. Here is what to expect when you visit one!#93 Question from a viewer for today: We're thinking about going to a lifestyle club. What am I going to expect? My nervousness and fear is that people are going to push me to do things we're not ready yet.2023-09-1908 minThe Openlove101 ShowThreesomes: Everything You Need To Know!#92 In this episode, John and Jackie dive into the exciting world of threesomes, offering guidance on how to introduce the idea to your partner and ensure that everyone has an amazing experience. They share their own experiences and offer insights on building trust, communication, and making the transition from fantasy to reality.2023-09-1220 minThe Openlove101 ShowHow to talk about playing at swinger clubs & parties#91 So you've proudly mustered up the courage to go to a club or party for the first, started a conversation with a random stranger/couple, and you and your partner are interested in playing. Now what? We've had a couple of guest speakers at our webinars talk about this subject and now it's our turn! :)2023-09-0512 minThe Openlove101 Show15 Secret Signs You Are a Swinger90 The pineapple is a commonly recognized symbolism for swingers, but are there more "signs" out there we're not aware of? What about garden gnomes or flamingos? Red ball caps or loofahs? We share our insight on which signs are legitimate, and which signs may just be misconceptions. You won't want to miss today's episode! 2023-08-2921 minThe Openlove101 ShowSwingers Lifestyle & Different Levels of Experience#89 How do you best navigate your relationship if one partner has more experience than the other? How do you go about in your relationship if your partner is on a (much) different experience level as you? To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit httyp://www.openlove101.com2023-08-2211 minThe Openlove101 ShowOpen Relationship Communication: Dos and Dont's#88 Have you ever started a conversation about your relationship in a civil and cordial manner... And then things quickly took a turn for the worst and escalated to the point of anger and maybe bad words? Well, you're not alone because we've had those types of "conversations" before. So how do you navigate through that? Let's discuss! 2023-08-1411 minThe Openlove101 ShowDiversity of labels in open lifestyle#87 - At our colette lifestyle clubs, we're starting to see more and more people with diverse desires (and hence labels) in their open relationship. Many years ago, it was just the term "swinger" and that encompassed practically all of us. However, these days it's a whole lot different with many new terms as this beautiful relationship model is continuously evolving. So which "label" are you? To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com2023-08-0608 minThe Openlove101 ShowExploring ENM and relationship models#86 - John & Jackie discuss various aspects of ethical non-monogamy, including different forms and labels. We also dive into the importance of creating a relationship model that works for you, and the undercurrent of consensual non-monogamy growing among younger people. Don’t miss as they share experiences from promoting swinger clubs to open-minded individuals and discuss the topic of threesomes. This is an important chat about communication and creating judgement-free zones in relationships that reminds us that successful open relationships involve both autonomy and partnership. To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com2023-07-3029 minThe Openlove101 ShowENM and dealing with shame#85 - Shame and how it can hold us back from fully experiencing and enjoying the lifestyle...We do coaching with couples and a lot of the women openly share how shame hits them hard and becomes quite debilitating in the lifestyle journey. We want to express ourselves and feel authentic to who we are, but we can easily encounter that old tape replaying in our head about how we're supposed to behave based on our childhood upbringing, background, and religion - and that's when shame likes to rears its ugly head. So what do you do about it? To...2023-07-2410 minThe Openlove101 ShowBreaking the Stigma of Non-Monogamy With Roderick Stevens#84 - In this episode, we explore the fascinating world of ethical non-monogamy and its impact on relationships. Our guest, a filmmaker working on the documentary "Open: A Journey Through Love," shares their personal journey and the importance of authenticity in relationships. They reveal their autism diagnosis and how it influences their filters and social expectations. Join us as we delve into the challenges, growth, and transformative power of ethical non-monogamy, and learn about the upcoming documentary project that aims to de-stigmatize this lifestyle. To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com2023-07-1944 minThe Openlove101 ShowDifficulties in Swinging Relationships#83 - Being in an open relationship can be difficult. You've got time management, societal repercussions if others find out, dealing with stereotypes, finding other open-minded couples, trying new things out of your comfort zone, and more. The list just goes on... But that's not to say don't check out swinging because we believe it's well worth. Just some challenges to be aware of as you go along this journey and that's what we talk about today in the episode. To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com2023-07-1111 min
Come With Us Podcast“Swinging Made Our Marriage Stronger”: How John & Jackie Melfi Stay Happy Together as SwingersY'all are in for a special treat this week FOR SURE. John & Jackie Melfi of Colette Clubs (https://coletteclubs.com/) and Open Love 101 (https://openlove101.com/) to talk all about swingers, swingers clubs and the swinging lifestyle in general... all while being INSIDE an actual swinger's club!Here's just a little taste of what we talked about:An intro to swingingThe swinger's lifestyleGroup sexThreesomes as a starting pointJohn's first threesomeThe definition of swingingGetting soberHealthy, happy sobrietyFamily/friends reactionFinding the swinging lifestyle through your partnerSwinging can help you lead a peaceful and loving lifeHow to handle a swi...2021-10-271h 14