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My Person Died Too62. Limiting Beliefs & The Stories We Tell OurselvesWhat are limiting beliefs?
Where do they come from?
How do they stop me from doing what I'd really love to do?
How do they impact my grief?
How can I change them?
We answer all these questions and more in this insightful episode about how limiting beliefs and old wounds can shape our lives and also our grief.
Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to...2024-04-2335 minMy Person Died Too61. Disenfranchised Grief: Meet AllyHow would you feel if your loss and grief wasn't openly acknowledged, and you were forced to grieve in private without the support that other grievers receive?
In this episode, we introduce you to Ally, who has been living with disenfranchised grief since her boyfriend died in 2020.
We felt it was important to shed some light on this type of grief to help others have a better understanding of it.
We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.2024-04-1656 minMy Person Died Too60. Grief In The WorkplaceThis week we have a very important conversation around returning to work after the loss of someone you love.
We discuss the ridiculous amount of bereavement leave that most workplaces offer, how you may feel emotionally, and the expectations you may put on yourself. We share our own personal experiences, as well as those of some of our listeners, and suggest some things that you and your workplace can do to make the transition back to work a little gentler.
Feel free to share this episode with other grievers and workplaces. We really need to...2024-04-0953 minMy Person Died Too59. Sex After Grief: Meet Joan PriceIn this episode we introduce you to a truly amazing woman.
Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She is an award-winning writer and internationally popular sex educator specializing in sex and aging.
Her books include Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after
Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex. Her blog has been offering senior sex news, views, and sex toy reviews from a senior perspective since 2005.
At age 80, Joan Price continues to talk out loud about senior sex – partnered or solo – and abou...2024-04-021h 01My Person Died Too58. Anxiety In GriefWhen someone we love dies, it can really change the way we view the world.
Whereas once we may have been somewhat naive, we now know that bad stuff CAN and DOES happen... and that your entire world can change in the blink of an eye.
It's therefore understandable that grief can come with a heightened sense of anxiety, a state of hypervigilance where you are always on red alert waiting for something else to happen.
In this episode we discuss some of the most common causes and types of anxiety that we've...2024-03-2639 minMy Person Died Too57. Grief BoundariesA lot of people will resist setting boundaries because it's too uncomfortable and they don't want to let others down.
But what if you're letting yourself down and are neglecting your own self-care?
If you don't set healthy boundaries, you may constantly find yourself doing things others want you to do, rather than what you want to do, or putting up with things that don't sit right with you.
This can often lead to resentment of the other person.
Boundaries are even more important to have in place when you're grieving...2024-03-1952 minMy Person Died Too56. But if I re-partner, who will I be with in heaven?It's a question that will sometimes cross your mind when you're widowed and might be starting to consider dating again...
"But if I re-partner, who will I be with in heaven?"
In this episode, John and Carolyn discuss their own personal thoughts on this topic, and how this question has affected some of their clients' decisions on whether to date after loss.
Please note that we are simply providing our own personal thoughts and beliefs on this sensitive topic and are not trying to say that this is the truth, nor should be...2024-03-1227 minMy Person Died Too55. Life As A Solo Dad: Meet Connor CoganThis week we introduce you to a very special guest, who is also one of our My Person Died Too Facebook Community members.
Connor Cogan was happily married to his beautiful wife Kate, with whom he shares three amazing kids. Life was going great, until it wasn't.
Connor shares his heartfelt stories of loss, grief, solo parenting, and learning to live again without his beloved Kate by his side.
Connor speaks with raw vulnerability about how different his life looks now, the ways he teaches their kids about grief, and the importance of...2024-03-0555 minMy Person Died Too54. Grieving In A New YearWe are back with the first episode of 2024.
This week we talk about what it feels like carrying grief into a new year. This can be one of those sneaky times when grief unexpectedly hits hard.
We both share some of the ways our grief has changed over the years, with the recent 8 year anniversary of John's wife Michelle's passing, and as Carolyn approaches the 7 year anniversary of her husband Tony's death.
We finish up with our "ins and outs" for 2024. The things we want to leave behind and the things we want...2024-02-2755 minMy Person Died Too53. Post Traumatic GrowthPost-Traumatic Growth is best described as the positive psychological changes that some individuals
experience in the aftermath of a challenging or traumatic event.
In this episode we discuss the answers to the following questions and share some our our own personal experiences.
What is Post-Traumatic Growth?
Does everyone experience Post-Traumatic Growth?
What are the personality traits of those who experience Post-Traumatic Growth?
How do you increase your chances of Post-Traumatic Growth?
Can Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Post-Traumatic Growth co-exist?
What does the term "finding meaning" m...2023-12-261h 12My Person Died Too52. Grief And The Weird Shit We DoGrief can cause you to do some really weird shit... things that you probably never imagined yourself doing.
But now, as you're doing these things, they don't feel weird at all.
In this episode, John and Carolyn share some of their own personal experiences, plus others from some of our grief community.
We've come to the conclusion that nothing is weird in grief, because EVERYTHING is weird in grief!
Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the...2023-12-1920 minMy Person Died Too51. My Mum Your Dad: Meet Dani & BrandonThis week we have two very special guests, Dani and her son Brandon from Season 2 of the hit tv show, My Mum Your Dad Australia.
Dani tells us about the beautiful love story she shared with her late husband, dual Olympian and Ninja Warrior star, Paul Lyons, and what it was like grieving when you're in the public eye.
Dani and Brandon share details of their recent experiences in My Mum Your Dad, including the vast differences between how men can treat a widow, what is was like for Brandon watching his Mum going through...2023-12-121h 27My Person Died Too50. Grief TruthsIn the time that we've both been widowed, we sure have learnt a lot of grief truths!
It would take us an entire week to share them all, so we've hand selected a few (or 30) to discuss this week.
Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order:
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The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books
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The Stupid Sh*t People Say to...2023-12-0536 minMy Person Died Too49. Signs From Our Loved OnesThis was one of our most popular earlier episodes, so we thought we would share it with you again.
We talk about one of our very favorite topics, signs from our loved ones.
We take a look at:
The ways we receive signs
How to know if it's a sign or a coincidence
The best time to receive signs
Why you may not be noticing signs
If our loved ones can see everything we do
We also share examples of different signs, some that our community have received, as well as plenty of...2023-11-281h 00My Person Died Too48. Grief AnonymousThis week we asked for your questions, rants, observations or anything you wanted to share that you've experienced during your grief.
Everything is anonymous, so nothing was out of bounds.
And you sure did deliver!
We chose a cross selection of your responses so that we could share a few of the topics that come up regularly with our coaching clients, but may not often be spoken about openly.
We realize that some of these conversations may feel inappropriate for some of our listeners, however when we decided to do this...2023-11-2149 minMy Person Died Too47. The Holidays & The GriefGrieving during the holiday season can be especially hard.
At a time when everyone else is having fun and enjoying the festivities with their families, it can really magnify the absence of your person.
In this episode, John and Carolyn share how they navigated the first holiday season after their spouses died, and how it has changed for them since then.
There's also plenty of tips and strategies to help you through this challenging time of the year.
Be sure to listen out for the special sound effects in the last 8...2023-11-1436 minMy Person Died Too46. If I Could Relive One Day With YouIf you were given the chance to relive one day with your person, which day would it be?
This is the question we asked some of our listeners, and we loved sharing their beautiful stories.
We also shared details of the day we would relive with our late spouses.
Check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order:
US:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon...2023-11-0741 minMy Person Died Too45. Grief BrainGrief brain...
What is it?
Why does it happen?
How long does it last?
Has it damaged my brain?
What can help?
We answer all of these questions and more in this episode.
We also share our own personal experiences, as well as some of our listeners.
Don't forget to rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
Visit our websites: carolyngowercoaching.com & johnpolocoaching.com to learn...2023-10-3142 minMy Person Died Too44. Lach's Legacy: Meet Bri EdwardsOctober is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month, and in this episode we have a very special conversation with Brianne Edwards.
Bri talks about the unexpected loss of her son and the depths of grief that followed as part of her mission to bring connection, comfort, and hope to other grieving families.
Bri is a wife, mother of six, and founder of Lach's Legacy, a nonprofit created in memory of her son.
She comes to the table with a Bachelor's in Psychology, a Master's Degree as a Physician Assistant, and a Compassionate Bereavement Care...2023-10-241h 04My Person Died Too43. It's Okay To Change Your MindIn the early days of grief, it's normal to want to make big decisions regarding your future, decisions that you feel are permanent.
It might be deciding to never sell the home you lived in with your loved one who died, or a widowed person might decide they never want to re-partner.
These decisions are real and are how you feel at that time.
While it's completely fine to stick with these decisions if you choose, what happens if over time you change your mind?
In this episode, John and Carolyn...2023-10-1736 minMy Person Died Too42. What We've Been Up ToIt's been 7 months since our last episode and we are so excited to be back!!!
In this episode we share just what we've both been up to in this past 7 months.
Carolyn tells us about the flesh-eating bacteria that took her by surprise back in March and almost killed her; what has kept her going through this latest challenge; how she has dealt with it without her beloved Tony by her side, and some of her tips for getting through hard things.
On a lighter note, John shares some of the big, exciting...2023-10-1056 min
A2Z Healing ToolboxHealing Tool K- Knowing Your New (Upside Down) Environment with Authors John Polo and Carolyn GowerWhy is it that when grief and trauma strike, our social world also turns upside down? Are there tips for navigating the friend-family-colleague relational changes that accompany our new post-loss environment? Join Susan as she chats with widowed grief coaches John Polo and Caroyn Gower, co-authors of The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers. Find out more about Susan Hannifin- MacNab and and her work here Get Susan's book the A to Z Healing Toolbox and books by other MindBodySpirit.fm podcast hosts in the online store Learn more about you...2023-05-0239 minMy Person Died TooA (good) update on Carolynwww.carolyngowercoaching.com
www.johnpolocoaching.com2023-05-0105 min
As I Live and Grieve®What Not to Say to Someone GrievingSend us some LOVE!Summary:One of our favorite guests returns today, John Polo, along with Carolyn Gower. They have launched a brand new book, The Stupid Sh*t that People Say to Grievers. If you are grieving, this book may make you smile, or even laugh - it certainly will let you know you are not alone in hearing comments that were absolutely no help. Sadly, every comment in the book is something someone heard while they were in despair after losing someone they loved. Listen to our conversation. Prepare yourself to start...2023-04-0438 min