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No Regretz MarriageKeep the Fires BurningThis is the last podcast that goes along with our devotional book, "From You & Me to We". We have followed along with book, chapter by chapter, for the whole year. In this final episode of season 3 of the No Regretz Marriage podcast, Carla and I each share our top 5 tips for you to keep the fire burning in your marriage. 2025-07-0135 min
No Regretz MarriageThe Power of Forgiveness with Bruce & Toni HebelAre you struggling to forgive someone who has hurt and wounded you. Forgiveness can bring healing to you and you marriage. Joining us today are Dr. Bruce and Toni Hebel with their powerful message of Forgiving Forward. You can exzperience the freedom of the Gospel through the power of forgiveness. Following the seven protocols of forgiveness will change your life and restore broken relationships if you choose to forgive. If you want to know more about Forgiving Forward, check out forgivingforward.com. You can reach out to us with your questions at www.noregretz.org2024-03-1947 minNo Regretz MarriageWhen You Need Hope: Divorce Part 2In the follow-up to last week's podcast on divorce, we discuss other aspects of the divorce issue. While God allows divorce in certain situations, we belive that he desire reconciliationof the marriage relationship. We don't believe that any relationship is beyond God's power to restore. In Christ, there is always hope!2024-03-1224 minNo Regretz MarriageWhen Can a Christian Divorce?No Regretz Ministries was founded to strengthen marriages. While we believe God never desires a divorce, there are times that scripture allows divorce and it no be a sin. Join us today as we look at the challnge of divorce. Is it ok for a Christian to divorce? If so, what are the situations in which it is allowable according to the Bible? 2024-03-0532 minNo Regretz MarriageForging a Kindom Legacy Marriage & Family“An inheritance is something you leave behind. A legacy is something you forge.” This week on the No Regretz marriage podcast we discuss how to build a marriage and family that impacts generations to come. A kingdom legacy is a model of faith in God, evidenced by a primary pursuit of eternal treasures, revealed in a marriage that portrays the gospel and focuses on building Godly generations, setting a path to follow that impacts the world for the glory of God, from generation to generation.2024-02-2726 minNo Regretz MarriageThe Perfect Storm It's not always the big events that can throw your marriage off course. Sometimes the perfect storm in a marriage is the accumulations of the small things that come together and create a storm of conflict. We just went through such a storm that came up out of nowhere. Maybe you can relate. Please excuse the recording quality as we are on remote location this week and next. Keep on forging!. 2024-02-2018 minNo Regretz MarriageWhat Does Relationship Discipleship Look Like?Last week, we talked about the need for churches to have a relationship ministry that supported married couples and prepared singles for marriage. This week we talk about what that might look like in a church. We love the term "Relationship Discipleship." It expresses the need for churches to train members in how to do relationships well. 2024-02-1331 minNo Regretz MarriageHow Does Your Church Support Marriages?In a recent survey of churches by Communio and the Barna group, research showed that 72% of churches have no meaningful marriage ministry to support married couples. (https://communio.org/free-state-of-marriage-report-from-communio-and-barna/) Relationship dsiscipleship focused on building strong, healthy marriages and educating singles on healthy dating relationships, is vital for the health of both marriages and the church in our country. In the first of two podcasts on this topic, we discuss the need for relationship discipleship in churches. 2024-02-0631 minNo Regretz MarriageDaily Rituals to Help Build Your MarriageIn past podcasts we have talked about how big rituals can help build your family and marriage. Holidays, birthdays, annual vacations, etc... are important parts of your marriage. What about daily habits and rituals? How can these everyday rituals build connection and intimacy in your marriage? join us on today's No Regretz Marriage podcast as we talk about how daily rituals can help forge a better marriage. . 2024-01-3028 minNo Regretz MarriageFinding Couple Friends to do Life WithWe often talk about marriage being a challenging journey. In the ups and downs of life, the Bible tells us that it's better not to do it alone. Thgis is true for couples as well. We have been through some incredibly painful moments in our marriage journey. The burdens we carried were made easier by some precious couple friends. Do you have some couple friends that you can do life with? If not, how can you find and cultivate those relationships? Life and marriage are both better when you have others to share it with.2024-01-2327 minNo Regretz MarriageAcceptance or Rejection? The Importance of Validating Your SpouseIn this week's No Regretz Marriage podcast, we discuss the importance of validating your spouse. In a recent podcast on becoming a TEAM, we talked about how our responses to our spouse when they share an opinion, or feeling will either convey acceptance of rejection to their spouse. We do a deeper dive this week on the importance of conveying acceptance of your spiuse's thoughts, feelings, fears, and opinions if you want to grow into greater intimacy. 2024-01-1630 minNo Regretz MarriageBears & Porcupines: When Marriage gets PricklyWhy is it that after an emotional experience, whether it is a good one or a difficult one, couples seem to enter a period of friction and conflict. It's a time when everything your spouse does seems to rub you the wrong way. We have been there and done that. How can we keep thses times to a minimum. Join us this week on the No Regretz Marriage podcast. as we discuss this topic. 2024-01-0928 minNo Regretz MarriageRelect & Refocus for Your MarriageAs we all begin a new year in our marriage and life journeys, the changing of one year to the next is a great time to pause, reflect, and refocus on our marriages. As you look back at 2023, what were the challenges and successes you experienced? What did you do well? Where are areas you can grow? It is a great time to review your marriage vision and make changes where needed. If you have never created a vision for your marriage, now is a great time to do so. How can you make 2024 the best year yet for...2024-01-0224 minNo Regretz MarriageForging a TEAM: From "You & Me" to "We" Part 4When God created marriage, He declared that the "two shall becomeone." What God says is true about marriage takes intentionality to become the "we" In this final episode of a 4-part series, Johnny & Carla look at the ten signs that your marriage is becoming "one".2023-12-2629 minNo Regretz MarriageForging a TEAM: Going From "You & Me" to "We" Part 3This week is part 3 of our 4-part series - Going From "You & Me" to "We." We talk about how communication and conflict play a part in the team building process. We will wrap up the series next week with the 10 signs that show you are becoming a "We."2023-12-1925 minNo Regretz MarriageForging a TEAM: Going from "You & Me" to "We" Part 2How can you turn your marriage into a "We" instead of a "You & Me"? In part 2 of this series, we look at how to lverage your strengths and how your family of origin impacts the TEAM-building process. We hope you'll check out previous podcasts and be sure to send us any questions you may have to johnnymorton@noregretz..org2023-12-1228 minNo Regretz MarriageForging a Team: Going From "You & Me" to "We"In Genesis 2, God said that he designed a man and a woman to be one in marriage. Carla and I spent the early years of our marriage living as a "you & me" and not a "we." In this first part of a series, we talk about the qualities of a "we" kind of marriage relationship. The qualities include: Commitment, Trust, Honesty, Loyalty, Openness, Flexibility, Adapatability, Admiration, Support, Goodwill, Apreciation, Stamina, Determination, and Forgiveness. 2023-12-0531 minNo Regretz MarriageThriving in the HolidaysOne of the best times of the year, the season of Christmas, can also be on eof the most stressful. How can you thrive in the holidays.. Join us as we talk about how to make the holidays as smooth as possible and learn to thrive in the season. 2023-11-2824 minNo Regretz MarriageWhen the Holidays are a ChallengeGoing through the holidays aren't always easy. How do you handle it when the Christmas season is a challenge? It could be the end of a relationship, the loss of a loved one, financial struggles, or maybe the first Christmas away from your family. Challenges come in many guises. How can you get through the season together and become stronger because of the challenge?2023-11-2824 minNo Regretz MarriageThankful in the Pain: a Conversation with Phil AndersonIt's Thanksgiving week. We know that there are always things in our life to be grateful for,, but what about when we are in pain? Can we be thankful amidst the pain? In this week's No Regretz Marriage, Johnny has a conversation with Phil Anderson as they talk about the love of Phil's life, his wife Penny, her battles with cancer, and how God enabled them both to thank Him in the midst of suffering, pain, and heartache. This week's podcast is longer than usual, but I think it is worth it. 2023-11-2140 minNo Regretz MarriageHow Do I Know I Need a Marriage Coach?One of the more frequesnt questions we hear from people is "How do I know if we could use a marriage coach? In this podcast we run through ten questions to ask yourself and you spouse. How you answer these questions can help you decide if marriage coaching might be good for your marriage.2023-11-1527 minNo Regretz MarriageIs God OK With Separation and other Listener QuestionsThis week we take listenr questions: If a couple is struggling, is separation a good idea? As a young couple without children, how do we make friends with other couples? How did you first meet and what attracted you to each other? What scripture has guided you during this season of life? 2023-11-0725 minNo Regretz MarriageOvercoming Addiction in Marriage Part 2Substance addiction is one of the toughest issues a married couple and family can face. Brad & Jodi Sappe's story is a testimony that with God's help, couples can overcome any challenge in their marriage. Join us for part 2 of our conversation with Brad & Jodi. . We pray that whatever struggles you may be facing in your marriage, you will find hope in this redemption story.2023-10-3132 minNo Regretz MarriageOvercoming Addiction in Marriage Part 1Join us for a powerful story of grace and hope as we talk with Brad and Jodi Sappe, founders of Cross Roads Recovery Ministries. Brad and Jodi share their story of heartache, fear, anger, frustration, hope, and love as their marriage struggled with challenges of Brad's addictions. It is ultimately a story of God's grace, love, and healing power. This is part one of a two-part conversation.2023-10-2425 minNo Regretz MarriageNo Regretz Marriage Listener QuestionsThis week on No Regretz Marriage we tackle listener questions. These come from both write-in questions and from our recent marriage conference at Grace Church San Diego. Included are questions about ethical non-monogamy, conflicts in disciplining children, and advice for parents of teens.2023-10-1726 minNo Regretz MarriageMarriage and MoneyIn this weeks episode of the No Regretz Marriage podcast we speak with Lee Perkins, President and CEO of J.L. Perkins Wealth Management in Macon, Georgia. One of the big areas of conflict that couples often struggle with is money. Join us in our conversation with Lee as we talk about some of the issues couples face when it comes to their finances.2023-10-1034 minNo Regretz MarriageReflections on 40 Years of Marriage Part 2This week we turn the tables on Carla and she becomes the one who is interviewed.. After 40 years of marriage, this is the second of our two-part series reflecting back on 40 years of marriage. God forged our marriage through his fires and continues to mold us into his image. Come join us on the journey. Keep on forging.2023-10-0326 minNo Regretz MarriageReflections on 40 Years of Marriage Part 1Our 40th wedding anniversay is October 1st. This week, Johnny is in the hot seat as Carla asks him questions about those forty years. What does it take to stay together for forty years.? We call our ministry No Regretz, but we definitely have them. In part 2 next week, Carla gets her chance to reflect. Be sure to subscribe to No Regretz Marriage! Rate us if you have the chance and please share!2023-09-2624 minNo Regretz MarriageDoing Marriage When Your Job Keeps You ApartSometimes, one of the biggest challenges to your marriage can be your career. Some careers such as ministry, coaching, the military, health care, and others can have an impact on your marriage because you spend so much time apart. Sometimes it can be working odd hours or opposite schedules. How do you balance your family and your career? How do you keep your marriage a priority? This week we welcome Wil & Babbs Fason to the No Regretz Marriage podcast as we consider some of these issues.2023-09-1930 minNo Regretz MarriageFinding the Balance in MarriageThis week we go through some of our listener questions. How do you find the balance with kids, marriage? Why do you spell No Regretz with a "z"? What do you do when you feel like your spouse is just your roomate? These and other questions on the No Regretz marriage podcast. Please subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform.2023-09-1226 minNo Regretz MarriageThrough the Waters and Fires of Marriage Part 2Join us for our conversation with Lisa and Rick Moore in this second of a two-part series. God's grace is sufficient to see you through the trials of life and marriage. I know you'll be encouraged by Lisa and Rick's story.2023-09-0526 minNo Regretz MarriageThrough the Waters and Fires of Marriage Part 1In Isaiah 43:1-3, Go makes us a promise, "“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior;" God doesn't promise an easy life or marriage, but he does promise to be with us ands sustain us th...2023-08-2922 minNo Regretz MarriageBefore You Say "I Do": 10 PrinciplesAs important as preparing for your wedding day is, preparing for your marriage is even more important. here are 10 key principles to consider before you say "I Do." If you are already married, this can be a great refresher course for your marriage.2023-08-2224 minNo Regretz MarriageBefore You Say "I do" - Cole & Gemma InterviewThis week we did an interview with a couple getting ready to get married in December. They happen to be our son Cole and his bride-to-be, Gemma. We'll talk about what they are doing to preprare for the wedding and thier new life together. We will have anothetr episode next week with some advice to those who are engaged or think they might want to be.2023-08-1529 minNo Regretz MarriageQuestion 5 of 5: Being Intentional in Your Marriage with the 5 QuestionsIn the final episode of our in-depth look at the 5 Questions, we look at my wife's favorite question. Really! She will tell you that the last question on pursuing intimacy is her favorite. Our hope is that you will make asking each other the 5 Questions a weekly part of your marriage. It is a powerful way of being intentional and keeping your marriage a priority. As alsways, we invite your questions and comments. keep on forging!2023-08-0822 minNo Regretz MarriageQuestions 3 & 4: Being Intentional in Your Marriage with the 5 QuestionsAs we continue the series of the 5 Questions, we take a deeper dive into questions 3 and 4. How can asking these questions help grow your marriage? Listen and see.2023-08-0224 minNo Regretz MarriageThe First 2 of 5: Being Intentional in Your Marriage with the 5 QuestionsIntentionality in your marriage is something we try to ingrain in the couples we work with. One of the best tools we share with them is something we first read in a blog by Mike Mobley on beforethecross.com. We modified the 5 questions a little bit, but all credit to Mike Mobley. Asking these questions on a weely basis can do wonders for your marriage. We wanted to go into a little more depth on eac h of the 5 questions. The first of the series will look at at questions 1 & 2 of the teh 5 questions. We will look at the...2023-07-2521 minNo Regretz MarriageSafe Places & Safe People to Support Your MarriageWhere is your safe place? Who are your safe people? Safe places and safe people, we all need them in our lives and for our marriages. We need places and people where we can share our hearts and be unveiled. Do you have those? Join us as we talk about the importance of having those places and people where you can find alistening ear and someone to speak the truth in love.2023-07-1823 minNo Regretz MarriageGood Reads for Married CouplesCarla and I are always talking about being intentional in your marriage. One of the best things we started doing years ago, is to read and discuss a book together. We would usually have a date night at a fast food restaurant and discuss the book one chapter at a time. As we have shared this idea at our seminars, people inevitably ask for some good books to read as a couple. On today's podcast, we share some of our favorite books. Some are on marriage, a few on raising children, and others on personal spiritual growth. If you have...2023-07-1127 minNo Regretz MarriageWarning Flags for MarriageHave you ever gone to the beach expecting to spend the day playing in water only to be greeted by a double red flag? What does that double flag mean? Unfortunately, it means the water is off limits to you. Before you get bummed out, remember it's there for your protection. You could ignore the flags and go in anyway, but it may be a deadly choice. Wouldn't it be nice if all of life came with a set of flags to apprise you of the situation? There may not be official, but there are some warning flags when it...2023-07-0424 minNo Regretz MarriageThe First 5 Years of MarriageYou will often hear that the first five years of marriage are the hardest. Maybe that's why statistics tell us that more than 20% of marriages end within the first five years. Is therer anything you can do to lower the odds? Join us we have a conversation with Matt & Hannah McCommon who have recently celebrated their fifth wedding anniversay. Listen in as they share some of the prinicples that have allowed their marriage to thrive where so many are ready to call it quits.2023-06-2832 minNo Regretz MarriageDate Night Ideas for Married CouplesDo you and your spouse still date each other? You should. Romance isn't the most important thing in a marriage, but continuing to pursue your spouse is one of the keys to a lasting and healthy marriage. I am amazed how many couples stop dating each other once they get married. Keep the romance alive by pursuing each other the way you did before you got married. In this episode, we look at some ideas for your next date. If you don't have a date night, or day, on the calendar for you and your spouse get it down today!2023-06-2024 minNo Regretz MarriageEscaping the Marriage DoldrumsAcoording to study.com, In both the Pacific and Atlantic Oceans, the sailors noticed that there was an area near the Equator where there was little or no wind. Without the wind to move their sail-powered boats, they would sometimes be stuck for days or weeks. They started calling these areas the doldrums. If you are not careful, you may find yourself stuck in the marriage doldrums. Things aren't terrible, but you seem to be stuck in the everyday routines. There is no excitement or passion to your marriage. You want more. Join us as we talk about the...2023-06-0624 minNo Regretz MarriageThe Voices in Our HeadWe recorded this podcast the week after Tim Keller died. I was talking to my son and he talked about how much Tim Keller's death affected him. As we talked I realized how much Tim Keller's voice was in my head. I thought of other voices that have shaped my life through the years. In the first part of this episode, we discuss some of the voices that impacted our lives. In the second half of today's podcast, we talk aboput how to distinguish and filter the voices in our head that can impact our marriages.2023-05-3027 minNo Regretz MarriageFight Free VacationsWhy is it that something that should be fun, relaxing, and a great time of making memories can turn into a disaster filled with conflict. Don't let conflict and fighting ruin your vacation time. We have been there and it is no fun. Join us as we talk about some ways to help make vacations as conflict free as possible.2023-05-2323 minNo Regretz MarriageMarriage and Money 2What's your money attitude? What does money mean to your spouse? Listen in as we talk about how to identify what your money attitudes may be and how to navigate them in your marriage. Understanding how your spouse thinks about money can be key to reducing conflicts about money.2023-05-1625 minNo Regretz MarriageMoney & MarriageCouples report that money and finances is one of the areas they most often have conflict. While a lot of conflict over money in marriage can be traced to poor habits when handling money, that's not the only aspect of money that can lead to conflict. An overlooked area is the attitude each of you may have towards money. How do you and your spouse feel and think about money. Is it the same? Do you know your spouse's money attitudes? We hope this podcast will lead you to some greta discussion with your spouse.2023-05-0924 minNo Regretz Marriage4 Foundations for a Healthy MarriageThis episode marks the the end of our first year doing the No Regretz Marriage podcast. It has been an honor to share with you. We pray that God will use the podcast to challenge and encourage you in your marriage. As we think back on our first year, we look at what we think the pillars of a healthy Christian marriage are. Thses pillars can help create a strong foundation for your marriage.2023-05-0224 minNo Regretz MarriageCommunication Barriers in MarriageLast week we challenged you to start communicating at the levels that build deep intimacy in your marriage. One of the keys to communicating at those levels is the need to feel safe and secure in what you share. This week we want to look at some of the barriers that keep you from reaching those deeper levels. Are you guilty of of some of the barriers? Let's remove the barriers that can impact the feelings of safety and security needed for the higher levels of communication2023-04-2523 minNo Regretz MarriageBuilding Intimacy in Marriage: What's Your Communication Level? We know that communication is one of the keys to building strong and healthy marriages. We also know that there are different levels of communication. One study suggested that the majority of married couples spend less than 20 minutes a week communicating at th levels that build deep intimacy.. How about you? Are you communicating at the levels that help you build a strong, healthy, and intimate marriage?2023-04-1823 minNo Regretz MarriageMarried Sex Part 3This is the third and final episode of Married Sex. What are some of the barriers couples face when it comes to physical intimacy in marriage. There can be emotional barriers that impact your sex life as well as situational and physical. Today's podcast will cover these barriers and how you can deal with them as a couple. Don't settle for anything less than the sex life God intends for you to have in your marriage.2023-04-1127 minNo Regretz MarriageMarried Sex Part 2One of the great gifts God gave us is sex, and the best sex is exzperienced in a committed marriage relationship. In part 2 of the Married Sex series we talk about why God created sex and a brief look at the Song of Songs (or Solomon), a paen to romantic and sexual love found in Scripture.2023-04-0425 minNo Regretz MarriageMarried Sex Part 1Sex - one of God's best gifts to us when we do it the right way, at the right time, in the right relationship. When we were teens they just told us don't. When we married, they just tell us "It's ok now." The problem is no one ever taught us how to talk about sex in a healthy way. We want to talk about sex. So for the next three episodes, we are going to talk about married sex,ecause that's the relationship God created sex for. We hope it will give you something to talk about.2023-03-2927 minNo Regretz MarriageMarriage Reflections from the Holy LandWe just returned from an incredible trip to the Holy Land. As we experienced the scriptures in a fresh way, God reminded us of some of the key principles for building a marriage that is strong, vibrant and honors God. Thanks for being part of the journey!2023-03-2222 minNo Regretz MarriageLeveraging Differences in MarriageYou may have heard the following sentment, "Opposites attract before marriage. Opposites attack after marriage." The areas your partner is different than you may seem novel and even fun before you say "I Do." Those same differences may drive you crazy after you are married. So how can you navigate the differences you have in conflict styles, peronality, love languages, etc. so that you build your marriage into a complimentary team. 2023-03-1426 minNo Regretz MarriageAssumptions in Marriage: Recipe for ConflictWe all do it. And when we do, it often leads to trouble. Assumptions can cause havoc in a marriage. We act on our assumptions and that can get us in trouble. What are some of the key areas that can create conflict in our marriage when we find ourselves acting on our assumptions? How can stop making assumptions that get us in trouble?2023-03-0725 minNo Regretz MarriageWhen Your Spouse Needs You MoreMarriage is designed for both partners to give all of themselves to the relationship. God did not call for us to have a 50/50 relationship. He calls each of us to to be fully commited and give our all. But what happens when one of the spouses just can't give everything to the relationship? Life has a way of sapping us and creating situations where we can't give our all. How should you handle things when your spouse needs more of you and can't give back in the same way.? 2023-02-2825 minNo Regretz MarriagePrepare to SucceedWe are joined today by our son Kemper Morton and his wife, Dr. Haley Morton. They have been married jalmost four years and we talk about what are some things they have learned and whether they felt prepared for marriage. Join us for what was a lot of fun to record with them. 2023-02-2129 minNo Regretz MarriageValentine's Day Special: Try a Little RomanceIt's Valentine's Day and all over the world people are celebrating love and romance. While you can't build a marriage on romance, it sure is a fun part of a healthy marriage. Carla calls it "the cherry on top." Join us as we talk about how important romance is for a marriage and give a few tips on adding romance into your marriage. 2023-02-1425 minNo Regretz MarriageReaching Your GoalsCreating a vision for your marriage and settings goals to help reach that vision is a great thing to do for your marriage. but it's not always easy to make that happen. Join us as we talk about how you can reach your goals and build the marriage you want. We will giove you some tips and ideas that will help make that vision happen. 2023-02-0724 minNo Regretz MarriageFive Habits to Build a Healthy MarriageWe haer all the time about building habits to live a healthier life. Get at least 8 hours of sleep. Exercise 5 days a week. Cut out sugar. All are great habits. What are some habits that can help you build a healthy marriage? Join us this week as we talk about 5 practices you can start doing, if you are not alraedy doing so, that help you move towards a stronger marriage.2023-01-3124 minNo Regretz MarriagePart 2 - Technology: Helpful or Harmful to Your Marriage?Part 2 of how technology can either help or hurt your marriage.2023-01-2622 minNo Regretz MarriagePart 1 - Technology: Helpful or Harmful to Your Marriage? When you look at the past 100 years, the technology advances are ioncredible. No area of our lives has not been impacted by the incredible changes we have seen. Marriage has also been impacted by the vast changes in technology. While many bemoan some of the changes in technology as creating a less personal interaction between people, I think they would also miis it if it went away. The key with technology is how we use it. It can be used for great good or great harm. Today we talk about how we can use it for good or harm...2023-01-1726 minNo Regretz MarriagePerceptionsThey say that perception is reality. (Not sure who "they" are.) Perception may be somebody's reality, but it does not mean that someone's perception is truth. One of the big challenges in all relationships is the different perceptions people have and in marriage, those differing perceptions can lead to conflict. Understanding the other person's perceptions are important in buiding and maintaining healthy relationships. Good communication skills, as in so many aspects of marriage, is key when it comes to diverse perceptions. 2023-01-1023 minNo Regretz MarriageFive Love Languages or Seven?Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages" has sold millions of copies and gave us insights on how to express love to our spouses in a way they could receive it. Truity.com recently came out with an updated version of the seven styles of expressing love. Join us as we compare the two and hopefully learn how to better fill your spouse's love tank.2023-01-0322 minNo Regretz MarriageChangesI think it was Benjamin Franklin who said "...the only thing certain is death and taxes." I would add one more certainty in life - change. Nothing in life stays the same. Some of the changes may be expected like a new baby or a new job, while others such as illness , death, or divorce can shatter your world when you least expect it. One thing certain for your marriage is that life won't stay the same. Join us as we talk about how you can prepare for both the expected and unexpected changes you will face in marriage.2022-12-2724 minNo Regretz MarriageTraditionsTraditions are an important key to buiding community and a sense of family.. They bind us together in a way that is unique. Listen as we talk about how to use traditions to grow your marriage and family. 2022-12-2026 minNo Regretz MarriageHope & Peace: Advent and MarriageAs we celebrate the Christmas season and the birth of Christ, how can the promises of advent impact our marriage? Jesus brings us the promise of hope and peace. What are they and how can we build our marriages around them?2022-12-1324 minNo Regretz MarriageIn the Grip of Grief: When the Holidays Aren't HappyIt's the time of year when you hear "Merry Christmas" or "Happy Holidays" all over the place. What if you are not feeling merry or happy? How do you get through the season when your heart is broken? 19 years ago today, we lost our first-born when he was 18 years old following successful heart surgery. We were devastated. The Christmas season had always been a time of great joy for our family. How were going to make it through? WE hope you will join us as we share some of our journey. If we can help you in your struggles...2022-12-0525 minNo Regretz MarriageMaking the Most of the HolidaysThe holiday season can be wonderful, but it also brings its own stressors. Join us as we talk about how to make the most of the holiday season as a couple and a family. We also talk about how do you navigate the season when dealing with a heavy heart. 2022-11-2922 minNo Regretz MarriageTools for the SeasonsAs we wrap up the Seasons of Marriage series, let's talk about some of the tools that will help keep your marriage in the seasons of Spring and Summer. We often encourage couples to be intentional about growing their marriage and these are some of the best tools to help you do that. It is often the case that when we stop being intentional, the realationship begins to drift and we can find ourselves in the harder seasons of marriage. 2022-11-2223 minNo Regretz MarriageForgivnessIf you have experienced deep hurt in your marriage, forgiveness can be one of the hardest things to do. In this podcast we talk about what forgiveness is and why it is so important not just in the relationship of marriage, but in all the relationships of life. The bottom line is this, forgiveness is more for the benefit of the one forgiving than for the offender. We forgive because God has forgiven us. Forgiving those who hurt us brings great glory to God.2022-11-1626 minNo Regretz MarriageSeasons of Marriage: WinterWinter has set in. The relationship has grown cold, possibly hostile. Communication has shut down and you may be thinking about giving up. Don't! Winter is hard, but there is hope for your marriage. Find that hope as we talk about the hardest season of marriage. 2022-11-0824 minNo Regretz MarriageSeasons of Marriage: FallPart 3 of The Seasons of Marriage. While we would all love to stay in the Spring or Summer, in most marriages you will eventually hit a season of Fall. Things are changing. There is a cooling of the relationship. Look for the warning signs and deal with whatever the issues are before you find yourself in Winter. 2022-11-0124 minNo Regretz MarriageSeasons of Marriage: SummerSummer, the sweet spot of marriage. Summer is a time ofvibrancy and health in the marriage. The relationship is fruitfull and growing. Husband and wife are being intentional about keeping their relationship the priority. This a great time in marriage, but to stay here in summer, it takes work. You have to beware of things that can push the relationship towards fall. Intentionality is key!2022-10-2522 min
No Regretz MarriageSeasons of Marriage: SpringJust as we experience the change of the seasons as each year progresses, marriage too has its seasons of Spring, Summer, Fall, and Winter.The seasons are not about how long a couple has been married, but focuses on the characteristics of that season:The hopefulness of spring when new things are on the horizon, a time of excitement and anticipation.The vitality of summer when life is bustling. Often fast-paced when goals and dreams are coming to fruition.The transition of fall, often a time for reflection and recalibrating of life. A ti...2022-10-1922 min
No Regretz MarriageThirty-nine and counting: Anniversary SpecialHappy Anniversary! Carla and I just celebrated 39 years of marriage. It has always been smooth, but I can honestly say that our relationship has never been better. Join us as we share some of the key principles that got us to 39 years.2022-10-1325 minNo Regretz MarriageC.A.S.H. - What a Man Wants in MarriageLast week we looked at women's desires with C.H.A.S.E. This week we look at a man's desires in marriage with C.A.S.H. Do you know what your spouse's greatest desires in marriage are? Ask them and you may be surprised.2022-10-0424 minNo Regretz MarriageC.H.A.S.E. - Your Wife's DesiresWhat are your wife's greatest desires from you as her husband? Research, both secualar and Christian based, shows that many women have similar desires. While every women and marriage is unique, today's podcast will hopefully give you some insights. This is a great podcast to listen to as a couple and then discuss together as you continue to forge a stronger marriage. 2022-09-2725 minNo Regretz MarriageThe 5 QuestionsWhat are you doing on a consistent basis to grow your marriage? With the busy schedules families have these days, it's not always easy for couples to keep their relationship the priority it needs to be. One of the best tools we have found is "The 5 Questions." We first saw these in a blog post by Mike Mobley and we have incorp[orated them into our own marriage , our coaching and into many of our retreats and seminars. We think it is one of the single most effective ways a couple can be intentional about their marriage. It's free...2022-09-2024 minNo Regretz MarriageFrom Good to Great: Not Every Couple Needs Marriage Counseling, but Every Couple Could Use a Good CoachWhat exactly is marriage coaching. Most people have heard of marriage counseling, but a lot of people don't know what marriage coaching entails. Listen in and see if marriage coaching might help your relationship go from good to great!2022-09-1324 minNo Regretz MarriageHealthy Conflict Part 3Conflict in marriage is inevitable. Handle it right and it can strengthen your relationship. Handle it poorly and you relationship can seem like an endless nightmare. In this final episode of the Healthy Conflict series, we will discuss some tools that help you learn to deal with conflixt in a healthier way. 2022-09-0627 minNo Regretz MarriageHealthy Conflict Part 2In part 2 of our series on how to handle conflict in a healthy way, we talk about some of the unhealthy ways of dealing with conflict that couples may fall into if they are not prepared. The four responses to conflict that can damage relationships include criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt. Leran to focus on the issues at hand and avoid these. 2022-08-3022 minNo Regretz MarriageHealthy Confict Part 1Conflict in marriage is inevitable. Whether it arises from differing opinions or is caused by deep wounding, every marriage will face some type of conflict. The key is to deal with conlict in a healthy way when it arises in a relationship. Handled in the right way, conflict can strengthen and grow your marriage. This is the first of a 3-part dseries on conflict.2022-08-2324 minNo Regretz MarriageExpectationsWhat did you think marriage was going to be like? Who cooks? Where do you go for the holidays or vacations? All of us go into marriage with expectations, but when those expectations are unrealistic and unmet, problems arise. How do you respond when the expectations you have for marriage are not being met. We will ttake that on in this weeks podcast.2022-08-1622 minNo Regretz MarriageRomance: Is a Kiss Just a Kiss?In the classic movie "Casablanca", Sam sings, "You must remember this, akiss is just a kiss." Is a kiss really just a kiss? In this episode we talk about the importance of romance in the marriage relationship. Who knew all that happens with "just a kiss."2022-08-0922 minNo Regretz MarriageThe Enemies of Intimacy - SelfishnessIn the the third episode of the Enemies of Intimacy series,, we talk about the enemy, selfishness. Intimacy is hard to grow if one or both spouses are consumed with the idea that marriage is all about them. The love that God calls us to is marked by putting others ahead of ourselves. Following Christ in selflessness is a key to growing an intimate marriage.2022-08-0222 minNo Regretz MarriageThe Enemies of Intimacy - PrideWhat are some of the enemies or barriers that keep couples from building deep intimacy in each of those areas. In part 2 of a 3-part series, we take a look at the second enemy of intimacy - pride.2022-07-2621 minNo Regretz MarriageThe Enemies of Intimacy - BusynessGreat marriages are marked by spiritual, emotional, and physical intimacy. What are some of the enemies or barriers that keep couples from building deep intimacy in each of those areas. In part 1 of a 3-part series, we take a look at the first enemy of intimacy - busyness.2022-07-1922 minNo Regretz MarriageBe Intentional Part 2Intentionality is key to building a strong marriage. In part 2 of this topic, we talk about the last two of the three C's - Connecting to both God and our spouse, and learning to cherish your spouse. 2022-07-1127 minNo Regretz MarriageBe Intentional Part 1Great marriages don't just happen. They result from coup[es being intentional about doing the things that build strong, vibrant, lasting marriages. If you are not intentional about buliding your marriage, you will drift along and before you know it, find yourself disconnected from your spouse and wondering how you got there. This podcast is the first of two focuseds on being intentional in your marriage. We focus on the three "C"'s: Creating a Vision, Connecting, and Cherishing. 2022-07-0627 min
No Regretz MarriageColePaul tells us in Romans that, "And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,." I don't know that we believed that 26 years ago when our third son, Cole, was born. He was our second child born with a congenital heart defect. In the years ahead though, God proved his promise to be true. It was hard, we didn't always handle the challenges well, but God used Cole to help transform our relationship with him and each other. Even in the storms of life, you can thrive together.2022-06-2827 minNo Regretz MarriagePathwaysWalk the same route through a forest over and over and you create a pathway. You continue to follow it because it has been ingrained in your mind. Often, our family of origen has created the same type of pathways in our lives. We come into marriage with established ideas about what marriage will be like, what roles a husband or wife should take, how we should spend vacations and holidays. That's the way your family did it and it feels right to you. What happens when a couple's pathways conflict? What are the pathways you are building or...2022-06-2024 minNo Regretz MarriageCommunication 101One of the keys to healthy relationships is communication. It's not just the words that are spoken, but includes tone and body language as well. Evn silence can be a form of communication. How well do you and your spouse communicate? Do you go beyond sheduling and surface levels. Good communication skills are essential in building deep intimacy in your marriage. 2022-06-1325 minNo Regretz Marriage"and God created them male and female."One of the big challenges married couples can face is learning to deal with the differences in the way that men and women think. A college professor once said, "As different as men and women are physically, the difference in the way their brains work is even more profound." If you are not careful, you can make brain differences into heart differences. Couples need to learn to celebrate and appreciate the way their spouse thinks differently than they do. Those differences can make them a stronger team. 2022-06-0726 minNo Regretz MarriageThe Love TankMarriages run on love. How full is your love tank? How about your spouse? be intentional about showing love to your spouse. 2022-05-3127 minNo Regretz MarriageThe Why of MarriageWhy did God create marriage? Understanding the why can give you both hope and stamina when you face the challenges of life and marriage. “Marriage is the relationship designed by God, patterned after the relationship of the Trinity, whereby God joins together an individual man and women into one flesh, fulfilling our longing for companionship, intimacy, and vulnerability; designed to raise godly generations; creating a partnership which God uses to mold us into the image of Christ; teaching us to love our spouse and others with a selfless love in order that we may display to the world the gl...2022-05-3125 min
No Regretz MarriageOur Story Part 2Carla and I finish our story as God takes us through the hardest days of our lives. Life can be painful, but God's grace is sufficient. 2022-05-2326 min
No Regretz MarriageOur Story Part 1With a new podcast some people might be wondering, "Why should I listen to these people?" In this episode, we share the beginning or our story and the challenges we faced. We will finish the story in the next episode. It can be a little heavy at times, but I hope you enjoy it. 2022-05-2323 minNo Regretz MarriageNo Regretz Marriage IntroIntroductory episode for No Regretz Marriage podcast.. A liitle bit about who we are. 2022-05-2308 min