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Love After Lies19: Nothing Left to Hide: Rebuilding Intimacy Through Truth and SurrenderSend us a textIn this deeply personal episode, the hosts share their journey from betrayal to healing, highlighting the powerful role of truth and vulnerability in rebuilding intimacy. They reflect on the aftermath of Full Therapeutic Disclosure, the emotional reconnection that followed, and the hard but hopeful road of reintegration after separation. The episode confronts common excuses for secrecy—like “I don’t want to hurt them”—and exposes how withholding truth only deepens the damage. With honesty, faith, and intentional recovery work, they show that real connection is only possible when there’s nothing left to hide.2025-07-2436 minLove After Lies18: When the Airplane Isn't a Time MachineSend us a textIn this deeply personal solo episode, Avonlea shares the raw and unfiltered story of what happened after Full Therapeutic Disclosure—including the moments of panic, regret, and resistance that followed. From symbolic decisions like removing her wedding ring to the anxiety of traveling post-disclosure, she opens up about the emotional toll of navigating betrayal, addiction recovery, and marriage restoration.She reflects on journal entries written in the depths of despair—honest words many in similar pain will recognize—and explains how Scripture, travel, and intentional distance played a role in her healin...2025-07-1620 minLove After Lies17. Full Therapeutic Disclosure & Polygraph: Why We Did ItSend us a textIn this raw and informative episode, we take you inside one of the most pivotal (and most controversial) moments in our healing journey after infidelity: Full Therapeutic Disclosure (FTD) and the use of a polygraph.We talk about why we chose to go through this difficult, costly, and emotionally intense process, despite skepticism from well-meaning friends and family. You'll hear:What Full Therapeutic Disclosure really is (and isn’t)Why a polygraph can be a powerful tool for rebuilding trustHow we prepared for our 3-day intensive with Comfort Christian CounselingThe ro...2025-07-0536 minLove After Lies16. When the Healing Hurts: Suicidal Thoughts, Sex Addiction & the Fight for ConnectionSend us a textIn this vulnerable episode, we pick up our story in September 2023—a month marked by emotional extremes, deep spiritual wrestling, and pivotal moments in our healing journey after betrayal trauma.Avonlea opens up about her darkest night—grappling with suicidal thoughts and the heavy weight of relational trauma. Josh shares what early recovery and international travel were like while battling sex addiction and learning to build real emotional connection for the first time.Together, we discuss:Everything you think you know abou...2025-06-0536 minLove After Lies15. Glimmers of HopeSend us a textIn this episode, we invite you into a raw, God-centered conversation about what it means to cast a vision for a new kind of love. You’ll hear Avonlea’s personal journal entries from “Calling in the One,” and the cautious moments of reuniting in person after weeks apart. Whether you're healing your marriage or your own heart, we pray this episode brings clarity, hope, and encouragement.👉 Subscribe and leave a review if this blessed you. 📩 We'd love to hear from you—message us anytime. 🙏 We pray for you daily.2025-05-0624 minLove After Lies14. Fighting Through FearSend us a textIn this episode, we return to the raw and painful moments of August 2023—the second month in our healing journey. We talk about the impossible odds of saving our marriage after betrayal, the emotional weight of therapeutic separation, and the heart-wrenching process of rebuilding from ground zero. From moments of profound spiritual insight—like a lakeside baptism and the realization of hidden idols—to crushing lows marked by loneliness, fear, and exhaustion, this episode pulls back the curtain on the intense work of healing. We also reflect on what true intimacy means, the trauma...2025-05-0132 minLove After Lies13. Sacred Wounds & the Ezer KenegdoSend us a textIn a spiritual context, a "sacred wound" refers to a deep, transformative trauma or suffering that, instead of being a source of negativity, becomes a catalyst for growth, healing, and a deeper connection with the divine or oneself.When God creates Eve, He calls her an “ezer kenegdo.” That’s the word used in the original Hebrew in Genesis 2:18. Turns out, this phrase is notoriously difficult to translate into English. Josh and Avonlea discuss how these two important topics influenced their healing journey. Calling in "The...2025-04-0730 minLove After Lies12. Can You Trust Your Spouse?Send us a textJosh and Avonlea dive deeper into their journey of recovery and healing and share some of the resources that helped them navigate through the process.Affair Recovery "The Shocking Truth About Trust" Affair Recovery First Steps BootcampFind a CSAT TherapistFind an APSATS TherapistFull Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal2025-04-011h 04Love After Lies11. Getting Down to BusinessSend us a textJosh and Avonlea share more details about their journey and specifics about how they handled the first month after D Day. 2025-03-2440 minLove After Lies10. Betrayal Trauma & Post Traumatic GrowthSend us a textIn this episode, Avonlea and Josh talk about trauma and betrayal trauma, as well as a lesser known subject: post traumatic growth. 2025-03-1733 minLove After Lies9. Sex & AddictionSend us a textJosh and Avonlea share what they have learned about lust, sex, and addiction, and how that knowledge empowered them on their journey of healing and recovery.2025-03-1047 minLove After Lies8. To Divorce or Not?Send us a textJosh and Avonlea discuss the question of divorce after infidelity. 2025-03-0522 minLove After Lies7. Therapeutic Separation & Sex AddictionSend us a textJosh and Avonlea talk about their decision to separate, and how they first learned about sex and lust addiction and how it might be impacting their relationship.2025-03-0528 minLove After Lies6. Let's Talk About SexSend us a textIn this episode, Josh and Avonlea talk about how sex went wrong in their lives. 2025-02-1733 minLove After Lies5. Avonlea's Betrayal Trauma Coping Tools and StrategiesSend us a textAvonlea talks about her journey and navigating betrayal trauma.2025-02-1529 minLove After LiesEpisode 3. D-DaySend us a textJosh and Avonlea talk about D-day.2025-02-1131 minLove After Lies3. D-DaySend us a textAvonlea shares how she handled the initial shock of disclosure.2025-02-1035 minLove After Lies4. Shell ShockSend us a textJosh and Avonlea share their initial reactions to the disclosure of infidelity in their marriage. 2025-02-1037 minLove After Lies3. D-DaySend us a textJosh and Avonlea share about the disclosure of infidelity in their marriage. 2025-02-1029 minLove After Lies1. Roy Story Part 1Send us a textJosh and Avonlea Roy share the first part of how their lives led up to this podcast. 2025-02-1026 minLove After Lies2. Roy Story Part 2Send us a textJosh and Avonlea share the second part of how their lives led up to this podcast.2025-02-1030 minLove After Lies3. D - DaySend us a textIn this episode Josh and Avonlea tell about the day the secrets in their marriage were disclosed.2025-02-1035 min