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For Love's Sake88: Welcoming Joyice to the BIG 4-0!Join me as I celebrate my 40th turn around the sun and the second anniversary of my pod! Today’s show is a vulnerable, wisdom‑packed walkthrough of my year‑long “Journey to 40” Selfhood Project. From sun‑drenched Mediterranean moments to soul‑stretching grief work, I share how an intentional blueprint can change the way we show up in life, love, and legacy.Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to drop your truth for the next Secret Story episode!HOW I CAN H...2025-06-0223 min
For Love's Sake87: the Beauty of Menopausal WomenJoin me as I celebrate women 40+, particularly navigating life beyond their mooning years and entering their wisdom era. With a mix of science, lived experience, and cultural reverence, this episode unpacks the Grandmother Hypothesis, dispels ageist myths, and reminds listeners that the value of a woman deepens, not declines, with age.From evolutionary biology to ancestral intelligence, I speak truth to power about the distinct beauty and purpose of women in their menopausal and postmenopausal years. Whether you’re a mother, auntie, godmother, or simply a woman growing deeper in her own becoming, this episode is a lo...2025-06-0126 min
For Love's Sake86: Our Rebrand StoryIn this behind‑the‑scenes solo episode, Joyice pulls back the curtain on her semi-unexpected, but divinely timed, rebrand. Expect equal parts testimony and strategy as Joyice catches you up on the major happenings in her life, shares her choice to rebrand, teaches some spiritual gems, and invites you in on what’s next for the pod!Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to drop your truth for the next Secret Story episode!HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested i...2025-05-2215 min
The Before You Do PodcastSeason 2 Episode #9 Are You Keeping or Losing You?Have you established your own identity?Join the conversation with Prof. Joyice Robinson Myers and myself as we talk about how to maintain your identity after getting married. Thank you for listening, liking, sharing, and subscribing! To contact Prof. Myerswww.matchmarrymate.comInstagram @matchmarrymatewww.verlyntarlton.comMay experience extraordinary love...2025-02-2648 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 27: Validation & ChallengeJoin Joyice and Jeremiah, a husband-wife team, in a conversation about a sensitive complementary pair, Validation & Challenge, that every relationship needs. Listen in as we explain their definitions, distinctions, how they work together, and how to provide them with practical examples for both men and women. Also, as always, don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to drop your truth for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in mentorship or coachi...2025-02-0753 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 26: Admiration & AdorationJoin Joyice and Jeremiah, a husband-wife team, in a conversation about an essential complementary pair, Admiration & Adoration, that every relationship needs. Listen in as we explain their definitions, distinctions, how they work together, and how to activate them with practical examples for both men and women. Also, as always, don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to drop your truth for the next Secret Story episode!HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in mentorship or coaching?2025-01-311h 16
For Love's SakePop-Up 25: Security & StabilityJoin Joyice and Jeremiah, a husband-wife team, in a conversation about a foundational complementary pair, Security & Stability, that every relationship needs. Listen in as we explain their definitions, distinctions, how they work together, and how you can work on developing them with practical examples for both men and women. Also, as always, don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to drop your truth for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU...2025-01-2444 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 24: Complements, Not OppositesJoin Joyice and Jeremiah, a husband-wife team, in a conversation about the difference between complementary pairs and opposite pairs as a means of examining your thinking on how you approach dating, relationships, and marriage. Because it is important that we view men and women as complements, not opposites. Also, as always, don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to drop your truth for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP Y...2025-01-1742 min
For Love's SakeSpecial 15: Gaining Hindsight, Insight, and Foresight KnowledgeHappy January, Lovebugs! January is for reflection and revelation, and a time to understand the power of spiritual planting and to reconcile our human duality of good nature and evil inclination. Join me in an exploration of more depth of who we are as women including reflective practices as an in-step task toward increasing our wisdom. I’m presenting four main topics: power of reflection (hindsight, insight, foresight), gratitude, cycles and seasons, the role of meaning-making, as well as some final thoughts. Also, as always, don’t forget - if yo...2025-01-1051 min
For Love's SakeSpecial 14: Valuing Sisterhood and Marriage TogetherHappy New Year, Lovebugs! Meet my best friend, Jessica. Join this conversation between me and her as we discuss how we became friends, our friend contract, motherhood, female intimacy, marriage and family, and turning 40–with a surfacing theme of redemption.You’re in for a treat as you come to know a different side of me in this episode. Also, as always, don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to...2025-01-031h 34
For Love's SakeSpecial 13: 2024 "Black Love" WrappedHappy New Year’s Eve, Lovebugs! Kaity and I are back with another fun and festive show to close the year, and we’re inviting you along to play with us. Join us as we share our expertise and personalities and discuss at least one story per month for all of 2024.For each story, we’ll judge it as either MESSY or MAGICAL. As you listen to our takes, decide for yourself or see if you can guess the one we chose.CORRECTION: I mention...2024-12-312h 04
For Love's Sake28: Becoming HerWelcome to the Season 4 Finale, Lovebugs! I am joined by a Match Marry Mate client, Daphne, whose journey through motherhood and romance is nothing short of inspiring. Listen in as Daphne and I explore the importance of building a support network tailored to our mental health needs, the transformative power of embracing vulnerability, and the significance of nurturing our sons while also empowering them to forge their own paths.As she shares, she teaches us so much about the intersection of womanhood and motherhood, the impact of absent fathers on maternal emotional intelligence, and the importance of...2024-05-191h 25
For Love's Sake27: Mother-Daughter LessonsHey, Lovebugs! Welcome to our Mother’s Day episode where I am joined by my mother, Mama Marie, for an intimate mother-daughter chat. My mother shares four valuable gems with us:A storied lesson about testing the authenticity of men.An explanation of two Mareisms that she is most known for with my audience.A lesson in womanhood from her life and the impact of feminine wisdom is mine.One lesson that girl-moms should be sure to teach their daughters. My audience has been asking to hear from my mama si...2024-05-1244 min
For Love's Sake26: Female NegotiationIn today's episode, inspired by a real-life story, we cover standards and expectations and relationship negotiation. Picture a promising relationship on the horizon, both parties eager to commit, but suddenly, a hurdle appears. One partner feels the weight of meeting the other's standards, while the other wonders if their expectations are too high. Sound familiar? If so, then this episode is for you!Listen in as I dissect the nuances of negotiation, from understanding each other's perspectives to navigating potential roadblocks. We'll explore the dynamics of trust, the balance of power, and the importance of k...2024-05-0533 min
For Love's Sake25: Soft Life Singles“Being a husband or even a male partner in a long-term relationship is not who you are as a man–it's an office you hold. It's an office that has been bestowed upon you, and you can lose it. You can't lose your manhood, but you can lose your office–any office that someone seeks to hold. ~JeremiahIs it true that a man showing up in a certain way can evoke new ways of being for a woman? Yes. But does femininity require the presence of man or what he can offer? No.” ~Joyice Intro:2024-04-2831 min
For Love's Sake24: Grown Woman GrowthLovebugs, today’s show has this leading question: What difference does a year make? For my client, Kera, this answer is so much grown woman growth. She graciously shares her personal journey and reflections from December 2022 to December 2023 in learning how to be more womanly-like as she progresses in her womanhood lessons and understanding how to relate to men.Kera, in many ways, is a quintessential client. She’s her own woman not easily swayed by others but she is attune enough to realize she does not know it all and needs guidance. She remains present for coac...2024-04-2150 min
The Match Marry Mate™ Show24: Grown Woman GrowthLovebugs, today’s show has this leading question: What difference does a year make? For my client, Kera, this answer is so much grown woman growth. She graciously shares her personal journey and reflections from December 2022 to December 2023 in learning how to be more womanly-like as she progresses in her womanhood lessons and understanding […]2024-04-2100 minFor Love's Sake23: Wife-Minded Singleness"You want to determine not by pressuring a man or casting him to the novel that you've already written out, or even by over interrogating him, but through getting to know him over time." - Joyice“When it comes to a man assessing the women he's dating for marriage, you want to be his vision, not his reason.” - JoyiceIntro:What is Wife-Minded Singleness, and how can it help you on your dating journey? If you are enjoying your single season right now, but have marriage on your radar, this episode has your...2024-04-1430 min
The Match Marry Mate™ Show23: Wife-Minded Singleness“You want to determine not by pressuring a man or casting him to the novel that you’ve already written out, or even by over interrogating him, but through getting to know him over time.” – Joyice “When it comes to a man assessing the women he’s dating for marriage, you want to be his vision, […]2024-04-1400 min
For Love's Sake22: Womanhood Before WifehoodWelcome to Season 4: Springing into Womanhood! We’re delving into the heart of womanhood, exploring themes like love, compassion, acceptance, and more. Join me as we navigate through various stages of womanhood, from the possibilities of youth to the wisdom of maturity.We’re kicking off the season in this show with the importance of prioritizing personal growth before committing to relationships. I share insights from my coaching practice around embracing your identity as a single woman before stepping into the role of a wife or mother. I explore several milestones in a woman's life, from...2024-04-0749 min
The Match Marry Mate™ Show22: Womanhood Before WifehoodWelcome to Season 4: Springing into Womanhood! We’re delving into the heart of womanhood, exploring themes like love, compassion, acceptance, and more. Join me as we navigate through various stages of womanhood, from the possibilities of youth to the wisdom of maturity. We’re kicking off the season in this show with the importance of prioritizing […]2024-04-0700 min
For Love's SakeSpecial 08: Female Capital & CostWelcome back, lovebugs! I am in the studio with Vanessa as we share a read of our article titled The Kind of Love That Black Women Make: Female Capital & Cost, inspired by Terry McMillian’s Waiting to Exhale (1995). We offer practical wisdom for Black women seeking love and agency, and survey the various capital gains and losses of four Black female characters amid their romantic choices and situations. The Also, if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me, I invite you to drop your truth for the next Secret Story episode! Looking to boo...2024-04-0444 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 16: Dating is IntentionalHey, Lovebugs! Join me for an episode centered around womanhood, dating, and the power of intention. Today, Alexandra shares three dating examples where she's applied a new level of intention to gain better results and safeguard from premature investment. In it, she breaks down her intention, strategy, and outcome. Example No. 1: Alexandra sets clear boundaries, makes the most of her time, and manages tardiness. We discuss the importance of establishing your dating standards and boundaries in advance, protecting yourself from unnecessary disappointments.Example No. 2: Alexandra builds pre-date rapport, adjusting to a new energy (from No. 1) a...2024-03-2924 min
The Match Marry Mate™ ShowPop-Up 16: Dating is IntentionalHey, Lovebugs! Join me for an episode centered around womanhood, dating, and the power of intention. Today, Alexandra shares three dating examples where she’s applied a new level of intention to gain better results and safeguard from premature investment. In it, she breaks down her intention, strategy, and outcome. Example No. 1: Alexandra sets clear […]2024-03-2900 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 15: Dating is StrategicHey, Lovebugs! Join me as I share a story shared with me from someone facing the nuance of local dating after typically preferring long-distance relationships. She seeks guidance on determining the right amount of time to invest.We unpack the balance of personal time, the challenges of early-stage dating, and the importance of not losing oneself in the process. I share practical advice and teach about the dynamics of male competition and female choice in the world of mammals. Join me as I dissect this story and traverse through the landscape of modern relationships.Happy W...2024-03-2232 min
The Match Marry Mate™ ShowPop-Up 15: Dating is StrategicHey, Lovebugs! Join me as I share a story shared with me from someone facing the nuance of local dating after typically preferring long-distance relationships. She seeks guidance on determining the right amount of time to invest. We unpack the balance of personal time, the challenges of early-stage dating, and the importance of not losing […]2024-03-2200 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 14: Dating is Fairy Tale•ishHey, Lovebugs! Today, we have a curated coaching session where a client and I explore being a woman and the complementary dance with male energy. We're answering the question: What happens when a man requests more time without exclusivity?Set in Italy and Paris, my client learns how to navigate the delicate balance between dating while traveling as a digital nomad.Happy Women’s History Month, and happy listening! I invite you to drop your truth for a chance to have your story inspire the next Secret Story episode! If you'd like to keep the po...2024-03-1530 min
The Match Marry Mate™ ShowPop-Up 14:: Dating is Fairy Taleish“Understand the details of the invitation or the proposal, and make sure it’s a proposal and not just a man talking.” – Joyice “Courage and care are your friends. There is a way to do this where it still honors who you are as a woman.” – Joyice Intro: Welcome to another pop-up episode, lovebugs! […]2024-03-1500 min
For Love's SakeBonus 03: Recap with Mr. & Mrs. MyersAs always, at the close of each season, Jeremiah and I unite in the studio to offer you a bonus show! Welcome in, everyone! In closing Season 3, we're recapping all seven stories, and this episode is a must-listen for everyone! We start with the importance of emotional support beyond physical attraction, then explore attraction dynamics, advising both men and women on recognizing and valuing each other beyond the surface.We tackle the timing of realizations and developments in men, providing insights for women to navigate relationships. Jeremiah reflects on the evolution of clarity with age, hi...2024-03-121h 52
The Match Marry Mate™ ShowBonus 03: Recap with Mr. & Mrs. MyersAs always, at the close of each season, Jeremiah and I unite in the studio to offer you a bonus show! Welcome in, everyone! In closing Season 3, we’re recapping all seven stories, and this episode is a must-listen for everyone! We start with the importance of emotional support beyond physical attraction, then explore attraction […]2024-03-1100 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 13: Dating is EmotionalWelcome to our first Secret Story! We’re listening into a heartfelt story that a listener shared with me about navigating a challenging moment in her relationship. Today’s episode unfolds with an instructional lesson on relationship skills and tools, touching on the importance of emotional regulation and effective communication.Join me as I teach the difference between skills and tools but discuss how they work hand-in-hand. This listener's journey showcases some benefits to being properly skilled and equipped for romantic, healthy relationships. As we explore the connection between emotional maturity and building a strong foundation, you'll lear...2024-03-0816 min
The Match Marry Mate™ ShowPop-Up 13: Dating is EmotionalWelcome to our first Secret Story! We’re listening into a heartfelt story that a listener shared with me about navigating a challenging moment in her relationship. Today’s episode unfolds with an instructional lesson on relationship skills and tools, touching on the importance of emotional regulation and effective communication. Join me as I teach the difference […]2024-03-0800 min
For Love's Sake21: Her Inevitable DivorceGreetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our seventh and final experience. I welcome Taccarra Davenport who shares her marriage-to-divorce story while delving into the complexities of relationships, societal pressures, and the impact of religious teachings.Taccarra also opens up about her personal struggles, detailing moments of challenge and the emotional toll of unhealthy relationships. We discuss vulnerability, communication, and understanding each other's needs, and as we unfold her journey, Taccarra's realization of relationship patterns and her decision to file for divorce becomes a poignant moment. Separation. Tune in for an episode filled with wisdom, vulnerability, and the shared journey...2024-02-231h 39
The Match Marry Mate™ Show21: Her Inevitable Divorce“Thank God for therapy. Thank God for dating coaches. Thank God for all of it!” – Taccarra “He can be a ‘good guy’ with good intentions–and that alone cannot equal ‘your yes.’ He must possess the character and skills that should be accompanied by his ask or request of you. Sometimes, we as women becomes […]2024-02-1600 min
For Love's SakeSpecial 07: Her Hot DateHappy Valentine’s Day, Lovebugs! Let’s embrace our Lover-Girl Archetypes with some romantic first-date GONE RIGHT energy. Who else to bring us these vibes but one of my favorite lover-girl clients, Laurie. Then, I activate my Sage Archetype to share practicality, strategy, and guidance. This date isn't just about the lovey-dovey stuff, though. It involves repair and redemption–a pair of relationship skills necessary for strong connections and healthy relationships. We'll also explore a pre-date ritual, emphasizing mutual effort in the dating process.I share relationship insight about not jumping to conclusions, listening to your intuition, and gi...2024-02-1442 min
The Match Marry Mate™ ShowSpecial 07: Her Hot DateHappy Valentine’s Day, Lovebugs! Let’s embrace our Lover-Girl Archetypes with some romantic first-date GONE RIGHT energy. Who else to bring us these vibes but one of my favorite lover-girl clients, Laurie. Then, I activate my Sage Archetype to share practicality, strategy, and guidance. This date isn’t just about the lovey-dovey stuff, though. It involves repair […]2024-02-1400 min
For Love's Sake20: Their New MarriageGreetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our sixth experience. I welcome Shaunice, whom you may remember from season 2, back to the show today! This time, she is joined by her husband Rashad to share an update on their married life and insights into Muslim marriage. Shaunice and I kickoff the episode with her journey of learning and applying vulnerability and femininity skills in her relationship, which has now evolved into a marriage with Rashad.We also discuss the value of proactive efforts in marriage and prevention over intervention. Shaunice shares the significance of speaking to a partner with respect...2024-02-091h 19
The Match Marry Mate™ Show20: Their New MarriageThis is my first Muslim marriage—it’s a different way of living. I love the clear placements of Islam in itself. Men have their things they need to do and the same for women, we also overlap as each other’s coverings. There is no way that I could see myself learning with anybody else. He just […]2024-02-0900 min
For Love's Sake19: Her Healing JourneyGreetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our fifth experience. I am joined by Laurie. a current Match Marry Mate™ client, who is sharing her healing journey with us today. We have a sweet and tender conversation about healing and growth, unveiling stories of self-discovery, family dynamics, and the intricacies of dating.Laurie shares about growing up in a Kenyan household and draws comparisons between gender norms in Kenya and America, her painful realization of being labeled the "pump and dump" girl, and her inspiring path of embracing femininity and healing her relationship with her mother.Laurie’s auth...2024-02-021h 03
The Match Marry Mate™ Show19: Her Healing Journey“If I allow myself to pour enough into a man, I will grow emotionally attached. Oftentimes, it was without substance from them. This was my epiphany of being the ‘pump and dump’ girl, and that’s not okay.” ~ Laurie “It’s important that we do not just see ourselves as women but also as our mother’s […]2024-02-021h 03
For Love's Sake18: Her Relationship GemsWelcome to another episode of season 3, lovebirds! I have a great conversation in store for you today, as I am joined by Timka, a current Match Marry Mate™ client, and we are engaging in a conversation centered around the transformative power that extends beyond her dating experiences, although she will be sharing the details of that aspect today. Over the past year, I've witnessed Timka undergo a profound shift in her mindset, dedication to personal growth, self-reflection, reshaping of her social circles, and the establishment of deep connections and intimacy with a male companion.From honing personal, co...2024-01-261h 11
The Match Marry Mate™ Show18: Her Relationship Gems“I have to be comfortable with the fact that I’m not for everyone, and everyone’s not for me. That was a hard lesson for me to learn.” ~ Timka “My job as your Dating & Relationship Coach is to develop your female identity more and to mature your quality of womanliness. Trust me, you will […]2024-01-261h 11
For Love's Sake17: Her Dating Dry SpellGreetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our third experience. I am back in the studio to interview Kaity Rodriguez with an update on her 100 Dates in Houston Blog Series. We discuss Dates 7-10 from her blog and her unexpected dating dry spell that brought a range of emotions that Kaity is ready to share.We walk through her dating experience with Mr. Hairline and zoom in on a beautiful exchange around the topic of women being valued for their individuality and not just their potential motherhood. We touch on Kaity's memorable "Waiting to Exhale" moment and the balance between...2024-01-191h 20
The Match Marry Mate™ Show17: Her Dating Dry SpellGreetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our third experience. I am back in the studio to interview Kaity Rodriguez with an update on her 100 Dates in Houston Blog Series. We discuss Dates 7-10 from her blog and her unexpected dating dry spell that brought a range of emotions that Kaity is ready to share. We walk through her […]2024-01-191h 20
For Love's Sake16: My Black Marriage ResearchGreetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our second experience. Come with me as I share the first part of my latest research project – an exploration focused on education, economics, and marriageability of Black boys and men. While the podcast primarily caters to Black women, the research holds greater significance for the entire Black community, and I explore the debt America owes Black Americans.The discussion navigates the complexities of understanding and improving conditions for Black men and boys as I call attention to the debts they have inherited and how it has impacted Black Love and the Black Family. I...2024-01-121h 09
The Match Marry Mate™ Show16: My Black Marriage Research“While I believe that America owes Black Americans a great debt… we just cannot wait for it. More than not waiting, though, we can actually help ourselves.” – Joyice “This incident causes the most discord among Black people… It’s why we cannot see each other as people. We can’t give genuine care and grace and […]2024-01-121h 09
For Love's Sake15: His Dating PivotToday, I am joined by my good friend Dana, also known as, “The Voice.” Greetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our first experience. Together, we explore the intricacies of male-female interactions, delving into our previous dating history and the essential aspects of understanding, respecting, and connecting with others. We navigate themes like faith, values, culture, and the significance of personal growth in relationships.We share insights that transcend the conventional dating narrative, focusing on managing expectations, minimizing unnecessary losses, and fostering genuine connections.We address the importance of viewing each other as individuals, not commodities, and r...2024-01-051h 00
The Match Marry Mate™ Show15: His Dating PivotWhen I think about Black people–top three things: spiritual, familial, and communal. There’s a sense of community and a collective that we understand. ~ Joyice Men are not excused either. We have our issues, we do our things. And we bring harshness out of you [women] either by our actions, our words not lining up. […]2024-01-051h 00
For Love's SakeSpecial 06: 2023 “Black Love” WrappedToday, I am in the co-host seat with our resident blogger and therapist, Kaity Rodriguez to wrap 2023! We journey through 10 unforgettable moments in Black Love Culture ranging from dating, relationships, marriage, and family.
Tune in to hear our professional and personal insights, playful disagreements, and opinionated takes as we judge each story as “messy” or “magical” for the Black Community. We also have a bit of fun giving our educated guesses on each woman’s feminine archetype that we cover in this episode. Join us!
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[0:48] - Join Joyi...2023-12-301h 36
For Love's SakeMinisode 03: 2023 “The List” WrappedHey, Lovebugs! Do y’all remember “The List?” The viral list of 28 places to not take a woman on a first date? It made Joyice & Kaity’s 2023 Wrapped Honorable Mention!
From The Cheesecake Factory to bowling alleys, we judge each item as a matter of safety, productivity, or preference. Plus, we spill some tea on our unconventional strategies for first dates! Stick around as we share our hopes and dreams for 2024.
Tune in for the laughs, the real talk, and some dating wisdom.
Until next time, please remember...2023-12-2916 min
For Love's SakeSpecial 05: Marriage As A Cultural Norm“Marriage may need a reboot for a modern world, and I would say it needs a reboot for the Black American community, too." - Joyice
Intro:
Let’s explore how the resurgence of marriage as a cultural norm has shaped my thinking lately!
Join me as I discuss four transformative events that collided to give rise to examining marriage through this lens. Through my recent research project on Black marriage, revisiting the book The Making of Biblical Womanhood, scripting our marriage preparation mini-series, and conversations from my recent Caribbean travels, I've gained new insights on this...2023-12-1556 min
For Love's SakeSpecial 04: Biblical MarriagesHiya, Lovebugs! Today, I am discussing the eight types of marriages outlined in the Hebrew Bible. Discussing Biblical marriages, especially for Black women, can be touchy, so I sprinkled some clapbacks + humor to lighten the mood! I also don't mind calling out men, patriarchy, or misogyny. While approaching tough topics, I intend to make you as comfortable (but also as responsible) as I can!
Join me as we navigate the marital and familial culture of the Ancient Near East, zooming in on Ancient Israelite society.
This episode is designed to broaden your outlook on marriage, so let's delve into a l...2023-12-1448 min
For Love's SakeSeason 3: Experiences [prologue]WELCOME TO SEASON 3, titled "EXPERIENCES!"
What do we do as we close our healing journeys? Many argue that healing is never complete and agree-ish, but we do arrive at a place where we can choose something to mark the end or even a new beginning. I’ve had several points of closure and ending a particular healing season in my greater journey of becoming my new woman, as I'm sure you have too!
To welcome the new year, Season 3 teaches us to move on and press forward. To not be afraid to re...2023-12-1002 min
For Love's SakeMinisode 02: Setting Intentions 2024Hey, Lovebugs! Before diving into this episode, I encourage you to listen first to Minisode 01: 2023 Wins & Lessons. In this follow-up episode, hear how you can reflect on your 2023 by evaluating our wins, highlighting our lessons, and identifying what we need to cut, continue, and create in the year ahead.
Be sure to watch out for my Clubhouse sessions on the 11th, 18th, and 29th, all about helping you navigate this jungle of love and self-understanding more intimately. Make sure you also grab the freebies because you don't want to miss these guides! Until next time, please...2023-12-0832 min
For Love's SakeMinisode 01: 2023 Wins & Lessons
“Before you are anything for anyone else or even before you can be anything to anyone else, you need to understand yourself and take care of yourself.” - Joyice
Intro:
Hey, Lovebugs! Allow me to guide you through a labyrinth of love and self-discovery! As we bid farewell to 2023, I invite you to join me in the art of reflection and intention-setting.
In today’s show, we embark on a journey of selfhood, exploring the interconnected threads of self-love, sisterhood, and the path to a thri...2023-11-2422 min
For Love's SakeSpecial 03: Marital Submission“I do think there's a contingent of Black men that think that Black women should recognize their 'authority' just on the account of them being a man. I think it’s woefully misguided, but it does exist in our community.” - Jeremiah
Welcome back, lovebugs! My husband and I are together again to explore balance between leadership and submission, untangling historical roots of resistance among Black women.
Examining the intersections of race, culture, and religion, we navigate through Biblical passages from the Old and New Testaments. We distinguish between different forms of marriage - patria...2023-11-171h 03
For Love's SakeSpecial 02: Churchy Wedding VowsHey, Lovebugs! Join me as I share ways to approach your coming marital vows alongside my husband with insights on how to plan, prepare, and collaborate before you meet each other at the holy altar. From the Church of England to the Black Church, marriage vows, obedience, and submission, you better believe that we address the elephants in the room to prepare brides-to-be (and their grooms).
We challenge societal judgments and emphasize the importance of trust, understanding, and shared responsibility in domestic partnerships. Together, we unravel the layers of marital submission, exploring its historical...2023-11-101h 30
For Love's SakePop-Up 12: A Male Fertility Story
Greetings, Lovebugs! Today's episode delves deep into the often-overlooked realm of male fertility in the context of IVF. Join me and Jeremiah as we candidly share his journey, providing a rare glimpse into the emotional rollercoaster many men experience during fertility treatments.
From extensive research to navigating the IVF process together, Jeremiah opens up about his concerns, frustrations, and unexpected joys, and we also discuss societal expectations, the challenges Black men and women face, and the crucial role of a robust support system in this journey.
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For Love's SakePop-Up 11: Masculine ArchetypesHi, Lovebugs! Today’s pop-up episode is about exploring masculine archetypes!
I invited my amazing husband, Jeremiah, to lend his male perspective. Together, we unravel the layers of the four archetypes: Lover, Warrior, Magician, and King.
We begin our discussion around the Lover, exploring the passionate and emotional side of men, but beware, not every lover is created equal; some can be addictive, while others may struggle to find joy.
Then, we dive into the Warrior, the embodiment of protection and defense. Jeremiah highlights the importance of training this archetype wi...2023-10-2040 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 10: Inner GirlWelcome back, Lovebugs!
Let’s enter the world of self-discovery and healing via your inner child or inner girl. Are you wondering, what is this inner girl I'm talking about? She's that part of you that's been there since day one, holding onto your memories, dreams, and even the pain from your childhood. Ready to navigate the journey of self-love, healing, and growth? Let’s go!
Listen as I share intimate letters from four different women (three from clients of mine and one from yours truly) who have embarked on their own inner girl healing journ...2023-10-1332 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 09: the Spirit of IntimacyLovebugs, join me today as we unravel the intricate layers of intimacy, a topic that hits close to home for all of us. While our show primarily speaks to Black women, there's valuable insight for everyone today, whether you're single, a couple, or somewhere in between.
Sharing wisdom from Sobonfu Some’s book The Spirit of Intimacy, I emphasize the profound role of respect in fostering deep connections. I'll guide you through various types of intimacy, from the physical to the spiritual, urging you to reflect on how you connect with others and how you'd like to fe...2023-10-0655 min
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For Love's SakeSeason 3 TrailerSeason 3 is all about Experiences–those events in life where we pivot, date, learn, transform, marry, and even divorce. I’ve written these episodes for your New Year 2024 inspiration with an intentionally selected lineup of guests, including three actively dating clients sharing their personal stories and lessons, one married couple (a Match Marry Mate™ 2023 bride and her husband), an interview with a guy I used to date, and another talk with my sistah-friend, Mae.
This season teaches us to move on and press forward as we focus on our solar plexus–the part of the body...2023-10-0601 min
For Love's SakeBonus 02: Recap with Mr. & Mrs. MyersWelcome to the Season Two Bonus Episode, lovebugs!
Join me and Jeremiah as we cover each episode from Season 2 together as husband and wife. One of the reasons I produce these bonus episodes is to be an example of what male-female conversation can look like in harmony and togetherness (and also as a calm away from the social media and gender wars noise). We need to have current, relevant, and critical conversations that are not always comfortable but necessary. We can do this without attacking each other or making up things that are damaging and against proper stats and data...2023-10-021h 49
For Love's SakePop-Up 08: Physical TouchAs we continue our "In My Feels” series, let’s delve into the intriguing world of physical touch and its significance in relationships. I promised you a follow-up from the summer conversation that I shared in Episode 14, discussing sex and affection in the physical touch department with a man. While women will likely benefit the most in the episode, it’s open to couples and men too. As we are mindful about Cuffing Season, I want you to understand the nuances of physical touch and use it to improve the quality of your connections and relationships.
We start by discussing the dif...2023-09-2927 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 07: Cuffing Season“I want you to be fully human and experience life as safely, fully, and wisely as possible while getting your needs met and being available for others to do the same too.”
Intro:
Welcome as we kick off our short series titled "In My Feels” to get us through the fall, a series designed to keep you updated on all things Match Marry Mate™ while we're between seasons. As we dive into this fall season, we explore the phenomenon known as "Cuffing Season" and its impact on dating and relationships. Why do people tend to start relationships during this time? We exami...2023-09-2226 min
For Love's SakeSpecial 01: Punish Violent MenWelcome to the Match Marry Mate podcast! In light of the recent "Protect Black Women'' outcries, your host Joyice uses this special episode to take a deep dive into the issue of male violence against women, with a particular focus on the experiences of black women. While I usually discuss topics related to self-love, femininity, and relationships, today I want to address a critical societal issue that demands our attention. I share a personal story from my life that intersects with this topic, exploring the complexities of gender relations, morality, and violence within intimate partnerships.
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For Love's Sake14: I feel connectedWelcome to Season 2, Episode 7, lovebugs! This episode includes a curated Q & A session with me and my client, Dani, discussing similar refrains from the men she was dating and how to treat prematurely disconnecting with men. As our conversation takes off, we dive into dating practices, behavioral patterns, feedback loops, and sweet spots. This is a perfect show for those who need some new inspo with their dating.
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Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/
Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com
Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/
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For Love's Sake13: I feel my powerWelcome to Season 2, Episode 6, lovebugs! My client, Alexandra, has rejoined us to share an update from her Fun Girl Summer Episode #2. We discuss assessing a man’s proposal for exclusivity, the decision-making process, and how to deliver the conversation. Nothing about this conversation went according to plan; we just allowed Spirit to flow, so listen in and be served.
Connect With Me:
Instagram: @matchmarrymate
Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com
Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/
Have a Secret Story you want to share with me...? I'm here for it! I invit...2023-08-301h 42
For Love's Sake12: I feel like a new womanWelcome to Season 2, Episode 5, lovebugs! This episode opens with a curated coaching session with my client, Shaunice, and closes with an interview between me and her. First, we prepare for a "bid of connection" conversation Shaunice needs to have with her then-fiancé with femininity and vulnerability to create intimacy. Then, we catch up in an interview where she shares her "story of men" and how her relationship with earlier male figures (her father and uncle) impacted the kinds of men she chose. You won't want to miss this one. Tune in!
Books/Research/Sites Mentioned in Today's Show:
Marriage Be H...2023-08-281h 15
For Love's Sake11: I feel my pleasureWelcome to Season 2, Episode 4, lovebugs! I'm joined by Kaity Rodriguez, LCSW—an author and the writer of the 100 Dates in Houston blog series for a conversation about her latest dating project. Tune in to hear us explore her selfhood and dating journeys, her opinions on the gender-number disparity between Black women and men, and her lover-girl feminine archetype. She also shares some dating tools she's learned that have improved her dating. Because Kaity's story included impressive self-awareness and self-work, I knew she'd be the perfect guest to teach us today. If you need support in this area, this is your sh...2023-08-271h 27For Love's SakeSEASON 2 PROLOGUE: Prepare to "Know Thyself"Greetings and welcome to Season Two of the Match Marry Mate™ Show!
I'm excited for you to hear these wonderful "Know Thyself" Stories and Conversations we have in store! I'll be joined in the studio by one of my favorite Black woman therapists, the mother of a client, a few current clients living their best love lives, and one of my best girlfriends!
We're going to have an enlightened time (re)connecting with ourselves and who we are in Season Two. Sit Back, Relax and Prepare to "Know Thyself".
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For Love's Sake10: I feel my mother's loveWelcome to Season 2, Episode 3, lovebugs! I'm joined by Mrs. Tracie Stafford, a Social Sustainability Scientist who develops inclusive cultures and is the mother to one of my clients. I sit at her feet to soak in her wisdom about mothering, hindsight knowledge, generational patterns and trends (specifically Boomers, Gen X, and Millennials), dating advice from 27 years of marriage, and pageantry tips as a former beauty queen!
Connect With Me:
Instagram: @matchmarrymate
Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com
Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/
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For Love's Sake09: I feel present #daddyissuesWelcome to Season 2, Episode 2, lovebugs! I'm joined by Mrs. Christian Jackson, LPC, LPC/S, NCC—our Daddy Issues Expert and one of my favorite Black woman therapists! We discuss father-daughter relationships and how it affects us throughout our lifespan. Our conversation includes daddy issues, the difference between therapy, counseling, and coaching—and the value in all three, naming and caring for your inner girl, being a boy-mom, tips for having a healthy marriage and family, and the Daddy Issues Inventory. Tune in for a heart-to-heart convo among Black professional women with a heart for Black (millennial) women.
Books/Research/Sites Ment...2023-08-211h 25
For Love's Sake08: I feel worthyWelcome to Season 2, lovebugs! This season chronicles our "Know Thyself" series, and opens with self-worth. In the first segment, I explain our season's theme and affirmations, deliver my latest spoken word piece (my lyrical love letter to humanity), and confront what I call self-worth/self-value confusion. In the second segment, one of my dearest friends, Mae, joins me in the studio to discuss the difference between self-worth and self-value and the importance of separating the two. If you're confused about personal worth and value, struggle with your identity, or need a good comfort convo on these topics, this is your...2023-08-201h 03
For Love's SakePop-Up 06: Feminine ArchetypesWelcome to the 6th Pop-Up Episode, lovebugs! In this episode, I'm fusing some psychology, spirituality, biology, and sociology together to discuss female and feminine archetypes (and my distinctions) in their divine and dark energies. I also include some differences between masculinity and maleness and femininity and femaleness while hinting at ways a woman could naturally complement her essence with a man. Enjoy this fun and flirty episode as we close our summer series on the podcast.
We're taking a short break but will return on Sunday, August 20, for Season 2!
Books/Research/Sites Mentioned in Today's Show:
Feminine Archetype Quiz
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For Love's SakePop-Up 05: Joyice's IVF JourneyWelcome to the 5th Pop-Up Episode, lovebugs! In this episode, I am narrating my fertility journey with IVF. I discuss the process, my feels, and some insight into my decision-making and conversations with my husband. Since my latest retrieval happened over the summer and transformed into a spiritual experience I didn't know I needed, it is completing our Fun Girl Summer Wishlist Challenge Bonus!
Connect With Me:
Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/
Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com
Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/
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For Love's SakePop-Up 04: Wife FriendsWelcome to the 4th Pop-Up Episode, lovebugs! This episode covers the 7 stages of marriage (for context), but the larger conversation centers on the value of wife-friends and couple–friends as I point to the 4th item on our Fun Girl Summer Wishlist—read something satisfying, steamy, or sexy. While our wishlist is designed for both singles and spouses to participate, this episode is for my wives! But, even singles can take some lessons here. I close the episode with 7 research-based benefits of having married couple friends for your marriage.
Research/Books/Sites Mentioned in Today's Show:
The 7 Stages of Marriage by Dr. R...2023-07-2831 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 03: Client Dating #1Welcome to the 3rd Pop-Up Episode, lovebugs! This episode highlights four Match Marry Mate™ clients giving me updates on their Fun Girl Summer dating, including the dates they accepted, the good time they're having (because dating should be fun), how they were received and taken care of by their dates, and the new dating skills they are learning and practicing like:
Allowing yourself to receive
Restoring childhood experiences
Pivoting in real-time on date night
"Working the room"
Conversational flow
Inviting a man to pursue to you
Connect With Me:
Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/
Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
Become A M...2023-07-2137 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 02: Client Story #1Welcome to the 2nd Pop-Up Episode and our first Client Story Episode, lovebugs! Alexandra narrates her Fun Girl Summer 2022 to Fun Girl Summer 2023 in a conversational flow with me. We chat about:
Alexandra's choice to join Match Marry Mate™
Why Alexandra answered the 2022 Fun Girl Summer Call
The dating skills Alexandra has improved and the relationship lessons learned in the past year
Cuffing Season (according to Alexandra's definition)
What is the Match Marry Mate™ Social (with a recap)
A personal update from Alexandra on her current-day dating activity
We close with a Sacred Sisterhood Circle round where Alexandra quickly answers 7 questi...2023-07-141h 29For Love's SakeSEASON 2 TRAILER: Prepare to "Know Thyself"Greetings, I hope you're enjoying these pop-up episodes while we're in between podcast seasons!!
Season Two is coming, and I'm excited for you to hear these wonderful "Know Thyself" Stories and Conversations we have in store!
I'll be joined in the studio by one of my favorite Black woman therapists, the mother of a client, a few current clients living their best love lives, and one of my best girlfriends!
We're going to have an enlightened time (re)connecting with ourselves and who we are in Season Two. Hope to see you there.2023-07-1401 min
For Love's SakePop-Up 01: Fun Girl Summer IntroWelcome to the 1st Pop-Up Episode, lovebugs! This episode introduces "Fun Girl Summer" by Match Marry Mate™ and invites you to join us! I explain what is a Fun Girl Summer, including how it came to be, along with it's purpose, theme song, and our Summer Wish List Challenge!
Connect With Me:
Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/
Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoyice.com
Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/
Fun Girl Summer Details: https://matchmarrymate.com/fungirlsummer23/
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For Love's SakeBonus 01: Recap with Mr. & Mrs. MyersWelcome to the Season One Bonus Episode, lovebugs!
We debuted the podcast on my birthday, June 2nd, and each day for a week, we released a single episode through Episode Seven: "We are Joyice and Jeremiah." Since launching the show, we've been overwhelmed with your comments/messages and your love and support.
I've also taken to heart some of your feedback and questions and decided to bless you with this BONUS episode with details you want to know. Most of your responses were to episodes two, four, five, and s...2023-06-231h 42
Redefining Wealth with Patrice WashingtonJoyice Robinson Myers: Meet My Dating CoachRedefining love can often require guidance and assistance when it comes to navigating the world of dating and relationships. In this episode, I’m introducing you to my Dating Coach, Joyice Robinson Myers.
Joyice is a Dating + Relationship Coach, Podcast Host and the Creator of Match Marry Mate™. She helps powerhouse Black women achieve their relationship milestones and advance their relationship goals to win at love as they navigate their needs, wants and desires with men.
Key discussion points from this episode include:
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For Love's Sake07: We are Joyice & JeremiahWelcome to the Season Finale, lovebugs!
Enjoy our first conversational episode with me and my husband, Jeremiah. We're discussing major trends and movements with Black Families & Black Relationships/Marriage dynamics.
Topics:
State of Affairs between Black Men & Black Women
Black Women's Response to Marriage
Birthing & Socializing Black Children (namely boys)
Possible Solutions to Remedy "Gender Warring"
Black Women Marrying Down & Black Men Leveling-Up
Research Article Covered in Today's Show:
Black Women's Ambivalence About Marriage: A Voice-Centered Relational Approach by Patrícia Barros-Gomes & Joyce Baptist
^^^If you're a Patron, you can request a free copy from me.^^^
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For Love's Sake06: I am clearWelcome to Season One, Episode Six, lovebugs!
This episode features a curated story with me and my client, Kera. We’re discussing how to determine if a man is aligned with our core values and if we have enough information to decide. This also leads us to a conversation about character traits and ways to challenge a man somewhat. Lean in and enjoy the conversation!
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Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
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Book A Call: https://matchmarrymate.com/calls/
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For Love's Sake05: I am uninterestedWelcome to Season One, Episode Five, lovebugs!
This episode features a curated story with me and my client, Dani. This week, we’re discussing how to have an “I am no longer interested” conversation in the early stages of talking to a man. You know that space where you’ve had a date or two, and in those encounters, you realize there’s more misalignment than your standards will allow. You won't want to miss this one. Tune in!
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Instagram: @matchmarrymate | https://www.instagram.com/matchmarrymate/
Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patron: https://www.coachjoy...2023-06-0530 min
For Love's Sake04: I am valuedWelcome to Season One, Episode Four, lovebugs!
This episode features a solo session with Yours Truly as I address a father-daughter issue that a then-client asked me about. This week, we’re talking about father-daughter relationships. Yes, how you relate to your father, but today’s talk is more about identifying fatherhood qualities in men you’re dating or in relationships as you consider or imagine your future daughter and her relationship with the father you would have chosen for her to have–and that’s going to lead us to how we understand the difference between female respect and value from...2023-06-0426 min
For Love's Sake03: I am balancedWelcome to Season One, Episode Three, lovebugs!
This episode features a Q&A and curated story as I address polarity and balance with two clients. This week, we’re talking about balance as we manage two realities in the dating and relationship space: (1) polarity as it relates to individuality and togetherness, concerning identity and community when dating, and (2) polarity as it relates to familiarity and novelty, concerning self-sabotage in a new relationship. Then, we transition to working through self-sabotage and the importance of balance. Tune in!
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Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
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For Love's Sake01: I am JoyiceWelcome to Season One, Episode One, lovebugs!
This episode features Storytime with Yours Truly as an introduction from me to you. I am asked many questions about how I came to understand men/masculinity or about my knowledge of feminine energy and power. And the quick answer is … a lot of it was born in my upbringing.
In this episode, I’m sharing some highlights about who I am as a daughter, sister, mother, and wife. Let’s get into it!
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Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
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For Love's Sake02: I am teachableWelcome to Season One, Episode Two, lovebugs!
This episode features a curated story with me and a guest, Carlissa. This week, we’re talking about creating a Sacred Space for women—the beauty of it, the value in it, and the power that comes from it. Now, for all that magic to happen, the woman in need of support must be teachable, as that posture allows for authentic reception, and today’s guest is definitely if “being teachable” were a person. Enjoy!
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Website: https://matchmarrymate.com/
Become A Match Marry Mate™ Patr...2023-06-0252 min