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Messy Can't Stop HerHow the West and Africa Treat Nature’s Gifts: A Lesson on Self-Worth from My Birthday HikeSend JKO a Text Message On her 54th birthday hike, JKO reflects on how the West and Africa value their natural resources—and what that contrast revealed about self-worth, comparison, and recognizing the hidden gifts within. If you often doubt your value, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom from this episode You are not less valuable because your gifts are hidden or different. Like Africa’s untapped and unprotected resources, are you overlooking your gifts? True self-worth begins when you stop looking outward and start discoveri...2025-05-0117 min
Messy Can't Stop HerAdvance Voting and Snap JudgementsSend JKO a Text MessageAdvance voting in Canada’s federal election, this Easter weekend, reminded JKO about snap judgment: Fundamental Attribution Error. In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, she explores how this thinking pattern impacts our wellbeing and what women in the trenches can do to protect themself. If you’ve ever been misunderstood or misjudged someone else, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeDon’t confuse a moment with someone’s whole story.The stories w...2025-04-2422 min
Messy Can't Stop HerI Can’t Swim… But I Showed Up AnywaySend JKO a Text Message JKO set out to hike her way to healing but pain, a surprising diagnosis, and an unexpected invitation into the water changed everything. In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, discover how a closed door led to a new path, fresh joy, and the courage to begin again. If you're a woman who's ever felt discouraged when life didn’t go as planned, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Setbacks can reveal better paths Healing can come fr...2025-04-1711 min
Messy Can't Stop HerEven in Tough Times, Do You Know That You Are Right Where You Need to Be?Send JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO reminds us that even in the middle of pain, regret, and unfair circumstances, we may be exactly where we need to be. Through the story of Joseph, we uncover how our current struggles could be positioning us for purpose. If you are feeling overwhelmed with your life’s trajectory, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Your current struggles are a crucial part of your destiny You can stay faithful and do...2025-04-1020 min
Messy Can't Stop HerYour Hidden Weapon Against Double Standards and Mama ShameSend JKO a Text MessageHave you ever felt like the world holds you to a different standard — especially as a mother, a woman, or someone trying to do their best in the midst of chaos? In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO gets real about the crushing weight of double standards and the shame they create.If you’ve ever walked away from a situation thinking, “Maybe I’m just not enough,” this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeDouble standards are everywhe...2025-04-0327 min
Messy Can't Stop HerJKO on As I Live and Grieve: A candid conversation on being a mother in painSend JKO a Text MessageIn this special episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, JKO shares a heartfelt conversation with Kathy Gleason, host of As I Live and Grieve. Together, they explore the waves of grief, the pain of losing a child and a beloved sister, and the power of healing—especially for mothers. Check out the full episode on As I Live and Grieve. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click her...2025-03-2703 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhere to Find Strength in Your WeaknessSend JKO a Text MessageJKO encourages you to embrace your vision despite your weaknesses. Your struggles don’t disqualify you—they are the very place where God’s power shines the brightest. If you've ever felt unworthy, inadequate, or stuck, this episode is for you. If this message resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Your weaknesses do not disqualify you. Do not let your weakness truncate your vision There is help available. you do not...2025-03-0609 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPodcast Truancy and Faithfulness in PainSend JKO a Text Message JKO opens up about the emotional turmoil that made her miss last week’s episode. She reflects on grief, motherhood, and faithfulness in hard times. If you're going through a difficult season, this episode is for you. You are seen. You are not alone. God is with you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Faithfulness Matters. Even in pain, showing up has value. God honors consistency. You Are Seen. No matter how hard life gets, God sees you (El Roi) and cares. Pri...2025-02-2716 min
Messy Can't Stop Her2 Sins that can Cost You Your Success in 2025Send JKO a Text MessageHost, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores how comparison and copying impacts us negatively, and can derail our 2025 goals. If you want to overcome feelings of inadequacy, cultivate contentment, and align with your purpose, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode· How comparison and copying can stop you from reaching your goals in 2025.· Why contentment and self-awareness are essential tools in your 2025 success toolkit.· What the bible says about copying and comparing, and about you.· Practical tools to recognize and embr...2025-01-2321 min
Messy Can't Stop HerGod’s Promise for Your 2025: He is turning your weed patch into a Garden of EdenSend JKO a Text Message Reflecting on God’s promises of restoration, host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, shares an uplifting message for 2025. She encourages listeners to speak life into challenges, embrace hope, and prepare for a year of thriving. If you desire practical and spiritual insights to guide you into the new year, this episode is for you. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank...2024-12-2622 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFrom Regret to Restoration: How to find hope in missed opportunities and get back wasted yearsSend JKO a Text MessageAre you feeling the weight of missed opportunities? Inspired by a friend's compliment, JKO explores how our losses can become new beginnings. Through the story of a poor childless widow’s journey to restoration, learn that it is never too late to reclaim your purpose. If you have ever regretted paths not taken, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeMissed opportunities do not define or dictate your future.Honesty about your pain is the first step toward restoration....2024-11-2819 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPrayers for courage to avoid failures of kindnessSend JKO a Text MessageReflecting on a quote from Brene Brown’s Atlas of the Heart by George Saunders about “failures of kindness”, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) highlights how fear often holds us back from being kind. She explores the courage it takes to show compassion, both to others and ourselves.Through Scripture and prayer, JKO encourages listeners to seek boldness, trust in God’s strength, and act with kindness even in difficult situations. This episode also includes a special prayer from Psalms 118:8-9 that you can repeat by yourself to help you connect directly...2024-09-2716 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPrayers when you are outnumbered and powerful forces are against you: Learning from 3 Kings of JudahSend JKO a Text MessageExploring the prayers of 3 Kings of Judah - Hezekiah, Asa, and Jehoshaphat - who battled overwhelming enemies, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, focuses on how to pray when faced with challenges from people, situations, or systems that are much more powerful than us.If you’ve ever been helpless before a formidable hater, this episode will teach you how to ask God for help to overcome and emerge victorious.Nuggets of Wisdom in this episodeEven the most righteous and faithful can face adversity....2024-09-1220 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPrayers for hope when words fail, and light when darkness surroundsSend JKO a Text MessageAfter a period of silence due to a technological hiccup and a very recent loss, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, continues the series on praying God's word over us. JKO reflects on finding solace in God during times of overwhelming grief and uncertainty, much like the story of Job.Through prayer and scripture, she encourages listeners who may be facing their own trials and reminds them that, in God's hands, even the darkest moments work together for our good. If you are in a place where only divine intervention c...2024-08-2912 min
Messy Can't Stop Her1 Year After: Praying God’s Word when Blindsided by Unimaginable Loss and GriefSend JKO a Text MessageAs part of the ongoing series on praying scripture over our lives, Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO reveals how she clung to Habakkuk 3:17-18 as a lifeline following the devastating loss of her daughter on August 1, 2023. She shares the profound impact of Jonathan Traylor's song "You Get the Glory from This," as a source of comfort and hope as she navigated her pain. In this testimony of faith, grief, and resilience, JKO emphasizes the importance of healing from trauma, not just for ourselves but for the well-being of our children and fut...2024-08-0124 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word with Becca Rae Eagle: Prayers for Peace and StengthSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa – JKO welcomes Becca Rae Eagle, fellow podcast host shares her journey with the Sacred Penning Podcast, emphasizing the importance of quiet time with God for mental and physical health. She highlights her personal experiences of receiving strength and direction through this practice. Becca also talks about her upcoming retreat, "Back to School, Back to You," aimed at helping mothers find peace and strength during stressful times. The episode concludes with a heartfelt prayer from Becca, and an invitation to join the Confident Godly Woman Summit. See the show notes fo...2024-07-2522 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word over YOU: Genesis 16v13 and Psalms 139v13-14, He Knows Your NameSend JKO a Text MessageInspired by the story of Hagar from Genesis 16, host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO explores themes of divine recognition and acceptance, reminding us that God sees and knows each of us intimately. Through Psalms 139 verse 13-14 and the song "He Knows My Name" by the Maranatha Singers, JKO offers you comfort and encouragement no matter your circumstances. Don't miss this inspiring message and the special invitation to sign up for the free upcoming Confident Godly Woman Summit. Tune in to receive hope, healing, and strength through prayer and scripture a...2024-07-1813 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word with Brenda Rice: Prayers for Hope, Favour and PeaceSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Brenda Rice to share her inspiring journey with prayer. Brenda opens up about overcoming thyroid cancer and supporting her son through addiction, highlighting the transformative power of prayer in her life. She shares meaningful prayers and uplifting scriptures for women facing life's challenges. If you need hope, favour, and peace in the trenches of life, this episode offers inspiration and strength through the healing power of prayer. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://ww...2024-07-1119 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word Over You: Overcoming the Pain of RejectionSend JKO a Text MessageThis episode tackles a common wound – the painful experience of rejection. With a definition from Collins Dictionary and a personal story, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, explores how rejection shows up in life: pre-birth experiences, relationships, and even church. She reminds us that true worth comes from God's love and shares powerful scriptures including Jeremiah 31:3 and Romans 8:31-39 to showcase God's unwavering love, even when we feel rejected.Feeling rejected? You're not alone! JKO invites you to join her in prayer as we ask God to heal rejection's st...2024-07-0418 min
Messy Can't Stop Her100th Episode Special: A shower of Prayers from the Scriptures with Renice EdmisonSend JKO a Text MessageWelcome to the 100th episode of Messy Can't Stop Her! Continuing the series on the power of prayers, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Renice Edmison, a devoted women's group leader who has spent years supporting and uplifting women through faith and prayer. Renice shares her personal journey from a season of profound heartache to finding healing and strength through prayer and community. She encourages listeners to embrace the healing power of faith, whether they are believers or simply seeking comfort and guidance.If you are navigating struggles, tune in...2024-06-2726 min
Messy Can't Stop HerEmbracing God's Plan in Exile: Praying with Jeremiah 29:4-7Send JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host JKO explores the concept of being in exile, a place of instability and trouble. Drawing a parallel between the Israelites exiled in Babylon and those facing challenges in their own lives, she encourages listeners to find hope in God's promises, using verses 4-7 of Jeremiah 29. These verses instruct the Israelites to build lives, plant gardens, and seek the peace and prosperity of the city they are exiled in. JKO reminds women that even in challenging circumstances, God sees our struggles and equips us...2024-06-2013 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God’s Word over YOU with Mrs. Adebola Jaiye-Ojo: Finding Strength Through Prayer (in doubt or unbelief)Send JKO a Text MessageContinuing the series on praying God's Word over you, JKO and Mrs. Adebola Jaiye-Ojo discuss the power of prayer and finding your inner strength, even in the toughest times. As the founder of the Refuge Children's Home, the Bees Fellowship and The Deborah’s prayer group, Mrs. Jaiye-Ojo is a beacon of spiritual strength and compassion. In this episode, she shares profound insights on how prayer can be a tool for healing and empowerment, why joy is a choice you can make no matter your circumstances, she showers listeners with powerful prayers to...2024-06-1325 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word over YOU: Isaiah 43v1-5aSend JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," JKO, embarks on a journey of prayer and reflection inspired by Isaiah 43:1-5a. This episode is the first in a series on praying God’s Word over YOU. It is dedicated to those women in the trenches of life who need a reminder of God's unwavering love and support.Join us as we dive into the scriptures, pray together, and find solace in the divine words that promise hope and healing. Send your prayer requests through messages to JKO’s Facebook, Inst...2024-06-0619 min
Messy Can't Stop HerHow to Get Your Joy Back from the Effect of the Comparison Trap on Your Mental HealthSend JKO a Text MessageAs we close Mental Health Awareness Month, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores the science behind comparison and its impact on women's mental health, and uncovers practical tips that women can use to break free from the comparison trap.References in this episodeJay T. Coza on Twitter Journal of Behavioural Addictions: Social comparisons: A potential mechanism linking problematic social media use with depressionJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you w...2024-05-3015 minMessy Can't Stop HerFaith over Regrets: Healing from Mistakes and Mental TurmoilSend JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO explores the role of faith in overcoming mistakes and their impact on mental health. Featuring biblical wisdom, scientific evidence, and testimonies from inspiring women like Deb, Brene Brown, and Michelle Obama. Discover how faith can be a source of hope and healing for mental trauma.References in this episodePew Research Study: Religion’s Relationship to Happiness, Civic Engagement and Health Around the WorldResearchGate: The Impact of Religion/Spirituality on Ment...2024-05-2321 minMessy Can't Stop HerMental Health Awareness Month: Boost your mental health with self-awarenessSend JKO a Text MessageIn this Mental Health Awareness Month episode JKO explores the transformative impact of self-awareness on mental health. Tune in for practical strategies to manage stress, enhance emotional regulation, build self-compassion, and live a more fulfilling life. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter 2024-05-1619 minMessy Can't Stop HerEnjoying the Moments - Aunt Flo’s Monthly Visits and AllSend JKO a Text MessageTurning 53 brings a new chapter for JKO! This week's episode explores the bittersweet transition into menopause, reflecting on periods and celebrating the freedom and confidence that comes with age. JKO shares tips on savoring life's moments, big and small, even when they come with hormonal shifts. This episode is an empowering reminder to embrace the "messy magic" of life.References in this episodeHealing the Heart RetreatJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If...2024-05-0212 minMessy Can't Stop HerLiving in Alignment with Your Values: The Secret Weapon for Better Health?Send JKO a Text MessageJKO explores the surprising link between your values and your well-being. She explains how living a life true to yourself can be the secret weapon for better health, less stress, and more happiness. At the end of this episode, you will also learn how to identify your values and make adjustments to create a life that nourishes your body and soul.References in this episodeHealing the Heart RetreatJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/2024-04-2516 minMessy Can't Stop HerThe Gift of Pause: How Separation can Empower Women to Learn, Forgive, Heal, and Activate FaithSend JKO a Text MessageFeeling stuck? Don't hit fast forward! This episode delves into the transformative power of separation for women. Backed by science and real-life stories, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO explores how taking a break, whether from a relationship, job, or even yourself, can unlock incredible growth. Learn how separation fosters self-discovery, forgiveness, and inner strength. Plus, discover practical tips and an exclusive opportunity to attend the Healing the Heart Retreat taking place in May in Tobago. References in this episodeHealing the Heart RetreatMaria Erving2024-03-2814 minMessy Can't Stop HerThriving through chaos: Lessons from Esther, Ruth and RahabSend JKO a Text MessageGet inspiration for navigating and triumphing over overwhelming challenges from Esther, Ruth, and Rahab. This episode offers timeless lessons on how we can thrive through adversity. Plus an opportunity to activate your own shield of faith and thrive through chaos in the Healing the Heart retreat taking place on the beautiful Island of Tobago. References in this episodeDoes Perfection Precede Purpose? JKO shares some lessons from the BibleCONVERSATIONS WITH GOD: When Your Kinsman Does not HelpThriving through chaos: Journey to clarity w...2024-03-1421 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThriving through chaos: Journey to clarity with faithSend JKO a Text MessageJoin guest host Debra Wright as she interviews the host of Messy Can't Stop Her, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO. Discover the intersection of faith, healing, and finding clarity. JKO shares her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of investing in yourself and finding peace amid life's chaos. Get a sneak peek into the upcoming retreat in Tobago, where women who are committed to thriving through chaos will gather for a profound experience of connection, empowerment, and transformation. This inspiring conversation will remind you that you are worth the investment in your well-being. 2024-03-0728 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThriving through chaos: The role of faith in unlocking forgiveness and healingSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa - JKO and Forgiveness Facilitator Debra Wright discuss how faith, forgiveness, and self-discovery transformed Debra's life and led to her vision of the Healing the Heart retreat taking place this May in Tobago. Learn why signing up for the retreat could be your transformative step towards breaking free from the past, healing from trauma, and embracing your authentic self.For more information about the 2024 Healing the Heart retreat taking place on the beautiful Island of Tobago, click on this link.Join the Messy...2024-02-2932 minMessy Can't Stop HerIs that faith Talk cheap?Send JKO a Text Message Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) opens up about a recent test of her faith. Exploring the depths of personal pain and loss, JKO shares the raw and authentic journey of how activating the shield of faith isn't a one-time event but a continual process in navigating life's storms. References in this episodeJonathan Traylor - You Get The GloryJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, c...2024-02-1520 minMessy Can't Stop HerActivating the shield of faith to thrive through chaosSend JKO a Text MessageJoin Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) as she discusses the power of faith as an unwavering anchor in life's chaos. In this inspiring conversation, JKO shares effective practices that you can use to activate your shield of faith and thrive through chaos. You can download this list of Bible based affirmations to help you in thriving through chaos. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me...2024-02-0817 minMessy Can't Stop HerHow to make your words work for you and not against youSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips that you can use to make your words a potent tool for thriving through life's chaos. From crafting positive affirmations to embracing gratitude language, learn how intentional language can be your guide to a resilient and empowered life. To help you on your journey to thriving, feel free to download this list of affirmations and the language reflection worksheet.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your s...2024-02-0117 minMessy Can't Stop HerWatch your words to and about yourself!Send JKO a Text MessageContinuing with the theme of thriving through chaos, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, delves into how our words affect the lives we have. Explore the science-backed influence of words, from what you say to yourself (your self-talk) to what you say about yourself and your situation to others. Your words shape your reality, and your positive words can be your superpower for a happy life. Join me next week for practical tips on how to use your words to create the life you desire.M...2024-01-2518 minMessy Can't Stop HerHow to change your thoughts and make them work for youSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips for transforming your thoughts and thriving in chaos. Join her as she explores the power of positive thinking, affirmations, mindfulness and gratitude. Listen, learn, and be your sister’s keeper by sharing these insights with a woman who needs a mindset boost. To download a free list of affirmations to kickstart your journey, click here. References in this episodeSelf Care Series: Mental Health Advocate, Mayra Gonzalez shares how empathy, counselling and self care nurture emo...2024-01-1820 minMessy Can't Stop HerWatch Those ThoughtsSend JKO a Text MessageA thought-provoking exploration into the concept that: "Your thoughts determine how you experience life; improve your thoughts, improve your life." Following the theme of thriving through chaos, JKO emphasizes how our thoughts shape our experiences. Drawing from personal stories and insights shared by guests, she highlights the transformative power of positive thinking. JKO encourages listeners to be mindful of what they consume—media, conversations, and thoughts—and concludes with a call to take charge of their thinking. Tune in to discover how changing your thoughts can empower you to fac...2024-01-1119 minMessy Can't Stop HerThriving in challengesSend JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, host Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO, offers practical insights on navigating challenges. She encourages listeners, especially women in difficult situations, to take small steps toward positive change and personal growth in 2024. Join JKO as she discusses finding strength, embracing adversity, and stepping forward with purpose, making it clear that thriving is achievable even in the most difficult times.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on...2024-01-0410 minMessy Can't Stop HerUnderstanding Yourself: The First Step to Being a Good MotherSend JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of 'Messy Can't Stop Her', host Judith Kambia Obatusa discusses the role of past trauma and self-awareness in parenting. Drawing from personal experiences and stories from the YouTube channel 'Soft White Underbelly', she emphasizes how childhood experiences and parental interactions can lead to issues like addiction. Judith shares her tragic loss of her daughter to addiction, revealing that her daughter's search for love led her down the wrong path. She connects the importance of self-love and addressing personal traumas to being a better parent. She also provides resources like...2023-11-3014 minMessy Can't Stop HerFrom Loss to Legacy: A Mother's Call to Empowerment and Mental HealthSend JKO a Text MessageJoin Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, in this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, titled "From Loss to Legacy: A Mother's Call to Empowerment and Mental Health." Following the recent loss of her firstborn to a heartbreaking overdose, she shares a powerful exploration of intergenerational impact, urging women to prioritize mental health and break free from the shadows of past pain. This episode is a heartfelt call to empowerment, resilience, and self-care, offering a transformative perspective on turning personal loss into a legacy of strength.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her...2023-11-2206 min
Messy Can't Stop HerJessica Carter, Yoga Teacher and Nutrition Coach shares how to Release Trauma and Effects like Obesity with Essential Oils & Yoga, Food Journalling, Affirmations and BreathworkSend JKO a Text MessageOn this episode, Jessica Carter, Yoga teacher, nutrition coach and podcaster shares how essential oils with yoga, food journaling, affirmations and breathwork can help a woman in a challenging life situation release trauma stored in her body and address effects like obesity. With step-by-step guidance, she gives us practical tips that we can integrate into our daily routine to heal ourselves from inside out and transform our lives. At the end of this episode, you will learn how essential oils integrated into yoga, food journaling, affirmations and breathwork can help y...2023-04-2032 min
Messy Can't Stop HerSelf Care Series: Mental Health Advocate, Mayra Gonzalez shares how empathy, counselling and self care nurture emotional wellnessSend JKO a Text MessageThis is the first episode in our Self Care Series where we’ll share valuable insights and practical tips to help you on your self-care journey. Mayra Gonzalez, Counsellor, Yoga Instructor and Mental Health Advocate helps us learn how to recognize warning signs of domestic violence, manage stress and build resilience. She delves into the transformative power of empathy and the importance of being sensitive to others' pain. Drawing on her expertise and lived experience, she shares insights on how counseling can facilitate healing and growth and then caps it up...2023-04-1338 minMessy Can't Stop HerEmpowering Women in Difficult Situations: How Family and Community Support can HelpSend JKO a Text MessageIn this episode we discuss how each of us, whether in family or community, can empower women facing abuse or a difficult situation. We discuss five ways to help - empathy, active listening, connecting with resources, challenging harmful attitudes, and volunteering with organizations. We also provide practical examples of how we can empower women that we know are in a difficult situation. Key points:The power of support in empowering women Practical ways we can all make a difference in empowering women in difficult situations...2023-04-0628 minMessy Can't Stop HerEmpowering Women in Difficult Situations: An Update on Messy Can’t Stop Her’s MissionSend JKO a Text MessageOn this episode, we discuss a topic that is both important and relevant - why women in abusive or difficult situations need to be empowered even when not able to leave. We acknowledge that leaving an abusive or difficult situation is not always an option and discuss some of the factors that make a woman stay. Our mission is to raise awareness, provide resources, and offer support to those who may be struggling.Key points:Why leaving an abusive or difficult situation may not always be possible2023-03-3019 minMessy Can't Stop HerHow to Leave a Lasting Impact: Overcoming self-doubt with creative expressionSend JKO a Text MessageHave you ever felt like "people like you should not be talking?" In this episode, we address the common feeling of self-doubt and imposter syndrome that often hold individuals back from pursuing their passions and share tips and strategies for overcoming these obstacles. We explore the power of creative expression to overcome self-doubt and highlight the different forms of creative expression that can be used to leave a lasting impact on the world. We also provide examples of women who overcame difficult situations in their own lives by g...2023-03-2332 minMessy Can't Stop HerLiving in the Trenches of Life with Legacy in MindSend JKO a Text MessageWhat is your legacy? What will you be remembered for? What are you remembered for everywhere you've been? Why do I need a legacy? What is the benefit of living a life with legacy in mind?In this episode, we discuss the meaning of legacy, why it's important to leave a legacy and how it makes a difference to how we live our lives.At the end of this episode, you will learn 8 things you can do to live a life of legacy even when dealing with challenges.2023-03-1631 minMessy Can't Stop HerHow to Stay Positive in a Negative SituationSend JKO a Text MessageHow do you stay focused on the positive when you are in a negative situation that you can't get out of? What did the women of previous generations do to thrive when they were stuck with jerks?In this episode, we discuss why mind health is a game changer for your wellbeing and success in life.At the end of this episode, you will learn 6 tips that you can practice to help you stay positively focused when the situation around you is negative.References in...2023-03-0937 minMessy Can't Stop HerWhat Do You Do When Hard Happens?Send JKO a Text MessageWhat do you do when your best laid plans fall apart because of unforeseen challenges?What do you do when you face a difficult situation that seems to stretch till there's no end in sight?In this first episode of 2023, I share 6 things I learnt from successful women and my recent challenges with Covid and other struggles,At the end of this episode, you'll see how you can apply each of them to your unique situation when hard things happen, and you'll be reminded that hard t...2023-03-0223 minMessy Can't Stop HerThank you for 2022. See you in 2023!Send JKO a Text MessageI did it with fear. I did it with trepidation. I did it with courage. But, I couldn't have done it without you.So, am taking a break to bring you new things. It's a break for new ways of connecting with you.Take good care and see you in 2023!Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. 2022-12-1407 min
Messy Can't Stop HerJustice Was Served for Nicole: An update on a domestic violence murderer's request for paroleSend JKO a Text MessageAn update on Nicole's Domestic Violence Story which was an interview with her sister as part of a campaign to stop her murderer from being granted parole.Every action counts. Little drops make an ocean.Thank you.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy...2022-12-0808 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThrough the Fire: Dr. Ebere Azumah, Co-founder of Love Your Menses, tells us why menstrual equity and women's empowerment is importantSend JKO a Text MessageIn this multidirectional episode, Dr. Azumah shares how the fiery flames of a burning car taught her empathy and made her a better doctor. She also explains the impact of racism on how a person of colour experiences impostor syndrome and why empowering black and brown girls should be prioritized. In addition, she described the role of where one lives in a person’s life outcomes.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeIt's good to plan, but it's also good to be flexible in life W...2022-12-0152 min
Messy Can't Stop HerDebt, Divorce and Death: 5-time Washingtonian top doctor, beauty Queen and Rotary Leader tells us how she came through the trio strongerSend JKO a Text MessageEither one of the 3Ds of debt, divorce and death can derail a person’s life but when they hit Pallu together, she fought back with service. From being comfortable with the uncomfortable, she became a comforter to others.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeWhen we give to others, we help ourselves.Seeing your shortcomings as challenges to overcome is part of the positive self talkBeing kinder to yourself, being positive and having positive self talk is just as important as...2022-11-2446 min
Messy Can't Stop HerIyaiya Thomas Ofem tells us how One Cheerleader changed her lifeSend JKO a Text MessageAll we need is one cheerleader to tell us we can, and then support us until we see that we can. In this concluding episode, Iyaiya Thomas Ofem tells us how she met a mentor whose encouragement changed her story from fulltime housewife to a women’s empowerment changemaker.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeRespect and honour everyone you meet on your way, you never know who has been placed on your path to help you.Humility has rewards.Man...2022-11-1632 min
Messy Can't Stop HerA Life of Sacrifice: Iyaiya Thomas Ofem on finding her purpose while serving her communitySend JKO a Text MessageTransitioning to season three of the podcast with some delightful conversations.Beginning with a heartwarming conversation about the struggles of a housewife and homemaker with Iyaiya Thomas Ofem, entrepreneur and founder of Evolve360 Woman Initiative and Conference. Sometimes our life’s circumstances could make us feel that we’re not doing as well as others and we just want to hide from the questions and judgments. In this first part of her story, Iya tells us how serving at her children’s Parents Teachers Association led her to find wh...2022-11-0934 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhen Trouble Comes Calling: What does it mean? What do you do?Send JKO a Text MessageDoes trouble make you tired? Do you see it as misfortune? What if there was another way to see it? Let us learn from the story of the hawk told by JKO in this episode.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter 2022-11-0212 min
Messy Can't Stop HerBloom inside Pain: JKO shares one thing that makes life’s trenches easierSend JKO a Text MessageAre you feeling worn down and not valuable? Do you think your life is too imperfect to be useful? Do you know that it is possible to have an imperfect life and still be the perfect help another person needs? This episode shares a practice that makes this possible.References in this episodeLes Brown Life is HardJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click...2022-10-2620 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Danger of a Single Story: unCreating the Life that You do not WantSend JKO a Text MessageAll it takes is a single story to make or break your life. What is the single story you’re telling yourself? JKO shares the three things you can do to change that single story and create the life that you desire.References in this episodeThe Danger of a Single Story TED TalkMathew 12:34bNumbers 14:28Michael HyattJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to...2022-10-1924 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFrom Fact to Faction: Yvonne Randle tells us how she coloured her way out of depression and became a Faction writerSend JKO a Text MessageLife may be hard, yet we can use the hard facts of our challenges to bring others through their own challenges.Yvonne tells us how she coloured her way out of depression and turned her painful love and marriage experiences into inspiration for herself and empowerment for others. Yvonne Randle has authored many fiction (faction) and non-fiction books that inspire people to have healthy relationships with themselves and others. She also hosts a podcast and personal development workshops through her company, You Are Dynamic, LLC.You c...2022-10-1233 min
Messy Can't Stop HerChurch Girl Meets God: Yvonne Randle shares how she stopped running and listenedSend JKO a Text MessageRaised in Church, actively serving in Church, yet living in pain filled disappointment, loneliness and heartache. Yvonne Randle tells us what happened when life got too painful to handle. When we get sick and tired of being sick and tired, we have to do the work inside before it shows up outside. Yvonne takes us to Church in this episode.Yvonne Randle has authored many fiction and non-fiction books that inspire people to have healthy relationships with themselves and others. She also hosts a podcast and personal development w...2022-10-0630 min
Messy Can't Stop HerYou're Not Done Yet: As long as there's breath in your nostrilsSend JKO a Text MessageAm too old to... am too fat to... my life is too x to... am too poor to...How many of these or similar excuses have you used to convince yourself and others that you're no longer worthy of dreaming or being, or even participating in your own life?The truth is you're not done yet, as long as you still have breath.References in this episodeFinding Her perfect Career at 70J. K. RowlingStephen HawkingOases of hope2022-09-2920 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Price of Unforgiveness: Too steep to pay and so not worth itSend JKO a Text MessageHave you ever wondered how unforgiveness affects your mental, physical and spiritual health? This episode shares some thoughts, research and expert opinion about it.Would you like to share your thoughts about this topic on the podcast?Please send me a voice note dm on IG or Facebook, with your answers to the following three questions and I’ll feature you in a future episode of the podcast:1. What does forgiveness mean to you?2. What are the benefits of forgiving?3. Are there offenses th...2022-09-2121 min
Messy Can't Stop HerTriggers: Forgiveness is a Journey and I faced my past todaySend JKO a Text MessageI got triggered today when I went to sign my youngest up for Air Cadets.It brought me face to face with my forgiveness journey. Have I really forgiven? Is the pain gone? This conversation is about that.Please DM me on Instagram or Facebook @judithobatusa to let me know your thoughts on forgiveness and how you handle those difficult situations.If you'll love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Podcast Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter...2022-09-1415 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhy Forgiveness Matters: Definitions and DecisionsSend JKO a Text MessageWhat does it really mean to forgive? How can we forgive? Why should we forgive?This episode answers these questions and discusses the importance to our health and future.References in this episodePastor Ayo DanielsJeremiah 17:9Jack KornfieldFred LuskinElisabeth KleinIsaiah 1:18Luke 23:24Please DM me on Instagram or Facebook @judithobatusa to let me know your thoughts on forgiveness and how you handle those difficult situations.If you'll love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer...2022-09-0827 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPower of Forgiveness: Donna Fairhurst returns to share how radical forgiveness brought her calm from chaosSend JKO a Text MessageDonna Fairhurst returns from season one to share the power of forgiveness to heal us and take us from chaos to calmness. If you’re in that place of pain and hurt and you’re struggling with forgiveness, Donna teaches us how to become radical forgivers. You can Book a complimentary session of Donna’s signature coaching program, “Zero 2 Clarity” on www.donnafairhurst.com.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your...2022-08-3151 min
Messy Can't Stop HerDoes Perfection Precede Purpose? JKO shares some lessons from the BibleSend JKO a Text MessageWhat do we do when our life is not perfect, when relics of our failures and mistakes surround us in our minds or everywhere we look? Do we wait to have it all together before we show up to help? Do we have to become perfect before we pursue our dreams? I know the struggles that some of us face daily with limiting thoughts. I know the desire to hide away until our lives are perfect before doing the things we yearn to do. I know this because I struggle t...2022-08-2431 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Happy Boss Lady: Annette Reid tells us how she turned abuse around to become a successful entrepreneurSend JKO a Text MessageAnnette’s story continues and we see the stereotype of the abuser play out but we also see the resilience of a woman in action. Annette’s story us reminds us that domestic violence can happen to the strongest of us and that learning how to recognize the signs early can make the difference. In part two of her story, Annette shares how coming through the devastation of domestic violence led her to become the owner of Annette’s Driving School.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeGive...2022-08-1733 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFrom Lover to Loather: Annette Reid tells us how she learnt about abuse from her experienceSend JKO a Text MessageCocooned in the love of her father Annette Reid had never known or seen a woman being abused by a man. As an immigrant to the United States, she had seen her fair share of trouble but nothing prepared her for the pain she experienced in the hands of the one who had pursued her relentlessly and pledged to love her for eternity. In part one of her story, Annette tells us his progression from lover to loather and from calling her my precious to my property.Nuggets of...2022-08-1035 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPain is a Great Teacher: Kit Livingston on healing from the twin trauma of divorce and breast cancerSend JKO a Text MessageWhat do you do when you’re hit with two heartrending experiences at the same time? Do you break down or breakthrough? Kit experienced the twin traumas of divorce and the big C diagnosis and made it through. She shares how literally grounding herself on the land healed her heart and her body.Nuggets of Wisdom in this Episode What's considered praiseworthy and acceptable is often not reflective of what we're here for and what our gifts areWhat's considered praiseworthy and acceptable is often not reflective of what...2022-08-0451 min
Messy Can't Stop HerTake Care of You: Your Self Care can Preserve Your GenerationsSend JKO a Text MessageSelf Care used to sound like just mere words to me. In fact, at a point, those words began to traumatize me. Hearing them made me feel judged and inadequate. I did not think I had the resources – time, money, strength – to afford it. I was afraid to try. Today, with the help of many, including guests on Messy Can’t Stop Her, I now know that it is more about the intention and the steps, no matter how small. I’ve learnt that even taking a moment to breathe deeply ca...2022-07-2721 min
Messy Can't Stop HerSelf Care First: Sonia shares her encounters with trouble, racism & practical tips for self careSend JKO a Text MessageSonia continues part three of her story by showing us that sometimes your best laid plans can still get you in trouble. She also delves a little into her personal experience of the added layer for the struggling Black child. She then shares practical self care tips that one can practice with little or no money and even when experiencing the impact of domestic violence. Sonia’s promotion of self care for mothers aligns with Dr. Laura Markham, Clinical Psychologist and Founder of Aha! Parenting’s words - your most valua...2022-07-2135 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFrom Full Time to Odd Jobs: Sonia Navigates the mental health and substance abuse system to get help for her sonSend JKO a Text MessageFrom a full time job to odd jobs, Sonia had to choose because helping her struggling son without the help of their father became her full time endeavour.Faced with the formidable duo of mental health and substance use challenges, Sonia shares how her sacrifice paid off.As Meryl Streep said, motherhood reduces everything to essentials. References in this episodeMother to the Rescue: Sonia tells us how she saved her son from the addiction triggered by emotional abuse Part one of S...2022-07-1434 min
Messy Can't Stop HerMother to the Rescue: Sonia tells us how she saved her son from the addiction triggered by emotional abuseSend JKO a Text MessageSeparation is not the end-all and be-all when it comes to domestic violence because in many cases, the impact of the abuse comes along on your journey to freedom. When children are involved, the impact can unfold very slowly with mega chaos erupting just when you think the storm is over. In this three-part story, Sonia shares her experience as a mother navigating the mental health and substance use system to help her teenage son recover from the impact of their father’s emotional abuse. Sonia’s journey captur...2022-07-0734 min
Messy Can't Stop HerHave Hope, Healing is Possible: JKO Answers 3 Questions About Attachment DisorderSend JKO a Text MessageCan a parent decide to harm their child and their future deliberately? Many of Us will say “No” but what if by what you are doing or allowing others do to you, you are harming your child?JKO answers three questions about attachment disorders that give us additional information about their impact on our children and hope that treatment can help them live a happy and healthy life. References in this episodeAbducted as a Teen: Jessica’s Journey from TraumaLosing Your Ch...2022-06-3018 min
Messy Can't Stop HerGaslighting to G.R.I.T: Dr Anne E. Burnley continues her story of finding purpose from the pain of domestic violenceSend JKO a Text MessageWhether a medical doctor, army veteran or a stay-at-home mom, domestic violence has no status limitation. Whether emotionally abused, heartbroken, traumatized or gaslighted, your life can still be a beautiful story. DrAhne, continues her story of finding purpose from the pain of a marriage tainted with alcoholism and narcissism.If you’re living in pain and asking “why me?”, be inspired by DrAhne’s story. Your pain will not be a waste. There is hope for your brighter future. References in this episodeChristi...2022-06-2438 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Power of Love: Dr. Anne E. Burnley on leaving an abusive marriage to embark on a journey to healingSend JKO a Text MessageWe hear the question “Why didn’t she leave?” so many times when discussing domestic violence. Dr. Anne Burnley (DrAhne), physician and US Army combat veteran left. She tells us how she was able to overcome the fears and doubts and take that step. In this first part of her story, DrAhne shares how love empowered her to leave a marriage that had literally taken her voice and become hell on earth. She embarked on the healing journey that gave her back her voice and turned her “why me?” into her purpose...2022-06-1639 min
Messy Can't Stop HerTrauma Tales: Lingering Effects of Domestic ViolenceSend JKO a Text MessageI am tired but I had to show up. I am tired from the lingering effects of domestic violence. I am tired from the pain. Am reaching out to ask for your prayers.I also share about an amazing opportunity to learn all about podcasting and the opportunity to make your dreams come true.References in this episodeThe John Collective’s Podcast Creator CourseJohn Chao’s Perspective Maintenance Podcast available on Apple, Spotify and other podcast platformsSandi Mcke...2022-06-0913 min
Messy Can't Stop HerA Bit About Unworthiness: My Mental Health JourneySend JKO a Text MessageTrigger Warning: SI, mention of su*c*deHave you ever felt unworthy about stepping up to share? Have you ever been made to feel unworthy by others? You are not alone. It may be the harsh reality of the life that we live but it can also be a battle that we win if we push through those thoughts. Indeed, it is a mental health battle. JKO takes a step back in this episode to share her struggles with unworthiness and her mental health journey with...2022-06-0228 min
Messy Can't Stop HerA Come Back Story: From Colossal Debt to Good CreditSend JKO a Text Message99% of domestic violence cases involve financial abuse and this invisiblized part of domestic violence can last years, decades or even a lifetime.Tracey (Pseudonym), a domestic violence survivor shares her experience of acute intended poverty and litigation battery and how she came out of the deep hole of debt which she had been manipulated into. Despite her academic and professional experience, Tracey still got blindsided by the subtlety of financial abuse. Tracey’s come back from a negative credit and colossal debt is a tale of hope for any...2022-05-2645 min
Messy Can't Stop HerLosing Your Child's Heart: A Steep Price of Domestic ViolenceSend JKO a Text MessageIf you knew something would harm your child, will you do it? What if it was your spousal relationship? Last week Jessica Faught talked about the steep price she had to pay to rebuild her relationship with her daughter; their relationship had been strained by attachment disorder. Today, Osa Samuel Olagunju, licensed counsellor and psychotherapist unveils how domestic violence induces attachment disorders and how if unaddressed, it creates constant parent-child conflict, behavioral disorders and a plethora of other challenges.If you or anyone you know is in an unhealthy relationship...2022-05-1925 min
Messy Can't Stop HerAbducted as a Teen: Jessica’s Journey from TraumaSend JKO a Text MessageAbducted as a teen from Canada to the United States by a father figure and kept in domestic violence captivity for 15 years, Jessica Faught escaped but the impact of that trauma on herself and her children followed her back to Windsor, Ontario. Jessica shares her journey back to healing and her sacrificial collaboration with the child welfare system to give her daughter a new lease on life. Her story highlights the harrowing effect of domestic violence on our children and why every mother should have zero tolerance for domestic violence. ...2022-05-1248 min