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The Unsidelined LifeFinding Strength Beyond Addiction with Julie Sanford
In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, host Eileen Noyes sits down with Julie Sanford, creator of the Secret Struggles Summit and founder of Married to Addiction. Julie shares her journey as the wife of a recovering alcoholic and how God transformed her family's darkest moments into a mission to help other Christian women facing similar challenges. She discusses the unexpected lessons learned through her husband's eight-year sobriety journey, including the importance of focusing on personal healing instead of trying to "fix" others. The conversation explores how Julie's experience with addiction led to creating a platform supporting Christian...2025-03-1257 min
Help & HopeMarried to a Alcoholic with Julie SanfordJulie Sanford is a Recovery Mentor for wives of alcoholics. She is a wife and mom of three who found herself in a situation she never wanted to be in as the wife of an alcoholic. After several years of living in chaos, feeling alone, and unseen, she is now using her journey to help other wives of alcoholics navigate their husband’s addiction. She came to realize that it was not only her husband that needed recovery, but she also needed support. In this conversation with Sharon Betters, Julie shares not only her story but hope and encouragement for th...2024-07-0333 min
Business Mojo and MargaritasHow to Not Lose Sight of Yourself While You're Building Your Business with Julie Sanford
"You have to recognize when you're at that point, even when you're really trying to get something done, give yourself a minute. Take a break away. You’re not being productive when you're in that space." - Julie Sanford
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I had the incredible pleasure of sitting down with Julie Sanford, the powerhouse behind Well Fed Families, to delve into a topic that many entrepreneurial moms struggle with—maintai...2023-12-2424 min
Ultimate Guide to Partnering®192 – Julie Sanford Reveals Microsoft’s Game-Changing Moves at Inspire!In a world where technology is constantly pushing boundaries, the recent Microsoft Inspire conference set the stage for groundbreaking announcements, including the emphasis on artificial intelligence and the renaming of Microsoft's partner program. I had the privilege of hosting an exclusive interview with Julie Sanford, a prominent figure at Microsoft and a true trailblazer, to kick off our first LIVE Digital Event, "Winning with Ecosystems." Julie Sanford reveals Microsoft's game-changing moves at Inspire on this episode of Ultimate Guide to Partnering.2023-08-0116 min
Untoxicated PodcastEp136 – Married to Addiction with Julie SanfordJulie Sanford hosts the Married to Addiction podcast, and she joins Sheri and Matt to discuss the similarities and differences in both their recovery stories, and also their outreach to the loved ones of alcoholics. On this episode, they discuss the signs that indicate that the loved ones need recovery, getting your needs met as the wife of an alcoholic, the mantras associated with codependency, self-care for someone who is deep in the chaos of addiction, and what you can do if your alcoholic doesn't support your need to get help. Matt admires Julie's "radio voice," and Sheri resonates with a...2022-04-2557 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 38: Some Help for the SufferingSometimes walking this path is SO confusing.
Why are we being put through this? Why isn't God coming to our rescue? Why are we having to suffer??
In this episode I'll give you some perspective that I think might change the way you look at things.
If you feel like your life is nothing but endless suffering right now, then please give this episode a listen.
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Married to AddictionEpisode 37: Celebrating One Year of the Married to Addiction Podcast!The Married to Addiction podcast is one year old today!
In this episode I will share with you some of the podcast's statistics, and we'll talk about the most listened to episodes, along with what the future holds.
I also want to take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you who have tuned in, whether you have listened once, or have heard every episode. YOU are the reason I'm here and I am so grateful for you!
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU
Love,
Julie
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Married to AddictionEpisode 36: Four Different Ways That This Can Play OutDo you feel like you have only two options as the wife of an alcoholic?
1. Stay and be miserable until your husband gets sober
2. Leave
If you're like I was then neither of those is what you want.
Truth is those aren't your only options.
There are actually four different ways that being married to an alcoholic can play out, and we will talk about those in today's episode.
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Married to AddictionEpisode 35: The Line Between Faith and Works for the Wife of an AlcoholicThe Bible says 'Faith without works is dead'.
But what does that really mean? And how do we know exactly what is our part in a situation, and what is God's part?
I was fuzzy on that for a good long while.
But discernment here is especially important for the wife of an alcoholic, so in this episode we are talking about how to find the line between faith and works, and how to do each part correctly.
There is actually a pretty simple way to tell if your 'faith and...2022-03-1015 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 34: 5 More Critical Mindset Shifts for the Wife of an AlcoholicWay back in Episode 4 we talked about some critical mindset shifts for the wife of an alcoholic, and that has since become my most listened to episode ever.
That being the case I knew it must've resonated with many of my listeners, so I wanted to do a follow up episode.
In this episode I will share with you five MORE critical mindset shifts for the wife of an alcoholic.
These are all things that I frequently see women being tripped up by, which ultimately makes things harder for them.
But it...2022-03-0425 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 33: You Don't Have to be Sad All the TimeDark. It was so dark.
I was constantly bound by feelings of oppression. And that's exactly how the enemy wanted it.
I now know that there is another way.
In this episode we'll talk about getting out from under living in dark places, EVEN IF we are going through really hard things.
If you are feeling overwhelmed by the weight of it all, then I really hope you give this episode a listen.
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Married to AddictionEpisode 32: Finding Hope with Amy LaRueIn this episode I chat with Amy LaRue from Finding Hope.
Amy is a fellow wife of an alcoholic with a story to share that sounds like many of our own: a story of confusion, fear, and isolation.
But her story didn't end there.
She is now the Coordinator for Finding Hope, an organization that supports families of addicted loved ones, and she has such a beautiful testimony to share of how God used it all for good!
Please tune in to hear my talk with Amy, and get filled up wi...2022-02-1740 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 31: Getting Your Needs MetDo you feel like you're not getting your needs met because your husband is addicted?
I already know the answer to that, because it is probably the same as mine was.
When you're the wife of an alcoholic it often feels like you're hanging by a thread.
And NO, you don't feel like ANY of your needs are being met. In fact you usually just drag through your days feeling hollow and empty.
If that sounds like you, then this pre-Valentine's Day episode is for you.
Because it doesn't h...2022-02-1114 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 30: The Line Between Mercy and EnablingIn the last episode we talked about understanding addiction as a disease, and how that can lead us to empathy.
In this episode we will talk about how to not let empathy lead you into enabling.
This can be a tricky line sometimes.
So how do we effectively stay on the mercy side of the line without drifting over into the enabling side?
Tune in to hear the one important thing you can do that will make it so much easier.
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Married to AddictionEpisode 29: Is Addiction a Disease?I think one of the hardest things for wives of alcoholics is that we just don't understand our husband's addiction, which makes it that much harder to handle it.
How much of it is a choice, and how much of it is something they truly are powerless over?
In this episode we will discuss addiction as a disease.
You'll get some insight into what is actually happening to our addicted husbands, as well as some guidance on what to do with that information.
You'll also get some direction from God's Word a...2022-01-2022 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 28: Should you drink if your husband is an alcoholic?This is a loaded subject, because reaction to this from wives of alcoholics usually runs the gamut from 'I HATE alcohol and would never touch it!' to 'Why should I have to change MY drinking habits because HE has a drinking problem?'
So today we're going to dive into this head-on.
I'll share a few things I think are important to consider when making this decision for yourself.
We'll also talk about some ways that alcohol affects our side of things that you might not have thought about.
And...2022-01-1312 min
In His GripMarried to an Alcoholic a Conversation with Julie SanfordJulie Sanford is a Recovery Mentor for wives of alcoholics. She is a wife and mom of three who found herself in a situation she never wanted to be in as the wife of an alcoholic. After several years of living in chaos, feeling alone, and unseen, she is now using her journey to help other wives of alcoholics navigate their husband’s addiction. She came to realize that it was not only her husband that needed recovery, but she also needed support. In this conversation with Sharon Betters, Julie shares not only her story but hope and encouragement for th...2021-12-1433 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 27: The Progression of an Alcoholic RelationshipWhen we marry our husbands we usually don't have any indication that we will be married to an alcoholic. And if we do, we usually don't think it's 'that bad'.
But one of the main problems with alcoholism is that it is a progressive disease, meaning that it gets worse over time.
Unfortunately that is also what happens to most alcoholic relationships as well.
In this episode we will talk about what that progression looks like, and what you absolutely MUST be doing as the relationship with the alcoholic progresses and/or deteriorates.2021-12-0911 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 26: What ‘One day at a time’ Means for the Wife of an AlcoholicYou've probably heard the phrase 'One day at a time' as it relates to an alcoholic's recovery.
But what does it mean for us?
In this episode we'll talk about how that concept is different for the wife of an alcoholic, but just as important.
If you frequently find yourself in the midst of fear, anxiety, and overwhelm then you need to give this one a listen.
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Married to AddictionEpisode 25: That's Not What I Want to HearIf you're anything like I was when my husband was deep in addiction you may find yourself listening to this podcast and shaking your head a lot.
To be honest, I'm not even sure I would have liked this podcast back then, because I thought that a lot of the 'advice' I heard for wives of alcoholics was ridiculous.
But I didn't know then what I know now.
So if you have found yourself thinking things like 'That won't work for me', 'That's not applicable in my situation', or 'That won't help', then...2021-11-0911 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 24: The Illusion of Control"I've GOT to make this stop!"
This is one of our first reactions when our husband's drinking starts to spiral out of control.
We would do anything and everything to get him to stop, and to get our lives back to normal.
So that's exactly what we do. We try to control anything and everything around his drinking.
Problem is that it is all an illusion. It is not going to fix it. In fact in most cases it only makes it ten times worse.
In this episode we...2021-11-0212 min
The Christian Mindset Coach with Alicia Michelle: Spiritual Growth and Mindset Tips for Christian Women139: How to Break Free From Hopelessness and Find Hope in Times of Despair with Julie SanfordHow can we find hope when times are difficult? We may have hope when times are easy, but what happens when that hope turns to despair and we’re plagued with negative thoughts of hopelessness? Even if we have faith in God, when there is something so terrible, so difficult, so unimaginable happening in front of us, hope can feel really far away. Today we are talking about how to break free from hopelessness and rise above hard times to find bravery and courage and to believe that God is going to come through.Today’s podc...2021-11-0139 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 23: Some Hope for YouMy husband and I just celebrated our 13th anniversary. And sometimes I can still hardly believe that we are here.
Things haven't just been bad for us in the past, they have been absolutely nightmarish.
In this episode I will share some of the most difficult parts of our journey through addiction, and also give you the dose of encouragement and hope that I so desperately needed back then.
Thanks for listening. Love you.
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The Faith Breathed Hope podcastInterview with Julie Sanford How God Turned Her Broken Marriage Into A Message of Hope For OthersIn this episode, I speak with Wife, Mom, Podcaster, Blogger, and Recovery Mentor for Wives of Alcoholics, Julie Sanford, on How God Turned Her Broken Marriage Into A Message of Hope For Others. Listen as she shares her touching story, what led her to help other women, and how you too can repair a broken marriage. Find Julie: Facebook, Instagram, and on her website2021-09-2940 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 22: How Codependency Hurts Your Husband and His RecoveryAre you codependent?
Do you even feel like you know what that means?
I wasn't sure I did for the longest time, and then once I started grasping the concept I thought 'That's not me. I'm just trying to help.'
I know now how wrong that statement was.
In this episode we will talk about what codependency is, how it hurts your husband and his recovery, and how it hurts YOU.
Please give this one a listen. This is one of the most important things for us to re...2021-09-2717 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 21: Stay or Go? Five Things to ConsiderThis might be THE biggest question that wives of alcoholics have: Should I stay, or should I go?
Everyone's situation is different, and I will never tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do.
But in this episode I wanted to give you some things that I think should at least be considered in a situation like this.
I hope it helps shed some light.
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Life Without LimitsJulie Sanford/Married To AddictionFor a partner whose significant other struggles with alcohol addiction, it’s normal to feel hopeless. Julie Sanford felt that, but she found a way to deal with her husband’s addiction. It was a long, arduous journey, but she and her husband have come through to the other side. Julie now helps other women with her podcast “Married To Addiction.”Life Without Limits is broadcast live at 9pm ET Mondays on W4WN Radio – The Women 4 Women Network (www.w4wn.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (www.talk4radio.com) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com...2021-09-1548 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 20: Renewal of Mind with Alicia MichelleI will never forget the first time I heard 'renewal of the mind' actually explained.
I had heard about the concept before, but I didn't really understand what it was, much less how to do it.
Once I was enlightened I remember thinking 'Wait! We can actually DO that??'
Then I started practicing it and it changed my life.
Not kidding. That's why it's the very first thing I have you work on when you enter my Secret Sisters Circle membership.
If renewal of mind is a new con...2021-09-1343 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 19: It’s Okay to Grieve Your RelationshipYou wish things could go back to the way they were.
This was not the relationship you wanted.
This was not the relationship you thought you were getting.
At it's most fundamental level it's loss, and it's okay to grieve that loss.
But in this episode we'll also talk about the second part of that. The 'what to do next' part.
Because it's okay to grieve your relationship....but you can't stay there.
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Married to AddictionEpisode 18: What do you do if your husband doesn’t want YOU to get help?Have you experienced this?
You say you want to go to an Alanon meeting, or join the Secret Sisters Circle, or get counseling, or whatever else to help you deal with your husband's alcoholism and he gets mad.
He tells you that it won't help you, or that they're just going to 'fill your head with lies', or that he feels like you're going behind his back, etc etc.
It basically just causes another fight....and the last thing you want is another fight.
So you just drop the subject and...2021-08-3115 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 17: Christians Aren’t ‘Supposed to’ Have This ProblemSometimes I think it's even harder to be the wife of an alcoholic when you're a Christian.
Why? Because we're not 'supposed to' have problems like this, right?
At least that's the perception, both outside and even inside the church.
This just adds to our already overwhelming shame, guilt, confusion, and isolation.
In this episode we will talk about the stigma around Christian families dealing with addiction.
We'll also talk about what you should do if your life is being affected by this.
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Married to AddictionEpisode 16: Heart Wounds Lead to Blind SpotsWe don't even know it's happening. We're just trying to survive the day-to-day.
We move through the weeks....months....years....and don't realize how much we're changing because of what we've been through.
Wives of alcoholics experience trauma. That trauma creates a near-constant state of apprehension, and keeps us in high alert mode.
It is really difficult to live like that and creates 'blind spots' in the background.
We aren't seeing things as the really are. We don't recognize that the patterns we have fallen into are destructive to us.
I...2021-08-0918 min
Post Traumatic FaithPTF - Episode #38 Married to Addiction with Julie SanfordJulie Sanford is a wife and mom of three who found herself in a situation she never wanted to be in as the wife of an alcoholic. Julie now helps other wives of alcoholics navigate their husband's addiction without losing themselves in the process and shows them how to restore their often troubled relationship with God.
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The Productivity Pro PodcastEpisode 38 - Married To Addiction with Julie SanfordSend us a textJoin my conversation with the host of Married to Addiction. ****Correction: she provides a faith based support as a wife of an alcoholic specifically.(not counseling)Julie Sanford is a wife and mom of three who found herself in a situation she never wanted to be in as the wife of an alcoholic.After navigating that incredibly difficult road for several years, and walking with her husband all the way through the darkness of addiction and into sobriety, God called her to use every bit of it for good. 2021-07-1341 min
The Productivity Pro PodcastEpisode 38 - Married To Addiction with Julie SanfordJoin my conversation with the host of Married to Addiction. ****Correction: she provides a faith based support as a wife of an alcoholic specifically.(not counseling) Julie Sanford is a wife and mom of three who found herself in a situation she never wanted to be in as the wife of an alcoholic. After navigating that incredibly difficult road for several years, and walking with her husband all the way through the darkness of addiction and into sobriety, God called her to use every bit of it for good. Julie now helps other wives...2021-07-1340 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 15: The Three Layers of Addiction with Dawn WardI am super excited to share this conversation with you all, because it is SO IMPORTANT.
In this episode I am talking to Dawn Ward of The Faith to Flourish and Christian Moms of Addicted Children.
Dawn and I are of like mind when it comes to treating addiction: One size does not fit all.
That's because there are actually three different layers to addiction, but for some reason this is rarely talked about.
We both believe that you not only have to address every layer when formulating a recovery plan...2021-07-131h 10
S.C.A.R with Dustin Rivenbark Podcast074. "Married to addiction" with Julie SanfordJulie Sanford is a Recovery Mentor for wives of alcoholics. She is a wife and mom of three who found herself in a situation she never wanted to be in as the wife of an alcoholic. After several years of living in chaos, feeling alone, and unseen, she is now using her journey to help other wives of alcoholics navigate their husband’s addiction. She came to realize that it was not only her husband that needed recovery, but she also needed support. Julie offers programs and coaching that equips women with the tools and strength needed to navigate their husban...2021-07-1042 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 14: 5 Things I Wish I Had Done Differently When My Husband Was in Active AddictionLooking back on my journey with my husband through his years of active addiction I can see SO many things that I did do that I shouldn't have, and SO many things that I didn't do that I should have.
Today I will share with you the five things that I most wish I would have done differently.
Sometimes we just can't see things objectively when we are in the middle of them.
I had a friend who had walked a similar path with her husband. She tried to tell me the things t...2021-07-0629 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 13: Is There Really ‘Nothing You Can Do’?When my husband was struggling with alcohol addiction it used to frustrate me SO MUCH to hear 'There's really nothing you can do.'.
I used to wonder how in the world I was going to survive such a difficult situation for an undetermined amount of time.
So today I want to give you hope.
I want to show you that there actually are some things you can do to help your husband, yourself, and anyone else in your household who is being affected.
This situation doesn't have to be just...2021-06-2217 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 12: The Stages of Recovery (Plus a Surprise)Well, this was the first time I've ever cried on the podcast....but it probably won't be the last.
In this episode we will talk about the stages of recovery.
I'll let this episode speak for itself, but suffice it to say that if you only listen to ONE of my podcast episodes this should be the one.
(Just in case you didn't have a chance to jot down my email address during the episode: julie@marriedtoaddiction.com)
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Married to AddictionEpisode 11: The Difference Between Detaching and Emotional AbandonmentI used to think that detachment sounded cold and uncaring.
How could I possibly detach from my husband right now?? And why would I want to at a time when he needs me the most?
I didn't realize that detachment wasn't about that at all.
In fact, it was one of the best things I could do....for both of us.
In this episode we'll talk about what detachment really means, how to do it in a healthy way, and why it's so important.
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Married to AddictionEpisode 10: ‘Self-Care’ for the Wife of an AlcoholicAll of us have heard of 'self-care', but self care looks very different for the wife of an alcoholic.
Manicures, bubble baths, and all the rest do little to nothing for us, because we are just trying to SURVIVE.
In this episode we will talk about what self care should look like if we have an alcoholic husband.
I'll outline the three things that I consider to be THE most important things to concentrate on when it comes to caring for yourself right now.
I know you don't have a lot...2021-05-2625 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 9: How to Grow Through This ExperienceSounds like an oxymoron, doesn't it? How can you grow when you feel like you're constantly being pulled under by a tidal wave??
I was there for SO long. Just angry and resentful and trying to get through the days.
Growing in my faith or in any other kind of way was the furthest thing from my mind.
But now that I'm on the other side of it I can see so clearly how much it ended up changing me for the better. It definitely took a while, but I finally got there.2021-05-1913 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 8: The Myth of Choice'My husband keeps choosing alcohol over me.'
That is what I thought for a long time and it drastically affected my marriage, my approach to my husband's addiction, and my psyche.
This is a common thought for wives of alcoholics, but today I want to share with you why I now 100% believe that choice as it relates to alcoholism is a myth.
In this episode I'll talk about how I arrived at this decision through research, being involved with my husband's treatment program, and the catastrophic events in our personal lives that...2021-05-1313 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 7: Three Signs That You Need Recovery TooI didn't want to hear it!!!
The notion that *I* needed 'help' or recovery was downright ridiculous to me when my husband was deep in addiction.
But then things got harder and harder for me. I started having trouble at work, physical issues, and full-blown mental breakdowns.
I finally realized that I was sick too.
In this episode we will talk about three signs that you need recovery too, and also why it's SO critical that you get it.
This is an important episode. Please listen.
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Married to AddictionEpisode 6: Compassion: How to Love the UnlovableWe all know that we should try to 'love as Jesus loved', but I don't think there is any circumstance that makes that more difficult than being married to an alcoholic.
Between the defensiveness and empty promises and personality changes, our addicted husband came sometimes make feeling love or compassion a true challenge.
But how do we do that in spite of all that? And why should we even bother when he is not reciprocating?
In this episode we will talk about compassion as it relates to our alcoholic. The why AND the...2021-04-2710 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 5: Why doesn’t anyone else talk about *this*??We hear we should do things like 'accept what we cannot change', 'detach with love' and 'create healthy boundaries'. But when you're stuck in the middle of the storm of addiction with someone it can feel almost impossible to do those things sometimes.
That's because there is a super critical step that needs to come BEFORE we try to do those things, but no one ever talks about it.
In this episode I will share that pre-step with you, and explain how it can make all the difference in the world when you're the wife...2021-04-2112 min
Sanford SaysSanford Saves PlacesJulie Scofield, City of Sanford Historic Preservation Planner describes what "Sanford Saves Places" Call for Images is and how you can participate. The City of Sanford is celebrating our historic districts, the Sanford Residential and Downtown Commercial District, and our newest Georgetown Historic District. The City of Sanford enthusiastically invites you to celebrate National Historic Preservation Month this May by submitting photos of any building, structure, object or architectural feature in the City of Sanford that has interest and meaning to you. Snap a photo indoors or outside with details that are at least 50 years old. That means from 1971 and...2021-04-1310 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 4: 5 Critical Mindset Shifts for the Wife of an AlcoholicOne of the statements that I think is SO true for most wives of alcoholics is 'You don't know what you don't know.'.
I did everything wrong for the first couple of years that my husband was struggling with addiction.
But I absolutely did not know that at the time!
I thought I was 'helping', and I tried a million different things and a million different tactics.
After learning the hard way that my 'helping' was most certainly not helping I turned a corner and it changed everything.
In...2021-03-3014 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 3: How Do I Know if My Husband Has a Drinking Problem?I asked myself a lot of questions at the beginning of my journey as the wife of an alcoholic.
Did my husband really have a problem with alcohol or was I just being over-sensitive?
Were the things that I was noticing fairly common, or not so much?
Had I just become more aware of how much he was drinking, or had it actually increased?
Just how much was 'a lot' of alcohol per day? Did other people's husbands drink as much as mine?
In this episode we will talk...2021-03-3008 min
Married to AddictionEpisode 2: How Is Married to Addiction Different?If you're like me maybe you've looked into some of the resources and organizations that offer help for family members of alcoholics, but they've missed the mark for you in one way or another.
That's how Married to Addiction was born.
I created it to 'fill in the gaps' that I found elsewhere.
In this episode I'll let you know how Married to Addiction is different, and how it was designed especially for YOU and what YOU need.
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Thank you so much for listening!
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Married to AddictionEpisode 1: An Intro and What to ExpectI'm so thrilled to bring the 'Married to Addiction' podcast to you.
It is for the wife of an alcoholic by the wife of an alcoholic, and my prayer is that it will serve as a great source of encouragement, support, and help for you.
In this initial episode I will be giving you a brief intro into who I am, as well as a bit about my story and what you can expect from this podcast going forward.
Thanks so much for being here. So much love to you.
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The Copernican ShiftHow to View Experience Through an Industry Lens, with Julie SanfordWhat does it mean to view your experience selling and experience marketing efforts through an industry lens? How can you redefine the narrative for specific industry verticals? Julie Sanford, GM of the Global Industry Product Group at Microsoft, joins me for a look at Microsoft’s evolution from a product-first company, to an outcome- and value-based company that is customer focused, customer obsessed, and customer first.2021-03-0220 min
Grace Over 40Episode 44: Counting Up to Christmas with Jennifer ElwoodIt's Christmas time!! And I'm so happy to introduce you to my guest today who has written a beautiful book that will make a great addition to your holiday season.
Jennifer Elwood is the author of 'Counting Up to Christmas: 24 Gifts from the Gospel of Luke'.
From the book description....
"As we approach Christmas, we have a choice--permit stress to provoke us or allow God to permeate true peace. Let's celebrate the birth of Jesus this year by unwrapping gifts from God's Word, one shiny, beautifully wrapped Bible verse at a time. Jesus, t...2020-12-0729 min
Grace Over 40Episode 43: The 'Grace' In Grace Over 40In the last episode we talked about the Grace Over 40 mission.
Today we are talking about why it's called 'Grace Over 40' in the first place.
Have you ever felt like you wanted a close relationship with God, but you just didn't have it together enough?
Hi, have we met??
If I was waiting to have it together enough I would have given up on God a LONG time ago.
In this episode we're talking about God's grace. What it means, how we get it, and what it can do...2020-10-2719 minGrace Over 40Episode 42: What's the Big Idea?What do YOU think I do?
Today we're talking about the Grace Over 40 mission....and it might not be quite what you think it is!
The mission came to be after following God's lead on how to best serve women over 40, and more importantly WHY they needed help and guidance in the first place.
Midlife is a super important time of transition in our lives, and I feel that many of the things we go through during this time are designed to move us forward in a positive direction.
But you ha...2020-10-1424 minGrace Over 40Episode 41: Stopped Before You Start: The Danger of OverwhelmRaise your hand if you struggle with overwhelm.
I'm guessing that pretty much every one of you has your hand raised because this is such a struggle for so many of us.
Overwhelm stops SO many things before they even get started. I call it 'the crusher of dreams' because it keeps so many people from moving forward in so many ways.
Today we are going to be talking about the importance of getting out from under overwhelm, and some steps you can take to start doing just that.
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Grace Over 40Episode 40: Talking Keeping the Faith Through Hard Times with Dorenthea NemethNeed some encouragement and inspiration? Well I've got a BIG ol' dose of it for you today!
In this episode I'm speaking with Dorenthea Nemeth whose story is one of not only keeping the faith through hard times, but keeping the faith through seemingly never-ending hard times.
Dorenthea is an amazing inspiration and a shining example of what God can do in your life if you draw near to Him no matter how difficult your situation.
I can't wait for you to hear this incredible lady's story!
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Show notes...2020-10-0438 minGrace Over 40Episode 39: Is It a Midlife Crisis?We hear a lot about midlife crises. We usually see it portrayed as buying a sports car, or drastically changing the way we look.
But in reality it often looks a lot darker than that, and we usually don't even realize it's happening until we are fully in it, making unhealthy choices and/or dealing with the fallout.
The absolute WORST thing you can do if you are headed for (or already in) a midlife crisis is doing nothing to stop it. That never ends well.
So today I want to talk about...2020-09-3023 minGrace Over 40Episode 38: Bring Your Mess!!Do you feel like a mess? Is it keeping you from a close relationship with God?
Then have I got some GREAT news for you! In today's episode we will be talking about how being 'messy' is actually a good thing! It's true!
This was such a huge revelation in my own life, and has been such a big relief, especially since I've always been a perfectionist.
So if you are too, or if you just feel like you're crumbling under the weight of trying to keep your life in order, then this e...2020-09-1618 min
Grace Over 40Episode 37: Talking Unexpected Callings with Alani BankheadA special agent, a high-level bodyguard, and an electronic-detection K9 handler are just some of the things that Alani Bankhead has been in her life. Oh, and she's a fellow rockerchick....so that's extra cool in my book.
Her story truly reads like a movie screenplay.
She never really set out to be any of those things, but God had other plans for her.
Alani's story proves that God will sometimes lead us down a path we never expected to be on, and may not even feel qualified for, but if we just t...2020-08-2238 minGrace Over 40Episode 36: How to Create Balance In Your LifeAh, the elusive balanced life. It seems so hard to come by in this crazy, hustle-bustle world we live in.
We feel like we don't have time for ANYthing because we are too busy doing EVERYthing.
In this episode we will talk about the most important part of a truly balanced life. And I'll be honest....it's something I struggle with....
Listen in now to find out how to create the balance you crave in your life. It's SO important.
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I mentioned the Midlifery waitlist in this episode. If y...2020-08-0515 minGrace Over 40Episode 35: Five Secrets to Living a Life You LoveWe were created to enjoy life. To have a big, bold, joyful, peaceful existence on this earth.
So why are so many of us just trudging through?
I most definitely used to trudge through....at best. Truly happy days were only found on weekends or on vacation. The rest of it I just tolerated, and sometimes I didn't even do that very well.
In today's episode I will share with you five secrets that I've learned will take you from just getting by to living a life you truly LOVE. The kind God h...2020-07-2931 min
Grace Over 40Episode 34: How to Walk with God Seven Days a Week with Tyler SmithMy guest today is Tyler Smith, who is a pastor, an author, and an NBA sportswriter.
Tyler has written an awesome book called 'Searching for Seven', which is a great reminder about how important it is to walk with God in our daily lives seven days a week.
It is sometimes easy to forget this once we get caught up in all of the Monday-Friday demands, but keeping God 'in the mix' with you can change everything!
My life has definitely changed since I started implementing daily time with God, and I know y...2020-07-2620 minGrace Over 40Episode 33: I Don't Want To'I don't want to'. These are four words that can wreck our lives if left unchecked.
I think they are most destructive when they aren't even spoken aloud, but are instead played in our heads.
(I don't want to talk about that right now. I don't want to work out today. I don't want to pay off debt instead of going on vacation, I don't want to have to look for another job....etc etc)
'I don't want to' basically means 'I'm not going to make myself'.
Self-discipline is something I...2020-07-2228 min
Grace Over 40Episode 32: Talking Fashion Over 40 with Melanie MillerIf I had three wishes from a genie, one of them would be this girl's wardrobe! No joke!
Melanie Miller is totally my fashion icon.
I think she does a perfect job of throwing the dumb 'you're too old to wear that' stereotype out the window, but she never EVER looks like she is just trying to pretend she is younger.
She just has an amazing sense of style and a way of putting outfits together that I completely adore.
I am so excited to introduce Melanie to you in this ep...2020-07-1829 minGrace Over 40Episode 31: The Disruptors. How to Not Let Life’s Unexpected Occurrences Take You DownNever has it been more apparent that our life can be completely disrupted when we least expect it than it has in 2020.
Everything about our lives has been disrupted for several months now. And there's been nothing we can do about it.
But even when we're not in the midst of a pandemic we regularly deal with disruptors. Unexpected car repairs, illness, lost jobs. They can happen at any time, and they're never convenient.
So if we can't stop them, then how do we handle them without being totally bowled over and left...2020-07-1424 minGrace Over 40Episode 30: 5 Things We Need to Do for Our Bodies in Our 40sThis episode is very near and dear to my heart, since I have studied nutrition and wellness for 25 years. Before Grace Over 40 I even had a nutrition and wellness business. It will always be something that is super important to me.
But never has it been more important than in midlife.
Midlife is 'go time' for physical health. Meaning if you haven't taken it very seriously up until now, it's time to do so.
Today we'll talk about five things that are super important to implement in our 40s to be sure we do...2020-07-0919 minGrace Over 40Episode 29: The 'Hot Mess' Part of MidlifeWhat do you get when you cross crazy hormones, changing bodies, life pivots, and declining self-esteem??
You get the 'Hot Mess' part of midlife!
I feel like we should've gotten a brochure about this somewhere around our mid-30s. Something along the lines of....
"Do you want change in your life? Well just wait til your 40s! Everything will change AT ONCE!" (It's funny/not funny.)
Today we're going to talk about the three main ways we are affected by midlife change, and also about a related change that is coming t...2020-07-0122 min
Grace Over 40Episode 28: Talking Makeup Tips for Women Over 40 with Rami ParkerOh, aging skin. Remember when we could just slap on some mascara and go? *sigh*
As we age, things in the makeup department tend to get a bit more difficult unfortunately.
But there's a 'right' way to do things to ensure that your cosmetics paint your face in the most flattering light. Pun intended.
Today I'm speaking with Rami Parker who is a makeup artist that has perfected this art. I could not believe it when I realized how old she is! She easily looks ten years younger if not more, and that...2020-06-2034 minGrace Over 40Episode 27: The 10 Most Important Things I Learned in My 40sI turned 50 last week and was actually super glad to leave my 40s in the dust, because they were a HOT MESS!
I could legit write a screenplay about the last ten years of my life and it would have drama for daaaaaaaaays.
Well you know what usually comes with drama? A side of life lessons!
In this episode I share with you the 10 most standout things that I learned in my 40s, which shaped me into who I am today: A woman who truly loves her life and who she is becoming w...2020-06-1751 minGrace Over 40Episode 26: Stuck in the Middle.....AgeBeing stuck SUCKS.
'But I'm not stuck' you say.
Are you sure?
I find that most all the frustrations, disappointments, and feelings of restlessness that women experience midlife can almost always come back to being 'stuck' somewhere, whether they realize it or not.
In this episode we'll talk about some common places we can get stuck midlife, as well as five ways to tell if you ARE stuck.
Even if you don't feel like you have a 'stuck' problem I still highly recommend you give this one a listen.
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Grace Over 40Episode 25: Talking Home Design and Decorating Tips with Cara Massie from Cara Massie DesignOh my gosh, I LOVE this topic and this episode!!
I am a DIY kinda girl with creative challenges (LOL), so I was thrilled to be able to talk to Cara Massie of Cara Massie Design about how we can easily decorate and DIY our way to homes that bring us a feeling of peace and comfort without spending a ton of money!
I don’t know about you, but now that I’m in my 40s I’ve collected a lot of crap that I’m just plain sick of! So we’ll talk about that...2020-05-2637 minGrace Over 40Episode 24: Soul Care vs. Self Care'Self-care'. You see it everywhere. It's touted as the be-all and end-all of treating yourself right.
It will fill your cup, they say.
While this is true to some degree, it is not what we actually need to feel truly refilled, refueled, and refreshed.
In this episode we will talk about a MUCH better option than 'self-care', and I'll share with you some great resources to help you practice it.
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Grace Over 40Episode 23: Talking Suicide Awareness and Prevention with Family Ties Life CoachingMay is Mental Health Awareness month, so it's a great time to share this interview I did with Brenda Saxe and Monica Sigmund of Family Ties Coaching.
Brenda and Monica are Christian mental health and wellness life coaches who facilitate support groups for suicide loss and attempt survivors. They also support family members who have been touched by suicide or suicide attempts.
If you listened to episode 21 you know that this is something that has touched my family personally, so I am determined to do what I can to bring this subject into the light, a...2020-05-1636 minGrace Over 40Episode 22: Bitter or Better?We've all experienced hardship, loss, heartache, and difficulties. At this point in our lives many of us have gone through quite a bit, and may be feeling kind of beat up.
But we have an important decision to make at this stage. Are we going to let what we've been through make us bitter? Or are we going to use it to make us better?
In today's episode we'll talk about how to do that, as well as the importance of growing 'deep roots' as we move into the second half of our lives.
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In this episode my husband and I share our struggles as we walked together through his addiction, bipolar diagnosis, and suicide attempts.
As with anything difficult that we go through, I feel that it is vitally important that we share with others the things that we learned the hard way, so that they don't have to.
Some things I w...2020-04-3047 min
Grace Over 40Episode 20: Talking 'Fear Is Not the Boss of You' with Jennifer AllwoodToday I am speaking with author, speaker, influencer, and coach Jennifer Allwood about her #1 bestselling book 'Fear Is Not the Boss of You: How to Get Out of Your Head and Live the Life You Were Made For'.
If you are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or scared in any way, shape, or form then this is the book for you. (And really who isn't in some regard??)
Jennifer will not only help you recognize if fear is stealing from you, but will also saddle up like a loving bff and show you how to fix it.2020-04-2033 min
Jewelry ArtistJulie Sanford: Life’s a BenchSuccessful maker, teacher, gallery owner, and constant student Julie Sanford says her art and business have grown up together in an organic evolution. Her passion for making jewelry has been a constant in her life, even as her career path first took her into retail jewelry and teaching art. She also shares tips on ways to sell your own jewelry, her favorite new jewelry making tool, and the special spins she puts on shopping the Tucson gem shows.See our show notes here: https://www.interweave.com/article/jewelry/jewelry-artist-podcast-lifes-bench-julie-sanford2020-04-1534 minGrace Over 40Episode 19: How to Use This Difficult Time to Your AdvantageWe are all feeling kind of helpless right now. There is so much out of our control and we feel like everything is happening to us instead of happening for us.
But there is a huge opportunity here to harness our current situation and make massive improvements in our lives because of it.
This is a fantastic time to get still, get clarity, and get set up for returning to a life we will LOVE! One free from overwhelm, and full of joy and peace.
This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Let...2020-04-0919 min
Grace Over 40Episode 18: Talking How to Have a Happier Marriage with Jill Lillard of The Happiest LivesI'm talking today with Jill Lillard of The Happiest Lives and we're discussing how to have a happier marriage.
Did you know that women are statistically most likely to divorce in their 40s? So needless to say this a pretty crucial time in our lives to talk about this.
In this episode Jill gives us some great tips on how to be happier in our relationship, and also dispels some commonly held myths around that.
I love Jill's take on the part we play in keeping our marriage happy, and encourage you to li...2020-03-2822 minGrace Over 40Episode 17: Overcoming Fear. 12 Ways to Get Your Peace On!I feel like the whole country is sick right now. They are either sick with illness or sick with worry and fear.
Fear is not from God, so when we feel it we need to do what we can to not let it overtake us.
Today I am giving you 12 ways to wrestle fear to the ground and get your peace on!
These tips are not only helpful for the world we are currently living in, but also for managing fear and worry in our daily lives.
Please join me as we...2020-03-2626 min
Grace Over 40Episode 16: Talking Reconnecting with Your Dreams and Purpose with Rebekah NoltHave you hit your 40s and begin to wonder 'Why am I here?'
This is the perfect time in our lives to begin to ponder that, and it's also a great opportunity to reconnect with some of the things we were going to do 'someday'.
In this episode I am speaking with Rebekah Nolt about how to begin to sort those things out, and why right NOW is the perfect time to do so.
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There is a lot of information out there on how to keep yourself safe physically, but no one is really talking about how we can protect ourselves mentally, emotionally, or spiritually through all of this.
So that's my goal with this episode where we'll talk about the three things that I think God wants us to know (and do) right now, and how those things can set our minds and our hearts at ease.
In addition, I'll be...2020-03-1822 min
Grace Over 40Episode 14: Talking Perimenopause with Becky Evans of Cedar Creek Holistic ServicesToday I'm speaking with Becky Evans of Cedar Creek Holistic Services, and we are talking perimenopause.
This is the period of time leading up to menopause, and can be somewhat trying as we experience massive hormonal changes, and all of the 'fun' that comes along with that.
Becky is sharing some tips for managing these symptoms using some of the tools that God gave us to make this transition as easy as possible.
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Today I am getting really vulnerable and sharing a huge personal battle of mine, and how I was finally able to get victory over it.
The way that most people approach self-help is to just 'make up their mind' that they are going to change something. And that's exactly why most aren't successful, because that is just the FIRST STEP in the process.
Give a listen to t...2020-03-0722 min
Grace Over 40Episode 12: Talking Reading the Bible with Julie Orr of Contemplate the Bible MagazineI'm talking today with Julie Orr who publishes a magazine called 'Contemplate the Bible'.
It is a print magazine that focuses on one to two books of the Bible at a time, and includes stunning photos as well.
Julie started publishing the magazine because she was having a hard time being consistent with reading the Word due to the busy-ness of life.
She has now created a way for readers to pick up this magazine any time of the day or night, even if they only have a few minutes, and immerse themselves in...2020-03-0123 minGrace Over 40Episode 11: The Grey Area: Uncertainty in Midlife (Part 3 of 3)In part three of our three part series 'The Grey Area: Uncertainty in Midlife' we are talking about where you're headed, and how to design a future you'll love.
Time moves so quickly. Before we know it another 5, 10, 20 years will have gone by.
In this episode we discuss the importance of creating a plan to ensure that your future happens for you, instead of just happening to you.
There are things you can take action on beginning right now that will set you up for stepping into your second half of life feeling f...2020-02-2618 min
Grace Over 40Episode 10: Talking Health and Wellness as a Lifestyle with Lori DoddyWhen we enter our 40s it can seem like taking care of ourselves becomes more difficult.
But this is exactly when we really need to be focusing on just that, since aging bodies need to be cared for in order to prevent major health issues in the second half of life.
Lori Doddy supports women over 40 in this area and is a wealth of knowledge and encouragement around not only caring for our physical bodies, but also how that affects other areas in our life.
In my conversation with her we discuss health, se...2020-02-2231 minGrace Over 40Episode 9: 'The Grey Area' Uncertainty in Midlife (Part 2 of 3)In Part Two of our three part 'Uncertainty in Midlife' series we're discussing the 'middle' or where we are now.
A lot of uncertainty in midlife comes from losing touch with who we are, so it's a great time to reflect on that and make some changes if necessary. (Spoiler alert: It's ALWAYS necessary)
I have gone through a major period of refinement in my 40s where God has brought a lot of things that were holding me back into the light, helped me heal from them, and taught me how to grow past them.2020-02-2011 min
Grace Over 40Episode 8: Talking Skincare Over 40 with Tracey Lucke of MelMarie SkincareMy guest today is Tracey Lucke of MelMarie Skincare, and we're talking about skincare over 40.
Our skin changes so much as we age, and Tracey has some great tips as well as some awesome naturally-based products to share with us!
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As we begin to think about what we want the remainder of our life to look like, and start to plan out how we'll get there, it's important to look at three different things: 1) Where we've been, 2) Where we are, and 3) Where we're headed.
Today we kick off the series talking about the importance of revisiting who you've been up til now, and how all of your prior experiences are an important factor in where you're headed.
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Grace Over 40Episode 6: Talking Grief with Kelli Nielsen, The Grief GuruKelli Nielsen has been through an unfathomable amount of grief. She has lived through things most of us hope to never have to.
But that is not her story. Kelli's story is a story of HOPE and HAPPINESS in spite of everything she has gone through.
Grief can take many forms (death, divorce, massive disappointment) and it typically broadsides us when we least expect it. It also takes a lot of us down....sometimes for a very long time.
Kelli wants to show us how to not only overcome grief, but to come th...2020-02-0839 minGrace Over 40Episode 5: Changes and Choices: The 'U-Curve' of LifeWhat exactly happens to us in our 40s?
Why is this the time when people are most likely to have a 'midlife crisis', or get divorced, or go completely off the rails?
Well it's actually due to a couple of things, both of which are very REAL, and both of which can take you down if you don't know how to handle them.
In today's episode we'll talk about some healthier ways you can navigate this often tumultuous time of life..
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On today's episode we'll talk about how to walk the line between freaking out about all the BONKERS things our bodies do midlife, and staying grounded in where our real worth lies.
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/graceover40/message2020-01-2212 minGrace Over 40Episode 3: Shoutout to the Misfit ChristianWith a propensity towards rock music, and a love for long-haired, tattooed boys, I've never felt like a 'normal' Christian.
In this episode we'll talk about how 'misfit' Christians (and troubled people in general) are EXACTLY the type of people that Jesus gravitated towards, and still does today. So bring your mess! That's exactly where he wants to meet you!
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/graceover40/message2020-01-1815 minGrace Over 40Episode 2: The. Time. Is. NOW.An unexpected event in my life this week became a perfect example of why you absolutely SHOULD NOT WAIT to make the changes you want to make in your life. I hope this inspires you to move forward. Just be sure to listen for God's direction in the process.
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/graceover40/message2020-01-1511 minGrace Over 40Episode 1: New Podcast. Who Dis??Welcome to the Grace Over 40 Podcast!
This first episode is just a quick intro to who I am and what to expect 'round here.
Let's do this!
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/graceover40/message2020-01-1207 minGrace Over 40Welcome to Grace Over 40Where our icky midlife struggles meet their match through humor, grace, and faith!
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