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Forged by Fire: The Intentional Man PodcastEpisode 12: What Respect Looks Like to a Woman (And Why Most Men Get It Wrong)Summary:In this conversation, Justin and Cresta Burt explore the concept of respect in relationships, particularly focusing on how it is defined, demonstrated, and communicated between partners. They discuss the importance of actions over words, the role of consistency and presence, and the necessity of setting boundaries and having open conversations about expectations. The dialogue emphasizes that respect is earned through genuine actions and that effective communication is key to maintaining a healthy relationship.Takeaways:Respect is defined by actions, not just words.Consistency in behavior fosters respect...2025-07-0814 min
Intentional MarriageNurturing Belonging: The Foundation of a Fulfilling Marriage"In this episode of the Intentional Marriage Podcast, Cresta and Justin discuss the power of belonging in a marriage and how it serves as the foundation for a fulfilling relationship. They share personal experiences and insights, highlighting the importance of building mutual trust and transparency. Emphasising the significance of feeling a sense of belonging in a marriage and how it can positively impact the overall health and success of the relationship. They also encourage couples to invest in their marriage and seek resources, such as coaching, to improve their connection and create a thriving partnership.KEY TAKEAWAYS2023-09-1329 minIntentional MarriageNavigating Life's Decisions: A Father-Son Conversation on Future PlansJustin is joined by his youngest son, Derek, to discuss the topic of doing the right things for the right reasons. Derek reflects on his upbringing and how he has always been disciplined and strived to do the right thing. They delve into the influence of their family values, the importance of discipline, and the impact of sports on Derek's character development. They also touch on Derek's future plans, including his interest in cybersecurity and his desire to join the military. Overall, this episode offers a heartfelt conversation between a father and son, exploring the values and aspirations that...2023-09-0623 minIntentional MarriageThe Importance of Trust and Accountability in Leadership with Nikki GianniJustin and Cresta are joined by special guest Nikki Gianni, an experienced coach and former military leader. They discuss the challenges and importance of effective leadership in various contexts, from corporate environments to entrepreneurial ventures. Nikki emphasises the need for leaders to genuinely want the role and to establish trust with their team members. They also explore the significance of accountability and setting clear expectations for employees. Through personal anecdotes and insights, the episode highlights the impact of strong leadership on organisational culture and success.KEY TAKEAWAYSThe lack of proper training and preparation for...2023-08-3031 minIntentional MarriageBuilding Strong Relationships: Insights from a Father and SonIn this episode of the Intentional Marriage Podcast, host Justin is joined by his eldest son, Ethan. Justin reflects on his past struggles with balancing work and family life, particularly during his time working long hours for a company. He shares how every decision he made during that time seemed to be the wrong one, as he desperately tried to save his family. However, this experience led him to prioritize his children and become more present in their lives. Justin and Ethan discuss the importance of fatherhood and the impact it has on a child's upbringing. They also touch...2023-08-2319 minIntentional MarriageBuilding Stronger Marriages: The Five Pillars of a Successful RelationshipIn this episode of the Intentional Marriage podcast, hosts Justin and Cresta discuss the five pillars of a successful marriage. They delve into the importance of fatherhood, partnership, leadership, being a provider, and being a lover. Justin emphasizes the significance of being a good dad and the positive impact it has on a marriage. They also stress the importance of being a supportive and equal partner, taking the lead in decision-making, and actively providing for the family. The episode concludes with a discussion on the importance of maintaining a strong physical and emotional connection as lovers. Listeners are encouraged...2023-08-1635 minIntentional MarriageShowing Up For Your SpouseOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – give a brief health update of Cresta before talking about the main topic of this episode which is very much linked to the health update and what Cresta and Justin are going through right now.KEY TAKEAWAYSYou have to be intentional. How easy would it be to neglect things by just coming home from work or from the hospital and going straight to bed because we’re tired? We neglect a lot of things – like the dishes or the vacuuming – but not each o...2023-08-0928 minIntentional MarriageBeing There For Your SpouseOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, Justin Burt is going solo as his wife, Cresta, isn’t feeling great after her recent breast cancer diagnosis to talk about the situation he finds himself in: Looking after your spouse when they aren’t feeling well as well as advocating for medical care.KEY TAKEAWAYSCresta is doing well. She had her first chemo session about a week ago which went as well as could be expected. She’s journaling her experience almost every day on Tik Tok @crestaburt. A couple of days ago she got a shot t...2023-08-0223 minIntentional MarriageParental ChallengesOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about some of the challenges that couples can face when parenting.KEY TAKEAWAYSThe challenges can start from before you even have kids, from the moment you start talking about the decision to have them, not have them, to how many you’re going to have. When my ex-wife and I started to have discussions about kids, we had a difference of opinion about how many we were going to have, not when we were going to have them. I wanted...2023-07-2629 minIntentional MarriageThe Big COn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about Cresta’s recent breast cancer diagnosis and how they’re both dealing with it.KEY TAKEAWAYSI guess you could call it a miracle, some would call it coincidence or happenstance, but in February I was having heart condition issues that I’d never had before. They did and echocardiogram (an ultrasound on the heart) and found a spot on my liver, so I was sent to have a CT scan to figure out what that was. Eventually we got results an...2023-07-1925 minIntentional MarriageDealing With “I Love You, But…”On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about how we sometimes let emotions dictate the course of our lives and how it’s important to try not to.KEY TAKEAWAYSJust look at our political spectrum, whatever side you’re on there’s good people and bad people. So many people are letting their emotions dictate their responses to things. One of the things you really need to pay attention to in your marriage is not to get caught up in your emotions. That’s not to say emotions...2023-07-1224 minIntentional MarriageHeeding The CallOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about how to, and when to, respond to your partner's emotional calls and needs.KEY TAKEAWAYSAccording to research, for a happy, healthy marriage you should be responding to about 86% of your partner’s emotional calls. (Justin: “Bullshit! What kind of researcher is coming up with 86%?”) And unhealthy marriages – the ones that are right on the cusp of divorce – are only responding to 33%. (Justin: “How about more often than not? That seems like a more realistic measure that people can use.”)Probably m...2023-07-0528 min
Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan WillowHow to Achieve True Intimacy for Sexual Fulfillment with Justin and Cresta BurtSend us a textEp 293: How to Achieve True Intimacy for Sexual Fulfillment with Justin and Cresta Burt. Justin and Cresta are a married couple who run a coaching business for other couples called Intentional Marriage Coaching. They strive to coach couples to stop struggling with intimacy and communication, and reconnect with intention to finally live their "happily ever after". In past relationships/marriages, they lacked intimacy and variety, so they now live a life of intimacy in and outside of the bedroom, and they enjoy a very free and healthy sex life. They wanted...2023-06-301h 08Intentional MarriageAll The Small ThingsOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about the little things in life that give them joy.KEY TAKEAWAYSThis weekend Justin bought Cresta a Baby Yoda Lego set. Cresta had never built with Lego before, she’s got a decent collection of puzzles, 3D puzzles and Middle Earth models and had never done Lego because she knew, if she did, it would become excessive and expensive. On May 12th the new Zelda game dropped and Justin gotta play that.The last month has been really hectic and bu...2023-06-2820 minIntentional MarriageHow Coaching Can Work For Your MarriageOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – give you a run down of their three-day mini course about what marriage coaching is, does it work, who is it good for, and who should not do coaching. KEY TAKEAWAYSIf you’ve got your shit together and there are no problems, you are just rockin’ and rollin’ in the marriage, but you still want to improve your marriage. Coaching will improve it whatever stage you’re at. If you’re struggling and both of you are on the same page and you r...2023-06-2130 minIntentional MarriageThe Post-FML DiscussionOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – follow up on last episode’s theme of how to cope with families visiting by talking about how things went with your spouse in the aftermath of large family gatherings.KEY TAKEAWAYSWhen you’re in the middle of something emotional you tend to say or do things that aren’t who you are naturally. They overreact a lot of times. Especially when you’re dealing with a partnership, one or the other can get emotional. Don’t say things in the moment bec...2023-06-1431 minIntentional MarriagePrioritising The Family UnitOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about the fact that they have a lot of family coming to visit because one of their children is graduating high school, and how to deal with such an unusual situation.KEY TAKEAWAYSWhat a lot of people don’t understand, and that I will communicate with my boys once they get married, is that we come second to them. A lot of parents don’t have that view, especially if they’re young and married. Their family comes first, they’re always we...2023-06-0725 minIntentional MarriageDealing With Long Distance RelationshipsOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about Justin being away on work for the first time in three and a half months, how that’s affecting their relationship and tips and tricks you can use if you have a situation like this.KEY TAKEAWAYSBeing together for three and a half months and then trying to go back to how it was made me feel close to panicking, I was not OK with going back to the way that it was. But it’s been easier this week tha...2023-05-2428 minIntentional MarriageThe Intimacy and Connection Date NightOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about how to achieve intimacy and connection on your date nights.KEY TAKEAWAYSDate nights look different for every couple and they’re different every week – for us specifically – and they should look different, they should not look the same. What fun is that? More than that, you want to connect physically, emotionally, and spiritually on date night. That’s why they’re so important and what they’re all about; keeping that stuff alive, and you should be intentional about making those thi...2023-05-1730 minIntentional MarriageMore Spiritual Connection With Yourself And Your Partner With Dr Willow Brown and Leah PiperOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk to Dr Willow Brown and Leah Piper about Daoist sexology, tantra, sacred sexuality and using sexuality as a platform to have a deeper, more spiritual connection with yourself and your partner.KEY TAKEAWAYSFor a lot of us growing up in the West with a predominantly Christian/Judeo society, there’s a lot lacking when it comes to modelling a healthy, romantic, spiritual, sex positive relationship. That’s what started my path in seeking a place where sex and God come together...2023-05-0332 minIntentional MarriageFriendship in MarriageOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about friendship in marriage and recount some stories from their own relationship and marriage.KEY TAKEAWAYSWe were friends for nine years before we started even seeing each other. We weren’t great friends, more acquaintances, we worked together – Cresta told me where to go and how to get there, and still does today! Our friendship started to develop after we started dating. The acquaintanceship was a great foundation for what we built as soon as we started dating.You can’t have a hea...2023-04-2627 minIntentional MarriageHow Married Couples Can Navigate an ADHD Diagnosis With Avigail GimpelOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk to Avigail Gimpel about her 20-year-journey to understand ADHD and how to reverse it in her students as well as her own children, and more specifically how married couples can navigate an ADHD diagnosis.KEY TAKEAWAYSWhen both people in a relationship are struggling with ADHD symptoms it really makes for an extremely challenging relationship. I have less success there and the marriages usually don’t last that long. But, what I see very often is that people with ADHD symptoms tend t...2023-04-1925 minIntentional MarriageMr or Mrs Right With Michelle HoffmannOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk to Michelle Hoffmann who helps men and women between the ages of 35-85 to find their Mr or Mrs Right and not having to fear a dangerous or uneventful dating pool. KEY TAKEAWAYSI’m not a matchmaker, I don’t just put two people together, I actually help people find out who and why the best person would be for them. I help you to figure out who you are now (because you’ve changed throughout your life) and who is the righ...2023-04-1234 minIntentional MarriageThe Soulmate Coaches With Mark & LynettaOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – are joined by their first guests, Mark & Lynetta to talk about KEY TAKEAWAYSWe met in a workshop on intimacy in relationships and communication. We decided, when we got together as life coaches, that we wanted to help people in relationships to have the support that they need and you can’t get by yourself. We help each other heal, we support each other, you don’t have to have all your ducks in a row, be completely healed or work on yourself...2023-04-0525 min
Helping People PerformIntentional Marriage, with Cresta & Justin Burt: Ep 28A great chat with wife and husband team, Cresta and Justin Burt from www.deviationbydesign.com who are helping married couples who are longing for a deep connection.
Through their coaching programs and support they work with people on topics such as communication, parenting, finances and ‘intentional marriage’.
Contact them for a free initial call at https://deviationbydesign.com/book-in-a-call2023-04-0333 minIntentional MarriageSpirituality (Religion, Beliefs, Love)On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about a topic Just can talk about for days: Spirituality. KEY TAKEAWAYSSpirituality is different from – and you can have it without – religion. Spirituality more defines who you are, shapes your worldview, who you are at the core. It doesn’t matter if you’re agnostic, atheist, Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, whatever you are, we’re all searching for that meaning in life, for something bigger and better than ourselves. Spirituality helps everybody maintain a sense of self-efficiency and take accountability for themselves. ...2023-03-2923 minIntentional MarriageFinances & Shared Goals (Budgeting, future planning and Common Ground)On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about everybody’s favourite subject: Finances. It’s very important for everybody to know where their money is going, how to budget and plan for the future and finding some common ground in a relationship.KEY TAKEAWAYSOne of the first things you have to have as a couple is shared goals. You have to understand where each other is moving. You’ve got to have a shared vision. If somebody wants to travel, that can mean many different things; do you want t...2023-03-2226 minIntentional MarriageEvery Marriage Has GIFTS: Gratitude, Intention, Forgiveness, Teamwork, and SacrificeOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about something they like to do for each other and talk about their relationship, about things they're doing for it, ways they’re improving it as well as issues they’re having. Anyway, who doesn’t like to give and receive GIFTS?!KEY TAKEAWAYSHaving gratitude in your relationship is key to keeping your mindset on the things that you do well, because you’re constantly bringing positivity and energetic things into the relationship. When I set my mind to constantly look for the...2023-03-1529 minIntentional MarriageSupport Can Make OR Break Marriage. Is Your Partner Supportive?On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – to talk about health and wellness, something the pair have been on a journey on as of late. They share their health and wellness journey to date and what they plan to achieve as well as how it can affect your relationship.KEY TAKEAWAYSWe wanted to take our health and wellness seriously as we are over the hill and we’re on the downside… though it depends where you put the hill. We’ve gone through some diets and saw a medical pr...2023-03-0822 minIntentional MarriagePersonal Growth For You & Your MarriageOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – to talk about personal growth one of Justin’s favourite things to talk about as a self-confessed life-long learner.KEY TAKEAWAYSIN the past few years I have re-ignited my passion for learning. It started off with starting my own business, Casper Financial Group in the insurance industry. One of the things my team members really pushed was personal development, so I started reading books including ‘The Compound Effect’ which is something we talk about on here, how little changes have a big impact...2023-03-0624 minIntentional MarriageIt's Not Just Sex. What is Intimacy in a Marriage?On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – to talk about something all of us like to talk about, but maybe something not all of us know how to talk about: Intimacy. What is intimacy in a marriage? How they define it and how they keep it alive in their own marriage.KEY TAKEAWAYSIntimacy is defined as a close familiarity or friendship, e.g., “the intimacy between a husband and a wife”. To me, that means nothing, it can be interpreted in millions of different ways. When I think of intim...2023-03-0620 minIntentional MarriageCommunication, Communicating and Listening in MarriageOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – to talk about communication within a marriage, how they communicate with each other and things they do within their communication.KEY TAKEAWAYSEverything you do is communicating something, whether that’s indifference, frustration, happiness, contentment. A lot of men don’t like to do a lot of talking, they like to be strong and stoic and silent, but even in that it communicates something.We have a lot of different ways in which we communicate, just like a lot of other couples. One of m...2023-03-0631 minIntentional MarriageDon't Stop Being Intentional (Sometimes it's The Simple Stuff)On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – discuss the what, why, and how of the intentional marriage.KEY TAKEAWAYSMarriage doesn’t happen by accident. You intentionally put a ring on that finger, you intentionally say “I do”, so you should intentionally do everything else. You should go out of your way for the other person, on purpose. It’s not an accident that I love you, it happens for a reason.I’ve (Cresta) always been interested in escape rooms. Justin surprised me for one of our date nights with my...2023-03-0623 minIntentional MarriageIntentional Marriage & Being There (Present) in Your RelationshipOn this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – discuss how they met and how their relationship began.KEY TAKEAWAYSJustin got married at 19 and had his kids by the age of 24, he was a missionary in another country but returned to the US to work in law enforcement. He met a dispatcher called Cresta and they formed a friendship where the messaged each other. After he got out of law enforcement his marriage began to break down, he tried to save his marriage for his children’s sake, but his wife a...2023-03-0622 min
Finding FreedomCombating Anxiety in Relationships with Justin and Cresta Burt of Deviation by DesignIn this episode, Dawn is joined by relationship experts Justin and Cresta Burt. They discuss the role of anxiety in relationships and what can be done to live a happier life with more fulfilling relationships. Justin and Cresta have been experts in learning what it takes to make a relationship truly work and after years of having dysfunctional and unhealthy relationships themselves, Justin and Cresta founded an intentional marriage programme to help others live their happily ever after too. Exclusive for Overcoming Anxiety Listeners: FREE Transformation call with deviation by design: https://deviationbydesign.com/book-in-a-call/2023-01-2634 min