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Just Gay StuffEpisode 21 - Special Guest Chats With Kacy Boccumini****Trigger Warning: Brief mentions of suicide****
Hello Friends!
Are you ready to join us on this real deep dive?! Of course you are!
This one is a long one but it is oh so worth it! You remember Kacy from the Real L Word right?! Well he joined us this week to take us down the rabbit hole of his journey to self discovery and how growing up in and around specific culture and pop culture formed a very unique generational view on the world.
A look at how television showed...2024-06-041h 20
That Can't Be RightTCBR Goes to Hollywood with Kacy Boccumini: The SequelTCBR Goes to Hollywood with Kacy Boccumini: The Sequel We're back to finish the chat with Kacy. This time we're diving into three movies that Kacy thinks fit into one of the following categories: critically panned movies Kacy thinks are good, critically acclaimed movies Kacy thinks are not good, movies Kacy wishes more people had seen. The movies: Frankenstein, Psycho, and Night of the Living Dead! I watched all of them lights on before the sunset. This is a really fun exploration of the films, their historical context, what they reveal a...2023-06-2355 min
That Can't Be RightTCBR Goes to Hollywood with Kacy BoccuminiPress play to hear Kacy talk about movies - the illusion and the truth of what they're depicting, favorite movies and directors, the difference between perspective and aesthetic, the ick of toxic masculinity in film/society, and movies that were so devastating or anxiety inducing you only need to see once. Stick around to hear me offer the foolproof way to be my friend. Follow Kacy on the internet: https://www.instagram.com/sir_kacy/ And check out "The Stories We Tell" wherever you get your podcasts Follow Rhian on the internet: htt...2023-06-0830 min
Wait, Whaaat Are You WatchingEp 63 Loretta Lynn's Haunted Plantation with Sir KacyIn this episode, Elaine welcomes The Real L Word star, an award-winning writer, producer, director and fellow GenX-er Kacy Boccumini! This week, we chose to watch and discuss a Travel Channel documentary; Loretta Lynn's Haunted Plantation! Loretta Lynn's sprawling home and land are teeming with ghosts and she's fine with it okaaayyy?? Unfortunately, the ghosts are the most lighthearted thing about her property. We also bond over hometowns and talk about Kacy's not-so-hidden psychic abilities. Watch Loretta Lynn's Haunted Plantation:https://youtu.be/O7rxKMHL26wSupport Kacy's Kickstarter:http://kck.st/3FltZ01.2023-04-1456 min
My Dad Stole My LimelightS4 E8: Kacy Boccumini - pt2 (he/him)Kacy is a writer, director, producer, and host of The Stories We Tell Podcast. In part two of this two-part episode, we talk about Kacy’s realisations during lockdowns that very quickly made huge and amazing changes in his life. The moment he was locked into his house it was very apparent very quickly that his world had changed forever. This was the first time in his life he had ever lived alone and suddenly he realised he had spent so much of his life trying to “be the person people would love”. He started using t...2023-03-1446 minMy Dad Stole My LimelightS4 E8: Kacy Boccumini - pt2 (he/him)Kacy is a writer, director, producer, and host of The Stories We Tell Podcast. In part two of this two-part episode, we talk about Kacy’s realisations during lockdowns that very quickly made huge and amazing changes in his life. The moment he was locked into his house it was very apparent very quickly that his world had changed forever. This was the first time in his life he had ever lived alone and suddenly he realised he had spent so much of his life trying to “be the person people would love”. He started using t...2023-03-1446 min
My Dad Stole My LimelightS4 E7: Kacy Boccumini - pt 1 (he/him)Kacy is a writer, director, producer, and host of The Stories We Tell Podcast. When he is not busy doing all that, he lights up zoom rooms all across the LWS world which is where I had the pleasure of meeting him. In part one of this two-part episode, we hear much about Kacy’s childhood and adolescence. I am really grateful for his openness in sharing the involuntary conformity he encountered, because I know it will help to educate listeners (like it did me!) and help particular listeners feel seen and heard. The turning poi...2023-03-0757 minMy Dad Stole My LimelightS4 E7: Kacy Boccumini - pt 1 (he/him)Kacy is a writer, director, producer, and host of The Stories We Tell Podcast. When he is not busy doing all that, he lights up zoom rooms all across the LWS world which is where I had the pleasure of meeting him. In part one of this two-part episode, we hear much about Kacy’s childhood and adolescence. I am really grateful for his openness in sharing the involuntary conformity he encountered, because I know it will help to educate listeners (like it did me!) and help particular listeners feel seen and heard. The turning poi...2023-03-0757 min
The Stories We Tell PodcastLove HardIn conclusion, Bell Hooks suggests that the only way we can change the world is when we all learn to love men in all of their complexity, but especially men learning to love ourselves. This episode, I take a look at what I consider to be the perfect film that delivers this message, When a Man Loves a Woman. I use the structure and story in that film as a template and apply it to another well-known text, Die Hard, to prove once and for all that you can make really great movies (of all genres) about whole, complex...2023-02-1426 min
The Stories We Tell PodcastInception - Boundaries, Memory, and the Power of the MindTrigger warning: This episode contains discussions of rape and incest survival, sexual assault, and repressed memories. Listen with caution.
This episode centers around the stories movies tell men about boundaries. Consent is a very real issue in our society, and movies do no one a favor by constantly reinforcing the narratives that, for real men, no boundary is too strict to cross, provided that you have a purpose. Christopher Nolan's visual masterpiece Inception is a perfect example of how deep this myth runs.
A very special thank you to Elizabeth McConaghy, PhD...2023-01-211h 36
The Stories We Tell PodcastDad VibesThis episodes delves into the stories movies and TV shows about what makes a dad. Since I am lucky enough to share a love of movies and TV shows with my own dad, I figured I'd go straight to the source and interview him. So, you get two Boccumini's this episode. Happy New Year!
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The Stories We Tell PodcastFriendship is the BenefitIn 1989, When Harry Met Sally was released, and said out loud one of the biggest and most harmful myths in American culture: Men and women cannot be friends, because sex always gets in the way.
We take a look at this myth and what it means for men, and the stories it tells them about friendship, equality, and community.
This episode includes conversations related to gender-based inequalities in society. Listen with caution.
A very special thank you to Eric Wolfe, for his candid interview and for co-producing this episode, and this season. You a...2022-12-251h 07
The Stories We Tell PodcastDivided Souls - Healing the "mommy wound" by becoming whole.DISCLAIMER -- This episode deals with discussions of growing up in mental illness. Please feel free to skip it if it's too much, too close to home, or just too heavy for the already heavy burden of a holiday season.
This episode delves into movies about sex. The 90s were really big into telling stories about sex that stood in stark contrast to those about love. There are men you fall in love with and men you have great sex with. Those were not the same man. Nor could they be.
Academics have spent lifetimes deconstructing the dichotomy of the "v...2022-12-1435 min
The Stories We Tell PodcastShe Rescues Him Right BackThis episode looks at Pretty Woman, a film about a man. I am joined by writer Grant Cohen, as we delve into the depths of love and the many pitfalls of assumptions and unspoken rules of heteronormative love in movies.
Pretty Woman Re-enactment Cast:
Edward: Kacy Boccumini
Vivian: Natasha Foster-Owens
Music by Lexin_Music from Pixabay
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The Stories We Tell PodcastThe End of Iron Men - The Curious Case of Robert Downey Jr.In her book, The Will to Change, Bell Hooks describes how the lack of feminist discourse surrounding boyhood is a key factor in how Patriarchy continues to flourish. Mass Media is the perfect vehicle for Patriarchy, because it's a driving force in men's formulations of their own personalities, regardless if they admit it or not. In order to unravel how this works, I do a deep dive on Robert Downey Jr. and trace his fall from grace through his meteoric rise to Marvel infamy.
Interview with Comedian and host James "Handsome" Sanders.
Voice Notes in o...2022-11-111h 59
The Stories We Tell PodcastI Didn't Know it Could Happen to Boys - Pt. 1We look at the film Poltergeist and what Steven Spielberg movies tell boys about the supernatural, trauma, and their own connection to spirits. This is part 1 of this conversation.
References:
"The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by Bell Hooks.
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The Stories We Tell PodcastIf the Suit FitsAfter watching the movie Tar, I needed to take a detour on the regular episode schedule to address a really key story being told in Hollywood.
In 1921, Virginia Rappe, a model and actress, died after attending a party with actor Roscoe "Fatty" Arbuckle. He was accused of manslaughter and rape in connection with her death, though he was ultimately exonerated in the third trial. The first two ended in hung juries. At his third trial, after fellow thespian Buster Keaton testified on his behalf, he was acquitted. Thus began the long history in Hollywood of men not holding other men a...2022-10-1419 min
The Stories We Tell PodcastWho Could Ever Learn to Love a Beast?To kick off the second season of The Stories We Tell, we're looking at the Renaissance period of Disney movies from 1989-1999 and decode lessons they teach little boys. I also untangle the subtext of queer longing that lives beneath the surface of three iconic films: The Little Mermaid, Beauty and the Beast, and Aladdin. The powerhouse creative team of Howard Ashman and Alan Menken created these masterpieces of animated cinematic history, but the story they tell obscures a much deeper, more painful reality about kids who don't feel "part of this world." Last but not least, I interviewed...2022-10-061h 11
The Stories We Tell PodcastBack with a VengeanceSeason 2 of The Stories We Tell is back!
This season we will be diving into what movies teach men about being men. We're looking at masculinity, and not just the toxic kind. Featuring more guests and personal anecdotes, this season is a love letter to the little boy that was me. I watched movies to learn how to be the man I always wanted to be. The problem is, now that I can be him, what kind of man does that make me?
Episodes release Thursday October 6th.
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The Stories We Tell PodcastThe New Moon RisesIn this bonus episode, we take a look at the most complicated of all the Universal Monsters: The Wolf Man. From his roots in Nazi Germany to his modern day American interpretation which fetishizes transformation, understanding the truth behind the Wolf Man forces us to confront the most basic aspects of being human: That we all have the capacity for change.
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The Stories We Tell PodcastThe Problem with Santa CarlaIn the final episode, we look at the film The Lost Boys and discuss how post-modernist theory explains why everything feels slippery and hard to define fact from fiction. How do we unravel the stories we're telling when everything is self-referential and there is no truth behind anything, including our own personal narratives?
References:
The Postmodern Condition: A Report on Knowledge by Jean-Francois Lyotard (1979)
Symbolic Exchange and Death by Jean Baudrillard (1976)
Simulacra and Simulation (The Body, In Theory: Histories of Cultural Materialism) by Jean Baudrillard (1981)
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The Stories We Tell PodcastWouldn’t Hurt a FlyThis episode, I uncover the dangerous legacy of transphobia in the slasher film to reveal the true monsters behind the knives and chainsaws.
References:
Behind the Horror: The True Stories That Inspired Horror Movies by Dr. Lee Mellor
Dead Blondes and Bad Moms: Monstrosity, Patriarchy, and the Fear of Female Power by Jude Ellison Sady Doyle (you will find the book under Sady Doyle) (2019)
Men, Women, and Chainsaws: Gender in the Modern Horror Film by Carol J. Clover (2015)
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The Stories We Tell PodcastLet the World BewareIn 1992, the world was introduced to the scariest monster yet: a fully actualized sexual woman. Boy oh boy was the backlash swift. In this episode of The Stories We Tell, we look at Basic Instinct, the Film Noir sex thriller that set the debate over 3rd wave feminism on fire and nearly scorched the career of Sharon Stone for her portrayal of Catherine Tramell. The performance was so good in fact that people couldn't separate her from her character. Not unlike Jaws, her filmic incarnation gave the world justification to demonize her in the form of slut-shaming. But also...2022-02-031h 05
The Stories We Tell PodcastA Bigger BoatThis weeks episode looks at the 1975 classic JAWS and breaks down the stories we tell ourselves about staying on top of the food chain. By looking at the film through marxist literary theory, post-modern feminist psychoanalytic theory, and sociology we can start to uncover our anxieties about human's most innate fear: not beating nature.
References:
Behind the Horror: The True Stories That Inspired Horror Movies by Dr. Lee Mellor
Sexual Personae: Art and Decadence from Nefertiti to Emily Dickinson by Camille Paglia
On the Sexual Theories of Children by Sigmund Freud2022-01-2022 min
The Stories We Tell PodcastIt’s AliveThe origins of the monster was born in the year 1931, when prohibition had created criminals out of citizens, marginalized communities were forming under the cover of speakeasies, and the depression had depleted faith in the federal government. Hollywood's answer: the Universal Monsters. By looking at the real stories behind these spine-tingling tales, we reveal the darker truth about how we are taught to place blame, and on who.
This episode, we look at the lineage of Frakenstein, and how the subtext of anti-LBGT anxieties and fears are used to mask the real story being told - that t...2022-01-0627 min
The Stories We Tell PodcastTrailerSeason one of The Stories We Tell kicks off January 2022. Like and follow on Spotify for bonus episodes and tie bits to tied you over until then. Have a safe and happy holiday season. This is Kacy Boccumini reminding you: please watch carefully.
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The Stories We Tell PodcastFilm 100 - The Film ExperienceWelcome Watchers to The Stories We Tell, a podcast about storytelling in movies and TV show. In each episode, we’re going to break down the stories they’ve told you about you. More specifically, the “you” you’ve constructed through years of watching movies and TV shows that were feeding you fantasies disguised as fundamental truths.
The Stories We Tell is the podcast where we uncover the stories we’ve been told (and taken up as our own) and investigate the unspoken truth behind them that the stories themselves are used to conceal.
This inaugural seas...2021-10-3112 min
the gays of our lives's podcastReflections on Queerantine: The Real Kacy BoccuminiThis week we get deep with Kacy from The Real L Word and Best Guy Productions about being in queerantine alone in LA. The Gays Of Our Lives is brought to you by CBD4aCause. Order your bottle of Orange or Strawberry with vitamin D3 at www.denvercbdco.com and look for the rainbow logo. Use code LISSA20 for 20% off! You can also watch the episodes of our YouTube Channel. Follow us on Facebook @thegaysoflivespodcast Instagram @thegaysofour Twitter @thegay_our www.laughs.life2020-05-131h 20
In a World PodcastEP41 - Hudson Hawk "Beware the Blue Wire"In a World where Bruce Willis is a comedic actor and his timing is impeccable. And that crooked smile made him even more of a heartthrob. Enter this beyond wild film that tests the limits of cinema: Hudson Hawk. What is it, you may ask. Mary, her guest, Kacy Boccumini, and Producer Adam watched it. They don't even know.
Featuring:
Kacy Boccumini (Insta/ Twitter)
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Opening theme by J-Kraken (insta/twitter)
Produced by Adam Macias
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MFers - A Parenting PodcastEpisode 21: Kacy Boccumini Part 3@KacyBoccumini is back with Part 3 of her heartfelt story. @sandydanto and @averyfunny keep it as light as possible. Please enjoy the final installment of Kacy’s 3 part series on @mferspodcast!2018-11-0559 minMFers - A Parenting PodcastEpisode 20: Kacy Boccumini Pt. 2On today’s episode Kacy Boccumini @kacychristine returns to tell the second part of her incredibly harrowing story. We had such an interesting discussion we have to split the “part 2” into two parts so this is Part 2a of Kacy’s story.2018-10-2943 minMFers - A Parenting PodcastEpisode 12: Kacy BoccuminiWarning: the contents of this week’s episode is sullen and serious, but @sandydanto and @averyfunny keep it light. We are joined by Kacy Boccumini from Showtime’s The Real L Word to talk about her harrowing journey to try to become a lady dad. She offers an interesting and fresh perspective on the concept of having kids, as well as some cautionary tales.2018-09-031h 43
HerlightsSWB EP 201: Knit A Yarn Thing w/ Kacy BoccuminiKacy Boccumini (The Real L Word) joins SWB in the booth to highlight the highlights. NBA: Kacy loves Kobe and betting on every sport imaginable. NFL: Foley gets Saquon. NHL: Licking and Sticking. And Lady Sports unite in the SheIS initiative. Plus the feel good moment of the week! Please take 5 seconds to give us a 5 star review on iTunes and we will read it on the podcast! And subscribe! https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/sports-without-balls/id635036320?mt=2 Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/sportswithoutballs SWB: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sportswithoutballs/ Instagram @sportswithoutballs, Twitter @swbpod Erin Foley: Twitter @erinfoleycomic...2018-05-081h 12
podcastpodcastEp 47: HeadGum Extravaganza! The Dumbbells, Why Won't You Date Me? Come Out, Come Out & MOREThis week we're highlighting one of our favorite providers, HeadGum which means DUH obviously we are talking about shitty gym teachers and coaches on The Dumbbells, plus The 5 Love Languages with Nicole Byer(OBSESSED, NAILED IT, OMG), Come Out Come Out stories with Kacy Boccumini, Punch Up The Jam!!! (Miel Bredouw & Demi Adejuyigbe sing FRIDAY I'M IN LOVE) plus Eric answers a little bit of very weird fucking advice from If I Were You with Jake and Amir.2018-03-271h 00