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Asking for a Friend76: How do I navigate sexuality as a Christian woman?As Christian women, the conversation around sex, singleness, and desire is a struggle. Even in marriage, it can be difficult to separate truth from the lies of purity culture. How do we navigate sexuality in a way that honors God?
Kat Harris and I are chatting today on the podcast about what it looks like to live with sexual integrity as a Christian woman. Kat gives challenging advice for the woman who desires to honor God with her body – and shares powerful truth about what Jesus really had to say about women.
LI...2021-04-0129 minAsking for a Friend75: How can people of mixed ethnicity find belonging?“What are you?”
Many of us will never know what it’s like to get that question. For those with multiethnic and multicultural backgrounds, finding their place can be painful, but it can also provide unique opportunities to connect with Jesus and the world around us. How can people of mixed ethnicity find belonging?
Today I’m answering that question with Chandra Crane! With a Thai birth father, a European American mother, and an African American father who adopted her when she was five, Chandra’s experience provides powerful encouragement for anyone who is searching for belong...2021-03-2542 minAsking for a Friend74: How can women speak up when silenced?If you have ever felt your voice silenced, this episode is for you. For so many women -- this is part of your story. In this episode, I'm chatting with Tiffany Bluhm, author of the book "Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up". We discuss how women can speak up when they feel silenced and the power of your voice in this #metoo age.
In this episode, you will hear:
→ Why women stay silent instead of speaking out against injustice.
→ How to be an a...2021-03-1826 minAsking for a Friend73: How can we find purpose in pain?When tragedy strikes, it’s easy to feel hopeless. But what if the very thing that hurts us is the thing that God wants to use? What if we allowed Him to use our pain to mold us into who He wants us to be?
If you’re struggling to find the purpose in your pain, this episode is for you! I’m chatting with author Andrea Bourgeois about seeking God in the midst of the struggles we experience. Andrea shares the lessons she has learned through her own trials and powerful encouragement for using your pain to imp...2021-03-1125 minAsking for a Friend72: Can God use rejection for good?We all know what it’s like to feel the sting of rejection. Whether it happened when you were a child or it happened last week, it can be difficult to put your heart back out there. Where is God in the midst of our heartache and can He really use rejection for good?
Today I’m answering these hard questions with Kait Warness. Join us as Kait gives practical advice for bouncing back from rejection and reminds us that heartbreak is what makes us into who we are.
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This week I’m rounding out my February series with Patricia Taylor, as she shares her experience as a Black woman and bridge builder! We chat through what it looks like to be authentically yourself as a woman of color and how white people can continue to elevate the voices of BIPOC long after Black History Month. Pa...2021-02-2530 minAsking for a Friend70: What is it like to be a Black woman in publishing?One of the first steps towards anti-racism is learning from the everyday experiences of people of color. This Black History Month, I’m speaking with Black women of different backgrounds and life stages, listening to their stories, and elevating their voices.
Dorena Williamson and I are chatting today about her experience as a best-selling children’s author! Dorena shares the inspiration behind her writing and gives powerful encouragement for women of color aspiring to be published. We’ll also talk about our shared experience as pastor’s wives and how each of us, no matter o...2021-02-1827 minAsking for a Friend69: What is it like as a Black woman in the marketplace?One of the first steps towards anti-racism is learning from the everyday experiences of people of color. This Black History Month, I’m speaking with Black women of different backgrounds and life stages, listening to their stories, and elevating their voices.
This week, I’m chatting with Jena Holliday of a Spoonful of Faith. Jena shares her journey to becoming an illustrator (including her most recent partnership with Target!) and using her gifts to champion women from all walks of life.
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Spoonful of Faith Tumbler at Target
Spoo...2021-02-1126 minAsking for a Friend68: What is it like to be a Black woman in education?One of the first steps towards anti-racism is learning from the everyday experiences of people of color. This Black History Month, I’m speaking with Black women of different backgrounds and life stages, listening to their stories, and elevating their voices.
If you love to learn and want to feel supported on your anti-racism journey, today’s episode is for you! Join me in hearing from Lucretia Berry as she shares her experience as a Black woman in education.
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Stony the Road Book
Brownicity
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2021-02-0427 minAsking for a Friend67: How can I study the Bible as a busy woman?Work, family, school, church… In the midst of a busy world, making the Bible a priority can seem like one more thing on a never-ending to-do list. If you’re struggling to consistently enjoy time in God’s word, you’re not alone, and this episode is for you.
Today I’m chatting with Brittany Ann about what it looks like to fall in love with God’s word. Brittany gives great encouragement for the woman who feels like she can’t get it all done, and practical advice for making a daily habit of studying the Bible.
...2021-01-2829 minAsking for a Friend66: Where can I find hope when I feel stuck in life?As Christ followers, we know that Jesus is coming back to make things right. We know He’s going to restore all things. But until then, it’s easy to feel stuck, as we deal with the reality of life in a broken world.
Where can we find hope? Today I’m answering that question with Kat Armstrong as she shares encouragement for all of us who find ourselves in in-between places.
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The In-Between Place Book
Kat’s Website
Kat’s Instagram
Foll...2021-01-2126 minAsking for a Friend65: How do we redeem purity culture?If you’ve been around church for a while, you’ve likely been impacted by the messages of purity culture. Rachel Joy Welcher believes it’s time to talk back.
If you are struggling with untangling God’s desire for sex, dating, and marriage from the lies of purity culture -- this episode is for you. In this episode, Rachel gives great encouragement for those who have been wounded by the Church’s definition of sexual purity, and practical advice for changing the conversation.
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Talking Back to Purity Culture Book
2021-01-1424 minAsking for a Friend64: How do I fight back against fear and anxiety?As we kick off a new year, how do we move forward and fight back against fear and anxiety? How do we continue to show up on our darkest days? Whether you consider yourself “Queen of the New Year” or the glamour is already wearing off, this episode is for you!
Today I’m chatting with Hannah Brencher, author of “Fighting Forward”, about how to establish rhythms, practice discipline, and show up for yourself January 1st and beyond.
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Fighting Forward Book
Follow me on social med...2021-01-0724 minAsking for a Friend63: What the 2020?Well, we did it. We made it to the end of 2020, the longest year of our lives. But it’s not all bad — there were some great things that came from 2020! In this final episode of the year, Brook and I are sitting down to chat through all the major things that impacted women, culture and the church. Plus, if you are looking for a book or twelve to read, we’ve got you covered!
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There are tons of links this week! Head over to see the full show notes here...2020-12-1744 minAsking for a Friend62: How can I find comfort in suffering?We all face seasons of suffering and hardship. In these times, we often find ourselves feeling isolated and alone in our pain. How can we find comfort and companionship when life gets dark?
Today, I’m chatting with Wendy Alsup as she reintroduces us to the companions in suffering that God has given us in His word. Wendy also gives practical advice for walking alongside friends who are suffering, and encouragement for those who are currently in the thick of it.
Companions in Suffering: Comfort for Times of Loss and Loneliness Book...2020-12-1026 min
Asking for a Friend61: How can I calm down about parenting?There is so much pressure on parents to do everything and be everything for their kids. How calm down and lighten up about parenting? If you feel the need to let go a bit, this episode is for you!
Melanie Dale and I are chatting about how to calm down about parenting. You will be encouraged by Melanie’s joy and walk away with some great tools to calm the h*ck down!
Episode 27: Can my parenting survive the apocalypse? with Melanie Dale
Calm the H*ck Down Book
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Today I’m answering these hard questions with Trillia Newbell. Join us as we approach this tough topic and give practical ways to step into this space.
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I’m chatting with Mary Carver about how to find joy in the holidays when it’s a struggle. We chat about holiday movies, difficult family members, and practical ways to give back.
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2020-11-1900 minAsking for a Friend58: How can I find peace in a noisy world?The world is noisy. It’s filled with criticism, rejection, and pushback. And when you already struggle with anxiety and/or an inner critic, it feels like a road to failure.
Is it possible to find peace in a noisy world? I’m answering that question with Jamie Grace as we give some really practical ways to find peace in the noise.
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...2020-11-1200 minAsking for a Friend57: How can I love people I don't agree with?When we find ourselves on the other side of an election, how can we continue to love people we don’t agree with? If you are struggling with seeing others through a lens of love this season, this episode is for you!
Today I am chatting with Sarah Anderson and giving you some ways to find your place in this conversation and give grace to others.
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The Single Story Narrative
The Righteous Mind
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Today I’m chatting with Kaitlyn Schiess, author of “The Liturgy of Politics” about how Christians can find their place in this conversation.
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The Liturgy of Politics
The Color of Compromise
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...2020-10-2900 minAsking for a Friend55: What does it mean to be pro-life?If you are struggling with the pull of being pro-life, but wanting to honor God, women, and culture -- this episode is for you. In this episode I'm sharing a bit of what it means for me to be pro-life, talking through the nuances of the topic, and answering a few of your hard questions.
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Pantsuit Politics
Must Pro-Life Mean Pro-Trump?
What about Abortion by Holy Post
EP 30: How should the church handle abortion?
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...2020-10-2200 minAsking for a Friend54: How is the foster system impacting youth?If you are interested in foster care, but want to hear more about what growing up in the foster system is like, this episode is for you! In week two of our series of diving into what the foster system looks like, I’m talking with Tori Petersen. As a former foster youth, foster parent and advocate - Tori’s story will impact you deeply.
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CASA
Live in Grace, Walk in Love by Bob Goff
Tori’s cute baby :)
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The Savvy SauceBonus Episode 116 Abundance in Motherhood with Kara-Kae James116. Abundance in Motherhood with Kara-Kae James
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John 10:10b (ESV) “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”
Kara-Kae James is an author, speaker and podcaster who is passionate about seeing women’s lives changed and impacted through the gospel. She helps women find their place in big conversations and develop a true and honest faith. She is the host of “Asking for a Friend”, a weekly podcast that helps women navigate challenging topics about themselves, the church and the world. She is the author of...2020-10-1544 minAsking for a Friend53: Can you help me understand the foster system?Kicking off a two week series as we look deeper into foster care. This week, my dear friend Ruthie Hart who is a biological parent, adoptive parent, and foster parent is helping us understand all things surrounding foster care. We chat through what the foster system looks like for children, how you can get involved in foster care, and what the process looks like.
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Listener Survey
CASA
Foster Care Information (You can google for your state!)
Follow me...2020-10-0800 minAsking for a Friend52: What did I miss? (Part 2)It's time for another episode of What Did I Miss? with Kara-Kae and Elizabeth! We discuss books, movies, tv shows, another things that have impacted us over the past couple of months.
If you are looking for resources to help you reframe your thinking about the world, this is the perfect episode for you!
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You’ve Been Volunteered
To the End of June
Reconstructing the Gospel
Rediscipling the White Church
PURE
The Liturgy of the Ordinary
Honey Boy
Cuties
Unorthodox
One of Us
The Social Dilemma
Ni...2020-10-0133 minAsking for a Friend51: Is justice biblical?While justice definitely isn’t a new concept, it’s something we are seeing brought to our attention lately in the news and all around us. There has been a lot of focus on the word justice, but is it biblical?
In this episode, I'm chatting with Donna Barber - Executive Director of The Voices Project and author of Bread for the Resistance. If you struggle with wondering if this conversation of justice is for you, this is a must listen!
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Perfectly Imperfect Even...2020-09-2440 min
The Adoptive MomAMP S7E96: Enneagram 1s and Adoption - Kara-Kae JamesWe 1s are an interesting bunch. I feel like we get labeled as a lot less fun than we actually are. Most of the 1s I know, including myself, are social, reasonable, funny, and charismatic, but how do we balance the desire to be all of those things with our other desire to be good, just, and righteous?Kara-Kae James and I are chatting all about it this week. We are also of course talking about how our 1-ness influenced our adoption processes and how it impacts our lives now as adoptive moms...https://theadoptivemompodcast.com/blog...2020-09-2144 minAsking for a Friend50: What is the best way to serve those in need?There is poverty and homelessness all around us. How can we step into the margins and what are the best ways to serve those in need?
Terence Lester is joining me to discuss this incredibly important topic. He gives us some great practical advice for what it looks like to help others. Let's go serve well!
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-09-1732 minAsking for a Friend49: How can we fight racial systems that divide us?Is white supremacy at work in our churches? Unfortunately, YES. When we are ready to face this hard truth, then what? Today I’m chatting with Daniel Hill and how to fight the racial systems that divide us by better understanding the lies we face.
Daniel shares his own path of racial awakening and how that changed his life and ministry. We break down a few of the lies we face and how to bridge the divide.
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Why do all the Black kids sit together in the Cafeteria? by Dr...2020-09-1031 minAsking for a Friend48: Can I trust God's plan for my life?We love to put Jeremiah 29:11 on our coffee mugs and wall prints — but what does it REALLY mean? How can we truly trust that God is in control of our lives? Does he really have our best in mind?
In this great conversation with Megan Marshaman we dive in deep to what is means to trust God. If God gives us a hope and a future, what does that look like?
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Sacred Rhythms by Ruth Haley Barton
Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer
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Halfway There209: Kara-Kae James and Creating Space
Kara-Kae James is an author, blogger, and podcaster. Her newest book is called TOGETHER, A Journal for Mom & Me. Today, Kara-Kae shares her journey as a kid keeping up appearances, how she struggled to trust even though she knew all the right answers, and growing comfortable with her questions. Kara-Kae also shares her journaling practices with her kids and how adopting a son changed her world. Throughout her story, Kara-Kae shows how she creates space for people to be and become themselves. Her story reminds us that God is not daunted by our questions but embraces them a...2020-08-3138 minAsking for a Friend47: How can I improve my prayer life?Prayer can be tough for many of us. It can be challenging to talk to someone we can't touch or see. If you feel this struggle, this episode is for you! I'm chatting with Chrystal Hurst about creating a great prayer life and what it looks like to pray without ceasing. You will walk away from this conversation encouraged and ready to have a deeper relationship with God!
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-08-2733 minAsking for a Friend46: What are the secrets of a secure woman? (Part 3)Today we are wrapping up the series “what are the secrets of a secure woman?” as I chat with Rachel Kang about her experience in finding security in our identity. Rachel has an incredible story of family, heritage and finding herself through Christ at the center of it all. Let's be secure women!
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Aliens in the Promised Land
Playing in the Dark Toni Morrison
Toni Morrison - The Pieces I Am (PBS) (Apple TV)
Full Show Notes Here!
2020-08-2030 minAsking for a Friend45: What are the secrets of a secure woman? (Part 2)This week we are in part 2 of the series “What are the secrets of a secure woman?” and I’m chatting with Nicki Wilson about being secure in our bodies.
Nicki gives some great encouragement and advice in loving yourself and your body no matter where you are. Come hear all of her secrets to being secure!
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Intuitive Eating
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2020-08-1334 minAsking for a Friend44: What are the secrets of a secure woman? (Part 1)We all want to be secure as women, but is there a secret sauce to what security looks like? In part one of a three part series, I’m chatting with Alli Worthington about what it looks like to be a secure woman throughout the seasons we find ourselves in.
Alli gives great encouragement to what it looks like to stand strong through adversity, and find our security as a woman where God calls us.
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Alli & Jo Morning Show
Standing Strong by Alli Worthington
...2020-08-0640 minAsking for a Friend43: What did I miss?I have a really fun episode for you today as I welcome back Elizabeth for a great chat about resources. In this episode of “What did I miss?” (Thanks Thomas Jefferson), Elizabeth and I discuss what to read and watch that have impacted us over the past few months (and some fun things too). If you are looking for some resources to help reframe your thinking, this is the perfect episode for you!
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Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria
White Fragility
Long Way Home
Ever...2020-07-3044 minAsking for a Friend42: Can America really be united?We find ourselves in a time of great strife and division in our country. In the wake of the pandemic and a political season, people are at odds more than ever. Can we as citizens of the United States actually believe that we are equal? What does that even look like?
John Kingston and I talk about this important question of “Can American really be united?”.
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American Awakening
Better Together Concert
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thea...2020-07-2331 minAsking for a Friend41: What's really going on at the border?Immigration. Such a hard topic in our culture today, but a much needed conversation. Maybe you are unsure of what to believe and struggling to understand the narrative behind immigration. Today's episode is a great conversation with Sarah Jackson, author of "The House the Love Built" and Executive Director of Casa de Paz.
Because, immigrants...we get the job done.
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A 3 Minute Hug
Casa de Paz
Locked in a Box
Brene Brown interview with Ibram X. Kendi
2020-07-1640 minAsking for a Friend40: How do I wait well?We all know what it’s like to wait, and it’s not always an easy spot to be in. Whether we are waiting for a pandemic to end, waiting on an answer from God, waiting for a job — we all know what it’s like to wait.
Today I’m chatting with Jessica Hottle about how to wait well. When we find ourselves in seasons of getting a “no” or simply waiting, how can we do it with grace and patience?
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-07-0930 minAsking for a Friend39: How do I talk to my kids about pornography?"How do I talk to my kids about pornography?", a question I recently received from a listener and a great question! It's incredibly important to teach our children about pornography and help create a plan to resist. Kristen Jenson and I discuss this incredibly important topic.
Kristen gives some really great practical advice to help parents with this topic and tools to help our children be prepared. As Kristen says: “you have two choices: you can cross your fingers, or you can be proactive!” Let’s be proactive parents!
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This conversation with Mo Isom is so important for us to walk in freedom around the topic of sex. The Church needs to be having conversations that are uncomfortable but incredibly important! But how can we talk about it?
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Holy Spirit Revivals by Charles Finney
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We urge you to have this conversation with your kids and make it something you talk about often!
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-06-1832 minAsking for a Friend36: What if I doubt God?Is it okay to doubt and ask questions of God? It’s a heavy question with many caveats, but an important conversation!
I had a great chat with Knox McCoy, author of All Things Reconsidered and co-host of The Popcast, to share our own stories of doubt, deconstruction and reconsidering what we've always believed . We hope you find your place here to approach your doubts and ask big questions.
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All Things Reconsidered by Knox McCoy
Searching for Sunday by Rachel Held Evans
The Road Back to...2020-06-1132 minAsking for a Friend35: How can I make my marriage last?Marriage is one of the greatest gifts, but also can be the most challenging to navigate. How can we build lasting marriages, stand strong together, or find ways to reconcile through hard times?
All of your questions are answered this week when I chat with Melody Lovvorn to answer the question “How can I make my marriage last?” Melody has an incredible story of heartache and redemption that will encourage and inspire you to build a lasting marriage!
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Dr. Dan Allender
Gary Thomas
Abba’s Chil...2020-06-0441 minAsking for a Friend34: How should we respond to injustice?When racism rears its ugly head (on a daily basis), we all wonder “how should we respond to injustice?” Most of the time, we are unsure what to do, what to say or how to act.
I am grateful to have had the opportunity to sit with my dear friend Ashley to have a candid conversation about current events, white supremacy, growing up black in America, raising black boys, and much more. I pray this conversation gives you a place to work out some questions and learn.
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Ashley’s post2020-05-2845 minAsking for a Friend33: How can the Church support singles?Single women after often overlooked or lost in the Church. They feel disconnected at times and struggle to find their place within the Church.
I sat down with Crystal Day and we chatted about how the Church can better support and love singles. We also discussed dating and how that can be done well.
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Dating Done Right
Right to Real Love Podcast
The Light We Lost
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-05-2129 minAsking for a Friend32: Does my voice matter?ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Do you ever feel like your voice doesn’t count? Do you feel silenced or not know where to start? Today I’m chatting with Csilla Muscan about why every one has a unique voice and how you have space to share your voice!
Csilla shares about her upbringing in a communist society and how she has learned to use her voice for good over the years. You will be so encouraged by her story!
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Leadershift by John Maxwell
Master Chef Jr. ...2020-05-1434 minAsking for a Friend31: What do moms really want?Mother’s Day is here and I’m taking some time to honor women in motherhood! I sat down with three friends at different stages of motherhood to answer the question “what do moms really want?”.
My guests for this special Mother’s Day episode are Yvette Henry, Sarah Bragg and Tam Hodge! You are going to love hearing different motherhood perspectives and what women really want on Mother’s Day!
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Anjuli Paschall
The Road Back to You
The Gifts of Imperfection
Bri McCoy’s Simp...2020-05-0741 minAsking for a Friend30: How should the Church handle abortion?Did you know that 1 in 3 women have had an abortion? The stats are a bit shocking when you look at them, but tells us that so many women are suffering in silence. I'm joined by my friend Janay to talk about this challenging topic and help us all think a bit deeper about being pro-life, think outside the box a bit and discover how we can truly support women as the Church.
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Forgiven and Set Free
Orthodoxy by DK Chesterson
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janaymcdonaldwilborn.com
2020-04-3045 minAsking for a Friend29: How do I overcome stereotypes?As women, we feel the pressure to be a lot of things and stereotypes are constantly placed on us. How can we overcome those stereotypes?
This week’s conversation with Simi John about stereotypes is a must listen! We chat about stereotypes we’ve both battled and ways to overcome and live out our callings.
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Kim Walker Smith “How He Loves”
The Me I Want to Be by John Ortberg
“So You Want to be Like Christ” by Chuck Swindoll
2020-04-2334 minAsking for a Friend28: Can my marriage survive the apocalypse?We are stuck at home with our spouses — and no amount of premarital counseling prepared us all for quarantine. Can our marriage survive the apocalypse?
Brook and I share some funny marriage stories, and some advice to help your marriage survive during this time!
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100 Humans
Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist
Schitt’s Creek
Brooklyn 99
Kim’s Convenience
Blackish
Superstore
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-04-1632 min
The Devoted Dreamers Podcast149 || God Uses Hardship to Transform Your Heart || Kara-Kae James When your circumstances feel overwhelming, it is difficult to imagine the abundant life Jesus offers or even to believe that it is available to you. This very struggle inspired Kara-Kae James to launch Thrive Moms, a ministry to encourage overwhelmed moms to believe that Jesus has something more for them besides exhaustion and isolation. In pursuit of this dream, Jesus also transformed Kara-Kae’s heart. God works through our valleys, and if we’re not in a valley right now, I don’t know what else to call it. But He is at work, in the sa...2020-04-1538 minAsking for a Friend27: Can my parenting survive the apocalypse?Does anyone else feel like they are trapped in the apocalypse and can't escape? We are all trying to survive this crazy season, and many of us are wondering — will my parenting survive?
Today I sat down with my friend Melanie Dale and we discussed our love for apocalyptic fiction (and dislike for the actual apocalypse). We share a lot of fun resources to read, Melanie encouraged us to find GRACE.
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The Fireman by Joe Hill
Outbreak on Netflix
Station 11 by Emily St. John Ma...2020-04-0928 minAsking for a Friend26: How can I have a healthy body image?Why is it so stinking hard to just love ourselves and have a healthy body image? As women, we pick ourselves a part and fight the battle with the mirror every day. But can we actually have a healthy body image? We think so! I sat down with my friend Brittany Estes to discuss this challenging topic. We have both struggled with body image after finding ourselves at a weight we weren’t happy with and talked about the challenge of learning to love ourselves through that.
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...2020-04-0233 minAsking for a Friend25: So...now what?I'm taking the reins of the show with trembling knees but with a big heart! Listen in to this short and sweet episode to hear the heart behind the new direction of Asking for a Friend with Kara-Kae!
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-03-2613 minAsking for a Friend24: What happens when life changes direction?Sometimes life shifts and changes and we feel a bit scattered. How can we find our footing when everything changes direction? Today we are sharing some BIG news for the podcast and chat about life changes.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-03-1930 minAsking for a Friend23: How can I raise kids in an entitled world?We recently received this question from a listener and we knew it was a topic we had to discuss! Raising kids in our western culture, we can get lost in raising them in the midst of entitlement. But how can we raise grateful, well-rounded humans? Join us as we share our stories and share some great ideas to implement!
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-03-1232 minAsking for a Friend22: Is it OK to take medication for my mental health?A big, heavy question and one that can be difficult to ask within the Church. - is medication OK for mental health? Today on the show, we are discussing this very question and what it looks like for women who love Jesus...but struggle with mental health.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-03-0538 minAsking for a Friend21: Is anxiety a choice?It’s not much of a surprise, any shows we talk about mental health are some of our most popular shows -- it just goes to show how much women are struggling with mental health, and maybe unsure how to have these discussions or possibly hiding their struggles. We want to encourage you with this discussion and if you’re struggling with mental health, you are not alone! Join us today as we answer the question “is anxiety a choice?”
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Undone RedoneUR 217: Grace in the Chaos — Kara Kae JamesOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Melody sits down with Kara-Kae James to talk about the challenges and triumphs of motherhood, particularly with postpartum depression. Kara is an author of 6 books and is passionate about seeing women’s lives changed and impacted through the truth of God’s Word. Kara explains that she knows so many moms out there are struggling like her and in desperate need of a reminder that God loves them. She works to help women engage in meaningful conversations about difficult topics and push them to rethink their lives by looking closer at t...2020-02-2600 minAsking for a Friend20: Is self-care actually good for me?Today we are tackling the super popular topic of “self-care”. What is it? Why do we need it? How does it differ from soul care? We toss around manis, pedis, and yoga and call it “self-care... but that’s not necessarily the case. According to the definition, self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health.
Join us as we dig deeper into this topic and how we can truly find a place of renewal for our minds and bodies!
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2020-02-2030 minAsking for a Friend19: How can I love broken people?We all have people in our lives who have been through hard things and we want to know how to love them well. Or maybe the person you are struggling to love is YOU and we just want to be able to love ourselves well through our hardships. Ashley Abercrombie joins us this week to discuss how to love broken people. Ashley is the author of the book “Rise of the Truth Teller” and she has an incredible story to share!
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Send in a voice message: https://anch...2020-02-1338 minAsking for a Friend18: Am I too strong for my husband?Women are expected to be quiet and meek…but what happens when we aren’t? What does that look like in our marriages, especially if our husband has a quieter personality than you? Join us as we discuss marriage and battle those feelings that we are “too strong” when we are anything but quiet and meek!
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-02-0624 minAsking for a Friend17: Why are friendships so hard?Friendships as an adult can be so stinking hard! Join Kara-Kae & Elizabeth this week as they chat through the difficulties of friendships, chat through a lot of listener comments and questions, and offer some resources to help you navigate relationships. If you ever feel alone in the struggle to find deep, meaningful relationships -- this episode is for you!
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-01-3042 minAsking for a Friend16: How can I live with chronic pain?Thanks for joining us for another Episode of Asking for a Friend. This week we are tackling a health and wellness topic and answering the question , “How can I live with chronic pain?” We share the ups and downs of our own chronic pain issues and give you encouragement to live well in whatever season you find yourself in!
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-01-2340 minAsking for a Friend15: Is our criminal justice system working?This week we are talking about the criminal justice system and answering the question, “Is the criminal justice system working?” We’ll talk about the problems we see in the prison system, racial and social class bias, prison reform, rehabilitation, and much more. We also discuss the book and recent movie, Just Mercy, by Bryan Stevenson.
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IG: @karaka...2020-01-1636 minAsking for a Friend14: How can I live a better year?There's so much pressure to start the year off right, lose the holiday weight, and be the best version of you...it can all be a little overwhelming! In today's episode Kara-Kae and Elizabeth tackle the question "how can I find purpose in 2020?". They dive into topics like "living a small dream life" and what that means for women, and focus on hitting the reset to live a more purposeful year.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-01-0933 minAsking for a Friend13: What did we learn from 2019?What do Beyonce, women’s soccer, congress, and Beth Moore have in common? You’ll have to listen to find out! What a year it’s been for women, the Church and culture! As we enter 2020, Kara-Kae and Elizabeth reflect on the people and events that impacted them the most in 2019.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2020-01-0240 minAsking for a Friend12: How can the holidays be more meaningful?It’s a stressful time of year, isn’t it? Do you feel as stretched thin as we do? So, how can we make the holidays a more meaningful time? Join Kara-Kae and Elizabeth as they pause to discuss the crazy season we are in, and how we can find some margin, peace and meaning in it all.
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Website: www...2019-12-1936 minAsking for a FriendBONUS: Women in the Church - What we learnedToday we are jumping in with a bonus episode to recap the "Women in the Church" series. Kara-Kae and Elizabeth chat through the high points of the three-episode series and talk about their big takeaways. Join us for this special bonus episode to go a little deeper into the topic from their perspectives!
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2019-12-1623 minAsking for a Friend11: Should women lead in the Church? (Part 3)Kara-Kae and Elizabeth continue their three-part discussion on women in the Church by asking the question, “Should women lead in the Church?” Today they interview Mary Alice Birdwhistell, senior pastor at Calvary Baptist Church in Waco, Texas. Mary Alice presents the egalitarian point of view and offers great insight into her own calling as a pastor and advice for other women who feel led to lead in a church.
If you missed Episode 9 (where we introduced the topic of women leading in the Church) and/or Episode 10 (where we interviewed complementarian pastor John Durham), we highly recommend you...2019-12-1244 minAsking for a Friend10: Should women should lead in the Church? (Part 2)Kara-Kae and Elizabeth continue their discussion on women in the Church by asking the question, “Should women lead in the Church?” Today they interviewed Pastor John Durham from Highland Baptist Church in Waco, Texas. John describes himself as a “kind complementarian” and leads listeners through what it means to affirm and support women in ministry while still holding to a complementarian view of women in the church.
If you missed Episode 9—the first part of our three-part series—we highly recommend you go back and listen to that episode first, then dive into this episode.
VIEW FULL SH...2019-12-0548 minAsking for a Friend9: Should women lead in the Church? (Part 1)Happy Thanksgiving, friends! In this week's episode, Kara-Kae and Elizabeth dive into the question "Should women lead in the Church?". They discuss Complementarianism and Egalitarianism and break down a lot of scripture. They also share some listener experiences as well as their own when it comes to women leading within the Church. Make sure you check out this week's full show notes, there's a lot to dig into with this heavy topic!
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YOU...2019-11-2850 minAsking for a Friend8: Is adoption helpful or hurtful?This week co-hosts Kara-Kae and Elizabeth are recognizing National Adoption Month. As adoptive mamas, they want to explore the heartache and joys of adoption and answer the question, is adoption helpful or harmful? They each share their personal stories of adoption and talk about the painful and joyful parts of adoption. They end by answering three listener questions pertaining to adoption.
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Asking for a Friend7: How do I handle my anxious child?Kara-Kae and Elizabeth offer an insightful and personal look at the issue of anxiety in children, and they answer the question many parents are asking, "How do I handle my anxious child?" Together, they explore the causes and symptoms of anxiety in children and also share their own stories of dealing with anxious kids.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2019-11-1445 min
Asking for a Friend6: Am I experiencing stress or burnout?Kara-Kae and Elizabeth discuss the difference between stress and burnout. Kara-Kae offers her personal experience dealing with burnout this past year. Together, they discuss what to do if you are experiencing burnout and ways you can help a friend or spouse who is going through the same thing.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2019-11-0742 min
The Purpose ShowEp 126: Feminism & Being a Strong Woman with Kara-Kae JamesFeminism has kind of been a dirty word in our society. I know a lot of us have been misinformed or hurt by this word or some of the ideology behind this word, but I have learned so much over the past few years about feminism and about God’s heart and purpose for women. And I have wanted to talk about this for many months now, but it’s such a big and careful conversation to have. So, I asked my friend and author, Kara-Kae James to join me in a discussion about feminism, what it is, and the...2019-11-0640 min
Asking for a Friend5: Why does mentoring matter?Kara-Kae and Elizabeth discuss the importance of mentoring and discipleship both inside and outside the Church. They break down Titus 2 and discuss what Scripture says about older generations of women mentoring the younger generation. They answer questions such as, What role should the Church play in mentoring and How do you mentor someone who is not interested in growing spiritually? Join us as we challenge each other to engage in mentoring for the sake of our generation, and the one following us.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2019-10-3143 min
Asking for a Friend4: What's wrong with me?Kara-Kae and Elizabeth discussed the difficult, and personal, topic of depression. Each of them told their own stories of dealing with depression. They discussed the Church’s response to depression and the societal stigma surrounding depression. Then, they offered advice on how you can help someone who might be dealing with depression, and how you can seek help if you think you might be struggling with depression.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2019-10-2451 min
Asking for a Friend3: Why can't I do that?Kara-Kae and Elizabeth welcomed guest Ashley Danielle as they discussed the challenging topic of cultural appropriation and answered the question, “Why can’t I do that?” They offered a definition of cultural appropriation and ways we see this play out in our culture today. They also explored ways that Jesus treated different races and cultures with respect. Finally, they discussed the importance of understanding other cultures without defending our own thoughts/words/actions.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2019-10-2452 min
Asking for a Friend2: How can I love myself when I don't like my body?Co-hosts Kara-Kae James and Elizabeth Oates dive into the topic of body image and answer the question, “How can I love myself when I don’t like my body?” They discuss the lies we believe from the enemy and the world, and they offer a Scriptural view on the true purpose of our bodies. Then, they offer listeners practical ways to love themselves, even if they don’t like their body.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2019-10-2445 min
Asking for a Friend1: How do I lead when I don't feel like a leader?Kara-Kae and Elizabeth tackle the subject of leadership and answer the question, “How do I lead when I don’t feel like a leader?” They encourage listeners that they don’t need a fancy title or an army of people under them in order to be a leader. By offering Scripture supporting the idea that we can lead even when we feel ill-equipped. Finally, they offer practical steps women can take to lead, no matter how big or “small” their influence.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2019-10-2446 min
Mom Wants MoreFinding a Positive Narrative in Motherhood with Kara Kae JamesWhat's the #1 factor that dictates how you show up in the world? It might not be what you think... Guys, if there's one thing we're learning lately, it's the power of our mindset. The story we tell ourselves ABOUT ourselves is a mighty thing. We can't always control our circumstances & we can't always control our feelings, but we CAN learn self control when it comes to our mindset and thought patterns. This relates to just about everything we do. Our work, our day-to-day habits, our goal-setting, and for SURE our mothering. It can be real easy to...2019-10-2232 min
Asking for a FriendWelcome To The Asking For A Friend PodcastWelcome To The Asking For A Friend Podcast where each week Kara-Kae James and Elizabeth Oates confront topics we all have questions about . . . but are too afraid to ask.
Join us as we break free from the status quo and engage in conversations that matter.
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theaskingpod/message2019-10-1404 min
Jesus Over EverythingFRIDAY BONUS – Interview with Kara-Kae JamesEnjoy this first of three Friday bonus episodes in August as Lisa talks with author and mom Kara-Kae James about how to embrace the abundance Jesus offers, even during the seasons of motherhood, instead of falling into survival mode. Links: Website Thrive Moms Mom Up: Thriving with Grace in the Chaos of Motherhood Instagram Facebook Twitter Learn more about Lisa at LisaWhittle.com Produced by Unmutable™
Connect with Lisa:Website: https://www.lisawhittle.comSubstack: https://letsbeclear.substack.comYou...2019-08-0226 min
The 5 Minute Mom PodcastThriving in Motherhood with Kara-Kae JamesMotherhood can be hard and it’s easy to slip into survival mode in our parenting. So, how can we start thriving instead of surviving? Today’s guest Kara-Kae James points us back to the strength and abundance we have in Christ. Kara-Kae is the author of Mom Up and through her own testimony, she offers so much grace and the reminder that Christ came to give us the abundant life in every season. 2019-05-2442 min
Mom EmpoweredWhen You're More Than Just Surviving: An Interview on Thriving in Motherhood with Kara-Kae JamesThe Lord’s desire for us is not just to survive motherhood, but rather to THRIVE in motherhood and to experience the abundant life he has for us! This is a message that Kara-Kae James is so passionate about and has created an entire ministry on. If you’re at all familiar with her work through Thrive Moms, then I know you are just going to LOVE her new book, Mom Up: Thriving with Grace in the Chaos of Motherhood, which I had the pleasure of chatting to her about for today’s episode. Grab your earbuds and join in on...2019-04-2943 min
She Speaks StoriesEpisode #40. Kara Kae JamesGrab your cup of coffee, friends. You're going to love our guest! After having three babies in less than three years, Kara Kae James found herself battling postpartum anxiety and depression. Where was the abundant life that Jesus promised? She was barely surviving, and she knew she wasn't alone. There were many women just like her who were desperate to hear that God loved them and what they were doing every day really mattered. Prop up your feet, and lean into Kara Kae's story.2019-04-1243 min
The Gospel-Shaped Life Podcast060: Thriving with Grace in Motherhood with Kara-Kae JamesKara-Kae James is wife to Brook, mama to four, founder of the ministry Thrive Moms, and now new author of the book Mom Up: Thriving with Grace in the Chaos of Motherhood. She shares with us today how we can go from merely surviving in motherhood to truly thriving in the abundant life Christ came to give us. I know you will walk away from this chat encouraged and built up in your role as a mom! What we Chat about in This Episode: ~What led Kara-Kae to write her book ~Kara-Kae's journey...2019-03-271h 00
Tales of MoxieKara-Kae James- Mom Up- Thriving With Grace in the Chaos of MotherhoodKara-Kae James, author of Mom Up, and founder and executive director of Thrive Moms, joins us this week to talk about thriving with grave in the chaos of motherhood. We talk about finding our gospel identity as moms in the trenches with little ones, building a community of mom friends who build up and encourage, and what it means to abide in Christ in all seasons of life. Kara-Kae can be found at www.karakaejames.com
2019-03-2046 minThe Adoptive MomS4E49: Mom Up! - Kara-Kae JamesI really wish there was a good way to type out that “in the club” airhorn noise. You know the one. If I could, I would put it right here because oh my goodness y’all SEASON 4 IS HERE!!!!
What better way to celebrate than by featuring Kara-Kae James??2019-02-1855 min
Surviving SarahEpisode 159: Kara Kae James | Thrive Moms founder on embracing the chaos of motherhood & finding joyI was happy to welcome Kara Kae James back to the show. She is a Surviving Sarah OG appearing way back on Episode 33. She is the founder and executive director of Thrive Moms which is a ministry all about empowering moms. She and her husband have 4 kids and she just launched her first book into the world titled “Mom Up—Thriving With Grace in the Chaos of Motherhood” We have a great conversation about what it looks like to embrace the chaos of motherhood. We talk about practical ways to do that, what helps us cultivate joy and ho...2019-01-0844 min
The Messy Table with Jenn JewellEP. 46 | Kara-Kae James [Mom Up: Thriving with Grace in the Chaos of Motherhood]Haaaaaaappy New Year, friends! We’re running into 2019 with guns a’blazing as we kickoff a brand new season and episode at The Messy Table—an ordinary space for real women, imperfect stories, and the God who’s at work in our mess.
My guest today is Kara-Kae James—a sweet friend from those good ol’ college days at Oklahoma State University (Go Pokes!). She’s the Executive Director of Thrive Moms, a pastor’s wife, and the bio + adoptive mama of four beautiful kids. Plus, she’s launching her book baby into the world on THIS VERY DAY—Mom Up!2019-01-0138 min
Escape Reality, Dive Into a Full Audiobook's FantasyMom Up: Thriving With Grace in the Chaos of Motherhood Audiobook by Kara-Kae JamesListen to this audiobook in full for free onhttps://hotaudiobook.com/freeID: 360042
Title: Mom Up: Thriving With Grace in the Chaos of Motherhood
Author: Kara-Kae James
Narrator: Kara-Kae James
Format: Unabridged
Length: 03:50:39
Language: English
Release date: 01-01-19
Publisher: Oasis Audio
Genres: Religion & Spirituality, Counseling & Inspirational
Summary:
Every mom can identify with the feeling that they’re in a race to the finish line every day, stumbling over everything in their path—including Legos and dirty laundry!
Kara-Kae James knows how overwhelming motherhood can be. As she writes, “When we come to the place where we think that we have failed—...2019-01-013h 50
Feathers : Faith in FlightFeathers Season 8 Episode 13 with Kara-Kae James: Thriving in MotherhoodKara-Kae James shares her struggles with anxiety and depression after birthing three daughters in less than three years. She shares how she was able to navigate that season. Her passion for thriving as a mother led her and a friend to start Thrive Moms, a ministry dedicated to helping moms thrive in motherhood. ThriveMoms.com KaraKaeJames.com 2018-04-2439 min
Heroes For HerEP 21: Kara Kae James - Called to Thrive, Not SurviveMy guest for episode 21 is Kara Kae James. "A complete mess covered in grace", KK is a wife to Brook and mama to three girls and one newly adopted and adorable baby boy. She is the co-founder and Executive Director of Thrive Moms, an online ministry that provides daily encouragement and resources for moms everywhere. Thrive Moms has been a life-changing resource for me as I've spent the last two years learning about what it means to be a mom. Like so many moms out there, I spent the early months in survival mode. I thought that if I could ju...2016-08-0527 min
Heroes For HerEP 21: Kara Kae James - Called to Thrive, Not SurviveMy guest for episode 21 is Kara Kae James. "A complete mess covered in grace", KK is a wife to Brook and mama to three girls and one newly adopted and adorable baby boy. She is the co-founder and Executive Director of Thrive Moms, an online ministry that provides daily encouragement and resources for moms everywhere.
Thrive Moms has been a life-changing resource for me as I've spent the last two years learning about what it means to be a mom. Like so many moms out there, I spent the early months in survival mode. I thought that if I could...2016-08-0527 min
Heroes For HerEP 21: Kara Kae James - Called to Thrive, Not SurviveMy guest for episode 21 is Kara Kae James. "A complete mess covered in grace", KK is a wife to Brook and mama to three girls and one newly adopted and adorable baby boy. She is the co-founder and Executive Director of Thrive Moms, an online ministry that provides daily encouragement and resources for moms everywhere. Thrive Moms has been a life-changing resource for me as I've spent the last two years learning about what it means to be a mom. Like so many moms out there, I spent the early months in survival mode. I thought that if I could ju...2016-08-0428 minSurviving SarahEpisode 33: Kara-Kae JamesKara-Kae James joins me for episode 33. She is a preacher's wife who lives in Texas with their four kids. You may know her as the executive director of Thrive Moms--a ministry that encourages and equips moms. We talk about how much we love Target (and no Target isn't a sponsor, but it probably should be), postpardum depression and anxiety, adoption and how she makes working from home work for her.2016-07-2656 min