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Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50What If Everything You Knew About Porn Was Wrong? | Ep. 108What if everything you thought about porn was wrong?In this episode let’s dive into the world of ethical porn—porn made with consent, transparency, fair pay, and respect for all performers. Unlike mainstream porn, ethical porn focuses on real people, real pleasure, and real connection.👉 What you’ll learn in this episode:What ethical porn is and how it’s madeWhy mainstream porn sets dangerous, unrealistic expectationsThe importance of consent, safety, and fair pay in adult contentHow to find ethical platforms you can feel good supportingWhy ethical porn can help reframe intimacy in healthy...
2025-08-2604 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Vor, Foot Fetishes & Cultural Shifts in Desire—A Conversation on Fetishes with Nikki Davis FeinblumIn this episode, I sit down with Niki Davis-Fainbloom (aka Miss Bloom), a non-monogamy pleasure and fetish coach, to explore the world of fetishes, kinks, and how our culture shapes desire. Nikki shares her research from hundreds of interviews with people who hold “uncommon” desires, and breaks down the difference between kinks and fetishes, the origins of certain turn-ons, and how to talk about these vulnerable topics with a partner. From the neuroscience of foot fetishes to the playful roleplay of vor (the desire to be “swallowed”), this conversation is packed with insights, humor, and permission to embrace who you trul...
2025-08-1925 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Protect Your Love AND Your Wallet: Relationship Money Red Flags | Ep. 106Cheating isn’t the biggest relationship killer—money is. I reveal the hidden financial red flags that can quietly destroy trust and security, and how to protect yourself before it’s too late.I share my own experience of ignoring the warning signs and what it cost me, plus the subtle clues you might be missing: lavish spending on a modest income, secretive money habits, repeated requests for “loans,” inconsistent stories about debt, and more.You’ll learn:How to spot financial instability earlyWhy joint expenses should never mean giving up controlHow to protect yourself wit...
2025-08-1206 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Raising Kids & Loving Freely: Life After Monogamy | Ep. 105In this episode, I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Ariela Salinas Fiora. She’s an actor, writer, director, sex educator, and fierce advocate for fat, queer, and Latinx representation. But what really struck me was her deeply personal journey into ethical non-monogamy—especially within a decades-long marriage, while raising kids, and embracing her full identity as a woman over 50.We talked about everything: how she and her husband first explored the “seven-year itch,” how their kids found out about their open marriage, what it means to be oriented toward multiple partners, and how she’s dealt with...
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Spicy SpectrumSpicy Special: Sex Gets Better with Age with Karen BigmanHow are you enjoying the episodes? Send a message!In this episode of Spicy Spectrum, I’m joined by the unapologetically bold Karen Bigman, Certified Sex Educator, Menopause Coach, and host of Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50. We dive into how sexual desire evolves over time and why getting older doesn’t mean the end of great sex. In fact, it might be the beginning of the best sex of your life.Karen opens up about discovering enhanced pleasure and confidence post-50, the power of communication, and why...
2025-07-3031 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Porn Addiction vs. Entertainment: How to Tell the Difference | Ep. 104Porn: educational tool or relationship wrecker? This week, I’m breaking down the truth behind adult content—how it impacts solo and partnered intimacy, when it becomes problematic, and how it can actually support a healthier relationship and better sex. We will also explore the world of ethical porn, real-life arousal, and how fantasy on-screen isn't always what it seems in real life.If you’ve ever wondered whether porn is hurting or helping your connection, this episode is a must-listen.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Is Porn Really Bad for You?01:42 – When Porn Becomes a P...
2025-07-2906 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Bedroom Mistakes Men Don’t Know They’re Making — with Caitlin V | Ep. 103In this unfiltered conversation, I sit down with renowned sex and relationship coach Caitlin V. to explore the truths about male performance anxiety, orgasms, slowing down intimacy, and why men might be misunderstanding their own desires — and women’s. We discuss how societal pressures create performance myths, the importance of pacing and communication in the bedroom, why curiosity beats confidence, and the misconceptions around anal play, identity, and masculinity. Plus, Caitlin shares her wildest orgasm story and the fantasy she hasn’t tried… yet.👉 This episode is a masterclass in rewriting the rules of connection, pleasure, and redefining...
2025-07-2238 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Can’t Stay Hard? Here’s What Really Matters | Ep. 102In this honest and empowering episode, I break down the stigma around erectile issues and the myth that a hard penis is the only key to great intimacy. Whether you or your partner struggles with maintaining an erection, this episode offers a fresh perspective on redefining intimacy, practical tips to keep the connection hot, and how to explore pleasure beyond penetration. From medical insights to creative intimacy tips, Karen shares how couples can stay connected — soft or hard.Ready to feel Hotter, Wiser, and Wilder?Join my brand-new Hotter, Wiser, Wilder Masterclass — real talk, real tool...
2025-07-1505 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Is Painful Sex Normal? The Bedroom Gap Explained by Dr. Maria Sophocles | Ep. 101In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Maria Sophocles to break the silence around painful sex, vaginal atrophy, menopause, and the damaging scripts of ‘duty sex’. Dr. Sophocles shares:Why so many women endure painful sex silentlyThe difference between vaginal atrophy, vulvodynia, and other causes of painHow treatments like vaginal estrogen, lubricants, and dilators can helpWhy sexual pain should never define your worth as a partnerThe importance of communication with doctors and partnersHer upcoming documentary HOT! exploring midlife women’s sexualityHer personal definition of sex: joy, curiosity, and humorThis episode is a must-listen for any woma...
2025-07-0833 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Top Ten Moments Of Taboo To Truth | Ep. 100In this milestone 100th episode, I’m celebrating by launching my Hotter, Wiser, Wilder adult sex ed masterclass and revisiting the 10 most unforgettable moments from Taboo to Truth. Inside this episode:Why younger men pursue older womenThe 5 secrets of desire: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, attunementTestosterone myths & benefits for womenWhy fantasy is essential for getting turned onReframing foreplay to coreplaySexual snacking to reignite connectionThe anatomy and purpose of the clitorisThe truth about midlife dating insecuritiesWhy communication is the foundation of great sexHow to keep sex creative and fun in long-term relationshipsTimestamps:00:00 – Welcome & Celebrat...
2025-07-0118 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Inside Babeland: A No-Shame Tour of Sex Toys | Ep. 99In this special on-location episode, I visited Babeland, the iconic sex shop in Brooklyn, NY, for an educational and eye-opening walkthrough of the latest in adult toys and accessories. Joined by certified sex educator Lisa Finn, we explore a wide range of products—from vibrators and anal plugs to BDSM gear and positioning pillows.Whether you're new to sex toys or looking to expand your toolkit, this episode delivers a shame-free, inclusive, and curiosity-driven look at what pleasure can truly be.👀 This is a highly visual episode—watch the full tour on YouTube for the complet...
2025-06-2402 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Truth About Orgasms, Vibrators & Vaginas – with Dr. Laurie Mintz | Ep. 98 Part 2In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Laurie Mintz (Becoming Cliterate), we unpack some of the biggest myths around women's intimacy, including the idea that satisfaction should come from one kind of experience alone.Timestamps:0:00 – Missed Part 1? Go Back!0:45 – Why Vibrators Are Game-Changers2:30 – Debunking the Biggest Myths About Toys4:30 – How Vibration Supports Pleasure and Healing6:15 – Do Vibrators Replace Partners? Let’s Be Real.8:00 – Rethinking ‘Foreplay’: The Four Plays That Work10:16 - Announcing My New Masterclass - Hotter, Wiser, Wilder!10:30 – Sexual Guilt & The Orgasm Gap
2025-06-1721 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Why Women Fake It: The Orgasm Gap & What To Do with Dr. Laurie Mintz | Ep. 98 Part 1In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Laurie Mintz—author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex—to debunk the most harmful lies women are told about pleasure. From the myth of orgasm through penetration to the overlooked power of the clitoris, this conversation covers the real truth behind the so-called "pleasure gap." Get ready for a candid, empowering anatomy lesson, personal revelations, and a fresh take on vibrators, vulvas, and voice. This is Part 1 of a must-hear two-part series. Timestamps:00:00 - Welcome & Guest Intro: Dr. Laurie Mint...
2025-06-1018 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Supercharge Your Orgasm with Tanya Griffin | Ep. 97In this episode I welcome Tanya Griffin, founder of “oOYes,” an ecstatic intimacy and cannabis lifestyle brand. Together, we dive deep into how cannabis can elevate female pleasure, the science behind multi-orgasmic experiences, and how to use both systemic and topical products to enhance your sensual life—especially in midlife and beyond. From THC-infused lube to breaking down barriers around oral, nothing is off the table. You’ll laugh, learn, and leave feeling liberated.Timestamps:00:00 - Welcome + Meet Tanya from Oh Yes01:15 - From Cannabis to Climax: Tanya’s Entrepreneurial Journey04:28 - Cannabis...
2025-06-0337 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Delayed Ejaculation: What’s Causing It—And How to Fix It | Ep. 96In this episode, I dive deep into the often-overlooked world of delayed ejaculation—a condition that affects up to 10% of men and becomes more common with age. I break down the physical and psychological causes, including hormone shifts, nerve damage, porn habits, and emotional trauma. With candid reflections from my own experience with orgasmia, I offer a compassionate and practical guide for men (and their partners) to reclaim pleasure, confidence, and connection.Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction: Why This Topic Matters01:20 – My Personal Journey with Orgasmia03:00 – What Is Delayed Ejaculation?04:15 – Defining “Normal” Timing vs. Clinical Diagnosis05:30 – How Common Is It? (Stats + Agi...
2025-05-2706 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Reverse Erectile Dysfunction & Save Your Sex Life with Dr. Elliot Justin | Ep. 95In this candid episode, I sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin—emergency physician turned sex tech innovator—to talk erectile fitness, aging erections, and why the humble c*ck ring might just be the unsung hero of midlife pleasure. From horse accidents and centaur metaphors to revolutionary wearable tech, this episode explores the real (and often overlooked) science behind erections and the emotional toll of performance anxiety. If you're ready to shift shame, embrace better tools, and reignite connection with your partner—this one's for you.Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction01:40 – Meet Dr. Elliot Justin & his journey from ER to sex tec...
2025-05-2023 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 505 Myths that are Ruining your Sex Life | Ep. 94We’ve all heard them—the whispered “rules” about how sex should be. Be spontaneous. Always want it. Orgasms are everything. Sound familiar? But what if I told you these so-called truths are actually myths… and they’re killing our sex lives behind closed doors? These myths sneak into the sheets with us. In this episode, I’m breaking down five myths that could be ruining your sex life—and offering a fresh, honest look at how to bring the pleasure back. One of them might even surprise you (myth #4 is a game changer).Let's dive in!Ti...
2025-05-1306 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Surprising Truth About BDSM with Sir Leezus | Ep. 93, Part 2Some people say kink is just about pain. Others think it’s only for people with trauma. Some have never given it a second thought—and then there are those who know exactly what their kink is… or at least think they do. But what if kink is about more than any of that?In this episode, I sit down with Sir Leezus, a sensual sadist and erotic power exchange expert, to talk about what really draws people into kink. Is it healing? Is it about control? Is it even sex at all? For some, kink happens withou...
2025-05-0615 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Surprising Truth About BDSM with Sir Leezus | Ep. 93, Part 1Some people say kink is just about pain. Others think it’s only for people with trauma. Some have never given it a second thought—and then there are those who know exactly what their kink is… or at least think they do. But what if kink is about more than any of that?In this episode, I sit down with Sir Leezus, a sensual sadist and erotic power exchange expert, to talk about what really draws people into kink. Is it healing? Is it about control? Is it even sex at all? For some, kink happens withou...
2025-04-2915 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 5013 Spots Men NEVER Touch (But Women Beg For) | Ep 92Think you know what turns you on? Think again. We tend to treat pleasure like it lives in a few familiar places—the usual G-spots, the go-to zones we all default to. But the truth? Your entire skin is wired for sensation. Your body is a playground of possibility… and chances are, you’re only exploring a fraction of it.In this episode, I’m taking you beyond the basics—past the genitals, breasts, and all the usual G-spots—to uncover the overlooked 13 erogenous zones that can completely transform your experience of desire. No penetration required. Just curiosity, p...
2025-04-2207 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Boost Your Confidence In The Bedroom with Orisha Re’ Lampkin | Ep 91What if the biggest obstacle to pleasure in the bedroom… isn’t your partner, but the stories you tell yourself about your own body?What if confidence, connection, and mind-blowing pleasure weren’t things you had to chase—but things you could unlock from within?In this episode, I sit down with Orisha Re’ Lampkin—movement alchemist, pleasure revolutionary, and founder of Fearless Revolution—to dismantle the myths keeping women from fully owning their sensuality. We dive deep into how cultural conditioning, body shame, and self-doubt smother our sexual spark… and how movement, mindset, and yes—even moaning—...
2025-04-1527 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 5010 Realistic Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life | Ep 90Ever feel like your sex life is on autopilot? We’ve all been there – the same routine, the same positions, the same predictable outcome. What if I told you your sex life could be playful, adventurous, and deeply satisfying again? Routine can be the death of passion—but it doesn’t have to be.In this episode, I delve into 10 ways to have better sex and break free from "wallpaper sex" (you know, the same old routine). Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or exploring solo pleasure, these tips will help you reconnect with pleasure, curiosity, and fun. S...
2025-04-0805 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Cougar Confessions with Cindy Gallop | Ep 89Who says turning 65 means giving up amazing sex and settling for solitude? Just because you don’t have a husband or kids doesn’t mean life has to be dull—if anything, it means you’re free to live exactly how you want.In this episode, I sit down with Cindy Gallop, a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant, and founder of MakeLoveNotPorn, to challenge outdated beliefs about aging, sex, and relationships. Cindy’s fearless approach to life proves that getting older isn’t about slowing down—it’s about embracing what you truly want.We dive into why she cho...
2025-04-0127 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Surprising Truth About Testosterone Therapy | Ep 88In this episode, I dive into the benefits of testosterone for women. I share my own experience with testosterone therapy and how it helps me with everything from libido and orgasms to brain fog and muscle mass.It’s not just about sex drive—testosterone also helps with bone strength, hot flashes, and even Alzheimer’s prevention. I break down how it’s prescribed, why proper dosing is so important, and why you should never borrow your husband’s testosterone (trust me, I’ve got a wild story about that).Whether you’re curious about testosterone...
2025-03-2508 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Estrogen: The Controversial Menopause Fix with Dr. Sadaf Lodhi | Ep 87Estrogen plays a role in your brain, bones, skin, and even your heart. When menopause hits and estrogen levels drop, the ripple effects can be dramatic—affecting everything from your mood and energy to your libido and long-term health.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sadaf Lodhi, a board-certified OB-GYN, menopause expert, sex coach, and host of The Muslim Sex Podcast to talk about everything from the forgotten sex-positive history of Islam to painful sex during perimenopause that is so common but rarely discussed, and the ongoing debate over estrogen hormone therapy. If you’re i...
2025-03-1828 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Prescription Drugs & Hormone Therapy for Low Libido | Ep 86Low libido, or hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), can be a tough challenge for many women, particularly during midlife.In this episode, I take a closer look at the various medical treatments available for low libido, covering everything from prescription medications to hormone therapy and beyond. Whether you're dealing with hormonal shifts, relationship challenges, or simply feeling drained, this episode offers practical advice and solutions to help you regain your sexual vitality and feel more like yourself again.If this episode resonates with you, don’t forget to subscribe, share with someone who might benefit, an...
2025-03-1109 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Truth about Hormone Replacement Therapy and Breast Cancer | Ep 85Menopause isn’t a disease. So why does the world treat it like one? The whispers start early. Get ready—your body is about to betray you. The fear. The shame. The idea that once you hit a certain age, you’re less vibrant, less desirable, less… you. But what if that’s all a lie?In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, a renowned OB-GYN, women’s health expert, and author of Menopause Bootcamp, to break down the myths, misconceptions, and truths about menopause. From the science behind hormonal changes to the emotional and societal...
2025-03-0446 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Squirting and Midlife Sex: What’s Real, What’s Hype, and How to Explore It | Ep 84Is squirting the ultimate out-of-body orgasmic experience, or just another overhyped sex myth? Some women swear it’s euphoric, others feel indifferent, and some want nothing to do with it. But what is squirting, really? Is it just pee? Is it something every woman can do? And how can you (or your partner) experience it?In this episode, I break down the science and psychology behind squirting, from the anatomy of the female body to techniques that can lead to female ejaculation. Plus, we talk about the mental blocks that might be holding you back—and why prep...
2025-02-2505 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Reclaiming Power: Sex Work, Justice & Norma Buster’s Fight Against Online Abuse | Ep 83What if your most intimate moments were weaponized against you—and no one cared?At 19, Norma Buster thought she was just ending a relationship. Instead, she became the target of relentless stalking, threats, and the ultimate violation: her private photos exposed online. She turned to the law for justice. It failed her, but she didn’t back down. Now, as Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg and host of Oral Arguments, Norma is fighting tech-facilitated abuse, exposing legal loopholes, and demanding change.In this episode, we dive into her harrowing journey from victim to advocate. Why...
2025-02-1820 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Midlife Dating: Red Flags to Run From, Green Flags to Stay For | Ep 82You spot a red flag, and what do you do? Run. Someone’s still obsessed with their ex? Gone. Talks only about themselves? No thanks. Financially unstable in their 50s? Hard pass.We’ve trained ourselves to scan for every possible warning sign before we even give someone a real chance. But here’s a thought—when was the last time you actively looked for green flags? The little signs that someone might actually be worth your time?In this episode, I flip the script on dating and relationships. Sure, avoiding red flags is important, but what...
2025-02-1108 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Orgasm Equation: Science, Pleasure, and Everything In Between | Ep 80We all know orgasms feel incredible, but how often do we actually stop and explore what they really mean?In this episode, I walk you through the science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm—the heart-racing, muscle-contracting, hormone-releasing magic that feels so good. We also take an honest look at how men and women experience orgasms differently: why women often need more time to get in the mood, and how men can experience orgasms without ejaculation.But this isn’t just about anatomy or science; it’s about YOU. I share personal storie...
2025-01-2812 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Power of Somatic Practices: Transforming Relationships and Intimacy with Kiana Reeves | Ep 79How do emotional and sexual wellness intertwine to redefine intimacy in midlife?In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I sit down with somatic sex educator Kiana Reeves for a deep dive into the evolving dynamics of relationships and sexual intimacy, particularly during midlife. We talk about the vital connection between emotional and sexual well-being, exploring how authentic communication and intentional practices can transform both personal and partnered experiences.Kiana shares her expertise on somatic approaches to intimacy, offering insights into how cultivating love, safety, and embodiment can lead to a richer, more fulfilling sexual...
2025-01-2137 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Lessons from Babygirl: Power, Kink, and Midlife Intimacy | Ep 78What’s the role of power in your relationships, and how does it shape intimacy?In this episode, I delve into the nuanced world of power dynamics, kink, and midlife sexuality. Inspired by the provocative themes in the film Babygirl featuring Nicole Kidman, I bring my perspective as a sex educator to explore topics that are often left unspoken, but deeply impactful.From the transformative possibilities of power exchange to the surprising ways infidelity might reignite connection, I tackle the complexities of modern relationships with insight and empathy. I also discuss the importance of honest co...
2025-01-1808 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Is Your Definition of Monogamy Killing Your Relationship? | Ep 77Monogamy might seem simple on the surface, but is it really? In this episode, I dive into the often-overlooked complexities of what it means to be monogamous, especially in midlife relationships. From historical roots to modern interpretations, I explore how personal experiences and upbringing shape our definitions of fidelity.I also share personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and tips to help you clarify expectations and strengthen communication with your partner. Whether you’re starting a new relationship or redefining an existing one, this episode is all about creating clarity and connection.Timestamps:(01:10) Different perspectives on mono...
2025-01-1410 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Shame, Morality, and Sex Addiction: Is It Time for a Change? | Ep 76In this episode, I sit down with Heather McPherson, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of the Sexual Health Alliance, to explore the complexities of sex addiction and its societal perceptions. Why are we so quick to label and judge? Heather dives into the origins of the sex addiction diagnosis and critiques its impact, advocating for a harm-reduction and education-focused approach instead. We also take a deep dive into sexual health, consent in non-traditional relationships like kink, polyamory, and open relationships—are therapists equipped to understand these dynamics? Heather explains why proper training is essential. Plus, she ex...
2025-01-0740 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Introducing Season 4: The Greatest Secrets to Revitalizing your Sex Life in MidlifeHey there, and welcome to Season 4 of the Taboo to Truth podcast! I’m your host, Karen Bigman, and I’m thrilled to have you with me for another season of unapologetic conversations about sexuality in midlife. Whether you're navigating a dwindling libido, struggling with sexual health changes, or just trying to understand what's happening to your body during menopause, I’m here to talk about it all. This podcast is all about breaking the silence around these topics and creating a safe, supportive space where no question is too awkward or taboo.This season, I’m on a mis...
2025-01-0102 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 505 Secrets to Turning Up the Heat in 2025: Better Sex Starts Here! | Ep 75As we countdown to the new year, it’s time to leave behind the dull sex life of 2024 and step into something hotter and more exciting. Want to know how to turn up the heat in the bedroom or even at your next sex party? In this episode,I’m sharing five tips for better sex in 2025.What’s the secret? Well, let’s just say communication is key (but I’m not talking about just words), making time for sex is a must (yes, even if it means scheduling it), and being creative will totally change the game...
2024-12-3104 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 505 Must-Read Books That'll Ignite Your Passion This Holiday Season! | Ep 74The holidays are here, and with 2025 knocking on the door, how are you preparing to step into the new year? Sure, a cozy holiday read is great, but what if you could unwrap something truly transformative this season?In this episode, I’m sharing my top five midlife must-reads—books that dive into health, relationships, self-discovery, and navigating the complexities of midlife. These picks are designed to help you embrace your journey, understand your body, and redefine your purpose.Midlife isn’t just a season of life; it’s a chance to thrive in new ways. So...
2024-12-2405 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50When Men Talk About Sex: The Power of Vulnerability in Relationships | Ep 73In this episode, I’m getting real about something that can completely transform your relationship: vulnerability. We often think of vulnerability as something women do, but here’s the truth—men can be just as willing to open up, and when they do, it’s absolutely amazing. Here’s the thing: men and women aren’t as different as we think. The fears women have about aging, like changes to our bodies or confidence, are so similar to what men go through. For men, things like erectile dysfunction can feel like their whole identity is being questioned. But just like...
2024-12-1710 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Sex, Hormones & Menopause with Dr. Irwin & Sue Goldstein | Ep 72In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Irwin and Sue Goldstein to tackle the taboo around menopause and women’s sexual health. Why is it that we still don’t talk about what’s really happening in our bodies during menopause? It’s not just about hot flashes—there’s so much more going on beneath the surface that impacts everything from our physical health to our sexuality. Sue cuts through the noise about bioidentical hormones, while Dr. Irwin introduces us to a groundbreaking technique—a game-changer for understanding your own body. We’re breaking down the myths around hormone t...
2024-12-1047 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Breaking Sexual Shame in Midlife with Kaamna Bhojwani | Ep 71On today's show, I caught up with Kamna Bhojwani at the Sexual Health Alliance conference, where her raw honesty about sexual shame instantly grabbed my attention. With three psychology degrees and a master's from Columbia specifically focused on sexual shame, Kamna cuts through the bullshit to address what's really holding us back in midlife. We get real about everything - from awkward doctor visits to dating app disasters, from hormone changes to orgasm responsibilities. Whether you're divorced, dating, or just trying to figure out your changing body, this conversation tackles the shame that keeps us quiet and offers a...
2024-12-0323 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Glorious Clitoris | Ep 70Ever wondered why the clitoris is often misunderstood, despite being the ultimate pleasure powerhouse? Did you know it has over 10,000 nerve endings—more than any other part of the body? In this episode, I dive into the fascinating world of the clitoris, an organ uniquely designed for pleasure. I break down its anatomy, both external and internal, and explain why it’s so vital for sexual satisfaction. I also tackle misconceptions, explore how menopause impacts sensitivity, and share actionable tips for self-exploration and partner education. My goal is to empower you to understand your body better, embrace your...
2024-11-2611 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Art of Receiving with Shauna Stewart | Ep 69In today's episode, I'm joined by Shauna Stewart, founder of Linger Boutique and host of the Life Turned On podcast. We tackle something that affects so many women: the challenge of receiving, whether it's help, pleasure, or simply a compliment. Shauna brings her expertise as both a boutique owner and sex educator to share insights about breaking down barriers to intimacy and pleasure. What I love about our conversation is how we move from the practical challenges of daily stress to exploring tools like the erotic blueprint that can transform relationships. We discuss the importance of clear communication, managing...
2024-11-1921 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Is Marriage the Problem with Your Sex Life? | Ep 68In today's episode, I dive deep into a topic that affects countless marriages - the complex relationship between marriage and sexual intimacy. Drawing from my own 26-year marriage experience and professional insights, I explore why many couples struggle with maintaining a healthy sex life after marriage. I discuss how marriage evolved from a financial contract to today's emotional partnership, and why modern couples face unique challenges in maintaining sexual chemistry. Most importantly, I offer practical, actionable solutions for couples looking to reignite their intimate connection, from "sexual snacking" to creating new dynamics in long-term relationships.Timestamps:
2024-11-1208 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Your Best Solo Sex Experience | Ep. 67In this special bonus episode, I'm excited to announce our move to Tuesday releases while treating listeners to essential tips for creating meaningful solo sex experiences. As your host and Certified Sex Educator& Menopause Coach, I dive into the art of self-pleasure, sharing practical advice for creating the perfect environment and mindset. Whether you're single or partnered, these intimate moments of self-discovery can enhance your overall sexual experience and deepen your connection with your own body. This quick-hit episode delivers valuable insights for making your solo adventures more fulfilling and pleasurable.Timestamps(00:00) - Introduction
2024-11-1005 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50The Science of Better Sex with Dr. Emily Jamea | Ep. 66In today's episode, I sat down with Dr. Emily Jamea, sex and relationship therapist and host of the Love and Libido podcast. We dove deep into her groundbreaking research on the connection between flow states and sexual satisfaction, which forms the foundation of her new book "Anatomy of Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion." Dr. Jamea shared her innovative approach to helping couples enhance their intimate relationships, revealing how the five secrets - sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement - can transform ordinary sexual experiences into extraordinary ones. Her fresh perspective on sexual wellness challenges traditional narratives...
2024-11-0330 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Finding My Purpose: Menopause, Sex , and Self-Discovery | Ep 65In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I dive into some of the most important topics surrounding midlife: menopause, Sexual Health, and personal growth. As I share my experiences of becoming a certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach, I talk about the physical and emotional changes that come with menopause and how they impact our overall well-being. Timestamps:(00:00) – Menopause: How Hormones Affect Every System in the Body(00:57) – Introduction to the Taboo to Truth Podcast(02:10) – Becoming a Certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach(04:30) – Physical Symptoms of Menopause: What to Expec...
2024-10-2709 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Core Play vs Foreplay: Redefining Sex in Midlife with Dr. Rachel Zar | Ep 64In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Rachel Zar, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, to talk about why specialized training in sexual therapy is so important. Too many therapists aren’t equipped to handle conversations around sexual health, and that can leave people feeling misunderstood and ashamed. Dr. Zar and I dive into the challenges that come up when addressing sexual issues, especially painful sex among those assigned female at birth. We also discuss how vital it is to educate ourselves and our partners on things like foreplay, core play, and being truly co...
2024-10-2041 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Real Talk about Herpes: Reducing Risk and Breaking Shame | Ep 63In this episode, I tackle the often stigmatized topic of herpes and STIs in midlife. Dating can be complicated enough without the added stress of navigating STIs, particularly herpes. I share my personal experiences and insights, aiming to break the silence and dispel common myths surrounding this condition. Herpes is not life-threatening, and many people live with it without significant issues. By focusing on open communication and honesty, I emphasize the importance of talking about sexual health with partners. My goal is to create a supportive environment for candid discussions about herpes and other STIs. Together, we’ll explore ho...
2024-10-1318 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Healing through Kink with Sexologist Lilith Foxx | Ep 62In this episode, I sit down with Lilith Foxx, a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky, and polyamorous marketing professional turned board-certified sexologist. Lilith, an AASECT-certified sexuality educator, professional speaker, coach, and diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging consultant, shares her journey from tech marketing to becoming a prominent figure in the world of BDSM and sexual education. I delve into her personal experiences with BDSM, how it has empowered her, and her professional insights on navigating kink safely and consensually. Whether you're curious about BDSM, looking to explore your own desires, or seeking to understand the intersectionality of marginalized identities within...
2024-10-0628 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Sex Shouldn't Hurt: Solutions for Pain-free Sex | Ep 61In this episode, I revisit the topic of painful sex, specifically for women. I delve into the medical term for painful sex, dyspareunia, and explores various causes and solutions. I provide valuable insights into how women can redefine sex to include many other pleasurable activities that do not involve pain. I also discusses the importance of addressing painful sex and offers practical advice on treatments and therapies available to overcome this issue.Timestamps:(00:00) – Introduction(00:25) – Revisiting the Topic of Painful Sex(01:18) – Hormonal Changes and Painful Sex(02:13) – Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause(03...
2024-09-2913 minTaboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Navigating Intimacy and Consent with Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D. | Ep 60In this episode, we sit down with Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D. a therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues, to discuss how men can improve their sex lives through emotional regulation, removing sexual entitlement, and enhancing consent and negotiation skills. Eric, an award-winning author, shares his personal journey and professional insights on creating healthier, more enjoyable sexual relationships. I also delve into his approach to addressing issues related to patriarchal norms, empathetic communication, and the importance of consent. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or exploring non-monogamy, this conversation offers valuable guidance on fostering deeper and more respectful...
2024-09-2246 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Testosterone's vital role in Women's Health | Ep 59In this episode, I dive into the role of testosterone as part of hormone replacement therapy. Inspired by a recent conversation with a male endocrinologist, I tackle the frustrating double standards surrounding testosterone treatment for women. Why is it casually prescribed for men, but women need a specific diagnosis?Check out this episode where we discuss:The importance of testosterone for women's health beyond libido.How low testosterone affects your sex life and overall well-being.Different methods of testosterone supplementation and their pros and cons.Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction to Taboo to Truth P...
2024-09-1514 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Sex Tech for Beginners with Ola Miedzynska | Ep 58Breaking Barriers In this episode of the 'Taboo to Truth' podcast, host Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, menopause coach and sex educator, delves into the world of sex tech and sex work advocacy with Ola Miedzynska. Ola, a trailblazer in the sex technology industry, discusses her extensive experience with over 60 global sex tech and adult tech brands, including the founding of Sex Tech EU and co-founding EroBella, a safer platform for sex workers. Karen and Ola discuss the evolution of sex tech, the impact of AI on the industry...
2024-09-0839 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Menopause to Prostate Health: Vibrators Are Not Just for Pleasure with Dr. Soum Rakshit | Ep 57Revolutionizing Sexual Health: Dr. Sum Rakshit of Mystery Vibe Explains Innovative SolutionsIn this episode, Dr. Sum Rakshit, founder of Mystery Vibe, delves into the world of sexual health and wellness. Dr. Rakshit discusses how Mystery Vibe's devices, originally based on biomedical engineering principles, are designed to address various sexual dysfunction issues such as vaginal dryness, lack of libido, pelvic pain, erectile dysfunction, and more. He shares insights on the development journey, highlighting the importance of addressing sexual health issues that arise from life events like childbirth, menopause, and other major medical conditions.
2024-09-0145 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Finding Love in Midlife - Stop Settling and Start Living | Ep 56In this podcast episode, I dive into my own experiences with dating apps and the journey to change my patterns—moving from an anxious attachment style to a healthier, self-assured approach. Women often worry about whether he’ll call or text again, and sometimes settle for less than they deserve. It's easy to latch onto someone just because they're available, but true connection goes deeper. Here’s what we explore in this episode:The importance of self-worth in attracting the right partnerNavigating the dance of early dating and managing initial attractionsHow clear communication—both emotional and sexual—ca...
2024-08-2509 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Navigating Menopause - Your Hormone Therapy Questions Answered | Ep 55In this episode, I explain the differences between bioidentical, synthetic, and natural hormones and various hormone delivery methods. I highlight the benefits of hormone therapy for managing menopausal symptoms and long-term health. The episode aims to provide women with the knowledge needed to navigate hormone therapy and improve their quality of life during menopause.(01:49) Understanding Hormone Therapy(05:03) Bioidentical vs. Synthetic Hormones(06:41) Compounded Hormones: Risks and Considerations(10:32) The Importance of Proper Hormone Therapy(12:19) Topical EstrogenKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coac...
2024-08-1814 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 5024 Sexuality Professionals Define Sex | Ep 54Have you ever wondered what sex really means? This spring, I attended the Association of Sex Educators, Coaches, Counselors, and Therapists conference in St. Louis. I met remarkable professionals dedicated to fostering a more sex-positive world. Curious, I asked 24 of these experts—from sex therapists to professional cuddlers—what their definition of sex is.Interestingly, "sex" means something different to everyone. From a sacred energy exchange vital to life to wonder, creativity, and lust all bundled in one. One interviewee emphasizes that sex transcends the physical—it's about identity, intimacy, and respectful connection, always with consent.Join...
2024-08-1113 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Finding Love in Perimenopause How Alyssa Dineen Transformed Her Dating Life Post-Divorce | Ep 53Jump into a riveting conversation that breaks down misconceptions and tackles the universal challenges of dating and sex in midlife. In this episode, I sit down with Alyssa Dineen, a renowned dating coach, stylist, and author, as she shares her journey of rediscovery post-divorce. From navigating the intimidating world of online dating to revealing personal stories of "losing her second virginity," Alyssa’s candid dialogue is both inspiring and downright hilarious. Check out this episode where we discuss:Navigating the hurdles of online dating post-divorce Dealing with sexual insecurities and STDs Embracing intimacy and redefining personal bound...
2024-08-0418 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Exploring Non-Monogamy Is It Right for Your Relationship | Ep 52This episode is a replay of one of our most popular episodes since launching last September. In this episode, I delve into non-monogamy, a topic stirring a lot of curiosity, especially among those in long-term relationships. I discuss what non-monogamy is, various forms it can take, like swinging and polyamory, and how it might either revitalize or challenge your relationship. This isn't an endorsement of any lifestyle but rather an exploration of different relationship paradigms. If you’re curious and have questions, head over to my website and use the form to ask me anonymously. Our...
2024-07-3017 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50From Self-Discovery to Deeper Intimacy My Midlife Sexual Journey | Ep 51Embarking on my journey back into dating and relationships after my marriage ended taught me hard but valuable lessons about intimacy and self-worth. From the initial thrill of sexual liberation to the heart-wrenching lows of rejection, I learned the importance of knowing myself and my emotional needs. Whether you’re navigating menopause, exploring new relationships, or just trying to understand your body better, it’s crucial to communicate openly and find what truly brings you joy and fulfillment. Join me in breaking the silence and embracing the beauty of midlife sexuality—grab your favorite drink, put me on spe...
2024-07-2121 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 5050 Unapologetic Conversations (and many more to come) | Ep 50Reflecting on my journey, I've covered an array of topics—from orgasms, UTIs, and hormone therapy to interviewing incredible experts like Dr. Alyssa Dweck and Dr. Mohit Khera about sexual dysfunction and menopause. I've tackled tough subjects like consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, BDSM, and sexual health at different life stages. Your interest and trust drive me, whether I'm in a bar hearing someone's personal story or answering your questions anonymously on the show. As I take a short break to prepare for season three, please keep sending your questions and reviews. This milestone and every episode is dedicated to...
2024-07-1408 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Embracing Sexual Pleasure with Sexologist & Sex Educator Jennifer Rahner | Ep49In this episode, I'm joined by Jennifer Rahner, a certified sexologist and sexuality educator who is transforming the conversation around sexuality with her authentic and vulnerable approach. We delved into her journey from a 25-year career in IT to becoming a sex educator inspired by listening to Dr. Ruth as a teenager.Jennifer shared how she rediscovered her passion for sexuality at 45 and her transformative experiences with workshops led by Betty Dodson, a renowned sexuality educator focused on masturbation and pleasure. Jennifer candidly talked about how she teaches classes such as "Anatomy of Pleasure" to offer the s...
2024-07-0744 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50How Dirty Talk Deepens Connection and Enhances Pleasure | Ep48Dirty talk in the bedroom might not be everyone's cup of tea, yet it's a powerful tool for staying present during sex. Women tend to get lost in their thoughts, worrying about whether their partner is getting bored or if they're taking too long to reach orgasm, which can detract from the pleasure of the experience. The same goes for men, particularly those dealing with erectile dysfunction, who might find their performance anxiety worsened by overthinking. In a previous episode, I discussed the importance of pleasure and touch, in this episode, I'm suggesting we engage our minds...
2024-06-3007 min
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50Unlocking the Secrets to Lifelong Passion with Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus | Ep 47I had the great pleasure of welcoming Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, certified sex therapist, and the author of "Satisfaction Guaranteed: How to Have the Sex You've Always Wanted," to the show. Bat Sheva has dedicated her career to empowering women to find pleasure in their bodies and spirit by combining medical and psychological approaches to women's sexual health. Having met Bat Sheva years ago when she was my doctor, I credit her with starting me on my journey to openly discuss sexuality, a topic often shrouded in silence.Our conversation delved into the complexities of maintaining a...
2024-06-2350 min