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Gray RootsThe Prequel - Before you gain the title of IN LAWSend us a textIn this conversation, the hosts discuss the emotional transitions that come with motherhood, particularly the journey of becoming a mother-in-law. They explore the importance of viewing children as capable adults, the emotional challenges of letting go, and the significance of building strong relationships with future daughters-in-law. The discussion emphasizes the need for trust, vulnerability, and self-reflection in these evolving family dynamics, while also addressing the complexities of navigating relationships with partners of their children.We encourage you to go follow Lauren on Instagram, she is an amazing coach and therapist...2025-07-1830 minGray RootsSummer FunSend us a textn this final podcast episode of the season, the hosts reflect on their journey and discuss summer activities for kids and grandkids. They share personal experiences, tips for planning summer fun, and the importance of creating lasting memories with family. The conversation emphasizes the need for intentionality in summer planning, the value of simple activities, and the joy of spending quality time with children and grandchildren. In this conversation, the speakers discuss various ways grandparents can engage with their grandchildren during the summer. They share personal experiences and practical tips on planning activities...2025-04-2233 minGray RootsWhat Would We Tell Our Younger SelvesSend us a textIn this conversation, the hosts reflect on their experiences as mothers and the lessons learned over the years. They discuss the importance of self-worth, trusting one's intuition, and the value of seeking help for mental health issues. The conversation also touches on the challenges of motherhood, the advice they would give to their younger selves, and the significance of embracing one's journey and identity. In this conversation, the speakers reflect on their personal journeys through different life stages, emphasizing the importance of therapy, self-care, and personal growth. They discuss the challenges of motherhood...2025-04-1537 minGray RootsNavigating Different Lifestyles of Adult ChildrenSend us a textIn this episode of the Gray Roots podcast, hosts Alecia Warneke, Kari Oakley-Miller, and Kathy Eggers discuss the complexities of parenting adult children who choose lifestyles different from their parents' expectations. They explore themes of support, understanding, and the challenges of letting go while emphasizing the importance of nurturing individual passions and recognizing the love behind parental concerns. In this conversation, the speakers explore the complexities of parenting, relationships, and societal expectations. They discuss the impact of words on children, the challenges of navigating relationships as parents, and the cultural shifts in family...2025-04-0838 minGray RootsPermission to Pause: Let's Talk about Self-CareSend us a textIn this conversation, the hosts discuss the importance of self-care, especially for mothers, and share personal experiences and practical tips for incorporating self-care into daily life. They emphasize the need for intentionality in self-care practices, the impact of modeling self-care for children, and the challenges of balancing motherhood with personal well-being. The discussion also touches on the influence of social media on self-perception and the value of taking time for oneself, including the idea of solo retreats. In this conversation, the speakers explore the themes of self-care, emotional health, and the importance of...2025-04-0137 minGray Roots"Welcome Home" The Art of Hosting and Visiting Your Adult KidsSend us a textIn this conversation, Kathy Eggers, Alicia Warneke, and Kari Oakley-Miller discuss the nuances of being a good host and guest, especially in the context of family gatherings. They explore the importance of creating a welcoming environment, the central role of food in hosting, and the need to understand dietary preferences. The conversation emphasizes communication between hosts and guests to ensure everyone feels comfortable and valued. In this conversation, the speakers discuss the nuances of family visits, focusing on the importance of communication, respecting household routines, and managing expectations as both hosts and guests...2025-03-2529 minGray RootsSingle Parenting Struggles: How Single Parenting Complicates Multigenerational RelationshipsSend us a textThis conversation delves into the complexities of single parenting, exploring the unique challenges faced by single parents and the impact on their relationships with children and extended family. The speakers share personal experiences, discuss the importance of community support, and offer advice for navigating the emotional landscape of single parenting. They emphasize the need for open communication and the value of seeking help from others.We are all still learning and we want to hear from you. If you have suggestions or questions, feel free to...2025-03-1834 minGray RootsChoosing RestorationSend us a textIn this conversation, Alecia Warneke and Kathy Eggers explore the complexities of restoration in relationships, particularly focusing on parenting challenges and in-law dynamics. They share personal stories of reconciliation, emphasizing the importance of boundaries, forgiveness, and the time it takes to heal relationships. The discussion highlights the emotional struggles and growth that come with navigating difficult family situations, ultimately leading to restored connections and understanding. In this conversation, Kathy Eggers and Alecia Warneke explore the complexities of family relationships, particularly focusing on the challenges of respect, forgiveness, and the process of restoration...2025-03-1132 minGray RootsBlended FamiliesSend us a textIn this conversation, the hosts discuss the complexities of blended families and co-parenting, sharing personal stories and insights. They explore the challenges of navigating relationships, expectations, and the emotional impact of loss and grief. The discussion emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and letting go of preconceived notions about family dynamics. This conversation delves into the complexities of blended families, emphasizing the importance of healthy relationships, emotional support, and effective communication. The speakers share personal experiences and insights on navigating the challenges faced by children in blended families, the significance of maintaining...2025-03-0447 minGray RootsUnderstanding Bouondaries; When You are Crossing the LineSend us a textIn this conversation, Kari, Kathy, and Alecia explore the concept of boundaries in various aspects of life, including childhood experiences, parenting, and adult relationships. They discuss how boundaries provide necessary structure for thriving relationships and the importance of saying no to prevent resentment. The conversation highlights personal anecdotes and insights on how boundaries can evolve over time and the significance of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. This conversation delves into the complexities of family dynamics, particularly focusing on the role of mother-in-laws and the importance of establishing and respecting boundaries. The speakers...2025-02-2545 minGray RootsNavigating the Role of the MILSend us a textIn this episode, Kathy, Alecia, and Kari discuss the complexities of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships. They explore the different roles and expectations that come with these relationships, the joys and challenges of becoming a mother-in-law, and the importance of curiosity and openness in navigating family dynamics. The conversation highlights personal experiences and insights, aiming to foster understanding and connection among family members. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of family dynamics, particularly focusing on the role of mothers-in-law and the challenges that arise in these relationships. They discuss the...2025-02-1841 minGray RootsHandling our Different Histories and StoriesSend us a textIn this episode, Alecia, Kari, and Kathy delve into the complexities of family histories and how they shape individual beliefs and behaviors. They discuss the impact of generational trauma, the importance of breaking cycles of dysfunction, and the necessity of understanding personal stories to foster healthier relationships. Through personal anecdotes, they highlight the significance of awareness and empathy in navigating family dynamics and addressing historical influences. In this conversation, the speakers explore the cultural differences in communication, particularly in the context of technology and family dynamics. They discuss how generational perspectives shape...2025-02-1133 minGray RootsTemperaments and Personality DifferencesSend us a textIn this episode, the hosts explore the complexities of family dynamics, focusing on how different temperaments and personality types can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. They discuss the importance of recognizing and understanding these differences to improve communication and relationships within families. The conversation emphasizes the value of self-awareness and adapting communication styles to foster better interactions among family members. In this conversation, the speakers explore the dynamics of relationships through the lens of personality temperaments. They discuss how understanding each other's temperaments can lead to better communication and conflict resolution in...2025-02-0428 minGray RootsNavigating Parenting Style DifferencesSend us a text In this conversation, the hosts delve into the complexities of parenting styles influenced by their own childhood experiences. They discuss how their backgrounds shape their current parenting approaches, the challenges of navigating different styles with in-laws, and the evolving expectations of modern parenting. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of communication, emotional growth, and the impact of generational differences on parenting. In this conversation, the speakers discuss the complexities of grandparenting, including the importance of communication, dietary restrictions, discipline, and the need for continuous learning. They explore how grandparents can navigate their roles w...2025-01-2837 minGray RootsAddressing Religious DifferencesSend us a textIn this episode of the Gray Roots podcast, hosts Alecia Warneke, Kari Oakley-Miller, and Kathy Eggers delve into the complexities of religion and spirituality, exploring personal faith journeys, family dynamics, and the emotional charge surrounding spiritual differences. They discuss the importance of empathy, understanding, and finding common ground in relationships, especially when navigating differing beliefs within families. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, setting boundaries, and the significance of love and grace in fostering healthy relationships despite spiritual differences.We are all still learning and we want to hear...2025-01-2146 minGray RootsNavigating Political DifferencesSend us a textSummaryIn this conversation, the hosts delve into the complexities of discussing politics, especially within family dynamics. They explore how personal experiences and upbringing shape political beliefs, emphasizing the importance of empathy and understanding in political discourse. The discussion highlights the challenges of navigating differing opinions among family members, advocating for open communication and respect for boundaries. The hosts also stress the significance of finding common ground and maintaining relationships despite political differences, encouraging listeners to approach these conversations with grace and patience.We are all...2025-01-1428 minGray RootsIt's Complicated - Getting to the Root of the IssuesSend us a textIn this episode, the hosts discuss the complexities of family relationships, particularly focusing on the dynamics between parents, children, and in-laws. They explore themes such as generational differences, family secrets, the importance of boundaries, and the role of therapy in navigating these relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for active listening and open communication to foster healthier connections. The hosts also encourage listeners to reflect on their own experiences and consider small actions that can improve their family dynamics.We are all still learning and we want to hear from you...2025-01-0735 minGray RootsTraditions UnwrappedSend us a textJoin Alecia, Kari and Kathy as they explore the significance of capturing memories through photos, the expressions of love and connection among individuals, and the importance of celebrating traditions, particularly during the Christmas season. The hosts share personal anecdotes and insights that highlight how these elements enrich our lives.We are all still learning and we want to hear from you. If you have suggestions or questions, feel free to reach out to us @grayrootspodcast on Instagram. 2024-12-1031 minGray RootsPresents vs PresenceSend us a textIn this conversation, Alecia, Kari and Kathy discuss the importance of focusing on relationships during the holiday season rather than just material gifts. They share personal stories about memorable gifts from childhood and emphasize the value of thoughtful gifting that reflects an understanding of the recipient. The discussion also touches on navigating gift-giving in blended families, the significance of creating meaningful experiences, and the need for grace and empathy in interactions with family members. Ultimately, the hosts encourage listeners to prioritize relationships and shared experiences over material possessions during the holidays.2024-12-0330 minGray RootsHoliday GuiltSend us a textIn this conversation, the Alecia, Kari and Kathy discuss the emotional complexities surrounding holiday gatherings, particularly focusing on the guilt that often accompanies family expectations. They explore the pressures faced by mothers, the challenges of blended families, and the importance of creating new traditions. The discussion emphasizes the need for flexibility and open communication to alleviate stress during the festive season, especially for young moms navigating these dynamics. In this conversation, the speakers discuss the complexities of family dynamics, particularly during the holiday season. They emphasize the importance of grace and empathy...2024-11-2635 minGray RootsThe In-Law DiariesSend us a textIn this episode, the hosts discuss the complexities of in-law relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication, understanding family dynamics, and managing expectations. They share personal stories and insights on how to build positive relationships with in-laws, navigate challenges, and foster acceptance and support within blended families. The conversation highlights the significance of grace, respect, and open dialogue in maintaining healthy family connections.We are all still learning and we want to hear from you. If you have suggestions or questions, feel free to reach out to us...2024-11-1949 minGray RootsStrengthening Grandparent TiesSend us a textIn this engaging conversation, Kathy, Kari, and Alecia delve into the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on the dynamics between parents, in-laws, and grandparents. They emphasize the importance of open communication, setting expectations, and the need for support during significant life events such as weddings and childbirth. The discussion highlights the role of grandparents in providing emotional support while respecting the independence of new parents. The conversation also touches on the significance of family history and the joy of creating fun memories with grandchildren, ultimately reinforcing the idea that relationships matter and...2024-11-1237 minGray RootsAs They Grow - Navigating Adult Child RelationshipsSend us a textIn this conversation, the hosts explore the complexities of navigating relationships with adult children. They discuss the evolution of the parent-child dynamic, the importance of communication, and strategies for fostering independence while maintaining a supportive relationship. The conversation emphasizes the significance of showing up for milestones, celebrating achievements, and the need for both parents and adult children to communicate openly and respectfully.We are all still learning and we want to hear from you. If you have suggestions or questions, feel free to reach out to us...2024-11-0537 minGray RootsFinding Your TribeSend us a textIn this episode of the Gray Roots podcast, Kari Oakley-Miller, Kathy Eggers, and Alecia Warneke discuss the significance of community and connection, especially in the context of loneliness being recognized as a public health epidemic. They explore the impact of technology on relationships, the importance of vulnerability in building a supportive tribe, and share personal experiences of navigating friendships during tough times. The conversation also touches on advice for young moms and empty nesters seeking community, emphasizing that a small circle of genuine friends can be more valuable than a large network.2024-10-2931 minGray RootsGetting to Know KariSend us a textSummaryKari Oakley Miller shares her journey of becoming a mother and the challenges she faced along the way. From unexpectedly getting pregnant in college to losing her husband at a young age, Kari's story is one of resilience and faith. She talks about the support she received from friends and mentors, as well as the struggles of raising five children on her own. Despite the pain and grief, Kari finds beauty in her children's growth and sees their experiences as part of their unique story. In this conversation, Kathy and Kari...2024-10-2233 minGray RootsGetting to Know KathySend us a textIn this conversation, Kathy Eggers shares her journey to becoming a mother and her experiences as a parent and grandparent. She discusses her initial impressions of her friends and how they met, as well as her unique path to motherhood through adoption. Kathy also opens up about the tragic loss of one of her children and how it has shaped her perspective on life and parenting. She emphasizes the importance of loving fiercely, forgiving quickly, and cherishing every moment with loved ones. Kathy's passion for children and early childhood development is evident...2024-10-1538 minGray RootsGetting to Know AleciaSend us a textIn this episode of Gray Roots, Kari introduces her friend Alecia Warneke and they discuss their first impressions of each other. Alecia shares her journey of becoming a mother at a young age and navigating the challenges that came with it. They also talk about Alecia's three sons and the joys and difficulties of raising them. Alecia shares her experience of being a young mother and raising three wild boys. She talks about feeling alone and not having a supportive tribe during those years. Alecia also discusses the challenges of parenting a child...2024-10-0828 minGray RootsSkip Gen - Building Connections Across the GenerationsSend us a textWelcome to the Gray Roots Podcast. In this episode Alecia Warneke, Kari Oakley-Miller and Kathy Eggers, co-hosts introduce themselves and discuss the inspiration behind the podcast, which is to improve the relationships in a multigenerational relationship. They talk about the challenges of navigating multi-generational dynamics and the importance of communication and understanding. The hosts also mention topics they are excited to discuss, such as managing relationships with daughters-in-law, finding community, and making small deposits to strengthen relationships. They emphasize the goal of the podcast is to encourage and provide hope to listeners.2024-10-0122 min
Play SkillfullyNavigating Multigenerational RelationshipsIn this conversation, Kathy Eggers, Alecia Warneke, and Kari Oakley-Miller discuss the dynamics of grand-parenting and mothering adult children. They explore the importance of maintaining a nurturing relationship with their children even after becoming grandparents. The conversation touches on topics such as setting expectations, communication, and finding a balance between supporting and respecting their adult children's parenting choices. They also share personal experiences and rituals they have established to nurture their relationships with their grandchildren and adult children. The conversation revolves around the topic of creating meaningful memories with adult children and grandchildren. 2024-06-2741 min
The Real Kathy LeeWhen Your Plan is Not in the Plan – Part 2: The Blending of LivesLast week, Kari Oakley Miller shared her story of loss and how it forced her to find a new plan for her family. This week, Kari is back to share the rest of her story. After the death of her husband, Kari remained single for ten years. Fear of the unknown and concern for her five children kept her from even entertaining the idea of dating and remarrying. However, God had a different plan.
About five years ago, Kari was introduced to Andrew Miller, a widower with four children. As the relationship progressed, K...2018-10-2630 minThe Real Kathy LeeWhen Your Plan is Not in the Plan – An Interview with Kari Oakley Miller I met Kari almost twenty years ago, when her youngest son was just a baby. She and I began an accountability group and started meeting on a weekly basis. We would share our struggles, our successes, encourage and pray for one another. We shared some precious times all those years ago. If you would have asked me to describe Kari Oakley in those days, I would have said that she was living her best life. Kari was a happily married mother of five, was homeschooling, involved in ministry, and had many friends. Her life was going according to plan....2018-10-1922 min