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Becoming You AgainHealing by FeelingWhat if embracing your emotions during a divorce could be the key to finding independence and fulfillment? Join me, Karen Nelson, as we explore this transformative idea in "Becoming You Again." Society often tells us to hide hard emotions, like anger, fear, and sadness. But the most effective way to heal from your divorce is to create a safe space to process these emotions fully and develop the emotional resilience needed to thrive post-divorce. I’ll walk you through a gentle approach to navigating difficult emotions. From initial resistance to eventual acceptance, I discuss the five...2025-02-0324 min
Becoming You AgainEmbracing Divorce Grief: Rebuilding Your Life and Self Throwback EpisodeAs the year comes to a close, many people find themselves in a reflective state, especially those who have been experiencing the emotional journey of divorce. Have you ever wondered how grief from a divorce can reshape your life? Join me, Karin Nelson, where I offer insights into understanding divorce grief beyond the traditional stages. By the end of this episode you will see how grief emerges not just as an emotion within us, but as a profound response to the loss of a relationship and the future we once envisioned.This episode explores the often-overlooked aspect...2024-12-2314 min
Becoming You AgainMaking Confident DecisionsMaking confident decisions during and after divorce can seem daunting, especially if you've been living your life in the shadow of deferring to someone else's authority, not trusting your own opinions, and dismissing your intuition as knowledge of what's best for you. But it doesn't have to be this way. You can develop the skill of making confident decisions. Join me, Karin Nelson, as I share insights from my own journey, coaching my clients and step by step tools to help you explore how reconnecting with your core values can lead to decisions that genuinely reflect your...2024-12-1631 min
Becoming You AgainHandling the Holidays During and After DivorceDivorce and the holiday season can feel like an overwhelming emotional rollercoaster full of triggers, unexpected bad surprises and a lot of thoughts of just wanting them to be over. But this year can be different. Join me, Karin Nelson, as I share personal insights and practical strategies to help you manage your holiday season this year to make you feel more calm, more capable of handling the negative emotions when they show up and more intentional about what you want your holiday's to actually look and feel like. By the end of this episode you will...2024-11-2533 min
Becoming You AgainStop the Over-Functioning CycleOver-functioning, especially among women in the midst of divorce, becomes a relentless cycle of exhaustion and misplaced control. Join me, Karin Nelson, as I share insights, personal stories and heartfelt exploration of how societal pressures and more lead us to take on too much, become burdened by the mental load of it all and feel like we have the world on our shoulders - always at the expense of our own well-being. Learn how recognizing and addressing these patterns can be the first step towards reclaiming your identity and peace of mind.This episode sheds light on...2024-10-2835 min
Becoming You AgainHow To Stop Feeling Lonely After DivorceFeeling lonely after a divorce can be an overwhelming experience, particularly for women. It's essential to understand that loneliness is an emotional state and not a reflection of your worth. Join me, Karin Nelson, as I unpack the difference between being alone and feeling lonely. I'll show you why loneliness feels so heavy and how being alone in society today has gotten a bad rap. I offer the antithesis to loneliness and how you can start to reframe the loneliness that you're feeling right now, to transform your emotional landscape. Tune in to explore meaningful ways to li...2024-09-1624 min
Becoming You AgainMastering the Art of Letting Go After DivorceWhat if the act of letting go isn’t a one-time event, but a continuous, liberating journey? Join me, Karin Nelson, as I walk you through the intricate and often emotional process of moving forward after a divorce. This episode unpacks the concept of letting go, emphasizing that it's a skill requiring time, patience, and emotional resilience. I will explore and offer practical strategies to gradually release and let go through consistent physical, mental and emotional practices. This episode is aimed at empowering you to let go of the past and embrace a more liberated future. Tune in...2024-09-0922 min
Becoming You AgainGreatest Hits Effective Single Parenting: Embracing Emotional Stability After DivorceHave you ever found yourself caught in the emotional whirlwind of single parenting after a divorce, trying to juggle your feelings while managing your child's outbursts? Being a single parent after the end of your marriage can feel daunting and foreign. In this episode you will learn two main strategies to help you through the challenges of single parenting. You will learn strategies to help break the cycle of mirroring your children's emotions and how to shift away from a scarcity mindset. You will learn to create a foundation for a healthier, more balanced family dynamic as...2024-07-2920 min
Becoming You AgainEmpowering Yourself: Managing Overwhelm and Regaining Control After DivorceStruggling to regain your footing after a divorce? In this greatest hits episode, you'll discover powerful strategies to manage the overwhelming emotions and life situations that often follow such a life-changing event. You'll learn how to recognize what you can control and make conscious choices to prioritize your well-being. You'll learn about common patterns like procrastination and feeling buried under responsibilities, and how to tackle them head-on to restore balance and control in your life.We'll take a deep dive into the power of ownership and choice. Listen as we break down the empowering concept that you...2024-07-2218 min
Becoming You AgainThe Net Positive of Dropping Expectations When ParentingHaving expectations for our kids feels important, useful and a type of guide to the often mysterious and dismaying act of parenting. But what happens when your kids don't meet or live up to your expectations? What happens to your parent child relationship? Do you define yourself as a parent on their outcomes? Do you blame them for your emotional disregulation? Find out more in this episode where we will explore how clinging to specific expectations may actually be causing more harm than good for your own emotional life and your ability to parent effectively. You will l...2024-07-1528 min
Becoming You AgainUnderstanding Manipulation Tactics in RelationshipsIs your partner manipulating you? In this episode you will learn how to spot five common manipulation tactics, how they may be showing up in your relationship and how to decide what to do for yourself if you find yourself being manipulated by your partner. You will learn practical steps to recognize and combat these manipulations, ensuring you can navigate your relationships with confidence and clarity. If you are in a relationship right now, going through a divorce and the end of a relationship or hoping to find someone in the future, knowing the signs of manipulation...2024-07-0827 min
Becoming You AgainTricky Negative ThinkingEver wondered why negative thoughts grip you so tightly during and after a divorce? In this episode you will learn to recognize and transform these thoughts to shift your perspective, bringing more calm and authenticity into your life. By understanding the trickery of these negative thoughts, you can start to build emotional resilience and navigate the challenges of divorce more effectively.Explore how negative thinking manipulates your nervous system and survival instincts, convincing you that your very existence is under threat. Learn how your brain builds a case for these thoughts by recalling past experiences, even rejecting...2024-07-0129 min
Becoming You AgainTransforming Defensiveness into Deeper ConnectionEver found yourself in the throes of an argument, feeling defensive and misunderstood? What if you could transform those moments into opportunities for deeper connection? This week on "Becoming You Again," I tackle the intricate and often misunderstood topic of defensiveness in relationships. I share personal stories from my own marriage, revealing how quickly defensiveness can arise when we feel unheard or dismissed. You will discover how evolutionary biology plays a role in our defensive reactions, and learn how to navigate these moments with greater self-awareness and patience.I'll take you through the journey from reacting to...2024-06-2424 min
Becoming You AgainMoving Beyond Victim Mentality After DivorceWhat if moving beyond the pain of divorce could lead you to an entirely new level of empowerment? In this transformative episode of "Becoming You Again," we unpack the intricate process of breaking free from a victim mindset. You will learn crucial steps to take to move beyond the victim mentality while still acknowledging and validating your experiences without blame. Each step plays a vital role in reclaiming your power, setting you up for a more resilient life post-divorce.Your divorce journey is about recognizing and stepping into your personal power, fostering growth, and rebuilding self-trust. Those t...2024-06-1720 min
Becoming You AgainListening To Your BodyPart of healing from your divorce is learning to actively listen to your body's wisdom. In this episode you'll learn exactly how to listen to your body and learn it's unique language. You will discover how embracing your body's language will be a catalyst for personal growth, wisdom and reconnection after years of neglect.I'll guide you through grounding exercise where you will fine tune how to listen to your body and begin to see patterns of speaking to you through vibrations, sensations, tension, temperature and more. These practices will help you decode your body's language and b...2024-06-1015 min
Becoming You AgainDivorce, The Nervous System and Polyvagal TheoryEver wonder how your body’s automatic functions can impact your emotional health, especially during tough times like a divorce? This episode of "Becoming You Again" promises to shed light on the surprisingly profound connection between your autonomic nervous system and your mental well-being. Having a better understanding of the nervous system and how it affects our emotional states can help maintain more emotional stability during your divorce.You'll also be introduced to the vagus nerve, how it connects to our nervous system and polyvagal theory. By the end of this episode you'll know a little more ab...2024-06-0320 min
Becoming You AgainDivorce Mindset and Thought WorkThis episode is all about mindset and thought work - specifically the impact intentionally choosing your thoughts will have on you and your emotional life right now and moving forward after divorce. Did you know that the thoughts in your brain are not just truths being handed to you? Your brain gathers thoughts, ideas and beliefs in two main ways; through your life experiences, teachings, socialization, senses, etc and through your cognitive bias. Knowing this can open you up to the idea that thoughts aren't necessarily truth. This is great news. Once we know our thoughts are...2024-05-2718 min
Becoming You AgainSpring Is On Its WayWhen you're feeling so overwhelmed by your divorce - you can't see any hope in sight - just remember that spring is on its way. When things are really hard we can beat ourselves up thinking that we need to know the end game; that we need to see the next steps play out; we need to know how it's all going to work out. When things are hard it feels like winter - cold, hard, and dark and like it will last forever. But what you can practice remembering is that you don't need to know...2024-05-2015 min
Becoming You AgainBreaking Free from the People-Pleasing Trap in the Aftermath of DivorceCan all the people pleasers raise their hands? Yes, mine is right up there with you. I am what you might call a recovering people pleaser and if you struggle with people pleasing, you can be too. By the end of this episode you'll know exactly what a people pleaser is, why we do it and a few tips on how to break free from the people pleasing trap, especially after your divorce. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.2024-05-1316 min
Becoming You AgainGood MothersHave you ever had a thought like this cross your mind..."Good mothers don't yell at their kids." "Good mothers don't have kids who get bad grades." "Good mothers aren't divorce." "Good mothers aren't away from their kids 50% of the time." "Good mothers are there to tuck in their kids at night." "Good mothers don't make mistakes." If you answered yet, then this episode is a must listen. This episode peels back the layers of societal expectations and the self-judgment that burdens mothers, especially when parenting alone. I'm going to teach you how to embrace your imperfections...2024-05-0614 min
Becoming You AgainJudgement and GriefThere is an enemy to grief is judgement; judgement of yourself, where you are at on your grief journey and what your unique grief journey looks like. If you've been feeling like you 'should be over him by now' or 'it's been long enough - just get over it', then you may have some unacknowledged judgement of yourself and what you're feeling. This judgement can keep you stuck and unable to process through the grief you need to allow so you can heal. Listen in as I discuss why judgement is the enemy of grief and what you...2024-04-2914 min
Becoming You AgainBox Breathing Grounding TechniqueHave you ever found yourself feeling anxious, stressed - even to the point of panicked during your divorce? If you answered yes, then this week's grounding exercise may be the perfect fit for you. I'm walking you through a grounding technique called Box Breathing. You will first be introduced to what box breathing is, the science behind it and why it is so effective on helping you feel less anxious, less stressed and more connected to yourself, your body and the here and now. If this grounding technique is resonant with you, add it to...2024-04-2212 min
Becoming You AgainBreaking the Chains of Regret After DivorceHaunted by the echoes of decisions past, we've all faced the ghost of regret, especially in the aftermath of a marriage ending. In this episode, I'm opening up about the often unspoken sorrows of divorce, the 'what ifs' and 'if onlys' that can cling to us like chains. Your journey through divorce is one of healing and growth, and in this episode, you'll be armed with the tools to break the chains of regret, have compassion for yourself and you'll gain the insights needed to embrace self-love and resilience during this profound life transition. Listen in, to eq...2024-04-1515 min
Becoming You AgainEmbracing Strength and Healing After Divorce with Jessica FrewThis week I'm joined by the vibrant Jessica Frew who shares her story of marriage, betrayal, divorce and so much more. Jessica talks about the moment she knew divorce was right for her and how she tapped into that knowing. She shares how she and her ex were able to come up with a 'divorce plan' for the sake of their daughter. You'll learn the importance of coming back to yourself after divorce. You'll also learn about the pitfalls of 'perfect partner syndrome', what it is and how to avoid falling into the trap of trying to b...2024-04-0843 min
Becoming You AgainWinning the Battle with Divorce UncertaintyThe uncertainty of divorce feels scary, worrisome and anxiety ridden. In this episode we're going to understand the innate human quest for predictability and how that can be both a curse and a source of empowerment during divorce. I'll walk you through how evolutionary biology plays a huge role in the pain we feel around uncertainty and what you can do to move through the uncertainty of your divorce moving toward a future that you actually want and are excited about. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Make sure to f...2024-04-0117 min