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Back Porch Bestie59: Combating Toxic Relationship BehaviorsListen to one of the top downloaded episodes to date! Have you ever experienced love bombing or guilt tripping in a relationship? Both behaviors can create blurred lines between red flags and genuine mistakes in relationships. In this episode, Kasey reflects on how love bombing was her way of receiving validation and reassurance as a child. Kelsey shares her personal experience of how someone guilt tripping her would make her more likely to forgive them, even if their actions were questionable. Tune in to learn how these manipulative behaviors manifest, their impact on relationships, and how addressing these behaviors...2024-06-1315 minBack Porch Bestie58: Balancing Motherhood and Business Ownership with Amy Dover, LMFTIn the journey of entrepreneurship, often unexpected paths lead to transformation and growth. Amy Dover, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, embarked on her solo practice journey with intentions different from the eventual reality. Despite initially planning to operate as a solo practitioner, the rapid increase of clients meant an expansion into a group practice. This transition left her in a balancing act of managing work demands while also being present as a mom. In this episode, Amy shares her journey, struggles, and wins in building a successful practice in Alabama. Tune in and learn how faith, values, and...2024-06-0623 minBack Porch Bestie57: Building Confidence Through Your FailuresReflecting on last week’s conversation with Dr. Tara Sanderson, Kasey and Kelsey continue chatting about perfectionism and how it really does affect how people live their lives. They discuss the connection between perfectionism, confidence, and self-esteem, and share their own stories of lessons learned – like how crucial it is to just accept your flaws and really enjoy the here and now. Get insights on soaking up the present, celebrating being your true self, and ditching that draining need to impress everyone. By embracing those little mishaps and stepping out of your comfort zone once in a while, you'll brea...2024-05-3019 minBack Porch Bestie56: Is Perfectionism a Trauma Response? with Dr. Tara Sanderson, PsyD, MBAAre perfectionists born or made? According to Dr. Tara Sanderson, perfectionism can stem from a fear response, often triggered by past experiences. In this episode, Dr. Tara shares her personal journey and how she has learned to embrace fluidity and authenticity. She also talks about the revised edition of her book, "Too Much, Not Enough," which discusses ways to decrease anxiety and perfectionism by really being mindful about how we live. Tune in for insights into recognizing unhealthy perfectionistic tendencies and finding freedom in decision-making!
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Dr. Tara Sanderson, PsyD, MB...2024-05-2327 minBack Porch Bestie55: Communicating Effectively and Building an Unstoppable Team with Mike MichalowiczJoin Mike Michalowicz as he shares his secret sauce for rock-solid communication and crafting teams that simply can't be stopped. He talks about his experiences working with a predominantly female team and emphasizes the importance of creating a culture of trust and authenticity. He also discusses his approach to conflict resolution and highlights the value of giving grace and allowing for mistakes. Mike also gives advice from his book, "All In: How Great Leaders Build Unstoppable Teams," which explores the role of communication in fostering a thriving work environment.
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Mike M...2024-05-1628 minBack Porch Bestie54: The Gift of Dissociation with Ryan Pink (Part 2)The besties continue to chat with Ryan Pink about the journey through trauma and healing. They discuss the connection between our physiology and our mythology (thoughts and beliefs), and give their thoughts on addressing trauma from a physiological perspective, starting with the nervous system and then moving to the mind. They also touch on the topic of dissociation and its role in trauma and entrepreneurship. Ryan shares his personal experience with dissociation - although often viewed as a negative symptom, it’s a remarkable gift that allows us to protect ourselves from overwhelming pain.
About Rya...2024-05-0919 minBack Porch Bestie53: Using the Right Tool to Fix the Problem: Holistic Trauma Healing with Ryan Pink (Part 1)Ryan Pink, an entrepreneur and trauma expert, shares his personal journey of being diagnosed with acute and complex PTSD, which led him to explore various trauma healing modalities. He spent $300,000 and even tried 18 therapy sessions per week to find relief. His experience inspired him to help others reduce the barriers to healing from trauma. Ryan discusses the importance of finding the right tools and therapies for individual healing, as well as the role of natural healing mechanisms in the process. His goal is to empower individuals to take control of their own healing and provide accessible resources for trauma...2024-05-0219 minBack Porch Bestie52: Managing Conflicts in Your Relationship (#NightTimeKelsey) with Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPCThe amazing Tara Vossenkemper is back for another episode! In this conversation, her and the besties chat about how relationships can change and get better over time. Tara explains the concept of perspective and how the way we see things (our personal lenses) can totally shape our relationship experiences. She also talks about the importance of addressing conflicts and understanding the underlying emotions and needs behind them. Kasey and Kelsey even throw in some of their own relationship conflicts (#NightTimeKelsey), and share advice for working through challenges in order to keep your relationship moving in a positive direction.
2024-04-2536 minBack Porch Bestie51: Alternative Healing Tools for Trauma (Flower Essences, Tarot, and Reiki) with Maureen Clancy, LCSW, Reiki MasterMaureen Clancy, a licensed clinical social worker and Reiki master, shares her personal journey of healing from trauma and how she discovered alternative healing tools such as flower essences, Reiki, and tarot. These practices, although not backed by scientific research, have had a significant impact on her own well-being and the well-being of her clients. She explains how each of these tools can be integrated into therapy to support clients in their healing process. She also shares her insights on the power of energy and the benefits of a regulated nervous system for creating a safe and healing space. 2024-04-1824 minBack Porch Bestie50: How to Manage Stress and Prevent Burnout with Gabrielle Juliano-Villani, LCSWStruggling with burnout? You're not alone! Burnout is a real struggle, and sometimes we don't even realize we're experiencing it. Gabrielle Juliano-Villani, a licensed clinical social worker, shares her personal experience of dealing with burnout and how it led her to shift her focus from therapy to coaching and consulting. She discusses the impact of stress on our lives and the importance of understanding our nervous system's response to stress. She also offers insights into recognizing burnout and gives strategies for managing it, such as setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care.
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G...2024-04-1124 minBack Porch Bestie49: Finding Self-Care That Works For You with Traci W. Pirri, LCSW-S, EMDR Approved ConsultantExercising, taking a bubble bath, relaxing on the couch…you’ve heard of the “typical” self-care routines. What about personalized self-care? Traci W. Pirri, owner of Hope for the Journey, discusses her thoughts on personalized self-care and the importance of finding activities that align with your own individual needs and personality type. Traci shares her personal journey of realizing her need for active forms of self-care, and how finding what worked best for her has positively impacted her life and relationships. She also highlights the prevalence of autoimmune disorders and chronic illness among caregivers and the need to address the impa...2024-04-0430 minBack Porch Bestie48: Breaking Free from the Boxes: Unapologetic Authenticity with Dr. Emy TafelskiIn a world that constantly bombards us with messages about who we should be and how we should act, embracing unapologetic authenticity can be a transformative journey. According to Dr. Emy Tafelski, a licensed therapist turned transformational coach, authenticity is the magical elixir that can heal us and the world around us.
In this episode, Dr. Tafelski shares her own journey of healing and self-discovery after the loss of her mother, which led her to question societal expectations and embrace her authentic self. She explains how she helps women break free from the boxes they've be...2024-03-2823 minBack Porch Bestie47: A Book Launch Is A Lot Like Giving BirthFrom feeling exposed to experiencing joy, launching “In Search of You” has been a rollercoaster of emotions for Kasey. In this episode, the besties discuss the experience of launching a book and the highs and lows that come with it. Kasey opens up about the support she received during the book launch party, highlighting those that attended (and those that didn’t). She also reflects on the feedback she has received so far, including hitting the Amazon Hot New Releases list. Hit play for all of the behind-the-scenes details of launching a memoir/self-help book and how it’s a lot li...2024-03-2121 minBack Porch Bestie46: Embracing Your Authentic Voice with Berit Elizabeth, MAEver struggled with having hard conversations? Did you know that our body language, posture, and voice can impact how we feel and how others perceive us during difficult conversations? It’s true! Berit Elizabeth, Founder and CEO of Practice Axis, shares her journey as an entrepreneur and anti-shame activist, discussing her technique called Emotive Agility. She explains how this technique can help you navigate difficult conversations and express emotions effectively. Berit also shares her own personal experience of losing her voice after being diagnosed with ETP (eager to please) and NGE (not good enough), which led to her developing an...2024-03-1421 minBack Porch Bestie45: Exploring Sexuality, Gender and Relationships with Noelle Clason, LMFT, PhD Candidate in Human SexualityDive into the fascinating realm of human sexuality, gender expression, and consensual non-monogamy with Noelle Clason, founder of Sex-Positive Therapy! Noelle shares her background and expertise in gender, sexuality, and relationships, particularly within marginalized communities. She discusses the importance of creating a safe space for clients, the normalization of open conversations about sex, and the role of therapy in supporting individuals navigating their sexual and gender identities. Noelle also breaks down the meaning of various terms, such as BDSM, kink, fetish, and consensual non-monogamy. Tune in to this episode that challenges societal norms and opens the door to a...2024-03-0730 minBack Porch Bestie44: The Pursuit of Joy with Jeffrey ShawSuccess isn’t just about business accomplishments, but also about personal growth and becoming the best version of yourself. Jeffrey Shaw, an authority and advocate for self-employed business owners, joins this conversation to discuss the pursuit of joy, the challenges of high achievement, and the importance of wearing your heart on the outside. He shares his experience with grief, challenges of same-sex relationships, and the importance of passion and authenticity. Jeffrey's unique perspective on life and business will inspire and motivate you to embrace your own journey in life!
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Jeffrey Sha...2024-02-2942 minBack Porch Bestie43: Breaking the Silence on Hearing Loss with Dr. Dawn Heiman, AuDWhy is hearing loss often overlooked and underdiagnosed? In this episode, clinical audiologist Dr. Dawn Heiman delves into the societal taboo surrounding discussions and check-ups for hearing impairments and advocates for the normalization of when to seek help. She discusses how individuals with hearing loss are often undertreated, not always taken seriously, and can negatively affect their cognitive development when not properly treated. She also touches on how hearing loss can have a harmful impact on one's interpersonal relationships. Tune in for all the details on prioritizing your hearing health and addressing hearing loss as soon as possible!
2024-02-2224 minBack Porch Bestie42: Letting Go of Outcomes and Unlocking Creativity with Susie deVilleSusie deVille, founder and CEO of the Innovation and Creativity Institute, shares her mission to help entrepreneurs and visionary leaders connect with their creativity, discover their true selves, and unlock their entrepreneurial potential. This conversation taps into the importance of embracing creativity, overcoming cultural messaging, and finding joy and fulfillment in life. Tune in to learn about the transformative power of unleashing your creative side, as well as gain practical tips for incorporating creativity into your everyday life!
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Susie de...2024-02-1532 minBack Porch Bestie41: Differences Between a Therapist & Psychoanalyst with Diana Gasperoni, LCSW-RTherapy isn’t just for the crisis moments. Diana Gasperoni, the founder of Be.WELL. Psychotherapy and Wellbeing, believes in the power of long-term treatment and continued growth. She has patients she's worked with for over 20 years, supporting them through various life transitions! In this conversation, Diana provides insights into the world of psychotherapy and the importance of long-term treatment. Learn the differences between a therapist and psychoanalyst, the benefits of lying down during therapy sessions, as well as dream analysis and its role in therapy.
About Diana Gasperoni:
Diana Gasperoni is the found...2024-02-0831 minBack Porch Bestie40: Transform Your Money Mindset with Lisa Marie RobinsonReady to gain financial empowerment and rewrite your money story? Lisa Marie Robinson, the owner and founder of The Sassy Wealth Coach, joins this episode to discuss the often taboo topic…money! Lisa explains how the impact of childhood money beliefs carries on into adult life, the stigma surrounding women and money, and the importance of mindset in achieving financial success. She also shares her own journey of overcoming financial struggles, as well as gives advice for transforming your money mindset and creating a strategic money roadmap!
About Lisa Marie Robinson:
Lisa is bes...2024-02-0136 minBack Porch Bestie39: Turning Pain Into Power: Unpacking Trauma, Attachments, and ResilienceListen to one of the top downloaded episodes to date! Are you carrying around past trauma like a heavy backpack? Hit play and learn how to transform that pain into a powerful backbone! In this episode, Kasey and Kelsey unpack the concept of turning past trauma into strength, as mentioned by Scarlett Mulligan (episode 05 guest). The besties discuss the impact of attachment styles and how childhood experiences shape our behaviors, such as needing to continuously escape reality or the need to always know what is going on in order to feel a sense of protection. They also touch on...2024-01-2518 minBack Porch Bestie38: The Danger of Accepting BreadcrumbsEmily Hammons returns to take on the role as guest co-host. Together, she and Kelsey discuss various topics such as the concept of clones and how they reappear in our lives if we don't deal with past traumas, the idea of accepting breadcrumbs in relationships, and the transformative changes they have noticed in Kasey throughout the journey of writing In Search of You. Kelsey also shares her personal experience of how her relationship with Kasey evolved and the moments that made her realize there was something more.
Pre-order In Search of You on Amazon, Barnes & No...2024-01-1816 minBack Porch Bestie37: Witnessing Kasey’s Writing Evolution with Emily HammonsHave you ever wondered what goes on behind the scenes of writing a book? Well, you're in for a treat! Emily Hammons, marketing and systems consultant with KC Consulting, has been able to witness first-hand Kasey's writing process. In this episode, Emily and Kelsey discuss Kasey’s process for both books, Fix This Next and In Search of You, and highlight the differences between the two. Emily explains how Fix This Next was more straightforward and business-oriented, while In Search of You uncovers Kasey's personal journey and emotions.
Tune in to uncover the transformation, fears, and...2024-01-1117 minBack Porch Bestie36: Learning to Set Boundaries and Stop Overfunctioning with Rosa JonesListen to the top downloaded guest episode to date! Rosa Jones discusses the topic of over-functioning and highlights the importance of recognizing limits and boundaries in order to succeed. Over-functioning is taking on the responsibilities, emotions, and needs of those around us, often as a way of managing our own anxiety or insecurities. The ladies discuss going beyond their capacity in relationships, which for Kasey is connected to past childhood experiences.
This episode is a reminder to stop and remember that your worth is already settled, regardless of how much you do. Rosa works to i...2024-01-0433 minBack Porch Bestie35: Adaptability, Change, and The Suckiness of Leadership with Michael Diettrich-ChastainKasey and Kelsey discuss their personal experiences with leadership and the challenges they sometimes face in their group practice. They express their struggles with meeting the needs and expectations of both customers and employees, highlighting the "suckiness" of leadership. Michael Diettrich-Chastain, the founder and CEO of Arc Integrated, joins the conversation to share his expertise on change management and peak performance in the workplace.
Michael emphasizes the need for leaders to know who they are not for, as well as the importance of asking the right questions to influence others. From discussing the significance of k...2023-12-2827 minBack Porch Bestie34: Beyond Guilt and Shame: Kasey's Path to Self-LoveListen to one of the top downloaded episodes to date! Kasey and Kelsey discuss the topic of going against convention by challenging traditional values and societal expectations in order to pursue authenticity and joy in life. Kasey opens up about the unconventional decisions from her past, including divorcing her husband and entering into a relationship with a woman (Kelsey). From a young age Kasey began going against the conventions she had been raised with, such as religion, gender roles, race and culture. Tune in to hear thoughts on the risks and rewards of letting one's guard down, the importance...2023-12-2135 minBack Porch Bestie33: From Busy to Balanced: Helping High-Achieving Women Find More Time with Lisa Crilley MallisIn a world that glorifies busyness, it’s imperative to recognize the importance of strategic action and work-life balance. Lisa Crilley Mallis, founder of Impactive Strategies, joins this conversation to share how she helps busy women business owners transform their day-to-day busyness into productivity and reclaim time for personal fulfillment.
Lisa explains her approach to coaching clients, which involves identifying time thieves and leveraging strengths to create effective time management strategies. She also discusses the benefits of delegating tasks and making intentional choices to prioritize what truly matters. Tune in to gain practical tips for achi...2023-12-1423 minBack Porch Bestie32: Love Bombing, Guilt Tripping, and Manipulation in RelationshipsLove bombing: the act of showering someone with excessive affection, attention, and gifts in order to manipulate or control them.
Have you ever experienced love bombing or guilt tripping in a relationship? Both behaviors can create blurred lines between red flags and genuine mistakes in relationships. In this episode, Kasey reflects on how love bombing was her way of receiving validation and reassurance as a child. Kelsey shares her personal experience of how someone guilt tripping her would make her more likely to forgive them, even if their actions were questionable. Tune in to learn ho...2023-12-0715 minBack Porch Bestie31: The Dark Side of Twin Flames UniverseWhat would you do if someone you love got involved in a toxic community or relationship? Kasey and Kelsey share their thoughts on the recently popular Netflix documentary, Escaping Twin Flames. They analyze the manipulation tactics used by leaders Jeff and Shaleia, who created a cult-like community centered around finding one's twin flame. The besties discuss the disturbing reality of the Twin Flames Universe, unpacking the psychological manipulation and emotional abuse that occurred. Throughout the episode, they examine the core fears and vulnerabilities that can lead individuals to become ensnared in such controlling relationships. They also touch on relationship...2023-11-3020 minBack Porch Bestie30: The Visiting Dilemma: To Visit or Not to Visit?Are you a chitchatter who loves visiting people's houses or do you prefer having them visit you? Kasey and Kelsey discuss their contrasting views and experiences when it comes to visiting friends and family. They compare childhood memories, family dynamics, and personal preferences that shape their attitudes towards social visits. Kelsey reminisces about sitting at kitchen tables and engaging in chit chat with family and friends. Kasey expresses her discomfort in visiting people's houses and prefers staying in her own environment.
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Tune in then head over to In...2023-11-2318 minBack Porch Bestie29: From Swirlies to Social Media: Teaching Kids to Stand Up for ThemselvesEver wondered how your child would handle a bullying situation? Would they talk it out or fight back? Inspired by a TikTok video, Kasey and Kelsey discuss the topic of bullying and how to teach children to handle altercations. They reflect on their own childhood experiences with bullying and openly share how they would want their own children to handle certain situations. Hear their thoughts on self-defense, the importance of modeling healthy conflict as parents, and the evolving nature of bullying in today's society. Tune in as they ponder the best strategies for empowering their kids to stand up...2023-11-1621 minBack Porch Bestie28: Unpacking the Trauma and Mental Health Struggles of Pop Icon, Britney SpearsWith the recent release of Britney Spears’ memoir, Kasey and Kelsey provide their thoughts on the trauma and mental health struggles of the 1990’s pop icon. They discuss the challenges she faced as a young girl in the spotlight, the invasive nature of the media, and the impact of her conservatorship. They also explain the impact of trauma bonds and the pressure put on young girls to be "good" in society.
While some may not have been fans of Britney Spears, it's important to recognize the immense pressure she faced growing up in the public eye, a...2023-11-0929 minBack Porch Bestie27: The Enneagram Explained with Whitney Owens, LPCThe Enneagram is a powerful tool that can help us understand our personality type and how we interact with the world. It consists of 9 different types, each with their own motivations, fears, and behaviors. Enneagram expert and licensed professional counselor, Whitney Owens, share her journey of discovering her Enneagram type and how it has transformed her understanding of herself and others.
Whitney explains that the Enneagram is not about putting people in boxes but rather gaining insight into our own tendencies and moving towards healthier behaviors. This conversation explores the different Enneagram numbers and how th...2023-11-0232 minBack Porch Bestie26: Aliens, Chupacabras, and Mom GuiltIn this interesting conversation, Kasey and Kelsey discuss a range of topics including a chupacabra in Wisconsin, experiencing mom guilt, and the importance of pursuing hobbies and self-care. They reflect on the guilt that many moms feel when doing things they love, and the pressure to justify their time and energy.
Hear the besties' thoughts on pursuing activities that bring you happiness, such as a creative hobby. Taking time for yourself not only benefits your mental health but also allows you to show up as the best version of yourself for others. By taking small st...2023-10-2619 minBack Porch Bestie25: Let's Get DEEP: Creating Open and Honest ConversationsWhat better way to spark deep, meaning conversation than by playing a game?! In this episode, Kasey and Kelsey play a card game, Let's Get Deep: Questions for Couples, live on the podcast. They dive into icebreakers, deep questions, and then move into asking even DEEPER questions. Little did they know that this fun and simple game would lead them to explore the complexities of relationships and uncover new insights about themselves and each other.
From navigating friendships after divorce to political views and sex positions, get ready for this open and honest conversation!
2023-10-1931 minBack Porch Bestie24: Liar, Liar, Pants On FireLies, lies, and more lies!
Inspired by an episode from We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle, Kasey and Kelsey dive into the topic of lies vs truths, and the impact that lies have on relationships and personal growth. From past relationships where lies were prevalent, to struggling with being honest about emotions, this episode dives into the complexities of lies and the shame and fear that often accompany them.
It’s no surprise…we all lie, to varying degrees, and for various reasons. But the impact of those lies extend far beyond...2023-10-1234 minBack Porch Bestie23: Relationship Red FlagsWe all know that feeling when something just doesn't seem right in a relationship, but sometimes it can be difficult to recognize those red flags and take action. In this conversation, Kasey and Kelsey discuss the importance of understanding how past experiences can influence our ability to identify and address red flags in romantic relationships and friendships.
Kasey shares her experience of being in a relationship where trust was repeatedly broken through lies and deception. Kelsey adds that red flags can often be a result of maladaptive coping mechanisms developed from past experiences, and it is...2023-10-0542 minBack Porch Bestie22: Taking the Non-Traditional Career PathIn a world that often pushes us into predefined boxes, it's essential to challenge societal norms and embrace non-traditional paths. In this conversation, Kelsey and Kasey discuss their recent visit to a local high school where they spoke to seniors about careers. They share their experiences and observations, including the importance of exploring different career options and embracing creativity. They also discuss the impact of family dynamics and societal expectations on career choices.
As mothers and women who took the non-traditional path, both ladies feel a responsibility to empower the next generation to explore their pa...2023-09-2823 minBack Porch Bestie21: Healing from Religious Trauma and Stepping Into Spirituality with Dawn Gabriel, MA, LPCWhat happens when we neglect our spiritual selves? In a world where we are constantly bombarded with the pressures of work, relationships, and societal expectations, it's easy to lose sight of our own spiritual well-being. Many of us can find ourselves sacrificing our souls in pursuit of success, whether it be in our careers or even in our roles as parents and partners.
Dawn Gabriel joins the show to share her personal journey of discovering the power of soul care and how it transformed her own life. This episode explores the concept of deconstructing and re...2023-09-2125 minBack Porch Bestie20: Overcoming Limiting Beliefs: Embracing Fear and Taking Action with Christy PennisonWhat is holding you back from accomplishing your goals?
What if what is in the way is actually the way?
Christy Pennison joins the show to discuss limiting beliefs and how they hold us back from pursuing our goals. Hear personal experiences and insights on overcoming self-doubt and fear, such as Kasey's own journey of gaining self-confidence and embracing authenticity. Christy emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and surrounding yourself with supportive people who can reflect your true potential back to you. If you’re eager to finally let go of the what-if’s and ta...2023-09-1431 minBack Porch Bestie19: Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone and Finding Confidence with Patrick Casale, LCMHC, LCASAre you struggling with self-doubt?
Do you continue to allow limiting-beliefs to hold you back?
You’re not alone.
Many individuals, including therapists, struggle with feelings of insecurity and imposter syndrome, which can limit their potential and hinder their success. This conversation with Patrick Casale, a licensed clinical mental health counselor and addiction specialist, explores the topic of self-doubt and strategies for overcoming it.
Through his own experiences and expertise, Patrick sheds light on the importance of normalizing failure and embracing imperfection. By taking risks, stepping out of your...2023-09-0727 minBack Porch Bestie18: Breaking Gender Stereotypes: Challenging Traditional Roles in RelationshipsHave you ever felt confined by traditional gender roles in your relationship? In this episode, Kasey and Kelsey share their own personal experiences and discuss the importance of challenging the traditional gender norms. They touch on topics such as parenting, financial responsibilities, and societal expectations, as well as talk through the challenges they have faced in breaking free from these norms.
The besties explain why it’s so important to let go of preconceived notions and embrace your individuality. It's okay to challenge traditional gender roles and define your own roles based on your strengths and...2023-08-3136 minBack Porch Bestie17: Intimacy 101Let’s talk about sex! …and intimacy.
Even though a lot of people consider intimacy to be solely about sex, there is so much more to it than that. Kasey and Kelsey explore the multifaceted nature of intimacy and how it goes way beyond the physical connection.
Drawing from the book "Hold Me Tight" by Sue Johnson, Kasey explains that relationships are emotional bonds built on emotional connection and compassion, which cannot be negotiated or bargained for. Learn how prioritizing emotional safety, embracing vulnerability, and addressing shame and guilt can cultivate a more intimat...2023-08-2431 minBack Porch Bestie16: Letting Go of Mom GuiltGuilt is a common emotion that many people experience, particularly moms. In this conversation, Kasey and Kelsey tackle guilt head-on! They discuss the different types of guilt that mothers experience, such as guilt related to work, finances, and time with their kids. They also discuss the societal expectations placed on mothers, as well as the shame that can come from family members, friends, and even other moms.
Learn why prioritizing yourself is not a bad thing, and how asking for help should be considered a sign of strength, not weakness. If you’re a mom strug...2023-08-1720 minBack Porch Bestie15: Grieving Your Past SelfGrief is a complex emotion. This conversation explores the many layers of grief and how it extends beyond the typical understanding of mourning a death. There's actually so much more to it than that.
Kasey and Kelsey share their personal experiences of grieving different aspects of their lives, such as past versions of themselves and relationships that didn't work out. They also touch on the importance of self-love, boundaries, and self-awareness in the process of grieving and finding one's true identity. Listen now and learn why embracing grief should be part of your own journey t...2023-08-1030 minBack Porch Bestie14: I Want To Be A Succulent Farmer When I Grow UpAs a follow-up to episode 13 with Nate Johnson, this episode continues with the topic finding fulfillment in life. Kasey and Kelsey discuss the importance of living in the present moment instead of constantly focusing on the future. They reflect on their own journeys and the societal pressures they faced to achieve certain milestones, such as a “perfect” marriage and financial success. Learn how experiencing true joy comes from looking inward, as well as seeking relationships that fulfill your emotional needs.
Remember, success doesn't always equal fulfillment!
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(03:15) Rediscov...2023-08-0331 minBack Porch Bestie13: Your Soul Needs These Types of Conversations! with Nate JohnsonLooking for a change in your life? Don’t miss this episode!
Nate Johnson (the first dude to join Back Porch Bestie!) joins us to discuss the topics of self-discovery, personal growth, and the pursuit of fulfillment. After societal conditioning led him to chase and achieve success, he was surprisingly left feeling empty and unfulfilled. In this conversation, he emphasizes the importance of being present in the moment and not being attached to outcomes or timelines. He also highlights the need for balance in different areas of life and the power of vulnerability and deep con...2023-07-2727 minBack Porch Bestie12: The Challenges of Setting BoundariesBoundaries are a topic that often elicits mixed reactions. Some people embrace them as a necessary tool for maintaining healthy relationships, while others view them as unnecessary or even confrontational.
In this episode, Kasey and Kelsey share personal experiences and examples to illustrate the challenges and benefits of setting boundaries in different areas of life, such as work, relationships, and family. They also touch on the difficulty of setting boundaries with toxic individuals, and the importance of self-advocacy and self-love in the process.
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(01:05) The overuse and misus...2023-07-2028 minBack Porch Bestie11: Building Stronger Relationships Through Emotional SafetyThe key to a strong relationship? Emotional safety. It is the foundation upon which trust, vulnerability, and intimacy are built. However, many of us may not even be aware of what emotional safety truly means or how it impacts our relationships.
In this conversation, Kasey and Kelsey discuss the importance of emotional safety and its significance in fostering a healthy and fulfilling connection. They reflect on their own experiences and emphasize the importance of being able to share their emotions openly and honestly with one another. Listen now to discover the power of creating a sa...2023-07-1327 minBack Porch Bestie10: Emotional Tolerance and Its Impact on RelationshipsAs a follow-up to episode 09 with Jessica Schroeder, this episode continues with the topic of emotions. Kelsey explains her reasoning for dissociating during the previous episode, and opens up about her journey of self-discovery and the realization that she had been settling for less in life. Together, Kasey and Kelsey delve into their childhood experiences and the impact it has had on their emotional expression. They discuss the role of their parents, friendships, and the need for a safe space to share emotions.
This heartfelt conversation highlights the importance of understanding one's emotional needs and th...2023-07-0627 minBack Porch Bestie09: Navigating All The Feels: Emotionally Focused Therapy EFT with Jessica SchroederEmotions are an essential part of our everyday lives, but not everyone has the tools to navigate them effectively. This is where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) comes into play! In this episode, Jessica Schroeder shares her personal experience with EFT and how it changed her perspective on human existence.
Join us as we discuss the impact of childhood relationships on adult attachment styles and behaviors, and how it can manifest in fear of failure, abandonment and disappointment. Learn how EFT can help you gain the tools to process past experiences and express your emotions effectively, a...2023-06-2938 minBack Porch Bestie08: Exploring Codependency in Relationships with Dr. Kellie RiceDr. Kellie Rice provides valuable insights into the topic of codependency, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, seeking therapy, and finding one's true identity in healing from codependent relationships. She also touches on the impact of scarcity mindset, the importance of valuing time and being specific about preferences in dating, and the role of codependency and narcissism in relationships.
Listen now as we explore the root causes of codependency and how to prioritize your own well-being. Learn how to establish healthy boundaries and create fulfilling relationships. Remember, understanding yourself and staying true to your val...2023-06-2236 minBack Porch Bestie07: Big T’s and Little T’s: Trauma and EMDR Therapy with Rachel HarrisonRachel Harrison, LCPC, NCC shares her personal experience with trauma and how it led her to become a trauma specialist. She believes that trauma is often the root of many mental health symptoms and that everyone has experienced trauma to some degree. Simply having insight into the trauma does not necessarily stop the behavior or distress. EMDR therapy works by taking the distress away and decreasing the body and emotional response to traumatic memories, allowing clients to remember the event without feeling the associated negative emotions.
Tune in to learn how EMDR therapy works, the i...2023-06-1535 minBack Porch Bestie06: Escape, Energy and Predictability: A Look at Trauma and AttachmentAs a follow-up to episode 05 with Scarlett Mulligan, this episode continues with the topic of attachment. In the previous episode, Scarlett mentioned that we can form attachment styles as children, which can in turn affect our lives as adults. Kasey and Kelsey had a lot of thoughts about this, including how Scarlett was able to take the trauma she had experienced and turn it into something that could now be used as a backbone.
Many people carry around painful memories from childhood and early adulthood and are weighed down by them. This conversation looks back on...2023-06-0817 minBack Porch Bestie05: Overcoming Intergenerational Trauma To Create Secure Attachments with Scarlett MulliganScarlett Mulligan shares the impact of attachment styles on mental health, and shares her own experience growing up with parents who had their own attachment issues, which in turn was passed on to Scarlett. Hear her story of overcoming intergenerational trauma and eventually getting to a place of internal strength and happiness.
Attachment styles can be at the root of many issues in our lives, and understanding them is crucial to addressing many of the issues we face and can lead to healing and positive changes. Learn the significance of understanding attachment styles and how t...2023-06-0128 minBack Porch Bestie04: The Last Bit of ConventionKasey and Kelsey discuss the topic of going against convention. This sparks a conversation about Kasey’s unconventional decisions from her past, including divorcing her husband from her southern baptist community and entering a relationship with a woman (Kelsey). From a young age, Kasey began going against the conventions she had been raised with, such as religion, gender roles, race and culture. This episode touches on topics related to relationships, family dynamics, and ultimately becoming your own authentic self regardless of what others think.
Tune in to hear how vulnerability can be scary, but also nec...2023-05-2534 minBack Porch Bestie03: The Function Of Conflict with Tara VossenkemperTara Vossenkemper dives into the topic of conflict. Even when it doesn't feel good emotionally, it serves a crucial function in helping individuals be heard, understood, and create better relationships. Trara provides her perspective and experience with couples therapy and the ladies share their own experiences with past conflict.
Tune in to hear how Kasey and Kelsey dealt with conflict completely differently growing up and how it affects their relationship today, the fork in the road that allowed Tara to embrace conflict, the importance of relationship friction, and much more!
About Tar...2023-05-1733 minBack Porch Bestie02: Doing More Isn’t Always Better with Rosa JonesRosa Jones discusses the topic of over-functioning and highlights the importance of recognizing limits and boundaries in order to succeed. Overfunctioning is taking on the responsibilities, emotions, and needs of those around us, often as a way of managing our own anxiety or insecurities. The ladies discuss going beyond their capacity in relationships, which for Kasey is connected to past childhood experiences.
This episode is a reminder to stop and remember that your worth is already settled, regardless of how much you do. Rosa works to inspire others to live with purpose and intention. Ultimately, d...2023-05-1733 minBack Porch Bestie01: Searching For Something: A Journey Of Self-DiscoveryDo you feel the need to constantly do more and be perfect in order to get to where you want to be in life? Kasey and Kelsey delve into the topic of searching for joy; something that Kasey never actually knew was missing. They discuss how the concept of joy can often be overlooked in the pursuit of success and happiness.
After writing the little things that were coming up for her such as random memories, smells, signs, and colors, Kasey realized that she was missing out on the present by being so focused on th...2023-05-1731 minBack Porch Bestie[Trailer] Welcome To Back Porch BestieHave you ever looked around, examined your life, and thought is this IT??
I imagine you have, and I KNOW you’re not alone.
I’m Kasey and right here beside me is Kelsey. We are licensed professional counselors, mothers, entrepreneurs, oh and besties. We know first-hand what it’s like to wake up one day and think how in the heck did I wind up here?
As women, we often think that doing more will bring us closer to joy and fulfillment.
Lack connection? We join the PTA. Feel angry...2023-05-0907 min