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The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 321: The Selfish Woman with Valerie JonesValerie Jones joins me for a powerful conversation about something so many of us need to hear: redefining what it truly means to be selfish. Valerie is a life coach, host of The Selfish Woman Podcast, and the author of the upcoming book The Selfish Year: The Power of Choosing Yourself, hitting shelves in September 2025. In our conversation, Valerie shares the transformative experience of her own "selfish year" after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship — a year that challenged her to get radically honest with herself and stop outsourcing her self-worth. We also dive into dating as a se...2025-05-0146 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 320: The Black Hole of High Conflict with Brook OlsenIf you’re stuck in endless loops with a high-conflict ex, Brook Olsen wants you to stop expecting them to change, and start changing how you respond. Brook is a Certified Parenting Educator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict. In this conversation, we get real about what happens when you stop feeding the conflict, why parallel parenting is often the only way forward, and how choosing not to engage isn't weakness, it’s clarity. Plus, Brook offers a framework that isn’t just theory, it’s deeply practical and actionable, especiall...2025-04-2444 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 319: When the Healer Harms: Speaking out Against Lundy BancroftApril Worthington is a teacher, mother of five, minister, and author of The Debriefing Workbook: Hope and Healing after Spiritual Abuse. In this conversation, April shares her experience involving a retreat led by Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That?, a book many of us have clung to in our darkest moments. April’s story isn’t just one of personal harm, it’s a call to action. As a survivor of both spiritual abuse and high-conflict divorce, April recounts how her initial fan-girl admiration of Bancroft shifted into something far more troubling after an encount...2025-04-1751 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 318: The Messy Truth About Healing with Kerry McAvoy, Ph.DDr. Kerry McAvoy returns to talk about what it means to heal from narcissistic abuse. Not just from an intellectual standpoint, but healing your nervous system, in your relationships, and in your relationship to yourself. Healing is not quick, it’s not tidy, and it’s definitely not linear. Dr. Kerry and I talk about how women have been conditioned to serve, to disappear, to manage the emotions of everyone around us just to maintain the illusion of peace. We explore what emotional fusion looks like, what healthy relationships look like, and what it means to reconnect with...2025-04-1051 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 317: Burned Haystack Dating Method with Jennie YoungFinding a partner after divorce can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. This week’s guest, Jennie Young, suggests a bold alternative - burn the haystack. Jennie is the creator of Burned Haystack Dating Method, a method grounded in applied rhetoric and feminist praxis, designed to push back against the toxic norms built into many modern dating platforms. In this episode, Jennie shares practical, no-nonsense strategies for using dating apps more intentionally, treating them as tools (not lifelines), turning off notifications, and yes, burning the haystack. We also explore the common rhetorical patterns many me...2025-04-0357 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 316: Running The Numbers with Nikki TuckerNikki Tucker is back, and we’re tackling some of the most infuriating, and increasingly common, financial issues women are facing in divorce today. Nikki and I are arming you with strategies to fight back during divorce negotiations with facts and numbers. In this episode, we talk about how fear can make you want to just give in, and why that urge to "just be done" could cost you so much more than you realize. Nikki’s advice? Run the numbers. Know the math behind the “yes” and the “no.” Plus, we touch on something a lot of us don’t w...2025-03-2744 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 315: Your Next Brave Journey with Dawn Pick BensonDawn Pick Benson, a self-discovery travel coach and writer, joins me to explore how travel can be a powerful tool for transformation, especially during life’s crossroads, whether it’s divorce, a faith shift, or an identity crisis. When everything feels uncertain, moving forward can seem impossible. Dawn shares how travel became a catalyst for reclaiming her power, redefining her faith, and embracing a new identity. Her journey to Kosovo reveals how travel isn’t just an escape, it can be a path to deep spiritual reshaping and self-discovery. What you’ll hear: The pivot...2025-03-2043 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 314: Streamlining Divorce with Liz Pharo, Founder of Divorce.comWhat if divorce didn’t have to be as complicated or expensive? Liz Pharo, the founder of Divorce.com, is on a mission to make the divorce process easier and less stressful. In this episode, Liz shares how she transitioned from the tech world to create Divorce.com, a platform designed to help people handle the paperwork, planning, and even mediation in a more streamlined way. Liz and I talk about the different types of divorce, mediated vs. court-based, and why focusing on the kids and minimizing trauma is key. Plus, Liz shares how Divorce.com can sa...2025-03-1344 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 313: Divorce Without Court: Is It Really Possible? with Andrea Vacca Andrea Vacca returns to explore amicable divorce solutions, even in high-conflict cases. While avoiding litigation is often the goal, sometimes it's unavoidable. Andrea breaks down the benefits of staying out of court, how to keep children at the center, and when it’s time to shift from collaboration or mediation to litigation. Together, we also explore the power of a team-based approach and the role of a divorce coach, specifically how a coach can save you time, money, and energy! With her expertise in collaborative divorce and positive psychology, Andrea offers a fresh, empowering take on...2025-03-0641 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 312: Breakup on Purpose with The Angry Therapist, John Kim, LMFTJohn Kim, aka The Angry Therapist, joins me to chat about his new book, Breakup on Purpose: A Catalyst for Growth. A bestselling author, well-known for his raw, no-nonsense approach to self-help, John keeps it real by practicing full authenticity and transparency. In this episode, he challenges us to rethink breakups. No one really talks about the different kinds of breakups, but John breaks them down into eight distinct types and explains how understanding which one you're going through can be a total game-changer. We dive into how this framework can help you process your e...2025-02-2743 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 311: It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal with Lora Cheadle, JD, CHtBetrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle is back on the show! She’s flipping the script on burnout and explains why “it’s not just stress—it’s betrayal.” When expectations break, whether in your career, marriage, or personal life, the real damage isn’t just exhaustion—it’s the hit to your sense of self and your self-worth. So, Lora breaks down why burnout happens when broken expectations rupture your view of yourself or the world—and how to shift out of it. She also walks us through her FUEL UP burnout recovery method, designed to rebuild from the inside out...2025-02-2041 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 310: Shifting Your Energy: Reclaiming Your Power After Divorce with Karen McMahonI’m diving into the concept of energetic self-perception with my friend and colleague, Karen McMahon. According to Karen, we are, at our core, walking balls of energy, constantly shifting between two primary states: our everyday selves and our stress-response selves. Karen returns to the podcast to discuss the seven levels of energy, a framework that can help you recognize where you are on the emotional scale and how to move toward awareness and empowerment. Karen shares how our thoughts, feelings, and actions are deeply connected and how understanding that can help us navigate divorce, co-parenting, and li...2025-02-1343 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 309: Online Dating After Divorce with Alyssa DineenAlyssa Dineen, founder of Style My Profile, joins me to talk about the ins and outs of online dating after divorce. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the dating apps, unsure how to craft a compelling profile, or just wondering if you're ready to date, Alyssa’s expertise will help you navigate it all. Together, we tackle the realities of modern dating, from building a profile that actually sparks conversations to avoiding burnout in the endless swipe cycle. Alyssa also shares her own post-divorce dating journey, including how she found love after leaving an abusive marriage. She also...2025-02-0650 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 308: Grey Divorce and Your Money with Jennifer LeeJennifer Lee, financial advisor and founder of Modern Wealth, returns to the show to break down the financial realities of grey divorce. Whether you're the stay-at-home parent wondering what you're entitled to or the moneyed spouse navigating how to divide assets fairly, Jennifer's insights will help you make informed decisions with a clear sense of direction. Together, we unpack the unique financial challenges that come with untangling decades of shared assets—from businesses and retirement accounts to the realities of living on half the resources you once had. Jennifer shares her expert advice on how to avoid cos...2025-01-3043 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 307: Permission to Speak with Samara BaySamara Bay, author of Permission to Speak, is here to reframe how we think about our voices—and the power they carry. Her work is for anyone who’s ever been told to sound different, speak softer, or conform to fit in. In this conversation, we explore how the way we speak shapes not just how others perceive us but how we see ourselves. Samara’s insights are grounded in her own journey, from Shakespeare festivals to coaching Hollywood actors to helping leaders and changemakers show up authentically. Her audiobook is as compelling as the conversation you’re about...2025-01-2350 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 306: The Accidental Sisterhood with Julie EdelmanWhat happens when life throws you curveballs like breast cancer, midlife dating, and unexpected sisterhoods? You turn them into stories, humor, and inspiration—and that’s exactly what Julie Edelman has done. I’m thrilled to welcome author and humorist Julie Edelman for an empowering and laugh-filled conversation about love, resilience, and the unexpected sisterhoods that form through life’s detours. Julie shares the inspiration behind her latest novel, The Accidental Sisterhood, and opens up about her personal journey through breast cancer, dating after 50, and finding joy in life’s chaos. You’ll also hear: Why wome...2025-01-1640 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 305: Solo Travel for Women with Joy HuberThis episode is all about solo travel and how it can help you reconnect with yourself. Whether you're navigating a major life transition, like divorce, or just craving time to focus on your own needs, solo travel could be the adventure you didn’t know you needed. I’m talking with Joy Huber, a solo travel pro with an incredible story. After overcoming stage 4 cancer, Joy decided life was too short to wait for "someday." She packed her bags, took the leap, and now helps women discover the magic of exploring the world on their own. Jo...2025-01-0947 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 304: Lessons from Divorce and Living a Kick-Ass Life with Andrea OwenAndrea Owen is back, and I’m thrilled to share this inspiring conversation. If you’re navigating life’s messy moments, like divorce, this episode is a must-listen. Andrea, a keynote speaker, life coach, and bestselling author, is a force in women’s empowerment. She helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, master their mindset, and magnify their courage. She’s here to discuss the re-release of her bestseller, 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life, now updated to strip away toxic positivity and include reflective coaching questions that spark real change. Andrea also shares her journey through her second div...2025-01-0240 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastFeatured Episode: Healing from Narcissistic Relationships with Dr. Kerry Kerr McAvoyI’m bringing back one of my most impactful conversations with psychologist and writer Dr. Kerry Kerr McAvoy about healing from narcissistic relationships. We unpack the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder, the profound impact it can have on your emotional and mental well-being, and actionable strategies for self-nurturing after the relationship ends. We also take a closer look at the common phrase “it takes two to tango” and what it means in the context of unhealthy relationships. If you’re healing from a toxic relationship or want to gain clarity...2024-12-2649 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 303: Borrow a Brain - Gaining Clarity and Strength Through SupportIn this solo episode, I share strategies to help you find clarity amidst the overwhelm of abuse and divorce. I explain how borrowing someone else’s mental resilience—whether a trusted friend, mentor, or professional—can help you think clearly, make grounded decisions, and move forward with strength. You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s explore how leaning on support can make all the difference. What you’ll hear: Why proper documentation is essential for protecting yourself and your children, and how to do it effectively There is nothing wrong with you; the only...2024-12-1923 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 302: BestInterest: The AI App for Co-Parenting in Toxic Dynamics with Sol KennedySol Kennedy, founder of BestInterest, joins me to share how this groundbreaking co-parenting AI-powered app is revolutionizing the way parents navigate high-conflict situations. With features that automatically censor toxic communication, BestInterest helps you reclaim your peace, focus on healing, and show up fully for your kids. This episode is all about empowering you to establish boundaries, disengage from unnecessary emotional triggers, and take control of your co-parenting dynamic—even when the other parent isn’t on the same page. What you’ll hear: How BestInterest helps you block out toxicity and protect your emotional well-b...2024-12-1233 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 301: Holidays in DivorceI’m diving into a big topic this week—the holidays during divorce. It can feel like walking an emotional tightrope while trying to hold onto some joy. Whether it’s your first holiday season after divorce, your last one as a family before separating, or you’ve been navigating holidays in divorce for a while, it’s a time that stirs up all the emotions. Wherever you are in this process, I want you to know, that you’re not alone. And let’s be real, were the holidays stress-free before divorce? Probably not. This episode isn’t just abou...2024-12-0529 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 300: Giving Thanks for 300 EpisodesI’m thrilled to share this special Thanksgiving episode with you as the podcast celebrates a huge milestone: the 300th episode! To honor this accomplishment, I’m revisiting some of the most impactful episodes we’ve shared together. These conversations have left a lasting mark on many of you, and it’s a privilege to highlight them again. This episode is my heartfelt thank you to this amazing community we’ve created together. Your dedication and willingness to show up for yourselves and each other mean the world to me. Here’s to continuing the journey! Highlights...2024-11-2840 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 299: Not All Bad: A Nuanced Perspective on Family Court with Susan Guthrie, Esq. (Family Court Awareness Month)I’m so excited to welcome back my dear friend and returning guest, Susan Guthrie, a leading family law attorney and mediator, for a robust conversation about the family court system. While family court often gets a bad rap (and yes, it needs reform), Susan and I dig into why it’s not always terrible. There is good that can come from it too. Together, we’re breaking down what you can expect if you navigate the family court process, how to prepare for it, and how to make decisions that truly serve you and your kids. We’re...2024-11-2153 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 298: The Fight for Family Court Reform with Tina Swithin (Family Court Awareness Month)I’m excited to welcome Tina Swithin back to the show for a powerful conversation about Family Court Awareness Month, which she founded five years ago to shine a light on the deep issues within our family court system. Together, we dive into the systemic obstacles—from the lack of judicial training on domestic abuse to the financial incentives that keep conflicts alive in court. Tina also walks us through important legislative efforts, like Kayden’s Law and Piqui's Law, named after children who lost their lives due to preventable court failures. This episode is all abo...2024-11-1445 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 297: Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko (Family Court Awareness Month)We kick off Family Court Awareness Month with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko as we talk about their new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld. This collection of 22 women’s stories raises awareness about the systemic issues plaguing family courts, aiming to ignite awareness about the family court crisis by sharing the voices of those directly impacted. In this episode, Dr. Cocchiola and Polacko highlight the deep-seated misogyny and financial exploitation within family courts, emphasizing that this isn't just a U.S. issue—it's a global crisis that affects women of all races, demographics, and...2024-11-1141 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 296: Drop the Rope: Embracing Your Power During DivorceIn this solo episode, I’m diving into the journey of letting go and reclaiming your power during the divorce process, especially if you’re healing from abuse. I know firsthand the mental conditioning and hypervigilance one endures during an abusive relationship, which is why it’s so crucial to establish firm boundaries, even when fear tries to hold you back. I share a personal story of setting boundaries in the face of a controlling relationship and offer practical tips for stepping away from manipulative people, like muting their messages and using support tools such as Aimee Says...2024-10-3130 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 295: Adult Bullies with Bill Eddy (Your Vote, Your Choice)Bill Eddy is back on the show to dive into a critical topic: adult bullies. With election season upon us, the presence of bullies—whether in politics, the workplace, relationships, or even parenting—can feel more intense than ever. Bill, Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute and author of Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them – How to Stop Them, explains how today's media-driven culture fuels the rise of adult bullies, encouraging aggression and disregarding rules. We explore how bullies create crises out of thin air, positioning themselves as heroes of their made-u...2024-10-2454 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 294: Your Divorce, Your Choice: The Future of No-Fault Divorce with Erin Levine (Your Vote, Your Choice)I’m chatting with Erin Levine, the founder and CEO of Hello Divorce, about why the push to get rid of no-fault divorce is seriously bad news—especially for women. No-fault divorce has enabled people to leave marriages without having to prove things like abuse or cheating and it makes women safer. The GOP wants to repeal or restrict no-fault divorce. We’re here to break down why that’s a huge problem. Erin, a lawyer-turned-CEO, has been shaking up the divorce world with Hello Divorce, a platform that makes the whole process smoother, easier, and less stressfu...2024-10-1741 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 293: The Equal Rights Amendment: What’s at Stake for Gender Equality with Mona Sinha (Your Vote, Your Choice)Did you know that globally, women only have 75% of the legal rights that men have? And in the U.S., they have none. Gender equality is not just a women’s issue—it impacts everyone. I am honored to welcome Mona Sinha to the show today. Mona is the Global Executive Director of Equality Now, an organization dedicated to advancing legal and systemic change to end violence and discrimination against women and girls worldwide. In this episode, Mona and I dive into the importance of the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA), discussing how its absence from The U.S. C...2024-10-1040 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 292: Women’s Reproductive Freedom with Alex Jamieson (Your Vote, Your Choice)Welcome to the first episode of the Your Vote, Your Choice series! This week we get real about the fight for reproductive freedom and what’s at stake. We tackle the harsh reality of what happens when women’s reproductive rights are stripped away, and the ripple effect it has on all of us, especially marginalized groups. My guest, Alexandra Jamieson, is ready to cut through the noise. As an artist, coach, and the brilliant mind behind The Abortion Trading Cards and Fascism Tarot Deck, Alex shares her perspective on the consequences of losing access to reproductive heal...2024-10-0346 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 291: Finding Your Financial Voice with Amy Bradbury (Women’s Financial Empowerment)In the final episode of September’s Women’s Financial Empowerment series, we're equipping you with the tools to make confident financial decisions and find your financial voice—divorce or no divorce. Financial guru Amy Bradbury, CEO of Empowered Profit, joins us to unravel toxic money mindsets handed down by the patriarchy and shares how to shift into an empowered, intentional approach to your finances. From demystifying financial literacy to bringing your kids into money conversations, this episode is all about taking back control. Amy delivers game-changing advice on how to ditch restrictive budgets in favor of a spen...2024-09-2647 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 290: Navigating Divorce as a Female Breadwinner with Nikki Tucker (Women’s Financial Empowerment)I am thrilled to welcome Nikki Tucker, speaker and founder of The FIIRM Approach, to dive into the complex world of divorce for high-income-earning women. Nikki, a Personal Financial Strategist, and problem-solver, is known for her work helping female breadwinners strategically exit their marriages and navigate the path to financial independence post-divorce. Together, we discuss the unique financial challenges high-income-earning women face, such as managing assets, financial support responsibilities, and the critical role of prenups and postnups. Marriage as a legally binding business arrangement is one of the most important conversations we're not having. “We plac...2024-09-1942 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 289: Careers, Kids, and Comebacks with Stacey Delo (Women’s Financial Empowerment)We're tackling one of the most frequently asked questions I get from clients: “How do I return to the workforce after being a stay-at-home mom who is now facing divorce?” Stacey Delo, CEO of Your Turn Careers by Après, offers expert advice on reentering the workforce, boosting confidence, and leveraging core skills honed during motherhood. Stacey encourages women to embrace their career gaps and highlights how staying home with kids can be a strength in your professional story. As co-author of Your Turn: Careers, Kids, and Comebacks—A Working Mother's Guide, she shares strategies for financial indepen...2024-09-1242 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 288: Women’s Financial Empowerment: Intro to the SeriesDivorce can be a financial minefield, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Throughout September, we’ll be cutting through the confusion to help you take control of your financial future. Finances are often the hardest part of the divorce process for women. We’re often left feeling financially powerless—disempowered by a system that’s not built for us (more on that topic, in October). Here’s the truth: your path to financial independence is possible. This month, I’m laser-focused on breaking down the money issues women face in divorce. If you’ve had your head in...2024-09-0522 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 287: ADHD for Smart Ass Women with Tracy Otsuka (Neurodivergence in Relationships)Tracy Otsuka, host of the ADHD for Smart Ass Women Podcast, joins me for a conversation about how ADHD uniquely shows up in women. We dig into why it’s often overlooked or misunderstood because the symptoms don’t always match up with what you see in men. We break down the top three signs of ADHD, how hormonal changes play a role, and why embracing your strengths is way more effective than trying to "fix" your weaknesses. Tracy also opens up about the emotional toll ADHD can take and offers practical advice for supporting kids with ADHD...2024-09-0346 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 286: Autism and Relationships with Tara McMullin (Neurodivergence in Relationships)Tara McMullin, creator of What Works and the co-founder of YellowHouse.Media, shares her journey of receiving an autism diagnosis at 38 and its profound impact on her relationships. She explores the concept of 'biographical illumination,' revealing how understanding her diagnosis has brought clarity and validation to her life. Tara also discusses the intricate dynamics of 'masking' and emotional communication in relationships. Together, we explore the importance of recognizing and respecting personal boundaries, advocating for mutual understanding, and navigating the complexities of being autistic. Featured topics: How being diagnosed with Autism at 38, transformed Tara’s p...2024-08-2253 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 285: Weaponizing Neurodivergence in Abusive Relationships with Zawn Villines (Neurodivergence in Relationships)Zawn Villines, feminist activist and writer, is back on the show! Together we tackle the offensive and ableist ways that neurodiversity is often used to excuse abusive behavior. Zawn makes it clear that being neurodivergent does not mean someone is inherently abusive. In fact, neurodivergent individuals are more often the victims rather than the perpetrators of abuse. In this episode, we dive into the myths around empathy deficits in autistic individuals and how patriarchy keeps these harmful misconceptions alive. Further, we explore how patriarchy weaponizes neurodivergence against women. This episode is packed with practical advice for women...2024-08-1545 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 284: Powered by ADHD with Dr. Amelia Kelley (Neurodivergence in Relationships)Dr. Amelia Kelley, a trauma-informed therapist and author, joins me to explore the nuances of ADHD in women, discussing how it often goes unnoticed and untreated. We tackle the complex question, "Do I have trauma or ADHD?"—exploring whether childhood trauma manifests as ADHD or if living with ADHD contributes to traumatic experiences. Plus, we uncover the superpowers of ADHD, the fascinating link between hyperfocus and procrastination, and how neurodiversity and ADHD affect relationships. Tune in to gain valuable insights and feel empowered to understand yourself better or loved ones living with ADHD. Featured topics:...2024-08-0850 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 283: Neurodivergence in Relationships: Intro to the SeriesI am kicking off a new series for August all around neurodivergence in relationships. With my amazing lineup, we delve into topics like ADHD, autism, and other spectrum disorders within a family and how they might affect various aspects of your divorce. This week I wanted to take a few moments to introduce the series to you. Throughout the month, you’ll hear from incredible guests like: Dr. Amelia Kelley Tara McMullin Zawn Villines Tracy Otsuka These amazing women share their insights and strategies for embracing the unique gifts and challenges that come with being neu...2024-08-0120 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 282: Knowing Your Dealbreakers (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)What are your divorce dealbreakers? In the final installment of my divorce mindset reset series, I share why knowing your dealbreakers is important before you enter into your divorce proceedings. I discuss the work required to determine what they are and offer insight into why you should stick to them as you move through your divorce. Overall, knowing your dealbreakers helps you prioritize what matters most so you can maintain focus during your negotiations. You’ll hear: Why it is important to know your dealbreakers before you enter into your divorce proceedings Non-negotiables are the...2024-07-2517 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 281: Understanding What’s Legal vs. What’s Fair (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)Have you ever wondered how to navigate the tricky balance between what's legal and what's fair in a divorce? I dive into Step Six of the 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset, focusing on distinguishing between these crucial aspects. You'll hear advice on processing emotions through appropriate channels, documenting evidence of legal matters, and working with a coach or other professional to streamline what's pertinent for court. My goal is to help you approach your legal team with clear, legally significant information, thereby reducing costs and improving outcomes. You’ll hear: The key to unde...2024-07-2315 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 280: Strategy Mindset (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)Shifting to a strategy mindset during your divorce is a game-changer and that’s the topic of this podcast episode. No longer are you trying to convince your partner to see things your way or understand your point of view. Instead, you’re embracing radical acceptance and moving forward with a clear plan. When you adopt a strategy mindset, you can set clear goals and easily make decisions. You’re taking control of the situation and the proceedings in a way you haven’t been able to before. This shift empowers you to navigate challenges with a calm and...2024-07-1919 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 279: Radical Acceptance (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)Radical acceptance means completely accepting a situation, circumstance, or challenge without necessarily approving or agreeing with it. In this installment of the 7-Step Divorce Mindset reset, I share why this concept is especially crucial in the divorce process. Embracing radical acceptance is one of the most powerful things you can do. It's revolutionary yet fundamental. It’s about letting go of the struggle over who you thought your partner was and truly accepting who they are. You’ll hear: Radical acceptance is not remotely akin to forgiveness Tina Swithin’s Radical Acceptance Oath What happen...2024-07-1616 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 278: Self-Care (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)We're diving into the importance of self-care throughout your divorce process. Practicing self-care at this juncture is essential for managing the emotional and physical challenges you're going through. Self-care builds emotional resilience, helping you maintain mental well-being and decision-making ability, while also reducing stress and supporting your physical health. In this episode, I share some effective strategies to help you prioritize your well-being. You’ll hear: How to set boundaries not just with others, but also in deciding how and when you'll focus on the divorce process The importance of establishing routines that help yo...2024-07-1112 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 277: Practicing Patience (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)Divorce is a lengthy, emotionally demanding, and taxing process, taking about a year on average. In this episode, I share why practicing patience and managing expectations can help you navigate the journey peacefully and easily. You’ll also hear: The questions to ask your divorce attorney or mediator about specific procedures and waiting periods in your state Why trusting the process and establishing routines can lead to a smoother experience The crucial role of self-care in managing stress and emotional well-being By being better equipped to navigate the divorce journey, you can adapt and maintain calm t...2024-07-0915 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 276: Your Vision Statement (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)We continue our month-long series centered around my 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset by discussing the creation of a vision statement for your divorce. This was something I did at the beginning of mediation with my ex-husband. A vision statement sets your intention for the divorce process. When things feel like they are going off the rails, you can return to your vision statement to stay grounded and centered on how you want the process to go. Whether you create a mutual or individual statement, it will serve as a helpful guiding principle for your divorce process. 2024-07-0418 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 275: The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset: Intro to the SeriesToday, we kick off a month-long series centered around my 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset. If you've decided to get a divorce, it's time to start focusing on the immediate mindset shifts necessary to navigate this challenging period. Along with physically, financially, and legally divorcing, emotionally divorcing your spouse is crucial: “If you’re done, be done.” I've crafted these seven steps to help you approach your situation in a healthy, strategic, and empowered way. Throughout July, I'll guide you through each step. In this episode, I provide a brief introduction and overview of the seven steps, along with s...2024-07-0221 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 274: Aimee Says: AI Support for Victims and Survivors of Domestic Abuse with Anne WintemuteAnne Wintemute, Co-Founder of Aimee Says, joins me on the podcast this week. Aimee is an AI-powered advocate for victims and survivors of domestic violence. This fascinating and powerful AI tool helps individuals gain the support and validation they need. We uncover how Aimee can act as your advocate and lower the barrier to access vital resources. More than just a Google search, Aimee operates in multiple languages and is a groundbreaking initiative for empowerment. I am endlessly fascinated by this tool’s ability to identify and address the complex needs of those it serves and...2024-06-2740 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 273: Help for Divorcing Dads with Dr. Eran MagenWe're digging into the emotional rollercoaster divorced dads face, including why they're at higher risk for suicide and the heavy societal and psychological burdens weighing them down. Dr. Eran Magen is a Stanford University-educated expert, holding an M.A. in education and a Ph.D. in psychology. He is also the founder of DivorcedDads.org. Together we talk about the importance of dads having a support system, staying connected with their kids, and building stronger emotional bonds. Eran drops some serious wisdom on handling divorce, keeping your mental health in check, and boosting emotional resilience. ...2024-06-2045 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 272: Why More Women Are Calling It Quits with Sharon PopeSharon Pope, a Master Life Coach, and Relationship Expert, joins me to dive into why more women are opting out of their marriages, the historical context of marriage dynamics, and the challenges modern couples are up against. Sharon’s mission is to equip women and men with the tools to improve, heal, or let go of their struggling marriages. We’ll also tackle relationships' social, legal, and emotional sides, emphasizing the importance of open communication and intentionality. Featured topics: Why more women are the ones pulling the plug on their marriages (3:21) Women often check out...2024-06-1338 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 271: Pathological Love Relationships with Dr. Sarah SchewitzDr. Sarah Schewitz returns to the podcast to talk about pathological love relationships. Dr. Schewitz helps us understand what this type of relationship is, how to know if you’re in one, why these types of relationships can be so devastating, and what is necessary to recover and heal. Dr. Sarah Schewitz is a licensed psychologist specializing in love and relationships. She is the founder of the successful online psychology practice, Couples Learn, which was named by Forbes Health as one of the top 3 online marriage counseling services in 2023. She specializes in healing attachment trauma, understanding the imp...2024-06-0648 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 269: Where Tenderness Lives with Heather PlettWe’re talking about tenderness and holding space with Heather Plett, author of the award-winning book The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership and the recently released book Where Tenderness Lives: On Healing, Liberation, and Holding Space for Oneself. Heather opens up about her experience of dealing with divorce, co-founding the Center for Holding Space, and authoring books that dive into these concepts. Our conversation reveals how embracing tenderness towards oneself can disrupt patriarchal and capitalist structures and highlights the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and the deep dive required for personal growth. ...2024-05-3047 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 268: Reinventing Yourself After Divorce: Nikki Spo on Self-Discovery and EmpowermentOftentimes, we wrap our identities in this one thing - like marriage. What happens when it's over? This week, Nikki Spoelstra (Nikki Spo) joins me to discuss the transformative power of self-discovery through life's most challenging moments. Nikki and I cover a range of important topics, including how self-esteem is built through self-knowledge, strategies for managing thoughts about divorce, emphasizing the importance of setting limits on dwelling on the past, and so much more. Nikki is a breath of fresh air for women going through hard times. Join us as we discuss the intricate process of...2024-05-2347 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 267: Is Therapy Dead? with Dawn Wiggins“Therapy is dead,” says this week’s podcast guest, Dawn Wiggins. In this episode, we get to the heart of why Dawn says therapy isn’t always the answer and, instead, how somatic and homeopathic techniques help individuals heal from various forms of trauma. Dawn is a trauma-informed licensed marriage and family therapist and integrative healer who helps women turn the traumatic journey of divorce into a force for healing, self-love, and joy through a tailored blend of holistic and scientifically supported solutions. Featured topics: Supported solutions for healing like EFT (6:45) Why Dawn says therapy is d...2024-05-1647 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 266: Putting the G-Word in the D-Word with Barri Leiner GrantWe are talking about a really important topic this week: grief. Grief is shocking in divorce. My guest Barri Leiner Grant, is a grief specialist and educator who joins me to help us understand how to process the grief we feel over an ended marriage. Barri divorced after a 17-year marriage and helps name grief and grieving for others who have experienced losing an imagined future. Putting the G-word in the D-word! Featured topics: Why do we grieve a divorce? (2:16) Shame is a complicating factor in grief and divorce (8:49) The root cause of the shame and ho...2024-05-0943 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 265: Divorced and Happy with Sadie MarieSadie Marie of Divorced and Happy joins me for a conversation about why life after divorce is the BEST, and her path of personal growth, self-discovery, and relationships. Sadie Marie empowers divorced men and women globally to embrace the exciting, playful - and even spicy - life that awaits them after divorce. Our conversation is multifaceted, from feeling disempowered in marriage to reclaiming empowerment. We also touch on navigating divorce within friendships and pursuing genuine happiness. Listen in to hear about Sadie Marie’s joy-filled journey post-divorce. Her journey is a true testament that finding happiness post-divorce is...2024-05-0236 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 264: Big YES Energy with Susan HyattI am thrilled to welcome Susan Hyatt, a Master Certified Life Coach, Bestselling Author, and TEDx Speaker. Susan is on a mission to disrupt the age and wage gaps—all the gaps that hold women back. Her work (and this conversation) empowers women, particularly those in midlife, to embrace their prime with fervor and enthusiasm. Together, we discuss female empowerment, self-discovery, and the journey towards embracing one's prime, including our sexuality (and I tell you guys something I haven’t told anyone else). We'll also explore the transformative potential of personal and financial growth, including opportunities in comm...2024-04-2952 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 263: The Power of Laughter in Divorce with Andrea RappaportDiscover how laughter can lighten the weight of divorce in this week’s episode. When your whole world feels on fire, bringing levity to divorce can be like a breath of fresh air. My guest this week, Andrea Rappaport, knows a thing or two about imparting humor in one's life while navigating difficult situations. Andrea is a recovering comedian who is the co-host of the top-ranked Apple podcast, How Not to Suck at Divorce. Andrea and I look at the delicate balance between humor and seriousness in this episode when discussing divorce. Plus, we talk about why find...2024-04-1847 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 262: Home Equity Solutions in Divorce with Tami WollensakTami Wollensak returns to the show! She shares more about divorcing and the nuances of keeping, selling, or refinancing your home. Tami is a licensed mortgage loan originator and a 28+ year industry veteran. She has discovered her passion in helping divorcing individuals navigate their home equity solutions and mortgage options while going through the most challenging time. Grab your notebook and a pen - this episode is a notetaking one that busts some myths and provides expert advice on what questions to ask when considering whether to take or leave the house during your divorce. Fea...2024-04-1141 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 261: “How the f*ck do I heal from this?” with Dr. Justine WeberLicensed Psychologist Dr. Justine Weber is on the show this week as we explore the complex journey of healing after leaving an abusive relationship. Her recent book is, “How the F*ck Do I Heal From This?” and the title (and content) is a favorite of mine! In the book and during our conversation, Dr. Weber walks us through understanding narcissistic abuse and how to put your life back together after everything feels like it has fallen apart. Together, we explore everything from dealing with post-separation abuse and navigating co-parenting with a narcissist to finding solace in somatic...2024-04-0447 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 260: Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her with Bryan ReevesRelationship coach and author Bryan Reeves joins me this week to discuss relationships, personal growth, and societal constructs. Bryan’s journey from military service to relationship coaching reveals insights into the power and necessity of connecting with emotions, especially for men. Many of Bryan's insights are drawn from his work with couples and his book, "Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her," focusing on choosing connection over disconnection, confronting one’s fears, and the transformative power of love and accountability in relationships. Bryan's work is incredibly important. Please listen to what's possible in the world of re...2024-03-2852 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 259: Healing from Narcissistic Relationships with Kerry McAvoyPsychologist and writer Kerry McAvoy joins me to discuss the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder. We also delve into its effects on individuals and share insights on self-nurturing after the relationship ends. Kerry Kerr McAvoy is a psychologist and a writer who educates on social media about cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her book, Love You More, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. Featured topics: We explore the phrase “It takes two to tango…” Does it, th...2024-03-2151 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 258: Get Past Your Past with Jason VanRulerMy guest, Jason VanRuler, shares his direct and honest approach to working with couples and offers a fresh perspective on overcoming past challenges and building exceptional relationships. During our conversation, you’ll discover how to “Get Past Your Past” as Jason shares invaluable insights, emphasizing the importance of taking action and not seeking validation from others for your progress. We also discuss navigating resistance in relationships, dealing with differing narratives in divorce, and addressing the complexities of sex addiction within marriage. With over a decade of experience as a coach and therapist, Jason’s expertise shines through as he of...2024-03-1442 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 257: The Truth Behind MLMs with Tracy CoenenForensic Accountant Tracy Coenen joins me for a conversation about the predatory nature of MLMs. In addition to investigating fraud for over 25 years, Tracy founded Pink Truth, a website that uncovers the problematic and damaging truth of multi-level marketing (MLM). By and large, MLM schemes overwhelm and prey upon women, falsely promising entrepreneurship and financial freedom while making them more financially dependent on an abusive structure. In this episode, Tracy and I explore how MLMs masquerade as empowering ventures but function as wolves in sheep's clothing. Featured topics: Tracy Coenen sheds light on the pr...2024-03-0748 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 256: Exploring Attachment Patterns with Eli HarwoodEli Harwood, the Attachment Nerd, joins me on the podcast this week to talk about attachment theory, building deep connections, and her new book, Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships! We hear about attachment styles all the time. In this episode, Eli and I nerd out on all things attachment, get to the heart of how attachment patterns impact us, and how to transform patterns that are not in service of healthy, loving relationships. Featured topics: Attachment styles/patterns: what does the developmental research say? (3:42) What a...2024-02-2953 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 255: Discovering Identity Through Style with Jenny EversoleThis week, we are talking about reinventing oneself on the other side of divorce. Jenny Eversole founded Stylespace.com, an online professional styling service that elevates your style with expert stylists. She joins me to discuss discovering your identity through style and aligning it with who you are now. Jenny guides us through the process of defining our unique style identities. From curating our closets to accentuating our body types, Jenny's wisdom reminds us that style is not just about clothing—it's a powerful tool for self-discovery and confidence. Featured topics: How you can bec...2024-02-2243 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 254: It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People with Dr. RamaniMost narratives around narcissism in relationships center on individuals with narcissistic personalities. My guest this week, Dr. Ramani, shifts the focus to the survivors, giving them a voice and discussing the emotional turmoil and psychological impact of being in a relationship with a narcissistic individual. Through Dr. Ramani’s latest book, "It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People," she offers invaluable insights into navigating the aftermath of narcissistic relationships, empowering survivors to reclaim their sense of self and find a path forward. Her extensive research and clinical experience offer practical guidance for individuals navigating a di...2024-02-1558 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 253: Slay the Bully with Rebecca ZungThis week’s episode explores the research behind narcissism and how it should inform the way victims should approach negotiation with them. My guest is none other than Rebecca Zung, a top 1 percent attorney in the nation and a globally recognized expert in narcissism negotiation. With two incredible books under her belt, including her new book "Slay the Bully: How to Negotiate with a Narcissist and Win," and the acclaimed "Negotiate Like You Matter: The Surefire Way to Set Up and Win," Rebecca's insights are both profound and practical. This episode is packed with invaluable advice and st...2024-02-0844 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 252: Somatic Healing with Laurie JamesThis week, I welcome Laurie James back to the show as we delve into somatic therapy, exploring its effectiveness in healing and discovering techniques to soothe the nervous system. Whether you’re navigating the complexities of contemplating divorce or actively undergoing the process, you’re bound to encounter a myriad of emotions. Join us as we uncover various methods and resources for healing and self-care. Laurie James is a mother, caregiver, divorcée, turned author, somatic relationship coach, and podcaster. She loves coaching midlife and beyond women looking to date and relationship differently. She helps her clients conne...2024-02-0148 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 251: Reflections on The Critic’s Daughter with Priscilla GilmanJoin me this week for an enlightening discussion with Priscilla Gilman, acclaimed author of the upcoming paperback release of her critically acclaimed memoir, The Critic's Daughter. Priscilla, a former professor of English literature at Yale and Vassar, brings a wealth of insight as we explore the intricacies of co-parenting and divorce. Beyond her literary achievements, Priscilla is one of my oldest friends, which adds a personal touch to our conversation. The Critic's Daughter becomes a guide on what not to do when faced with the complexities of divorce, providing a personal and poignant account of Priscilla’s exp...2024-01-251h 07
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 250: Divorce Preparation: Beyond the Paperwork with Beverly PriceBeverly Price of Her Empowered Divorce joins me to share invaluable insights on preparing for divorce beyond the standard paperwork and financial considerations. Our conversation covers a range of featured topics and divorce dilemmas, including identifying domestic abuse, educating yourself about divorce, privacy concerns, and effective communication in court. Join us for this enlightening conversation beyond the conventional aspects of divorce preparation. Beverly Price brings a unique perspective that will empower you to navigate this significant life transition with confidence and awareness. Featured topics: Why ascertaining whether or not you’ve been a victim of...2024-01-1853 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 249: The Seven Divorce Dilemmas with Lesa KoskiLesa Koski, a seasoned attorney turned mediator, joins me in this week's podcast episode. We delve into the seven common dilemmas women often encounter during divorce. Gain valuable insights and practical advice on overcoming these challenges, arming yourself with knowledge for the journey ahead. Lesa is an accomplished attorney turned mediator with a passion for empowering individuals through the often turbulent waters of divorce. She has spent years helping individuals find amicable solutions, emphasizing communication, collaboration, and empowerment throughout the divorce process. She has helped hundreds of divorce mediation clients create a peaceful agreement that works for t...2024-01-1150 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 248: Divorced Mom Moments with the exEXPERTS T.H. Irwin & Jessica KlingbaumT.H. Irwin and Jessica Klingbaum, co-founders of the online platform exEXPERTS, return to the podcast this week to talk about divorced mom moments. When going through a divorce, the primary emphasis is often on the emotional and mental preparation and the legal requirements to navigate through the process. However, there's an unforeseen facet to the experience, including unexpected yet significant moments of being a divorced parent. In this episode, T.H., Jessica, and I discuss some of the less anticipated aspects of divorce that demand resilience and adaptability - like maintaining a home, asking for help, a...2024-01-0447 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 247: Break the Cycle of Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Mariel BuquéAre you familiar with the term intergenerational trauma? My guest, Dr. Mariel Buqué, explains intergenerational trauma as “shadows of emotional pain that has plagued families for generations.” Whether intergenerational trauma is a new term to you or something you’ve long been interested in shedding, this week’s episode brings to light the complexities of this trauma and explores how to heal from it. Dr. Mariel Buqué is a Columbia University-trained Psychologist, intergenerational trauma expert, and the author of the book Break the Cycle: a book that focuses on healing wounds of intergenerational trauma. Her holistic clinical framework i...2023-12-2852 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 246: Mental Health, Relationships, and Life’s Transitions with Alessandra TorresaniThis week’s episode focuses on the impact of significant life transitions on relationships and mental health, emphasizing the need for open communication and understanding. Alessandra Torresani is my special-guest. She is a multi-hyphenate actress, host, creator, and mental health advocate. In this episode, Alessandra's candidness extends to societal stigmas, the fear of judgment, and the importance of recognizing mental health challenges in both men and women. By sharing her journey with Bipolar 1 Disorder, Alessandra aims to break down barriers and encourage others to seek help, fostering a community of support and understanding. Tune in fo...2023-12-2148 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 245: The Four Relationship Styles with Dr. Anita Knight KuhnleyDo you know what your relationship style is? In this enlightening podcast episode, we delve into the fascinating world of relationship styles with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley, Associate Professor of Counseling at Liberty University and author of "The Mister Rogers Effect" and "The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help You in Your Search for Lasting Love" (releasing January 2024). Dr. Kuhnley, drawing from her extensive experience, shares valuable insights on identifying and understanding your relationship style, navigating relationships, and exploring the strengths and challenges inherent in each style. This episode uncovers the profound impact o...2023-12-1444 min
Waking Up to NarcissismKate Anthony, Author of “The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage” on Deciphering Divorce, Confronting Decisions, and Embracing EmpowermentTony and Kate Anthony, divorce coach and author of “The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage,” (https://amzn.to/47V1AKe) unpack the complex dynamics involved with the decision to stay or leave a relationship, typically with an emotionally immature or narcissistic partner. Kate shares her divorce story and explores the importance of establishing personal boundaries and self-care throughout the journey. The conversation discusses the fundamental need for individuals to recognize and reclaim their right to happiness outside a dysfunctional marital relationship. They also talk about the impact of staying in an emotionally abusive relationship for the...2023-12-1356 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 242: Kate Unfiltered: Important Topics, Random ThoughtsI have another solo episode for you this week and maybe a new series. Who knows. As we head into the holiday season, I’m diving into three essential topics—not putting your kids in the middle, creating new holiday traditions, and the concept of “the shifting of primary.” Tune in to hear me explore the challenges of co-parenting during the holidays and how to avoid inadvertently putting your children in the middle. I also offer a different perspective on establishing traditions after divorce. I provide a creative (and inclusive) approach to deciding new traditions, making the process e...2023-11-2323 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 241: Family Court Awareness Month with Tina SwithinNovember is Family Court Awareness Month. My friend and colleague, Tina Swithin, has dedicated the month of November to educating people about the family court system: how corrupt it can be, how unfair it is, and how uneducated most people in the family law system are about domestic violence. Tina was a guest on my podcast a few years back to share the truths about the family court system. If you fear you may end up in the family court system, you must listen to this episode. It will help you understand what family court is designed...2023-11-0952 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 209: Sex Addiction, Cheating, and Betrayal with Dr. RobIs it sex addiction, or is he just a cheater? Does the distinction even matter? That is just one of the topics I discuss in this episode with my guest, Robert Weiss, Ph.D., LCSW (Dr. Rob). Dr. Rob is the Chief Clinical Officer of Seeking Integrity LLC, which provides online education and residential treatment for sex, porn, and substance/sex-addicted men and their families. During our conversation, we delve into the differences between sex addiction and love addiction and discuss whether sex addiction is just a fancy name for cheating. We also explore coping with betrayal...2023-03-2358 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 208: Misogyny in Motherhood and Marriage with Zawn Villines65-75% of women say they would get divorced if they could, but the fear of post-separation abuse and the court system often prevent them from leaving unequal relationships. And quite frankly, women are fed up, and we have every right to be. Zawn Villines, a feminist activist and writer, joins me for a conversation about misogyny in motherhood and marriage; and how to start advocating for yourself and the women around you. Through her work, Zawn argues that mothers are central to the feminist project and that fathers must participate equally in household and parenting labor. She believes that...2023-03-161h 00
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 207: Selecting the Right Attorney for Your Divorce with Patrick KilbaneAttorney, CDFA, and author Patrick Kilbane joins me to discuss what you need to consider when selecting a divorce attorney. In this episode, we cover some criteria for choosing an attorney, questions to ask during your initial consultation, and what you need to know about your money as you move through divorce. Patrick is Partner, the General Counsel, and a Wealth Advisor for Ullmann Wealth Partners, headquartered in Jacksonville Beach, FL. Ullmann Wealth Partners is an independent wealth management firm that manages nearly a billion dollars of client assets. Pat has earned the Certified Divorce Financial Analyst d...2023-03-0939 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 205: Healing from Gaslighting with Dr. Amelia KelleyThe Merriam-Webster Word of the Year for 2022 was Gaslighting. Last year, the word experienced a 1,740% increase in lookups, yet there is still much to learn—and many myths to bust. In this episode, fan-favorite Dr. Amelia Kelley returns to discuss healing from gaslighting. Together we shed light on the insidious nature of gaslighting and the importance of healing and self-care. Dr. Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist who has conducted research on the effects of exercise on adult ADHD symptoms as well as the effects of resiliency on PTSD. She is a trainer, podcaster, and writer in t...2023-02-231h 05
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 162: Listener Q&A: How Can I Cope with Guilt Post-Divorce? Is My New Relationship Healthy? How Do I Co-Parent When My Ex Has a New Partner?After last week’s Q&A episode, I received an outpouring of submissions from listeners with questions about co-parenting, relationships, and life after divorce. So I decided to do one more Q&A episode for you! This week I answer two co-parenting questions: one relates to how open to be with children about the details of your divorce, and the other has to do with co-parenting when your ex has a new partner. I also discuss mindset and mental health post-divorce, including how to cope with feelings of guilt or shame; and how to know if your new relationship is...2022-04-0739 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 153: Listener Q&A: Guilt, Denial & Changing Your NameIf you’ve been contemplating divorce and feeling guilty about your decision, if you’re wondering if you should change your last name post-divorce, or if you have a spouse who’s in denial (despite you telling them numerous times), don’t skip this episode! Why? Because this episode marks my very first Q&A episode! I asked my community of women to send me their questions and I received some really great ones to explore. Join me as I answer questions about whether you should stay or go, how to handle the complexities of divorce, and everything in between. ...2022-02-0329 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 148: Surviving the Holidays with Michelle Dempsey-MultackThis week Michelle Dempsey-Multack returns to the show! She joins me to talk about how to survive the holidays pre- or post-divorce. If you’ve gone through a divorce within the last 12 months or are about to start the divorce process, you are emotionally and financially spent. So, how can you get through the holiday season and feel content with the here and now? If this is your first Christmas alone or last holiday as a single-family unit, this episode will offer advice about how to create new holiday traditions, how to set boundaries, and how to take...2021-12-2345 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 146: Blessons of a Breakup with Lindsey EllisonLindsey Ellison returns to the show this week. You know her as the author of MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist. She has a new book out called Blessons of a Breakup. In this episode, both Lindsey and I share some of our unique experiences with healing from trauma, codependency, or co-addictive relationships. We also explore love addiction and being love avoidant, including what it is, and how it manifests. For those of you new to Lindsey, she is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc. She helps people...2021-12-0952 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 143: How to Cultivate Healthy Relationships with Dr. Akua BoatengThis week I am talking all about healthy relationships with Dr. Akua K. Boateng. Dr. Akua answers the question, “What the hell does a healthy relationship look like?” We explore the mechanics of developing a healthy relationship with Self and also learn the steps to reconnecting with your intuitive guidance. Dr. Akua K. Boateng is a sought after mental health and relationship expert. With over 14 years experience in clinical practice and education, she specializes in an integrative approach to treating anxiety, trauma, relationship issues and other emotional concerns. She is the founder & CEO of Boateng Psychoth...2021-11-1855 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 142: Post Betrayal Transformation With Dr. Debi SilberBetrayal can affect your entire life - work, health, and even your relationships. In a previous episode, I explored how to heal from betrayal in your relationship. This episode focuses on how to heal from betrayal within yourself. Joining me to discuss post betrayal syndrome and post betrayal transformation is Dr. Debi Silber. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to He...2021-11-1153 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 120: Busting Divorce Myths with Eric BroderThis week I am busting divorce myths with my guest, Eric Broder. Eric is a divorce and family attorney, and co-founding member and partner at Broder Orland Murray &DeMattie LLC. In this episode, Eric and I bust myths about no-fault law, modern parenting agreements, assets, and whether or not getting a job will impact your divorce settlement. That’s just some of what we discuss — we cover a lot of ground! When it comes to divorce advice, everyone has an opinion. In fact, there may be things you have heard or even believed about divorce that aren’t actuall...2021-05-2745 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 99: Listener Favorite: When to Give Up The Authentic FightThis week I have another listener favorite episode for you on when to give up the authentic fight: I asked a friend who is going through a divorce what I should talk about in this week’s episode. He said I should talk about cravings. And he offered what he meant by saying this, “Given the shit happening in the world, we turn to safety, fantasy, and imagination to numb our true selves and we give up the authentic fight.” How beautiful is that? There is so much happening in the world right now. 2020-12-2225 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 98: I Had COVID-19 and Here Is What I Want You to KnowI am back after a month-long hiatus from the podcast. So where have I been? Well, I had COVID-19. Yup, it seems like I was 2020’s personal punching bag. In this episode, I tell you about my experience, how I caught it, and what happened to me. I also go into why letting your guard down, even just a little bit, is like gambling with your life. COVID is no joke. If my story can save anyone else from getting this virus, I'm happy to share my experience. Thank you so much for hanging in with me, for...2020-12-1819 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 97: Co-parenting During the Holidays, During a Pandemic with Michelle Dempsey-MultackDoing the holidays and divorce — at the best of times — can be super complicated. Co-parenting during the holidays during a pandemic? What a shitshow, amiright? Well, it doesn’t have to be. This week, Michelle Dempsey-Multack joins me to offer tips and advice on how to handle the holidays during this crazy time. Michelle is a writer, coach, Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS®), and host of the Moms Moving On Podcast. There is no guidebook for parenting during a pandemic. But through our conversation, we hope you find some insight, inspiration, and tips to help you move through the upco...2020-11-2442 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 96: Co-parenting Neurodiverse Children Post-Divorce with Elaine Taylor-KlausManeuvering through a divorce is tough. Co-parenting can be even tougher. Parenting a diagnosed or newly diagnosed child with ADHD or neurodiversity post-divorce, well, things can feel downright suffocating at times. This week on the podcast we’re talking about parenting a perfectly imperfect complex child in the midst of a divorce. My guest Elaine Taylor-Klaus is an author, parent educator, and certified coach. She’s the co-founder of ImpactADHD.com and co-creator of Sanity School®. When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, Elaine’s work truly impacted the way that I moved through my son's diagnosis, parenti...2020-11-1857 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 95: Toxic Abuser-in-Chief: What Politics Has to Do With Your MarriageThis week I am sounding off about why I get political on my podcast, on social media, and in my work. The short answer: It’s because it matters and it’s all intertwined. America is extricating itself from a relationship with a toxic abuser. The same thing is being played out in so many marriages that I see.In this episode, I breakdown the intersection between politics and my work in women’s empowerment. I explore the similarities between Donald Trump and toxic partners, and why doing the work to remove yourself from such relati...2020-11-1128 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 92: Becoming The Essential Stepmom with Tracy PoiznerThis week we are talking about all things step-parenting. Tracy Poizner, the founder of the Essential Stepmom Podcast, joins me to explore this topic. Tracy and I discuss becoming a step-mom, how to prepare yourself if your ex-husband introduces a stepmother into your child’s life, and how to create an environment for your children to feel safe and loved within their newly formed blended family. Show Highlights It can take up to seven years to settle into being a step-parent. (3:11) Some advice for women preparing to become a step-mom. (5:30) How to blend house rules between bio...2020-10-2148 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 22: Grief, Nostalgia and Letting Go with Andrea OwenI'm super excited to bring you my latest podcast episode with my dear friend Andrea Owen of Your Kick-Ass Life. I've been a guest on Andrea's podcast quite a number of times now, so I feel honored to finally have her on mine! Andrea and I have spoken many times privately over the years about the grief that goes along with divorce, most importantly the unexpected grief of losing precious extended family. For both Andrea and me, our in-laws were very much like a family we'd never had, and we were both completely t...2018-11-191h 05
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 21: Trusting Your IntuitionThe hits just keep on going, don’t they? I’m recording this show a few days after the shooting in the synagogue in Pittsburgh. I’m realizing that by the time this show airs, we will have probably been hit by even more atrocities. This is relevant to today’s show because I will be discussing trusting your intuition; trusting your gut, and knowing where to find that. I’ve never specifically identified as Jewish, but I am. I’m half Jewish. Part of the reason I never identified as Jewish is because, at a very young age, I...2018-11-0517 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 20: Uncovering Emotional Abuse with Rhian LockardOn the show today, I am thrilled to be joined by my great friend and colleague, Rhian Lockard. Rhian Lockard is a multi-certified life coach, an empath, an ordained interfaith minister, a certified life coach, and an expert on emotional abuse. She currently runs a program called Divine Communication, in which I am enrolled, and it helps you connect with your spirit guide, your intuition, and so much more. Rhian seeks to support people in courageously cultivating their best lives with gentleness, guidance, and love, and feels a calling to her work. Show highlights: R...2018-10-2556 min