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Table PancakesAn Update from Table Pancakes: What’s Next for the PodcastIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi share an important update about the podcast and discuss what’s next.Join the ConversationEmail us: tablepancakespod@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: @tablepancakespodConnect with us: @shelbihq | @katherinehfosterIf you’ve been part of our journey, we’d love it if you rated, reviewed, and subscribed to the show. Your support means the world to us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
2024-09-0426 minTable PancakesBeing Present & Preparing for What’s Next: Catching Up with Katherine & ShelbiIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi check in from opposite coasts, reflecting on their latest adventures and how they balance soaking in the present while preparing for the future.What We Cover:Katherine’s Staycation in BrooklynEnjoying a peaceful Labor Day weekend in the cityI took strolls through the Botanic Gardens, made new connections, and spent time with family during US Open Fan WeekEmbracing the quieter side of New York and savoring the momentShelbi’s West Coast Check-InRecording from San Francisco, a city she’s r...
2024-08-2810 minTable PancakesGathering Energy: Communal Moments & Carrying Summer into FallIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi reflect on this summer's group gatherings, the power of collective experiences, and the energy created by coming together.What We Cover:Commune & ConnectAppreciating the joy of witnessing friends in love at weddings and reconnecting with people from shared walks of lifeTapping into the cultural moment of the Olympics while acknowledging the economic realities of many athletes beyond the American Dream narrativeRecognizing the dual nature of national camaraderie and the complexity of global sporting eventsMusic Sounds Better with YouThe...
2024-08-2137 minTable PancakesWork Friends & Career Growth: The Power of Professional NetworksIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi reflect on friendships formed through jobs and ventures and how these relationships intersect with career development, networking, and entrepreneurship.What We Cover:Jobs Come & Go, Work Friends Come WithLooking back at work friends from the last 10+ years and how those relationships have evolved over timeSeeking career insights from both industry peers and friends from entirely different fieldsBalancing the realities of entrepreneurship with the need to promote your business authentically—sometimes with a healthy dose of delusionDirectness Clarifies DirectionUn...
2024-08-0738 minTable PancakesLoneliness in Your 30s: Navigating Shifting Friendships and Changing PrioritiesIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi dive into the loneliness that can creep in during your 30s, reflecting on the realities of day-to-day single life and how friendships shift over time.What We Cover:Quick Shifts, Big ChangesUnpacking Adiv’s viral TikTok about experiencing loneliness as a 30-something in Los Angeles.This section discusses how friendships and social dynamics evolve as people enter different life stages and how they can strengthen or transform in unexpected ways.It is essential to recognize that loneliness is not exclusive to single...
2024-07-3149 minTable PancakesFinding the Right People: Deep Bonds, Medium Friends, and Evolving ConnectionsIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi explore what it means to have the “right people” in our lives, how friendships evolve, and the role of “medium friends” who may not be our closest confidants but still play meaningful roles.What We Cover:Letting Vibes Lead in Finding the Right PeopleThe power of deep bonds with given family, chosen family, and platonic partnersChoosing to surround yourself with people who align with your values and needsThe importance of mutual understanding and adaptability in maintaining friendships through life transitionsThe Uncl...
2024-07-241h 11Table PancakesToo Hot for Fair-Weather Friends: Showing Up in the Heat of the SummerIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi navigate the heat of the summer, the state of the world, and what it means to truly show up—because it’s too hot out for fair-weather friends.What We Cover:Who’s Holding Us & How We Support Our PeopleThe balance of pressing pause on texts to be fully present with the people right before us.Managing a text hiatus and reduced screen time while still maintaining meaningful connectionsMeeting our close friends and family where they’re at—emotionally and physicallySpinnin...
2024-07-1749 minTable PancakesVoice Notes from the Road: Post-Fourth of July UpdatesIn this special episode of Table Pancakes, Shelbi and Katherine check in from different corners of the world through voice notes. Katherine has just returned from a two-week stint in Europe, while Shelbi is visiting her grandparents in Jackson, Tennessee.Tune in as they share their post-Fourth of July reflections, travel highlights, and personal updates, offering a glimpse into their experiences from two different settings.Join the ConversationEmail us: tablepancakespod@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: @tablepancakespodConnect with us: @shelbihq | @katherinehfoster
2024-07-1013 minTable PancakesKeeping It Social: Navigating Connection in the Digital AgeIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi reflect on their relationships with social media—how they keep it social, how it influences friendships, and its more significant impact on culture and connectivity.What We Cover:Let’s Be Social vs. Follow for FollowSocial media can be a powerful tool for connection, allowing us to build meaningful relationships with people we may never have met otherwiseUsing social platforms as forums for learning, inspiration, and thought-provoking conversationsWe must acknowledge how social media can feel both deeply connective and isolating and why i...
2024-06-2650 minTable PancakesListening to Yourself: How Self-Awareness Shapes ConnectionIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi continue the conversation on listening—but this time, they turn inward. Following their previous episode, "Is This Thing On?" Being a Good Listener to Friends & Hearing Others, they explore how listening to yourself influences how you show up in relationships, navigate belonging, and build deeper connections.What We Cover:Hearing the Voice Within (& the Voices Around Us)How childhood environments shape our ability and willingness to listen to ourselvesThe role of intuition and introspection in relationships—especially when friends and loved ones engage wit...
2024-06-1946 minTable PancakesThe Art of Listening: Strengthening Friendships Through Presence and UnderstandingIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi discuss the importance of being good listeners in friendship and explore how active listening, open communication, and empathy can strengthen and deepen relationships.What We Cover:The Power of Open CommunicationBeing a good listener requires being fully present and attentiveAsking what a friend needs from a conversation helps set expectations and respect boundariesNavigating repetitive conversations with patience while understanding when to offer support vs. solutionsCreating Safe Spaces for SharingVulnerability strengthens friendships, and creating safe spaces for honest con...
2024-06-1249 minTable PancakesFighting for Friendship: The Challenges, Science, and Art of Making New ConnectionsIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi honor the not-so-easy process of making new friends and discuss insights from Danielle Bayard Jackson’s book Fighting for Our Friendships: The Science and Art of Conflict and Connection in Women's Relationships.What We Cover:Define the… FriendshipHow childhood experiences with making friends shape our ability to build connections as adults in less structured environmentsThe changing workplace landscape and how increased digital connection impacts new friendships and socialization (referencing Te-Ping Chen’s The Loneliness of the American Worker in The Wall Street...
2024-06-0542 minTable PancakesTime Well Spent: Balancing What We Want and Need to DoIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi explore the impact of time on our daily lives, including how we perceive it, protect it, and make time for what truly matters.What We Cover:Making Time for What MattersHow our brains perceive time and space, and why time sometimes feels like it moves too fast or too slow (referencing Denise John, PhD’s How to Slow Down Time and studies by cognitive neuroscientist Martin Wiener, PhD*)*Reflections on how time feels in this season of life and how to opt...
2024-05-2957 minTable PancakesThe Art of Asking for Help: Support, Outsourcing, and CollaborationIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi explore the places where we do (or need to) ask for help—from friendships and family to career and creative projects. They discuss how stepping away from self-sufficiency can create more space for connection, collaboration, and focusing on what truly matters.What We Cover:Miss Independent Phones a FriendWhy shedding the Miss Independent mindset can create more opportunities for supportHow others’ perceptions of self-sufficiency can impact the help we receiveThe undefined expectations in friendships and how they shape support systems (referencing Cleo...
2024-05-2248 minTable PancakesVoice Notes from the Road: Coast-to-Coast Updates from Shelbi and KatherineIn this special episode of Table Pancakes, Shelbi and Katherine submit voice notes from their respective travels. Katherine is working on a design project in Connecticut, while Shelbi is in Los Angeles catching up with friends.Listen as they share their updates from two different coasts—covering everything from creative challenges and new inspirations to fun moments and reflections on friendship. This episode combines personal anecdotes and professional updates, offering a behind-the-scenes look at what they’ve been up to.Join the ConversationEmail us: tablepancakespod@gmail.comFo...
2024-05-1518 minTable PancakesFriendship and Finances: Navigating Money in Shared ExperiencesIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi have an open dialogue about how personal finances impact friendships—from career choices and partnerships to bachelorette parties and the ever-debated birthday dinner.What We Cover:Money Moves 101Early perceptions of money often stem from childhood, where items like the custom NikeID Shox held social currencyThe journey from high school jobs to careers in our 30s reveals how people prioritize money in different waysFocusing on personal financial values is essential rather than comparing spending habits to othersEnvy and Money Are Di...
2024-05-0850 minTable PancakesBuilding Community Through Food: A Conversation with Maria Colalancia of The Aperitivo SocietyIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi sit down with Maria Colalancia to discuss how she built The Aperitivo Society. This community brings strangers together over dinner to foster meaningful connections through food, conversation, and shared experiences.What We Cover:All About The Aperitivo SocietyA community designed to bring people together in New England over a shared love of food and drinkMaria’s TikTok post about wanting to host fun dinner parties and meet new people led to nearly 700 members overnight, creating an engaged and growing communityShe experiences li...
2024-05-0143 minTable PancakesConvenience Culture: When to Press Pause and ConnectIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi reflect on the convenience culture that shapes nearly every aspect of our lives and explore when—and how—we choose to slow down and connect more intentionally.What We Cover:Everything on DemandStreaming services have shifted how we experience television, but nostalgia-driven reboots like Reba and Sex and the City still create shared cultural moments and online discourse.The sheer volume of content makes virality feel even more surprising and communal (we see you, Black Twitter).Delivery apps and on-demand services prov...
2024-04-241h 04Table PancakesFriend Groups Under Fire: Are They Really That Bad?In this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi explore the discourse of friend groups, unpacking the benefits and drawbacks of these social dynamics to determine whether the criticism is fair.What We Cover:Are We Mad at Something We All Want?Eli Rallo’s TikTok sparked debate by claiming friend groups are terrible and limitingMany people desire to be part of a friend group, so this take may validate those who feel excludedWhile cliques can create negative experiences, “friend group” is a broad term that varies based on the people and the...
2024-04-1046 minTable PancakesPrioritizing Friendship: Building a Life with the People Who MatterIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi discuss what it means to prioritize friendships in daily life, how to sustain them long-term, and why friendships deserve as much intention as romantic relationships. Plus, they share how they’re prioritizing Beyoncé’s new album, Cowboy Carter.What We Cover:Strong Friendships Stretch TogetherAdult friendships require emotional support, celebration, and adventureThe five love languages, plus the newer additions of shared experiences and emotional security, shape how we show up for our friendsFinding creative ways to spend time together and evolve as fr...
2024-04-0345 minTable PancakesFriendship Breakups: When to Hold On, When to Let GoIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi create space for an honest conversation about friendship breakups, the difficulty of letting go of long-standing friendships, and how to navigate the emotional complexity of it all.What We Cover:Friendship Breakups and, Dare We Say, DivorcesPlatonic relationships can be just as intense and emotionally complex as romantic onesTwo things can be true: friendship breakups can be devastating, but they can also be freeing when a relationship no longer serves youSometimes friendships end with an unspoken silent line drawn in the...
2024-03-2756 minTable PancakesNeighborhoods and Community: How Where You Live Shapes ConnectionIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi explore the role of neighborhoods in building community, the dynamics of neighborly relationships, and the ongoing debate between city living and the suburbs.What We Cover:Love Where You LiveWhat makes a neighborhood feel like home, and how it shapes daily lifeFavorite neighborhood restaurants and cafes that bring a sense of communityHow we engage with and contribute to the places we call homeNeighbor or Friend?The comfort of having someone looking out for you, especially as two single...
2024-03-2050 minTable PancakesFriendship Evolutions: Navigating Closeness, Distance, and Changing PrioritiesIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi explore how friendships evolve, how closeness and distance impact relationships, and how to navigate these changes with intention.What We Cover:Embracing Friends as FamilyClose friends often become chosen family and may even form bonds with your given familyFriendships can serve as accountability partnerships, providing honest feedback and support in reaching personal and professional goalsWith less free time, staying connected requires creativity—whether through long voice notes, “mini podcasts,” or body doubling for mutual supportShifting Priorities and New NormalsLif...
2024-03-1354 minTable PancakesCreativity, Confidence, & Community: Why Sharing Your Work MattersIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi discuss the importance of promoting your work, supporting others in their creative journeys, and recognizing that everyone is creative—whether they claim the title or not.What We Cover:The Necessity of Sharing Your WorkWhy sharing is part of the creative process—helping you connect, expand your reach, and refine your craft.Showing your most authentic self through your work, whether it’s a polished final product or behind-the-scenes glimpses.Acknowledging that many creatives are multi-hyphenates, some 9-to-5 jobs are great incubators...
2024-03-0645 minTable PancakesThe Art of Being Alone: Embracing Solo Time in a Hyperconnected WorldIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi reflect on solo time—why they embrace it, how they navigate it, and where it fits in today’s individualistic, digitally connected (yet increasingly lonely) society.What We Cover:Understanding What We Want & Need from Alone TimeHuman Design helps determine when and how we need solitude—whether for rest, reflection, or inspiration.Communicating your need for solo time so others know when you’re recharging is essential.Finding Comfort in Being With YourselfUsing solo time to pursue personal goals, c...
2024-02-2845 minTable PancakesTo Go Out or Stay In? Navigating Social Spaces and CommunityIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi tackle the age-old debate: Should we leave the house? And if so… where to? From membership clubs to finding Cheers-like community spots, we explore how our social habits have evolved and what creating meaningful connections in today’s world means.What We Cover:Finding Comfort (or Inconvenience) in Third PlacesThe rise of membership clubs as built-in communities—but at a cost (inspired by The Stanza Podcast episode Exclusivity Sells featuring Annabel Schwartz).The pandemic, economic shifts, and changing priorities have redefined where...
2024-02-2144 minTable PancakesLove in All Its Forms: Friendship, Dating (Sort Of?), and Self-LoveIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi dive into how love shows up in our lives—through friendships, self-love, and (occasionally) dating. From navigating friendships in our 30s to embracing life’s different paths, we explore how connection evolves as we grow.What We Cover:Friendships as We Get Older – Why deepening connections and communicating openly matter more than ever. We discuss grief, accountability, and understanding our place in each other’s support systems (with references to Good Grief by Dan Levy and conversations from Talk Easy with Sam Fragoso and We C...
2024-02-1447 minTable PancakesStaying Connected: Keeping Friendships & Family Bonds StrongIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi explore how we stay connected with friends and family—whether they're near or far. From group chats to FaceTime and social media antics to the art of dropping in, we’re breaking down how to keep relationships thriving in a digital world.Topics We Cover:Social Media & Staying in Touch – The best platforms for keeping up with friends, from Instagram's Close Friends to TikTok’s curated reposts and the chaos of Twitter/X. Managing Texts & Group Chats – How to handle incoming messages, group chats, and the delicate balance be...
2024-02-0754 minTable PancakesFriendship Dynamics: Group Hangouts vs. One-on-One TimeIn this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi break down the composition of their friend groups and explore the unique dynamics that shape friendships.Topics We Cover:Friend Group Dynamics – The different personalities that make up our circles and what makes each friendship unique.Groups vs. 1:1 Hangs: Do we prefer intimate one-on-one conversations or the energy of a big group? We share personal experiences and discuss the pros and cons of each.Social Needs & Differences – How we navigate friendships as introverts vs. extroverts and find balance in our social lives.Merging Friend Groups: Yes or No...
2024-01-3154 minTable PancakesWelcome to Table Pancakes!Table Pancakes is a podcast where deep, meaningful conversations unfold over a plate of metaphorical pancakes.Join hosts Katherine and Shelbi as they explore friendship, connection, and the stories that shape us. From navigating adulthood to redefining relationships, Table Pancakes serves up thought-provoking discussions with a side of humor and heart.In Our First Episode, We Cover:How We Became Friends – The unexpected encounters and "third places" that brought us together.The Meaning Behind Table Pancakes – Why this quirky title perfectly represents the essence of our podcast.The Power of Deep Conversations – In a f...
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