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Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #107 – “Inheriting Resentment”A common cause of conflict between adult siblings and their parents is how the parents’ assets are, or will be, distributed. In this era of aging baby boomers, many of whom are making their end-of-life arrangements, this issue seems to be coming up even more frequently. Some parents choose to distribute some of their assets before they die, which can get mixed reactions from their children.This isn’t as straightforward as some people imagine it to be. The concerns and upset aren’t always exclusively about the tangible assets. Complex emotional issues, sometimes going back to childh...2023-02-1332 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #105 – Secrets to Sustainable Relationships, Part 2 – Living Relationally”“Secrets to Sustainable Relationships, Part 2 – Living Relationally”, Episode #105 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I’m Kathleen Oweegon.Last week, in Episode #104 Nancy Pickard, a Master Integrative Life Coach, and I discussed the importance of setting healthy boundaries to help our relationships be sustainable. In a continuation of that conversation, Nancy & I explore how living relationally can support the sustainability of a relationship.Highlights of our conversation include:What living relationally isHolding ourself and others in warm regardWhat to do when we get triggeredHow to approach conversation in times of upset2023-01-3020 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #97 – “How to Move Beyond Blame, Live Your Highest Purpose and Become an Unstoppable Force for Good”Welcome to “How to Move Beyond Blame, Live Your Highest Purpose and Become an Unstoppable Force for Good”, Episode #97 of Co-creating Peace.Dr. Fleet Maull joins me to talk about Radical Responsibility, and how practicing it can empower us to better co-create peace with others.Highlights of our conversation were:Fleet’s transformation from angry young man who spent 14 years in prison, to Roshi (Zen master/senior teacher), psychologist, author of 3 books & founder of 2 non-profits, one of which brings mindfulness, meditation, and emotional intelligence training into the criminal justice system;The value of mindfulness & emotio...2022-12-0533 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #96 – “The Heart is our Compass: Compassionate Listening in Polarized Times” Part 2This is an early broadcast - instead of airing it on the weekend as I usually do, I wanted to air it before Thanksgiving, for those of you who may be wondering how to have non-contentious family conversations at Thanksgiving – or any other holiday for that matter, especially during times like we’re in now, where there are strong and opposing feelings and opinions nationwide about our political arena, human rights and other current national issues. My guest Susan Partnow has some tools and ideas to share with you to help set the tone for more compassionate conver...2022-11-2429 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #95 – “The Heart is our Compass: Compassionate Listening in Polarized Times", Part 1Each of us has a yearning to be deeply heard, but few of us know how to actually do that for others. Fortunately, there is a beautiful process called Compassionate Listening, which anyone can easily learn to do.Enjoy “The Heart is our Compass: Compassionate Listening in Polarized Times, Part 1”, Episode #95 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication & conflict transformation.This is the first of a 2-part interview with Susan Partnow about Compassionate Listening. Susan works closely with Leah Green, founder of The Compassionate Listening Project as the Coordinator for the Advanced Comp...2022-11-2136 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #94, “Uniting Fractured Communities Through Dialogue, Part 2 – Discovering Deeper Connections With Dialogue”Learn more about the power of dialogue in “Uniting Fractured Communities Through Dialogue, Part 2 – Discovering Deeper Connections With Dialogue”.Recently, I was interviewed by Duncan for The Omni-Win Project podcast. We discussed topics related to with dialogue & exploring ways that we can see past our differences – in fact, embrace them – to nurture democracy, co-create peace & co-create a world where different ways of being & different perspectives are embraced, celebrated, and utilized to co-create better tomorrows than our yesterdays have been.The Omni-Win Project podcast is 1 hour long, so I am airing this conversation in 2 parts over two podcas...2022-11-1428 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #93 – “Uniting Fractured Communities Through Dialogue, Part 1 – Bringing Police and Activists Together Through Dialogue”Welcome to “Uniting Fractured Communities Through Dialogue, Part 1 – Bringing Police and Activists Together Through Dialogue” – Episode 93 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Recently, I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Duncan Autrey of The Omni-Win Project for The Omni-Win Project podcast. I want to share that interview with you in this podcast. The Omni-Win Project is a multimedia effort to raise awareness of the myriad existing and emergent opportunities we have to improve our democracy and heal our political culture.We discussed a wide range of related topics having to do wit...2022-11-0739 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #92 – "Say It Now"Welcome to “Say It Now” – Episode #92 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. We’ve all heard the saying, “Timing and delivery are everything!”, and that is especially true when it comes to communication. It is so important to be mindful of not only what we want to say, but when and how. There are some messages that should be shared sooner, rather than later. Joining me today to talk about the importance of saying certain things without putting them off is Sherry Richert Belul, author of “Say It Now”.Sherry Richert Belul, fo...2022-10-3130 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #91, “Finding My Place & My Harmony Within the Group” – Letter from a ListenerWhen we marry, we enter into a wide variety of new relationships. We’re usually marrying into our spouse’s family with all of their personalities, idiosyncrasies, and interpersonal dynamics. Families often have their own unique culture with all the expectations and biases that can come with that.Welcome to “Finding My Place & My Harmony Within the Group” – Episode #91 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I share a letter from a listener in France, seeking my advice about boundaries and communication with the very large...2022-10-2426 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #90 – “How to Communicate with Your Partner in Difficult Times”Welcome to “How to Communicate with Your Partner in Difficult Times”, Episode #90 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. A strong lifelong partnership with someone special is something that is important to many of us. As wonderful as it is to find that special someone, that doesn’t always guarantee that the relationship will always be smooth and easy. Difficult times can arise in any relationship. What’s important is how we navigate those difficult times. Joining us today to share some insights into that is relationship expert Laura Doyle.New Yor...2022-10-1730 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #89 – “Living Room Conversations: Connecting Across Divides”Welcome to “Living Room Conversations: Connecting Across Divides”, Episode #89 of Co-creating Peace.There is an unmet need that many of us experience. You’ve heard me speak about it before. It is the need to feel heard, to be acknowledged for who we are and how we perceive the world. Sadly, sometimes we have great difficulty in getting that need met. That’s where Living Room Conversations comes in. Living Room Conversations is an organization that helps people to have safe, peaceful, comfortable conversations about the kinds of issues that we find disagreement about, that we feel a great...2022-10-1028 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #88 – “What’s Your Story?”Welcome to “What’s Your Story?”, Episode #88 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Each of us has a story to tell. Many of us keep our story locked inside of us, examining only some parts of it, perhaps suppressing others. Some parts of our story bring joy with their memory; other may bring sadness, even pain. Yet, every part of our story is significant and has much to teach us, and – perhaps – to teach others. The wisdom and the empowerment that reside in our story are most easily seen when we write our story d...2022-10-0330 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #87 – “Conflict and Your Soul’s Journey”In last weekend's episode of "Co-creating Peace", I had a wonderful conversation with Rabbi David H. Green, who shared some great insights into our soul's journey and how conflict can be an opportunity for soul growth. I hope you will enjoy “Conflict and Your Soul’s Journey”, Episode #87 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Conflict plays out in our lives in many ways, and it can serve many purposes. I often speak about conflict being an opportunity for several positive things, including growth at various levels. Rabbi David Gr...2022-09-2634 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #86 – “Acknowledge, Reflect, Be Curious”I hope you will enjoy “Acknowledge, Reflect, Be Curious”, Episode #86 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Joining me is Duncan Autry, creator of The Omni-Win Project, where his goal is to facilitate the healing and evolution of our democratic systems and political culture, so that we can co-create a future that works for everyone. Duncan has some great insights and ideas to share with us, along with a model for approaching difficult conversations and conflict called ARC - Acknowledge, Reflect, Be Curious.Duncan is a conflict transformation facilitator and ed...2022-09-1928 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #85 – “Clean Inquiry: simple questions for conversations when emotions and stakes are high”Welcome to “Clean Inquiry: simple questions for conversations when emotions and stakes are high”, Episode #85 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. When we are experiencing high emotion, and the outcome of the situation we’re in will have a strong and lasting impact on our life – positive or negative – is when we often have the most difficulty communicating consciously and in ways that help others feel safe and empowered to collaborate with us. Yet, that very communication could well affect the outcome. How do we approach conversation in such a tenuous situation? Joining me...2022-09-1235 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #84 – "The Impact of Trauma on Communication"Today's episode is a follow-on to last week's episode when Greg Wieting and I had a great conversation about transforming trauma, learning to see our lived experience with new awareness and wisdom, and using these to build stronger, healthier relationships with ourselves and others. Of course, a major component of building stronger, healthier relationships is communication. Yet, trauma can impact our ability to effectively communicate with others in several detrimental ways. Today, Karen Robinson, a service driven social worker, therapist, and coach with 24+ years of clinical experience who specializes in trauma recovery, anxiety, and depression joins me t...2022-09-0526 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #83 – "Re-framing Our Lived Experience – Transforming Trauma"Welcome to "Re-framing Our Lived Experience – Transforming Trauma", Episode #83 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Just about everyone has experienced trauma in their life. Some traumas are what might be called relatively minor, others can be horrendous, and there are many degrees of trauma in between. Each of us deals with our trauma in different ways. Some people are able to process their trauma and work it through more easily than others. Some find it easier to talk about their trauma than others do. Each person’s journey through their trauma is diffe...2022-08-2929 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #82 – “Releasing Grudges" Part 3: Letters from ListenersWelcome to Part #3 of “Releasing Grudges": Letters from Listeners, Episode #82 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In the last 2 weeks, I’ve been speaking with Lee Hopkins about releasing grudges. Those two episodes have inspired more letters from listeners than any other episodes so far. In this episode, I’ll share 4 of those letters with you.Each letter has a different story to tell about listeners' experiences with grudges and releasing them.Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please...2022-08-2120 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #81 – "Releasing Grudges" Part 2Welcome to Part #2 of “Releasing Grudges,” Episode #81 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today, Coach Lee Hopkins and I continue our conversation about grudges. Last week, we talked about what we might do to help others release their grudge against us. Now we’ll discuss how each of us might work through the grudges we have against others.Coach Lee Hopkins (he/him/his) is a transgender man who helps people create lasting friendships. You can learn more about Lee and his work by visiting his website, patternsofpossibility.com, where you will...2022-08-1428 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #80 – “Releasing Grudges” Pt. 1Welcome to Part 1 of “Releasing Grudges", Episode #80 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. A few weeks ago, in Episode #77 of this podcast, Lee Hopkins and I had a great conversation about boundaries. I felt such alignment with so many of his ideas that I subscribed to his blog. A recent article in his blog was about grudges, which – of course, can be both the cause and the result of conflict. I’ve invited Lee back to share his perspective on grudges and what we might do to help others release their gr...2022-08-0828 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #79 – “The Power of the Pause"Welcome to “The Power of the Pause", Episode #79 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I have a bit of a change of pace for you. Every Wednesday evening at 5:00 pacific time, I have conversations with listeners on the Wisdom App. Last Wednesday on the Wisdom App, I spoke about the power of the pause. This topic was inspired by a quote from Victor Frankl. “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space, is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our gro...2022-07-2530 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #78 – “Teaching Leaders Peaceful Coexistence”Welcome to “Teaching Leaders Peaceful Coexistence”, Episode #78 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. It is becoming more and more evident today’s world that peaceful co-existence with nature and with our fellow human beings is vital to the survival of our planet and the evolution of our humanity. Fortunately, there are many people who are dedicated to peaceful co-existence, and there are many tools and resources to help us accomplish that. The University for Peace, also known as UPeace, is one of the best resources to gain the tools needed to become...2022-07-1834 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #77 – “Boundaries Create the Shape of You”Welcome to “Boundaries Create the Shape of You”, Episode #77 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In Episode #20 of this podcast, I spoke about the power of defining, articulating, and enforcing our boundaries as an important tool in conflict prevention. Last week, in Episode #76, "Honor Your Boundaries", I shared the story of one of my listeners and her struggles with her boundaries.Today, I have the pleasure of having Coach Lee Hopkins join me to share a very powerful boundaries framework that he has created, which he calls 3N Boundaries....2022-07-1137 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #76 – “Honor Your Boundaries”Welcome to “Honor Your Boundaries”, Episode #76 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Many people – myself included for a long time – allow things into their life that they really don’t want there, and find that people often take advantage of them, treat them in disrespectful and inappropriate ways, and disregard their needs. Conflict inevitably results, whether it is internal conflict within the person being treated in these ways because they don’t know how to make it stop, or because when they try to instigate a change in that dynamic they’re met with harsh...2022-07-0424 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #75 – “Let’s Restart!”Welcome to “Let’s Restart!”, Episode #75 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I’m Kathleen Oweegon.One of the biggest and most frustrating obstacles to resolving conflict, or even resolving our feelings about a conflict we’ve had, is when the other person won’t participate in the effort to resolve. Joining me to offer a solution to that dilemma is Louis Bourgarel, with a method of unilateral conflict resolution that he calls “Restart”.Louis Bourgarel is a "Relationship Mechanic" who helps managers and executives facing a high impact conflict with a k...2022-06-2729 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #74 – “Pivoting Toward Inner Peace”Welcome to “Pivoting Toward Inner Peace”, Episode #74 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. There are times in our lives when we recognize that we aren’t thriving. Nothing seems to be in sync. We experience inner friction and outer friction, and no sense of real peace. In this episode, Sarah Kalmeta and I have a conversation about ways to move through and out of this difficult place in our life by pivoting into a new direction, one that is fulfilling, and in which we feel inner peace.Sarah...2022-06-2035 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #73 – “Everyone is Someone Else’s ‘Other’”Welcome to “Everyone is Someone Else’s ‘Other’”, Episode #73 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Lara Khouri joins me from Dubai to share her insights about being seen as “the other”, some approaches to working with that experience, and approaches to working with conflict.Lara is a self-professed serial expat. Born in London, she grew up in Lagos, Nigeria, moved to Lebanon when she was 14 after the end of the Lebanese civil war, lived in London for a few years when she was in university, and has lived in Dubai...2022-06-0636 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #72 – “The Practice and Practicality of Mindfulness” Part 2Welcome to Part 2 of “The Practice and Practicality of Mindfulness”, Episode #72 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Last week, in Part 1, I spoke with Andrew Safer, founder of Safer Mindfulness Inc. He walked us through a brief mindfulness exercise, and shared some insights into the practice of mindfulness, and additional ways that mindfulness can benefit our lives.Today, Andrew and I will pick up our conversation where we left off last week. At that point, we were talking how to approach our anxiety from a mindful perspective. Andre...2022-05-2926 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #71 – “The Practice and Practicality of Mindfulness” Part 1Welcome to Part 1 of “The Practice and Practicality of Mindfulness”, Episode #71 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I've spoken about mindfulness and some of its many applications several times in this podcast – as a tool for conscious communication, conflict prevention, and conflict transformation. Andrew Safer, founder of Safer Mindfulness Inc., is with me today to walk us through a brief mindfulness exercise, and share some insights into the practice of mindfulness, and additional ways that mindfulness can benefit our lives. In the conversation you are about to hear, An...2022-05-2328 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #70 – "The Journey to Co-creating Peace Begins with Inner Peace”Welcome to "The Journey to Co-creating Peace Begins with Inner Peace”, Episode #70 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Joining me today to talk about the Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as EFT, is Ann Hince, author of the book: A Pathway to Insight. EFT is a simple form of self-administered therapy that can be used to treat a wide variety of physical and psychological imbalances. Ann will tell us about how she used EFT to help her recover from trauma and find inner peace. We’ll also discuss how inner peace leads to pea...2022-05-1633 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #69 – "How to Say What They Don’t Want to Hear”Welcome to "How to Say What They Don’t Want to Hear”, Episode #69 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. This episode is a bit of a change of pace. In today’s episode, I am interviewed by Marta Greca, for her podcast Marta the Minimalist. Marta invited me to be a guest to talk about how to deliver information that the other person may not want to hear. Our focus is primarily on workplace scenarios, but the concepts and tools can be applied in almost any context. You may recall...2022-05-0924 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #68 – “The 7 Steps of Relationship Repair”Welcome to “The 7 Steps of Relationship Repair”, Episode #68 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. No matter how strong or long-lasting, every relationship hits rough spots or tough times once in awhile. Branch Isole joins us today to talk about some very useful approaches to successfully moving through those experiences to heal, restore harmony, and grow as a result.Author, storyteller and poet Branch Isole writes about strength of choice to change consequences. He's known worldwide for contemporary short stories that reveal emotions and issues often experienced, but not always voice...2022-05-0224 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #67 – “Connecting Across Divides”Welcome to “Connecting Across Divides”, Episode #67 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. The 2022 National Week of Conversation takes place April 24-30. It is a week of events and activities that bring people together across differences, and gives people an opportunity to experience dialogue and deliberation. I encourage you to harvest the opportunity to experience Dialogue & Deliberation by participating, You'll find information about how to participate in the National Week of Conversation at the end of these notes.I feel very strongly about the enlightening and healing power of dialogue, and the a...2022-04-2534 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #66 – “Let’s Talk About It”Welcome to “Let’s Talk About It”, Episode #66 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. The difficulties we have with one another are very often the result of lack of insight and understanding. In the absence of information we make assumptions about one another – assumptions that often lead to conflict.There is a cure for this phenomenon, and that is dialogue – sitting down with one another to have conversations that help us to learn about one another at deeper levels. When we put aside our assumptions, our biases, and the fears on which th...2022-04-1839 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #65 – “How to Make Your Goals Your Reality”The journey from goals to reality is not always clear. Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a map? Fear not, because - in fact - there is a way to map your goals and turn your goals into your reality! Welcome to “How to Make Your Goals Your Reality” – Episode #65 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Joining me today from Lagos Nigeria is my dear friend Felix Iziomoh to tell us about Goal Mapping, a dynamic tool that can help us to create our own reality and to co-create peace. Felix el...2022-04-1123 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #64 – "Holding the Space for Peace"Welcome to "Holding the Space for Peace", Episode #64 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Andrea Petrut joins me today from Toronto Canada for a conversation about the many ways that we can hold the space for peace – within ourselves, between ourselves and others, and in the world. We discuss the relationship between inner peace, outer peace and world peace, and Andrea shares some easy but very powerful tools for how we can find and maintain our inner peace, which is where all peace has its roots.After losing her mother to...2022-04-0431 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #63 – “The Sequel to ‘Timing & Delivery are Everything’: Letters from Listeners”Welcome to “The Sequel to ‘Timing & Delivery are Everything’: Letters from Listeners”, Episode #63 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Last week, I talked about how important it is to give careful thought to the timing and delivery of important conversations and offered some suggestions about what to consider when planning those conversations. Boy, did that topic strike a chord with many of you listeners! In this episode, I share with you some of the letters I received from listeners about their experiences with timing and delivery of communication, and the answers I offered in...2022-03-2824 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #62 – "Timing & Delivery Are Everything”Welcome to "Timing & Delivery Are Everything”, Episode #62 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. All too often, we neglect to give careful thought to the timing and delivery of important conversations. Sometimes we put them off, when it would be more constructive to have them earlier. Other times, we have important conversations when we’re emotionally escalated, when waiting until we were more calm and clear, and able to be more in our wisdom would have created a better result. In this episode, I will share with you some thoughts on choosing the b...2022-03-2123 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #61 – "The Leader's Inward Journey”Welcome to "The Leader's Inward Journey”, Episode #61 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In today’s world, wise, ethical and empathetic leadership is needed more than ever. Where do those traits come from? How are they developed? In my conversation today with Terry Wildemann, we’ll explore these questions, as we discuss intuitive leadership and the Law of Attraction.An Intuitive Success Navigator, Terry Wildemann helps spiritual entrepreneurial leaders connect deeply with their inner guidance system to control overwhelm, awaken the possibilities, and attract prosperity. She is an experienced entrepr...2022-03-1429 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #60 – "Nourishing Wisdom in Children"Welcome to "Nourishing Wisdom in Children", Episode #60 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I’m joined today by Gramps Jeffrey, to talk about his children’s book, “I Don’t Want to Turn 3”, a book that explores what goes through a toddler’s mind as he faces turning 3. Age 3, as this toddler sees it, is the age when he’ll have to take responsibility for his actions, which he is not looking forward to. This story also involves conflict resolution with children, and the roles that parents and grandparents can have in nourishing w...2022-03-0729 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #59 – "Using Conscious Communication to Attract What You Want in Life”Welcome to "Using Conscious Communication to Attract What You Want in Life” – Episode #59 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. With me today is Marta Greca to share what she has learned about the power of conscious communication and how that has impacted her family and her life.As you listen to my conversation with Marta, if you recognize yourself in some of those communication patterns she describes that didn’t work well for her in the past, I am happy to support you in your communication transformation with communication coachin...2022-02-2829 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #58 – “Here Comes the Judge”Welcome to “Here Comes the Judge”, Episode #58 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Have you ever noticed yourself writing a story in your head about something that has happened in the world or in your life? For example, think about the events of January 6th. What stories did you write in your head about the people involved or their motivations for doing what they did. What judgements came up for you? Even if you know someone who was there and they told you what their motivations were, that is only...2022-02-2131 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #57 – “A 5-step Framework to Approach a Difficult Conversation”Welcome to “A 5-step Framework to Approach a Difficult Conversation”, Episode #57 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today, I am joined by Jerry Fu a conflict resolution coach who helps Asian-American leaders advance in their career and life journeys. Jerry will share with us his 5-step Framework for Approaching a Difficult Conversation and examples of how he has used it in situations he’s faced, and in his leadership coaching.Prior to starting his coaching business, Jerry Fu served as a pharmacist and began facilitating leadership workshops in 2012. Jerry started coaching...2022-02-1426 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #56 – “What Results is Peace”Welcome to “What Results is Peace”, Episode #56 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. You may recall that in Episode #53 Indra Rinzler joined me to talk about The Enneagram of Personality and the Four Doorways to Conscious Living. In our conversation after the interview, Indra shared with me some of his thoughts about conflict and peace. I was intrigued by what he said and invited him back to share those thoughts with you. Indra Rinzler has been a life-long spiritual seeker, and is a healer and teacher who offers life readin...2022-02-0728 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #55 – "The Unicorn in You – A Path to Peace & Joy”Welcome to "The Unicorn in You”, Episode #55 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today, I am joined by Joshua Kramer. Josh’s upcoming book, "The Unicorn in You", takes an un-self-help approach to finding a path to peace and joy. By identifying fundamental principles and the standards that guide them, he uses classic stories and timeless quotes to outline practical and actionable steps to reconnect with these universal qualities. In The Unicorn in You, Josh reveals the everyday structures for stepping out of your head and becoming grounded in your foundation for being. J...2022-01-3122 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #54 – “Your Many Facets”Welcome to “Your Many Facets”, Episode #54 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today’s episode may feel like a bit of a walkabout as you hear the thoughts I will share, yet I invite and encourage you to journey with me on this little adventure of the mind. By the end of this episode, you will have new insights into yourself and others, and some new tools that will help you to more mindfully choose how you want to relate to others in any given situation.Back in the mid-198...2022-01-2420 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #53 – “The Enneagram of Personality and the Four Doorways to Conscious Living"Welcome to “The Enneagram of Personality and the Four Doorways to Conscious Living". Episode #53 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.Today, I am speaking with Indra Rinzler - a life-long spiritual seeker who will share a valuable tool for increasing our self-awareness and our understandings about others – Enneagram of Personality. We’re also going to talk about the 4 Doorways to Conscious Living.Indra Rinzler is a healer and teacher and offers life readings for clients. Astrology and the Enneagram of Personality are the main modalities that he shares. He’s been s...2022-01-1726 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #52 – “Why CARE?"Welcome to “Why CARE?" Episode #52 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.Today, I am speaking with Sam Thiara about an acronym he has created that is central to his outlook and his work: CARE, which stands for Collaboration, Adaptability, Resilience and Empathy. We’ll talk about why this is so important and how it might be applied.Sam Thiara is a professional who has created a personal journey as a speaker, storyteller, writer, educator, mentor, coach, entrepreneur, problem solver and community activator. His goal is to engage indiv...2022-01-1029 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #51 – “An Attitude of Gratitude”Welcome to “An Attitude of Gratitude” – Episode #51 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. When nothing seems to be going your way, your best-laid plans are thwarted by the Fates, and it feels as though the bird of paradise is leaving droppings on your head, it is so easy to go into a dark, desperate, and angry place in your psyche. It’s tempting to scream “Why me!?!” or “Screw you!” to the Universe and the powers that be, or even to vent that anger and frustration on some poor undeserving soul who crosses your...2022-01-0213 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #50 – “Resolve to Resolve” Welcome to “Resolve to Resolve” – Episode 50 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. As we approach the birth of every new year, many people have the tradition of making resolutions for the new year. For 2022, I would like to invite you to resolve to resolve. Think about the unresolved conflicts in your life, the conversations you know you need to have but have been putting off, unmade apologies, unaccepted apologies, and the forgiveness you know someone deserves, but which you haven’t yet expressed to them.The topic of this episod...2021-12-2723 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #49 – "Speaking in Rounds to Help People Think”Welcome to: "Speaking in Rounds to Help People Think” - Episode #49 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Sheella Mierson joins me to talk about a method of designing the flow of a conversation in a way that evokes more thoughtful responses, and which allows for each person to have a chance to share their thoughts without the conversation being dominated by the stronger personalities.Sheella specializes in helping people collaborate more effectively in a variety of settings. One of her favorite tools is having people speak in "rounds" in meetings, wheth...2021-12-2032 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #48 – “A Buddhist Perspective on Peace & Purpose”, a conversation with Venerable Domo Geshe RinpocheWelcome to “A Buddhist Perspective on Peace and Purpose” - Episode #48 of Co-creating Peace – a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today, I have the honor of speaking with Venerable Domo Geshe Rinpoche. The 9th Domo Geshe Rinpoche is the Spiritual Director of White Conch Dharma Center and abbot of Lotus Lake Buddhist Retreat Center and monastery in Central Wisconsin. Having completed extensive training and retreat, Rinpoche’s current incarnation has been teaching in the United States, Europe and Canada for more than twenty years, during which time she has given numerous Buddhist retreats...2021-12-1333 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #47 – Part 2 of "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces"Welcome to Part 2 of "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces" – Episode #47 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. This episode is a continuation of last week’s broadcast of my conversation with Denise Blanc about the flow of a river as a metaphor for conversation. In her forthcoming book, "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces", Denise elaborates on this metaphor in each chapter, titling the chapters using various aspects of a river: Current, Confluence, Rivulet, and Riverbank. Last week, we discussed Current and Confluence. Today, Denise will s...2021-12-0628 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #46 – Part 1 of "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces"Welcome to Part 1 of "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces" – Episode #46 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. With me is Denise Blanc to share her thoughts on the flow of a river as a metaphor for conversation. This beautiful metaphor can help us to better practice conscious communication. In her forthcoming book, "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces", Denise elaborates on this metaphor in each chapter, titling the chapters using various aspects of a river: Current, Confluence, Rivulet, and Riverbank. In today’s episode, we’ll discu...2021-11-2728 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #45 – “Deck the Halls, Not Your Relatives”Welcome to “Deck the Halls, Not Your Relatives” - Episode #45 of Co-creating Peace – a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Holidays are usually thought of as a time of gathering with family and loved ones, and creating joyful memories. For some families, there is a different experience. Some people find themselves embroiled in family conflict during the holidays, and wishing they could deck one relative or another. Rachel Yarrington joins me to talk about why that is and what we can do about it.Rachel Yarrington is a certified mediator, ombuds, and licensed mental...2021-11-2030 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #44 – Part 2 of "Using NVC to Speak Your Truth"Welcome to Part 2 of "Using NVC® to Speak Your Truth” - Episode 44 of Co-creating Peace – a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Last week Jack Lehman and I had a great conversation about how NVC uses observations, feelings, needs, and requests, as part of its communication structure. We discussed identifying our feelings and some understandings and tools that we can utilize to express them clearly and safely. In this episode we continue that conversation.Jack Lehman is a Clinical Mental Health Counselor licensed in the State of New Mexico, and a Certified Trainer with t...2021-11-1426 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #43 – Part 1 of "Using Nonviolent Communication® to Speak Your Truth”Welcome to Part 1 of "Using Nonviolent Communication® to Speak Your Truth” - Episode #43 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In Episode #22, Jack Lehman gave us some insights into The Dao of Domination, and told us a little bit about a wonderful conscious communication tool called Nonviolent Communication®, also known as NVC.Today, Jack joins me again for part one of a more detailed conversation about NVC, and how we can use it to express our truth in ways that other people feel safe hearing.Jack Lehman is a Clinica...2021-11-0830 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #42 - "You, Me, Us – The Art of Verbal Aikido™”,Welcome to “You, Me, Us – The Art of Verbal Aikido™," Episode #42 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Joining me today from Lyon, France, is Luke Archer, who will be sharing with us a peace education practice called Verbal Aikido™, which is based on principles and philosophy of the Japanese martial art Aikido. Verbal Aikido™, practitioners train to protect themselves, and to de-escalate conflictual exchanges peacefully. Luke Archer and his team have been developing and sharing this practice since 2009, focusing on empowering both adults and children to listen more deeply and to communic...2021-11-0132 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #41 - Bringing Calm to the StormWelcome to “Bringing Calm to the Storm”, Episode #41 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I recorded this podcast in front of a live online audience at the 2021 State of New Mexico Alternative Dispute Resolution Symposium on October 21 – National Conflict Resolution Day.As we all know, conflict often involves high emotion. Not everyone has the ability to manage their emotions well, especially when their emotions are highly escalated. People sometimes completely lose awareness and control of their emotions and behavior. Other times people in conflict may use rage to intimidate and control...2021-10-2531 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #40 – Part 2 of "Walking Through the Blueprint of We - A Way to Co-create Relationships"Welcome to Part 2 of "Walking Through the Blueprint of We - A Way to Co-create Relationships" – Episode #40 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In Episode #16 of this podcast, I interviewed Sheella Mierson and Rachel Eryn Kalish about “A Way to Co-create Relationships (The Blueprint of We Process).” They described the Blueprint of We and gave examples of where and how it is used. At the end of that interview, I wanted to know more, and was delighted to continue the series.In Episode #33, "Walking Through the Blueprint of We, Par...2021-10-1832 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #39 - What Is Restorative Justice, Really?Welcome to “What is Restorative Justice, Really?” – Episode #39 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I am so pleased to have my friend and colleague, Tonya Covington join me to talk about a very important field of mediation – especially in today’s world. It is a powerful, yet underutilized form of mediation known as Restorative Justice.Tonya Covington was appointed by the Mayor of Albuquerque to bring Restorative Justice to the City. She is the immediate past President of the New Mexico Mediation Association. Tonya has been a trained mediator and teacher of m...2021-10-1126 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #38 - Implementing Emotional IntelligenceWelcome to “Implementing Emotional Intelligence”, Episode #38 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In last week’s episode, I talked about “Expressing Emotion Safely”. In this episode, I’ll discuss Emotional Intelligence, also known as EI or EQ, which I think is defined best by Daniel Goleman, author of the book titled “Emotional Intelligence”, who defines EI as the ability to recognize, understand and manage our own emotions and to recognize, understand and influence the emotions of others.To best perceive and respond to the emotions that you and others experience, and the impacts o...2021-10-0427 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #37 – Expressing Emotion SafelyWelcome to “Expressing Emotion Safely” – Episode #37 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Expressing our emotions, especially when we feel those emotions strongly is something that is very difficult for many people to do, or to do successfully, and in ways that help build understanding. We all struggle from time to time with how to express our emotions. We often either react to our feelings without thought, causing others to get upset, or we avoid talking about them altogether in an effort to prevent high emotion and conflict, which – in the long run –...2021-09-2725 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #36 – The Courage to Bridge the DivideWelcome to “The Courage to Bridge the Divide” – Episode #36 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I share a letter from a listener seeking advice about feeling rejected by family members, and not knowing how to have a productive conversation about that. The advice I will share could be applied in any situation where one feels as though others are distancing from them, whether or not it is family members.Today’s quote is by Winston Churchill. "Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also w...2021-09-1922 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #35 - Terms to KnowWelcome to “Terms to Know” – Episode #35 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In previous episodes of this podcast, I talked about the importance of being mindful of how we use words. In times of change and unrest, such as the times we are in now, new terms often emerge to help us to better understand the world around us and one another, while other terms that have been around for awhile take on new importance.In this episode, I have invited my dear friend Hollis to help clarify some terms we are...2021-09-1334 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #34 - Peacemaking 101Welcome to Peacemaking 101, Episode #34 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Victor La Cerva about peacemaking and emotional fluency.Victor worked in violence prevention for more than 25 years. He remains engaged, although he is now retired from his NM Department of Health Family Health Medical Director position. He is the co-founder of the non-profit NM Men’s Wellness, now 35 years strong, whose focus is to create a safe space for men to gather to share the joys and challenges of...2021-09-0524 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #33 - Walking Through the Blueprint of We - A Way to Co-create RelationshipsWelcome to “Walking Through the Blueprint - A Way to Co-create Relationships” - Episode #33 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In Episode #16 of Co-creating Peace, I interviewed Sheella Mierson and Rachel Eryn Kalish about The Blueprint of We Process. They described the Blueprint of We and gave examples of where and how it is used. At the end of that interview, I wanted to know more, and am delighted to bring Sheella Mierson back. This time, rather than my interviewing her, she will work with Ron Person, who is writing his Blueprint, in orde...2021-08-2930 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #32 – What Is Mediation? Welcome to “What Is Mediation?”, Episode #32 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I’ve mentioned mediation in some of the previous episodes of this podcast, but I haven’t talked a lot about what mediation is, and how it compares to other methods of resolving or addressing conflict. Managing conflict and resolving conflict are two different things, and I’ll talk about that as I tell you about mediation and other ways of approaching conflict without violence.I also share some questions to ask yourself to determine if mediation is right for you...2021-08-2331 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #31 - Igniting Positive ChangeWelcome to “Igniting Positive Change”, Episode #31 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode I have the pleasure of interviewing Amanda Trosten-Bloom, co-author of The Power of Appreciative Inquiry, which I mentioned to you in Episode #29 of this podcast. She will explain Appreciative Inquiry, and we’ll talk about its many useful applications.Amanda Trosten-Bloom is a Co-Owner and Principal with both the Rocky Mountain Center for Positive Change and Corporation for Positive Change – local and global consultancies specializing in Appreciative Inquiry and related transformational processes. She’s a consultant, t...2021-08-1431 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #30 - We See What We BelieveWelcome to “We See What We Believe”, Episode #30 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode I’ll be talking about an interesting, sometimes beneficial, and more often detrimental psychological phenomenon known as “Confirmation Bias.” I will also share a letter with you from someone who wrote to me about how she used Appreciative Inquiry.Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please support Co-creating Peace: Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for topics an...2021-08-0828 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #29 - “The Power of the Positive”Welcome to “The Power of the Positive”, Episode #29 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. This episode builds upon what I discussed in Episode #14 on re-framing our perspective. Our experience and perspective of life is dramatically affected – positively or negatively – by what we choose to focus on, how we choose to interpret that, and how we choose to respond. The same is true for our experience and perspective of other people. We make our choices in life based on those interpretations, and we create our reality accordingly.The “Power of the Positiv...2021-08-0125 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #28 - Fostering Evolution, The Art of Giving and Receiving FeedbackWelcome to “Fostering Evolution – The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback”, Episode #28 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. One of the most powerful gifts we can receive is reflection of how others see and experience us. When that reflection is positive, we feel validated. When that reflection shows us something we don’t want to recognize in ourself, or is delivered in a way that is uncomfortable or unpleasant for us, we are inclined to reject or close off to that reflection, even though there may be opportunities there for us to learn and g...2021-07-2525 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #27 - Values Based Decision-making: The Ethical Heart of a Healthy OrganizationWelcome to “Values Based Decision Making: The Ethical Heart of a Healthy Organization”, Episode #27 of Co-creating Peace.My friend and fellow mediator, Mark Bennett, is joining me again today. You may recall the wonderful conversation that Mark and I had in Episode #21 about his most recent book, Uniting by Design. In Uniting by Design, he updated the process from his previous book on Values-Based Decision Making as one of the cornerstone practices of Creative Collaboration. Today, we will look at this critical dimension of organizational functioning: Ethical Decision-making.Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I...2021-07-1935 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #26 - Longing for YesteryearWelcome to “Longing for Yesteryear” - Episode 26 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In recent months, I have received many letters from listeners, some seeking advice, others sharing what happened when they tried some of the tools I’ve talked about in this podcast. Some of the letters seeking advice have similar themes, so I decided to share them in theme groups. The letters I’ll read and respond to today share the theme of communication issues and conflict around resistance to change, which is why I titled this episode “Longing for Yesteryear”. ...2021-07-1124 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #25 - Living The Four AgreementsWelcome to “Living The Four Agreements” - Episode 25 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I discuss a wonderful book by Don Miguel Ruiz, titled The Four Agreements. It is one of those books that is timeless, and contains wisdom that can be applied in many areas of life, most especially in human relationship – both with others and with oneself. There is so much there that relates to conscious communication and conflict transformation! Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please s...2021-07-0422 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #24 - Resolving Conflict With Your TeenWelcome to “Resolving Conflict With Your Teen” - Episode 24 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Joining us today is Lisanne Iriks, a conflict resolution specialist who lives and works in Perth, Australia. Lisanne has some great conflict resolution strategies to share with us, including some that are especially helpful when you’re in conflict with a teenager.Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please support Co-creating Peace: Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for...2021-06-2826 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #23 - Conflict & CortisolWelcome to “Conflict and Cortisol” - Episode 23 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today, I am joined by Dr. Mike Kennedy, to talk about the effects that conflict and all the stress that goes with conflict have on your body.Dr. Mike Kennedy is a board certified General Practice Physician with expertise in integrative and alternative medicine as well as health fitness and wellness. To learn more about Dr. Mike Kennedy and his work, contact him at: voxdoc@outlook.comShare your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd...2021-06-1924 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #22 - The Dao of DominationWelcome to “The Dao of Domination” - Episode #22 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today, I am joined by Jack Lehman, to talk about The Dao of Domination and a wonderful conscious communication tool called Non-violent Communication, also known as NVC, which was originated by Marshall Rosenberg.Jack Lehman is a Clinical Mental Health Counselor licensed in the State of New Mexico, and a Certified Trainer with the Global Center for Nonviolent Communication. To learn more about Jack Lehman and his work, contact him at: girafferide@gmail.comSha...2021-06-1226 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #21 - Uniting By DesignWelcome to “Uniting By Design” - Episode 21 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today, I am joined by my friend and fellow mediator, Mark D. Bennett, to talk about his newest book, "Uniting by Design: the Architecture of Creative Collaboration for Organizations…Teams…and Groups."The process of uniting and dividing is as old as human history. However, the stakes have never been this great. We must face what divides us and come together in the organizations in every community that are essential to the health of civil soc...2021-06-0533 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #20 - Your Boundaries Create Your RealityWelcome to “Your Boundaries Create Your Reality” - Episode 20 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I’m Kathleen Oweegon. We all have boundaries, although we often don’t recognize them until someone crosses them. When our boundaries are crossed, upset and conflict often result. In this episode, I’ll talk about how defining, articulating and holding our boundaries, as well as honoring other people’s boundaries, supports peace, well-being and positive relationships in our lives.Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please suppor...2021-05-3026 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #19 - Set the Tone, Change the Experience.Welcome to “Set the Tone, Change the Experience” - Episode #19 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In any dynamic, someone sets the tone – consciously or unconsciously. The tone that is set has a powerful influence on what happens next and what the outcome will be. Setting the tone is a vital part of Conscious Communication! In today’s episode, I’ll share some thoughts with you on mindfully setting the tone for the kinds of experiences you want to create with other people. I have a little recipe for that, which I’ll share with y...2021-05-2323 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #18 - Re-humanizing One AnotherWelcome to “Re-humanizing One Another” - Episode 18 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today’s topic relates in many ways to what I spoke about in last week’s episode, which was the frame of reference in which we see one another, and which we sometimes lock people into in our mind. One frame in which we often see and entrap others is in the role they have in our life or in our experience. Have you ever noticed how often we see other people as a role, rather than as a p...2021-05-1628 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #17 - Stuck in the FrameWelcome to “Stuck in the Frame” - Episode 17 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. We all have a frame of reference through which we see the world. This frame dramatically affects the opinions we form, and can make it difficult for us to see things any other way than through our frame. Today, we’re going to explore that phenomenon, how it affects our relationships, and contributes to creating and perpetuating conflict. Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please support Co-creatin...2021-05-0925 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #16 - A Way to Co-create Relationships (The Blueprint of We Process)Episode #16 - Blueprint of WeWelcome to “A Way to Co-create Relationships” - Episode #16 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today, I am joined by Sheella Mierson and Rachel Eryn Kalish to talk about the Blueprint of We, a process that anyone can use to consciously co-create healthy, resilient, honest, and trusting relationships. I’ll also share a letter from a listener and the advice I offered her. In addition to this interview, you can listen to Episode #33 "Walking Through the Blueprint of We", where Sheella walks us through th...2021-05-0326 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #15 - How You Say It Affects How They See ItWelcome to “How You Say It Affects How They See It” - Episode #15 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. This episode is part 2 of a 2-part series on reframing. Last week, I told you about what I consider to be one of the most powerful tools I know for both peacemaking and psychological well-being: reframing your perspective. Today, you’ll learn how to use reframing in your communication to help you more skillfully navigate challenging communication and difficult conversations. Joining me today, is Diane Grover, founder of LifeDance Mediation Services in Albuquerque, NM. Diane...2021-04-2528 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #14 - If You Change the Way You Look at Things, the Things You Look at ChangeWelcome to “If You Change the Way You Look at Things, the Things You Look at Change” - Episode 14 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. This episode is part 1 of a 2-part series on reframing. Today, I’m going to tell you about what I consider to be one of the most powerful tools I know for both peacemaking and psychological well-being: reframing your perspective. Next week, in Part 2, you’ll learn how to use re-framing in your communication to help you more skillfully navigate challenging communication and difficult conversations.Share your thoughts, r...2021-04-1825 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #13 - Conflict Is an OpportunityWelcome to “Conflict Is An Opportunity” - Episode 13 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.How often have you thought of conflict as an opportunity? Most people don’t see conflict that way at all! In this podcast, I’ll tell why you will find it helpful to seek and find the positive opportunity in every conflict in your life. Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please support Co-creating Peace: Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ide...2021-04-1129 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #12 - Conflict Is NaturalWelcome to “Conflict Is Natural” - Episode 12 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. We are joined today by Tim Hicks, a fellow mediator, in Eugene, OR. Tim Hicks has been a conflict resolution professional or “conflict worker” since 1993 From 2006 to the end of 2014, he was the first director of the Masters degree program in Conflict and Dispute Resolution at the University of Oregon. He has been back in private practice since 2014, helping individuals and organizations communicate, problem-solve, and make decisions, and continuing to teach. Tim is the Author of “Embodied Conflict: the neural basis of conflict...2021-04-0335 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #11 - Speak Their LanguageWelcome to “Speaking Their Language” - Episode 11 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today’s episode is about what are called modalities of communication – the different ways in which people best receive, process, and communicate information. You might call it our brain’s language. We’ll look at each of the modalities, and how the differences in how we receive, process, and communicate information can lead to miscommunication and conflict. We’ll also talk about how you can adapt your communication style to “speak the other person’s language” to facilitate better communication and understanding. ...2021-03-2829 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #10 - The "I"s Have ItWelcome to “The ‘I’s Have It” - Episode 10 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today’s episode is about using I-messages to help you deliver information in a way that feels safe for others to hear. I’ll also read a letter to you that I received from a couple of listeners and share with you the advice that I gave them, which directly relates to this topic.Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please support Co-creating Peace: Subscribe to Co-creating Pe...2021-03-2124 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #9 - Hear ThemWelcome to “Hear Them” - Episode 9 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today’s episode is about the power of helping others to feel heard.Joining me today, is Michael Lightweaver. Michael has led a long and interesting life of service to humanity. Among his many accomplishments, in 2002 he founded the International Institute For Global Leadership, an internet based study program, whose primary mission is to provide a tuition-free education to individuals who wish to become high-integrity, heart-centered and conscious leaders in their communities and the world. Michael now serves as the steward of...2021-03-1436 minCo-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #8 - Don't Believe Everything You Think Welcome to “Don’t Believe Everything You Think” - Episode 8 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, we’re going to talk about Filters and Assumptions, and the role they play in creating and fostering conflict. You will also learn about The Iroquois Rule of Six. In Episode #58, Michael Lightweaver and I discuss more about this topic.Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please support Co-creating Peace: Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for to...2021-03-0727 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #7 - What's Your Style?Welcome to “What’s Your Style?” - Episode #7 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, you'll learn about conflict styles – the ways in which we consciously or unconsciously approach conflict situations, why we choose the approach we do and the benefit of being mindful in the conflict style we choose. Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please support Co-creating Peace: Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to t...2021-02-2831 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #6 - I See You: The power of acknowledgementWelcome to “I See You” - Episode #6 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I talk about the power that acknowledgement has to help people feel heard, to de-escalate upset, and to transform conflict. Many people have said that acknowledgement began their healing.I’m also going to weave in some more thoughts on asking open-ended questions, which I talked about in Episode #5, and which are a great way to move the conversation forward from the foundation of acknowledgement.Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to...2021-02-2134 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #5 - Breaking the Chain of ConflictWelcome to “Breaking the Chain of Conflict” - Episode #5 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I talk about what I call The Chain of Conflict and how to break that chain. Conflict is very rarely a spontaneous event. More often, conflict is a result of a series of events – often subtle at first – that lead up to it. When one of those events happens, we might be confused by it or have our feathers slightly ruffled, but we decide not to "make a mountain out of a molehill", or choose not to inquire...2021-02-1429 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #4: From Demands to Needs - The Power of Needs-based NegotiationWelcome to “From Demands to Needs – the Power of Needs-based Negotiation” - Episode #4 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I discuss needs-based negotiation and how it applies to conflict transformation. When people are in conflict, negotiation is usually not the first thing on their mind when thinking about how they're going to approach the person they're in conflict with. Most often, we're thinking about how we're going to prove that they're wrong and we are right, or how we're going to coerce or even force them to give us what we want, an...2021-02-0730 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #3 - When the Need Arises: The Role of Unmet Needs In ConflictWelcome to “When the Need Arises” - Episode #3 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I explore with you the role that unmet needs have in conflict, and we’ll look at some examples of how collaboration to meet one another’s needs has helped to transform conflict into lasting peace.When you listen to Episode #4 – “From Demands to Needs – the Power of Needs-based Negotiation”, you'll learn how to apply this information to create true conflict transformation through the win/win agreements that can come from Needs-based Negotiation.Share your thought...2021-01-3133 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #2 - The Anatomy of Conscious CommunicationWelcome to "The Anatomy of Conscious Communication – Episode #2 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I go into detail about the anatomy and structure of conscious communication, and we’ll look at some specific examples of how to apply it.Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!Please support Co-creating Peace: Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflic...2021-01-2430 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace Episode #1 - What to expect & why it mattersWelcome to Episode #1 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I will tell you more about what to expect from this podcast, why I am doing it, and why it matters. You’re also going to hear a letter seeking communication advice, and I’ll share with you the advice I have for her.In episode #2 of this podcast, I’ll go into more detail about the structure of conscious communication. In subsequent episodes, we’ll look at some powerful tools you can use when you are implementing conscious communication, and some g...2021-01-1629 min
Co-creating PeaceCo-creating Peace - TrailerLearn about the exciting and informative experiences you have to look forward to when you listen to Co-creating Peace - a podcast about conscious communication and conflict transformation! This unique and enlightening podcast will provide you with a wealth of insights and tools to help you communicate more consciously - therefore more effectively, and transform conflict into collaboration. Do you have a question or concern about a communication dynamic with someone in your life that you'd like some advice about? Are you wondering about how to tell your boss that their breath odor is offensive without shaming t...2021-01-0102 min