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Dating, Relationships, and Disability217 - Why I'm Ending Dating Made EasierYou know how sometimes life can begin nudging you in a certain direction. At first you say, “Ut uh, I am NOT going there. I’m not doing that.”
But life persists. There are signs, indicators that maybe life is pointing you in the right direction.
This is what has happened to me over the last few months. I have decided to close Radiant Abilities at the end of the year. This means the Dating Made Easier program will be ending, as well as my training platform for professionals, Supporting Dating and Relationships.
What br...
2025-11-1813 min
Mindset ConnectionMindset Connection Episode 27: Kathy Van Benthuysen and John SchwindWelcome to the Mindset Connection Podcast! Thank you for tuning in for our 27th episode. We are so proud to be able to continue to bring you incredible guests who are doing amazing work in the world. This time, we were honored to welcome our guests, Kathy Van Benthuysen and John Schwind, the Co-founders of Digital Prep Academy. Kathy and John founded this company as a direct response to the rising connection crisis and the urgent need to prepare children before handing them a phone or giving them access to social media. They continue to strive to solve...
2025-11-1244 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability216 - Your Worth Is Unshakable: Dating, Disability, and Conscious RelationshipsConscious Love and Personal Transformation with Christian de la Huerta
Christian de la Huerta, a personal transformation expert with over 30 years of experience, joins Kathy O'Connell to discuss relationships, self-worth, and emotional healing—particularly for people with disabilities navigating the dating world.
The Foundation: Self-Worth
Christian emphasizes that looking for love begins with removing internal obstacles, especially our sense of self-worth. Drawing from A Course in Miracles, he explains that we can't expect others to respect us if we don't respect ourselves. Having overcome depression and self-hatred in his own life, Christian knows he...
2025-11-1132 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability215 - The Anti-Ableist Manifesto: Transforming Dating and RelationshipsAbout Tiffany Yu
Tiffany Yu is the author of "The Anti-Ableist Manifesto" and founder of Diversability, a community of over 80,000 people focused on disability leadership. She became disabled at age 9 in a car accident that took her father's life and left her with paralysis in one arm. She's also a paraclimber competing internationally for Team USA.
Disability Pride and Dating
Disability pride is how disabled people combat ableism—showing up as the fullest embodiment of who they are. In dating, this means feeling secure in one's disabled body rather than hiding it. Tiffany sh...
2025-11-041h 00
Full Circle (the Podcast) with Charles Tyson, Jr. & Martha MadrigalAn Interview With Kathy O'Connell (Rebroadcast)We were so fortunate to be able to sit and chat with two-time Peabody Award-winning children's radio host Kathy O'Connell! We discuss what to say to kids in these turbulent times. What is the soundtrack to the new revolution? Has children's programming always been subversive? All that and more in this very special episode of Full Circle (the Podcast) with Charles Tyson, Jr. & Martha Madrigal!- (rebroadcast of Episode #20 Season 1 originally released 6/3/22)ADDITIONAL RESOURCES - Full Circle Kids Playlist (with curation help from Kathy O'Connell): Apple Music Spotify To Listen To Kathy's Show...
2025-10-301h 19
Dating, Relationships, and Disability214 - Dating While NeurospicyUnderstanding Neurospicy Relationships
Dr. Kristen Williamson, a licensed professional counselor with a doctorate in behavioral health management, shares her journey of being diagnosed with autism and ADHD at 39. She prefers the term "neurospicy" over neurodivergent, believing it captures "the spice of life" that comes with different brain wiring.
Communication Challenges and Solutions
Dr. Williamson explains how her autism can make her sound robotic when she's not actively thinking about vocal inflection, which her ADHD husband initially misinterpreted as anger or criticism. Her advice: learn about your brain and advocate for yourself upfront. Tell...
2025-10-2832 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability213 - Sustaining Your Dating Confidence: The Mastery PhaseTake our Dating Confidence quiz here.
Understanding Stage 5: The Mastery Phase
If you scored mostly D's on our dating confidence assessment, you've mastered the fundamentals of confident dating with a disability. Stage 5 is about maintaining and evolving your dating confidence while helping others on their journey.
This stage represents a shift from building confidence to sustaining it - making dating confidence a lifelong skill rather than a one-time achievement. It's about refinement, maintenance, mentorship, and preparing for deeper relationship skills.
The Six Mastery Pillars
Pillar 1: Strategic Evaluation Develop quarterly...
2025-10-2138 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability212 - Beyond Swiping: Dating Strategies That Works When Put Into ActionUpcoming Events
📅 ENROLLMENT CLOSING OCT 25 Dating Made Easier will be stopping open enrollment on October 25th! After that, we'll only open enrollment at specific times during the year.
🔥 DATING CHALLENGE: OCT 14-17 Get crystal clear on your dating profile and create a winning plan!
🎯 FREE WORKSHOP: OCT 21 "What to Do When Nothing Works in Dating" - This one's going to be GOOD!
🎁 SWEET OFFER COMING MID-OCTOBER for email subscribers only! Get on the list here. Trust me, you won't want to miss this amazing surprise!
And don't forget to take our Dating Succe...
2025-10-1437 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability211 - Stage 3: From Confidence to Strategy - Your Dating Action PlanUpcoming Events
📅 ENROLLMENT CLOSING OCT 25 Dating Made Easier will be stopping open enrollment on October 25th! After that, we'll only open enrollment at specific times during the year.
🔥 DATING CHALLENGE: OCT 14-17 Get crystal clear on your dating profile and create a winning plan!
🎯 FREE WORKSHOP: OCT 21 "What to Do When Nothing Works in Dating" - This one's going to be GOOD!
🎁 SWEET OFFER COMING MID-OCTOBER for email subscribers only! Get on the list here. Trust me, you won't want to miss this amazing surprise!
And don't forget to take our Dating Succe...
2025-10-0745 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability210 - The Six Pillars of Unshakeable Dating Confidence📅 ENROLLMENT CLOSING OCT 25 Dating Made Easier will be stopping open enrollment on October 25th! After that, we'll only open enrollment at specific times during the year.
🔥 DATING CHALLENGE: OCT 14-17 Get crystal clear on your dating profile and create a winning plan!
🎯 FREE WORKSHOP: OCT 21 "What to Do When Nothing Works in Dating" - This one's going to be GOOD!
🎁 SWEET OFFER COMING MID-OCTOBER for email subscribers only! Get on the list here. Trust me, you won't want to miss this amazing surprise!
And don't forget to take our Dating Success quiz to see what stage...
2025-09-3038 min
Dating, Relationships, and DisabilitySpecial Announcement: Doors Closing, Free Dating Challenge and Workshop📅 ENROLLMENT CLOSING OCT 25 Dating Made Easier will be stopping open enrollment on October 25th! After that, we'll only open enrollment at specific times during the year.
✨ Why the change? So I can pour ALL my energy into getting our current members the dating success they deserve!
But first... we've got some AMAZING things lined up for you! 👇
🔥 DATING CHALLENGE: OCT 14-17 Get crystal clear on your dating profile and create a winning plan!
🎯 FREE WORKSHOP: OCT 21 "What to Do When Nothing Works in Dating" - This one's going to be GOOD!
🎁 SWEET O...
2025-09-2904 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability209 - Rewriting Your Story: Foundation Work Before You Start DatingImportant Links Mentioned
Take our Dating Success Quiz here.
Ready to enhance your dating experience? Join our Dating Made Easier community for coaching, skills and resources to succeed in dating. Doors closing soon for new members. Join today.
Sign up here to get notified about our upcoming free Dating Challenge and our free workshop on When Nothing Works in Dating on Oct 21.
If you identify as being in Stage 1 of the Dating Success Journey, download this resource.
Stage 1: Building Your Dating Foundation
Stage 1 focuses on developing internal confid...
2025-09-2340 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability207 - Dating with Dyslexia - These Tips Apply to ManyRussell's Background
Russell Van Brocklen discovered his dyslexia in third grade and later audited law school classes despite having first-grade reading/writing levels. After successfully improving his skills, he developed programs to help dyslexic students, including one funded by New York State Senate that helped high schoolers jump 6-8 grade levels in writing within a year.
Dating Strategy Framework
Russell teaches a research-based approach adapted from "The Craft of Research" to overcome dating fears. The method involves:
1) Establishing context (e.g., "dyslexic person in mid-twenties afraid of rejection")
2) Simplifying...
2025-09-1643 min
THE SJ CHILDS SHOW-Building a Community of InclusionEpisode 327-Everyone Deserves Connection: Dating with Disabilities with Kathy O'ConnellSend us a textKathy O'Connell opens up about her journey navigating dating while living with cerebral palsy, revealing how vulnerability and self-acceptance transformed her personal life and launched her mission to help others. As founder of Radiant Abilities, she's developed a framework that guides people with disabilities through the often challenging world of dating and relationships.Her story is both touching and inspiring – after years of painful dating experiences, Kathy learned that openly acknowledging her disability while confidently highlighting her strengths as a partner was the breakthrough she needed. This approach led to meeting he...
2025-09-0929 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability206 - Transitioning From Friendship to RomanceThe Friend Zone Challenge
When you have a disability, society often categorizes you as the "inspiring" or "sweet" friend rather than a romantic prospect. The key is determining whether lack of romantic interest stems from genuine incompatibility or societal conditioning.
Reading the Signals
Look for signs of romantic potential: one-on-one time that feels different, meaningful physical touch, sharing personal details, interest in your dating life, and remembering important details. However, these could also indicate strong friendship.
Essential Mindset Shift
Approach from confidence, not desperation. Don't think "I hope they'll...
2025-09-0942 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability205 - Changing Culture: How Dateability is Redefining DatingRegister here for the Loving Our Bodies Workshop.
Growth and Expansion
In just 2.5 years, Dateability has grown from 10,000 to 35,000 members. The platform is now launching an updated app to further support its mission of making dating accessible and inclusive for people with disabilities and chronic illnesses.
Accessibility-Driven Features
The app integrates specific accessibility features tailored for different disabilities, ensuring that users can engage in meaningful and equitable ways. This commitment to accessibility is central to its design and community approach.
Building Community Beyond Dating
Dateability goes beyond ro...
2025-09-0245 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability204 - The Five Stages Toward Dating Success
Take The Dating Success Quiz here.
Stage 1: Foundation and Self-Discovery
Building your authentic foundation through deep self-awareness and self-acceptance. Key focus areas include understanding your inherent worth, identifying strengths and values, and developing a positive relationship with your disability or difference. Action items include practicing daily affirmations, engaging with disability-positive media, and joining supportive communities.
Stage 2: Confidence Building and Resilience
Developing unshakable self-confidence independent of external validation. This stage emphasizes handling rejection, receiving constructive feedback without personalizing it, and building resilience techniques. Recommended actions include practicing boundary-setting, role-playing difficult co...
2025-08-2634 min
Dating, Relationships, and DisabilityLoving Our Bodies Workshop AnnouncementRegister here for the Loving Our Bodies Workshop.
This workshop helps you develop a healthier relationship with your bodies in the context of dating. Participants learn practical techniques for overcoming internalized body shame, distinguishing between body acceptance and broader self-love, and understanding how genuine self-worth creates more authentic and successful dating experiences. Through interactive exercises and group discussions, attendees leave with concrete tools to build confidence and attract healthier relationships.
Learning Objectives:
Acceptance and gratitude for the body you have
Dealing with internalized body shame
How love for one's body is different than love f...
2025-08-2504 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability203 - ADHD, Autism & Love: Navigating Dating with NeurodivergenceNicole Penrod is an associate marriage and family therapist in California's Bay Area. She has ADHD and is in a relationship with someone on the autism spectrum, bringing both professional and personal experience to neurodivergent dating and relationships.
Deconstructing Harmful Messages
Nicole introduces the "map of messages" exercise to identify sources of harmful narratives about normalcy. This involves mapping out all messages received about one's neurodivergence, examining their sources, and critically evaluating which beliefs to keep or discard. This helps separate inherited societal messages from personal truths.
Building Counter-Narratives
Using narrative...
2025-08-1953 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability202 - Using AI to Meet PeopleDownload Using AI to Meet People, the resource guide for this podcast.
The Problem with Dating Apps
Many people with disabilities find traditional dating apps aren't working well for them. The apps don't effectively showcase the fullness of a person, and people often want to meet others locally rather than hundreds of miles away.
AI Solution for Meeting People
In Dating Made Easier we have begun using AI to help members find local venues, events, and activities where they can meet compatible people in person. The more detailed information you provide to...
2025-08-1232 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability201 - An AI App That Actually Wants You to Find Love"Using the Let Them Theory for Empowered Dating" Workshop (August 6)
Registration Link
Eric McHugh co-created the dating app DATA.ING. The app auto-generates profiles and matches based on users' digital footprints by linking social media accounts, photos, and other data sources to create personality tags.
How It Works
Unlike traditional dating apps that rely on superficial swiping, DATA.ING uses AI called "Cupid" to create matches based on comprehensive personality traits. The app analyzes multiple data sources including Instagram, Pinterest, Gmail, and calendar information to build detailed user profiles with relevant t...
2025-08-0549 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability200 - From Workplace to Romance: How Allyship Transforms Relationship"Using the Let Them Theory for Empowered Dating" Workshop (August 6)
Registration Link
Dr. Victoria Mattingly, CEO of Mattingly Solutions, is an organizational psychologist and author who lives with bipolar disorder and alopecia. Her latest book "Work with an Ally, Act like an Ally" explores two-way partnerships in allyship.
Allyship in Romantic Relationships
Authentic allyship means taking action, not just identity. In relationships, this involves creating space, ensuring accessibility, and advocating for accommodations. Partners can leverage their privilege to support someone with a disability during challenging times.
Empowerment Through Self-Advocacy
2025-07-2937 min
Dating, Relationships, and DisabilityWorkshop Announcement: Using the Let Them Theory for Empowered Dating"Using the Let Them Theory for Empowered Dating" Workshop
Registration Link
Registration Fee: $10
Stop exhausting yourself trying to manage everyone else's comfort level in dating. This transformative workshop applies Mel Robbins' revolutionary "Let Them Theory" to dating with disability, teaching you how to preserve your emotional energy for people who actually deserve it. Instead of constantly educating, anticipating concerns, and managing reactions, you'll learn to let potential partners reveal their true character while you focus on building unshakeable confidence in your own worth. This isn't about lowering your standards—it's about raising them so h...
2025-07-2805 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability199 - The Power of the Let Them Theory in DatingNew Feature
Submit your question, dilemma, or challenge related to dating here and I'll answer it anonymously in a podcast.
Let Them Reveal Their True Character
Stop managing others' comfort with your disability. Let potential partners show who they are through authentic reactions. If someone is uncomfortable, dismissive, or makes thoughtless comments, let them reveal this incompatibility while you preserve energy for those who demonstrate genuine acceptance.
Let Them Miss Out on Your Worth
Rather than convincing others of your value, let people operate from their limited perspectives while y...
2025-07-2239 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability198 - The Goldilocks Method: Why Being Picky Actually Gets You Better Dates
Today on the show, Violet Lange, a relationship coach, introduces The Goldilocks Method to dating. Violet overcame trauma and a difficult divorce to find lasting love. She has a deaf daughter with cochlear implants and combines practical strategies with spiritual approaches to dating.
Healing Trauma & Attachment Issues
Embodiment Practice: Place one hand on heart, one on belly, breathe, and say "I am safe, I am loved, I belong." This breaks mental loops and grounds you in your body.
Overcome Fear of Abandonment: Be 100% committed to yourself. Test potential partners early with y...
2025-07-1549 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability197 - Come Out Disabled in DatingRegister here for Upcoming Dating Workshop, Authentic Dating Success Path: 5 Stages to Confidence and Connection on July 9, 6:30pm EDT via zoom.
Disability Pride Month
July marks Disability Pride Month, commemorating the signing of the Americans with Disabilities Act in 1990. The month celebrates achievements of people with disabilities, raises awareness about disability rights, promotes inclusion and accessibility, and honors the community's history and struggles. A key insight is that how you view your disability typically influences how others perceive it.
Bringing Disability Pride to Dating
Four key principles for incorporating disability pride int...
2025-07-0825 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability196 - Dating with a Visible DifferenceRegister here for Upcoming Dating Workshop, Authentic Dating Success Path: 5 Stages to Confidence and Connection on July 9, 6:30pm EDT via zoom.
Dorsey Ross from Westchester, PA has Apert syndrome, a birth defect affecting his hands and face. He's undergone 68 operations throughout his lifetime and hosts "The Dorsey Ross Show" podcast. His motto: "can't" is not in his vocabulary.
Dating Challenges
Dorsey has never had a serious dating relationship beyond high school. He believes people are resistant to dating someone with a disability due to concerns about social judgment and health implications. He's tried onl...
2025-07-0132 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability195 - Developing Self-Worth: How to Feel Deserving of Love and RespectDating confidence comes down to what you believe about yourself and your potential as a partner. Beliefs about yourself help you feel more positive and successful, because whatever you think about yourself gives off energy for how others think of you.
The transformation involves moving from "Hopeless, frustrated, devalued" to "a knowing of your worth and what you have to offer."
The Foundation: Moving from Conditional to Unconditional Self-Worth
Research distinguishes between "contingent self-esteem" and "genuine self-esteem." Contingent self-esteem relies on external validation—likes, approval from others—while genuine self-esteem is unwavering and cons...
2025-06-2424 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability194 - Don't Let Your Past Predict Your FutureRelationship expert Chaya (Jaya Sarah Garcia) shares insights about dating and relationships, particularly for people with disabilities. Chaya, a social worker who can be found on social media as @epicloveexpert, has dedicated her career to helping "super sweet souls" transform their love lives from ordinary to epic. Her mission centers on providing education about relationship behaviors, helping people distinguish between partners who are simply nice versus those who are emotionally available and ready for commitment.
The Philosophy of Intentional Dating
Chaya's cornerstone principle revolves around "dating by design, not by default." She explained how many...
2025-06-1727 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability193 - The Reality of Dating as Both Disabled and LGBTQ+
Significant Overlap in Identities
Research shows that 36% of LGBTQ+ adults report having a disability, compared to 24% of non-LGBTQ+ adults. Among transgender adults, this figure rises to 52%. This creates a "minority within a minority" situation where individuals face compounding discrimination from both communities.
Dating Platform Challenges
Dating apps often perpetuate ableism and normative ideas about sexuality and gender rather than serving as neutral spaces. LGBTQ+ people with disabilities face unique barriers around disclosure timing, accessibility features, and higher harassment rates—with 69% of LGBT online daters experiencing harassment compared to 52% of straight users.
...
2025-06-1042 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability192 - Swiping with Success: Why the App Dateability Changed the Game for This CoupleTina Fegley and Tyler Waldman who met on a dating app called Dateability, a platform specifically designed for inclusive dating, share their story on today's podcast.
Tina and Tyler will be special guests inside the Dating Made Easier community in June. Join here to get in on the conversation.
Tina and Tyler both found mainstream dating apps frustrating—she'd face awkward reactions when mentioning her wheelchair, while he struggled with when and how to discuss his epilepsy. After discovering each other on Dateability over a year ago, they've built a strong relationship that spans the ho...
2025-06-0341 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability191 - Making the Most of SummerOur next workshop is June 4 on Dating, Rejection, and Disability: Finding Resilience and Connection. Register here for just $10.
Embracing Summer's Natural Advantages
Summer transforms dating for people with disabilities by reducing weather barriers and improving accessibility. Outdoor venues offer more space and flexibility than cramped indoor locations, while warmer weather eliminates the complications of heavy winter gear and icy conditions.
Freedom Through Outdoor Connections
Open-air environments provide relief from indoor challenges like tight spaces, poor acoustics, and difficult lighting. Lakeside paths, accessible parks, and community gardens become ideal first-date locations where y...
2025-05-2721 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability190 - When to Consider a Dating Coach: Four Signs You Might Need SupportWhen the same patterns emerge with different people—getting ghosted after a few dates or relationships consistently ending at the three-month mark—it's time to look deeper. These repetitions aren't coincidental but often signal behaviors you're blind to. Dating coaches excel at spotting these patterns and developing strategies to break free from cycles keeping you from meaningful relationships. They provide the objective perspective needed to identify what you can't see in your own dating approach.
Consistently Attracting Incompatible Partners
If you repeatedly find yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable people or those unwilling to commit, subconscious fact...
2025-05-2026 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability189 - How a Dating Mentor HelpsBuilding Self-Esteem Through Guidance
Dating mentors provide crucial external perspective for people with disabilities, helping them recognize their unique qualities beyond societal beauty standards. These mentors highlight attractive characteristics beyond physical traits, fostering genuine self-esteem independent of social validation. They help individuals see themselves as complete people whose disability is just one aspect of their multifaceted identity.
Cultivating Authentic Confidence
True dating confidence comes from comfort with oneself, which can be challenging when navigating dating with a disability. Mentors create safe spaces for practicing social interactions, offering constructive feedback and celebrating progress. They...
2025-05-1329 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability188 - Becoming the Partner You Want to Attract
Download the resource guide for this podcast episode, My Relationship Vision.
You cannot expect qualities from others that you haven't developed within yourself, including comfort with your disability. Personal growth and disability acceptance create an authentic foundation that naturally attracts compatible partners. Understanding your values, embracing disability as part of your identity, and developing emotional intelligence around your unique needs brings a more complete self to relationships. This preparation isn't about hiding limitations but building self-awareness for genuine connection rather than seeking validation.
Embodying Openness Attracts Vulnerability
The openness you desire f...
2025-05-0626 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability187 - Building Emotional IntimacyEmotional intimacy forms the core of meaningful romantic relationships, built on vulnerability, trust, and communication. While people with disabilities may face unique dating considerations, these universal principles remain essential for developing deep connections.
The Power of Vulnerability
What many perceive as weakness actually demonstrates remarkable strength in relationships. For individuals with disabilities, sharing needs and limitations requires courage but creates space for authentic connection. This openness invites partners to reciprocate with their own vulnerabilities, establishing mutual understanding rather than exposing oneself to harm.
Taking Emotional Risks
Calculated emotional risks—like disclosing di...
2025-04-2930 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability186 - Ableism's Role in Sexual ViolenceSexual violence against people with disabilities remains largely invisible in conversations about disability justice and sexual violence prevention. Survivors with disabilities experience mental health impacts at significantly higher rates than non-disabled survivors, with PTSD affecting up to 45%, depression affecting 50-60%, and anxiety disorders impacting 40-55%. People with disabilities who experience sexual assault are 3-4 times more likely to be revictimized within a decade.
If you're being assaulted or abuse, call or text 988, the crisis hotline, for help.
Ableism's Role in Sexual Violence
Dehumanization and Desexualization: Society often fails to recognize people with disabilities...
2025-04-2242 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability185 - The Hidden Crisis: Sexual Violence Against People with Disabilities
Alarming Statistics
People with disabilities face a devastating and largely invisible epidemic of sexual violence. The statistics are alarming: individuals with disabilities experience sexual assault at rates seven times higher than those without disabilities, with women with disabilities facing double the risk compared to non-disabled women. For those with intellectual or developmental disabilities, the crisis is even more severe—83% of women and 32% of men in this community experience sexual assault in their lifetime, statistics that have remained unchanged for four decades.
If you're being assaulted or abuse, call or text 988, the crisis hotline, for...
2025-04-1530 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability184 - Rejection SurvivalRejection in dating affects everyone, but disability adds a unique layer of vulnerability. When facing rejection, it's easy to wonder if your disability influenced the outcome. Remember that rejection is universal for anyone seeking connection - the difference is in questioning if someone couldn't see past your disability to appreciate your full worth.
Acknowledging the Hurt
Allow yourself to feel rejection fully without minimizing your emotions. It's valid to feel sad, frustrated or angry. However, be careful not to spiral into negative narratives about all potential partners or believing your disability makes you unlovable. These...
2025-04-0827 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability183 - Breaking the Silence: Dating with Invisible DisabilitiesYou sit across from someone who makes your heart flutter, wondering if tonight is the night you'll mention your diagnosis. Unlike a visible disability, your multiple sclerosis, epilepsy, or chronic fatigue syndrome remains hidden beneath the surface of your appearance. This invisibility creates a unique challenge—you look "normal" while battling symptoms within. The question of when and how to disclose becomes a constant companion on your dating journey.
Disclosure Dilemma
The hardest part of dating with an invisible disability is that you must actively choose to reveal it. There's no wheelchair or cane that si...
2025-04-0125 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability182 - Belief + Action = ResultsWhen dating with a disability, believing "I am a worthy partner with a lot to contribute" becomes foundational. This mindset influences everything from dating profiles to conversation styles. Those who genuinely see their own value communicate with confidence—leading with interests and accomplishments rather than disability, initiating passionate conversations, expressing unqualified opinions, and suggesting dates that showcase their interests.
Reframing Disability as Strength
The affirmation that "my disability/difference adds to who I am" transforms perceived limitations into strengths. Disabilities often provide unique perspectives, problem-solving abilities, and empathy. Actions that embody this belief include sharing st...
2025-03-2531 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability181 - How to Not Give UpResilience isn't just about surviving the dating scene—it's about transforming challenges into strengths. Your life experiences have shaped you into someone who can adapt and thrive in difficult situations. When facing ableism, accessibility issues, non-inclusive dating platforms, and the complexities of disability disclosure, resilience keeps you moving forward.
Dating Burnout
Burnout manifests as lack of enthusiasm, emotional drain after interactions, or an overall negative attitude toward dating. Everyone faces rejection—think of it like mint chocolate chip ice cream: not everyone's favorite, but delicious to those who appreciate it.
When burnout hits, give...
2025-03-1830 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability180 - Confidence in Everything BUT DatingThe Confidence Gap
You're confident in your career, friendships, and personal growth, moving with assured grace. Yet in dating, you second-guess every move. This contrast isn't uncommon, but understanding its roots can help bridge the gap.
Why Dating Feels Different
Dating vulnerability combines personal rejection with romantic intimacy—a uniquely exposing combination. Professional rejection relates to your work or abilities, areas for concrete improvement. Dating rejection can feel like judgment of your worthiness to be loved, touching deeper emotional cores.
Your Existing Strengths
Your confidence in other areas isn't se...
2025-03-1123 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability179 - Empathy in DatingRegister for Managing the Emotional Roller Coaster of Dating workshop here.
Dating with a disability adds distinctive dimensions to the universal experience of seeking romance. This journey requires both individuals to develop deep wells of empathy as they navigate a world experienced differently. True understanding goes beyond sympathy, demanding active engagement with lived experiences, challenges, and perspectives.
Vulnerability in Disclosure
Openness about disability becomes both necessity and vulnerability. The delicate balance of when and how to discuss disability can lead to varied reactions—some retreat due to misconceptions, while others demonstrate gen...
2025-03-0424 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability178 - Finding Partners Who Value DiversityUnderstanding Disability in Relationships
Finding love as someone with a disability means seeking a partner who understands and celebrates your whole self, including your disability as an integral part of your identity. Reflect on what meaningful disability inclusion and acceptance look like to you personally, and consider how potential partners demonstrate their understanding of disability rights, culture, and justice.
Communication Strategies
Being upfront about your disability early in dating conversations helps identify partners who respond with genuine interest and respect rather than pity, dismissal, or attempts to "fix" you. Pay attention to whether...
2025-02-2524 min
Outlier's Edge Podcast with Niiamah AshongThe Hidden Power of Being Different | Kathy O'Connell, Rebekah ORourke, Oliver Schirach | Ep 652"When you become your most authentic self, that's when you become most attractive because you're in your authentic self" - Kathy O'ConnellJoin Niiamah (@niiamahashong) with Kathy O'Connell @radiantabilities, Rebecca O'Rourke, and Oliver Schirach @oschirach for a powerful conversation about finding your authentic edge. Watch as these three remarkable individuals share their journeys of transformation and how they're changing lives through their unique approaches to personal growth.Welcome to the Outlier's Edge Podcast, hosted by Niiamah Ashong, Founder of Outlier's Edge and Sherpa of the World of Difference. On this podcast, you'll join other high-performing...
2025-02-2446 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability177 - Tips for Dating When You're MarginalizedGrowing up in a marginalized community, you may face unique challenges in dating that others don’t fully understand. Social stigma can feel overwhelming, but you deserve love, connection, and joy, regardless of societal biases.
Embrace Your Authentic Self
You may feel pressured to downplay parts of your identity to fit mainstream dating norms. However, authenticity is your greatest strength. When you embrace your identity—whether related to culture, sexuality, disability, or other aspects—you attract people who genuinely appreciate and celebrate you.
Build a Strong Support Network
Connecting with people who sh...
2025-02-1826 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability176 - "Can You Have Sex?"Asking someone with a disability about their sexual capabilities is profoundly dehumanizing and ableist, revealing a deeply problematic view that reduces individuals to their physical conditions rather than recognizing them as complex, multifaceted human beings. Such invasive questioning fundamentally disrespects personal boundaries, assumes that disability somehow negates sexual agency or intimacy, and perpetuates harmful stereotypes that people with disabilities are either asexual or objects of voyeuristic curiosity. These inappropriate inquiries strip away an individual's dignity, treating them as a medical curiosity to be examined rather than a potential partner with feelings, desires, and a right to privacy.
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2025-02-1118 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability175 - Lean Into the Cringe: Dating Through DiscomfortDating with a disability introduces unique challenges that center around vulnerability and communication. The journey of connecting with potential partners is often marked by a delicate dance of self-disclosure, where individuals must navigate the complex terrain of when and how to share their experiences and needs.
Breaking Through Fear: The Power of Early Communication
The initial hesitation to discuss disability is entirely natural. Many worry about potential rejection or misunderstanding, creating a protective instinct to minimize or hide aspects of their lived experience. However, this approach ultimately creates more stress and potential for disconnect. By...
2025-02-0423 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability174 - Why Dating Should Be Seen as a Quality of Life IssueDating and Disability: An Overlooked Quality of Life Issue
Dating and relationships are a critical yet often overlooked aspect of disability advocacy, playing a vital role in the quality of life for people with disabilities. While discussions frequently center on healthcare access, employment, and accessibility, the impact of romantic relationships on disabled individuals' well-being deserves more attention.
Health Benefits and Support
Research consistently demonstrates that supportive relationships significantly improve health outcomes. People with partners are more likely to maintain medical appointments and follow treatment plans. For disabled individuals navigating complex healthcare needs, having...
2025-01-2836 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability173 - The Journey of Dating Matters More Than the DestinationDating begins with recognizing your desire for meaningful connection amid today's complex landscape of apps and social expectations. Initial doubts and insecurities surface, revealing that the journey is as much about self-discovery as finding partnership.
Navigating the Digital Space
Creating profiles and sending first messages becomes a delicate dance of authenticity and presentation. Each interaction, successful or not, teaches valuable lessons about communication and connection in the digital age.
Embracing the Emotional Rollercoaster
Dating's natural rhythm emerges through contrasting experiences – from magical connections to mismatched encounters. These ups and downs aren't se...
2025-01-2121 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability172 - Before You Date
Are you tired of endless swiping and dates that feel more like job interviews? You're not alone. Today we're exploring why your path to meaningful relationships doesn't begin with the perfect profile picture – it starts with understanding yourself. You'll discover how self-awareness becomes your greatest asset in navigating modern dating and creating authentic connections.
The Hidden Operating System
Your internal narratives shape every aspect of your dating experience. These aren't just background thoughts – they're your operating system determining who you attract and how you engage. You'll learn to identify whether you're approaching relationships from...
2025-01-1426 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability171 - Your Body and DatingRegister here for Dating Made Easier and the Doing the Impossible in Dating workshop on January 8.
People with disabilities can transform their dating lives by healing body shame and embracing their authentic selves. Our deep dive reveals that body shame isn't innate - it's learned and can be unlearned through self-acceptance and challenging societal beauty standards.
Mainstream media's narrow representation of beauty affects people with disabilities, and why examining these feelings openly, rather than suppressing them, leads to genuine self-acceptance. The episode highlights how this healing journey shifts dating dynamics from seeking validation to pursuing...
2025-01-0730 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability170 - What Would Your Future Self Tell You?You're being welcomed into an intimate and empowering conversation that speaks directly to your experience navigating relationships and disability during the holiday season. Moving beyond common narratives of challenge, you're guided through a refreshing exploration of hope, connection, and authentic love.
As you listen, you're invited to discover how love manifests in your life beyond traditional romantic partnerships. You're encouraged to recognize those special connections – the friend who truly gets you, the family member making spaces accessible, or the community celebrating your complete self, disability included.
The conversation flows naturally into exploring the power of ra...
2024-12-3120 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability169 - Holiday Reflections on Disability, Love, and Authentic ConnectionHappy Holidays! We
dive deep into reimagining the holiday season through the lens of disability and authentic connection. We explore not just the challenges, but the rich opportunities for meaningful relationships that arise during this festive time.
You'll hear about how love shows up in unexpected ways – it's not always about that romantic partner, but maybe it's that friend who truly gets you, or the family member who makes sure every gathering space works for you. Our episode unpacks how these connections often matter more than any wrapped gift under the tree.
During thi...
2024-12-2411 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability168 - Managing Holiday Loneliness The holiday season, often centered around family and togetherness, can amplify feelings of isolation, particularly for those navigating dating while feeling marginalized. Loneliness during this time is common, but it’s also manageable. We’ll discuss strategies to turn this season into an opportunity for self-discovery and social connection. From reaching out to friends for casual meet-ups to joining inclusive community events, there are ways to create joy and meaningful interaction during the holidays.
Navigating Family Gatherings and Expectations
Family gatherings can be both a joy and a challenge, especially when relatives ask questions about your...
2024-12-1717 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability167 - Boundaries on Dating AppsDating App Boundaries: Protecting Your Well-Being
In this episode, we dive into the critical topic of setting boundaries on dating apps. Dating online can be exciting, but it also comes with unique challenges that make establishing clear personal limits essential.
Why Boundaries Matter
Boundaries are more than just protection—they're a powerful statement of self-worth. By clearly communicating your expectations, you:- Signal that you deserve respect- Filter out incompatible matches- Create space for genuine connections
Explain Your Perspective
Communicate why boundaries are important. Us...
2024-12-1023 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability166 - Whoa, Boundaries Please Check out the Annual Sale for Dating Made Easier here.
Check out our sale on professional training and our Empowering Healthy Relationships curriculum.
Boundaries are not about pushing people away, but creating deeper, more meaningful connections through mutual respect and understanding. They act like invisible property lines around your emotional and physical space, helping to eliminate misunderstandings and protect your well-being.
Key Insights
* Boundaries communicate your personal limits clearly* Saying "no" is an act of self-care, not selfishness* Healthy boundaries attract respectful relationships
Why Boundaries Matter
2024-12-0218 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability165 - Decision + Action = Changes You Long ForCheck out the Annual Sale for Dating Made Easier here.
Check out our sale on professional training and our Empowering Healthy Relationships curriculum.
The Power of Decision-Making: Breaking Free from Paralysis
We've all experienced that moment of being stuck, overwhelmed by choices and afraid to move forward. But here's a powerful truth: making a decision, any decision, can be transformative.
Decision paralysis is a universal challenge. When faced with multiple options, our brain often freezes, like having too many browser tabs open. Whether it's improving relationships, advancing a career, or making...
2024-11-2628 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability163 - Ask Three FriendsLooking for a fresh approach to dating? Consider asking three people you know if they're aware of anyone single who might be interested in dating. This strategy leverages your existing social network and reveals potential connections you might not have discovered otherwise.
When you initiate these conversations, you're subtly expanding your dating possibilities. Your connections might not immediately know someone, but the idea can percolate in their minds. Over time, they might recall a friend who could be a great match for you.
This method offers a meaningful alternative to online dating, which can feel...
2024-11-1922 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability162 - Don't Go It AloneClick here or here for the very special early offer mentioned in the podcast.
In today’s dating world, where dating apps and casual relationships dominate, finding meaningful connections can feel more challenging than ever. The fast-paced, swipe-driven culture often reduces potential partners to quick judgments, making it hard to build trust or develop deeper bonds. Casual relationships, while common, can leave you feeling unfulfilled if you're looking for something more substantial.
Community Approach
This is why a community approach to dating is so important—it offers a space where you can connect with o...
2024-11-1223 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability161 - Love, Marriage, Brain Injury
Key Links:
Register here for the November 6 Dating Narrative Workshop.
Check out the Firewalk book mentioned in the podcast.
Connect with Angie here.
Ever wondered if a disability could break the bonds of love? This week's episode proves that love can grow even stronger through life's biggest challenges.
Meet Angie von de Wall, whose marriage was tested when a biking accident caused a brain injury. Her story of resilience, adaptation, and deepening love will leave you inspired and hopeful. She's proof that disability doesn't have to define or...
2024-11-0553 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability160 - What’s Your Dating Story? Change It, Change EverythingHave you ever thought about what your dating narrative is? Whether you realize it or not, there’s a story you tell yourself about your dating life. This narrative shapes how you approach relationships, influences your confidence, and impacts the way you show up in potential partnerships. It’s the running dialogue in your mind that interprets your past experiences and creates expectations for your future. Taking the time to consider what your dating narrative is can be a powerful step in understanding how you relate to others and how successful you’ll be in finding a meaningful relationship.
2024-10-2929 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability159 - The BAN Aid Approach to DatingThe work I do with people around dating and relationships is personal with disabilities. What I mean by this is I help you with the only thing you can control about dating - yourself. I think a big reason why people struggle with dating and relationships is they don’t realize how influential their own personal growth and skill development is to meaningful connections and relationship success.
That’s why in the Dating Made Easier community, our BAN aid technique - Brainstorming, Accountability, and Networking—offers essential support for learning skills, receiving coaching, and listening to the dating...
2024-10-2228 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability158 - So Worth ItIf you’ve experienced adversity in dating because of being marginalized for your disability or appearance, it can be easy to feel discouraged. You may have faced rejection or felt misunderstood by people who couldn't see beyond what makes you different. But giving up on finding a partner means closing the door on one of life’s most fulfilling experiences. Love, companionship, and intimacy are within your reach, and while the journey may be harder, it’s still worth taking. You deserve to experience the joy of being with someone who appreciates and loves you for exactly who you are.
2024-10-1524 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability157 - Do People Get You?For centuries, people with disabilities have struggled to be seen, to have others look at us and recognize us for the people we are. As I said in a recent episode, historically we have either been gawked at as though our differences are too bizarre for the mind to wrap its head around or we’re ignored because it’s easier for others to just not allow us into their ecosystem.
Being Seen
This is probably most true in dating. It continues to be hard to be seen as a potential partner. That’s why we got...
2024-10-0817 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability156 - Dating on Your TermsI think it’s part of the human experience to struggle against how others perceive or judge us and keep returning to how we define ourselves. This is especially true when you live with a disability or some other obvious difference. This can also certainly be amplified by dating and putting yourself out there to meet new people.
Define Yourself Method
The Define Yourself method empowers you to shape your identity based on your own values, rather than the negative messages you've received throughout your life. Imagine how liberating it would feel to break free fro...
2024-10-0120 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability155 - Three Keys in Getting What You Want in DatingI’ve been sharing various techniques and strategies we not only teach but help you to really embody within our Dating Made Easier community. Ultimately, dating in general is about getting that relationship you want. However, much of the time in your dating journey, you don’t get what you want, do you? So how is it that we can teach a “Getting What I Want” method? As with most of the support and resources offered by my company, it’s all about mindset.
The "Getting What I Want" approach is about perseverance in dating by continually honing ess...
2024-09-2430 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability154 - Radical Acceptance in DatingFrom time to time, I like to share concepts I teach inside the Dating Made Easier community about developing a mindset for not only successful dating, but for greater happiness in life.
You Are More Than Judgments
You Are More Than Judgments teaches you how to detach your sense of self-worth from the judgments of others. It’s easy to fall into the trap of seeking approval or fearing disapproval, especially when living with a visible disability or any characteristic that makes you stand out. But this mindset shifts when you understand that you are in...
2024-09-1726 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability153 - Rank Your Dating NeedsWhen considering your needs in dating and relationships, it's helpful to think about them in terms of a hierarchy, much like Maslow's hierarchy of needs. At the base level, you must first feel safe, both emotionally and physically, before you can focus on higher-level needs such as love, belonging, esteem, and self-actualization. Each of these needs plays a crucial role in the foundation and growth of a healthy relationship, and understanding what you require in each area can guide you towards more fulfilling connections. This is of course particularly true if you live with a disability.
Safety
2024-09-1029 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability152 - The Asset of Being DifferentOne of the key struggles for many who have been marginalized in the dating scene is feeling like a disability or other significant difference is a detractor for others. Whether you believe it’s seen as a burden, a barrier, or something that takes away from who you are, that belief just won’t serve you well for drawing the right relationships to you.
If this is something you’re struggling with or you know someone struggling with valuing their disability or differences in dating, I’d like to talk to you about the concept of “Difference as an Asse...
2024-09-0318 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability151 - Believe in Your Dating PossibilitiesMuch of the key to success in general and especially in dating and relationships is your mental approach, mainly what you believe is possible for yourself and your life. This is particularly true if you live with a disability or other significant differences that makes connecting with others more challenging.
Today we’re talking about how to keep your brain focused on your dating possibilities.
In our Dating Made Easier community, I’m going to begin teaching the **Believe in Possibilities** technique. It’s a powerful approach that encourages you to focus on the potential for su...
2024-08-2724 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability150 - Your Dating Past Doesn't Define Your FutureYour Past Doesn’t Define Your Future in Dating
It's easy to fall into the trap of believing that past experiences dictate future outcomes, especially in the realm of dating. If you've faced disappointment, rejection, or heartbreak, you might think that the same patterns will repeat themselves. However, it's crucial to remember that your past doesn't create your future. Every new encounter is an opportunity for a fresh start, and the lessons learned from previous experiences can be invaluable in guiding you toward more fulfilling relationships.
Learning from the Past
While it's important to...
2024-08-2021 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability149 - The Unsexy Part of Dating You NeedWhen I talk about “doing the work” in dating and relationships, what comes to mind? Swiping? Being on a lot of dating apps? Trying to date as many people as you can? I’m actually not referring to any of that when I talk about the work of dating.
For me, the work of dating is more about what’s happening to you socially and emotionally. Dating, putting yourself out there, taking risks can all do a number on your self esteem and confidence, particularly when you’re dating as someone who has been marginalized in the dating sce...
2024-08-1329 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability148 - Mastering Five Modern Dating ChallengesConfession time. I have not dated in 17 years. However, I specialize in helping people to date successfully. It’s a bit of a conundrum, isn’t it? But I obviously don’t date because at one time, I successfully dated (after many years of trials) and met my person to whom I’ve been happily married to for 15 years now.
I say this because when I think back to my dating days and meeting my husband through a dating app back in 2007, it often feels like it could have been a lot longer than 17 years ago. This is becaus...
2024-08-0629 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability147 - Pride and Vulnerability Together?Intertwining disability pride and vulnerability is an enriching journey that brings forth a unique perspective on love, belonging, and joy. Brene Brown, a renowned researcher on vulnerability, emphasizes that it is the source of hope and authenticity in her book, The Power of Vulnerability and in her fabulous Ted Talk. Brown maintains that vulnerability allows you to experience the full range of human emotions, which are essential for creating meaningful connections. For people with disabilities, embracing vulnerability can be particularly transformative, as it opens the door to self-acceptance and deeper relationships.
One of the most profound examples...
2024-07-3028 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability146 - Pride and Your Partnership PotentialDisability Pride and Being the Partner You Want to Be
While I am a mental health counselor, I am very drawn to the practice of life coaching because it focuses so much on thought and behavior change. I believe any time we can use the power within us to change our circumstances or create more the life we want, that’s very empowering. One of the recommended practices in coaching is to spend regular time thinking about the person you want to become. This is particularly true in dating and relationships.
Spending time every day th...
2024-07-2324 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability145 - Hurt People HurtIn today's world, where social media plays a huge role in how we communicate, you may often encounter hurtful comments directed at you or others. These comments can be particularly painful when they attack aspects of your identity, such as your disability.
I recently got a taste of negative, hurtful comments when I ran an advertising campaign for some free resources my company, Radiant Abilities, offers on dating and relationships, particularly if you live with a disability. We ran an ad featuring a smiling, attractive woman with Down syndrome, offering our free dating profile guide.
...
2024-07-1627 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability144 - Rock Dating With PrideDisability Pride and Thoughts That Promote It
Disability pride is the celebration and acceptance of one’s identity as a person with a disability. It encompasses recognizing the value and worth inherent in being disabled and understanding that disabilities are a natural part of human diversity. This pride is not about denying the challenges that come with disabilities but rather about embracing the unique perspectives and strengths that they bring. By celebrating disability pride, we can shift the narrative from one of limitation to one of empowerment, seeing disabilities as integral parts of their identities rather than as...
2024-07-0926 min
OTTB on TapEp 29: ‘Horse Before the Course’ with Kathy GoodmanBuckle up for a positively fun episode with special guest Kathy Goodman! In Horse Before the Course, OTTB on Tap speaks with Kathy about 4 seemingly separate, yet intertwined topics:Pressure Proof Clinics that challenge your “mental RAM” and teach ways to tap into your inner super power and perform under pressureUSDF “L” Judging Program - how learning to judge dressage has transformed Kathy as a rider and trainer (spoiler alert: learn tips straight from the judge’s mouth!)RRP Makeover: Kathy is training not one but two OTTBs for this year’s Makeover: Baltimore Babe (from Mareworthy) and Sgt Reckless...
2024-07-021h 21
Dating, Relationships, and Disability143 - Choose Self LoveHappy July and Disability Pride Month. Now, I like to think this podcast celebrates Disability Pride year round. However, throughout the month, we’ll highlight strategies and techniques for building pride and connecting it with dating.
Today we’re talking about the Choose Self Love technique as a transformative approach designed to help individuals recognize and embrace their intrinsic worthiness of love and fulfilling relationships. This technique is particularly empowering for people with disabilities who have often been marginalized in dating and relationships. If you heard last week’s podcast, its closely related to Discovering Your Worthiness, yet a...
2024-07-0219 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability142 - Knowing Your WorthinessI often talk about my Power to Attract method when it comes to helping people build their confidence in dating. It involves focusing on your positive attributes, which we all have, that draws others to us. Another way of looking at this is a process in Discovering Your Worthiness. When we can connect and own our sense of worthiness, we begin a transformative journey that naturally increases our dating self-esteem, a critical component for attracting the right people into one’s life.
This process begins with an open and honest look at self-worth, encouraging you to recognize and...
2024-06-2528 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability141 - Envisioning Your Person
Visualizing the person you want to meet as a potential partner is a crucial step in the process of dating, as well as finding a loving and happy relationship. This practice helps clarify your desires and priorities, ensuring you have a clear understanding of what you are looking for. I think many people underestimate the value of your own clarity in searching for a partner. By forming a mental image of your ideal partner, you can better identify the qualities and preferences that matter most to you. This clarity is essential in guiding your decisions and actions a...
2024-06-1827 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability140 - Why Inclusive Dating MattersOne of my life goals is to “move the needle” on people with disabilities being more viewed as dating and intimate partners.Inclusive dating is a significant part of making that happen.
Inclusive dating is all about welcoming and respecting diversity, making sure all people feel accepted and valued. This approach emphasizes the importance of equality and inclusivity in romantic relationships, ensuring that every individual, regardless of their race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, physical and mental abilities, or socioeconomic status, feels they belong. Inclusive dating recognizes the unique experiences and perspectives that each person brings, fostering a dati...
2024-06-1133 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability139 - Beliefs About Dating That Create SuccessMaintaining healthy and positive belief systems about oneself and relationships is crucial for mental health, especially in the context of dating. Belief systems shape our perceptions, actions, and interactions. When these beliefs are positive, they promote self-worth, resilience, and constructive behavior, which are essential for navigating the complexities of romantic relationships. Conversely, negative beliefs can lead to self-doubt, anxiety, and unhealthy relationship patterns. Therefore, fostering positive beliefs is vital for emotional well-being and the development of fulfilling relationships.
First, a positive belief system about oneself enhances self-esteem. High self-esteem is a cornerstone of mental health, as it...
2024-06-0421 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability138 - Beliefs for Dating SuccessBelieving that you are worthy of finding love and happiness begins with the realization that your current thoughts and beliefs are simply reflections of what you have accepted as true in the past. If you want to change these beliefs, you must first acknowledge that they exist and then make a conscious decision to change your mind about them. This process starts with recognizing the beliefs you've accepted and choosing to un-accept them.
Many of us operate in a default mode of thinking, continuously replaying programmed and practiced beliefs. These automatic thoughts often shape our perceptions of...
2024-05-2823 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability137 - Rock Solid Confidence While DatingMake dating more possible for you! Join our webinar on Dating Simplified in Three Easy Steps and discover how to make your dating journey easier and more successful with just three simple steps.
Register for the webinar here.
Maintaining rock-solid confidence while dating with a disability requires inner strength and resilience, especially in the face of negative comments, rejection, and others not seeing you as a potential partner. First, it's essential to cultivate a strong sense of self-worth that isn't dependent on external validation. I know, easier said than done. It is critical that you...
2024-05-2134 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability136 - How to Keep Your Self Esteem Intact While DatingMaintaining self-esteem while dating with a disability is both empowering and challenging. Affirming oneself is crucial in this journey of probably taking the biggest risk with your heart of putting yourself out there to be vulnerable, show up exactly as you are, disability and all, and face rejection. Last week I did an broad perspective episode on how dating can be a mental health issue as we kick off Mental Health Awareness Month in the States.
I want to follow that episode with some tactical episodes of how to maintain mental health while you date. Remember, much o...
2024-05-1631 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability135 - Play It Again: Feeling AttractiveI unfortunately lost my voice so today you're enjoying a replay of a popular episode on "Feeling Attractive." It's a good cue for the remainder of the episodes in May about preserving your mental health when dating.
"I don't feel attractive." If you haven’t said that at some point in your life, I think you’re in a very small and fortunate group. Most of us have grappled with this feeling, which is really a belief, at some point in our lives, especially when it comes to dating. While we are certainly working on changing this on b...
2024-05-0722 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability102 - The Rise in Interabled CouplesFirst, how do you feel about the word interabled? Let me know at kathy@radiantabilities.com.
You see, 1-in-4 U.S. adults – or about 61 million Americans – have a disability according to the CDC. With mental illness and invisible disabilities on the rise, the statistics of people living with disabilities are probably greater. If you’re out there dating, the likelihood of having a partner with a disability is higher than it has ever been. If 1-in-4 people have a disability, it only makes sense that interabled dating and interabled relationships are normal and
Things are beginni...
2023-09-1926 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability90 - GhostingToday we're diving into a topic that many of us have experienced on online platforms: ghosting. We'll explore how hurtful it can be and share some strategies for getting over it. Here's an email I recently received about being ghosted:
Dear Kathy, dear Radiant Abilities Team,
I found your site through Google while looking up resources regarding Ghosting and relationships and first of all I want to say I’m really happy to see there are people like you and your team who care about giving disabled people help and more visibility. I’m disabled mysel...
2023-06-2722 min
Dating, Relationships, and Disability74 - Small Changes for BIG ResultsToday I want to focus on transitional behavior change in dating. In this episode, we will be discussing how to change your behavior in small ways to get the results in dating and relationships that you want. Whether you're moving from casual dating to a committed relationship or just trying to work up the courage to put yourself out there, these transitions can be challenging, and changing your behavior can be even more difficult.To start, it's essential to understand that transitional behavior change requires self-awareness and intentionality. You have to be aware of the behaviors that...
2023-03-0724 minDating, Relationships, and Disability64 - Making Dating Easier in 2023We're going to make dating easier in 2023! Coming in late January, Dating Made Easier, a monthly membership that will teach you dating and relationship skills that will transform you and your dating journey in the following areas:Increase Dating Self Esteem - Learn how to identify your unique Power to Attract the dating experiences and relationships you want.Grow Your Confidence - Develop confidence and achieve your specific dating and relationship goals.Learn Skills to Keep Relationships - Gain the skills in communication, problem solving, and being authentic in relationships. Here's what...
2022-12-2725 minDating, Relationships, and Disability50 - What's In Your Dating Tool Bag?I want to thank the listeners who have already volunteered for the research interviews my colleague, Alexa, and I are doing. We have gotten such amazing insights and information already. If you would be willing to give us 30 minutes to interview you for some research, and yes, you can be sure it will include dating and relationships, sign up here for Kathy and here for Alexa.Now, I have a question for you, as I usually do. Do you have a dating tool bag? Are you saying, Kathy, what the heck is a dating tool bag? Well...
2022-09-2025 min
Full Circle (the Podcast) with Charles Tyson, Jr. & Martha MadrigalAn Interview With Kathy O’ConnellWe were so fortunate to be able to sit and chat with two-time Peabody Award-winning children's radio host Kathy O'Connell! We discuss what to say to kids in these turbulent times. What is the soundtrack to the new revolution? Has children's programming always been subversive? All that and more in this very special episode of Full Circle (the Podcast) with Charles Tyson, Jr. & Martha Madrigal!ADDITIONAL RESOURCES - Full Circle Kids Playlist (with curation help from Kathy O'Connell): Apple Music Spotify To Listen To Kathy's Show & Learn More About Kids Corner:XPN.org ...
2022-06-031h 19