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Spilling the Thera-TeaHealing from Abandonment Trauma: Understanding and Overcoming RejectionHow do you heal from the emotional scars of abandonment? This week on Spilling The Thera-Tea, Jess and KathyDan dive into the depths of abandonment trauma, revealing its origins and lasting effects on relationships and personal behavior. We explore the therapeutic paths to healing, from EMDR and CBT to DBT and IFS. Jess recounts her own journey through therapy, offering hope and practical advice for anyone grappling with similar issues. Kathy Dan delves into how attachment styles can shape our relationships, providing insights and tools to better understand and manage abandonment trauma. Whether you're struggling yourself or supporting so...
2024-07-0533 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaNavigating Self-Harm: Understanding, Coping, and HealingWhat if managing self-harm could be as accessible as talking openly about our daily struggles? Jess and KathyDan dive deep into the reality of self-harm, shedding light on its prevalence and the importance of recognizing triggers before the risks escalate.We then explore how high stress, societal pressures, and the unprecedented impacts of the COVID-19 pandemic contribute to self-harm behaviors. KathyDan offers professional insights from her practice, highlighting therapeutic approaches such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and mindfulness-based therapies that can help manage and overcome self-harm. The discussion shows the importance of a...
2024-06-0727 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaSchool EvaluationsThis episode we are joined by Leila Daugherty, Ed.S., the newest addition to the KDM team, as she shares her unique perspective as a school psychologist in the public school system. Leila offers an insider’s look into her professional world, discussing the challenges and triumphs of providing school evaluations both in the school system and also private evaluations at KDM. Our conversation turns earnest as we tackle the intricate process of diagnosing ADHD and autism, stressing the importance of comprehensive evaluations and the spectrum of conditions that can affect learning and behavior. Leila shares invaluable tips f...
2024-05-0347 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaSpirituality This episode, we delve into how spirituality can offer a guiding light in therapy, particularly for those whose faith is intertwined with their quest for healing. We take a step further into the sacred dance between spirituality and mental health, acknowledging its profound role within communities where church and religious practice are cornerstones of society. From meditation to journaling, we discuss alternative expressions of spirituality and their impact on fostering resilience. **********************MEDIA FOR THIS EPISODE:Armchair Expert reference of Vanessa Marin’s podcast: Pillow Talkshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pill...
2024-04-0535 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaSeason 2 is here!KathyDan and Jess are back for Season 2! In today’s intro, they catch up on the happenings of life, what to look forward to this season and more! Grab your favorite tea, and join us as we embark on this new season!**********************DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace the advice you may be receiving from a licensed therapist.This podcast and website represents the opinions of KathyDan Moore, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Grief Coach Jess Lowe, and their guests to the show and website. The content here sh...
2024-03-0819 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaPeace Out 2023, Hello 2024!With the threshold of 2024 beckoning, we pour our hearts into a conversation about personal evolution—shedding the weight of toxic ties and stepping into growth with determination. Our exchange reveals the vibrant words we've chosen to guide us through the new year, with "exuberance" and "today" lighting our paths like beacons of intent. Through laughter and earnestness, we probe the depths of self-acceptance, the art of saying no, and wrap up with a playful game that injects a dose of levity into our shared journey towards a year brimming with positivity. Join us in this light hearted episode as we...
2023-12-2926 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaThe Overlooked Crisis of Child Neglect: A Guide to Recognition and InterventionDiscover the hidden facets of child neglect with KathDan Moore and Jess Lowe, as we unravel the complex layers of this often-overlooked issue. Whether it's the lack of basic necessities or the subtler forms of emotional neglect, our latest conversation on Spilling the Thera Tea promises to equip you with the knowledge to recognize and respond to the signs. Join us for an eye-opening discussion that highlights the importance of community vigilance and the profound difference presence and attention can make in a child's life.**********************STATE CONTACT INFO: https://www.childwelfare.gov/organizations/?CWIGFunctionsaction=rols:main.dspList...
2023-12-2222 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaBreaking Free: Shifting from Trauma to Triumph with EMDR TherapyIMPORTANT NOTE:This podcast is not meant to be a replacement for professional treatment. It is not a “do it yourself” EMDR therapy process.This is a clinical demonstration that can help existing EMDR therapist in their learning.The demonstration can also be useful in preparing clients for what to expect. However, EMDR therapy should only be conducted by a properly trained clinical professional. ** For time purposes, silent air time has been removed************************Imagine being held captive by your own traumatic memories, unable to break free from the distress they caus...
2023-12-0819 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaUnleashing the Power of Forgiveness: A Journey Towards Healing and GrowthForgiveness is not an overnight process. It is a complex journey that requires identifying the source of your hurt and acknowledging your feelings. We delve into the intriguing concept of unconditional forgiveness and how it can lead to personal growth and the capability to love again. We also provide an introduction to the 'reach method' for forgiveness, a strategy that makes the journey towards forgiveness more manageable and fruitful.Owning up to our mistakes and seeking forgiveness is a pivotal part of this process. This involves understanding the impact of our actions on others and seeking forgiveness w...
2023-12-0127 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaTypes of TherapyWhat if the healing power you're seeking is right at your fingertips? That's right! This episode is a journey through the diverse landscape of therapeutic modalities and how the right fit can bring transformative healing. We delve into the world of exposure therapies, including in vivo, imaginal, and virtual reality exposure, and the compelling Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. We also discuss the importance of evidence-based therapy and the use of eclectic approaches. And we can’t forget about our therapy pets! Remember, therapy is not one-size-fits-all, and finding your perfect therapeutic match can make all the difference.**********************
2023-11-2435 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaThe Silent Predators Among Us: Unraveling Sociopathy and PsychopathyWhat if you found yourself entangled in the web of a sociopath or a psychopath? Would you be able to identify the warning signs and navigate your way out? We promise to equip you with the necessary tools to understand and recognize the traits of these complex personalities. We kick things off by defining sociopaths and psychopaths and exploring their distinguishing symptoms. Our discussion also covers the potential dangers of a relationship with these individuals and offers advice on setting healthy boundaries.We then get under the skin of these disorders, uncovering the differences between sociopathy and...
2023-11-1737 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaCo-Parenting v Parallel ParentingNavigating the bumpy road of co-parenting? Or perhaps you're dealing with an ex who's a narcissist or an abuser? This episode is designed just for you. We talk about complex co-parenting scenarios and the benefits of parallel parenting, with insights to lessen the disruption and chaos. **********************I’ve Had It! Podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ive-had-it/id1650340709**********************DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace the advice you may be receiving from a licensed therapist.This podcast and website represents the opinions of KathyDan Moore, Licensed Marriage an...
2023-11-1031 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaEmotionally Unavailable PartnersEver wondered why your partner struggles to emotionally connect, or why they seem to be constantly putting a wall up in your relationship? Well, we've got the answers for you. Our latest episode is a candid conversation about emotionally unavailable people in relationships. Weshed light on the different archetypes of emotionally unavailable partners, such as the jester and the fixer, alongside a discussion on the role of avoidant attachment styles.Staying true to our promise of not only exploring problems but also providing solutions, we give you a practical guide on dealing with emotionally unavailable partners. We...
2023-10-2732 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaReal Talk: The Power of Dialogue in Suicide Prevention***TRIGGER WARNING***THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES SUICIDE, LISTENER DISCRETION IS ADVISED.We're taking the plunge, unabashedly tackling a tough subject close to our hearts - suicide. Together, Therapist Kathy Dan Moore and grief coach Jess Lowe, are shedding light on this often misunderstood topic, discussing how to engage in conversations about it, identifying key risk factors, and ensuring the safety of those contemplating it. This episode is not just about spreading awareness, it's about making a real difference as we challenge the language we use when discussing suicide. Venturing deeper into the discussion, we touch...
2023-10-2034 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaShame v. GuiltEver grapple with feelings of shame or guilt? It's an often misunderstood emotional terrain that we're excavating in our enlightening discussion. We're navigating the key differences between these two emotions and their significant impact on self-perception and self-esteem. We unravel the power of guilt as a moral anchor, and reveal the potentially devastating impact of toxic shame. As we delve deeper, we focus on the critical aspect of managing toxic shame. Discover how mindfulness can aid us in challenging our shame-based thoughts and cultivating healthier thinking habits. We emphasize the importance of fostering a support network, and...
2023-10-1324 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaThe Unspoken Truth of Infidelity: Navigating Through Betrayal and RecoveryWhat if you could navigate through the stormy waters of infidelity and not only reach the shore but build a stronger bond on the other side? This episode promises to provide you with the essential tools, strategies, and insights to help you and your partner turn a crisis into an opportunity for growth. We shatter common misconceptions about infidelity, and reveal the potential for resilience and fortification within a relationship tested by betrayal.Through an open conversation, we explore the path to recovery, stressing the vital role both partners play in the healing process. We delve into...
2023-10-0625 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaUnraveling the Complexities of Grief and Its Emotional Challenges**TRIGGER WARNING** THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES LOSS -INCLUDING LOSS OF A CHILD.Welcome to a profound dive into the wild beast that is grief. A multidimensional journey that's anything but straightforward, filled with emotional highs and lows that can leave you feeling as if you're on a rollercoaster. As your hosts, grief coach Jess Lowe and therapist KathyDan Moore, we will guide you through this complex maze, covering everything from the various stages of grief to the unique emotional challenges it presents. From the depths of denial and anger, to the bargaining and acceptance stages, we unlock...
2023-09-2934 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaSurviving the Love Terrain: A Practical Guide to Relationship StagesGuess what? That exhilarating, giddy feeling you experience at the start of a new relationship isn't meant to last forever, and that's okay! We're here to reassure you that as the sizzle of the honeymoon phase cools down, it's not a sign your relationship is tanking. Instead, it's evolving into something more profound, joyous, and deeper. Through our latest conversation, we unpack the various stages of romantic relationships, guiding you on how to navigate each one and cultivate a thriving connection with your partner, irrespective of the stage you're in. **********************THE LOVE PRESCRIPTION:https://a.co...
2023-09-2224 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaNarcissistic Personality Disorder Part 2This week on Spilling the Thera-Tea, we take a deep dive into Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) - a misunderstood and overused diagnosis. Guided by therapist KathyDan Moore, we unravel the complexities of NPD, warning of the dangers of misdiagnosis and the importance of individualized care. Grief coach Jess Lowe joins the conversation to shed light on narcissistic abuse, empowering you with strategies to deal with someone with NPD. We leave you with an insightful worksheet and practical steps on how to cope, heal and move forward. **********************Grief Coaching :https://kdmcounselinggroup.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/Grief-Coaching-Resource.pdf?Na...
2023-09-1531 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaA Pathway to Self-Love: Cultivating Positive Body ImageThis week we are excited to take you through the art of cultivating a positive body image. We’ll be focusing on the power and value of your body, rather than its appearance. We'll guide you on how to incorporate empowering affirmations into your day-to-day life and how enjoyable exercise can be a powerful tool for healthier body image goals. And here's the juicy bit! We'll be discussing how to rebuild your relationship with your body, cut out negative messages, and find activities that truly nourish you. We'll even throw in some body-positive literature and song recommendations to inspire yo...
2023-09-0128 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaShifting Gears: The Journey from Crisis to GrowthEver wondered about the other side of life – the one filled with transformation, growth and sometimes midlife crisis? This episode, We dive deep into midlife transitions and the often under-discussed topic of depression that can accompany it. Through personal anecdotes, we examine how these life shifts can manifest - from contemplating a small convertible car to losing weight and getting a motorcycle. We draw a line between midlife transition and depression, providing valuable signposts to differentiate the two. Join us for this meaningful, eye-opening exploration of midlife and all its complexities.**********************Book Mentioned in Episode:
2023-08-1826 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaUnderstanding Gender Dysphoria** TRIGGER WARNING- THIS EPISODE MENTIONS SUICIDE**Now, brace yourselves as we tread into uncharted territory – the often misunderstood and stigmatized subject of gender dysphoria. Together, KathyDan and Jess unpack the distress experienced by individuals whose gender identity doesn't align with their sex assigned at birth. By dissecting the social stigma, the potential harmful behaviors, and the ripple effect on mental health, we aim to shed light on the pressing need for empathy and understanding. We explore the stance of global governing bodies and potential risks associated with such medical interventions. But hang in there, as we wind up...
2023-08-1139 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaRe-Evaluating FriendshipsEver wondered what the formula is to a healthy, long-lasting friendship? Join us, Therapist Kathy Dan Moore and Grief Coach Jess Lowe, as we navigate the intricate dynamics of these relationships. We discuss how friendships should be a balanced tug of war, where the effort is equal, and the rope is never heavy. From recognizing the toxicity in friendships to leading difficult conversations about imbalanced relationships, we explore it all. **********************DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace the advice you may be receiving from a licensed therapist.This podcast and w...
2023-08-0442 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaUnveiling the Dark Reality of GaslightingImagine being trapped in a reality distorted by your partner's manipulation techniques, where every concern you raise is trivialized, every memory countered, and your experiences conveniently forgotten. This episode uncovers these abusive techniques, giving them their rightful names: withholding, countering, blocking, diverting, trivializing, forgetting, and denial. But it's not all doom and gloom. We empower you with knowledge, equipping you with the tools you need to identify signs of gaslighting such as unexplained depression, self-doubt, constant lying, and the exploitation of your fears. Get ready for an episode that's as informative as it is empowering.**********************NATIONAL...
2023-07-2835 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaUnpacking Imposter SyndromeEver felt like a fraud, afraid that any moment, someone will expose you as the imposter you believe you are? Today we unravel the complexities of this feeling with our esteemed guest, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, AnnLee Allen. Together, we dissect the phenomenon known as imposter syndrome, exploring its signs, manifestation, and impact in our lives and work. We delve into the psychology of attributing our successes to luck rather than our abilities and dissect the irrational fear of being uncovered as a fraud. So, are you ready to join us for a cup of thera- tea as we...
2023-07-2129 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaBeneath the Surface: Unveiling Factitious Disorder** TRIGGER WARNING- Examples of cases described in episode, including abuse and death**Imagine discovering that your patient has been intentionally making themselves sick, injecting bacteria, milk, or even gasoline into their system. It almost sounds too far-fetched to be true, right? But that's the reality of factitious disorder, a condition we're exploring on today’s episode. We unravel this perplexing mental health issue, where individuals consciously induce, feign, or exaggerate physical or psychiatric symptoms, all for primary gain. We'll walk you through the different types of this disorder, help you understand its pathophysiology, and show you how it...
2023-07-1427 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaFrom Symptoms to Solutions: A Conversation on Social AnxietyThis week on Spilling the Thera-Tea we explore the world of social anxiety disorder. We shine a light on its physical and psychological impacts, and tackle its symptoms - everything from blushing, sweating, and trembling, to the struggle of making eye contact. We delve into the potential causes, such as genetics and environment, and underline the necessity of ruling out physical causes before diagnosis. It's a deep dive into a common yet often misunderstood condition. We talk solutions.We map out various treatment options, examining the pros and cons of different types of psychotherapy to medications like a...
2023-07-0734 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaNavigating the World of Healthy Boundaries and Improved Well-BeingAre your relationships suffering due to a lack of boundaries? Join us for Part 2 of our discussing on Boundaries , as we explore the importance of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries to protect our mental health and improve our interpersonal connections. Listen in as we share vital tips and strategies for determining which boundaries are necessary and recognizing the warning signs that indicate you may need to establish some limits. KathyDan provides information on what boundaries in an abusive relationship looks like . We wrap up the episode with an Asked and Answered question on overcoming "mom guilt" .**********************D...
2023-06-2335 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaBOUNDARIESThis week on Spilling the Thera-Tea , KathyDan and Jess discuss Boundaries. They explain the different types of Boundaries, Tips for setting them, and more. They end the episode answering a listener’s question about self-esteem. **********************Podcast Mentioned in Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ask-a-sex-therapist-with-heather-shannon/id1656078749**********************DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace the advice you may be receiving from a licensed therapist.This podcast and website represents the opinions of KathyDan Moore, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Co-Host Jess Lowe, and their guests to t...
2023-06-0223 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaSHAMEThis week on Spilling the Thera-Tea, KathyDan and Jess talk about the concept of shame. They differentiate between shame and guilt and KathyDan provides some examples of how it can look and feel different. The ladies share the best ways to notice, name and confront shame in their lives with the overall message being that once we name shame out loud it loses its power. Listen this week to understand more about how shame might be playing a party in your life. The co-hosts also delve into how to connect to an emotionally unavailable parent in the Asked & Answered...
2023-05-2622 min
Spilling the Thera-TeaDissociation and Dissociative DisordersThis week on Spilling the Thera-Tea KathyDan and Jess discuss dissociation. They explain the origins of the theory of dissociation and difference between the dissociative disorders. KathyDan recounts an experience of dissociation had by Agatha Christie. They wrap up the episode with a discussion on finding a good therapist fit when someone is experiencing mental health symptoms.**********************Resources for this episode:https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/dissociation-and-dissociative-disorders**********************DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace the advice you may be receiving from a licensed therapist.This...
2023-05-1230 min