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All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind133: Part 1: Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Ethical Non-Monogamy: Boundaries, Jealousy, Sex, and TrustWhat does it really mean to be in a polyamorous or open relationship? How do couples decide rules around sex, boundaries, jealousy, and emotional connections? How do couples come out to family and friends? What if coming out is not the right choice, leaving partners hurt or sad? And what happens when betrayal, secrecy, or broken agreements occur in non-monogamous relationships? And how do couples maintain emotional safety when more than two people are involved?In episode, "133: Part 1: Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Ethical Non-Monogamy: Boundaries, Jealousy, Sex, and Trust," of the All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast...
2026-03-071h 04All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind132: Neurodivergence and Porn Addiction: ADHD, Autism, Dopamine, and Healing Your Sex LifeIn episode 132 of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind explores the complex connection between neurodivergence and porn addiction. If you or your partner struggles with compulsive pornography use and identify as ADHD, autism, or is neurodivergent, this episode offers clarity without shame. Instead of framing porn addiction as a moral failure, Katie unpacks how dopamine regulation, sensory processing differences, trauma history, and emotional overwhelm can all play a role.When discussing porn addiction therapy and neurodivergence, ADHD brains often have lower baseline dopamine levels, which can create a drive toward novelty, stimulation, and intensity. Pornography provides...
2026-02-2835 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind131: Reclaiming Pleasure After Religious Trauma: Sex Specialized Therapy and Coaching for Women Curious to Orgasm and Heal Intimacy BlocksIn this powerful and compassionate episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind dives into a topic so many women struggle with silently: difficulty with orgasm, low libido, disconnection from their bodies, and anxiety around intimacy. If you’ve ever felt broken, ashamed, numb, or frustrated in your sex life, this episode is for you.Sex specialized therapy for women in Florida is about so much more than mechanics. It’s about healing the emotional, relational, and cultural layers that impact desire. Many women have internalized religious shame, purity culture messaging, body insecurity, or early experiences that...
2026-02-2339 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind130: Religious Trauma and Purity Culture Did a Number on Your Sex Life: How Women Can Reclaim Sexual Desire, Pleasure, Sexual Embodiment, and Erotic FreedomIn this powerful and deeply validating episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, licensed marriage and family therapist Katie Ziskind explores the lasting impact of purity culture and religious trauma on women’s sexual desire, pleasure, and emotional intimacy. This conversation is especially for women who were taught to be “good girls,” remain virgins until marriage, suppress sexual curiosity, and associate arousal with shame, fear, or sin—and who now feel confused, disconnected, numb, or anxious in their adult sexual relationships.Purity culture did not simply promote abstinence. It taught fear. It taught silence. It taught women that the...
2026-02-1249 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind129: Strategies To Take You From Exhaustion to Connection, Emotionally and SexuallyIn this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman Level Two trained marriage specialist, and somatic trauma specialist, explores what happens when love starts to feel heavy, distant, or depleted—even when two people deeply care about each other. Emotional burnout is one of the most overlooked challenges in long-term relationships, and many couples don’t realize they’re struggling until the connection feels flat, tense, or painfully lonely. This conversation gently unpacks the signs of a damaged “couple bubble” and why so many partners feel unseen, unappreciated, or emotionally alone inside the...
2026-02-0531 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind128: Why Does Sex Feel Harder Than It Should? - Emotional Foreplay Supports Clitoral Engorgement, Arousal, and Pleasure — The Missing LinkAre you curious why sexual desire can feel elusive, even in a loving relationship? In episode 128 of All Things Love & Intimacy, therapist, sexuality coach, and sex educator Katie Ziskind dives into emotional foreplay—the often-overlooked foundation of female arousal, clitoral engorgement, orgasms, and lasting sexual satisfaction.Most women don’t just need physical touch—they need emotional safety, connection, the feeling of being seen and wanted, and intimacy before their bodies can fully respond. Research and clinical experience show that for many women, foreplay isn’t a quick 5–10 minutes—it can take 45 to 90 minutes of emotional attunement for desire t...
2026-02-0549 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind127: Part 2: Marriage Therapy Intensives for Neurodivergent Couples in Melbourne, FloridaIn Part 2 of this conversation on All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind continues exploring how marriage therapy intensives for neurodivergent couples in Melbourne, Florida support deeper healing, repair, and reconnection—especially when trauma, ADHD, grief, or chronic stress have shaped relationship dynamics over time.This episode focuses on what happens beneath the conflict. Many neurodivergent couples find themselves stuck in high-intensity cycles where one partner pursues while the other withdraws, or where arguments escalate quickly into shutdown, defensiveness, or emotional flooding. These patterns are not character flaws. They are nervous system responses rooted in past experiences of...
2026-01-2947 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind126: Part 1: When Love Speaks Different Languages: Marriage Therapy Intensives for Neurodivergent Couples in Melbourne, FloridaRelationships are challenging—even in the best of circumstances. When ADHD, neurodivergence, trauma, grief, PTSD, or C-PTSD are part of the relationship, conflict can escalate quickly and feel confusing, exhausting, and deeply painful. You may love your partner fiercely and still find yourselves stuck in the same arguments, wondering why it feels impossible to slow things down or feel understood.In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, trauma-informed couples therapist and intimacy specialist in Melbourne, Florida, explores how marriage therapy intensives for neurodivergent couples offer a powerful alternative to traditional weekly therapy. These in...
2026-01-2932 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind125: Slow Down, Connect Up: Marriage Counseling When One or Both Are Neurodivergent, Highly Sensitive People, and High Functioning on the Autism SpectrumWhat happens to intimacy when one or both partners are neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or high functioning on the autism spectrum—and no one ever taught you how your nervous system actually works?In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, we explore why conflict, emotional disconnection, and sex can feel so intense for sensitive and neurodivergent nervous systems—and why slowing down is not avoidance, but essential for safety, connection, and desire.Many couples find themselves stuck in painful cycles: one partner feels overwhelmed and shuts down, the other feels rejected and escalates. Fights feel...
2026-01-1450 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind124: You Don’t Have Anxiety—You Have a Survival Response: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Are Your Nervous System's Learned Protective ResponsesMany people believe they struggle with chronic anxiety, digestive issues, panic attacks, or OCD—yet traditional coping skills don’t bring lasting relief. In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, trauma specialist and trauma therapist, Katie Ziskind, explores how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses are often misunderstood survival strategies rooted in early emotional stress, relational trauma, or unmet attachment needs. If you’ve ever wondered why your body reacts so strongly even when life seems “fine,” this episode will help you understand what your nervous system is really asking for: safety, connection, and compassion. Read more here. ...
2026-01-071h 17All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind123: High Conflict Fighting That Feels Endless? Private Marriage Therapy Retreat in Melbourne, Florida with Katie Ziskind, Trauma and High Conflict Couples TherapistRetreats are designed for couples who feel stuck in painful cycles they cannot break on their own. You may love each other deeply, yet feel like enemies during conflict. Experience intense arguments, emotional shutdown, resentment, or a growing sense of loneliness in your marriage? Constantly walking on eggshells, or like nothing you do is ever enough? If your fights feel bigger than the present moment — or if small issues quickly turn into overwhelming emotional reactions — this work is likely addressing something much deeper than communication. Private marriage therapy retreats in Melbourne, Florida with Katie Ziskind are designed to a...
2025-12-3047 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind122: Part 2: Infidelity - When You're The One Who Cheats, What You Can Do To Repair Your Couple BubbleIn this powerful and compassionate episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, LMFT, RYT500, infidelity and complex trauma specialist, guides you through what it actually takes to rebuild trust and repair the couple bubble when you’re the partner who cheated.Infidelity doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Infidelity often reactivates old wounds from childhood. There are attachment wounds, coping patterns, avoidance strategies, and unspoken emotional needs underneath. And while the betrayal creates deep hurt, repair is possible with the right kind of accountability, empathy, and emotional leadership.In Part 2 of this series, Kati...
2025-12-1042 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind121: Part 1: Infidelity, Porn, Pain, Betrayal & Affairs: Breaking Generational Cycles - Infidelity Specialist Helps You Heal the Deeper Wounds You Didn’t Know You HadWelcome to All Things Love & Intimacy with Katie Ziskind, LMFT, RYT500, infidelity specialist, complex trauma therapist, and sex-positive educator. In this powerful episode (part 1), we dive deep into the hidden roots of affairs, porn addiction, and emotional disconnection—revealing how these patterns are often not random mistakes, but learned behaviors passed down through generations. We discuss complex post-traumatic stress disorder from childhood trauma and avoidance and numbing behaviors starting young. Most people think infidelity happens because someone is unhappy, unfulfilled, or impulsive. But the truth is far more complex—and far more hopeful. These behaviors are often conn...
2025-12-0529 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind120: A Couple Bubble Retreat: Deep Healing & Intimacy Restoration Through Somatic Therapy After Pornography Addiction and Betrayal TraumaWelcome to episode 120, dedicated to couples who are navigating porn addiction, betrayal trauma, emotional disconnection, or intimacy challenges — and who are ready for a deeper, embodied path to healing. Hosted by Katie Ziskind, LMFT, a somatic, sex-positive, kink-aware couples therapist and founder of Wisdom Within Counseling & Coaching, this episode explores how somatic couples therapy retreats can help partners rebuild trust, repair attachment wounds, and reconnect emotionally, sexually, and spiritually.Katie Ziskind dives into the real issues couples face when pornography becomes compulsive: shame, secrecy, emotional withdrawal, avoidance, jealousy, and the painful rupture it creates in the relationship. Wh...
2025-11-2438 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind118: From Fight to Connection: EFT for Couples with Childhood Trauma - Emotionally Focused Therapy and Inner Child WoundsIn this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind dives deep into how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help couples heal from childhood trauma, C-PTSD, emotional neglect, infidelity, and deep attachment wounds. Feeling frustrated and exhausted, feeling stuck in repeating cycles of conflict, withdrawal, invalidation, and emotional disconnection? These patterns often have roots in early childhood trauma experiences, including having narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, or alcoholic parents, which leave lasting effects on how you relate to love, trust, and intimacy as an adult.EFT, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, is a research-backed, attachment-focused approach that helps...
2025-11-081h 05All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind117: What Porn Addiction, High Conflict Fights, and Alcoholism Are Really Saying About Emotional Pain - Healing the Inner Child Who Learned to Numb: How Trauma Drives Porn and Alcohol AddictionIn this deeply healing episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist, Gottman Level II specialist, and certified sex therapy-informed professional, explores the hidden emotional roots beneath porn addiction, alcoholism, infidelity, and betrayal trauma. This episode is for couples and individuals who are tired of surface-level advice like “just stop watching porn” or “just communicate better” — and are ready to understand how childhood trauma, emotional neglect, rejection, and inner child wounds shape adult intimacy and addictive coping patterns. Through her compassionate lens, Katie unpacks why so many people secretly use pornography, sex, drugs...
2025-10-2949 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind115: Healing the Heartbreak of Betrayal Trauma: A Step-by-Step Guide to Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity and Sex Addiction Via Inner Child WorkIn this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind, LMFT, RYT500, Certified Sex Therapy-Informed Professional, and Imago Relationship Therapist, explores the deep emotional symptoms of betrayal trauma after infidelity or sex addiction. When infidelity, lying, or sex addiction shatters trust and breaks down your couple bubble, it creates deep emotional pain known as betrayal trauma. In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, sex-positive marriage therapist Katie Ziskind, LMFT, shares a compassionate, step-by-step guide to help couples heal after betrayal. Learn how to recognize the symptoms of betrayal trauma—anxiety, intrusive thoughts, hy...
2025-10-1742 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind113: How Avoidant Attachment Style Fuels Pornography Addiction. Sex Addiction, Lying, and Disconnection in Marriage - Rebuild Emotional Intimacy and Rebuild Sexual Intimacy Through Marriage TherapyWelcome to episode "113: How Avoidant Attachment Style Fuels Pornography Addiction. Sex Addiction, Lying, and Disconnection in Marriage - Rebuild Emotional Intimacy and Rebuild Sexual Intimacy Through Marriage Therapy," on the All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast with Katie Ziskind. Katie Ziskind is a certified sex therapy-informed professional, complex trauma and CPTSD specialist, and Gottman Level Two trained marriage therapist. This podcast is for you if you are struggling with avoidant attachment, pornography addiction, sex addiction, betrayal trauma, or feeling emotionally disconnected in your marriage. This episode helps you understand why childhood trauma, grief, and critical family dynamics...
2025-09-1830 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind112: Therapy and Coaching Strategies for Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse and Emotional Trauma: Spot Gaslighting, Devaluation, Silent Treatment, and Emotional ManipulationIn this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, with Katie ZIskind, we explore the complex, often confusing, and deeply painful world of narcissistic abuse. Narcissistic abuse can take many forms — from rage, aggression and explosive anger to manipulation like gaslighting, silent treatment, harsh criticism, and emotional invalidation. Many survivors of narcissistic abuse and emotional violence don’t initially recognize the abuse because narcissists are often charismatic, social, charming, and seemingly attentive at the beginning of a relationship. Over time, however, their narcissistic, controlling behaviors, manipulations, and emotional disregard become clear, leaving victims feeling confused, anxious, anxious, and...
2025-09-1256 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind110: Why She’s Not in the Mood—And How to Change That - Why Women Lose Their Sex Drive - Skills For Reviving Female Sexual Desire, When He Wants More, You Want LessIn this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind talks about one of the most common struggles in heterosexual relationships: when the man has a higher sex drive and the woman feels like her sexual desire has faded—or vanished completely. Are you a male partner wanting more frequent sex? Are you a husband who is wanting to support your female spouse in building a sexually embodied and sexually empowered relationship with her sexuality, body, and sex drive, which then can improve your sex life as a couple? Wanting deeper intimacy and to have a safe, confidential sp...
2025-08-1521 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind108: The Real Reason You Are Fighting, Yelling and Avoiding —Inner Child Wounds and Attachment Styles in Your MarriageWhy do you and your partner keep having the same fight—one yells, the other shuts down, and nothing gets resolved? In this episode, Katie Ziskind breaks down how anxious and avoidant attachment styles, shaped by your childhood, fuel painful marriage conflicts. Learn how inner child wounds show up in your arguments—and how to begin healing them together.Are you and your spouse getting stuck in frustrating, scary, intense, painful fights that leave you hopeless? As a child, did you have to tiptoe around your narcissistic, highly critical parent’s emotions to avoid rejection or punishment? At Wis...
2025-06-1858 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind106: People Pleasers, Fixers, Caretakers & High Anxiety: Rejection in the Bedroom and How Therapy Brings Back Emotional Connection, Trust, Security, and Sexual Joy After TraumaIf you’re someone who struggles with high anxiety, perfectionism, or people-pleasing… and you’ve ever felt like intimacy in your relationship is more terrifying than tender, you're in the right place. If you’re anxiously attached, you may cling, overthink, or fear being abandoned. If you’re avoidantly attached, you might shut down, retreat, or feel suffocated by closeness. Trauma-informed therapy helps you and your partner find secure attachment together.Have you ever thought, “Why does sex make me so anxious?” or “Why do I shut down when my partner tries to get close to me?” Maybe you’ve...
2025-05-271h 09All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind103: For Females Who Want Sexual Empowerment And A Satisfying Connected, Pleasurable Sex Life After Religious Shame, Guilt, and Fear - Learn About Female Sexual Arousal and Speaking UpBeing a martyr might look like having sex out of obligation, even when your body is saying “no.” It might look like suppressing your needs for longer foreplay, slower touch, or emotional connection because you’re afraid of seeming “too needy” or “too complicated.” You might ignore your longing for tenderness, eroticism, or affirmation. And, you do so because you’ve been conditioned to believe that those desires are too much, or not allowed.But sexual empowerment begins when you realize that you don’t have to martyr yourself to be loved.You get to be a whole person—...
2025-04-231h 02All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind102: Statements to Avoid If You Want To Stay Married - When Your Partner Says, "You've Hurt My Feelings" - Stay Present Without Getting DefensiveEmotional attunement is the heartbeat of a safe, secure romantic relationship. It’s the ability to sense, care about, and respond to your partner’s inner world—even when you’re the one who unintentionally hurt them. In this episode, "102: Statements to Avoid If You Want To Stay Married - When Your Partner Says, "You've Hurt My Feelings" - Stay Present Without Getting Defensive," of the All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast, Katie Ziskind, certified sex therapy informed professional and Gottman level two trained marriage therapist talks about validation as well as statements you should avoid at all cost...
2025-04-1720 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind101: Intimacy Focused and Sex Positive Marriage Counseling and Coaching For a Sexless Marriage, Low Libido, Sexual Performance Anxiety, Body Image Issues, Perfectionism, and Sexual ShameStart in intimacy focused and sex positive marriage counseling and coaching to break the cycle of a sexless marriage, low libido, and rebuild sexual passion at www.WisdomWithinCt.comYou may try to talk about sex, only for it to erupt into defensiveness, hurt feelings, or silence. The one who avoids sex may feel like a failure, ashamed or anxious about not being "enough." The one who longs for it may feel angry, lonely, or resentful. Both of you hurt, but in different ways, and both of you may feel stuck.In this dynamic, it’s...
2025-04-1149 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind99: 5 Gottman Skills For A Better Marriage After Hurt, Let Down, Betrayal, Abandonment, Feeling Rejected, and Unwanted Emotionally and Sexually.Have you ever felt the sting of betrayal, the ache of emotional rejection, or the deep loneliness of feeling unwanted in your marriage? Maybe you've experienced a painful fight, an affair, a loss of trust, or emotional neglect that makes it hard to open your heart again. The fear of being hurt again, the weight of intrusive thoughts replaying past wounds, and the anxiety of trying to rebuild intimacy can feel overwhelming—but healing is possible.In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, I, Katie Ziskind, a sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming relationship coach and Gottman Level Tw...
2025-02-2132 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind97: Keeping the Spark Alive: How to Have Passionate Sex in Your Long-Term RelationshipBook a session at www.WisdomWithinCt.com to work with Katie Ziskind to improve your emotional bond, playfulness and sexual connection.In this episode ofAll Things Love and Intimacy, we’re diving deep into how couples can maintain passion, excitement, and deep connection in their long-term relationship. Many couples assume that a dwindling sex life is inevitable, but the truth is, with intention and effort, intimacy can actually grow richer and more fulfilling over time.Great sex in long-term relationships starts outside the bedroom. Emotional intimacy fuels physical attraction. When partners feel valued, heard, and em...
2025-02-1315 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind96: Infidelity Recovery, Understanding the 'Why' and Steps to Heal, Rebuild Trust, Apologize, and Reconnect After Emotional Cheating and Physical CheatingWhen you are struggling to recover from infidelity, cheating, an affair, or unfaithfulness, you need specific steps and guidance to do so. Katie Ziskind in Melbourne, Florida is a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in infidelity, PTSD, and betrayal recovery. The affair and lying have caused deep emotional wounds and severe heartbreak. When you have been cheated on, it is difficult to trust, you have insomnia, trouble eating, suspicion, and you are very anxious of experiencing more abandonment and loss. When you are the partner who has cheated, and you have caused betrayal, you may struggle with...
2025-01-2314 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind95: Healing Your Marriage: Understand How Childhood Experiences and Self-Sabotaging Behaviors Like Infidelity, Gambling, Pornography Are LinkedIn this deeply insightful episode, we explore how unresolved childhood experiences shape the negative behaviors we bring into our marriages—often leading to self-sabotaging actions like infidelity, gambling, prescription drug abuse, or pornography use. As we discuss the emotional wounds from childhood and their impact on your marriage bond, we delve into how these behaviors are often an "emotional wall" and defense mechanism to cope with feelings of shame, fear of abandonment, guilt, inadequacy, or emotional neglect. These self-sabotaging behaviors also develop as a way to survive due to childhood trauma, neglect, having an alcoholic parent, or having a hi...
2025-01-1017 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind93: The Invisible Mental Load and Its Impact on Women's Libido: Why Women Feel Too Exhausted for Intimacy (And How to Reignite Desire)In this episode, Katie Ziskind is diving into the mental and invisible load that many women carry and how it affects libido, sexual desire, and intimacy. Katie Ziskind speaks to the mental and invisible load for women and vulva owners and how it affects libido, sexual desire, and intimacy. If you’ve ever wondered why sex feels like the last thing on your mind after a long day of juggling work, parenting, household chores, and emotional labor, this episode is for you. The mental load isn’t just about doing chores—it’s the constant cognitive and emotional work of plann...
2024-12-1116 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind89: Anger Flares? From Conflict to Connection: Gain Skills In Relationship Coaching For Healing Childhood Wounds Through Vulnerable ConversationsIn episode 89 of "The All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast with Katie Ziskind, we dive into the deep-rooted patterns that fuel conflicts in marriages and relationships, especially when one partner feels criticized and shuts down, while the other fears abandonment and pushes for connection. Often, our angry reactions in these moments are linked to unresolved childhood wounds, such as growing up with a highly critical or emotionally unavailable parent. These early experiences shape how we respond to stress and express vulnerability with our partners today. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling are toxic dynamics. Through the lens of Imago Therapy...
2024-11-1331 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind87: Reclaiming Your Life After Narcissistic Abuse: Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Emotional TraumaWelcome to episode, "87: Reclaiming Your Life After Narcissistic Abuse: Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Emotional Trauma" with Katie Ziskind, LMFT, Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional, Gottman Level Two Marriage Specialist. We discuss the aftermath of leaving a 25 or 30 year marriage to a spouse with narcissistic personality disorder. If you’ve recently emerged from a long-term marriage with a narcissistic partner, you may be feeling like the ground beneath you is still shaky, your confidence is shattered, and the woman you once were has been lost in the shadows of years of emotional and psychological abuse. Maybe, you’re newly divo...
2024-10-1723 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind85: Stuck In Conflict? Get To The Root By Healing Childhood Wounds: 5 Imago Therapy Tools for Transforming Conflict into ConnectionImago Therapy, developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, is a form of relationship counseling that aims to help couples understand and transform their conflicts into opportunities for growth and connection.
Katie Ziskind helps you understand the deep emotional patterns that drive conflict. Your marriage and relationship offers an opportunity to heal unresolved childhood wounds, but it can also trigger deep, emotional pain when our unmet needs resurface.
Key concepts include:
Imago: This term refers to an unconscious image of familiar love, shaped by early childhood experiences...
2024-10-0315 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind83: Lisa and Greg: Healing A Marriage Worn by Porn Addiction, Alcoholism, and Infidelity In Couples Counseling with Katie Ziskind - An Understanding of How To Rebuild Emotional and Sexual IntimacyIn this episode, Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist with couples, dives into the raw, emotional journey of Lisa and Greg, a couple married for 30 years, as they navigate the devastating effects of pornography addiction, alcoholism, infidelity, and childhood trauma.
Greg's compulsive behaviors, fueled by deep-rooted feelings of inadequacy and emotional wounds from an abusive father, have left their marriage on the brink of collapse. Meanwhile, Lisa’s avoidant attachment style, formed from growing up in a household filled with emotional neglect and abuse, has caused her to shut down, withdraw, and build walls around her heart....
2024-09-1920 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind82: Sarah and Bob's Story: Healing Childhood Attachment Trauma Through Couples Therapy with Katie ZiskindIn this episode, "82: Sarah and Bob's Story: Healing Childhood Attachment Trauma Through Couples Therapy" of the "All Things Love and Intimacy" podcast with Katie Ziskind, we dive deep into the impact of childhood attachment trauma and how early relationships with abusive, neglectful, or emotionally unavailable parents can shape the way we connect in adulthood. When your current fight seems beyond frustrating, painful, annoying, and confusing, the expert help of marriage therapist and relationship coach Katie Ziskind helps you dive deeper into unmet childhood needs and inner child wounds.
We'll explore the story of Sarah and Bob, a...
2024-09-1219 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind81: Prioritizing Emotional Check-Ins: How Scheduling Intimacy Time Enhances Your Sex LifeIn episode, "81: Prioritizing Emotional Check-Ins: How Scheduling Intimacy Time Enhances Your Sex Life," of "All Things Love and Intimacy" with Katie Ziskind, we explore the often-overlooked connection between emotional intimacy and sexual desire. If you are in a sexless marriage, there is a need to rend to your marriage's emotional garden.
For many couples, a healthy sex life begins with feeling emotionally safe, connected, and understood. We don't see how important emotional intimacy is in pornography as well. So, many couples never actually know why they are feeling disconnected or how to close the emotional intimacy gap...
2024-09-0613 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind80: Navigating Pornography Addiction and Rebuilding Trust in Relationships: Healing TogetherIn this episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," we delve into the complex journey of overcoming pornography addiction within a relationship and the crucial process of rebuilding trust. First, we explore the emotional and relational impacts of porn addiction, offering insights into how it can create distance, erode trust, and lead to feelings of betrayal. We discuss practical trust-building strategies, including open communication, setting boundaries, and the importance of accountability. Porn addiction may be used as a way to avoid dealing with your unmet needs, relationship issues or emotional discomfort. We talk about the need to rebuild trust...
2024-08-2631 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind79: Foreplay Needs in Female and Male BodiesIn episode "79: Foreplay Needs in Female and Male Bodies" of "All Things Love and Intimacy," host Katie Ziskind dives deep into the fascinating world of foreplay, exploring the distinct needs of female and male bodies. Discover why the female body typically requires 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay to reach peak arousal, while the male body often only needs about 4 to 8 minutes.
Katie Ziskind is a certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two trained marriage specialist, licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship coach for sexually avoidant couples. She breaks down the science behind these differences, emphasizing the importance...
2024-08-0128 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind77: Building A Stronger Connection: Enhancing Emotional Intelligence in Relationships And As A Precursor For Sexual IntimacyIn episode, "77: Building A Stronger Connection: Enhancing Emotional Intelligence in Relationships And As A Precursor For Sexual Intimacy," of "All Things Love and Intimacy," Katie Ziskind dives deep into the essential components of emotional intelligence and how they can transform your relationship. Emotional intelligence is a foundational part to sexual intimacy and a healthy sex life. Join Katie Ziskind as she explores the importance of emotional accessibility, receptivity, emotional presence, and empathy (ARE). Learn practical tips to enhance emotional bonding, trust, reassurance, comfort, and closeness in your relationship. These elements are key for feeling seen, heard, understood, loved, appreciated...
2024-07-1837 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind76: The Power of Vulnerability: Crafting a Loving Couple Bubble, Intimate Connection, and Stronger Bond Through Inner Child WorkIn episode, "76: The Power of Vulnerability: Crafting a Loving Couple Bubble, Intimate Connection, and Stronger Bond Through Inner Child Work," of "All Things Love and Intimacy," your host Katie Ziskind delves into the transformative power of emotional vulnerability in building a strong and loving couple bubble. As a sex-positive, LGBTQIA+, queer-affirming relationship coach and certified sex therapy-informed professional, Katie Ziskind brings her extensive expertise with couples in marriage coaching and compassionate approach to guide you through the intricate dance of evolving your intimate connection.
Katie Ziskind explores the profound impact of sharing our innermost selves with our...
2024-07-0937 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind75: The Role of 45 to 90 Minutes of Foreplay: Overcoming Sexual Anxiety, Communicating Needs, Talking Openly About Sexual Desires, and Female OrgasmsIn episode 75, Katie Ziskind discusses the differences in sexual arousal between penis owners and males, and vulva owners and females. Females need 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay where as males needs four to eight minutes of foreplay to reach that same level of peak climax and max sexual arousal to be prepared for orgasming. Foreplay is often too short. We also grow up with negative, shame-based, fear-based, and guilt-based messaging around sex, having a voice during sex, and sexual expression that lead to dissatisfying sexual experiences. We grow up with misinformation around sex from pornography, often making us feel like...
2024-07-011h 00All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind74: Breaking The Cycle of Sexual Avoidance with Karine BedardDo you want a connected love life, but feel unwanted, insecure, and alone because your spouse pushes your physical touch away?
In this episode, Katie Ziskind was a guest on the "Breaking Free Authentically" podcast with Karine Bedard.
Katie Ziskind specializes in coaching disconnected couples who want to stay together and want to work together after high conflict fights, anger issues, affairs, sexual avoidance, and sexual rejection to develop a foundation of emotional connection, trust, and love. She supports couples who struggle with infidelity and need an affair recovery specialist that takes them through specific...
2024-06-2757 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind73: Fears of Abandonment and Emotionally Vulnerability To Break Conflict CyclesIn episode, "73: Fears of Abandonment and Emotionally Vulnerability To Break Conflict Cycles" of the "All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast, Katie Ziskind shares ways and skills to support a strong, healthy, and thriving couple bubble and marriage.
When you are in conflict, it means you deeply love and care about each other.
Anger is a common emotion in cycles of conflict and disconnection. Expressing anger in a loud, critical way or shutting down and giving the silent treatment creates martial disconnection and distance.
Underneath anger are a variety of emotions, "core emotions," that...
2024-06-2117 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind72: Navigating Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Childhood Trauma, and Healing As A Couple in Marriage CoachingImagine your spouse as a child experiencing physical and emotional abuse from a parent. A narcissistic parent may be physically or emotionally abusing their sibling. And, they feel helpless and powerless to intervene or protect them. Such experiences breed profound feelings of fear, anxiety, and a pervasive sense of unpredictability.
In childhood, love becomes associated with fear, uncertainty, chaos, anxiety, and unpredictability, leading to challenges in adulthood romantic relationships.
When your spouse is exposed to domestic violence as a child, the erosion of safety and trust becomes deeply ingrained. Your spouse internalized a belief that...
2024-06-1859 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind71: High Conflict Cycles and Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles: Understanding Childhood Trauma in Relationship Coaching For High Conflict CouplesDo you and your partner get into high conflict fights? Does it feel like you are stuck in a vicious cycle of negative communication, hurtful conflict, and feeling on edge around each other all the time? Are you and your partner survivors of childhood abuse, emotional trauma, and narcissistic abuse? Did you grow up with an alcoholic mother, father, or caregiver who was hot and cold, up and down emotionally? Wishing you had more frequent sex and your sexual initiations were received enthusiastically? At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, Katie Ziskind specializes in high conflict marriages after childhood emotional...
2024-06-101h 04All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind70: Affair Recovery Skills and Infidelity Relationship Coaching: Why Do People Cheat and How To Rebuild Trust and Emotional IntimacyInfidelity often stems from a complex interplay of personal, relational, and situational factors. Katie Ziskind’s holistic approach allows you to explore these various dimensions. Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are negative forms of communication that lead to a weak couple bubble. Your couple bubble is often very weak and emotionally disconnected before infidelity takes place. Marriage therapy specialized for affair recovery and infidelity repair teaches you how to recognize the needs of your a couple bubble. We often don't learn how to grow and maintain a healthy, thriving marriage growing up. Cheating behaviors only offer a temporary escape fr...
2024-06-0456 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind69: Navigating Jealousy in Marriage: Building Trust and ConnectionIn this insightful episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," we delve into one of the most challenging emotions that can arise in a marriage: jealousy. Jealousy is a powerful and often complex emotion that can have significant impacts on a marriage. While it is a natural feeling, if not managed properly, jealousy can erode trust, create conflict, and undermine the foundation of a relationship. Here, we delve deeper into the dynamics of jealousy in marriage, exploring its roots, effects, and strategies for overcoming it to build a stronger, more secure connection. Jealousy is an emotional response to the...
2024-05-3027 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind68: Somatic Therapy Mindfulness Meditation For Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) RecoveryIn this experiential, enlightening episode, we dive deep into the healing power of somatic therapy and mindfulness meditation for those recovering from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD).
Many times, couples get stuck fighting, arguing, using defensiveness, withdrawing, yelling, criticizing each other, and communicating from a state of fight, flight, or freeze, which is a self-protection state often develop from childhood trauma experiences. Reacting from emotional flooding only creates high conflict fights and cycles of emotional pain. When you and your spouse are emotionally triggering each other, this makes your marriage feel upsetting, lonely, emotionally unsafe, and creates...
2024-05-2747 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind67: What Is Somatic Yoga Therapy For Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD)?Do you find yourself struggling with fight, flight, and freeze symptoms?
Somatic yoga therapy for CPTSD with Katie Ziskind, yoga therapist, helps you understand how CPTSD symptoms impact married life. Sex and physical intimacy can be impacted by a history of emotional abuse, sexual trauma, and neglect. As well, having sex may being out shame, guilt, fears of inadequacy, sadness, loss, and anger. Sexual activity can trigger traumatic memories or flashbacks, making intimacy distressing or even intolerable. This can result in avoidance of sexual activity. One of the primary benefits of loving-kindness meditation for CPTSD survivors is...
2024-05-2115 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind66: Infidelity Repair Skills For Emotional Intimacy and Security In Marriage #2 TogetherIn episode, "66: Infidelity Repair Skills For Emotional Intimacy and Security In Marriage #2 Together," Katie Ziskind offers steps for recovering from secret keeping, infidelity, cheating, affairs, and betrayal.
The first step in recovering from infidelity is acknowledging and confronting the reality of the situation. This involves both partners openly acknowledging the infidelity and its impact on the relationship. It's essential for the partner who was unfaithful to take responsibility for their actions and for both partners to recognize the depth of betrayal.
Open and honest communication is crucial for healing after infidelity. Couples need to create...
2024-05-1323 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind65: Finding Intimacy In Everyday Life: How To Have Great SexWelcome to "65: Finding Intimacy In Everyday Life: How To Have Great Sex," of the "All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast with Katie Ziskind. This episode brings to light how our society doesn't offer sex positive information and debunks culture misinformation and myths about good sex.
Common myths about sex include, my partner should know everything that I need to orgasm without me having to speak up, sex should be good every time, that males and females should be ready for sex at the same time, that sex is an obligation or duty in a marriage, that if...
2024-05-1050 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind64: Breaking Down Barriers: Overcoming Challenges in Sexual Intimacy with Rhoda SommerWelcome to episode "64: Breaking Down Barriers: Overcoming Challenges in Sexual Intimacy with Rhoda Sommer."
Our sex lives are too easy to leave behind. It’s so easy to make excuses & dismiss opportunity with “I’m too tired.” Going without sex for long periods of time creates feelings of hurt and rejection that pile up to destroy connectedness. If a couple is unable to talk about sex then negative assumptions are silently stashed.
Sexual pleasure separates a couple from their children and being parents. It’s an important part of being a couple.
Too often families h...
2024-05-0757 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind63: Creating A Fulfilling, Satisfying Sex Life: Emotional Security and Sexual Intimacy with Paige BondDo you want a fulfilling love and sex life, but find yourself in never ending fights and avoiding intimacy altogether? This is episode goes over crucial conversations you need to get your sex and love life back on track.
Welcome to episode, "63: Creating A Fulfilling, Satisfying Sex Life: Emotional Security and Sexual Intimacy with Paige Bond."
In this episode, Katie Ziskind was a guest on the "Stubborn Love" podcast.
Key takeaways from this episode:
How important communication is in enhancing sexual intimacy between partners
What role foreplay has in a...
2024-05-0357 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind62: Attachment Injuries Unveiled: Healing Emotional Wounds in RelationshipsIn episode, "62: Attachment Injuries Unveiled: Healing Emotional Wounds in Relationships," of "All Things Love and Intimacy," we delve deep into the intricate world of attachment injuries within romantic relationships and explore how relationship coaching can help address and heal these emotional wounds.
Join Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two trained marriage specialist, as she navigates through the complexities of attachment theory and discover practical strategies for fostering healthier, more secure connections with your partner.
Katie Ziskind, a seasoned relationship coach with years of experience in guiding couples through challenging...
2024-04-3017 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind61: What Is Emotional Intimacy? Unlocking the Depths of Human Connection For A Happy, Long-Lasting MarriageWelcome to episode, "61: What Is Emotional Intimacy? Unlocking the Depths of Human Connection For A Happy, Long-Lasting Marriage," of the "All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast with Katie Ziskind. She discusses the value and importance of emotional intimacy and how we are set up from childhood to avoid emotional intimacy. When we look at building emotional intimacy and emotional vulnerability for a happy marriage, often times we don't learn this essential skill growing up. Growing up with parents who are emotionally neglectful, dismissive of your emotional experiences, didn't show interest in your emotions, told you to, and "stop crying...
2024-04-2432 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind60: Linking Fights To Childhood Feelings and Unmet Childhood Needs - Breaking The Cycle of ConflictIn episode, "60: Linking Fights To Childhood Feelings and Unmet Childhood Needs - Breaking The Cycle of Conflict," you and your partner(s) can join Katie Ziskind, a Gottman trained marriage specialist, relationship coach for sexually avoidant couples, and certified sex therapy informed professional, as she delves into the complex interplay between childhood experiences, unmet needs, and patterns of conflict in adult relationships. When fighting, your partner(s), who you love, know exactly how to ruffle your feather, get under your skin, and trigger you to a state of yelling, anger, dysregulation, and extreme, intense emotions.
Growing up...
2024-04-1909 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind59: Navigating Rough Waters In Long-Term Relationships and Effective Ways To Stay Strong TogetherIn episode, "59: Navigating Rough Waters In Long-Term Relationships and Effective Ways To Stay Strong Together," of "All Things Love and Intimacy," Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, Gottman level two trained marriage specialist, certified sex therapy informed professional, delves deep into the heart of long-term relationships and explores the journey of reigniting passion and intimacy. Whether you've been together for decades or are navigating the challenges of maintaining connection in a committed partnership, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips for revitalizing the flame of passion. We go over unhealthy relationship dynamics that can sometimes come up in low moments...
2024-04-1831 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind58: Revitalize Passion By Holistically Understanding Low Desire in Relationship CoachingWelcome to episode, "58: Revitalize Passion By Holistically Understanding Low Desire in Relationship Coaching," on the "All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast where we delve deep into the complexities of human connection and the pursuit of lasting love. From a holistic perspective, Katie Ziskind addresses the root causes contributing to sexual avoidance and low desire. Being in a sexless marriage, in a cycle of sexual avoidance, constantly facing rejection, and feeling sexual anxiety can lead to disconnection, loneliness, insecurity, and emotional tension. She shares identifying signs that you may be in a sexless marriage and helps couples empathetically understand the...
2024-04-1556 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind57: Releasing The Mental Load For Relaxation and Sexual DesireWelcome back to a brief, but just as insightful episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy" with Katie Ziskind, Gottman level two marriage specialist, couples relationship coach, and sex and intimacy specialist. In episode 57, Katie Ziskind delves into the intricacies of mental load, responsibilities and the profound impact on hindering mental relaxation and sexual desire in your relationship.
Picture this: a cluttered mind filled with deadlines, responsibilities, parenting, planning, and never-ending to-do lists. This includes tasks such as scheduling appointments, making arrangements for events or gatherings, and coordinating family logistics like vacations or household chores. Balancing career...
2024-04-1207 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind56: Masturbation: Busting Myths, Banishing Shame, and Celebrating Self-LoveIn this thought-provoking episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," host Katie Ziskind dives deep into the often taboo subject of masturbation.
Breaking through the stigma, and religious trauma, which creates shame, guilt, and fear, Katie Ziskind uncovers common myths surrounding self-pleasure. She offers listeners a chance to reevaluate their shame-based and fear-based perspectives.
This episode uncovers the myths and misinformation regarding masturbation, often perpetuated by a strict, conservative, absence-oriented religious culture. Growing up in a strict, conservative, absence-oriented religious culture can lead to negative, fear-based, and false beliefs such as engaging in masturbation will...
2024-04-1042 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind55: Butt Play: Unlock The Pleasure of Anal Play and Have Positive Anal Sex ExperiencesWelcome to episode, "55: Butt Play: Unlock The Pleasure of Anal Play and Have Positive Anal Sex Experiences." Join host Katie Ziskind, a renowned sex and intimacy specialist and Gottman level two marriage and couples coach, as she delves into the intriguing world of anal play in this candid episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy." We often don't get a safe space to learn about how to take necessary precautions for a pleasurable butt sex experience. Due to a strict, conservative, religious culture, you may think of butt sex as taboo, dirty, or be afraid it will hurt. Whether...
2024-04-0837 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind54: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Predictors of Separation and DivorceWelcome to episode, "54: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Predictors of Separation and Divorce." Katie Ziskind, a seasoned Gottman level two relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist, guides you on your journey towards deeper connection and lasting love.
Katie Ziskind dives deep into the dynamics of healthy relationships by exploring the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, a concept coined by esteemed relationship experts Dr. Julie and John Gottman. These four destructive behaviors – criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling – have the potential to wreak havoc on even the most solid partnerships if left unchecked.
First up, crit...
2024-04-0457 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind53: When You Are Struggling with Alcoholism: Navigating Alcoholism In Your MarriageWelcome to episode, "53: When You Are Struggling with Alcoholism: Navigating Alcoholism In Your Marriage," where Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy marriage specialist and relationship coach explores the shame, guilt, and trauma associated with alcoholism. Alcoholism can lead to more marital conflicts, frustrating fights, emotional disconnection, and damage intimacy. Experiencing trauma and experiences where you felt hurt, betrayed, emotionally neglected, and abused can lead to numbing behaviors, negative coping mechanisms. Struggling with alcoholism, while it negatively affects your marriage, can be incredibly challenging, especially when compounded by feelings of shame, guilt, and past trauma. Alcoholism is a common way many...
2024-04-0117 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind52: Identifying Signs of Alcoholism and How Alcohol Creates Marital DisconnectionJoin us for episode, "52: Identifying Signs of Alcoholism and How Alcohol Creates Marital Disconnection" of the “All Things Love and Intimacy” podcast with your host, Katie Ziskind.
In this episode, Katie Ziskind delves into the complex and often misunderstood world of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a serious condition characterized by a problematic pattern of alcohol use that leads to significant impairment or distress.
Learn about warning signs of alcoholism. From increased tolerance and withdrawal symptoms to neglecting responsibilities and preoccupation with alcohol, these signal a problematic relationship with alcohol, and damage emotional intimacy.
Throughout the...
2024-03-2822 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind51: Emotional Healing SkillsJoin for episode, "51: Emotional Healing Skills" of the "All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast with Katie Ziskind, certified sex therapy informed professional, couples relationship coach, level 2 Gottman marriage specialist.
Katie Ziskind shares how co-creating emotional connection and emotional vulnerability are key elements for building sexual passion and erotic desire. Your cycles of sexual avoidance, sexual withdrawl, and sexual disconnection may be stemming from a lack of emotional intimacy and lack of emotional healing as a couple.
From a holistic relationship perspective, emotional connection and emotional intimacy support security and...
2024-03-2508 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind50: Shifting From Caring Touch To Sexually Arousing TouchWelcome to episode, "50: Shifting From Caring Touch To Sexually Arousing Touch." Katie Ziskind, your host, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, and Gottman level two marriage specialist, talks about challenges when it comes to sexual touch vs. caring touch in regards to emotional and sexual connection. In this milestone 50th episode, we embark on a transformative journey as we explore the common challenges and art of shifting from caring touch in your marriage to sexually arousing touch, which builds sexual desire.
Touch is a powerful form of communication that transcends words and fosters intimacy between partners...
2024-03-1839 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind49: Part 2: Grief, Loss, Complex Bereavement and Your Sex LifeWelcome back to "All Things Love and Intimacy" podcast with Katie Ziskind, where we dive deep into the complexities of relationships, emotions, and the human experience. Join us for Episode 49: "Part 2: Grief, Loss, Complex Bereavement and Your Sex Life."
In this highly anticipated follow-up to Episode 48, we continue our exploration of the profound intersection between grief, loss, and intimacy in relationships.
Grief and loss are universal experiences that touch every aspect of our lives, including our sexuality and intimate connections. In this candid and insightful episode, we delve deeper into the multifaceted ways in which...
2024-03-1816 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind48: Part 1: Grief, Loss, Complex Bereavement and Your Sex LifeIn episode "48: Part 1: Grief, Loss, Complex Bereavement and Your Sex Life" where Katie Ziskind, couples relationship coach, Gottman level two marriage specialist, sex and intimacy specialist, delves into the delicate intersection of grief, loss, complex bereavement, and your sex life. Join us as we explore how the profound emotional journey of mourning can impact your sexual desire, intimacy, and relationships. All of your emotions and feelings around grief are okay and welcome. You are not alone if you are grieving and feeling all the emotions that you feel.
From loss of interest and physical exhaustion to communication...
2024-03-1515 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind47: The Negative Fight Cycle and Emotionally Focused Skills and EducationWelcome to episode, "47: The Negative Fight Cycle and Emotionally Focused Skills and Education," of the "All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast with Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, couples sex and intimacy specialist, Gottman level two marriage therapist, wh specializes with couples needing emotional intimacy and closeness, as well as sexual intimacy and physical closeness. Katie Ziskind explores the intricacies of relationships and delve into the depths of human connection and talks about breaking the vicious cycle of conflict through emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT) frameworks.
In this podcast episode, you can learn about Sue Johnson's...
2024-03-1427 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind46: Heart to Heart: Mastering Emotional Intimacy & IntelligenceIn this episode of the "All Things Love and Intimacy" Podcast, join host Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, sex and intimacy specialist, and certified sex therapy informed professional, as she delves deep into the realms of emotional intimacy and emotional intelligence skills.
Without emotional intelligence, emotional communication, and emotional intimacy tools and skills, you might feel helpless, tired, overwhelmed, unwanted, anxious, frustrated regarding your marriage. There is hope when it comes to closing the emotional distance through learning playful emotional skills, which set you up for sexual connection too.
Prepare for a captivating exploration into the...
2024-03-0848 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind45: Stuck In A Cycle Of Sexual Avoidance and What Can You Do?In episode, "45: Why Are We Stuck In A Cycle Of Sexual Avoidance and What Can We Do?" of the "All Things Love and Intimacy" podcast, host Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, relationship coach, Gottman level two marriage therapist, dives deep into the intricate dynamics of sexually avoidant behaviors within marriages. It can be emotionally frustrating to be in a sexual standoff and feel like your sex life is not where you want it to be. There are many essential pieces discussed in this podcast episode that can be eye-opening and supportive when you or your spouse are struggling...
2024-03-0744 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind44: What Are The Five Types of Intimacy?In episode, "44: Five Types of Intimacy," of the "All Things Love and Intimacy," podcast, you can learn about the intricate aspects of what intimacy means for your couple bubble. Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, discusses the five facets of intimacy.
Intimacy in marriage encompasses far more than just physical closeness. It involves a deep emotional connection, trust, vulnerability, and mutual understanding between partners. Understanding the different types of intimacy helps you cultivate a more fulfilling, satisfying relationship.
Emotional intimacy refers to the...
2024-03-0625 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind43: Root Causes Of A Sexless Marriage and Regaining Sexual Playfulness and Emotional IntimacyWelcome to another insightful episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," the podcast where we dive deep into the complexities of relationships, intimacy, emotional expression, and sexual self-discovery. I'm your host, Katie Ziskind, a relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist, and Gottman level 2 couples coach, and in today's episode, we'll be exploring the root causes of a sexless marriage and strategies for regaining sexual playfulness and emotional intimacy. It can be painful emotionally to be in a sexless marriage. A lack of physical and sexual intimacy can lead to insecurity, low self-esteem, feelings of rejection, shame, guilt, and...
2024-03-0559 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind42: Break Avoidant Sexual Behaviors and Shift To PleasureIn episode, "42: Break Avoidant Sexual Behaviors and Shift To Pleasure," of the "All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast," with Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, she discusses the sexual standoff many long-term couples find themselves in and give practical tips as how to develop sexual and emotional intimacy. Does one of you want to have sex and the other not want to have sex? Have you forgotten how to be sexy and your erotic self? Feeling stuck in the companionship mode? Feeling stuck in the companionship mode? Have you found yourself feeling disconnected from your erotic self? Do you...
2024-02-2631 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind41: How Unmet Love Needs In Childhood Impact Your Secure BondWhen you or your spouse experience emotional neglect, ie, having an alcoholic parent, having a parent who has a gambling addiction, a drug addict, or parents or caregivers who justified physical abuse as punishment, these traumatic experiences leave you feeling hurt, upset, ignored, fearful, anxious, and like you didn't matter in childhood. In your marriage, current conflicts can you re-triggering these early attachment wounds and unmet love needs. Learning about your own and your spouse's unmet love you can help you form a secure emotional bond in your marriage.
Childhood experiences of emotional neglect, such as growing...
2024-02-2124 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind40: Developing Sexual Confidence and A Voice After Growing Up In A Strict, Religious, Conservative, Christian HomeWelcome to "All Things Love and Intimacy," where we delve into the transformative journey of breaking free from the constraints of strict religious upbringing to embrace authentic self-expression, sexuality, and confidence. In episode 40: Developing Sexual Confidence and A Voice After Growing Up In A Strict, Religious, Conservative, Christian Home, Katie Ziskind explores ways that you can overcome shame, guilt, anxiety, insecurity, and find your voice after being raised in a rigid, conservative, Christian environment. Women grow up very disconnected from their erotic, playful, and sexy side due to strict, religious messages. You may be disconnected from your sexual urges...
2024-02-1649 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind39: Navigating Sexual Performance Anxiety and Gaining Sexual ConfidenceIn episode 39 of the "All Things Love and Intimacy" podcast with Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, and sex and intimacy specialist, we dive into sexual performance anxiety and gaining sexual confidence. Sexual performance anxiety is a common psychological phenomenon characterized by feelings of stress, fear, or apprehension related to sexual activity. Sexual performance anxiety can make it hard to experience, express, give and receive sexual pleasure. You may get worried about the future, and not be able to live in the moment, which is necessary to enjoy pleasure. With sexual performance anxiety, you may start avoiding sexual experiences, even being...
2024-02-1426 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind38: Rekindling Sexual Intimacy and Passion By Working Through AngerIn episode 38 of Katie Ziskind's podcast, "All Things Love and Intimacy," as we explore a topic that many couples face but often find difficult to address: rekindling sexual intimacy and passion by working through anger. Anger is a powerful emotion that can create barriers to connection and intimacy in your marriage and relationship, especially in the bedroom. However, when approached with understanding and compassion, it can also be a catalyst for growth, intimacy, and transformation.
Join me, Katie Ziskind, relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist, as we delve into the complexities of navigating anger within the...
2024-02-0825 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind37: How To Develop Emotional Reassurance To Overcome Sexual HurdlesWelcome to episode 37 of "All Things Love and Intimacy," the podcast where we explore the intricate dance of relationships, and talk about emotional intimacy, and sexual growth. Katie Ziskind is a relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist, and she guides you through the journey of deepening your emotional connection and finding pleasure and fulfillment in your love life.
In episode 37, titled "How To Develop Emotional Reassurance To Overcome Sexual Hurdles," we delve into the essential role of emotional reassurance and emotional intimacy in navigating sexual challenges within your romantic relationship. Sexual intimacy is deeply intertwined with...
2024-02-0740 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind36: Rebuilding Together: Co-Regulation Strategies for Couples Post-TraumaIn episode 36, Katie Ziskind, relationship coach and sex and intimacy expert, delves into the intricate journey of rebuilding your relationship after trauma by focusing on the crucial concept of co-regulation. Trauma can deeply affect you and your relationship, often leaving lasting scars that require intentional healing efforts. We all go through various forms of trauma leaving the nervous system dysregulated and in a hyper alert state. Join us as we explore effective strategies and tools that couples can employ to navigate this challenging terrain together. From fostering open communication and empathy to cultivating a supportive environment for each other's...
2024-02-0624 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind35: The Heart and Heat in the Dance of IntimacyWelcome to episode 35 of "All Things Love and Intimacy" with your host, Katie Ziskind – the podcast where we unravel the complexities of relationships, sprinkle in a dash of passion, and explore the infinite connections between the heart and heat in the dance of intimacy. In this episode, we're diving deep into the mesmerizing infinity sign that intertwines emotional intimacy, emotional bonding, and emotional security with the dynamic world of sexual desire, frequency of sex, and the challenges of breaking a frustrating sexual cycle.
Picture the dance floor of your relationship, where the rhythm of emotions and the be...
2024-02-0512 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind34: The Roots of Infidelity with Katie Ziskind, Relationship Coach, and Sex & Intimacy SpecialistWelcome to a thought-provoking episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," where your insightful host, Katie Ziskind, a distinguished relationship coach and sex & intimacy specialist, guides you through a nuanced exploration of a topic that often remains shrouded in complexity.There are many aspects that contribute to infidelity. With empathy, understanding, and a wealth of expertise, Katie invites listeners to unravel the layers of emotions, desires, and circumstances that form the roots of infidelity.Drawing on her extensive experience working with individuals and couples, Katie navigates through the intricacies of relationships, shedding light on the...
2024-01-2919 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind33: Co-Creating Sexual Intimacy
Welcome to Episode 33 of "All Things Love and Intimacy," the podcast that explores the diverse realms of human connection, hosted by the insightful Katie Ziskind, a seasoned relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist. In this episode, titled "Co-Creating Sexual Intimacy," Katie guides you through a transformative exploration of partnership, communication, and the art of building a shared, satisfying sexual connection.
Discover the power of co-creation as Katie shares invaluable insights and practical tips on how couples can collaboratively navigate the intricate landscape of sexual intimacy. This episode is a journey into understanding the...
2024-01-2631 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind32: The Art of Extending Foreplay - Elevating Intimacy with 45-90 Minutes of Passionate ConnectionWelcome to Episode 32 of "All Things Love and Intimacy," hosted by the insightful Katie Ziskind, a distinguished relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist. In this episode, we delve into a captivating exploration of the often underestimated and undervalued aspect of physical intimacy—foreplay. Titled "The Art of Extending Foreplay - Elevating Intimacy with 45-90 Minutes of Passionate Connection," this episode promises to redefine your understanding of prelude to intimacy and unveil the transformative potential it holds.
Katie Ziskind, with her wealth of experience in guiding individuals and couples towards more fulfilling relationships, takes you on a jo...
2024-01-2539 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind31: A 30 Minute Guided Meditation For Relaxation, Present Moment Thinking, Lowering Anxiety, and Mind Body ConnectionWelcome to episode 31, a deeply relaxing and enriching episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," where your host Katie Ziskind, a highly respected relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist, guides you through a 30-minute transformative meditation experience. In Episode 31, Katie Ziskind invites you to embark on a journey of self-discovery and relaxation, exploring the profound connection between your mind and body. Mindfulness can help with lowering anxiety, generally, and sexual performance anxiety, and enjoy all of life's experiences more, including sexual activities.
In this special episode, Katie Ziskind draws upon her expertise, curating a guided meditation...
2024-01-2432 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind30: Self-Care Tips To Bring Your Best Self to Your Romantic RelationshipWelcome to episode 30 of "All Things Love and Intimacy" with your host Katie Ziskind, a renowned relationship coach, and sex and intimacy specialist.
In Episode 30, we delve into the essential topic of self-care and its profound impact on your romantic relationship, sex, life, and couple bubble. Discover practical, holistic, and insightful self-care tips that will empower you to bring your best self to your relationship, which improves your sexual intimacy.
Join Katie Ziskind, a renowned relationship coach, and sex and intimacy specialist, as she shares expert advice on nurturing your well-being, fostering a deeper connection...
2024-01-2423 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind29: Sexual Performance AnxietyJoin us for episode 29 of "All Things Love and Intimacy" with Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, and sex and intimacy specialist. Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, and sex and intimacy specialist, opens the discussion regarding sexual performance anxiety. Sexual performance anxiety is a common concern that many men experience at some point in their lives.
Sexual performance anxiety can lead to relationship distress, distance, sexual avoidance, and sexual rejection. You can learn about how your sexual performance anxiety and persistent fear or worry about your sexual performance, leads to stress, tension, and a negative impact on overall sexual well-being.
2024-01-2243 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind28: 6 Ways To Build IntimacyKatie Ziskind, relationship coach, and sex and intimacy specialist, shares six ways to build intimacy for couples. Many couples are struggling with emotional bonding, relationship security and need help improving intimacy. When you improve your intimacy, you open up, become vulnerable, and you are letting your protective walls down. Doing so allows you and your partner to work together to create a resilient relationship and feel connected on a deep level.
You can build intimacy in your relationship by holding hands, having long hugs, and incorporating more touch every day. Talk about all of your emotions together...
2024-01-2012 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind27: Reduce Criticism, Anger, and Defensivness By Doing ThisIn episode 27 of "All Things Love and Intimacy" with Katie Ziskind, relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist, you can learn about identifying core emotions, underneath reactive emotions. Doing so is key in centering, grounding, and speaking respectfully to each another. You may get defensive, critical, angry, frustrated, and withdraw emotionally due to being in a fight, flight, freeze survival state. Respect is essential in building a secure connection and positive cycle. “Hurt people, hurt people.”
For example, feeling hurt, ignored, jealous, insecurity, inadequate, rejected, insignificant, sad, fear, shame, regret, or betrayed may come out as hostility and...
2024-01-2024 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind26: Part 2: Building Sexual Confidence and Improving Physical IntimacyWelcome back to "All Things Love and Intimacy" with your host Katie Ziskind, a renowned relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist. In Episode 26, we continue our exploration of a topic close to many hearts – Building Sexual Confidence and Improving Physical Intimacy (Part 2). Join us as we delve deeper into the intricacies of developing sexual confidence and enhancing the physical aspects of your intimate relationships.
In this highly anticipated follow-up, Katie Ziskind shares expert insights, practical advice, and real-life strategies to help you further build sexual confidence. Discover how to overcome inhibitions, communicate openly with your partner, an...
2024-01-2023 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind25: Part 1: Building Sexual Confidence and Improving Physical IntimacyKatie Ziskind, relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist, shares ways how you can build sexual confidence. Building sexual confidence is a personal journey that involves self-discovery, communication, and embracing your own sexuality. Here are some ways to enhance your sexual confidence that we discuss in this podcast episode.
Understand the Impact of a Strict, Religious Upbringing: Growing up with shame, guilt, fear, and anxiety around your sexuality and sexual urges leads to a lack of confidence in your sexuality. As a result, there may be inner conflict with expressing your sexuality and being open in sexual...
2024-01-2017 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind24: Nutrition and Self-CareWelcome to Episode 24 of "All Things Love and Intimacy," where we embark on a holistic exploration of the profound connection between nutrition and self-care in the realm of love and intimacy. In this episode, we unravel the intricate ways in which the choices we make in our diet and self-care routines impact not only our physical well-being but also our relationships and intimate connections.
Join us as we delve into the significance of nourishing your body for optimal health and well-being. Katie Ziskind shares insights into how nutrition plays a vital role in supporting not just physical...
2024-01-1910 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind23: 15 Tips To Increase Sexual Desire, Libido, and PassionWelcome to Episode 23 of "All Things Love and Intimacy," where we dive into the realm of passion and desire with 15 tips to enhance your sexual experience. In this episode, Katie Ziskind, relationship coach and sex and intimacy specialist, unravels the secrets to stoking the flames of desire, rekindling libido, and fostering a deeper sense of intimacy in your romantic relationship.
Join us as we explore a variety of practical, playful, sexy, and insightful tips that cater to diverse needs and preferences. From communication strategies that enhance emotional connection to exploring new dimensions of pleasure, Katie Ziskind, relationship...
2024-01-1942 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind22: Rise Above Anger: Express Core Emotions and Your Deeper NeedsWelcome to Episode 22 of "All Things Love and Intimacy," with Katie Ziskind, where we embark on a transformative journey to rise above anger and delve into the profound realm of expressing core emotions and deeper needs. In this episode, we unravel the complexities of anger, recognizing it not as a standalone emotion but as a powerful indicator of unmet needs and underlying feelings such as guilt, shame, inferiority, grief, sadness, hurt, rejection, ignored, and insignificant.
Join us as we explore the importance of understanding and expressing core emotions that often hide beneath the surface of anger. Discover...
2024-01-1929 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind18: How To Repair After A Conflict and How This Improves Your Sex LifeIn Episode 18 of "All Things Love and Intimacy," join Katie Ziskind, your relationship and sex coach, as we navigate the delicate terrain of conflict resolution and its profound impact on your intimate connection in your bedroom. This episode is a roadmap to repairing and strengthening your relationship after facing conflicts and hurt, with a special focus on how this transformative process can significantly enhance your sex life.
Key Highlights:
The Art of Repairing:
Explore effective strategies for repairing and rebuilding trust after conflicts. Understand the importance of acknowledging and addressing emotional...
2024-01-1625 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind14: What Is Emotional Intimacy When it Comes To Attachment StylesIn Episode 14 of "All Things Love and Intimacy," join Katie Ziskind, your trusted relationship and sex coach, as we unravel the profound impact of attachment styles on emotional intimacy. We delve into the intricate dance of childhood attachment bonds, exploring the dynamics of anxious and avoidant styles, and ultimately, discovering the path to building a secure, safe attachment with your partner through the power of co-regulation.
Understanding Attachment Styles:
Navigate the foundational concepts of attachment theory, examining how early childhood experiences shape our emotional bonds.
Explore the characteristics of anxious and avoidant attachment styles, shedding light...
2024-01-1433 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind10: Giving and Receiving Oral SexIn this daring episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," Katie Ziskind dives into the often-taboo, yet crucial, realm of giving and receiving oral sex.
Join us for an open and honest conversation as we demystify this intimate aspect of sexual relationships, providing insights, tips, and a healthy dose of encouragement.
Katie Ziskind is a sex educator and relationship coach and talks about oral sex and pleasure. From communication techniques to fostering comfort and enthusiasm, this episode guides you through the art of creating an intimate and enjoyable experience for both partners.
Whether...
2024-01-1236 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind7: Low Sexual Desire and Low Libido and Tips To Rebuild DesireIn this candid and informative episode of "All Things Love and Intimacy," with Katie Ziskind, relationship, sex, and intimacy coach, we delve into the often sensitive and complex realm of low sexual desire and libido within relationships.
If you or your partner are grappling with a diminished passion and low desire, don't worry—you're not alone.
Join us as we explore the various factors contributing to low sexual desire and, more importantly, unveil practical tips to reignite your flame.
Katie Ziskind, a relationship and sexual health specialist, offers holistic, compassionate insights into understanding th...
2024-01-1134 minAll Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind4: Signs of Pornography Addiction and How This Hinders Intimacy In Your RelationshipNavigating the Impact of Pornography Addiction on Intimacy
In this eye-opening podcast episode, Katie Ziskind delves into the sensitive yet crucial topic of pornography addiction and its profound effects on intimacy within relationships.
Katie Ziskind shed light on the subtle signs of pornography, masturbation, and sex addiction, offering valuable insights into recognizing when a seemingly harmless habit may be spiraling into something more detrimental.
Join us as we explore the intricate ways in which pornography can hinder genuine emotional connections, erode trust, and impede the development of...
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All Things Love and Intimacy with Katie Ziskind2: Overcome Vaginal Dryness and Enjoy Penetrative Sex with These TipsIs penetrative sex painful, uncomfortable, and do you just not enjoy it? Welcome to another transformative episode of "The All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast" with Katie Ziskind, Relationship Coach. In this insightful episode, we tackle a common concern that many vulva owners and women face: "Overcome Vaginal Dryness and Enjoy Penetrative Sex."
We discuss enjoying 45-90 minutes of foreplay every time before considering sex, using an external lubricant every time Incorporate sex toys, having at least one clitoral orgasm before penetration, role-playing and being imaginative about fantasies, reading erotic books to get in...
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