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Advice Not GivenLet's Tie a Bow on 2020We're finally going to wrap season ONE and take a short sabbatical. Here's a quick check in and thoughts on that, and some suggestions on how to not miss us too hard while we're away from the mic. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)2020-11-2400 minAdvice Not GivenGearing up for the HolidaysJoin us as we gear up for the approaching holidays. They look quite a bit different than last year, but we're going do our best to heed our own advice here. How are you planning to celebrate all of the upcoming holidays (safely)? Fresh Market Thanksgiving meals - for real, y'all. The Accusation Audit - Chris Voss EJ's video on talking about issues instead of the candidates if the election comes upLiturgies for ParentsEvery Moment HolyThe Sarcastic LutheranSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)2020-11-1700 minAdvice Not GivenLife After the ElectionThis week we're decompressing from the Election on our latest monthly State of the Union episode. First up we're tackling local news (our own personal "happies"), State (what's new with Milspo Gurus), and Federal (election, duh..). Never Split the DifferenceJenny Colgan Bookshttps://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/17/books/review/let-the-people-pick-the-president-jesse-wegman.htmlhttps://fairfight.com/about-stacey-abrams/https://securefamiliesinitiative.org/Parlerhttps://www.cnn.com/2020/11/08/us/arkansas-police-chief-violence-parler-invs/https://www.instagram.com/mosheh/https://news3lv.com/news/local/military-spouse-accused-in-gop-claim-of-voter-fraud-speaks-outhttps...2020-11-1000 minAdvice Not GivenHow Schitt's Creek Mirrors Military LifeEw, David! We have been waiting a long time for this: we are talking all about the Rose family and Schitt's Creek. More specifically, we are putting our own spin on how the story arc of Schitt's Creek has a lot of similarities to what military life is like. We dive deep into being a fish out of water, new in town, roles different family members take on, self-discovery and awareness, personal growth, and for good measure we give a rundown on all of the characters' Enneagram types. Mentions: Schitt's Creek on NetflixBest...2020-11-0300 minAdvice Not GivenMilitary Spouse UnemploymentAre you considering jumping into a job search? Recently PCS'd and settled and ready to begin looking? About to PCS and wondering what the job market may look like at your next duty station? Or has a global pandemic caused you to consider rejoining the workforce until economic times are more steady? Join us this week as we unpack Deloitte's Insights findings on "Military Spouse Unemployment," where they explore solutions to a local problem of national importance. Mentions: ANG EP 007: PaychecksANG EP 011: Knowing When to Lay Low, and When to Shine...2020-10-2700 minAdvice Not GivenThis or That: Fall EditionLevity? Yes, please! Let's debate PSL (pumpkin spice lattes) instead of two other "P-words" we're purposefully avoiding this week. We want to know what your This or That votes are for our three categories: Fall FeelsWarm and FuzziesHalloween TraditionsSo, listen in and then head over to our Instagram account for your own This or That story tile to share your pair of pennies. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)2020-10-2000 minAdvice Not GivenOctober State of the UnionJoin us for our monthly State of the Union address. We are tackling the Local, State and Federal levels of updates we think you'll love. Local:Kellie and her daughter Hannah have had a HUGE week with Dr. Jill Biden, including a social media shoutoutClaire gives an update on reactivating her Tennessee Teaching License, the process of working with a workplace initiative grant, and facing rejection throughout the employment processState:Milspo Gurus updateMilspo Gurus Patreon community Federal:Deep dive discussion of the nuance of social media influencers, their #thisiswhy2020...2020-10-1300 min
The Sweet Tea Shakespeare HoursCocktail Hours Special Edition | Shakespeare & Enneagram Pt 1Since we don't have a Cocktail Hours lined up for you this week, we've decided to release an exclusive taste of our Shakespeare & Enneagram podcast series. In this episode, Jeremy Fiebig – STS Artistic Director, Claire Martin - Assistant Artistic Director, and STS Board Member Kellie Artis discuss the signature traits of Type One. Popcorn is suggested as Jeremy and Claire then duke it out as they make their case for which of Shakespeare’s characters fit this Enneagram type. You’ll end this episode with deeper insights into Shakespeare, and by way of his characters, a little someth...2020-10-0700 minAdvice Not GivenSurge Capacity, Ambiguous Loss, and Prepping Your Winter Pandemic Life KitHappy Six Month Pandemi-versary! Join us as we share our insights on some of the commentary and observations of real experts at this half-year mark of pandemic life. We offer some of our tips and tricks for making sure your resilience bank account is full as well as some practical things we are doing to care for ourselves physically and emotionally as the shorter days of fall and winter approach. Mentions: Shoutout to Patron-only live "Group Therapy" video call we had with our pals. Join us as a Podcast Pal for the next one...2020-10-0600 minAdvice Not GivenHamilton and the EnneagramHey! We are NOT throwing away our shot! We decided to do a Hamilton deep dive and break the first rule of Enneagram typing. Listen in to see if you agree or disagree with what numbers we've assigned to Alexander Hamilton, George Washington, Eliza Schuyler, Aaron Burr, and more! Mentions: ANG episode 28: Enneagram and relationshipsSweet Tea Shakespeare and the Enneagram Personality types of the Founding FathersRelevant Mag: "The Enneagram Type of Every Hamilton Character"My Dear HamiltonLeann + Michelle: "Enneagram Types + Hamilton"The Bible Binge, Faith Adjacent: Hamilton (Erin Moon)Support the show...2020-09-2944 minAdvice Not GivenHousehold Labor, Pandemic Parenting, and Glass CeilingsToday's main conversation and its tangents stem from a listener who tagged us in an article on MarieClaire.com titled, "Your Spouse is Your Glass Ceiling." It's a thought provoking interview with author Caitlin Moran (More Than a Woman) that tackles the idea that you are only as successful as your spouse is supportive. We think there are several more layers to peel back - especially in military marriages - so tune in to hear our take. Fortune: COVID-19 is causing a backslide in workplace gender equality. Here’s how to stop it...2020-09-2241 minAdvice Not GivenSeptember State of The UnionWelcome to our new monthly series: The State of the Union! We are kicking around some of the topics that you are writing in about AND the state of many current affairs. Today’s topics include Paige’s email question about the Payroll Tax Deferral’s impact on military families, the increasing need (and how) to be more aware of social media use during an election year, Kellie’s call to action to military spouses to volunteer to work at the polls, and finally a look at the physical symptoms of longterm pandemic life. Mentions: 2020-09-1546 minAdvice Not GivenMLMs in the Military Spouse Community: Follow up to "Triangle of Opportunity"Apparently, MLMs are a hot topic with listeners and we felt it prudent to release a follow up episode to reveal what feedback we received from EP 55: Triangle of Opportunity. We've heard from many of you how you've been burned, and how you've prospered under this business model. We've also learned a thing or two about what goes on behind the scenes. We also brought in a guest who is a successful distributor/brand rep for a MLM to add her perspective to the conversation - and you might be surprised by what she has to say.2020-09-0850 minAdvice Not Given[NEW PODCAST] The Teacher's Lounge by Milspo GurusYou're in for a treat today, listeners! Tune in for a sneak peek at a brand new bonus podcast series, The Teacher's Lounge. Our own resident education guru, Claire Wood, is going to be encouraging us twice a month with insights, tips, best practices, and support for those of us with students still in the home. No matter what your school situation is right now, we're all now faced with taking on at least some teacher-like duties - so why not create our own Teacher's Lounge for support? For more information on...2020-09-0616 minAdvice Not GivenTriangle of OpportunityYep. We're going there. You ask - we answer! This week we're responding to a Patreon supporter's topic request and tackling MLMs. Multi-level marketing, network marketing, direct sales, etc..., are a few names for a hugely popular business "opportunity" amidst the military spouse community. You know the drill (and may even be involved with some/several) of these companies. Start your morning with Herbalife supplements or Shakeology smoothies, work out with P90X (is that still a thing?) wearing your Zyia, get ready with a your Monat/Rodan + Fields/Beauty Counter/Younique, clean up with Norwex, pull...2020-09-0137 minAdvice Not GivenIt is what it is. Or is it?Change is the one constant, but in this season does it feel to you that we're being bombarded with change? How can we flex that resiliency muscle to roll with the tumultuous world we're experiencing? How important is it to find perspective? How do the stories we tell ourselves about how we handle change affect our ability to navigate changes in your life? And what about our memories... how reliable are they? Join us for a discussion about accepting change and moving forward through tough times. Because goodness knows we're likely all in the same boat...2020-08-2537 minAdvice Not GivenWhat's Next?Listen in to hear what Kellie and Claire have been up to over the summer (while you were hard at work uncovering your Enneagram type with our Summer of Self-Awareness!), and what the plans look like going forward! Oh, and we low-key relaunched our ECOURSE - Becoming Your Own Guru. It's got a fresh new look, some added content, and a cool new price tag... If you enjoyed our enneagram episodes, you'll LOVE this deeper dive into how the enneagram can be used as a tool for navigating the complexities of the military spouse lifestyle, interpersonal...2020-08-1823 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Type Nine | The PeacemakerFinally! The Enneagram Nine. We've reached the end of our Summer of Self Awareness series uncovering the nine Enneagram types, and we finally arrive at the Type 9, Peacemaker. The Peacemaker needs to avoid conflict. Nines are laid back, accommodating, and generally unaffected by life. A deep desire to keep the peace can cause Nines to lose themselves and merge into the opinions and feelings of others. They can struggle to make decisions and can be frustratingly ambivalent, often feeling torn by even the simplest of choices. Nines in health are highly empathic, diplomatic, and flexible.2020-08-1128 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Type Eight | The ChallengerBrace yourself for a powerful discussion about the Type Eight - Challenger. Jk, we know they're big teddy bears deep down. Often stereotyped as bullies or "too much", let's work through why they're perceived as such and explore how to embrace them for exactly what they are! The Challenger, or Asserter, needs to avoid feeling weak or vulnerable. Eights are intense, reliable, and mighty. Sometimes confrontational, they don’t necessarily have an urge to lead but will jump in if a vacuum presents itself. Dualistic and absolute in their thinking, grey areas are unacceptable and defied. Relationships ca...2020-08-0434 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Type Seven | The EnthusiastWhere's the party?? HERE's the party, right here! 🎉Today we're talking all about our fun-loving Enneagram Sevens - The Enthusiasts! They're the life of the party and an absolute joy to be around, but they too have their burdens to carry. Listen to Claire and Kellie break down the type structure of this type and hear from Erika Tebbens (type 7 - with purple hair, I must add 😜) about what it's like to be a 7. The Enthusiast needs to be happy and avoid pain. Sevens define FOMO (fear of missing out). They radiate joy and optimism, mainly because they r...2020-07-2831 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Type Six | The Loyalist"What's the worst that could happen?"... said no Enneagram 6, EVER. They already know. And have already prepared for it! Join us for a candid discussion on what's it's like to be a Loyalist on the Enneagram from our resident six, Claire, and our guest contributor, Jen McDonald. The Loyalist needs to feel secure. Sixes are likely the most common Enneagram type and are devoted, cooperative, and warmhearted. Their thoughts are often dominated with planning for worst-case scenarios, and they can exhibit anxiety and even paranoia when in the lower levels of health. Doubt and suspicion can pose...2020-07-2132 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Type Five | The ObserverJoin us on a journey into the depths of the Enneagram 5 mind on today's conversation about The Observer. Co-host, Kellie, and contributor, Lala, provide insight on what it's like to take up residence in the thinking center. The Observer, or Investigator, needs to perceive. They are objective, rational, and have a lust for acquiring knowledge. They fear being incompetent and avoid depending on others. Fives can withdraw from social interaction and often escape to their minds. In relationships, they can seem detached and are often mis-understood due to their analytical nature. It takes a lot of...2020-07-1433 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Type Four | The IndividualistReady for the most special unicorn type of all time?? Well, it's the Four, but don't tell them there are more than one of them! Jk. We love our Individualists! The Romantic, or Individualist, needs to be special. They’re in touch with ALL the feels and have an impressive emotional range. They can be melancholic and moody, and their basic fear is of being perceived as ordinary. Fours are creative and uber-expressive. In relationships, they can be melodramatic and high-maintenance, but also incredibly empathic and comfortable dealing with hard stuff. If you need someone just to si...2020-07-0728 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Type Three | The AchieverToday we're going to do the BEST job of explaining the Enneagram Three... Or at least we would if either of us were type three. Listen in to insights from our resident THREE, Jessica Bertsch of Powerhouse Planning. The Achiever, or Performer, needs to succeed. They’re charismatic, image-conscious, and highly driven. They seek admiration and acceptance and can paint themselves with any brush to pull it off. They avoid failure at all costs, and fear being exposed as a fraud. Threes seek undemanding relationships, and tend to do feelings rather than feel them. Healthy Threes selflessly ac...2020-06-3034 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Type Two | The Helper"I get by with a little help from my friends!" Don't we all? Well, that's exactly what we're talking about today - the Helper. The Helper needs to be needed. They care deeply and have the heart to help. Twos can instinctively identify and provide comfort to those in need, but sometimes their generosity can be self-serving. Maintaining and recognizing healthy boundaries can be a challenge for Twos in a relationship, and they often avoid acknowledging their own needs. Healthy Twos are loving, warm, and make wonderful friends.Just in case you may have missed...2020-06-2332 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Type One | The ReformerWe're kicking off our Enneagram Summer of Self-Awareness with a conversation about Reformers and our friend Kim's insights about what it's like to live life dominant in Type One. The core motivation, or need, for an Enneagram Type One is to be perfect. Idealistic, ethical, and self-controlled, Ones are constantly looking to improve or “set-to-rights” their surroundings. They are sometimes seen as hypercritical and fixated and seek to avoid fault or blame. Relationships are difficult when they resist the vulnerability essential for intimacy. Criticism is unbearable for Ones, and the fear of failure can be paralyzing. In heal...2020-06-1632 minAdvice Not GivenEnneagram Summer Series Intro + Addressing SkepticsBuckle up for a trip down the self-awareness highway! This summer we're launching a stay-cation of discovery of our inner landscapes using the Enneagram of Personality. Over the course of the next nine weeks, we'll introduce listeners of each type, and dive a little deeper into what makes us tick. This particular series will be geared toward anyone with a curious interest in the system all the way to those who have a good grasp on their numbers. Also, what we say to folks who are reticent to embracing the Enneagram as a self-discovery tool (and...2020-06-0938 minAdvice Not GivenA note from Kellie and Claire.We took a pause this week to listen, engage, and evaluate the ways in which our platform and podcast can stand in solidarity with the Black community, and are sharing those commitments with you today. We also invite you, listeners, to explore your own hearts to confront bias, challenge your own comfortable silence, stand with us as we affirm that Black Lives Matter. I am the Problem by Kellie ArtisAnti-Racism Resources75 Things White People Can Do for Racial JusticeThe Diversity MovementBe the Bridge2020-06-0712 minAdvice Not GivenFinancial Self-Awareness with Lacey Langford, The Military Money ExpertMindfulness with MoneyThis week we are joined by The Military Money Expert, Lacey Langford and our convo is all about the benjamins. And yes, please brace yourselves for bad hip hop puns. Why do we have such a personal attachment to our financial situations? Why is there such a stigma around money? And what can we do better? All this and more on this episode of Advice Not Given. Mentions: Financial Peace University (FPU)Money and Happiness Threshold ($105K)Mo’ Mo...2020-05-2658 minAdvice Not GivenThe Enneagram and Identity with Chris HeuertzWhat can the Enneagram teach us as military spouses about our struggle with a sense of lost identity, coping with shifting environments and stress, navigating transitions? A lot, actually. Author, speaker, teacher, and mentor, Chris Heuertz joins the podcast for an entrancing conversation about the Enneagram. We also get a preview to new concepts and practices appearing in his new book, The Enneagram of Belonging: A Compassionate Journey of Self-Acceptance. Learn more about the ABC's - Affirmations we need to make, Beliefs we have to correct, and Confessions that free us - of...2020-05-1956 minAdvice Not GivenDealing with Lack of ClosureAdvice Not Given “Intolerance of Uncertainty”Advice Not Given Interview with Kelsy TimasFacebook Will Now Offer to Hide Your Exes from You“Closing the Restaurant That Was My Life for 20 Years” (NYT Daily)Advice Not Given Interview with Tara BremerWant to hear the content of our Becoming Your Own Guru Course? Join us on Patreon for all access!Have something to say about your Enneagram type for our upcoming Summer of Self-Awareness? Record a short voice memo and email us at kellie@milspogurus.com or clair...2020-05-1225 minAdvice Not GivenTransitioning from isolation into... what, exactly?As we transition out of spring and into summer, what are we expecting? Claire and Kellie check in with listeners, discuss the "re-opening" of the country, and wonder what boundaries others are observing since there's mostly radio silence on social media. Mentions: The Daily: The Governor and The ProtestorFocaccia GardensWho you should let into your Coronavirus quarantine orbit? Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)2020-05-0541 minAdvice Not GivenUndone in EnnuiThis week we're discussing the stages, cycles, and stasis of this pandemic and isolation. "Life creates itself in delirium and is undone in ennui" - Emil Cioran, Romanian philosopher with a penchant for nihilism. You, know... Just keeping it light today. ;)Mentions:Intuitive EatingKübler-Ross Model: 5 Stages of GriefThe Liturgists, “Grief”“Ennui”- /änˈwē/ a feeling of being bored and mentally tired caused by having nothing interesting or exciting to doForbes: Flatten, Fight, Emerge“How Brands Are Shifting Ad Campaigns Amid the COVID-19 Outbreak”Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)2020-04-2833 minAdvice Not GivenWe just want our windows back.And why Claire is pressing shower curtains. Mentions:Cape Fear Regional TheaterSavanna Kaye PhotographyScience Mike’s Book: You’re a Miracle (and a Pain in the Ass)The Office: The Untold Story of the Greatest Sitcom of the 2000sSome Good NewsMelatonin Wine Monitor VideoSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)2020-04-2149 minAdvice Not GivenThe Great PauseMentions: April 12 Weather + Easter tornadoesGrief during social distancingEnneagram types in stressMilspo Gurus Enneagram Milspo SnapshotsBrené Brown’s podcast, Unlocking Us: Anxiety, Calm, + Over/Under-functioningApple, Google, and the Coronavirus HBO’s Westworld“Prepare for the Ultimate Gaslighting”Kellie’s favorite 1990s iconSend us your Welfare Check to kellie@milspogurus.com or claire@milspogurus.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)2020-04-1449 minAdvice Not Given#AloneTogetherWe're back for another Welfare Check episode, and this time we brought friends! Listen in to our check in with each other, and hear how some of our listeners are also doing. Mentions:Kanban Method (Project Management System)“That Discomfort You’re Feeling is Grief”Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the ScoreLori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneANG, Drink Less (Episode 21) Drinker’s Helper appMilspouse Matters, Temporary Homeschooling During the Coronavirus Pandemic#alonetogetherPlausible DeniabilityThe Big ThreeGet to Work BookFocus on What You Can ControlSend us YOUR UPDATESupport...2020-04-0749 minAdvice Not GivenHey All You Cool Cats and KittensIt's time for another Corona Virus Welfare Check, and lucky for you we've had time to binge everyone's obsession -- The Tiger King on Netflix. As we enter week three (for most of us) of quarantine/shelter-in-place/social distancing, Claire and Kellie check in with each other and compare what coping strategies, impulse purchases, and nonsense distractions are helping pass the time and alleviate anxiety. We actually packed a lot into this conversation, as well as featuring some advice and checkins with a couple of listeners! MentionsThe Berkey Water Purifier...2020-03-3158 minAdvice Not GivenWelfare Check: March 24We decided to break format to make space for the events of the world and honor the emotions we're experiencing during the Coronavirus outbreak. So, we'll be doing weekly "Welfare Checks" with each other and with all of you for the foreseeable future. These episodes will be short and sweet, and we'll strive to bring you something to smile about and appreciate as together we navigate complex feelings, anxiety, lack of focus, and who knows what else. Also, we want to hear from you! What advice do you have for others? How...2020-03-2419 minAdvice Not GivenSPECIAL EP: Come Social Distance With Us**BONUS EPISODE**Our "No Advice | Just Opinions" podcast is typically reserved for our Patreon Subscribers, but we recorded this one as a departure from our regularly scheduled content on Advice Not Given. We wanted to add some thoughts to what's going on in the world to hopefully provide some solace for those making the unpopular and uncomfortable choice to follow extreme social distancing (as Claire and I both are). Enjoy! And stay home. ;) We mixed things up today and hosted a Facebook livestream of our recording of this episode, and we'll also...2020-03-1846 minAdvice Not GivenMindset and Mindfulness | Actual Advice Guest Kelsy TimasWhat areas of your life do you need to recognize where you need to “quit forcing it?” Learn how mindfulness and recognizing natural life patterns may help you give yourself the patience, grace, and love you need to relinquish that need for control.Mentions: Kelsey Timas of Guiding Wellnessseven year cycles of lifeshadow sideRichard Rohr, Universal ChristKellie and Claire’s conversation (starts at 42:50)The number seven in the BibleShakespeare’s Seven Ages of ManYou are not a human doing. You are a human being!Actual Advice Guest: Kelsey Timas Kelsy Ti...2020-03-171h 00Advice Not GivenMindful (Time) Management | Actual Advice Guest Lauren RothlisbergerHow are you maximizing your personal productivity? Join us as we share some of our favorite productivity hacks to help manage time and most of all set us up to be living out our priorities. Mentions: Keep a digital profile for each of your own “personas” (Chrome extensions) Time BlockingLast Pass password keeperKeep a portable version of hard copies of vital documents Turbo Scan and Genius ScanWunderlist“The Sunday Night Meeting” Write the vision and make it plainApple PayLaunch Notebook (transcripts, ACT scores, test scores, online account passwords)Seasons of My Mi...2020-03-1052 minAdvice Not GivenMindful (Military) Moving | Actual Advice Guest Christa CurtisThere is so much to consider when you have to relocate. We share some practical steps to free up your physical and mental bandwidth by being mindful in your planning and solutions to this major life change.Mentions:Episode 25 Settling Your Space with Tara BremerKellie’s day job (MILLIE)Already--But Not Yet (Claire’s personal blog post about moving)Recovery From RelocationJordan Jean blog (Air Force spouse selling fully furnished house)PCSing With KidsPCS BrainThe Organized MomActual Advice Guest: Christa Curtis Web: Permanent Change of Storing 2020-03-0350 minAdvice Not GivenKnow Thy Body, Know Thyself | Actual Advice from Dr. Laurel ProulxHave you ever connected intimacy disconnects to how connected you are to your body? Join us for a grown up “sex talk” as we tackle common intimacy blocks and why we think we sometimes can’t quite get there… And be sure to stick around for Actual Advice from Dr. Laurel Proulx, PT, DPT, OCS. She's here to talk all things from the "nipples to the knees." Mentions:Grace and Frankie on NetflixThe goop lab with Gwyneth Paltrow on Netflix (NSFW)Great thought piece on Purity Culture and shameAdvice from Corie Weathers from Episode...2020-02-251h 03Advice Not GivenThe Enneagram and Relationships | Actual Advice Guest Sarajane CaseDo you know your Enneagram number? If so, now what? Listen in to see how knowing your Hornevian and Harmonic Grouping can help you get your needs met in relationships with others as well as serve you in conflict resolution. And stick around for our conversation with Sarajane Case of Enneagram and Coffee for her input on the importance of knowing your enneagram type in relationships. Mentions:Why the Enneagram? (ANG Episode 4)Milspo Gurus Becoming Your Own Guru eCourseEnneagram Hornevian Groups (Compliant 1-2-6; Assertive 3-7-8; Withdrawn 4-5-9)Enneagram Harmonic Groups (Positive...2020-02-1846 minAdvice Not GivenExtended Family Relationships + Parenting | Actual Advice Guest Corie Weathers, LPCDealing with and loving extended family members and parenting can be challenging. Give yourself the same grace and benefit of the doubt you’d give your best friend. Mentions:Parent or Friend?Play the long gameTristen WatsonEmoji your people in your phoneSacred Spaces (Corie’s book) Corie’s podcast interview with Kim Weathers (her mother in law)InDependent Wellness Summit 2020Actual Advice Guest:Corie Weathers, LPC2015 AFI Military Spouse of the Year, & Author.Website: corieweathers.com All social media: @CorieLPC.Schedule your next s...2020-02-1147 min
Advice Not GivenNo Advice, Just Opinions | Little Women [BONUS EP]In honor of their SIX Oscar nominations, and take home win for Best Costume Design, we're releasing our bonus (patron only) episode of No Advice, Just Opinions for our chat about Little Women. Enjoy! We're jumping in QUICK with this month's Patron only podcast episode so buckle up and let's get to all the things we're watching, reading, and listening to (and our takes on all)! We’re also breaking down our takeaways from the movie, Little Women by Greta Gerwig. Links below to ease your Googling.ReadingClaire: ...2020-02-1050 minAdvice Not GivenMarriageWhat does a successful marriage look like? Listen in as we discuss trust, integrity, communication, and commitment. Mentions:Email sign-up for our monthly Guru Greetings Newsletter20 for 2020 Patreon CampaignJulie Benson (Handmade Quilts)Richard Rohr Universal Christ The Five Love LanguagesLeaving and CleavingActual Advice Guest: Ryan Wood - Nice Try! He's a ghost online so you'll have to just contact Claire. :) VISIT The Full Episode PageSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)2020-02-0448 minAdvice Not GivenSettling Your Space | Actual Advice Guest Tara BremerHow do you feel about all of your belongings and how do you manage or arrange them in your space? Do you find a correlation between peace, calm, and order or do you find your creativity with just a little chaos? Mentions: Outer Order, Inner CalmMarie KondoA Perfect Mess“Stressed Out” Washington Post article11 Benefits of an Organized HomeActual Advice Guest: Tara Bremer (29:00) House Peace, @house.peaceTara...2020-01-2847 minAdvice Not GivenTime Rhythms and Management | Actual Advice Guests Amy Bushatz and Amy HarveyAre you an early bird, a night owl, or something in between? Science tells us that there may be reasons why your productivity surges and wanes throughout the day based on your answer. Mentions: When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing (Daniel H. Pink)iPhone Bedtime FeatureHeadspaceDon’t Make Important Decisions Late in the AfternoonBe Focused AppPomodo TechniqueNappucciosGoals + Resolutions (Episode 23)Know Your Value-- Paychecks (Episode 7)Surviving Sarah PodcastGet to Work BookActual Advice Guests:Amy Harvey (31:00)Amy Bushatz (47:00) Military.com, Humans Outside, AmyBushatz.comSupport the show (ht...2020-01-211h 02Advice Not GivenNew Year, Same You?Do You Make and Keep New Year’s Resolutions? Do you make New Years Resolutions? If you do, what is your motivation for doing so? If not, why not? Kellie is Team No and Claire is definitely Camp Yes and has the vision board to prove it. ⠀⠀In Episode 23 we tackle the science behind why people make and break resolutions, share some of why we do or don’t do them, and look at how self-awareness impacts the process.Complete Show NotesSupport the show (https://www.patr...2020-01-1447 minAdvice Not GivenWhat's New in 2020?Quick recap of our December series: Move More, Eat Better, Drink LessQuick recap of our own Christmas celebrations and mini check-ins from Claire about her "baggage" she didn't take home; Kellie's plan of going home backfired--but it ended up being a great breakWhat lessons or reflections from 2019 are we taking with us into the new year? Claire learned that being an elementary teacher is not her jam--she can still be a teacher but it doesn't have to be in a full-time traditional classroom for her to feel fulfilled; she is leaning in to her...2020-01-0740 minAdvice Not GivenDrink LessAs we finish up part three of our three part series, we open up a HUGE can of worms with a conversation about alcohol. We know it’s a doozy (or maybe a boozy) of a topic. Kellie and Claire come at this issue from vastly different perspectives but as always hope to find common understanding as they look at some of the dangers of the mommy wine culture, how alcohol impacts military families, and what others’ motivations for drinking are. They close out the episode with some practical tips on how to drink less alcohol. Ad...2019-12-3144 minAdvice Not GivenThe Yeses and Nos of ChristmasMerry Christmas Eve! Claire and Kellie keep this episode light and entertaining as they share how they each “do” Christmas. They each give a yes or no (and plenty of opinions) on Christmas magic, Christmas trees (real or fake), Elf on the Shelf, crafts, and many other traditions and expectations they place upon themselves. <<< WARNING >>> This episode is not for little ears who still believe in Christmas magic.Advice Not Given:Christmas is a wonderful holiday but there are many issues that people are either PRO...2019-12-2450 minAdvice Not GivenEat BetterWe are back for part two of our three part series on taking back control over some areas of our lives as one year ends and we look toward the next one beginning. In Eat Better Kellie and Claire try to wade through the noise of the general public and all of the often times conflicting information about eating well. Advice Not Given:Let’s begin with the wonderful phenomenon of middle age known as a slowing metabolism. Kellie and Claire both share about their own changes in diet and how that is im...2019-12-171h 00Advice Not GivenMove MoreKellie and Claire kick off part one of a three part series on taking back control over things for which they DO have some agency as one year ends and a new one is about to begin. In Move More they discuss their personal evolution of exercise; they uncover their past and present motivations for staying active; and they sift through all of the varying reasons why physical fitness is one vital piece of the overall wellness puzzle in their lives.Advice Not Given:Kellie starts off our discussion with the idea of the...2019-12-1050 min
Advice Not GivenMaking + Keeping FriendsIn this week’s episode, Kellie and Claire discuss the nuanced topic of friendship: particularly how making (and maintaining) friendships evolves the older you get. They share some of their best qualities they offer in friendship. They take a look at how each Enneagram type needs to feel connected with a friend. Finally, they discuss whether or not the difficulties/opportunities they have when constantly curating relationships is strengthening and growing them or if it is depleting/draining them. Advice Not GivenKellie shares from a lengthy email th...2019-12-0358 min
Advice Not GivenThanksgivingThis week Kellie and Claire talk all about the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday. They share some fun memories of childhood Thanksgivings gone by and current insights on Thanksgiving as military service families. They talk turkey, travel, traditions and they share thoughts on Black Friday and other marketing initiatives. Think of this episode like your favorite sweet potato casserole: filling, savory, and sweet--topped off with a little something extra!Advice Not GivenKellie shares about her Thanksgiving memories growing up and the main memory is all of the fun she had outdoors in...2019-11-2643 min
Advice Not GivenIntolerance of UncertaintyIn this week’s episode Kellie and Claire take a look at what it means to be able to tolerate uncertainty. They explore some common scenarios where people (and service families, in particular) have pain points with uncertainty. They explore the scientific aspects of “intolerance of uncertainty,” paying particular attention to what prolonged periods of the ensuing stress can do to our mental health. As always they offer up some practical strategies of how becoming aware of this phenomenon and what to do about it can help in day to day life.Advice Not Gi...2019-11-1948 min
Advice Not GivenBONUS | No Advice, Just OpinionsCatch this exclusive look at the bonus content being offered on Patreon to Milspo Gurus and Advice Not Given Podcast supporters! On No Advice, Just Opinions, we'll share our "currently..." lists. You know, currently reading, watching, and listening to (with elaborate commentary). We'll also tackle a hot topic in the news. All in a bolder, edgier way. In this episode, we're dishing our reading/watching/listening to lists, packaging up a way to extend Hallmark's Holiday Movie season, celebrating fictional drag queens in Charleston, and unpacking the effects of childhood...2019-11-1539 min
Advice Not GivenThe Things We Wish You KnewIn this week’s episode Claire and Kellie share in response to some of the feedback they’ve gotten on Instagram when Kellie put out the call asking, “What are the hardest parts of military life?” Many responders commented on the disconnect between their own military lifestyle and the lack of information and awareness of well-meaning friends, family, and civilians. Claire and Kellie talk broadly and personally about the things many of us wish people knew.Advice Not GivenFirst things first: HUGE hat tip to Casey F. from California for being our first “Soul Mate”...2019-11-1253 min
Advice Not GivenGeneralists and SpecialistsClick Here to Listen on Your Favorite Podcast Player!In this week’s episode Claire and Kellie talk all about the idea of being a generalist versus a specialist. In David Epstein’s recent book Range, he argues that generalists are “triumphing in a specialized world.” Frequent relocation and upstarts in life have made many service member spouses generalists in their career fields and in their passions based on the location and opportunities available. Many of us think of this as a negative part of our lifestyle, but Claire and Kellie offer that it may just be the grea...2019-11-0547 min
Advice Not GivenSolo Parenting Through Separations Click Here to Listen on Your Favorite Podcast Player!In this week’s episode the topic hits close to home as Kellie prepares for a deployment and Claire has recently shared on this theme at a local MOPS (Moms of Preschoolers) group. Listen in as they discuss some common fears about solo parenting and offer up practical tips for thriving through a forced separation when all of the parenting falls squarely on your shoulders. Hint: lots of self-care tips ahead!Advice Not GivenKellie has had a seven ye...2019-10-2948 min
Advice Not GivenWhen to Shine & When to Lay LowClick Here to Listen on Your Favorite Podcast Player!In this week’s episode Kellie and Claire discuss a tension they regularly find themselves in as they move around. There is a fine line between utilizing and offering your gifts and expertise each time you enter a new professional, service, or relational situation and recognizing that a situation doesn’t warrant the help or is just fine without your insights for change. They share tips on how to do this tactfully while being true to themselves. Advice Not Given:We all have...2019-10-2240 min
Advice Not GivenAre You Listening?In this week’s episode Kellie and Claire discuss whether they are good or bad listeners. They share some real life instances when they could have listened better. They deep dive one particular active listening technique, Active Constructive Responding (ACR) and its framework as well as take a look at a listening assessment put out by Psychology Today.Advice Not GivenClaire tells about a discussion where Ryan called her out on her poor listening strategy. He even went so far as to use some of his Army Master Resiliency Training curriculum on her. It...2019-10-1550 min
Advice Not Given#SquadGoalsIn this week’s episode, we break from traditional form and decide to take a little trip. We need a retreat and you probably do too! Time, childcare, and finances can often restrict us, but in this episode we say the sky is the limit and we create our dream get-away. Won’t you join us?Advice Not Given:Pick your setting. Mountains? Beach? Rustic? Luxe and lavish? International? You get to decide.Pick your activities. Do you prefer lots of group talk and sharing? Quiet and solitary reflection? Do you invite your spou...2019-10-0847 min
Advice Not GivenImposter syndromeAdvice Not GivenDo you suffer from Imposter Syndrome? Do you have this feeling that sneaks up on you and tells you that you don’t deserve something good in your life? This can happen in professional settings, but also in friend relationships, social settings, or even at a dinner party. Imposter Syndrome can make you feel insecure and like you don’t belong. Claire felt this deeply at last year’s Seed Spot Incubator Camp in D.C. and Kellie has felt it at a dinner party with a group of people where she fe...2019-10-0147 min
Advice Not GivenPaychecksYou may be thinking this episode has everything to do with professional work and salaries and pay gaps. We touch a little on those things but the primary focus of episode 7 is deciding what, beyond monetary compensation, is a paycheck in our lives. We discuss intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation and share personally about the things in our own lives that bring great reward. Advice Not GivenWhat motivates you in all of the different areas of your life? How do you find and measure success? How do you determine what is a...2019-09-2447 min
Advice Not GivenSocial MediaHow do you live mindfully with social media? What are your favorite apps? Which ones do you tend to avoid? How do these platforms benefit you? Have you taken notice of how social media negatively impacts you (mentally, physically, or emotionally)? How do you monitor your usage and input? Join us in Episode 006 as we try to untangle our own ideas about this powerful tool for connection and engagement.Advice Not Given: Can you identify your triggers on social media? What are they? Unfollow people or accounts that make you feel badly...2019-09-1748 min
Advice Not GivenHello, GoodbyeThis week Kellie and Claire discuss the idea of using the endings and beginnings of new seasons as an opportunity to reflect and learn. Join us in Episode 5 as we share our fun end of summer traditions that alert us to the changing seasons. We share about how NOT using these rhythmic opportunities of change can be a detriment to personal growth. Do you have any signifiers, rituals, or traditions that you use to help you usher in new seasons? Do you take time to reflect on the closing of certain life chapters in order to begin the next...2019-09-1035 min
Advice Not GivenThe EnneagramThis week Kellie and Claire give an overview of the Enneagram--and they are pretty proud they were able to wait until Episode 004 to break their silence. They share how they each first discovered it and how it made an immediate impact in their lives. There’s a quick rundown on some basic Enneagram history and a highlight of each of the nine types. Do you know yours? We caution against the over-simplification and reductiveness of how the Enneagram is portrayed on Instagram and its rise in popularity. Instead, listeners are encouraged to see the Enneagram as an ideal tool fo...2019-09-0347 min
Advice Not GivenBoundaries: No is a Complete SentenceNo.Did you know that these two letters and a period make a complete sentence? When setting boundaries you do not have to give explanations or apologies or consolation remarks.Join Kellie and Claire as they discuss the idea of boundaries. Does placing boundaries in your roles and relationships come easily to you? Or are you the kind of person who says, “What boundaries?” Do you tend to think of boundaries as something you set in place for yourself to protect your own time and energies? Or do you see boundaries as being need...2019-08-2739 min
Advice Not GivenBe Present Where You AreWhat do you do when your present reality doesn’t necessarily align with where you imagined that your youthful hopes and dreams would take you? Did your college or vocational training set you up for what you are doing today? Have you gotten fixated on an ideal or expectation for what your life might look like or are you still looking for it? Do you ever find yourself more invested in the end goal or an achievement than you do the process or pursuit of it? Join Kellie and Claire as they discuss the dangers of over identifying with yo...2019-08-2039 min
Advice Not GivenThe Midlife HumpHow in the world did we get here? How do you reconcile your identity with your various roles? How do you regain a sense of control when life feels like it is spinning? Do you recognize your coping mechanisms and patterns? Which ones are healthy? And which ones, not so much? Join Kellie and Claire as they hash out their thoughts and feelings about midlife and how to pursue your overall well-being and relationships with purpose and intentionality. Advice Not Given: Be observant of yourself.Find someone you can confide in.Seek out therapy...2019-08-0641 min