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GRIEF LadiesEvolving: The Journey of Grief and Recovery with Amanda McKoy FlanaganIn this episode of the GRIEF Ladies podcast, Karyn Arnold and Kelly Daugherty engage with Amanda McCoy Flanagan, a certified intuitive loss and empowerment coach, to explore the complexities of grief and loss. Amanda shares her personal journey through grief, including the impact of significant losses in her life and how she maintained her sobriety amidst these challenges. The conversation delves into coping mechanisms, the importance of connection in recovery, and actionable steps for those navigating grief. Amanda emphasizes the significance of celebrating the lives of loved ones and maintaining connections while also encouraging listeners to practice self-compassion and...
2026-02-0439 min
Sacred Business StoriesAuthor's Spotlight: Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Keeping Your Heart Open When Everything in You Wants to CloseWe loved our first conversation with Dr. Kelly Flanagan so much that we wanted to bring him back for something different.This isn’t a regular episode of our show. It’s an Author’s Spotlight to support the launch of his new book, The Road Less Triggered, and to share his work with as many people as we can.Kelly is a clinical psychologist, author, and coach who’s been featured on The Five Love Languages and Today Show. But what grabbed our attention wasn’t his resume. It was his core insight: connection doesn’t br...
2026-01-2354 min
Building Healthy Relationships - The 4 Habits PodcastE121 | Turn Conflict Into Connection — Even Under Pressure | Dr. Kelly FlanaganConflict isn’t the real problem — disconnection is. And you don’t need fixing to feel whole again. In this powerful episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Kelly Flanagan joins Dr. Andrea and Jon to unpack how our attempts to protect our worth often create the very conflict and disconnection we long to escape. Based on decades of work with high-achieving professionals, couples, and leaders under pressure, Kelly shares a transformational shift: the key to deeper connection isn’t fixing yourself — it’s coming home to who you are.
2026-01-2243 min
Awesome Marriage PodcastThe Road Less Triggered with Dr. Kelly FlanaganI'm so thrilled to have Dr. Kelly Flanagan back on the show. Today he is talking about his newest book The Road Less Triggered, focusing on the importance of recognizing and managing emotional triggers in relationships. The work of faith, self awareness, and compassion is vital in our relationships. Dr. Flanagan shares how to stay engaged, remain soft, and practically manage conflict in a way that brings connection to your marriage. Episode Highlights: Understanding Triggered Moments in Relationships Your body is an early warning system Living in the security...
2026-01-201h 00Awesome Marriage PodcastThe Road Less Triggered with Dr. Kelly FlanaganI'm so thrilled to have Dr. Kelly Flanagan back on the show. Today he is talking about his newest book The Road Less Triggered, focusing on the importance of recognizing and managing emotional triggers in relationships. The work of faith, self awareness, and compassion is vital in our relationships. Dr. Flanagan shares how to stay engaged, remain soft, and practically manage conflict in a way that brings connection to your marriage. Episode Highlights: Understanding Triggered Moments in Relationships Your body is an early warning system Living in the security...
2026-01-201h 00
Sol RisingS4E16 Sky's the Limit with Dr. Robb KellyAre you sober? Or trying to get sober but keep relapsing? Have you considered the amazing life you can have once you experience a spiritual awakening and finally know your value, worth, and true place in the world. Alcoholics and addicts are hardworking, industrious, and resourceful people—born leaders. Join Amanda and her guest Dr. Robb Kelly, a well-established author, recovery expert and CEO of the Robb Kelly Recovery Group, an addiction and mental illness recovery coaching company created based on extensive neuroscience research and behavioral studies conducted over the past 20 years, for an inspiring take on th...
2025-12-1936 min
The BizDad PodcastDr. Kelly Flanagan: Parenting Without Reacting | Ep. 122In this episode of The BizDad Podcast, Dr. Kelly Flanagan, licensed clinical psychologist and relationship coach, shares how open-hearted living can transform the way fathers lead at home and in business. Drawing from two decades of work with entrepreneurs and couples, Dr. Flanagan reveals how to stay emotionally present, regulate reactions, and guide families with compassion instead of control. Learn how to strengthen connection, lead with authenticity, and model calm under pressure. Listen now on all major platforms!Free up your time with top remote talent. Book your free strategy call now: getwisevas.com...
2025-11-241h 30
Sol RisingS4E14 Induced After Death Communication with Kelly Daugherty Do you believe that you can communicate with your departed loved ones in spirit? Have you had such an experience or are you curious about it? Join Amanda and her guest, Kelly Daugherty, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Fellow in Thanatology, and Board Certified Coach with more than twenty years of experience supporting individuals and families after the death of a loved one for an in depth look at Induced After Death Communication, the therapeutic process used to bridge connection between the seen and the unseen. Together, the ladies explore: 🔥Kelly's personal story of...
2025-11-1437 min
Ambitious DadsThe Emotional Landscape of Fatherhood: Conversations on Shame, Triggers, and Connection: Dr. Kelly Flanagan
In this episode of the Ambitious Dads podcast, host Jeff Hittner engages in a heartfelt conversation with Dr. Kelly Flanagan, a clinical psychologist, author, and father of three. The discussion centers around the challenges and emotional complexities of fatherhood, particularly as children grow into young adults.Jeff opens the episode by emphasizing the importance of honest conversations among fathers about their fears, ambitions, and the realities of parenting. He introduces Kelly, who shares insights from his experiences as a father and a mental health professional. Kelly reflects on his own parenting journey, noting that despite having a 22...
2025-11-0339 min
Follow Your CuriosityListen Again: ”Unhiding” with Dr. Kelly FlanaganKelly Flanagan has been one of my favorite guests, and he'll be back to talk to us again in February. Here's his second appearance on Follow Your Curiosity, in case you missed it or want to revisit it. Please note that the book giveaway mentioned in the episode is no longer available.
Original release date: November 9, 2022
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When I started this podcast in 2019, Dr. Kelly Flanagan was one of my inaugural guests, and his episode, “The Gifts of Creativity,” remains one of my favorites. Kelly has just published his first novel...
2025-10-221h 00
Living RichlyEmotional Freedom Starts with an Open Heart with Kelly FlanaganText us your questions or comments. Join Eric and Rob on the Living Richly Podcast as they welcome back Kelly Flanagan, author and coach, for a transformative discussion on emotional openness. Kelly shares deeply personal stories about staying open-hearted through life’s challenges and explores why we close our hearts, how to recognize it, and actionable steps to embrace vulnerability. Drawing from his experiences as an entrepreneur and father, Kelly offers powerful insights on balancing work, family, and personal growth. Together, they uncover how emotional openness fosters deeper connections, personal freedom, and a richer life. Pac...
2025-03-2654 min
The BETWEEN PodcastDr. Kelly Flanagan: "Loneliness, Isolation, Companionship, and Worthiness"What if loneliness isn't the boogeyman we've made it out to be? What if in our pursuit of belonging we skipped self-worth and it has left us feeling inauthentic? What if God showed up in a hotel lobby, would you recognize God?
This episode of The BETWEEN Podcast features a wonderfully sacred conversation between host Matt Mattson and our special guest, Dr. Kelly Flanagan.
Dr. Kelly Flanagan is an author, speaker, relationship coach, and licensed clinical psychologist. He writes regularly at drkellyflanagan.substack.com. His writing has been featured in Reader's Digest, Christianity Today, and The...
2024-06-1054 min
The Eternal OptimistEmbracing the Flow of Midlife with Dr. Kelly FlanaganDr. Kelly Flanagan joins the podcast today to explore the reflective journey through the late forties, discussing the transformative power of embracing life’s limitations and the wisdom that comes with age. From celebrating milestones like birthdays and family weekends to making profound lifestyle shifts such as embracing sobriety, Kelly shares insightful narratives that reveal how midlife can be a time of deep self-discovery and personal growth. Matt and Kelly’s conversations about the challenges and triumphs of this life stage provides you a roadmap to navigating your own midlife transitions with grace and intention. Whether you're approaching this phas...
2024-04-3041 min
Living Vision with Aaron VelkyHow To TRULY Accept & Love Your Partner with Dr. Kelly FlanaganToday, I'm joined by best-selling author and psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan. Dr. Kelly has personally transformed my life and I had to have him on the show to show you how transformative his work is. We talk about the intricate dance between boundaries, resentment, and acceptance, as well as the keys to fostering healthy relationships and embracing our true selves.In this incredible conversation, we'll explore:- The revelation that resentment often arises from unspoken boundaries.- Embracing acceptance as a catalyst...
2024-04-161h 15
Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingWhy I Stopped Teaching My Kids the Wrong Lesson About Hard Work by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Teaching Kids About PotentialDr. Kelly Flanagan talks about why he stopped teaching his kids the wrong lesson about hard work Episode 1949: Why I Stopped Teaching My Kids the Wrong Lesson About Hard Work by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Teaching Kids About Potential Clinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan is the co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He writes weekly about living out redemptive stories on his popular blog, UnTangled. Kelly has also written two books, one titled Loveable: Embracing What is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life, and another named True Companions. Kelly...
2023-11-0207 minOptimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingWhy I Stopped Teaching My Kids the Wrong Lesson About Hard Work by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Teaching Kids About PotentialDr. Kelly Flanagan talks about why he stopped teaching his kids the wrong lesson about hard workEpisode 1949: Why I Stopped Teaching My Kids the Wrong Lesson About Hard Work by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Teaching Kids About PotentialClinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan is the co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He writes weekly about living out redemptive stories on his popular blog, UnTangled. Kelly has also written two books, one titled Loveable: Embracing What is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life, and another named True Companions. Kelly...
2023-11-0209 min
Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-ImprovementHalloween Hope: Trading in the Perfect Mask for Something Even Better by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Embracing Our True SelvesDr. Kelly Flanagan talks about embracing our true selvesEpisode 2949: Halloween Hope: Trading in the Perfect Mask for Something Even Better by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Embracing Our True SelvesClinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan is the co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He writes weekly about living out redemptive stories on his popular blog, UnTangled. Kelly has also written two books, one titled Loveable: Embracing What is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life, and another named True Companions. Kelly is married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly, and...
2023-10-2509 minOptimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingConfessions of a Parent (From the Dinner Table) by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Keeping Calm When Your Kids are Frustrating YouDr. Kelly Flanagan shares confessions of a parent Episode 1917: Confessions of a Parent (From the Dinner Table) by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Keeping Calm When Your Kids are Frustrating You Clinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan is the co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He writes weekly about living out redemptive stories on his popular blog, UnTangled. Kelly has also written two books, one titled Loveable: Embracing What is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life, and another named True Companions. Kelly is married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly, and...
2023-10-0509 minOptimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingConfessions of a Parent (From the Dinner Table) by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Keeping Calm When Your Kids are Frustrating YouDr. Kelly Flanagan shares confessions of a parentEpisode 1917: Confessions of a Parent (From the Dinner Table) by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Keeping Calm When Your Kids are Frustrating YouClinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan is the co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He writes weekly about living out redemptive stories on his popular blog, UnTangled. Kelly has also written two books, one titled Loveable: Embracing What is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life, and another named True Companions. Kelly is married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly, and...
2023-10-0511 min
Know Your Why Podcast with Dr.Jason BalaraNever Settle for Just Success with Dr.Kelly Flanagan | Know your why #246EPISODE SUMMARY:
Do you ever wonder why some individuals seem to reach their maximum potential while others struggle to find their purpose? This episode might just have the key. We're honored to host Dr. Kelly Flanagan, a personal growth and relationship coach, who takes us through his journey from a clinical psychologist to a viral blogger, to an appearance on the Today Show. His story is a testament to the power of 'knowing your why,' a concept he passionately champions. Kelly's insights emphasize the importance of authenticity, emotional awareness, and managing our reactions in our quest to become more...
2023-10-0451 min
Modern MasculinityWhy Many Men Don't Feel Lovable with Dr. Kelly FlanaganIn this episode of Modern Masculinity, Hector Santiesteban is joined Dr. Kelly Flanagan. They talk about the challenges and triumphs of personal growth, self-improvement, and maintaining work-life balance in a remote work setting. We delve into the intricacies of nurturing relationships and being fully present for our loved ones. Dr. Flanagan shares a lot of insights for men seeking to enhance their personal and professional lives, offering practical advice and thought-provoking discussions.Chapters:00:00:00 Space in Male Communication00:02:05 Dr. Flanagan on Personal Growth00:05:00 Work-Life Balance at Home00:09:24 Masculinity and Emotional Connection00:12:43 Journey to Authenticity00:16:27 Overcoming Shame00:19:23 Embracing...
2023-06-3032 min
On The Edge Podcast with Scott GrovesE115: Kids! Masculinity! Narcissism! Grateful! With Dr Kelly FlanaganDr Kelly Flanagan and I have been friends for a while thanks to the Front Row Dad Foundation, and I’m excited to have him on the podcast today primarily to talk about his work as an author. Dr Flanagan also does some life coaching and as a coach myself, I’m always interested in hearing more from other coaches. Join us today to talk about kids, narcissism, masculinity, and being grateful!
In his own words: Dr. Kelly Flanagan is an author, speaker, personal growth and relationship consultant, and licensed clinical psychologist. He blogs regu...
2023-02-161h 22
Getting Real with Bossy: For Women Who Own BusinessMegan Flanagan Mills: From CIA Analyst to Insurance Agency Owner
Ep. 12 Megan Flanagan Mills, a former CIA analyst turned independent insurance broker, faces a legal battle from her previous employer, putting her own future and her children's college funds at risk. Despite the traumatic experience, she still believes she did the right thing in leaving the company and learning to be more cautious and proactive in the future.
In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. What is the Risk of Leaving a Large Corporation to Start Your Own Business?
2. How Did Megan Flanagan Mills Overcome the Financial Losses from a Surprising Lawsuit?
3. How reimaging remodeling can lead to a n...
2023-01-3050 min
The Eternal OptimistFinding Your True Self: A Journey Through Pain and Shame to Awareness and Grace with Dr. Kelly FlanaganDr. Kelly has an inspiring story of personal growth and transformation. After completing his PhD, he married a woman with the same name as him, which caused some confusion for everyone, including the TSA. His ego then wanted to take advantage of his newfound identity and use it to get things. He spent a few years getting to know himself apart from his ego and discovered that he loved to write something he had never considered before. His blog went viral and he ended up on the Today Show, which led him to writing a book called Lovable and...
2022-12-2752 min
Fatherhood Field NotesEP274 with Dr. Kelly Flanagan: Illusions, Transformations, & UnderstandingThis week's guest is an exceptional storyteller - Dr. Kelly Flanagan. This father-to-three shares how he's rebelling against the dichotomy of providing for your family while pursuing your passions. How many men out there are not responding to a call that they have felt for a while out of fear? He has the desire to teach men that carrying the burden of providing for their family does not have to come at the expense of that other thing they're interested in. Dr. Kelly shares how this showed up in his own writing career and talks a...
2022-12-1257 min
That Makes Total Sense!Episode 173 – Kelly FlanaganGenerally speaking, I am *not* a novel-reading, fiction-loving kind of girl, but….I loved Kelly Flanagan’s new release The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell! And, I am so thrilled to welcome Kelly back to the podcast. He first came on to speak about his book, True Companions which was a game-changer for me as well. Kelly is … Continue reading Episode 173 – Kelly Flanagan
2022-12-0558 min
Front Row Dads with Jon VromanSaying No To Kids, Integrating Your Past, The Pain of Living in the Future & Unhiding Yourself with Dr. Kelly FlanaganGentlemen, I am absolutely pumped to welcome Dr. Kelly Flanagan back to the show. He is many things to many people, and he's a legendary member of our brotherhood. Kelly has a new book coming out this week titled, The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell, and I can't wait to dig into it. I hope you'll check it out too. One topic that we've discussed many times over the years on the podcast and our Online Summits is how we can all be better at being vulnerable with our friends and especially our family. ...
2022-10-1954 min
The Better Than Rich ShowHow to Find Your True Self with Dr. Kelly Flanagan | The Better Than Rich Show Ep. 39Often, we are distracted by the struggles of conformity rather than knowing our authentic selves. In this episode, Kelly Flanagan, an author and psychologist, shares with us the importance of identity and how failing to recognize it is unconsciously the root cause of our many setbacks and challenges. Join us as we talk about its effects on parenting, its relation to our inner child, and how we can keep in touch with our true selves to become better individuals for ourselves and for those around us.
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3:49 - Kelly talks about our ego or our ‘fa...
2022-09-121h 02
Therapy Extended With Liza YoungRecovering Your Truest Self with Dr. Kelly FlanaganDo you ever feel like you aren't enough? Worthless? Lonely? Do you struggle to know what your purpose or passion is? Do you long to feel authentic and loveable?Listen as Dr. Kelly Flanagan, a licensed clinical psychologist, author and speaker, shares wisdom from his personal experiences. We dive into his books, Loveable and True Companions, in order to look closer at how to heal from shame and dig up our truest self. How to believe we are enough and find our passion again. How to feel loveable! "Dr. Flanagan is known to...
2022-05-0846 min
Be Love. Do Good. with Kristi HayesModeling love, grace and open hearts in the face of hard topics with Dr. Kelly FlanaganI have had Dr. Flanagan on several times, because his words of wisdom and his therapist’s heart are always something that is perfect when I am struggling with a certain area in life. Kelly is a therapist and the author of two amazing books: Loveable and True Companions. How do we expect our kids to live life with open hearts and love toward others if we aren’t modeling this daily. Whether it is when we are griping about public opinions on national discourse, or treating someone online with animosity; our kids are wat...
2022-02-2333 min
18 Summers: Podcast for ParentsCompanionship and Perspective with Dr. Kelly FlanaganSatisfaction cannot be achieved in a single facet. We have a tendency to keep looking for more until we fall into a net of despair. Dr. Kelly Flanagan joins us today to talk about the meaning of companionship and the importance of finding your inner purpose. Key takeaways to listen for Understanding the belief of personal space Awareness to positive motivation How to find the opportunity to communicate with your teens The foundation to improve the parent-teen relationship Rite of passage during adolescence Loneliness and its impact on yourself and your family The purpose of communicating y...
2021-07-2132 min
Hole in My Heart PodcastEpisode 176: How to Make Friends with Your Loneliness with Dr. Kelly Flanagan“I used to think I was the only one who was lonely. After all, when you look around, other people don’t look lonely. They just look like they are drinking a latte.” —Dr. Kelly Flanagan
Goodness, this quote from Dr. Kelly Flanagan’s new book, "True Companions: A Book for Everyone About the Relationships That See Us Through," gripped us.
If loneliness is that deep-seated reality that you have corners of your heart that only you and Jesus understand, aren’t we all lonely? And isn’t it time we admit it? Dr. Kelly Flanagan thinks...
2021-06-0445 min
Perennial WisdomDr. Kelly Flanagan | True Companions: A Book for Everyone About the Relationships That See Us ThroughIn this episode, I speak to Dr. Kelly Flanagan the author of True Companions: A Book for Everyone About the Relationships That See Us Through. Dr. Flanagan is a Clinical Psychologist, Consultant, Speaker, and author of Loveable. In this conversation, Kelly shares deep wisdom on life, loneliness, and love. Listen as we discuss: LonelinessDeepening RelationshipsFinding PurposeThe Four Loves and much moreConnect with Dr. Kelly Flanagan:Homepage: https://drkellyflanagan.com/Twitter: twitter.com/DrKellyFlanaganInstagram: instagram.com/drkellyflanagan/Follow In Search of Wisdom:Twitter: twitter.co...
2021-04-2239 min
The Churchology PodcastEpisode 32: Dr. Kelly Flanagan on True Companions and How To Build Deep Relationships In The ChurchToday on the show we talk to Dr. Kelly Flanagan. Dr. Flanagan is a Clinical Psychologist, author and blogger, and today we talk about his latest book, 'True Companions: A Book For Everyone About The Relationships That See Us Through.'To learn more about Dr. Flanagan, make sure to visit his website. You can also connect with Dr. Flanagan on Twitter. If you haven't connected with us on social media, you can find the podcast on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. You can also watch all of our episodes on our You...
2021-03-1640 min
CTRL+ALT+DELETE with Lisa Duerre™What you should know about loneliness and burnout | Featured Guest: Dr. Kelly Flanagan | Ctrl+Alt+Delete with Lisa DuerreFeatured Guest Dr. Kelly Flanagan keeps it real with Lisa Duerre as they double click on the undeniable truth that you can overcome loneliness and prevent burnout when you are a True Companion.
Dr. Kelly Flanagan's book True Companions debuted on Amazon as a #1 New Release in several categories related to friendship, marriage, and ethics. Join in on the deep insight and actions shared by Dr. Kelly Flanagan and Lisa Duerre to better understand yourself and those you lead and love.
Some of the not to miss topics include:
• The real deal when it co...
2021-03-0548 min
Be Love. Do Good. with Kristi HayesEpisode 93 BE. LOVE in your marriages with Dr. Kelly FlanaganThis week we are continuing our series on BE. LOVE in your marriages with Dr. Kelly Flanagan. Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a psychologist, author, consultant, and speaker who enjoys walking with people through the three essentials of a truly satisfying life: worthiness, belonging, and purpose. His blog writings have been featured in Reader’s Digest, The Huffington Post, The 5 Love Languages, and the TODAY Show. Kelly is the author of Loveable, and he just published his new book True Companions, all about relationships which we will dive into today. Today we tal...
2021-02-1038 min
The Mentee PodcastS4E3: Kelly Flanagan - Quit Searching for Solutions, You Already Have ThemIn today’s episode of The Mentee Podcast, Wyatt sits down with author, psychologist, blogger, and father, Dr. Kelly Flanagan. Kelly is best known for the letter’s he’s wrote to his children, one of which landed him on the Today Show. Wyatt and Kelly take a deeper dive into Kelly’s book “Loveable”, breaking down the key points to defining your worthiness, belonging and purpose, and the steps to uncovering your true self. We talk about the importance of gaining clarity on what matters most to you, and Wyatt shares the ways this has helped to frame his mission t...
2021-01-2536 min
The Not So Perfect Couple PodcastDon't Shoot Your Ego Cannon with Kelly & Kelly FlanaganWe are really excited for you guys to get a chance to hear our next guests They are 2 married people, both Dr’s both with the same name.. Both Kelly’s have Phd’s in Psychology- One Kelly has 75,000 blog subscribers and is an Amazon best selling author of the book Loveable- Two Kelly works primarily with Kids as a clinical director and puts up with the one Kelly, which may be the difficult job of all! They are a very cool couple. And If you don’t know what ego cannons are all about, get read...
2019-05-271h 05
The Matt King Show60: Embracing Life and Finding Worthiness within Yourself with Dr. Kelly FlanaganIn this episode, you will learn:
Why Dr. Kelly and Patrick’s book talk about loving yourself as the number one to think about when dealing with relationships
What you can do to give/create more space within your family
The reality of marriage and companionship
More ways to grow your business
The components of your false self
Some incredible values of the Miracle Morning practice
Plus so much more!
Dr. Kelly Flanagan is a licensed clinical psychologist. He received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology at Penn State University in 2005. He is the co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naper...
2019-02-2246 min
5 Minute Success - The PodcastKelly Flanagan - Secrets of Living Lovable Revealed: 5 Minute Success- The PodcastDr. Kelly Flanagan is an author, speaker, podcaster, licensed clinical psychologist, and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He blogs regularly at drkellyflanagan.com. His writing has been featured in Reader's Digest, and he has appeared on the TODAY Show and in The Huffington Post. In 2017, Kelly published Loveable: Embracing What Is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life, and it debuted as the #1 New Release in Interpersonal Relations on Amazon. He is the host of The Loveable Podcast. Kelly is married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly, and they have three children who...
2019-02-1427 min
Dr. Kelly FlanaganThe Conclusion to the Loveable Podcast [Loveable 054]“We’ve been taught to believe life is only meaningful if we’re getting from here to there—doing a lot, becoming more important, accruing more stuff, feeling safer, and increasing our comfort. Even the good work of redeeming the world can become its own straight line, as we single-handedly try to move the world from Point A to Point B. We pretend life is what it’s not. We need to get real about how this whole thing works. We need to bend our lives back into the circle they already are.”
Here we are at the en...
2018-12-2433 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 52: Reflecting Upon the Unfolding of Your Truest Self [Loveable 053]“Your true self folded in upon itself never ceases to be your truest you. Your soul is bigger and more beautiful and more mysterious than you can possible imagine. It has been folded in upon itself by people and by experience and by life. But it need not remain that way.”
One of the most common questions I receive as a therapist is, how will I know if I’m getting better? This is an important question to answer because the answer gives us direction, it gives us hope, and eventually it gives us something to celebrate. That’s...
2018-12-1848 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 51: How All This Passion, Pain, and Courage Add Up to Joy [Loveable 052]“Fear about the future becomes bravery in the present becomes joy in hindsight. Joy is knowing you can be scared and still ride through life. Joy is being terrified and trusting you’ll survive it. Joy is believing in yourself enough to believe you are brave.”
Joy and happiness are not the same thing. In fact, they may be opposites, and the difference between them could make all the difference in your life. In Episode 52 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on how practicing your passions may not add up to happiness but will almost certainly add up to joy...
2018-12-0448 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 50: The Courage to Fail [Loveable 051]“Courage is ignoring the jeers and feeling the fears. Courage is returning to the edge of our comfort zone and choosing the place where our fear dwells, because we are worthy of another chance at life. Regardless of what the critics say.”
People who experience success aren’t better at being successful; they are better at failing. They don’t misinterpret failures as a sign that they should be doing something else. They don’t listen to the people who tell them their failures define them. They get back up and try again, believing their passion is truer than...
2018-11-1949 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 49: What to Do When Our Feelings Are Lying to Us [Loveable 050]“Life is a gift in terrifying disguise, and we are here to open it, until we find the still-quiet place in the center of it, where fear no longer decides.”
In Episode 50 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about fear. It is an important emotion. It causes us to buckle our seatbelts, run out of burning buildings, and grab our pepper spray when we hear footsteps behind us in a dark parking lot. But in the modern world, our fear has gone rogue. We now get afraid not just about life-threatening situations, but also about life-changing situations. We are...
2018-11-1243 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 48: The Good Life vs. the Redemptive Life [Loveable 049]The so-called good life is a hollow promise. It’s empty of the things we desire most, like passion, purpose, and peace. It bores us. Makes us restless. We crave something else. We ultimately crave a redemptive life.
In Episode 49 of The Loveable Podcast, we shift our focus slightly to something that will clarify not what our passion is, but the direction we want to go with it. That something is our pain. This week’s episode revolves around a hard but simple formula: passion + pain = purpose. In other words, when we practice our passion in the service...
2018-11-0548 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 47: What a Life of Vulnerability Really Looks Like [Loveable 048]“We are healed when we reveal our mess to another and put our real self on the line. When we connect in our brokenness—not in spite of it—we discover what makes us messy is also what makes us beautiful. And we give everyone around us permission to be broken and beautiful, too…A world torn apart by invincibility can only be healed by vulnerability and weakness.”
In Episode 48 of The Loveable Podcast, we are focused on the biggest barrier to practicing your passions. It is not lack of clarity about what they are. It is not lack of resou...
2018-10-2247 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 46: You Aren’t Here to Be More Happy (You Are Here to Be More You) [Loveable 047]“Life doesn’t have an easy setting. Remembering who you are isn’t an all-or-nothing endeavor. It’s not a pass-fail assignment. The truth is much closer to this: life is like a sieve and everything we do runs through it. If we watch closely, we’ll notice passing through the sieve all those things that aren’t really us. And we’ll notice, captured in the sieve of life, the parts of us that are who we’ve always been.”
We often confuse our passions and our skills, and this week we unconfuse them. A passion is “something we ar...
2018-10-1548 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 45: Why the Most Mundane Life Is Sometimes the Most Passionate Life [Loveable 046]“Be regular and orderly in your life, so that you may be violent and original in your work.” –Gustave Flaubert
In Episode 46 of The Loveable Podcast, we are focused on taking the space in your life created by last week’s exercise and doing something a little counterintuitive with it—we are going to build some monotony into it. In other words, we are going to focus on building structure around the practicing of your passions. By the end of this episode, you are going to be more motivated to make a habit of doing the things you love....
2018-10-0847 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 44: The Beauty of Becoming a Quitter [Loveable 045]“Sometimes, life gets too cramped to move in any new direction. Sometimes, the direction we need to go is backward. Sometimes, the best thing we can do is to undo the best things we’ve done.”
In Episode 45 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on quitting some of the things we added to our lives before we gained clarity about who we really are. In this way, becoming a quitter can actually make space for the practicing of our passions. By the end of this episode, you will begin to see more clearly a path toward practicing your passio...
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Dr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 43: Don’t Do Something More Meaningful (Do Something More You) [Loveable 044]“If you were given permission to simply be more you, what would you do? Start speaking up? Standing up? Standing out? Walking out? Reaching out? Pouring out? Sitting in? Giving in? Giving up? Opening up? To what? Dance lessons? Photography school? Medical school? Dropping out of school? Starting a band? Starting a business? Starting a movement? Dominoes? Why wait? After all, you weren’t created to be successful. You were created to be you.”
In Episode 44 of The Loveable Podcast, we challenge the belief that what we are passionate about doing must make a difference in the world, that...
2018-09-2450 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 42: Don’t Try to Be More Extraordinary (Try to Be More Human) [Loveable 043]“Yes, the extraordinary is a gift some of us receive at rare, fleeting moments. But our humanity is the ordinary gift we are, all of us, always receiving all the time.”
In Episode 43 of The Loveable Podcast, we are once again tackling the voice of shame, which undermines the practicing of our passions by convincing us that those passions must feel extraordinary, look extraordinary, and produce extraordinary results. By the end of this episode, you are going to be closer to discerning a path forward for yourself that looks ordinary and beautiful.
Here are just a few of...
2018-09-1748 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 41: How Five Senseless Days Could Make Sense of the Rest of Your Days [Loveable042]In the words of Frederick Buechner, “Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery it is. In the boredom and pain of it, no less than in the excitement and gladness: touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it, because in the last analysis all moments are key moments, and life itself is grace.”
In Episode 42 of The Loveable Podcast, we are focused on cultivating a healthy sense of urgency, not by becoming more aware of what we aren’t living, but by becoming increasingly aware of what we are already...
2018-09-1048 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 40: How Hopelessness Can Become Our Best Hope [Loveable041]“Hope can be a beautiful thing, because it gives us direction and imbues our lives with a sense of purpose and meaning. But hope can also be the worst of things, because sometimes we settle for having a direction, rather than walking in that direction. Sometimes, our numbered days are spent hoping and waiting, instead of acting and living.”
In Episode 41 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about how the thing that is supposed to sustain us, actually detains us. We talk about how the thing that is supposed to inspire us, actually conspires against us. That thing is cal...
2018-08-2749 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 39: The Blessing of Being Unfinished [Loveable 040]“We have a list of things we think must be accomplished inside of us before we can start taking risks outside of us. We think, Once I’m more confident, I’ll start dating. Once I’m more patient, I’ll have children. Once I’m wise enough, I’ll start a blog. Once my insides look as orderly as everyone else looks on the outside, I’ll follow my heart and my passion and start doing the things I want to do in the world. To live the things we love, we have to live them with our hearts feeling a l...
2018-08-2047 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 38: What If a Resurrected Life Isn’t as Impossible as It May Seem? [Loveable 039]“Sometimes the simplest, most elegant, most life-changing solutions are right in front of our noses. But we can’t see them, because we are locked in to old schemas. A schema is a mental framework that helps organize and interpret information in the world around us. Schemas are essential when we need to act quickly and decisively. But schemas can also be a problem, because sometimes they’re outdated. Or worse, some of our schemas were never correct in the first place…”
In Episode 39 of The Loveable Podcast, we examine the outdated mental rules and practical hurdles that get in th...
2018-08-1350 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 37: When You Think You Don’t Know How to Live [Loveable 038]“Sometimes, joy is simply undone things finally lived. We need to keep the door of our hearts open, so we can listen to our urges and our wants. Many of them are trying to lead us into joy. Yet, when we’ve been shutting the door on them for so long, it can be hard to break the habit and keep it ajar.”
We all want to find our passion and discover our purpose, yet many of us have difficulty doing so, and so we think our passions are hide to find. They’re not. They are usually r...
2018-08-0647 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 36: Why Wanting Is the Way to Truly Living [Loveable 037]“You have things you’ve always wanted to do with your life. Ways you’ve wanted to spend your days. Passions you’ve wanted to practice. Hobbies you’ve wanted to make a habit of. Love you’ve wanted to spread in the form of a vocation. Care you’ve wanted to give in the form of a calling. The things we want most are not, ultimately, material things, but purposeful things—patterns of living that feel meaningful. They are the deepest wishes of your truest self.”
In Episode 37 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on a question that can be...
2018-07-3151 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 35: The Kindness Challenge [Loveable 036]“Let’s admit it: we’re obsessed with winning. Just look around. Everything has become a competition. Our will-to-win is everywhere, and it’s not going anywhere. But what if we gave it something better to do? What if we all decided to compete at a game called kindness?”
In Episode 36 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about how to take our instinct for competition, which is usually divisive, and turn it on its head so it connects us in increasingly powerful and life-changing ways. This week’s episode is a dare, a dare to do away with all the confli...
2018-07-2445 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 34: Let’s Hold Each Other Like We’re Dying [Loveable 035]“Sometimes, we fight so we don’t have to feel. Sometimes, we trade jeers so we don’t have to trade tears…and that’s a problem. Because the solutions to our most pressing concerns don’t lie within the heated exchange of our ideas; they lie at the bottom of our grief. If we don’t get better at grieving, we can’t get better at loving and living.”
In Episode 35 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about how attention to our mortality can radically reshape our reality, making us less reactive and more tender, bringing us peace, and expandin...
2018-07-1747 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 33: The Healing Is in the Emptying [Loveable 034]“True intimacy is not the absence of privacy or the absence of boundaries or the absence of a separate self—in fact, we need to have our own spaces and limits and identity. True intimacy is the absence of secrets.”
The quality of your belonging will be inversely correlated with the size of your secrets. The more secrets you harbor about who you are, what you’ve done, why you’ve done it, how you’re wounded, and so on, the more difficult it will be to cultivate authentic connection and love. So, the challenge in Episode 34 of The Loveab...
2018-07-0349 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 32: Becoming Students of the People We Belong To [Loveable 033]“Relationships can grow stale and stuck. Perhaps that’s just the way life goes and the way love ages. But maybe, just maybe, we can fall into love again by learning how to pay attention again—by giving up all of our judgment and assessment and critique and meeting our people in the field of awareness, instead of upon the field of battle.”
In Episode 33 of The Loveable Podcast, we seek love again by choosing to be in school again. Let’s become students of the people we love, curious, fully attentive, ready to learn their every nuance, and cherish...
2018-06-1847 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 31: Turning Pro at the Art of Loving [Loveable 032]“You have a relationship gift. Something you are naturally good at. A way of loving that no one else can do in exactly the way you do it…You can stop being humble about it. You can stop suppressing it and burying it. You can stop being an amateur at it. Own it. Claim it. Inhabit it. You can decide right now, here, today, that you are going to become pro at that particular act of love.”
In Episode 32 of The Loveable Podcast, we uncomplicate love. For a week, put aside all the marriage blogs you’ve read, rel...
2018-06-1243 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 30: Letting Grace Show Us How to Love [Loveable 031]“Relationships do not thrive on big things; they thrive upon small things done every day. They don’t thrive necessarily on doing new things; they thrive upon doing old things we used to do and quit doing somewhere along the way. And, if we can set aside our ego for a little while, we don’t need anyone to tell us what those things are. We already know.”
In Episode 31 of The Loveable Podcast, we shift our focus from cultivating new places of belonging to reviving the places of belonging we already have…
Here are just a few...
2018-06-0541 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 29: Embracing Your Limitations and Being Embraced by Your People [Loveable 030]“To live from our soul—the great, powerful, divine thing at the center of us—is, paradoxically, to become aware of our dependence on other souls. When the bad stuff happens, it’s a chance to rely on the good stuff in other people. And the people who bring the good stuff are the people we belong to.”
We find our places of belonging when we ask for help. However, in order to feel safe, be independent, and appear strong, we resist asking. In other words, to ask for help is to invite belonging, but we don’t send enoug...
2018-05-2243 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 28: Learning How to Take a Compliment [Loveable 029]“Once upon a time, before our wounds and our world made us forget, we knew the good things about us were true. We believed them so thoroughly it didn’t hurt to hear them spoken to us.”
In Episode 29 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on the art of receiving compliments. You see, for most of us, the problem is not that we are given no affirmation; the problem is that we have difficulty truly receiving the affirmations we are given. They roll off us, like water off a duck’s back. Here, we talk about how to absorb...
2018-05-1546 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 27: The Essential Building Block of Belonging [Loveable 028]“When our egos lose, our hearts win.”
In Episode 28 of The Loveable Podcast, we dive deep into the topic of empathy, including how essential it is for true belonging, and the five barriers to cultivating it and communicating it. It’s time to exchange protection for connection. It’s time to quit living from your ego and to start loving from your heart…
Here are just a few of the takeaways from this week’s episode:
In places of true belonging, you do not necessarily agree with the opinions of others, but you do honor the pers...
2018-05-0745 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 26: The Opposite of Loneliness [Loveable 027]“The world we live in is aching with loneliness. Yet, we are rarely aware of it, because in a loud and crowded world, loneliness has a thousand busy disguises.”
In Episode 27 of The Loveable Podcast, we discuss how our mass connection culture produces fake news and fake belonging, we explore the necessary requirements for true belonging, and we identify the one word that will help you build true belonging over a lifetime.
Here are just a few of the takeaways from this week’s episode:
For true belonging to happen, the only requirements are an awaren...
2018-05-0144 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 25: The One Sentence That Can Change Your Love and Life [Loveable 026]“I’m not going to worry very much about offending people anymore, which means I need you to tell me when I do, so I can think about it and decide if I need to apologize.”
This is the one sentence that can change the way you love and live. In Episode 26 of The Loveable Podcast, we explore the fine line between empathy and codependence, and how healthy emotional boundaries, rooted in our sense of worthiness, can help us to stay on the right side of that line.
Here are just a few of the t...
2018-04-2442 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 24: The Other Most Important Thing to Look for in a Best Friend [Loveable 025]“Your time on this big rock is limited, so it is probably a waste of your time to spend it trying to convince people who cannot see the goodness of your heart that it is, indeed, good.”
Finding true belonging is not just about finding people, it is also about letting some people go. In Episode 25 of The Loveable Podcast, we explore the always complicated and often painful process of giving up on belonging with some people, so we can go build it with other people.
Here are just a few of the takeawa...
2018-04-1744 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 23: The Most Important Thing to Look for in a Best Friend [Loveable 024]“Belonging is built on bravery.”
Most of us, when we are looking for someone to belong to—whether in marriage or friendship or anywhere else—look for someone who seems either perfect, or a perfect fit. Neither exist. In Episode 24 of The Loveable Podcast we explore what else we might look for in our relationships. Hint: it has to do with blindspots and brokenness and bravery…
Here are just a few of the takeaways from this week’s episode:
Finding true belonging is not about total authenticity, but wise authenticity.
When you understand how...
2018-04-1046 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 22: Putting Stories Before Opinions [Loveable 023]“Every opinion is a story in disguise…Every belief is a story fashioned into a worldview.”
Episode 23 of The Loveable Podcast is all about opinions, opinionated people, and how to go deeper than our opinions in order to form true belonging. We wear our opinions like armor, and this week we’re going to talk about how to take a little more of that armor off, so we can truly connect.
This week’s episode explores the following topics:
Having patience with ourselves, as our tolerance for vulnerability ebbs and flows.
A powerful exam...
2018-03-2643 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 21: Finding the Fear Underneath All the Fury [Loveable 022]“Anger isn’t an inherently bad thing. Anger becomes a destructive thing when we allow it to become a reactive thing instead of harnessing it as a guiding thing.”
In Episode 21 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on what to do with the anger around us and the anger within us. How do we know when anger is healthy versus unhealthy, and how do we relate to it in a way that produces wisdom and connection rather than pain and aggression?
This week’s episode explores the following topics:
The importance of practicing...
2018-03-2044 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 20: What to Do with Your Walls [Loveable 021]“Walls are everywhere in our world…We build them so big they are the only things we create that can be seen from space. It’s like we’re advertising to the universe, ‘Walls matter on this big, spinning rock!’ But perhaps the biggest walls, the most important walls, are the ones that cannot be seen at all…the walls we erect in our minds, build around our hearts, and place firmly between ourselves and other people.”
In Episode 21 of The Loveable Podcast, we discuss the necessity of heart-walls, but also the essentiality of using them wisely, so th...
2018-03-1346 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 19: From Limping Lonely to Loving Together [Loveable 020]There are two kinds of loneliness. The first kind is a natural and inevitable part of being human—it exists because you exist. The second kind of loneliness, however, is a loneliness of our own creation. And that’s good news, because if we can create it, we can also uncreate it.
In Episode 20 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about the thing within us that creates the second type of loneliness, and we begin to explore what we can do about that thing, so that we can finally be together.
This week’s episod...
2018-03-0647 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 18: A Kid Named Lonely [Loveable 019]“Places of belonging are not meant to be places where our loneliness is taken away. They are meant to be places where we reveal our loneliness to one another…Once you have made your loneliness available to one of your people, you will no longer need to eradicate it. You will be able to touch it without fear and despair. You may feel hopeless to fix it, but you will be filled with the hope that comes from being joined in it.”
In Episode 19 of The Loveable Podcast, we begin the months of loving by talking about loneliness...
2018-02-2747 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 17: The One Illusion We Cannot Afford to Believe In [Loveable 018]“Experiencing our worthiness does not lead us to believe we are self-sufficient; it helps us to be at peace with the knowledge that we are insufficient. We are interconnected. Interdependent. As big as a limitless soul, but as small and as fragile as a human body.”
In Episode 18 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on the truest fruit of embracing our worthiness: embracing the worthiness of everyone else as well, and remembering that we are all ultimately connected.
This week’s episode explores the following topics:
How to relinquish our attachment to mental narratives that k...
2018-02-2045 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 16: The Fear (and Joy) of Removing the Masks We Wear [Loveable 017]“Grace is what happens when someone or Someone sees through our many masks, recognizing and celebrating the innocent little one that still resides beneath all of our disguises…Grace is the assurance that everyone is of equal value and equally worthy, so all you have to do to be loved is show up.”
In Episode 17 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on naming the masks we wear, and daring to take one of them off.
This week’s episode explores the following topics:
How the counter-intuitive choice to be uncertain can reduce our stress, decrease...
2018-02-1344 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 15: The Mess Will Set You Free! [Loveable 016]“Ann Lamott once wrote, ‘The grace of age is radical self-acceptance.’ Life is messy and we human creatures are messy. Life isn’t about eliminating the mess; it’s about embracing the mess.”
In Episode 16 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on accepting our messy selves by first accepting the chaos of everyday living. It’s fun and it’s freeing. Come and embrace the mess with us!
This week’s episode addresses the following topics:
How to de-escalate conflict with vulnerability, and how to be wise about where we invest our risk and vulnerability.
Why...
2018-02-0644 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 14: The Life-Changing Difference Between Shame and Guilt [Loveable 015]“Guilt is shame redeemed by grace. Shame tells us we are lousy; guilt tells us we did something lousy. Shame whispers, “Your mistakes define you,” but guilt proclaims, “We are defined by redemption, not by transgression.”
In Episode 15 of The Loveable Podcast, we are focusing on clarifying the difference between shame and guilt, because it is the difference between a redemptive life and a hidden life…
This week’s episode addresses the following topics:
Why maintaining a false self requires so much energy.
How life experiences such as aging, suffering, and loving all pave the way for letting...
2018-01-3043 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 13: Embracing Your Valuable Flaws [Loveable 014]“Perfection is overrated. Competition makes us common. The game is over. You are here to be unique. You are here to be you. Enjoy the freedom of that.”
In Episode 14 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on not just accepting, but embracing, our quirks and flaw and idiosyncracies and wounds and weirdness. When shame tells us that our uniqueness makes us stand out and makes us odd, the voice of grace responds, “Yeah, and you’re beautiful and beloved.”
This week’s episode addresses the following topics:
Why grace embraces us not in spite of who we are...
2018-01-2347 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 12: The Voice of Grace [Loveable 013]“Grace isn’t just acceptance of the status quo. Grace contains the status quo—all of our struggle and pain and mess—and embraces us and values us anyway. Grace demands that nothing be changed for love and connection to happen, and that kind of love has power.”
In Episode 13 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about how to listen for the voice of grace within us and, perhaps even more importantly, how to recognize it once we’ve heard it…
This week’s episode addresses the following topics:
Why trying to be happier doesn’t work, but...
2018-01-1649 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 11: Choosing Which Voices to Listen to Around You [Loveable 012]“Maybe growing up and growing healthy is as simple as discerning which voices to allow in, and learning how to keep the rest of the voices out.”
In last week’s episode, we began to focus on the voice of shame all of us hear on the inside of us. Now, in this twelfth episode of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about what to do when we hear that voice on the outside of us, too, coming from the people around us.
This week’s episode includes:
Several personal examples of small and ordinary but powe...
2018-01-0249 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 10: Why Shame Is the Beginning of Your Story (Not the End of It) [Loveable 011]“There is a place inside of you where a better voice is telling a better story about you. Let the next chapter of your story be about listening for that voice.” In Episode 11 of The Loveable Podcast, we define shame, describe how it can be recognized in our experience, and explore how the concept of story can become an essential tool for transformation…
This week’s episode includes:
A conversation about how to recognize the signs that you are growing and healing.
A parenting discussion about how we accidentally show kids they are not worthy of help, and...
2017-12-1947 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 9: What to Do When Your Heart Feels Like a Jungle [Loveable 010]“Embracing your worthiness is up to you and you alone—we cannot truly receive love until we have embraced that we are worthy of love. However, we all need someone to walk with us as we do so. We don’t depend upon this person for our sense of worth, but we can lean upon them when the going gets tough.”
In Episode 10 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about what to do when the healing journey gets a little too messy to walk alone…
This week’s episode includes:
A conversation about how to learn fro...
2017-12-1248 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 8: The Small Gate and Narrow Road Back to Your True Self [Loveable 009]Emotional healing and spiritual growth are not about eliminating our pain; they are about approaching our pain. Rather than moving away from our pain, we learn how to move toward it, enduring it, learning from it, transforming it, and eventually moving through it, to where we find our true self.
In Episode 9 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about pain and playfulness and everything in between…
This week’s episode includes:
A case study of how to observe our thought stream, rather than getting swept away in it, and an example of how this can...
2017-12-0546 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 6: Unbecoming Who You Are Not [Loveable 007]“You already are what you are becoming. You don’t build what you are; you chip away at what you are not. We are, each of us, like blocks of wood, and becoming our true self is the gradual process of carving away the excess and steadily becoming more and more the shape of what we already are.” In Episode 7 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about how to do so, and it begins with answering three very specific questions…
This week’s episode includes:
How to respond to the “gap” between who you want to be and who you...
2017-11-1445 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 5: Letting Go of the Solution to All of Your Problems [Loveable 006]What is the only thing worse than not getting what you want? Getting what you want. Because after you get what you want, you will probably realize it wasn’t the hoped-for solution to all of your problems. And then what? In Episode 6 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about our search for a solution that doesn’t exist, letting it go, and then what…
This week’s episode includes:
A review of last week’s practice, especially the importance of adopting a word or phrase to be mindful of and to anchor us on our journey of...
2017-11-0746 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 4: Self-Acceptance Is the Foundation of All Self-Improvement [Loveable 005]What if all our efforts to improve ourselves are actually keeping us stuck, because, sometimes, self-help is just cleverly disguised self-rejection? And what if, sometimes, self-acceptance is the most helpful, most transformative thing of all? Welcome to Episode 5 of The Loveable Podcast, in which we read and discuss Week 4 of Loveable’s companion book, which is available nowhere else…
This week’s episodes includes:
Me admitting that I woke up feeling insecure and anxious about recording the podcast episode.
A fruitful conversation about what to do when your shame decides to visit you once again.
The importa...
2017-10-3148 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 3: Replacing Suffering with Presence [Loveable 004]What if pain is an inevitable part of being alive, but suffering is not? And what if you could begin reducing your suffering right now, with a few simple practices? Join us for Episode 4 of The Loveable Podcast, as we read and discuss Week 3 of Loveable’s companion book, which is available nowhere else…
This week’s episodes includes:
The important distinction between our inward journey and our outward journeys.
Why it is so important to experience the contrast between mindfulness and clutteredness.
What to do when a performance mindset interferes with mindfulness practices.
A new and mo...
2017-10-2445 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 2: Rest Is Revolutionary [Loveable 003]Welcome to Episode 3 of The Loveable Podcast! Join us, as we read and discuss Week 2 of Loveable’s companion book (which is available nowhere else). It was another great conversation, this time about why most rest isn’t very restful at all…
This week’s episodes includes:
A conversation about last week’s mindful breathing practice.
Resources for honing your breathing practice and making it a habit.
A redefinition of rest as an inner condition, rather than a set of outer circumstances.
An exploration of the reasons we don’t take advantage of opportunities to rest.
Practices fo...
2017-10-1049 minDr. Kelly FlanaganWeek 1: Doing Is the Enemy of Becoming [Loveable 002]This is Episode 2 of The Loveable Podcast, and the first week of our on-line book club! We got together on Facebook Live, read Week 1 of Loveable’s companion book (which is available nowhere else), and had a great discussion about it. You can hear it all in this week’s episode…
In this week’s episode, you’ll find out:
The secret to discovering your truest, worthiest, most loveable self.
The reason we forget who we are.
The reason we fill our lives with so much doing and activity.
A practice for creating more space and stillness...
2017-10-0240 minDr. Kelly FlanaganAn Introduction to The Loveable Podcast [Loveable 001]Welcome to Episode 1 of The Loveable Podcast. In this introductory episode, I give you a behind-the-scenes glimpse at my story, share details about the podcast, narrate the introduction to Loveable’s companion book (which is available nowhere else), and tell you how you can participate in future episodes…
The two deepest desires of every human heart are to love simply and live fully. So why do our relationships remain so complicated, and why do our lives sometimes ring so hollow? Because neither love nor life can be truly embraced until you, and only you, have embraced your true...
2017-09-1538 min
Awesome Marriage PodcastBuilding a Happy Marriage - Interview with Kelly Flanagan | Ep. 110Today on the podcast we welcome special guests Kelly Flanagan with us. Kelly Flanagan is a clinical psychologist and author and speaker. Kelly writes about personal transformation, marriage, parenting, community, mindfulness and gratitude, grace, the power of story, and the discovery of purpose. Kelly joins Dr. Kim today as they talk how to build a happy marriage. They share about the importance of not wasting time "working on your marriage" when you can be "building" it. Tune in below to learn more about what that means and how it can impact your marriage for the...
2017-08-3138 minAwesome Marriage PodcastBuilding a Happy Marriage - Interview with Kelly Flanagan | Ep. 110Today on the podcast we welcome special guests Kelly Flanagan with us. Kelly Flanagan is a clinical psychologist and author and speaker. Kelly writes about personal transformation, marriage, parenting, community, mindfulness and gratitude, grace, the power of story, and the discovery of purpose. Kelly joins Dr. Kim today as they talk how to build a happy marriage. They share about the importance of not wasting time "working on your marriage" when you can be "building" it. Tune in below to learn more about what that means and how it can impact your marriage for the...
2017-08-3138 min
Awesome Marriage PodcastLoveable - Interview with Kelly Flanagan | Ep. 109Today on the podcast we welcome special guests Kelly Flanagan with us. Kelly Flanagan is a clinical psychologist and author and speaker. Kelly has been featured on Reader's Digest, The Huffington Post, and Today. Kelly writes about personal transformation, marriage, parenting, community, mindfulness and gratitude, grace, the power of story, and the discovery of purpose. Kelly joins Dr. Kim today as they talk about Kelly's latest book Loveable which is all about embracing what is truest about you, so that you can embrace your life. Tune in below to learn more about Loveable and how...
2017-08-3034 minAwesome Marriage PodcastLoveable - Interview with Kelly Flanagan | Ep. 109Today on the podcast we welcome special guests Kelly Flanagan with us. Kelly Flanagan is a clinical psychologist and author and speaker. Kelly has been featured on Reader's Digest, The Huffington Post, and Today. Kelly writes about personal transformation, marriage, parenting, community, mindfulness and gratitude, grace, the power of story, and the discovery of purpose. Kelly joins Dr. Kim today as they talk about Kelly's latest book Loveable which is all about embracing what is truest about you, so that you can embrace your life. Tune in below to learn more about Loveable and how...
2017-08-3034 min
Living Well With Dr. Peg8-19-17 Loveable (Guest: Dr. Kelly Flanagan)Dr. Kelly Flanagan believes you can’t truly awaken your life’s purpose until “the little one” in you understands that you are enough, and you are loveable. On this episode of Living well with Dr. Peg, psychologist and author, Dr. Kelly Flanagan talks about what it means to be Loveable. Brought to you by SSI Guardian. Listen online at DrPegRadio.com
2017-08-2155 min
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Get Your Daily Dose of Laughter With Our Side-Splitting Free Audiobook | Self Development, Motivation & InspirationLoveable by Kelly Flanagan | AudiobookListen to full audiobooks for free on :https://hotaudiobook.com/freeTitle: LoveableAuthor: Kelly FlanaganNarrator: Eric Michael SummererFormat: UnabridgedLength: 6 hrs and 39 minsLanguage: EnglishRelease date: 03-21-17Publisher: Tantor AudioGenres: Self Development, Motivation & InspirationSummary:"We rarely remember the precious months or years when we experienced our worthiness as a fact. A given. Something as present, real, and natural as breathing and playing and animal crackers." (Dr. Kelly Flanagan)It's time to remember.Dr. Kelly Flanagan is known...
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