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Manned Up ConversationsManaging Bipolar Mood Disorder Through Poetry with Delile NdumoSend us a textThis Mental Health Awareness Month, we welcome long-time supporter Delile Ndumo to share his powerful story of life following his 2012 diagnosis with Bipolar Mood Disorder.Delile's struggles were awakened by the suppressed grief following his father's passing in 2009. He details the challenging journey of finding the right combination of medication and ultimately experiencing a profound "rebirth".The true catalyst for his healing, documented in his book Raw Feelings, was poetic expression. Delile shares how writing provided a constructive channel to pour his intense energy into...
2025-10-151h 05
Manned Up ConversationsNavigating Identity and Connection in Men's ConversationsSend us a textIn this episode, I reflect on a key tension in men's healing work: empathy vs. judgment, and whether my voice as an African man should only be directed toward African men. While firmly committed to centering African stories, I explores what it means to be a bridge—not an apologist—by creating space for honest conversations with men from all backgrounds.From mental health and father wounds to shame and invisibility, these struggles don’t ask for skin tone or nationality. I had to pause and reflect around featuring a white U.S. p...
2025-06-0415 min
Manned Up ConversationsBeyond Talk Therapy: A Journey of Trauma, Healing & Psychedelics with Alex AbrahamSend us a textTune into this deeply personal conversation with Alex Abraham, author of Trauma and Ecstasy. Alex shares his deeply personal journey through repressed childhood trauma, including sexual abuse and its physical manifestations. He candidly discusses the limitations of traditional healing methods like talk therapy in addressing deep-seated issues and how guided experiences with psychedelics (MDMA and psilocybin) facilitated the uncovering of memories and a profound path toward healing and growth. This episode explores the untold aspects of men's pain and the search for effective healing from Alex's lived ex...
2025-05-1436 min
Manned Up ConversationsSuffering in Silence - A Story of Trauma & Recovery with Captain Adam MeyersSend us a textIn this deeply personal interview, Police Captain, Adam Meyers bravely shares his journey following a critical shooting incident in 2016, the subsequent struggles with trauma, depression, and unhealthy coping mechanisms, and his eventual path to recovery and mental health advocacy.This powerful conversation cuts through the often stoic exterior of law enforcement to reveal the emotional and psychological toll that high-stress professions can take. Captain Meyers opens up about the silence and stigma surrounding mental health, particularly within the police force, and the challenges he faced in seeking help. He candidly discusses...
2025-04-301h 01
Manned Up ConversationsExploring Positive Masculinity for Gender Equity with Chelepe MocwanaSend us a textIn this episode Kgaugelo Habyane engages in an insightful discussion with Chelepe Mocwana. We explore the complexities of positive masculinities as a vital tool for achieving gender equity. Chelepe shares his experiences and perspectives on redefining masculinity beyond patriarchal norms, emphasising the importance of empathy, self-awareness, and accountability for men. Our conversation tackles challenging issues such as gender-based violence, consent, the impact of societal expectations on men and boys, and the need for a community-wide approach to foster healthier relationships and a more equitable society. This episode...
2025-04-161h 17
Manned Up ConversationsDesigning Meaningful Moments of Pause with Charles AchampongSend us a textJoin Kgaugelo Habyane in this insightful conversation with Charles Achampong as they explore the importance of family time, the transformative power of travel, and the necessity of creating moments of pause in our busy lives. Charles shares his experiences from taking a year-long trip around the world with his family and the profound lessons he learned about presence, intentionality, and redefining success beyond traditional societal norms. Discover practical steps towards designing a more meaningful life and why pausing is not a reward but a crucial necessity for well-being.Charles Achampong...
2025-03-3048 min
Manned Up ConversationsShifting From Debate To Dialogue with Rooken PodestaSend us a text"What are you trying to take care of?" – a simple yet powerful question that shifts the way we engage in conversations.In a world where men are often told to suppress emotions, solve problems alone, and dominate rather than dialog, how do we create space for deeper, more meaningful connections?Rooken Podesta is the perfect man to explore this question. A facilitator and expert in generative dialog, Rooken helps individuals and organizations transform the way they communicate. His work centers on psychological safety, emotional li...
2025-03-2045 min
Manned Up ConversationsReclaiming Communal Love Among MenSend us a textIn a world where violence, disconnection, and individualism seem to overshadow compassion, we ask: Where’s the love? In this episode of Manned Up Conversations, we explore the concept of communal love a love that affirms, nurtures, and holds space for men to express care, support, and connection.We dive into African philosophies like Botho/Ubuntu, insights from thought leaders like Prof. Mogobe Ramose, Nyasha Mboti, and Kopano Ratele, and the realities that shape men’s ability to give and receive love. Why do so many men struggle with affection? How do s...
2025-02-2021 min
Manned Up ConversationsThe Road To Hell Is Paved With Good IntentionsSend us a textShoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated.The first episode for 2025 is inspired by Ms Lauryn Hill's Motives and Thoughts, The Trial of Socrates and some of Carl Jung's shadow work. As we go into this transition period (our last pefect square year was 89 years ago in 1939) with a sense of newness about ourselves and the world around us, it's important to check in with ourselves and explore through personal reflection and conversation with...
2025-02-0316 min
Manned Up ConversationsFighting The Good Fight with Cassius "Hitman" BaloyiSend us a textShoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated.In this episode, I speak former 6x boxing champ Cassius Hitman Baloyi about his glory days in the ring. The name named after Muhammad Ali by his father after the classic, Rumble in Jumgle fight between George Foreman and Muhammad Ali shares stories of his upbringing in Manamulele, Limpopo in South Africa. We talk about his father's influence on his life, the passing of his mother and...
2024-11-231h 08
Manned Up ConversationsExploring Talents and Learning From Experiences with Batsile "BOY Wonder" RamasodiSend us a textShoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated.In this episode, I speak with artist extraordinaire Batsile "BOY Wonder" Ramasodi on his artistic path and growth as a man.We talk about growing up in Atteridgeville, Pretoria, and how he pursued his creative talents and developed them into numerous careers. As a father of four, we also discuss his perspectives on fatherhood. and the complexities of co-parenting.Batsile also discusses the impact...
2024-11-071h 16
Manned Up ConversationsBecoming Mentally Healthy with Tshegofatso SephulaSend us a textShoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated.In this episode we expand on a conversation we had with Tshegofatso Sephula on a mental health awareness campaign we did with John Craig to discuss some highlights from his book, Mental Decay. Tshegofatso talks about identity issues, navigating family dynamics with mental health challenges, the inspiration behind sharing his story and letting go of expectations. We also talk about the impact of family secrets and...
2024-10-1156 min
Manned Up ConversationsReflections On Black Male PrivilegeSend us a textShoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. We've covered many conversations over the last three years, while going through some books, research and conversations with friends and listening to the online community, I've been reflecting on the idea of male privilege or to be more specific, black male privilege. I know this is an extremely contentious topic in the gender discourse but I want to offer an alternative argument against black male pr...
2024-09-1332 min
Manned Up ConversationsReflections On The Gender Empathy GapSend us a textShoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated.I was intrigued by an article shared by Ground Up and the Daily Maverick titled, “Battered woman syndrome”: law to be challenged." The Centre for Applied Legal Studies has laid out a strong argument for women who kill in self defence arguing that the courts don't empathise or consider the psychological effects of abuse when sentencing "battered women." CALS argued that “This case demonstrates that the curre...
2024-09-0310 min
Manned Up ConversationsExploring The Journey of a Conscientious Objector with Kyle ToonSend us a textShoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated.In this episode we explore an uncommon but interesting story of a US Army conscientious objector and social work graduate student, Kyle Toon to talk about his decision to leave the army after serving for 10 years where he enrolled at 17 years old. Kyle shares how going against family lineage caused an internal conflict and mental heath issues resulting from the dissonance he experienced when comparing what he...
2024-07-181h 06
Manned Up ConversationsWhy Silence Isn't Always Golden with Leon De BeerSend us a textShoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated.We talk about men's coping mechanisms and how seeking help—or not—can lead to mental health issues and suicidal thoughts in this courageous interview with Leon De Beer, the deputy director of the South African Federation of Mental Health. After his divorce, Leon experienced suicide ideation. By sharing his story, he emphasizes the value of reaching out and surrounding yourself with people who can support and unde...
2024-07-0452 min
Manned Up ConversationsUnlocking The Keys To Self Mastery with Met_a_morphosisSend us a textShoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated.In this exciting talk with the quantum leaping physicist, we discuss knowing thyself from several of viewpoints, including history, education, and tools to aid you on your own journey. We also discuss some challenging issues regarding the representation of African culture and its impact on identity. Met_a_morphosis also discusses how he balances his four careers while giving back to underserved communities through mathematics education and...
2024-06-201h 03
Manned Up ConversationsCreating Care Uptake Points For Men with Dr Vuyo YokweSend us a textThanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen.Although the term "safe spaces" is frequently used in casual conversations, what does it actually mean? We explore the impportance and quality of conversations held in such spaces and highlight some essential elements of designing safe spaces, we then question if our own and others efforts in reaching and working with men are effective in addressing their issues. Dr Vuyo also shares some interesting t...
2024-05-231h 05
Manned Up ConversationsProtect Your Critical Thinking From Patriarchy with Kneo MokgopaSend us a textThanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen.Many males avoid using the word patriarchy because they perceive it as an attack on their gender. Some activists have even asserted that men of African origin are not entitled to privilege or patriarchy. Despite this, many people are still unaware of the influence of patriarchal structures. During a conference in November 2023, my guest Kneo Mokgopa gave a fascinating presentation titled "Protecting Your Critical...
2024-05-0951 min
Manned Up ConversationsExploring Men's Emotional Language with Matthew SteeleSend us a textThanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen.On episode 60 we explore men's emotional language with Clinical Psychologist, Matthew Steele. We discuss the impact of testosterone and men’s emotions. Looking at family as a space for teaching emotional literacy, we also discuss how parents play a part in helping boys develop emotional awareness. Matthew share some tips on creating male friendly therapy spaces and encourages men to not wait until they hav...
2024-04-2552 min
Manned Up ConversationsFather Wounds & Black Male Stereotypes with Malose LangaSend us a textThanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen.On episode 59 I met with Malose Langa at The University of the Witwatersrand, Johannesburg to discuss his insights and reflections on working with men and boys. We discuss the impact of father wounds, why many men and boys feel the pressure to perform a certain type of masculinity to either fit in or protect their masciline identity and the perception of black men and...
2024-04-1946 min
Manned Up ConversationsReflections on Faith, Leadership & Relationships with Ratiba MohaleSend us a textThanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen. On episode 58 I speak to Marketing Executive, Podcast and Radio host Ratiba Mohale about his views on faith and being a man of value, he also shares why he views family as a cornerstone of leadership and the changing role of men in family and society. We also speak about the decline in marriage and the destruction of the family. While speaking on male...
2024-04-111h 05
Manned Up ConversationsWhy Men Keep Their Emotional Pain InvisibleSend us a textThrough reading his books, articles and watching Tom Golden on his YouTube channel, Men Are Good, his work opened my eyes to the misconceptions and subtle signs that go unnoticed in men’s emotional domain. I’ve reflected on how his work relates to me as a South African man and how some of the observations he shared in his books and talks still hold true, though there are some changes in society’s attitudes towards men’s emotional experiences. In this episode I share How and Why Men Keep Their Emotional Pain Invisible ba...
2024-02-1616 min
Manned Up ConversationsThe Healing Power of Music with Graeme SacksSend us a text Welcome to Season 4 of Manned Up Conversations. If you are new to the platform, thank you for tuning in. I invite you to listen in with an open mind, our stories and conversations give you a refreshing perspective on manhood, reflections on issues affecting men and some suggestions on what we can do to enjoy a wholistic life experience. We do not claim to have all the answers, we share out of compassion for others and pay our stories forward so they can inspire the next man to own his story and pass o...
2024-02-0250 min
Manned Up ConversationsStarting Over with Anele NdlovuSend us a textIn our latest episode, we close off with a conversation with Anele Ndlovu, a women's leadership and mental health advocate who also runs an engaging platform "The Tea with Anele Ndlovu." We catch up after several interactions since her first men's mental health event in November 2022 to learn about her journey with mental health resulting from a job loss which led to alcohol abuse and a suicide attempt. We also discuss her family's role in her recovery, raising a son and having those awkward sex and sexual health conversations and her perspective on...
2023-12-211h 05
Manned Up ConversationsEngaging Men and Boys in Violence Prevention with Michael FloodSend us a textThe theme for the 16 Days of Activism Campaign for 2023 is: “Accelerating actions to end gender-based violence & femicide: leaving no one behind” it is in this light that we share our first episode highlighting men's violence against women and children with Australian Professor, Michael Flood. We explore the framing of violence against women and how men interpret these messages in episode 54, as we explore his work in Engaging Men and Boys in Violence. We also look at how males who have been abused by women react to violence against women, as well as th...
2023-12-0757 min
Manned Up ConversationsDads In The Picture with Mesh KekanaSend us a textIn episode 53, we connect with Mesh Kekana to talk about the journey of his organization Dads In The Picture. We also explore how boys are being raised differently from girls in the home and the importance of teaching boys skills that enable them to take care of their own home and families. Mesh also questions some of the statements made about fathers involvement in their child life and how the systemic, social and cultural obstacles fathers face make it difficult for those relationships to flourish. Mesh Kekana is the founder of Da...
2023-11-171h 08
Manned Up ConversationsThe Bond Between Black Fathers and Daughters with David MillerSend us a textIn episode 52, we connect with David Miller to explore his work on the relationship between black fathers and daughters. Some of the key talking points in this conversation include the marginalization of black fathers, creating opportunities and space for bonding through various activities for fathers to get to know their daughters likes and dislikes, the impact of absent fathers on girls and women, having courageous and age appropriate conversations around topics like sex, education, dating and media literacy and managing emotions and dealing with conflict. Baltimore native David C. Miller uses h...
2023-11-021h 09
Manned Up ConversationsExploring The Masculine Archetype Challenge with Ruwan MeepagalaSend us a textIn episode 51, we take a deep dive into the world of the masculine archetypes with Ruwan Meepagala.We unpack his journey into coaching, navigating the seemingly saturated coaching space, his learnings as a new father and how that impacts on his coaching conversations. Ruwan also shares how he ended up in a cult and highlights the good and potential dangers of heading down that path. Then we narrow in on his 21 day masculine archetype challenge where he unpacks the benefits of grounding, introspection and material accomplishment for men.Ruwan M...
2023-10-1958 min
Manned Up ConversationsLessons from 50 Years of Hip Hop with NyambzSend us a textIn episode 50, we celebrate another milestone episode in line with 50 years of Hip Hop.Joining me to reflect on lessons, experiences and how Hip Hop impacts it's participants and followers, I'm joined by legendary producer Nyambz. We discuss the collaborative approach to creating music, his decision to not partake in the drugs and supporting for a friend who is dealing with addiction and the dual nature of Hip Hop and much more.After winning the African Hip-Hop producer of the year, in 2004, at the tender age of 19, Nyambz influence i...
2023-10-051h 19
Manned Up ConversationsDoing The Work Required To Get Better with Melusi TshabalalaSend us a textIn episode 49, we reconnect with Melusi Tshabalala for a follow up episode since we covered his book Magenge, We Need To Talk.In this episode we learn about his entrepreneurial journey with Gogo Magic Family Eatery and his vision creating culturally appropriate spaces for African people to enjoy food while gathering with family, fixing yourself before fixing others, being raised by his mother, views on co-parenting, writing children's books, mentoring the youth and more...Melusi Tshabalala is a seasoned advertising creative with a career spanning 20 years, he's...
2023-09-141h 19
Manned Up ConversationsLiving The Imperfect Life with Nekisha LupkeSend us a textIn episode 48, we explore a life of imperfection with Mrs South Africa 2023 finalist, Nekisha Lupke.Nekisha takes us through her childhood in Durban where she witnessed violence, abuse in different forms and how this experience impacted her mental health. We talk about pretty privilege and being bullied in school because of the dark colour in comparison to the children in her neighbourhood. Then we move on to discuss her relationship with her father and how his passing led to her sister dying by suicide, her own suicide ideation and overdosing on th...
2023-09-071h 12
Manned Up ConversationsCultivating Empowering Morning Thoughts with Zibuse L KuneneSend us a textIn episode 47 we touch base and connect with author of Monring Thoughts By Zibuse Kunene. Zibuse describes how sharing empowering words on WhatsApp and social media grew into a huge community of people who looked forward to starting their day. We talk about the value of having a morning ritual and setting your intention for the day before you get to your daily have-to's. Given his work's impact on people, we talk about how having a presence or following may affect the ego and the need to keep it in check and...
2023-08-171h 13
Manned Up ConversationsCultural Silence & Wounded Souls with Mark TuggleSend us a textIn episode 46 of Manned Up Conversations we broaddcast from Atteridgeville, Pretoria to Harlem, New York with co-author and editor of Cultural Silence and Wounded Souls: Black Men Speak About Mental Health, Mark Tuggle.We explore various topics in this conversation including the importance of black men developing a language around how they feel, the culture of silence and state of mental health in black communities. We also highlight the cost of speaking the truth and the courage it takes to be vulnerable. Then we unpack the reasons for lack of trust among...
2023-08-031h 08
Manned Up ConversationsLearning From The Artistic Expression of African Cultures with Nsamu MoongaSend us a textIn this episode I connect with music psychotherapist Nsamu Moonga to explore how we can use artistic expression to create a society we know in our heart is possible. We discuss how moving from person centered to monetary centered economies have affected our understanding of hospitality and our ability connect with others. We then highlight why it is difficult to have healthy conversations about men in the current name and shame approach that makes men feel defensive about their actions and hide their true opinions. Nsamu also challenges the limiting nature of...
2023-07-201h 07
Manned Up Conversations2 Years of Following My BlissSend us a textThis is a bonus episode where I share how the journey of Manned Up Conversations has helped me over the past 2 years since 9 July 2021. Lots of lessons learned, people lost but most importantly has helped me find my voice and express myself without that negative self talk holding me back from sharing my story. More of these to come but I just want to thank you for all your support, encouragement and comments since I embarked on the journey of following my bliss.I hope these episodes are adding...
2023-07-1010 min
Manned Up ConversationsA Holistic Approach To Healing with Oscar MotswageSend us a textIn this episode we take a holistic approach to mental wellbeing by discussing the developments made in understanding how mental health affects us emotionally, behaviourally, cognitively including the important but often overlooked spiritual or belief system particularly in African cultures. We explore how black psychologists are becoming more aware of the different African cultural aspects that impact mental health. We also talk about the need to educate each other to build a language around mental wellbeing and some of the social ills caused by untreated traumas in communities and families around South Africa.
2023-07-0652 min
Manned Up ConversationsMaturing Through Faith & Family with Redmond LouwSend us a textIn this episode we discuss being baptized and reborn into a faith-based life, we unpack transitioning from working in corporate to the NGO space. My guests also shares how his view on marriage and raising his sons after a living a life caught up "in-the-world" before being saved. We also explore discipleship and mentoring young men and close off with the importance of fitness, exercise and connecting with natureand creating men’s communities within or outside of the church.Redmond Louw is from Johannesburg South. In 2015, he was baptized and...
2023-06-1559 min
Manned Up ConversationsUnderstanding Male Psychology with Angelo De BoniSend us a textIn this episode we get to grips with men's psychology by highlighting how men respond to scarcity and lack of opportunities in an unbalanced society like South Africa. We discuss how the female dominated counselling and therapy industry has somehow overlooked and misunderstood the male lived experience and how we can create space for men to connect with each other, Angelo shares an interesting idea on what leads men to go rogue and choose to isolate themselves because of the backlash and negative language associated with male behaviour. We close off by un...
2023-06-021h 07
Manned Up ConversationsCoping With Grief and Loss with Tichaona ChitsindeSend us a textIn this deeply moving and insightful episode of Manned Up Conversations, Kgaugelo Habyane sits down with his close friend Tichaona Chitsinde for a powerful discussion on coping with profound grief and loss. Tichaona bravely shares his personal journey after becoming a widower, offering raw honesty and valuable lessons on navigating life after immense loss. This isn't just a story of sorrow, but a testament to resilience, the importance of community support and the ongoing process of healing. Tichaona reflects on the initial shock, t...
2023-05-1853 min
Manned Up ConversationsThe Secret That Saved My Life with Ntimbwe MpambaSend us a textIn this episode we explore the lived experience of Ntimbwe Mpamba who's survived multiple medical procedures and still lives with HIV for 40 years. He shares the story of how a family secret about a condition that could've possibly ruined his life ended up saving him.Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work.If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family.T
2023-05-041h 05
Manned Up ConversationsUnpacking Modern Relationships with Linda YendeSend us a textIn this episode we highlight some topics covered the best selling book Wake Up Woman with the author who is affectionately known as Uncle L by scores of radio and television audiences who tune in for his insights on relationships. We begin by discussing the influences that led to the book, then unpack friendships between men and women before delving into the big question of why men cheat and why he believes it is often due to male ego. We also investigate why women avoid friendly guys. In his book, he d...
2023-04-061h 10
Manned Up ConversationsBecoming A Universal Man with WarriorRicSend us a textIn this episode I connect with Oakland, CA native WarriorRic to detail his journey of starting life over in South Africa more than 20 years ago and unpack his experience of the country, culture and people.We discuss the importance of greeting in African culture and how he experienced Ubuntu and was embraced by South Africans upon his arrival. Then we unpack the effects of xenophobia, highlighting the difference in treatment towards Africans foreigners and international foreigners. Taking aim at men's wellness, we talk about the deep introspective work men need to do...
2023-03-231h 06
Manned Up ConversationsChanging The Narrative Through Fine Arts with Lekgetho MakolaSend us a textIn this episode we head to Javett-UP to explore how artists are using their expression to change the narrative around how men and black people are depicted in media and fine arts. To help unpack this topic I'm joined by the exceptionally talented and experienced CEO, Lekgetho Makola.We discuss his journey in fine arts and learn how his exposure to international markets sparked a growing interest in shifting the colonial culture in artistic establishments. We also look into how social media is used to highlight the negative aspects of our cu...
2023-03-091h 03
Manned Up ConversationsOvercoming Limiting Beliefs with Michael UnbrokenSend us a textDo you find yourself putting off thing that you know deep down in your heart you really want to do? Well if you are like me and you keep getting in your own way when it comes to doing the things that really matter to you then this episode is for you. To explore how these so called limiting beliefs stops us from expanding and stepping into the best version of ourselves I'm joined by Michael Unbroken.Michael share his traumatic upbringing and how that led him to help...
2023-02-2455 min
Manned Up ConversationsThe Power of Support Groups with Krystle KempSend us a text"We all exist in so many different communities and that's empowering. Because if I'm not getting what I need in the communities I have, I might need to look elsewhere"Support groups are a great source of help for many people struggling with mental illnesses or anyone looking for a place to connect with people with similar life experiences. During SADAG's annual support group awareness week, we highlight some of the important information around support groups and unpack what types of groups are available to join, who can join the groups...
2023-01-2651 min
Manned Up ConversationsSexual Discipline and Spiritual Alignment with Jakal El-MalikSend us a textWelcome back to season 3. We highlight the importance of protecting your sexual energy and how using or misusing it can affect your spiritual wellbeing. My guest shares how going down the wrong path can lead to struggle and a hard time trying to undo the bondage you've attached to yourself through casual sexual encounters, aggressive media and having the wrong people and partners in your life. We also delve into the positive side of being disciplined from a young age and how that can attract more positivity, clarity and a ric...
2023-01-191h 01
Manned Up ConversationsLet's Get Real About Prostate Cancer with Dr Viola MoroloSend us a textAccording to studies 1 in 15 men in South Africa will develop prostate cancer in their lifetime. This affects between 1 in 4 to 1 in 6 black men compared to 1 in 8 to 1 in 9 white men in South Africa. To help us Get Real About Prostate Cancer and wrap up our series on Men's Health, my guest shares her experience in assisting men with their urological conditions. We define what exactly is the prostate, how it functions and gets infected. Known to spread through the body if not detected early on, we highlight the importance of screening and...
2022-12-1559 min
Manned Up ConversationsHow To Take Care Of Your Nuts with Torsten KoehlerSend us a textIn his thirties, Torsten Koehler, the founder of Love Your Nuts Foundation, was diagnosed with testicular cancer in 1995 ironically whilst educating young teenagers about sex education at a school where he was employed as a teacher. He joins me to talk about “the shy cancer which is the most common cancer in the age group 15 to 45". We discuss his work they in educating young and older men about testicular cancer and explain why it's important for men to regularly check their nuts. Testicular cancer is known to get aggressive, he also hi...
2022-12-0140 min
Manned Up ConversationsMaking Mental Health A Community Conversation with Peter TeixeiraSend us a textTo continue our series on Men's Month, we travel to Midvaal to meet with the Executive Mayor Peter Teixeira to have an informal but insightful chat about him fathering 3 amazing children and married to his beautiful wife whom he married at a young age. We discuss his upbringing and venture into how the pressure of his career affect his mental health and how he can utilize his position as a leader and servant of society. to create more awareness and implement strategies to improve mental health in rural communities. We also talk ab...
2022-11-171h 05
Manned Up ConversationsUnderstanding Men's Health with Dr Kabo IjaneSend us a textTo kick off Men's Health Month we took The Urology Hospital in Hatfield, Pretoria to talk to Dr K Ijane about some of the issues surrounding how men are dealing with the issues of prostate cancer and the process involved when seeking help. He explains the relationship between GPs and other doctors who are part their network in providing help and referrals to professionals who can offer specialized help when needed. We also speak about the need to spread information about men's health issues and make it accessible for people to know when...
2022-11-0344 min
Manned Up ConversationsBreaking The Silence On Male Sexual Abuse with Martin PeldersSend us a text"44% of all boys in South Africa has suffered some form of sexual abuse by age 18."We talk to Martin Pelders to discuss his work in empowering survivors of sexual abuse. We unpack the foundations of his company MatrixMen and tackle myths surrounding sexual abuse victims. He shares insights on how abuse affects the victims outlook on life, how they deal with the trauma and some of the causes of boys and men being silent victims of this often talked about but very hidden side of abuse. Martin Pelders launched Ma...
2022-10-201h 12
Manned Up ConversationsConfronting Your Shadow Self with Mervin CanhamSend us a textThe voice(s) in our head often work against us and limit our ability to live in our truth and reach our fullest potential. We hide, deny and suppress certain parts of ourselves in order to appear perfect and well put together to the world around us. My guest Mervin Canham pulled up to share how The Mankind Project South Africa helped him on his journey in healing and overcoming personal challenges by providing a space for fellowship and support among brothers so he can use his story to inspire and...
2022-10-061h 06
Manned Up ConversationsI Am My Brother's Keeper with Buntu MagqibeloSend us a textIn this episode I talk to Buntu Magqibelo and we highlight Doda Ndoda - I Am My Brother's Keeper's work which started out as men's departments within the church and eventually became a secular organization to embrace and work with men from different walks of life .We talk about men losing interest in the church, tradition including symbolic meaning of circumcision. We also discuss family planning and why men should care about getting a vasectomy. We end off by discussing the attitude towards people who rape, abusive and commit GBV without making excu...
2022-09-221h 08
Manned Up ConversationsHow Fathers Show Up For Their Child with Thabang MokoenaSend us a text"Physical separation should not stop you from meaningfully taking part in your little one’s life. It’s much easier for mothers to build a bond with their child during pregnancy and in the early days, especially if they are breastfeeding. With dads, you have to form this bond more intentionally in other ways."In one of our previous episodes we spoke about Why Do Fathers Matter? To follow up on that conversation I'm joined by Thabang Mokoena to discuss how the Fatherhood Friday movement started and unpack the importance of fathe...
2022-09-081h 02
Manned Up ConversationsHealing Through Drama Therapy with Sibusiso "Vonder" FihlaniSend us a textDrama therapy is a form of psychotherapy. It involves using drama and theatre techniques to help people resolve conflicts and problems. It may also allow individuals to develop self-awareness, express emotions, and improve relationships.To help unpack this topic I'm joined by Wits University Drama Therapist, Sibusiso Vonder Fihlani who started out in the theatre world and transitioned into psychology to explore how these two seemingly separate worlds can help men find their range of emotions and build emotional literacy. We discuss the origins of this practice by highlighting s...
2022-08-1837 min
Manned Up ConversationsThe Culture of Addiction with Ootz Tha AfronautSend us a textOn this episode we discuss the culture of addiction. To help me unpack this topic i'm joined by legendary Hip Hop Producer, Ootz The Afronaut who was once considered and nominated Hip Hop producer of the year by South African publication Hype magazine. Ootz share his battles with alcohol and drug addiction highlighting some key moments that led to the realization that he's addicted. We discuss the relationship between the drug and the user focusing on how addiction affects family and close relationships. Now 5 years sober, we also loo...
2022-08-041h 07
Manned Up ConversationsWhy do Fathers Matter? with Lereko MfonoSend us a textIn recent years organizations have been at the forefront of addressing fathers' absence and involvement in South African families. One of the organizations leading this cause is Heartlines through their vital and wide-reaching initiative #FathersMatterZA. Lereko Mfono joins me to discuss the impact of their work with men in various communities around the country. We discuss the importance of knowing your father's story pointing out the need for affirmation and upholding the father's voice in the family. With finances or lack thereof causing a lot of conflicts and breakdowns in relationships, we...
2022-07-211h 04
Manned Up ConversationsStrategies for Navigating The World of Work with Siphiwe MoyoSend us a textThe world of work has changed and its becoming increasingly important for us to adopt strategies to help us develop skills that will help us advance in our career. On today's episode we discuss careers, side hustles and strategies to consider as you prepare the path to conquer your chosen career or business.We also unpack how gender transformation affects men's career choices and the importance educating and encouraging young men on both doing good work and being a good person despite their income or position in society. My guest...
2022-07-071h 08
Manned Up ConversationsBullying And Overcoming A Victim Mindset with Shakes DlutuSend us a textBullying has been part of our lives from a young age, whether we were the one being bullied or witnessed someone else being bullied, and we simply wrote it off as boys being boys or kids playful nature. But rarely do we stop and think about how the person being bullied is affected, My guest Shakes Dlutu runs impactful workshops on spreading awareness about bullying in the education, government and corporate industries. Mzwethemba Dlutu, better known as “Shakes”, is a motivational speaker, founder & chairman of MSM Training and Development, facilitator of group...
2022-06-2358 min
Manned Up ConversationsUnlocking The Power A Sustained Thought with KC DinokeSend us a textWhat is it about those thoughts that never seem to leave us? Good or bad, we all have hundreds if not thousands of thoughts running through our minds at the same time, so we need to be mindful of the thoughts that we entertain.My guests KC Dinoke considers himself a student of the mind and believes that if we can sustain thought long enough our mind has the power to turn the invisible into the visible, therefore affecting our reality. We highlight some themes from his book "The power of...
2022-06-0956 min
Manned Up ConversationsTriumph Over Adversity with Arabile GumedeSend us a text Adversity has a strange way of awakening our resilient spirit, giving us the ability to turn some of worst tragedies into triumphs, my guests Arabile Gumede joins me to talk about his journey into financial journalism, the challenges of growing up in a single parent home and we highlight the importance of surrounding yourself with the right environment and people to help you elevate and advance in life. We also discuss the quality of our friendships, being a good friend and becoming better at knowing, supporting and encouraging people in our circle in the...
2022-05-261h 00
Manned Up ConversationsMarrying Black Girls For Guys Who Aren't Black with Hagen EnglerSend us a textInterracial couples are not as uncommon as they were before South Africa became the so called "rainbow nation" and even when we see these couples we chuckle and wonder about the complexities their relationship might deal with on a daily basis. From culture shock, lobola negotiations and just a general difference in the way of life between black and white people are sure to cause some discomfort and adjustment to one's views and beliefs. My guest Hagen Engler, joins me to discuss his article turned book titled "Marrying Black Girls for Guys who Ar...
2022-05-1254 min
Manned Up ConversationsThe Black Man's Identity Crisis in Society with Ron DerbySend us a textDo you think South African men are experiencing an identity crisis?Are black men in South Africa experiencing an identity crisis?Considering our long history with apartheid and the developments post this shameful period, black people and black men in particular have risen to positions of power. But even at the height of their success you find the same men involved in crimes against the state, struggling with mental health issues and/or perpetrators of violence against women, children and other men. Joining me in discussion about...
2022-04-2857 min
Manned Up ConversationsThe Stigma Around Mental Health and Male Suicide with Nkini PhashaSend us a textEver wonder why there's so much secrecy around mental health in the black community? Well, in this episode we unpack and discuss some of the stigma around mental health and male suicide by highlighting some of the common causes and preventative measures we can take in helping ourselves or our loved ones who might be struggling with one or more of these mental health issues.To inform and educate us on this topic, I'm joined by South Anxiety and Depression Group board member Nkini Phasha who has been working with the organization...
2022-04-1458 min
Manned Up ConversationsThe Importance Of Telling Your Story with Dan Moyane (Part 2)Send us a textIn this episode I connect with media elder Dan Moyane to discuss the importance of telling your story in his memoir “I Don't Want To Die Unknown”. We unpack why our stories need to be documented instead of being only told through oral tradition. Dan Moyane shares lessons that were taught by his late parents, we discuss the influence his father had on his life growing up in Soweto and his advice to young fathers. Then end off by discussing his views on how the older generation of men have failed to educate youn...
2022-03-1734 min
Manned Up ConversationsThe Importance Of Telling Your Story with Dan Moyane (Part 1)Send us a textIn this episode I connect with media elder Dan Moyane to discuss the importance of telling your story in his memior “I Don't Want To Die Unknown”. We unpack why our stories need to be documented instead of being only told through oral tradition. Dan Moyane shares lessons that were taught by his late parents, we discuss the influence his father had on his life growing up in Soweto and his advice to young fathers. Then end off by discussing his views on how the older generation of men have failed to educate youn...
2022-03-0351 min
Manned Up ConversationsHow Fatherless Men Negotiate Their Masculinity with Patrick Neo MabiletsaSend us a textIn this episode I connect with Neo Patrick Mabiletsa about his journey as an author, we unpack his book “Chronicles of Fatherless Son”, how he dealt with the loss of his wife after the birth of his first daughter & the challenges of being a single father. We also highlight his passion for coaching and helping others deal with their grief and how he has gone from an author to entrepreneur in the wine industry. Please don't forget to Subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy...
2022-02-1746 min
Manned Up ConversationsMagenge, We Need To Talk with Melusi TshabalalaSend us a textIn this episode we connect unpack the hilarious but inspiring book Magenge, We Need To Talk authored by Melusi Tshabalala.We explore his open and honest approach in his writing style and why he felt the need to reach out to men by sharing some of his struggles and observations throughout his life. Melusi also shares some of his upcoming projects outside of Magenge and how he plans to leave a lasting legacy for generations to come. Melusi Tshabalala is an author, speaker, social and creative entrepreneur with a...
2022-02-031h 01
Manned Up ConversationsDealing with Shame with Julia Kerr HenkelSend us a textIn this episode, I speak to Julia Kerr Henkel about Dealing With Shame. Shame is one of the biggest contributors to suicide, depression, and sometimes abuse. We aim to explore how we can use empathy, connect with others, and learn to express ourselves emotionally to defeat this silent killer that thrives on not being spoken about or discussed. Julia brings her expertise and insights into this discussion to give us tools to help us build our shame resilience instead of responding with our shame shields. Julia Kerr Henkelthe is MD o...
2021-11-2547 min
Manned Up ConversationsOwning Your Truth with Benedict PhiriSend us a textIn this episode, we connect in conversation with Benedict Phiri to get his insights on life, philosophy, and enjoying life as a driven man with great vision. We start off by unpacking Ben's journey into the law profession including some hilarious but honest and humble stories from his childhood. We unpack the events that led to another failed marriage while dealing with being named as a benefactor of the McKinsey & Co and Gupta scandal. We highlight how he found balance in co-parenting and maintained a relationship with his son despite differences with his ex...
2021-11-0458 minManned Up ConversationsConnecting With Our Fathers & Dealing with Trauma with Hakeem Anderson LesolangSend us a textOn Part:2, We discuss the need for men to form a relationship with God. We unpack the need to forgive our fathers and mend our relationships to help us understand their role in our life. We discuss the unfair expectations we have for our parents and how the trauma of not dealing with the lack of connection with our fathers can cause. We share some personal stories about the negative perception of coaching/therapy among men and Hakeem gives some insights on the importance of getting the right coach to help deal with t...
2021-10-2145 minManned Up ConversationsUnmasking The Alpha Male with Hakeem Anderson LesolangSend us a textOn Part:1 of Unmasking the Alpha male, we take a deep dive and look into the reasons why men are defining themselves by terms and titles they don't truly understand. We explore the origins and discuss some of the traits of being an Alpha male. We highlight some of the toxic also discuss the toxic and hidden world of the bro-code and how it perpetuates stereotypes about male groups. We question if competition amongst men is healthy and discuss how we can build a much better network with our male tribe instead if...
2021-10-0743 minManned Up ConversationsHow To Lead For Change with Craig WilkinsonSend us a textOn our final episode of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we take this opportunity to honor and highlight Craig Wilkinson as a leader and advocate for change and role model in, Leading For Change. Craig shares his early childhood memories growing up in Johannesburg, travelling around various countries with his family and schooling in Botswana. We unpack some unfortunate incidents that led to suicide in his family, inspiration for his work through Father A Nation and how much his faith has helped him through some of life's most challenging...
2021-09-1632 minManned Up Conversations6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How To Mentor The Next GenerationSend us a textOn our fifth episode of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we combine the last two virtues, How To Mentor The Next Generation & How To Make The World A Better Place. We look at the role older men play in equipping young boys with the right tools to help them navigate life and live in harmony with others. Looking into the state of masculinity, we discuss how demonizing traditional men has led to older men not sharing their story and experiences to the youth. We also look the language around m...
2021-09-0245 minManned Up Conversations6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How To Build Your Band of BrothersSend us a textOn our fourth segment of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we discuss How To Build Your Band of Brothers. Research shows that men are lonely. They have company, but they lack connection. We easily share a beer with other men but struggle to share our hearts. We start off by discussing how men need to embrace brotherhood and build strong, healthy and accountable relationships with each other. We unpack the 4 keys for Building a Band of Brothers. The first key focuses on how men honour each other...
2021-08-1934 minManned Up Conversations6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How Men Define Themselves By CharacterSend us a textOn our third segment of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we discuss How Men Define Themselves By Character. We start off by defining what character means to men and how we can build strong and positive characteristics on our journey to becoming great. We then unpack the 5 keys to being a man of character and take a deep dive into the 4 biggest lies men grow up with. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be br...
2021-08-0529 minManned Up Conversations6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How Men Nurture Their FieldsSend us a textOn our second segment of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we take a more introspective look into How Men Nurture Their Fields. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be great men, role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse.Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family...
2021-07-2230 min
Manned Up Conversations6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How Men Use Their StrengthSend us a textWe kick off our Six Pack Of Champion Virtues with a deep dive into How Men Use Their Strength to help us harness the power of positive masculinity. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be great men, role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse.Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it...
2021-07-0834 min