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Empowering Women, Transforming LivesLove Without Shrinking: Strategic Unruliness™ in Leadership What if the most loving thing you could do is stop betraying yourself? In this February conversation, Rebecca Hall Gruyter welcomes back Kim Bolourtchi, keynote speaker, strategist, and creator of Strategic Unruliness™. Kim challenges high-performing women to examine the invisible rules they've absorbed over time, the ones that ask them to stay small, play it safe, or keep performing long after it stops feeling true. Together, they unpack why so many accomplished women feel stuck even when they're doing everything "right," how these limits take root, and what it truly means to lead with clarity ra...
2026-02-1255 minEmpowering Women, Transforming LivesStrategic Unruliness: Starting the Year Powerfully by Choosing Yourself, Your Truth, and Your PowerWhat if the limits holding you back aren't real, just invisible? In this episode, Rebecca Hall Gruyter sits down with Kim Bolourtchi, keynote speaker, strategist, and creator of Strategic Unruliness™, to explore how breaking the "invisible rules" we've absorbed throughout our lives can lead to greater authenticity, fulfillment, and freedom. Together, Rebecca and Kim dive into what it means to lead with Strategic Unruliness™, not as rebellion for rebellion's sake, but as a mindful practice of choosing yourself, your truth, and your power in every moment. This conversation is an invitation to pause, get...
2026-01-2253 min
Get UnrulyWhen Good Isn’t EnoughSend us a textWhen everything in your life looks good — and something still feels off.Not burnout.Not a lack of motivation.Just a quiet, unsettling feeling you can’t explain… and keep trying to ignore.In this episode of Get Unruly, Kim shares a moment from years ago that changed everything: sitting in her car after New Year’s, overwhelmed by a feeling that didn’t make sense — and pushing it down because her life was “great.”This episode is about that feeling.Why it doesn’t go aw...
2026-01-0504 min
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2025-12-081h 16Get UnrulyThey Told You to Be Grateful. I’m Telling You to Want More.Send us a textThis time of year, the pressure to be grateful is everywhere.But what if gratitude is being used to keep you small?In this episode, Kim Bolourtchi breaks open the false choice so many high-achievers are stuck in — that you can either be thankful for what you have or reach for something more.You’ll hear real stories of clients who stopped performing gratitude and started building their next level using one simple shift: “and.”This isn’t about being ungrateful. It’s about being...
2025-11-1807 minGet UnrulyWhat if they Booked the Wrong Person?Send us a textI’ll never forget standing backstage before one of my first big keynotes — mic on, ready to go, heart racing — when a single thought hit me:“What if they booked the wrong person?”That moment cracked something open.Because up until then, I had been obsessed with proving I belonged.I didn’t fully believe it — but I wanted everyone else to.This episode is about what happened next — the moment fear made me let go of performance and choose truth instead.It wasn’t by doing...
2025-11-1005 minGet UnrulyThe Rule that Almost Broke MeSend us a textKim Bolourtchi thought she’d built the perfect version of success—until one moment in the Missouri Supreme Court exposed the rule that had quietly been running her life: Be exactly who they expect you to be… and if you’re anything different than that, hide it. In this first episode of Season 6: Get Unruly, Kim shares the real story behind her new book, Strategic Unruliness™—and the moment everything changed. She explores how the rules that once kept us safe eventually start keeping us small, and what it takes to finally break...
2025-11-0307 min
My Rejection StoryFrom Lawyer to Dancer & Speaker: Kim Bolourtchi on Strategic UnrulinessIn this episode, keynote speaker and former litigator Kim Bolourtchi joins Alice to unpack what happens when following all the rules still leaves you feeling hollow.After building a high-powered legal career, Kim realized that the very traits that made her “successful” — discipline, control, and achievement — were also keeping her small. She opens up about the moment her two worlds collided: arguing before the Missouri Supreme Court when her husband revealed her secret life as a Latin dancer. What felt like career sabotage became the spark that changed everything.Kim and Alice dive deep into the invi...
2025-10-2253 min
Dancing in the Discomfort Zone with Anne BonneyStrategic Unruliness: The Art of Breaking Rules That Hold You Back with Kim BolourtchiWhat happens when a rule-following lawyer trades the courtroom for the dance floor—then builds a business teaching leaders how (and when) to break the rules?In this episode of Dancing in the Discomfort Zone, I sit down with Kim Bolourtchi,(www.kimbolourtchi.com) recovering perfectionist, competitive Latin dancer, and now strategic unruliness expert. Kim’s story begins with a jaw-dropping moment in front of the Missouri Supreme Court, when her husband casually revealed her secret dance life. Instead of career catastrophe, that confession became a career awakening and the start of her life...
2025-10-2039 minGet UnrulyTurning Rejection into Rocket Fuel: How Rule-Breaking & Resilience Made Alice Draper UnstoppableSend us a text🔥 What if rejection could be your greatest advantage? In this powerful episode, host Kim Bolourtchi sits down with publicity powerhouse and “My Rejection Story” founder Alice Draper, who reveals how re-framing failure and daring to break the rules transformed her life. Discover the hidden stories behind big successes, why rule-breakers might just change the world, and practical strategies for turning adversity into unstoppable momentum. If you’ve ever felt like you just don’t fit the mold—or wondered if your toughest moments could lead to your biggest breakthroughs—don’t miss this honest, inspiring...
2025-10-2023 minGet UnrulyTurns Out, I’m Not Allergic to Cats. (Just My Old Story.)Send us a textI swore I was deathly allergic to cats — until I wasn’t.A week in Greece — and a few fearless kittens — made me realize how much of my life had been shaped by a story that was no longer true.This episode explores what happens when you outgrow your own limits and discover that changing your mind might be the most powerful leadership move of all. Because sometimes, the only thing standing between you and what’s possible… is the story you stopped questioning.Get Strategic Unruliness on Amazon
2025-10-1706 minGet UnrulyIt Was Never About the RuleSend us a textIt started in an airport bathroom line.A kind gesture turned into a full-blown meltdown — and a masterclass in how people use “rules” to feel in control. In this episode of Get Unruly, Kim Bolourtchi breaks down why people cling to rules, how they mistake predictability for morality, and why challenging those invisible limits is often the most human thing you can do. You’ll hear what happens when a small act of kindness collides with someone else’s need for control — and how to recognize when...
2025-10-0606 min
Book 101 ReviewBook 101 Review, in its fifth season, features Kim Bolourtchi a keynote speaker, strategist, and creator of Strategic Unruliness™ as my guest.Kim BolourtchiKim Bolourtchi is a keynote speaker, strategist, and creator of Strategic Unruliness™ — a bold framework that helps high-achieving leaders break the rules that no longer serve them and lead with radical clarity to build what they are really meant to build.With a background in law, C-suite leadership, and professional Latin dance, Kim brings a rare mix of sharp strategy, emotional depth, and no-BS insight to the conversation. She’s worked with C-suite execs, entrepreneurs, and ambitious teams to uncover the hidden rules holding them back — and replace them with bold moves that unl...
2025-10-0227 minGet UnrulyWho are you Waiting On?Send us a textEver had an idea you believed in—until someone else’s doubt made you second-guess yourself? |In this episode, Kim shares why waiting for approval can shrink your vision, how she learned to trust her own belief (even when it was hard), and the one question that can help you move forward without anyone else’s permission. Let’s talk about what happens when you stop outsourcing your confidence—and start building what’s next, your way.Get Strategic Unruliness on AmazonCurious what unwelcome rule is running your...
2025-09-3006 minGet UnrulyThe Most Dangerous Failure Is Playing It SafeSend us a textIn this episode, Kim Bolourtchi gets real about the fear of failure as she launches her most personal project yet. You’ll see why shrinking to avoid failure is just a slow-motion collapse—and how flipping failure into feedback is the only way to set yourself free. If you’re ready to stop buffering, go all in, and smash the rules holding you back, this one’s for you. Plus: your Unruly Move of the week.Get Strategic Unruliness on AmazonCurious what unwelcome rule is running your lead...
2025-09-2206 minGet UnrulyThe Unruly Act of Putting Yourself First: with Chris WestSend us a textIn this powerful and thought-provoking episode, Kim Bolourtchi and Chris West dive deep into what it truly means to live authentically and put yourself first—even when it means going against social expectations or risking disappointment. Through candid stories and practical wisdom, Chris reveals the secret to exceptional personal branding and the transformative benefits of radical honesty and self-prioritization. Discover why saying “no” can be the most loving choice, and how embracing your unique “zone of genius” and daring to be strategically unruly can lead to deeper fulfillment, stronger relationships, and a more cour...
2025-09-1425 min
Famous Interviews with Joe DiminoKeynote Speaker, Strategist & Creator of Strategic Unruliness™ Kim BolourtchiWelcome to a new edition of the Famous Interviews with Joe Dimino podcast. In this episode, we talk with Kim Bolourtchi — dynamic Keynote Speaker, Strategist, and Creator of Strategic Unruliness™, a bold and disruptive framework helping high-achieving leaders break free from outdated rules and lead with radical clarity.With a powerful background in law, C-suite leadership, and even professional Latin dance, Kim combines sharp strategic thinking with deep emotional intelligence. Her work challenges conventional leadership models and empowers executives to build what they’re really meant to build.Known for delivering the truth that leaders need—especially when i...
2025-07-2327 min
Speaking and Communicating PodcastStrategic Unruliness: How to Bring Your Whole Self to Work w/ Kim BolourtchiAre you suppressing your true self at work? What exactly is Strategic Unrulyness?Meet Kim Bourlotchi!Kim is an International Keynote Speaker, C-Suite Strategist, Creator of Strategic Unruliness™ who helps leaders break rules that no longer serve them and lead with Radical Clarity.Most leaders aren’t held back by a lack of drive — They’re held back by invisible rules they don’t even realize they’re following.Kim doesn’t help leaders fit in, but break out — and build what’s next.On this episode, Kim unpacks her co...
2025-07-1430 minGet UnrulyThe 5 Second Courage Hack that Will Blow Your Mind (with Anne Bonney)Send us a textTired of fear holding you back? Anne Bonney—professional change-maker and keynote speaker—is about to drop the most dangerous weapon in your personal development arsenal: a 5-second courage hack that will transform how you approach change forever.In this raw, hilarious conversation, Anne reveals how she went from a rebellious teenager sent to boarding school to a keynote speaker who helps people dance in their discomfort zone. Expect zero BS, maximum inspiration, and a practical strategy that will make your inner critic shut up and sit down. Whether you're stuck in a...
2025-06-3027 minGet UnrulyA Rule I Broke- and Why it WorkedSend us a textIt wasn’t actually about the coffee.It was about being real — and what happens when leaders stop performing and start actually connecting. In this episode, I unpack the egg white moment that sparked 80,000+ views… and why it resonated so deeply. We’ll talk about the pressure to be polished, the power of sharing the unfiltered truth, and why being human is one of the most strategic things you can do as a leader. If you’ve ever screwed something up and chose not to hide it?That’s not a...
2025-06-2505 minGet UnrulyIt Wasn't Because I Said F*ckSend us a textWhat happens when you drop the filter and say exactly what you're thinking? In this explosive episode of Get Unruly, I reveal how a single post with an F-bomb turned into a viral sensation - not because of the swearing, but because of the raw, unfiltered truth. Learn how breaking the rules can set you free, why playing it safe is killing your authenticity, and how one moment of radical honesty can change everything. Warning: Contains strategic profanity and zero apologies.Get Strategic Unruliness on Ama...
2025-06-0907 minGet UnrulyHow to Know if The Rules are Holding You Back?Send us a textYou’re not broken. You’re not bored. But something feels off — and it won’t go away. You’re still showing up. Still performing. Still carrying the room. But under the surface? There’s a quiet pull. A sense of… unsomething. That pull? It’s not a problem. It’s a signal. And what happens next — the voice in your head that says:“Be realistic. Don’t ruin a good thing. Now’s not the time.” That’s the rulebook. In this episode, I’ll show you how...
2025-06-0210 minGet UnrulyThe Cost of Shrinking: A Mother-Daughter Conversation About Taking Up SpaceSend us a textShe’s been on the mic with me before — but never quite like this.In this powerful return episode, I sit down with my daughter, Samantha, for a raw, unscripted conversation about something we’ve both lived: the pressure to shrink.To dim our light. To tone it down. To make ourselves smaller — so other people feel more comfortable.We talk about what that’s looked like in our lives, how it shows up differently across generations, and what it actually costs — in confidence, creativity, connection.
2025-05-2625 minGet UnrulyUnruly Generosity: How Helping Others Becomes Your Greatest High (with Frankie Russo)Send us a textIn this raw and electrifying episode, entrepreneur Frankie Russo reveals the counterintuitive secret to success: radical generosity. After hitting rock bottom with addiction and rebuilding his life, Frankie discovered what he calls the "limitless drug" - helping others unconditionally. Learn how embracing failure, releasing ego, and serving without expectation can transform your life, business, and purpose. Frankie's unfiltered journey from homeless shelters to multiple successful exits will challenge everything you think you know about growth, success, and personal transformation. Prepare for an unruly conversation that will: Shatter your myt...
2025-05-1239 minGet UnrulyWanting More Doesn’t Mean You’re Ungrateful with Kim BolourtchiSend us a textIn this raw, unfiltered episode, Kim Bolourtchi exposes the invisible rule that’s been keeping high-achievers stuck: The lie that wanting more makes you ungrateful.Desire isn’t selfish — it’s sacred. And silencing it in the name of “being content” is the surest way to shrink your power.If you’ve ever felt a quiet whisper that this isn’t it — that there’s more for you — this is your permission to stop pushing it down… and start listening.__________What invisible rules...
2025-05-0509 minGet UnrulyUnruly About Fear: Janice Burt's Journey to Breaking FreeSend us a textIn this episode, Janice Burt shares her inspiring journey from being a rule-following people pleaser to becoming strategically unruly. She discusses the courage it took to break free from the prison of fear, including publishing a memoir that revealed family secrets, to competing in a body building competition, to running a marathon. Janice offers powerful insights on overcoming limiting beliefs, the freedom in self-acceptance, and the ongoing process of personal growth. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone seeking to live more authentically and confront their own fears....
2025-04-2827 minGet UnrulyUncover Your Impactful Stories: A Masterclass with Storytelling Expert Chris JordanSend us a textIn this episode, host Kim Bolourtchi sits down with Chris Jordan, a former top podcast producer and content strategist for thought leaders. Chris shares his insights on why it's so important for everyone to uncover and share their impactful stories - even if they don't see themselves as natural storytellers.Chris explains how the most meaningful stories often come from our everyday experiences and challenges, and he provides practical tips for how to identify and craft these stories to make a real difference in people's lives. Whether you're looking to share...
2025-04-2134 minGet UnrulyResentment as a Superpower: Cait Donovan on Breaking Free from the RulesSend us a textGet Unruly returns for a 5th Season with Cait Donovan, host of the top global podcast: "Fried, the Burnout Podcast." In this episode, Cait shares how she's harnessed resentment to uncover her true needs and boundaries, challenging societal expectations along the way.Discover Cait's unconventional approach to life and business decisions, and learn how to use your own inner rebel to build a fulfilling life on your own terms. Listeners will walk away with a fresh perspective on the power of resentment and strategies for prioritizing self-care over people-pleasing.
2025-04-1236 min
FRIED. The Burnout PodcastKim Bolourtchi: How to Be Strategically Unruly & Create the Life You WantMost of the rules you’re following were never made with you in mind and could be the reason you’re burned out.Cait Donovan sits down with keynote speaker and executive consultant Kim Bolourtchi to talk about what it really means to be Strategically Unruly, and why breaking the right rules might be the key to burnout recovery. Kim shares her story of living a double life as a buttoned-up lawyer and national Latin dance champion, and how a surprising moment in front of the Missouri Supreme Court shattered the divide between who she...
2025-03-3041 min
The Positively Altered PodcastEpisode 18: Challenging the Status Quo: Author Kim Bolourtchi’s Journey in Law, Dance, and LeadershipEpisode 18: Challenging the Status Quo: Author Kim Bolourtchi’s Journey in Law, Dance, and Leadership
Episode Description: In this episode of the Positively Altered Podcast, Dr. Cindy sits down with Kim Bolourtchi, a dynamic professional who’s redefining success. From law school to Latin dancing, Kim shares how she overcme the boundaries set by society and forged her path to leadership. As the Director of Leadership and Professional Development at a top 20 law school and author of Truly Inspired, she offers valuable insights on challenging the status quo, embracing vulnerability, and unlocking your fullest potential. Tune in for...
2025-02-0746 min
One Fear Per YearKim Bolourtchi - The Lawyer you and the Latin Dancer you can Coexist. Become Unruly!Kim dives into the fear of not belonging and the fear of not being good enough and tells us what she did to walk through those fears.
I loved having Kim on the show since she has navigated a multilayered career as a thought leader, SPEAKER, lawyer, professor, AUTHOR, and competitive Latin dancer.
She gets unruly — in a strategic, effective way — and has learned how to challenge the system in a manner that actually evolves opportunities to help teams grow, harnesses unique gifts across disciplines, and reveals authenticity they might not have found otherwise.
Connect with her at www.kimb...
2025-01-2316 min
The Heart-Led Business ShowFrom Ballroom to Boardroom with Kim BolourtchiSend a textImagine a world where businesses thrive by placing people at the heart of their mission. In this episode, Kim Bolourtchi, a dynamic force in the realm of heart-led business, takes us on her transformative journey from lawyer to consultant, speaker, professor, author, and competitive Latin dancer. She passionately reveals that the secret to a successful business lies in valuing people over profit—a concept that has proven to be both profitable and fulfilling. Kim's engaging stories and insights show how valuing employees and customers leads to success. Learn the importance of recognizing hidden talents, le...
2024-11-1233 min
The Heart-Led Business ShowPassion, Profits, and Mental Fitness with Ray SchaubSend a textHow can cultivating mental fitness not only support individuals in recovery but also transform the professional landscape for business leaders? In this episode, Ray Schaub shares his inspiring journey from the chaos of early sobriety to founding La Consa Mental Fitness, a program designed specifically for business leaders in recovery. He highlights the transformative power of mental fitness, drawing parallels to physical training and underscoring its critical role in achieving professional success. Ray's unique coaching model not only meets the individual needs of those in recovery but also cultivates a supportive community for growth.
2024-11-0724 minGet UnrulyWhy Don't You Listen to Me? (with Raymond Bolourtchi)Send us a textDo you tune out your significant other when you are tired?Do you wonder why your partner rarely seems to hear what you actually said? Do you get SO frustrated that they have time for stupid cat videos but not a 5 minute conversation with you? If you ever wonder why listening to each other is so freaking difficult... this episode is for you. In this candid and often hilarious episode, Kim and Ray break down common communication challenges many couples face, and offer solutions for improving (and actually hearing) you...
2023-10-0928 minGet UnrulyYou Don't Need to Fake itSend us a textWe are told to be authentic and confident, but to go ahead and "fake it til you make it" if needed. Although widely accepted and even catchy to say, "fake it til you make it" is actually terrible advice, undermining the very things it is supposed to help you achieve. In this week's fiery episode, Kim and Ray hotly debate exactly why it is so damaging, and what to consider instead. Listen in. Get Strategic Unruliness on AmazonCurious what unwelcome rule is running your lea...
2023-07-1919 minGet UnrulyPivot (with Nick Bolourtchi)Changing directions is really hard, especially when you've already invested a lot.It can be tempting to stick with the status quo- even when you know it isn't working. In this candid episode with guest Nick Bolourtchi, we talk about what it takes to pivot, and why it matters. If you have ever contemplated making a change when you are already pretty far down the road, this episode is for you.________Have a comment or feeback? Reach out to Kim at kim@boldlystated.com.If you like Boldly Stated, please...
2023-05-2319 minGet UnrulyI'm Not Ready- with Samantha BolourtchiSend us a textWith one month left until college graduation, senior Samantha Bolourtchi gets real about how she's feeling. In this vulnerable and honest conversation, Sam speaks truth about her college experience interrupted by the pandemic, and the ways it has shaped her. Unrehearsed and barely edited, this is one of my favorite conversations to date. Get Strategic Unruliness on AmazonCurious what unwelcome rule is running your leadership? Take the 90 second quiz Connect with Kim: websiteLinkedInInstagram
2023-04-2421 minGet UnrulyWhy I Can't Show You Who I Truly Am (with Ray Bolourtchi)Send us a text85% of us walk around feeling, at some point or another, like we can't show the world who we truly are. For a long time, I was part of that statistic, while in complete denial about the toll it was taking. The reason we feel the need to hide parts of ourselves, and the solution, are not what you think. Listen in as Kim and Ray get real, and talk candidly about imposter phenomenon.____Tickets to power hourGet Strategic Unruliness on AmazonCurious what...
2023-04-1023 min