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The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastAttachment & Connection with Dr. Jake PorterRebuilding safety and intimacy after betrayal begins with understanding how our attachment styles shape the way we connect—and disconnect—with others. In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Jake Porter, Founder and President of Daring Ventures, returns to the podcast to unpack how attachment wounds form, why they matter in recovery, and how couples can move from fear and self-protection toward trust and closeness.Drawing from his Couple-Centered Recovery® model, Dr. Porter helps us see that attachment isn’t just psychology—it’s also spiritual and neurological. Healing happens when we integrate brain science, faith, and relational repair. Whether you...
2025-10-2754 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastReconciling Your God Concept with Paul Marc GouletOver 36 years ago, Kris sat in the classroom of her Bible college professor, Paul Marc Goulet, learning lessons that would profoundly shape her understanding of God, cognitive function, and the power of the stories we tell ourselves. Decades later, their paths cross again for a deeply meaningful conversation about how our God concepts—what we believe about who God is—shape every part of our faith, healing, and daily life.A pastor, author, counselor, and global leader, Paul draws from his extensive background in psychology and theology to unpack the ways distorted beliefs about God can keep us t...
2025-10-221h 07
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastRecognizing & Healing Spiritual Abuse with Stacey SmithStacey Smith, a trusted voice at Daring Ventures, returns to the Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast to unpack the often-hidden topic of spiritual abuse. With deep wisdom and a passion for justice, Stacey helps individuals heal from trauma, reclaim their identity, and walk in the truth of who God created them to be.In this conversation, Stacey joins Kris and Jenn to explore how spiritual abuse can take root within faith communities—often cloaked in tradition or twisted theology—and how women can move from confusion and pain toward clarity, courage, and freedom. She shares how recognizing God’s true...
2025-10-2157 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastThe Gifts of Betrayal Healing with Gigi HopkinsGigi Hopkins, Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and Director of Wives Care at Be Broken Ministries, joins us for a candid conversation about how healing from betrayal can produce unexpected gifts. With over 24 years of ministry experience and a passion for walking alongside women in the midst of betrayal trauma, Gigi offers both professional insight and deep personal compassion. She shares her “Gifts of Betrayal” list, encouraging us to see how God can transform pain into growth, maturity, and stronger relationships.From growing in faith to developing healthier boundaries, Gigi helps us recognize the ways God uses even the...
2025-08-1456 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastIntegrity Driven Healing with Dr. Jake PorterIn this special episode, we’re joined by Dr. Jake Porter, renowned relational trauma expert, coach, and founder of Daring Ventures. Known for his groundbreaking work helping individuals and couples heal from betrayal and rebuild trust, Jake brings deep insight and compassion to the recovery journey.Together, we explore the transformative power of integrity-centered healing and learning to be comfortable being uncomfortable. Jake shares his personal experience participating in a program called Men and Women of Discomfort, and how its lessons have shaped his understanding of growth, resilience, and the human capacity to endure and overcome....
2025-07-181h 12
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastTherapeutic Disclosure 101 with Dan DrakeHow much truth is too much truth? What if you feel ready for disclosure, but your partner doesn't? What’s the actual goal of a therapeutic disclosure—and how do you know when you’re ready?In this episode, we sit down with Dan Drake, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert in betrayal trauma and sex addiction recovery. Dan unpacks the basics of therapeutic disclosure, a structured process where the full truth of sexual betrayal is disclosed in a safe, supported setting. He shares the potential risks and profound benefits of doing disclosure correctly, and clears...
2025-05-211h 08
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastHow Our Voice Can Help Us Heal with Amy ElysseThis week on The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, we’re joined by Amy Elysse—vocal coach, faith-filled encourager, and a radiant light in her community. Amy opens up about her own betrayal story and shares how the human voice, primarily through singing, can become a powerful tool for healing. Whether you’re musically inclined or simply longing to express yourself more fully, Amy brings warmth, insight, and practical wisdom to the conversation. And she's created a free recording to guide you through a healing exercise.As a mom and coach, Amy helps women reclaim their voices and step i...
2025-04-2453 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastBreaking Free: Accountability and The Healing Church with Sam BlackPornography addiction is one of the most misunderstood struggles in the church today, often shrouded in shame and secrecy. Sam Black, Director of Recovery Education at Covenant Eyes and author of The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography and How to Fix It, joins us to share how real freedom comes through accountability, grace, and informed support. Drawing from his journalism background and over 70 interviews with pastors, counselors, and people in recovery, Sam offers practical wisdom for churches, couples, and individuals navigating the path to healing.Key Takeaways:How Covenant Eyes Works – Sam explains ho...
2025-04-021h 08
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastHelping Men Build Empathy After Betrayal with Dr. Anthony WalkerDr. Anthony Walker joins us to share how he helps men navigate the healing process after betrayal. He provides insights from Help Her Heal, a workbook by Carol Jergensen Sheets, and discusses how men can develop emotional attunement, overcome resistance, and strengthen their relationships.Key Talking Points:What led Dr. Anthony Walker to Help Her Heal and how he incorporates its strategies in his coaching.The importance of emotional attunement in repairing relational trust and how men can develop this skill.Common misconceptions men have about betrayal trauma and how Help Her Heal addresses them.How...
2025-02-1947 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastReality Collapse & Betrayal Violence with Hope RayIn this episode, we welcome Hope Ray, a Licensed Professional Counselor who coined Betrayal Violence. Hope is a leader in the field of betrayal trauma, offering deep insights into the effects of secrecy, deception, and relational power imbalances. She is also the creator of Complex Partner Trauma magazine, available on Amazon, which provides resources and support for betrayed partners.Throughout our conversation, we dive into Reality Collapse, the disorientation that betrayed partners experience, and explore how betrayal violence impacts healing and recovery. Hope shares her expertise on recognizing and navigating these complex emotional experiences, helping listeners regain...
2025-02-061h 08
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastThe Intimacy Pyramid with Joanna & Matthew RaabsmithWe had the privilege of sitting down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to discuss the transformative power of the Intimacy Pyramid. With their personal story of betrayal, addiction, and healing as the backdrop, the Raabsmiths shared actionable insights and hope for couples looking to rebuild trust, connection, and relational intimacy.The Raabsmiths are passionate leaders in the field of marriage and relationship restoration. Combining their expertise with their lived experience, they empower couples to overcome the challenges of betrayal and relational trauma. As creators of the Intimacy Pyramid, they provide a structured and compassionate approach to help...
2025-01-141h 01
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastRest, Redemptive Gifts and Unlocking Dominion Authority with Dr. Laura SangerWe’re excited to welcome Dr. Laura Sanger back to The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! Dr. Sanger’s first episode remains the top fan favorite, and we are thrilled to have her return with another timely and profound message—this time focusing on rest, just in time for the holiday season.Dr. Sanger is a clinical psychologist, author, and the founder of No Longer Enslaved (www.nolongerenslaved.com), where she equips individuals to live free in their God-given identity, authority, and purpose.In this episode, we explore: 🌟 What is the importance of entering into Sabb...
2024-12-201h 05
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastPost Betrayal Growth with Stacey SmithOn today's episode of The BRT Podcast, we welcome the amazing Stacey Smith. She’s the Chief Clinical Officer and a Clinical Therapist at Daring Ventures. With a personal recovery journey from betrayal and "stinkin' thinkin'," Stacey uses her lived experience and professional expertise to guide betrayed partners and those suffering from addiction toward healing. She is certified in EMDR therapy and specializes in helping people overcome attachment wounds and shame. Stacey is passionate about creating a healing partnership with her clients and believes in the transformative power of therapy.Key Highlights:Stacey shares the ac...
2024-12-121h 06
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastResilience Through Betrayal Intensive with Elizabeth AbbruzzaWe are thrilled to welcome Elizabeth Abbruzza, the Co-Founder and Clinical Director of the Bellevue Trauma Recovery Center, to the podcast. With a deep focus on relational trauma and betrayal, Elizabeth shares her expertise and details about the impactful Resilience Through Betrayal (RTB) intensives offered at her center. About Elizabeth Abbruzza: Elizabeth holds a Master's degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Gonzaga University and specializes in addressing relational trauma, sex addiction, and problematic sexual behaviors. As a primary therapist for the Resilience Through Betrayal intensives, she empowers individuals to navigate healing after betrayal, offering therapeutic expertise...
2024-11-131h 02
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastIntimacy Atrophy with Karen Rellos Introduction: Kris and Jenn sit down with Karen Rellos, founder of Restored Hope Coaching and Redeeming Love Marriage Ministry. Karen, a certified betrayal trauma coach, joins the conversation to shed light on a topic that affects many relationships—Intimacy Deprivation, also known as Intimacy Atrophy (IA). With her extensive background in helping women navigate betrayal trauma, Karen offers valuable insights into the causes, impacts, and healing journey surrounding intimacy deprivation in relationships.Key Highlights:What is Intimacy Atrophy?Karen explains Intimacy Atrophy as a gradual loss of emotional, physical, or spiritual connection within a relationship. The te...
2024-10-291h 04
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastWhen Sex Addiction Becomes Abuse with Diane SchnickelsIn this episode, we welcome Diane Schnickels, founder of Living Waters of Hope and a dedicated advocate for survivors of domestic abuse. Diane brings her extensive experience and compassionate approach to discuss when sex addiction crosses the line into abuse. She has developed crucial resources like the Oasis Bible Study and the Hope Giver Essentials training program, empowering women to heal and reclaim their lives. Today, Diane shares her insights on recognizing the signs of abuse related to sex addiction and provides valuable guidance on supporting those affected.Key Highlights:Deceit and Betrayal: Repeated lying and...
2024-08-291h 17
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastA Message for Pastors & Clergy: Supporting Betrayed Spouses Well with Nick StumboOn this episode of BRT, we have a special guest, Pastor Nick Stumbo. Nick is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and has an extensive background in pastoral ministry. He began his ministry career at East Hills Alliance Church in Kelso, Washington, where he served as lead pastor for over a decade. Confronted with his own pornography addiction, Nick and his wife, Michelle, found hope and healing through Pure Desire’s counseling and group ministries. His public disclosure led to a revival of forgiveness and healing within his church, and he continues to lead the way in helping ch...
2024-07-281h 14
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastUnderstanding Trauma with Debby FlanaganWelcome to the 20th episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! This is a significant milestone for us, and we're thrilled to celebrate it with a special guest, Debby Flanagan. Debby is a clinician with Pure Desire Ministries, where she serves as a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional. She holds a Bachelor's degree from Corban University and has an Advanced Certification through the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). Debby is dedicated to helping individuals who are struggling with sexual and emotional issues, guiding them through their healing journey with compassion and expertise.Episode Description: In...
2024-07-1958 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastThe Four Phases of Healing After Betrayal with Tammy GustafsonJoin hosts Kris Rocha and Jenn Howie for another enlightening episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast. Today, we welcome back Tammy Gustafson, a renowned betrayal trauma coach, therapist, writer, and speaker. Tammy is here to delve deeper into her "Four Phases of Healing After Betrayal," sharing her expert insights and personal experiences. This episode is packed with valuable information, laughter, and heartfelt moments.About Tammy Gustafson: Tammy Gustafson is the founder of Betrayal Healing, a platform dedicated to helping women navigate the painful healing journey after betrayal. With over 15 years of experience as a licensed professional...
2024-06-271h 08
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastThe Impact of Snooping with Dr. Jill ManningIn this mind-shifting, insightful episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, Jenn and I had the pleasure of hosting Dr. Jill Manning. Dr. Manning is warm, caring, knowledgeable, and passionate about helping women heal. Today, she shares her expertise on a topic she's passionate about ... the impact of snooping, especially in the context of betrayal trauma. Get your notebooks ready, friends. This episode is packed with excellent information, tools, and tips.About Dr. Jill Manning: Dr. Manning is a respected expert in the field of betrayal trauma. Her compassionate approach and wealth of knowledge demonstrate her dedication...
2024-06-061h 12
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastSupporting a Friend Through Trauma with Adrienne FriesenAdrienne Friesen joins us on this episode about supporting a friend through trauma. She has been our friend for over 20 years and we can attest that she is naturally gifted at supporting and comforting friends during difficult and traumatic times in their lives. Today, she shares her wisdom and practical advice on how to be a steadfast friend during difficult times.Key Points Discussed:Active Listening: Adrienne emphasizes the importance of truly listening to your friends. It's not just about hearing their words but also about understanding their emotions and validating their experiences.Offering Encouragement Without...
2024-05-2356 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastStory Spotlight: Author and Speaker, Tess ScottJoin hosts Kris Rocha and Jenn Howie in this special Story Spotlight episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast. Today, they are honored to feature author and speaker Tess Scott, who shares her inspiring journey of overcoming shame and replacing it with forgiveness and stepping into God's purpose for her life.About Tess Scott: Tess Scott is a hilarious Christian speaker, a "black sheep turned Jesus girl", and the award-winning author of "Listen, Sister! Finding Hope in the Freakshow of Life." As a Canadian mother of 8, Tess is on a mission to help women with messy stories...
2024-04-231h 02
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastSecondary Trauma with Kris Rocha & Jenn HowieGrab a coffee or your favorite cup of tea and curl up with hosts Kris Rocha and Jenn Howie in this enlightening episode inspired by Dr. Jill Manning's thought-provoking Instagram post on Secondary Trauma. This conversation balances depth and lightness as they explore Dr. Manning's list of secondary trauma examples.Key Highlights:Insightful Exploration: In this segment, Kris and Jenn delve into the nuances of secondary trauma, offering a deeper understanding of its manifestations and impacts on us.Light-hearted Conversations: Experience an engaging dialogue that blends profound insights with moments of humor. Kris and Jenn create...
2024-03-131h 03
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastGenerational Iniquity & Breaking Strongholds with Dr. Laura SangerIn this POWERFUL episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, we are honored to host Dr. Laura Sanger, a dedicated scholar, prophetic intercessor, and spiritual warrior. Dr. Sanger brings a wealth of knowledge, blending her expertise in theology and clinical psychology, to delve into the profound topic of generational iniquity.Key Topics Explored:1) Generational Iniquity:Dr. Sanger unpacks the concept of generational iniquity, offering profound insights into how the patterns of the past can influence and enslave our present and future, affecting generations to come if left unaddressed.2) Spiritual...
2024-02-201h 14
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastHow Grief Helps Us Heal with Hannah WachterOn this episode of The BRT Podcast we're joined by the remarkable Hannah Wachter—a coach, encourager, and "a warm cup of tea for your grieving heart" with over fourteen years of experience as a grief expert. Hannah has a unique, personal journey that has equipped her with a compassionate lens to guide others and walk beside them in their pain, and help them heal.Key Takeaways:1. Transforming Pain into Purpose:Becoming a grief coach after losing her mother unexpectedly is a testament to Hannah's gift of transforming pain into purpose. With kindness an...
2024-01-161h 05
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastReclaiming Your Life After Betrayal with Tammy GustafsonWelcome back to another empowering episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! In this edition, we're honored to host Tammy Gustafson, a renowned betrayal trauma coach, writer, and speaker. With over 13 years of experience as a licensed professional counselor specializing in PTSD and trauma, Tammy is a fount of wisdom and healing. In this episode, she takes us on a journey of reclaiming our lives after betrayal.Key Takeaways:1. Rebuild with Tammy's 4-Phase Process: Tammy Gustafson unveils her transformative 4-phase process for healing after betrayal. In this episode, she delves specifically into the Rebuild phase—th...
2024-01-051h 05
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast🎄✨ A Christmas Message from Jenn and Kris ✨🎄This Christmas, we want to acknowledge the bittersweet reality that the holidays can be tough, especially when you're carrying the weight of betrayal and grief.In the midst of twinkling lights and festive cheer, we recognize that for some, the holidays magnify feelings of loss and heartache. It's okay to feel that ache, and it's okay to prioritize your healing during this time. Together, let's embrace the complexities, honor our emotions, and find moments of solace.Join us for a brief episode that reminds you that you're not alone in navigating the unique challenges of...
2023-12-2202 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastNavigating Conflict: A Guide to Healthy Resolution with Andrew ArthurOn today's episode, we have the privilege of hosting Andrew Arthur, a seasoned conflict management expert, certified mediator, and CPS (Certified Co-Parent Specialist). Andrew brings more than 25 years of experience in coaching and guiding individuals through the intricate landscape of conflict. In this episode, he unravels the critical steps to healthy conflict resolution: Repair, Resolve, Reconcile, and Restore.Key Takeaways:1. The Journey of Healthy Conflict: Andrew guides us through the transformative journey of healthy conflict. He emphasizes that conflict, when managed properly, can be a catalyst for growth and stronger relationships. The key lies in...
2023-12-2137 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastMarriage Recovery and Pure Life Alliance Ministries with Jeremy WaldridgeOur guest on today's podcast is the Executive Director of Pure Life Alliance Ministries, Jeremy Waldridge. Jeremy shares a little about his own story, marriage recovery, the origins of Pure Life Alliance, and what the ministry is passionate about - helping couples recover and heal from unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal trauma. From their website: "Pure Life Alliance is committed to restoring wholeness for those affected by sexual brokenness. Our vision is to see lives change through a network of people passionate about sexual purity." Jeremy shares with us the impactful work of Pure Life Alliance Ministries in supporting...
2023-12-0638 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastThe Benefits of Betrayal Trauma Groups with Ally & SarahFriends ... Jenn and I are so honored and excited to introduce you all to two incredible women, Ally and Sarah. They just happen to be two of our favorite women on the planet, and we have no doubt you'll have the same opinion of them by the end of this episode!Ally and Sarah opened their hearts and shared the experiences and benefits they realized from joining a betrayal trauma recovery group, reminding us all of the healing power found in shared stories, gathering trusted community, and compassionate connections.Key Takeaways:1. Community and...
2023-11-0845 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastInternal Family Systems Therapy & Betrayal Trauma with Jenna RiemersmaOn this amazing episode of BRT, we are honored to welcome the delightful and inspiring Jenna Riemersma! She is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. Jenna, a distinguished teaching faculty member at the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP), is a beacon of wisdom in the realms of mental health and trauma recovery. As a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Level III Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist, EMDR therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CSAT-S), Certified Multiple Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CMAT-S), and a National Certified Counselor (NCC), Jenna brings a wealth of...
2023-10-2055 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastTrauma & Self-regulation with Eileen FaganTherapist Eileen Fagan, an expert in trauma therapy, shares her unique approach to trauma and self-regulation, guiding us through an "order of operations" - SAFE - that can help navigate the stormy seas of emotional turmoil. Drawing wisdom from God's word and modern therapeutic techniques, Eileen sheds light on how we can find solace and strength amidst trauma.1. STOP - Slow down and be still (Psalm 23:1): Eileen introduces the first step, encouraging us to pause amidst the chaos. Through stillness, we find clarity. She beautifully connects this practice to the calming verses of Psalm 23:1, emphasizing the importance...
2023-10-0339 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastBuilding Resilience with Dr. Steve StephensWe're honored to host the amazing Dr. Steve Stephens, a seasoned psychologist with over 35 years of experience and the author of an astounding 45 books! Dr. Steve is not only a renowned life coach but also a captivating speaker, university teacher, and a true expert in the art of building resilience and overcoming hardship.Join us as we embark on an enlightening conversation with Dr. Steve about a subject that lies at the heart of resilience. In a world filled with challenges, setbacks, and betrayals, building resilience becomes essential. Dr. Steve's wealth of knowledge and expertise will help...
2023-09-2650 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastUnveiling Your Story with Ashley SearsOn our 4th episode of The BRT Podcast, we're excited to introduce you all to Ashley Sears, the founder of Stories Unveiled! Join us as Ashley shares her deeply personal journey, which led her to uncover the transformative power of storytelling and inspired her to create an annual conference dedicated to helping others find freedom and purpose in the telling of their stories. In her words, "The Stories Unveiled Conference was designed to break down the walls around our stories and create a place for women to share their lives and how God has redeemed them."Episode...
2023-09-2049 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastGet To Know Your Host: Kris RochaWelcome to another episode of "The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast," where we feature a compelling and hopeful story in our "Story Spotlight" series.Your host, Kris Rocha, opens up about her challenging upbringing within a complex family system centered on image, and how she found healing, freedom, and transformation through the unexpected catalyst of betrayal trauma.Kris shares the tools and strategies she employed to break free from toxic patterns and "get the fork out", emphasizing the power of forgiveness, reconciling her God concept, and understanding her God-purposed and respectfully created identity.Tune...
2023-09-0451 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastGet To Know Your Host: Jenn HowieIn this heartfelt episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, your host Jenn Howie opens up about her personal journey – a journey that has shaped her into the compassionate advocate for healing she is today.Jenn shares a powerful narrative that sheds light on the complexities of betrayal, the arduous path to recovery, and the profound transformation that's possible when we find the strength to heal. Her courage in sharing her vulnerabilities creates a space of connection and understanding for listeners on a similar path.Join us for this intimate and moving episode as Jenn Ho...
2023-08-3038 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastA Betrayal Survival Guide with Kris Rocha & Jenn HowieWelcome to the inaugural episode of the Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast with your hosts Kris Rocha and Jenn Howie. In this episode, we're diving deep into the tumultuous journey that begins when you've just discovered your partner's betrayal. Whether you're just starting on this path or need a reminder along the way, this episode acts as a survival guide to help you navigate the trauma you're experiencing and help you find your way to healing quickly.Episode Overview:D-Day and Betrayal Trauma (01:04)Where Do I Go When D-Day Happens? (05:55)Understanding Pain Shopping (10:00)Nurturing Your Soul Through...
2023-08-0741 min
The Betrayal Recovery Transformation PodcastWelcome!Enjoy this introduction of The Betrayal, Recovery, Transformation Podcast hosted by Jenn Howie and Kris Rocha. Full episodes will drop in August 2023. We’re so glad you’re here and we look forward to walking this journey together. You are not alone.
2023-05-1302 min