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Oh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.The Dating Game, The Hook Up Game, and Becoming What You Want with Matthew WamboltIn today’s episode, I sit down with my friend Matthew for an unfiltered conversation about dating, relationships, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with it all. It's always nice to hear a guy's perspective on this stuff, am I right, ladies? We get into the struggle of attachment, the power of detachment, and why so many people find themselves stuck in cycles of chasing emotionally unavailable partners.We also talk about modern dating culture—why it feels impossible to find “the one,” how dating apps have shifted the landscap...2025-03-111h 07Oh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Dead Dad Guy, A New Cat, and oh, Kathy.This week’s episode is deeply personal—I’m opening up about the recent passing of my dad and the emotional complexities that have come with it. If you’ve ever had a rocky or estranged relationship with a parent, you know how confusing and layered the grieving process can be.
I talk about the guilt, the grief, and the moments of clarity that come when navigating the loss of someone you loved but also struggled with. My dad and I had a complicated relationship—one filled with emotional wounds, estrangement, and attempts at reconciliation. I share how his pa...2024-12-1631 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Saying NO to No Contact (with Coach Theory)In today’s episode, I sit down with Coach Theory, to talk about relationships, dating, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with navigating love and connection. We dive into the complexities of attachment, why we sometimes run from red flags in others (or ourselves), and how to shift from fear-based decisions to building true connection.
Theory opens up about her journey, from heartbreak and toxic patterns to reclaiming her power and transforming her love life. We get real about the challenges of modern dating, the myths around no contact, and why healthy relationships require more than just wa...2024-11-1958 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Running at the First Sign of a Red Flag? Pssssht Let's Not and Say We Did ... (Solosode)This episode is all about how we react to red flags—both in ourselves and in others. I challenge the idea of walking away at the first sign of trouble in relationships and instead encourage deeper self-reflection. We talk about why it’s so important to trust yourself, what red flags truly mean, and how to align with the version of yourself that’s not ruled by fear or outside validation.If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying too much armor and letting fear run your decisions, this one’s for you. I share my personal exp...2024-10-1220 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Embrace the Dumpster Fire that is Your Life. It's All Working Out in Your Favor (Solosode)I’m sharing my story about how life’s biggest challenges have become my greatest gifts. I dive deep into how I learned to navigate through the mess and why I believe the chaos, or what I like to call the “dumpster fire” moments, are exactly what help us grow. If you’re in the manifestation space, you know the phrase “circumstances don’t matter”—but how do you actually live by that when your world feels like it’s falling apart?
I’ll talk about my own spiritual awakening, the financial hardships I’ve faced, and how everything I thought...2024-09-2523 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Trust Yourself with Everything You've Got! (Solosode)Let's dive into the importance of trusting yourself when it comes to manifesting your desires. I truly believe that everything you want starts with the relationship you have with yourself.
I dive into how a lack of self-trust used to cause me so much anxiety, especially when others questioned my choices. I’m getting real about how I moved from doubting myself to fully believing in what I want.
I explore how other people's opinions can trigger self-doubt and why these triggers are really just a reflection of your relationship with yourself. I share how I...2024-09-0310 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Navigating the Wide World of Dating Apps (with Erika Ettin)Erika and I dive into the world of online dating. While I've heard many complaints about online dating, Erika and I both agree … if you change your perspective on it, you'll change the outcome (as with anything in life).
A few highlights of our discussion:
- Sinking into dating online with curiosity, intention, & vulnerability. The way you perceive things matters
- Dating templates and how to use them
- Becoming more conscious of the information we're putting out there in our profiles
- Investing in dating ap...2024-08-151h 09Oh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Transforming Self-Worth: From Heartbreak to Inner Badass (with former client TeAirra Lawson)Today I talk with one of my former coaching clients who has gone from feeling stuck in an anxious attachment style to fully stepping into her Inner Badass.
Together, we unpack the journey of letting go of resistance, breaking free from toxic relationship patterns, and embracing the power of self-worth and self-love.
TeAirra and I explore the importance of self-reflection and how understanding and healing our past wounds can liberate us from clinging to unhealthy relationships. She shares the pivotal moments that helped her shift her mindset, like when...2024-08-0822 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Magnetism is a Gift! It's Not What You Attract That's Keeping You Stuck ... It's What Your Attracted To (Solosode) "What am I doing to attract this into my life?"
This week's episode was inspired by a comment by one of my followers on Instagram …
We dive into the complexities of magnetism ... and try to make them a bit less complex ...
I combine insights from some of the more recent previous discussions, shedding light on why we attract certain people and how to shift our point of attraction for healthier relationships.
A few of our talking points:
• Addr...2024-07-2920 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Embrace the Spark: Let's Rewrite the Myths and Start Following What Actually Feels Good! (Solosode)I'm challenging this 'F*ck the Spark' movement. I think there are a lot of misconceptions about initial chemistry and "the spark" in dating.
There are so many complexities to attraction and what "healthy" really means when it comes to this whole genre of life. And, my take? It's all subjective.
I'm offering a balanced perspective on the excitement of new relationships versus the need for emotional stability. It's a paradox and definitely one which you need to find your balance on. But I'm here to help! :)
I share my...2024-07-2316 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Diving into Hook-Up Culture ... and What it Means to Connect Deeper (with Rory Mitchell)I'm joined by Rory Mitchell today and we jump into the thought provoking world of hook-up culture (amongst other things)
Rory is a Canadian podcaster and mentor with the mission to make people 1% better! He helps people unlock their potential while enhancing their fundamental principles of dating, relationships, self & personal development, and establishing better mental health. His podcast, Mitchell Report Unleashed, aims to inform and entertain while helping other's find their conscious ideas about their relationships, while offering insights and expectations around socially shared information.
In this episode, we dive deep into...2024-07-171h 23Oh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Obsessive Thoughts? Learn to Work Yours to Your Advantage! (Solosode)Explore the complexities of obsessive thoughts and attachment, especially in romantic relationships. This episode dives into the shame surrounding obsessive thoughts and offers insights on how to channel these thoughts into self-growth and personal empowerment.
Key Points:
Understanding Obsessive Thoughts: Addressing the shame and societal messages around obsessive thoughts, recognizing their natural occurrence, and reframing them for personal growth.
The Role of Ideas and Creations: Discussing how the attachment to an idea of someone is a reflection of your own creation and vision for your life.
Healthy Shifts in Perspective: Learning to plug...2024-06-2921 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Affirmations ... Get Your Soul Involved! (Solosode)In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of affirmations. This episode pairs very well with the affirmations bundle I have available on my website. The link is listed below.
Highlights:
The Truth About Affirmations: Why traditional affirmation methods often fail and how to truly make them work for you.
Beyond the Surface: Understanding why simply repeating affirmations isn't enough and how to engage your nervous system for real change.
Aligning with Your Beliefs: How to craft affirmations that resonate with your soul and create genuine shifts in your reality.
Practical Tips: Strategies for making your...2024-06-2011 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Are you Really THRIVING in Your Life? (with Ryan Read)Prepare for an eye-opening conversation as we dive deep into the world of relationships, intimacy, and personal growth with Ryan, a fitness trainer and online influencer.
In this episode, we tackle topics that aren't often discussed, bringing fresh perspectives and candid insights to the table.
Ryan opens up about his journey and shares his experiences with losing sexual interest in past relationships, taking a break from physical intimacy, and making conscious choices about love. We explore how insecurities can drive decisions around casual sex and why it's crucial to communicate openly about your sexual desires...2024-06-1753 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.What's Your Energy Behind Your Actions? (Solosode)Alright, we kick things off with a racy and funny story that really has nothing to do with anything other than laughing. Just something that popped into my head and needed to be shared (again, because of the funniness)
This episode is like corn … it's got the JUICE!
It's almost a mini-mastermind because I gave away some dirt on exactly what to focus on to shift your reality. Are you embodying the energy of your future self? How are you showing up for yourself and persisting in that future re...2024-06-0223 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Resentment, Releasing Anger, and Forgiving Past Versions of Ourselves (Late Night Solosode)Late night thoughts.
This episode feels pretty vulnerable of me because it's about someone from my past. Someone I wrote a story about. Someone I was very attached to after a short time. Someone I thought was everything I wanted without even giving myself a chance to know them.
And now I talk about the release of the disappointment and anger what I projected toward the other person who didn't fit the mold of who I thought he should be.
How I set myself...2024-05-2421 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Looking for Something Serious? Lauren Josephine and I jam on her book, dating, dating apps and alllll of the challenges and rewards that go along with them. (with Lauren Josephine)Today's guest is Lauren Josephine and our chat was amazing!
Lauren is a long-time dater, turned dating and relationships author. After going on over 200 dates throughout her 20s and 30s, she felt called to write about and normalize all of the struggles modern daters deal with today, especially when using dating apps. She recently published her first book called Looking for Something Serious, in which she uses her 10-year dating journey to discuss the many pitfalls of dating today, like ghosting, situationships, repeated rejection, and losing hope in dating altogether. Lauren is passionate about...2024-05-1945 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Mirror Time! What's Your Reflection Telling You? (Solosode)In order to manifest these huge things into your life … the things that 'feel so far away' … who do you need to be? What do you need to claim?
Where is your focus? Is it on what you DO want? Or what you don't want?
Are you able to harness your power within by redirecting that focus internally, creating a world where nothing exists outside of you?
Are you able to check your energy before heading into a conversation?
How...2024-05-1016 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.It's a Limitless World Out There ... Wake Up To The Possibilities! (Solosode)Everything will come to you exactly when it's supposed to ... if you let it. What you seek is seeking you!
In this episode, Cait and I jam on her awakening to manifestation, her purpose, and how it saved her life.
Every awakening is different (if you've had one, you know!) and while you might make 'mistakes' along the way, allowing yourself to grow without shaming older versions of yourself and the conditioned ways you have been taught to live will help you grow even fast and stronger.
Everything...2024-04-2937 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Mind Over Munchies: Bringing Awareness to the Mindsets Behind of Mental and Physical Health (KASB Episode)On this episode Sarah and I are connecting the dots between mental and physical health
Health isn't linear in any form. It's going to be different for every person so as we always say … check in with yourself! Mindset is crucial when manifesting anything, and health and weight loss are no exception.
Some topics, ideas and questions we address:
The confusion of what's actually good for you and what's not.
How to start with manageable steps, love, and intention?
How to build more se...2024-04-1943 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Reactive to Responsive. Emotional Understanding is Everything on This Transformational Journey (Solosode)Who did I used to be? I can sum it up in one word: Reactive
I grew up in a push/pull dynamic. I grew up in inconsistency. I grew up in chaos.
And then I spent a lot of time as an adult shaming myself for my disorganized attachment style.
WHY?! In a very simple mathematical equation ... who I am now is the sum of how I grew up.
We spend so much time running from who we are only to manifest the reflection of who we are in every...2024-04-1038 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Rewriting the definition of #BossBitch (with Jena Wiebe)This episode's guest is Jena Wiebe. She is currently a female in a male-dominated industry, where she has faced challenges including mental health struggles, body dysmorphia, an eating disorder, and major self-esteem issues. However, over the last four years, she has overcome her past insecurities and is now dedicated to helping other women do the same. You can find her at @Iamjenawiebe on Instagram, and she will soon be launching her coaching business and podcast called “The Her-Era Podcast.”
• We dive into the need to redefine the energy surrounding terms like "boss bitch" and "boss b...2024-04-0844 min
Oh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.The Doing and The Being Energies. Are you Balanced? (KASB Fridays)Sarah and I dive in to the energies of masculinity and femininity ... and the struggle that our society faces with balancing the two in any given individual.
Some take-aways:
🔘Feeling safe within? If not, then your masculine isn't aligned.
🔘How attachment styles play into masculine/feminine dynamics
🔘Unpacking our truth, our own baggage through self-awareness and acceptance.
And a few extras like ... podcasting with pets and Rom-Coms
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Resources & Links:
Sarah's Instagram: @sarahbouchardnutrition
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Please leave us your feedback and let us know what you liked, what questions you ha...2024-03-2651 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.There are Two Types of Authenticity ... Embrace Both of Them (Solosode)Little solosode diving into the idea of authenticity.
It can be tricky when we're acting inline with the version of ourselves who doesn't manifest what we want. But, is it inauthentic? Or is it just our programming ... which is very authentic to who we are ...
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Let me know what you think of this episode! Love your feedback and ideas for new content
2024-03-1409 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Are You Seeking Soul Fire Love or Settling for ... Meh? (KASB Fridays)There are times in my life when I feel these a-ha moments and this episode was one of them!
Sarah and I discuss a clip from a recent episode of Chris Williamson's podcast (Modern Wisdom) where him and Alex Hormozi discussed dating and waiting for the person who hits allll the right spots (metaphorically speaking).
Some highlights from this talk:
🔘The fear of truly being seen and that your authenticity will push people away
🔘Your values and the feeling behind them
🔘Living in lack & sacrificing your boundaries
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Resources & Links:
Sarah's Instagram: @sarahbouchardnutrition
Full Episode from Modern Wisdom w/ Chris Williamson and Alex Horm...2024-03-0152 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.How Comfortable Are You Being Alone? (KASB Fridays)Sarah and I are back for Round 2 of KASB Fridays!
Some of our topic highlights from this episode include:
🔘The level of comfort you have with being single ... are you filling voids to be in a relationship?
🔘Recognizing compatibility takes practice and persistence
🔘Understanding how to navigate expectations from the inside out (it's okay to have them!)
🔘And then we went rogue and chatted about casual sex and attachment (but that's okay because it was fun).
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Sarah's Instagram: @sarahbouchar...2024-02-2648 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Want & Seek ... Are They Matching for You? (Solosode)What you want is seeking you ~ Rumi
I'm jumping into what this means. What does it mean to seek something while manifesting? To want something external from you? And is what you want what you're actually seeking?
Happy 'Casting! 2024-02-1915 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.New Series: Kristen and Sarah! (KASB Fridays)When Kristen Aut and Sarah Bouchard team up on Friday's you get: K.A.S.B. Friday's! (pronounced like Casbah). C'mon guys ... that's so Fetch.
Sarah and I have been chatting each week (as business buddies) for a few months and decided our chats were record worthy! So, be on the look out for some great conversations on some hot topics in dating, nutrition, mindset ... and anything else that comes up in between.
Sarah Bouchard is a nutrition and mindset coach working with women who want to improve their...2024-02-1738 min
The Health Bridge Podcast with Holly B.#65: Manifesting Your Authentic Self with Kristen AutenriethKristen Autenrieth is a mindset and manifestation coach who helps women recognize their own red flags, find their inner badass, and trust themselves so they can set their own reality on fire! Listen to learn: Why your subconcious doesn't want you to practice manifestation The 3 things that will morph you into a kicka$$ manifester How you get stuck in the cycle of chronic anxiety The red flag to look out for when looking for a coach Why you should be curious about your "dark side" How to diffuse the blame & shame that comes up when you a...2024-02-1055 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Left on Read (Solosode)Turned on the mic and just started talking. Something I'd like to start doing regularly. Just about the things I'm going through in that week, that day, that moment.
This week I talk about something that's difficult for a lot of us ... getting left on read. Such a basic thing that says nothing about us. So, why does it feel so personal?
How do we navigate the things that feel tough? How do we allow and accept these little things without internalizing them? Without making them mean something about us and our worth?
...2024-02-0913 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Momming, Being Single and Jumping Back into Dating (with Diera Story)My guest this week is Diera Story who is just a peach of a human being.
She is a coach in the same business academy as me and works with moms who want to build the dream life they crave by unlocking their mind, body, and soul and showing up as themselves.
Diera's Info:
Instagram: @itsdierastory
Podcast: Mama Fire
Of course, all of that info is in the show notes …
Like the rest of us … Diera is learning to step comp...2024-02-071h 18
Unhinged and Healing6 Big Mistakes When Dating w/ Kristen Autenrieth (Part 2)Welcome to "Unhinged and Healing," where authenticity meets transformation. In this two-part series, we unravel the intricacies of dating with our insightful guest, Kristen, as she shares her journey and explores the common mistakes women make when navigating the dating landscape. In the second part of our series, Kristen continues to shed light on the remaining pitfalls in the dating journey. From prematurely planning the future to losing focus on personal growth, she guides us through the hazards of making someone the center of our universe. Discover the power of maintaining balance, staying true to your identity...2024-02-0202 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Relationship Dynamics ... FIRST guest episode! (with Sarah Irwin)First podcast guest!!
Sarah Irwin is a superb energy healer who works with women who need help healing what the medical system could not.
Today we discuss various different relationship dynamics including admiring vs. idolizing someone, focusing on internal desires vs changing the external, owning your authenticity and following the path that sets your soul on fire, energy vampires, and kissing a few frogs
Please rate and comment your feedback on this episode.
And if you’re loving it … screenshot us and tag us on soci...2024-01-3047 minUnhinged and Healing6 Big Mistakes When Dating w/ Kristen Autenrieth (Part 1)Welcome to "Unhinged and Healing," where authenticity meets transformation. In this two-part series, we unravel the intricacies of dating with our insightful guest, Kristen, as she shares her journey and explores the common mistakes women make when navigating the dating landscape. Join us as we delve into the first four mistakes that many women unknowingly make in the pursuit of love. Kristen opens up about the pressure to seek approval, compromising authenticity, and the importance of evaluating if a relationship aligns with one's true self. Are you chasing approval or genuinely connecting with someone? Tune in as...2024-01-2341 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Boundaries: Keep the Good In. Keep the Bad Out (Solosode)How do you show up to protect yourself? That's the question. Kristen discusses the peace/chaos balance withing and how you learn to find the balance within so you know when you need to put up a boundary to protect yourself. 2023-11-1421 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Masculine & Feminine Energy … It's a Balancing Act (Solosode)Kristen talks about importance of a healthy masculine/feminine dynamic within. As within, so without. Whatever your energy is on the outside is what will manifest itself into your external world. 2023-11-1419 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Manifesting a Specific Person (SP) … A Tough Pill to Swallow That My Attachment Was Keeping Me Stuck (Solosode)Kristen talks about the struggles with "trying to manifest an SP" and how the more general you can go with your manifestations, the more you open yourself up to the miracles that are waiting to come into your life2023-11-1422 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Manifestation and Relationships: You Don't Manifest What You Want … You Manifest Who You Are (Solosode)The newer buzz and idea around the word "manifestation" keep us from realizing that we've always been manifesting. It's not
the conscious mind that manifests but the subconscious. Our external world is a product of who we are. So you have to ask yourself: Who am
I really being?
Also addressing the new branding and NAME CHANGE!
2023-11-1423 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.My Journey Over the Last 41 Years: From Childhood Traumas to Coaching (Solosode)She's back … in dramatic fashion!
Kristen has really pushed herself out of the comfort zone to talk vulnerably about her life story to bring some relatability to those who need it. From the struggles to the triumphs and back. And how she wants to help people thrive through coaching. 2023-11-1459 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.The Rules of Life: Guess What ...?? There Are None (Solosode)We spend sooooo much time worrying about how things will look to others. And then we hesitate, we hold back, we second guess ourselves, we quit.
New Rule: There are NO rules ... so figure out what feels BEST and then do ittttttt.
**Computer is back up and running so I can edit some episodes now! Sorry for my slight hiatus**2023-05-2417 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Attachment Styles: Anxious? Avoidant? Disorganized? Deep down, we’re all just big scaredy cats (Solosode)How we’re taught to love when we’re little is how we will love when we’re adults. The insecure attachment styles we develop are all based on a common theme: fear. As we grow and learn to become more secure on on our own … we also build more compassion for those who enter our lives with less than perfect security on their own path to love. The more you know about yourself, the more you’ll be able to understand when you need to ebb and when you need to flow on your quest to love.2023-05-0320 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Surrender ... And the Answers Will Come (Solosode)Surrender has been one of the hardest things for me to embody. Many of us have spent most of our lives believing what we see and thinking that it has to dictate where we're going. It doesn't! The more you can release the idea that what you want has to show up in a certain way ... the more the things you want will effortlessly flow to you, the more answers will come to you on their own, and the path from where you are to where you want to go will become clearer and clearer. Breathe ... and let it...2023-04-2125 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Embrace Your Desires ... They Are Your Authenticity (Solosode)Let's be honest ... when we really want something it can be so hard to hold onto to the vision of our desires when the world as we experience it, with our 5 senses, is showing us the opposite. But, these desires are always there for a reason. What you desire is your truth and authenticity trying to come out! Focus on the feeling that you want to have and allow yourself to grow and learn from the things that aren't bringing you that feeling. When you focus on what you DO want and allow it to exist in your imagination, then it...2023-04-1021 minOh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.Change Can Be Tough ... Don't Resist It (Solosode)Sometimes it's really hard to release our grip on the changes that come along with inner growth and personal development. It's so important that we become conscious of that fear, because otherwise, it can halt us from continuing to uncover and embrace our true authenticity.
More about me and my mentorship program: www.thinkaboveyou.com
IG: @kristenaut
2023-03-2917 min
Oh it's Me. I'm the Red Flag.The Pilot Episode ... The Most Vulnerable of Them All (Solosode)Because what's a great series without a pilot episode?
Learn a little about me and how I arrived at the spot I'm at today.
More about me and my mentorship program: www.thinkaboveyou.com
IG: @kristenaut2023-03-2110 min