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RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery126 - What Betrayed Partners Need Most from the Addict who Hurt Them In this episode, Kylene and Patrick explore five essential things a betrayed partner needs from their spouse in order to truly heal. They unpack each element with depth and honesty, including: Taking full responsibility without minimizing or making excuses Creating safety—especially by addressing power dynamics and physical presence Making her feel seen, chosen, and prioritized Recovering for yourself, not just to save the relationship Demonstrating long-term consistency and follow-through Patrick shares personal insights and real-life experiences as they walk through each step. Together, they explain why thes...2025-07-3059 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery122 - 5 Ingredients for a Healthy MarriageIn today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss what ingredients are involved in a healthy marriage. These include: Liking each other as friends Emotional support for each other Playing on the same team Being willing to apologize and take responsibility for your own behavior Freedom and safety in every aspect of the relationship After betrayal and through addiction recovery, couples have a real opportunity to start from scratch, taking anything that was healthy and good before, and rooting out anything that’s unhealthy while they create something brand new together. Today, K...2025-07-091h 06

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery121 - 5 Practical Ways to Create Safety After Discovering Your Spouse is a Sex or Porn AddictIn today's episode Kylene and Patrick walk through 5 practical and actionable steps to consider after discovery. What actually helps create stability when you're just beginning your recovery journey? Here are 5 steps to consider: Sleeping in separate spaces to give yourself the opportunity to reset and recover Setting boundaries around communication Getting connected to practitioners specializing in addiction and betrayal Making sure the basic modes of addiction are shut down/blocked Create a plan - work with your practitioner and spouse to create a plan that works for you If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect w...2025-07-0259 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery114 - Self Confidence vs Self Worth in RecoveryBoth the addict in recovery and the betrayed partner may struggle with self confidence, self worth, or both. But are they different? In this episode, Kylene and Patrick unpack the differences between self-confidence and self-worth, sharing how each has wrestled with these issues in their own lives—Kylene with low self-confidence and Patrick with low self-worth. They explore how these struggles have shown up in their personal journeys, the healing work they've done, and how anyone can grow in these areas. If you've ever questioned your value or doubted yourself, this episode is for you. If you are a betra...2025-05-1456 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery106 - Stress is Inevitable - 3 Strategies to Dial in When it HitsIn this episode, Kylene and Patrick talk about the reality of stress, how it can impact your body after betrayal, and how stress won't go away after recovery! They share some personal experiences as well as three things you can do today to help you deal with every stressors: Stay connected in community, determine next steps, and prioritize self care. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql Join the free Recov...2025-03-1939 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery104 - Marriage Questions Answered with Kylene and PatrickIn today's episode we answer questions ranging from how we met to how we navigate conflict, and how we help each other through tough times. We have included the questions with a link below in case you would like to use them in a conversation with your partner! Questions in today's episode: https://tinyurl.com/9kjca7m9 If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql Join the free RecoverU Facebook...2025-03-051h 06

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery96 - Sobriety vs. Recovery, What's the Difference?Is there a difference between sobriety and recovery? Is recovery just a longer version of sobriety? In this episode of RecoverU Kylene and Patrick share their perspective on the differences between sobriety and recovery and the type of actions and behaviors it takes to move into a life of recovery, and ultimately freedom, after a life of sex or porn addiction! Please fill out this (short!) feedback survey helping us to know what YOU would like to be in future episode of RecoverU! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSflRXKKwyjB_6OkURh-O9cuPll1owZxmAbnsWUMj_3g9g3uxw/viewform?usp=sharing RecoverU Po...2025-01-1554 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery78 - Shattered Trust, the Emotional Landscape of BetrayalWhat does it feel like to discover your husband is a sex/porn addict without any warning? How do you navigate those first few months? In today's episode, Patrick asks Kylene questions about her experience including: What was going through your head the first 2 weeks after discovery? What seemed to help the first few weeks/months? What behaviors from (Patrick) did you find helpful? What gave you strength through this? When did you feel most vulnerable? If you are a betrayed partner, you may related to how Kylene describes her experience. If...2024-08-281h 05

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery66 - The Path to True ReconciliationWhat is the step by step process to recovery? What if my husband isn't an addict but there has been some type of infidelity or porn use? How do we recover our relationship after betrayal? Today, Kylene and Patrick walk you through the exact steps they recommend couples and individuals take to begin the healing process whether or not it's an addiction. watch Patrick’s testimony starting at 38:21 https://www.youtube.com/live/rirnsSLaYcw?si=I7aPoJ34MBsL42nD Where to begin: 2024-06-0548 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery63 - An Addict's Perspective on Recovery PART 2Today Kylene and Patrick share how certain coaching techniques and exercises have helped them in their own healing journey. Patrick also answers questions from betrayed partners from his perspective as a sex/porn addict in recovery including: When did you realize you truly had a problem? When did you realize you needed assistance from a professional? How long until you personally felt control over the compulsion? What did you need most from your spouse during the recovery process? If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching s...2024-05-1551 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery61 - The Complexity of Emotions Through RecoveryHave you ever noticed that the addict parter feels great as soon as they get into sobriety but the betrayed partner feels horrible as they fall deeper into the trauma of betrayal? This is the dichotomy of healing and this is what Kylene and Patrick discuss in today's episode. It's a very real disconnect where one partner feels GREAT while the other partner feels sad, angry, depressed, hopeless, and overwhelmed. There are a lot of complex emotions that come with this process....let's talk through them in today's episode... If you ar...2024-05-0149 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery60 - Greece, Brain Scans, and OCDEver feel like you have a complicated brain? Do you feel frustrated with how it works? Kylene can relate. Todays episode is a personal episode where Kylene and Patrick share some recent life updates including her recent diagnosis with ADD, their trip to Greece, OCD, and how they have navigated these experiences together. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql Join the free RecoverU Facebook page fo...2024-04-2443 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery57 - 5 Lies That Keep Us Stuck and the Truth That Sets Us FreeAre you feeling stuck in your healing? Or maybe you are beginning to identify unhealthy patterns in your relationship as you navigate recovery and begin to dig more deeply into through patterns and emotions. In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick tackle 5 common lies that we are prone to believe and then share the TRUTHS that will set you free! 1. Telling the truth will hurt my spouse more than my secrets 2.Sex is a need 3. If I’ve forgiven or committed towards reconciliation it means we can’t talk about it anymore 4.Porn isn’t the same as an...2024-04-0349 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery55 - Establishing True IntimacyIs the idea of sex after betrayal scary? Or does sex feel ok, but looking into each others eyes feels to scary or intimate? Sex is a topic that is bound to come up when a couple is working through reconciliation and recovery from sex/porn addiction and betrayal trauma. In today's episode Kylene and Patrick vulnerably share their own story fore-establishing intimacy, how traumatic being physically vulnerable was for Kylene, and how they set up intentional intimacy trauma exercises to rebuild that connection in a slow, safe way. If you a...2024-03-2054 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery54 - Sex Through Recovery - Year 1What does sex after betrayal and sex/porn addiction look like? There are so many things to consider as a couple navigating recovery and reconciliation and when you are addressing sex and porn addiction the topic of sex and intimacy is bound to come up! In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick break down some thoughts, recommendations and things to consider the first year of recovery around sex and intimacy together. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and boo...2024-03-141h 07

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery53 - Rebuilding Trust After BetrayalHow will I ever be able to trust again after my partner lied and manipulated to the point where I had no idea? Kylene and Patrick discuss what intakes to re-establish trust after betrayal and cover topics like honesty, consistency, disclosure, and both individuals committing to and investing in their own healing work. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql Join the free RecoverU Facebook page f...2024-03-0657 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery50 - 3 Ways to Celebrate Valentines Day After DiscoveryNavigating holidays, romantic dates, and really any significant date or experience the first year of recovery can be so tough. How can we navigate romantic holidays and especially valentines day and anniversaries is a common question you might be facing. In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick offer 3 suggestions for ways you might choose to celebrate days like Valentines day after you've discovered betrayal due to sex/porn addiction in your relationship. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link an...2024-02-1416 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery49 - Do I Confront My Husband About His Porn Use?What is my responsibility as the betrayed partner and as a believer to confront my husband about his porn use? This is a question Kylene received in her RecoverU Facebook group for betrayed partners. Patrick and Kylene answer this questions and Patrick shares his perspective about hitting the 3 year in recovery milestone. Resources from todays episode: Books: The Great Sex Rescue: https://a.co/d/dDTq7dp So You are a Believer: https://a.co/d/2MxGpVf Untwisting Scriptures: https://a.co/d/bGeJGFc Untwisting Scriptures Patriarchy & Authority: https://a.co/d/8bsaDEn Resources for freedom from porn and sex addicti...2024-02-0758 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery45 - 5 Things Recovery has Given us in 2023Recovery is one of the hardest things you will go through whether you are the spouse recovering from betrayal trauma or the spouse recovering from sex/porn addiction. Is reconciliation and recovery worth it? In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick share 5 things recovery has given them as they close the year 2023 and come close to hitting their 3 year mark in recovery together. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to...2023-12-2031 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery44 - Managing Difficult Emotions as They Come UpPainful, difficult, and overwhelming emotions are a natural part of recovery (and life!) It's important that we have tools and resources to navigate them safely and when we don't react in the healthiest way, that we engage in retroactive self reflection to helps us as we continue moving forward. In todays episode Kylene and Patrick share their personal experiences with this as well as leaving you with the encouragement that difficult emotions coming up don't mean that anything is wrong but instead, its important to listen to them soy can continue to move forward in y...2023-12-1348 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery43 - The Lies We Tell OurselvesEvery has stories that they tell themselves - lies we subconsciously believe that impact how we think, feel, and live life. In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick identify some of the most common lies and how we can reframe our thinking, and choose a different path to begin living into. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: ww...2023-12-0659 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery42 - How Do I KnowHow do I know sex addiction isn't all about sex? How do I know he really loves me? How do I know I can trust again? How do I know my sex/porn addict husband is really in recovery? Patrick and Kylene share their personal story as well as generalized answers to these questions to help you feel secure and confident in your own recovery journey as a betrayed partner. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching su...2023-11-291h 03

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery38 - Making Amends Through RecoveryMaking amends is an important step for anyone who has engaged in harmful or addictive patterns. In today's episode Kylene and Patrick share their perspective on making amends as well as specific way they are choosing to give back. (see below for more details and a link to participate!) If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.fac...2023-11-0128 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery37 - Navigating Holidays after Betrayal How do I navigate triggers around the holidays? Family, friends, stress, business and overwhelm!!! The holidays can bring a lot of joy, but for a couple in recovery it can lawyers bring a lot of stress and triggers. In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share specific tips and steps you can proactively engage in together or individually to help you navigate the busy holiday season as a recovering sex/porn addict or as a partner healing from the trauma of betrayal! If you are a betrayed partner and would like to co...2023-10-2549 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery35 - Creating Healthy Habits in RecoveryAre habits difficult for you to create? Don't worry, Kylene can relate! Or are you a master of consistency? Patrick is right there with you! In today's episode, Patrick and Kylene share the importance of healthy habits and how they can impact your recovery in a positive way. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www...2023-10-1149 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery34 - Facing the UnknownWe are all a little afraid of the unknown. Thats' just human. What happens if I stay with my husband and he relapses? What happens if we get divorced? "What if" is often one of the scariest questions we can ask, because there is no surefire way to predict the future and know the answer. In this episode Kylene shares why releasing control can actually be more empowering and freeing than trying to hold onto it. Kylene and Patrick also share their personal experiences where the unknown future, while they couldn't...2023-10-041h 01

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery33 - Forgiveness After Sex Addiction and BetrayalMany betrayed partners have experienced pressure to forgive quickly or felt one of the following: How could I ever forgive my husband after he cheated on me? I want to forgive, but I just....can't! Forgiveness after betrayal is both difficult, and often misunderstood. There are so many cultural, religious or personal beliefs that we unconsciously mix up into forgiveness soup - and this can cause frustration, confusion and feelings of guilt when forgiveness doesn't come easily. In today's episode Kylene and Patrick discuss what forgiveness is, what it isn't and share their thoughts on w...2023-09-2742 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery32 - Rebuilding Trust After BetrayalIs it possible to rebuild trust after betrayal? How can I trust my partner after they had a sex or porn addiction? Trust is shattered after discovery and betrayal. It's truly the foundation of safety that allows a relationship to build upon and when it's gone, it takes significant time and effort to create it again. Kylene and Patrick continue to share their personal story around this topic as well as sharing their best pieces of advice to support you as you navigate your own story. If you are a...2023-09-201h 03

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery31 -My spouse looks at porn - now what?If you are a betrayed spouse and have ever asked the following questions, this episode is for you! What do I do when my husband is deleting everything and turning his life over to God? What do I do if I think my partner has an addiction but I don't have proof? How do I navigate D-day anniversary or wedding anniversaries? In this episode, Kylene and Patrick and your questions, and share practical tips to take immediately after discovery (like listing access to technology) and remind the couple not to spiritually bypass the steps it ta...2023-09-1336 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery26 - When 💩 hits the fan in your relationship 🙊Do Kylene and Patrick have the perfect relationship? Are couples in recovery always happy? In today's episode Kylene and Patrick open up to share some of the struggles they still have as they continue to navigate the day to day reality of recovery after betrayal. While sharing personal stories and examples, they also share the self reflection, the frustration of putting in so much work only to hit a bump in the road, and remembering that your ultimate happiness shouldn't be completely dependent on your spouse. They share how conflict can help you l...2023-08-0942 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery24 - Falling in Love Again After BetrayalIs it possible to love my spouse after betrayal? Can we have a marriage that is happy and healthy again after sex/porn addiction and all the pain he's put me through? In this episode, Kylene shares the deep pain she experienced when she felt the spiritual disconnection form Patrick after betrayal and her personal journey with the question is falling in love again possible after you go through all of this? She and Patrick discuss their journey of reconnection while navigating the reality of betrayal and recovery together. If you are a...2023-07-261h 05

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery23 - Spiritually Bypassing Your RecoveryWhat role does my faith play in my recovery journey? Can depending on my faith as the only resource actually hinder my long term recovery? In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss the concept of spiritual bypassing which is the idea that someone uses spirituality and faith to bypass deeper work required for transformative healing. As Christians, Kylene and Patrick believe that God often uses faith in combination with tools, resources and community on earth to effectively transform the heart and mind of the individual. Learn how inadvertently avoiding this work might damage r...2023-07-191h 00

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery22 - Communicating Through Recovery - Part 2Do you ever feel like you can't seem to communicate your thoughts effectively to your spouse? Or maybe, you think you communicate well, but feel frustrated that they can't seem to understand you or hear what you're saying? Communication is one of the primary struggles that married couples have. This disconnect can be amplified tremendously after betrayal when pain and emotions are high. Today's episode is part 2 of Kylene and Patrick sharing tips that are immediately applicable for you and your partner to begin improving your communication TODAY! If you are a betrayed...2023-07-1234 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery21 - Communication Through Recovery - Part 1Do you ever feel like you can't seem to communicate your thoughts effectively to your spouse? Or maybe, you think you communicate well, but feel frustrated that they can't seem to understand you or hear what you're saying? Communication is one of the primary struggles that married couples have. This disconnect can be amplified tremendously after betrayal when pain and emotions are high. Today's episode is part 1 of Kylene and Patrick sharing tips that are immediately applicable for you and your partner to begin improving your communication TODAY! If you are a betrayed...2023-07-0544 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery20 - Top 5 Questions for Addiction and Betrayal RecoveryEvery betrayed partner and every addict is filled with questions at the beginning of their recovery. In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick answer the following questions: From the betrayed: How can my husband do this to me? How can I trust again? How do I know if I should leave or stay? How do I deal with trauma brain, brain fog, and emotional triggers? From the addict: Why does it take the addict 2-5 years to heal? Why should an addict s...2023-06-281h 00

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery19 - Navigating Uncomfortable EmotionsIs conflict healthy? How canI communicate my emotions without crossing a line? Recovery for both the addict and the betrayed partner is filled with uncomfortable, big and potentially overwhelming emotions. In today's episode, Patrick and Kylene share about parts work, a coaching and therapeutic modality that helps us communicate safely with our emotions. In this episode they discuss how you are only responsible for your behavior, not the emotional response of others, and how initially learning to feel emotions might make life harder initially, but ultimately creates a deeper and healthier l...2023-06-2159 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery18 - Get to know Kylene & PatrickWho are the people behind the podcast mics? Today's episode is a little get-to-know-you of our podcast hosts Kylene and Patrick Terhune. Kylene shares how OCD and ADD impact her brain and her life and how some of the coaching training she received really helped her own personal healing. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed pa...2023-06-1452 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery17 - Talking to Your Kids After DiscoveryShould I tell my kids what's going on after I discovered my husband is a sex/porn addict? This is one of the most common questions parents have after discovery/disclosure. In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share their personal stories and perspective on how to navigate sharing (in appropriate ways) information to help your children process the reality of what is happening in their home. Good pictures Bad pictures book on Amazing: https://a.co/d/gfw1FLa God Made All of Me book on Amazon: https://a.co/d/aV7nFob 2023-06-0743 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery13 - Boundaries when Recovering from Sex Addiction and Betrayal TraumaIn this episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss what boundaries are, how to set them effectively, and they offer specific examples for you to consider on your own journey of recovery from betrayal trauma. *Special NOTE* A good friend and dedicated listener brought to my attention that we did not mention a VERY important caveat!! For anyone in a relationship where they need to protect their future option to LEAVE the relationship, certain boundaries that we mention in this episode are NOT appropriate. For example if you are considering leaving at some point, in many cases yo...2023-05-1055 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery12 - Making Empowering Choices During RecoveryIs relapse a choice? This is a controversial stance, one that Kylene believes once 90 days of sobriety has been successfully navigated and the addiction recovery is engaged in healing tools and resources. Kylene wants you to feel like you have complete control over your mind and behaviors and she believes that choosing empowering identity thoughts (as long as they are combined with helpful resources, community, and healing tools) is half the battle. Patrick shares his perspective as a recovered addict, and how this mindset was helpful for him while navigating his recovery journey. 2023-05-0352 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery11 - What’s Keeping You Stuck in Betrayal and AddictionFeeling STUCK in your recovery? In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share how: 1) Lack of education and resources 2) An inability to create or to get to safety 3) Being afraid of facing pain 4) Spiritual bypassing or denial are some of the most common healing pitfalls we can fall into if we aren't aware of them and consciously choose the discomfort of healing to keep us moving forward! If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this li...2023-04-261h 10 $You\'re Blank, What Now?$ You're Blank, What Now?Episode 79: "You're Recovering Your Relationship, What Now?" with Pat & Kylene TerhuneIn this episode, Pat & Kylene Terhune and I have a discussion around WHY and HOW they have been working to recover their relationship after Kylene was betrayed by Pat after the discovery of his decade long pornography/cyber-sex addiction. Pat and Kylene shared their individual stories in separate episodes, Episode 77: “You’re Betrayed, What Now?” with Kylene and Episode 78: “You’re Addicted to Pornography, What Now?” with Pat. Patrick & Kylene Terhune live in Dayton, Ohio. They have one son, Keegan who is a freshman at the United States Military Academy at West Point, NY. They co-host the RecoverU Podcast and are passionate...2023-04-261h 26

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery10 - 90 Days of CelibacyHow do we navigate sex after discovering my husband is a sex/porn addict? Is it ok? Do we abstain? What's this about 90 days of celibacy and how can that help? In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick break down the idea of 90 days of celibacy after discovering sex/porn addiction in your relationship. They discuss how this is beneficial for the addict, how it can be beneficial for the betrayed partner, and how it can take the pressure off of a couple navigating the first stages of recovery. Donate Americas Mighty Wa...2023-04-1938 min $You\'re Blank, What Now?$ You're Blank, What Now?Episode 78: "You're Addicted to Pornography, What Now?" with Pat TerhuneIn this episode, Pat Terhune and I talk about his addiction to cybersex/pornography and how he was discovered by his wife, Kylene, after more than a decade of hiding his addiction. Pat shares how his addiction affected his physical, mental and spiritual sides as well as his ability to lead at work and in his family. Pat and Kylene are in recovery of their relationship and are helping other couples who have also experienced the aftermath of cybersex in their relationship. Patrick (Pat) Terhune lives in Dayton, Ohio with his wife Kylene Terhune. They have one son, Keegan who is...2023-04-1952 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery9 - Out of the Box Recovery PART 2Are you a couple working through reconciliation, an addict navigating withdrawal and recovery, or a betrayed partner struggling with intense emotions and trauma? In this episode Kylene an Patrick go deeper than the basic recommendations that you connect with 1:1 coaching/therapy and group support and dive into some practical lifestyle and supplemental supports that might seem out of the box, but can help with long term recovery! Juice Plus supplements for whole food nutrition: https://kyleneterhune.juiceplus.com/ Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was h...2023-04-1235 min $You\'re Blank, What Now?$ You're Blank, What Now?Episode 77: "You're Betrayed, What Now?" with Kylene TerhuneIn this episode, Kylene Terhune and I talk about her experience being betrayed by her husband whom she learned was, and had been, a cyber-sex addict before they were married and throughout their almost decade long marriage. Kylene shares how the betrayal came to light and how she sought out her own healing alongside her husband’s recovery. Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project where she helps women recovering from betrayal trauma after discovering a hidden sex or porn addiction in their marriage. She is a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, NLP life coach and certified pos...2023-04-121h 05

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery8 - Out of the Box Recovery PART 1Are you a couple working through reconciliation, an addict navigating withdrawal and recovery, or a betrayed partner struggling with intense emotions and trauma? In this episode Kylene an Patrick go deeper than the basic recommendations that you connect with 1:1 coaching/therapy and group support and dive into some practical lifestyle and supplemental supports that might seem out of the box, but can help with long term recovery! Check out restore hyper wellness for NAD IVs and more: https://www.restore.com Bioptimizers Magnesium: https://bioptimizers.com/shop/products/magnesium-breakthrough 2023-04-0538 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery7 - Choosing Your Identity in RecoveryWhat if you could CHOOSE your identity and then step into and embody that moving forward? In this episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss the important of choosing identify through recovery. They disagree with the long term use of statements like "I am an addict" and discuss how that communicates a negative identity to your subconscious and why using statements like "I am someone recovery form sex addiction" is more helpful. You DON'T have to struggle with unwanted behavior and patterns for life, and mindset and identify play a big role in how this plays out. ...2023-03-2926 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery6 - Slaying the Shame DragonShame is a primary driver of addictive patterns and healing from shame is one of the key components of true recovery. If you are a recovering sex/porn addict, or if you are a betrayed partner who wants to understand your addict spouse more deeply, this episode is for you. Kylene and Patrick share both of their perspectives on how shame plays a roll in behavior and identify and different ways to intentionally and proactively choose to heal from it soy can step into deeper recovery. If you are a...2023-03-2242 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery5 - Impact, Empathy, & Restitution LettersAre you a couple going through full therapeutic disclosure after betrayal trauma and sex/porn addiction? The impact and empathy letters are an important part of the disclosure process and in today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share why those letters are so important, what they include, and how they impact your recovery in a positive way! If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for b...2023-03-1530 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery4 - 2 Years - Patrick’s StoryIn this episode, Patrick shares his personal story of recovery from sex addiction, how his addiction began, the internal conflict behind his behaviors and how recovery has impacted his life being in recovery for 2 years! If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: 2023-03-0847 min

RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery2 - Disclosure - The Good, The Bad, and The UglyAre you a betrayed partner who has just discovered her husband is a sex or porn addict? Or maybe you're an addict who just got discovered? Are you wondering WHAT'S NEXT? Is there any hope? In this episode, Kylene and Patrick share their personal story of how Patrick's sex addiction was discovered, the pain of being manipulated and lied to, and then panic she experienced during discovery. They share how they connected to healing resources right away and how they began to navigate the world of therapeutic disclosure and how important truth is for a...2023-03-011h 00