Shows
Modern CouplesThe YellersCouples generally raise their voice when they are not being heard, understood, or when they're feeling desperate. Feeling that nobody is listening can make anybody want to yell! But there are better ways of making yourself heard, and Lilian and Rick want to share them with you today.2024-08-1323 minModern CouplesKids Stuck in the MiddleOur Children need to be allowed to simply be children, but we often put them in the middle of our relationship conflicts, creating a triangulation that's not healthy for anyone. Co-parenting effectively involves modeling loving, respectful intimacy for our kids. Let's talk about how you can do it!2024-07-0920 minModern CouplesYour Place ... or Mine?Many couples choose to have separate residences for myriad of reasons: job requirements, school district preferences, even military postings. Making decisions together can be challenging when you're living apart. How do you keep it together? How do you define your own couplehood around residences, visits, children, and intimacy?2024-05-1421 minModern CouplesThe Eye RollWho hasn't seen their partner rolling their eyes? Who hasn't done it themselves at times? So much is being said in this gesture, often underlining attitudes that make one or both partners feel unsafe in the relationship. What is encoded in nonverbal communication? Is this something you or your partner do routinely? What can replace it to make nonverbal communication work better?2024-04-0920 minModern CouplesIt's Not Just About the ChoresCouples argue incessantly about who does (or doesn't do) what chore, when, and how, and resentment around these seemingly mundane tasks can build and become a symptom of deeper issues in the relationship. You don't have to keep doing this dance- Rick and Lilian will tell you how you can change your dynamics!2024-03-1320 minModern CouplesSpeaking Different LanguagesThe prevalence of couples who meet on the internet is increasing, while the command of each other's language can be rudimentary, creating communication challenges. Do we use communication as a bridge_ or as a weapon? And is it a metaphor for speaking different languages in other, less obvious ways?2024-02-1317 minModern CouplesDealing With MoneyThe way we handle money in relationships can be a metaphor for how we handle love. Do you keep your money jointly or separately? Do you argue over how to spend money? In this episode, Rick and Lilian talk about issues around control, intimacy, and safety around money.2024-01-0917 minModern CouplesKeeping SecretsWhat is it you don't tell your partner? What kinds of secrets do couples keep from each other? Do you keep secrets so you can avoid conflict with your partner, or do you tell your partner everything, or something in-between? What's the best policy?2023-12-1218 minModern CouplesTraveling SoloWhat happens when one or both partners need to travel for work, pleasure, or other reasons? If being apart is part of your life together, how can you develop a routine for checking in with each other? Emotional distance can increase with geographical distance while issues of trust can play out in traveling schedules.2023-11-1415 minModern CouplesSleeping with the DogsLilian and Rick take on intimacy and sex in this premiere episode: who decides whether pets are allowed in the marital bed? Can these decisions represent barriers to emotional and sexual intimacy? Do all couples have to sleep together? Do issues of power and control affect the way we are intimate together?2023-09-2816 min