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Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyDoes Your Therapist Talk About THEMSELVES Too Much??Does your therapist talk too much about themselves during YOUR sessions? This is a common issue, and it can really get in the way of your work. They’re on your dime, and your time with them should be all about you—not an outlet for them. Frankly, knowing too much about your therapist can even be a barrier to positive outcomes. The reality is, we therapists are human, and we have our own personal and professional growth trajectories. That’s why I’ve created a new side project: Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists. In one of my latest episodes...
2024-10-1001 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#422: How Long Does it REALLY Take To Get Over an Ex?Breakups are brutal. I know you're wondering, “How long will it take before I finally feel like myself again?” Trust me, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the million-dollar question: How long does it really take to get over a breakup? And, even more importantly, what do you need to DO in order to move forward and not get stuck in the past? I'm joined by Kendra Allen, the amazing host of Breakup Bestie, and together we unpack the factors that impact your healing timeline. Spoiler alert: it’s different for everyone! But we’ve got insigh...
2024-10-0849 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#421 How to Overcome Rejection (And Turn It Into The BEST Thing That Ever Happened To You - Really!))Friend, partner, or job said "thanks but no thanks"? Well, the joke's on them: If you know how to mine the gold in this opportunity it could wind up being the best thing that’s ever happened to YOU. And... Rejection sucks. Whether it’s from a friend, a romantic partner, or a job you really wanted, it can leave you feeling bruised and wondering, “Is it just me?” Guess what? It’s not just you, and it’s not the end of the world (promise!). 🌟 In fact, rejection can be the key to unlocking your most resilient, powerful self. Yeah, I said it...
2024-10-0153 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#420: "I Have No Sex Drive!" Dr. Ruth's Advice For Reigniting IntimacyLet’s get real for a minute—have you ever found yourself thinking, "I have no sex drive," and feeling completely stuck about what to do next? You’re not alone. So many people are struggling with this exact issue, and today, I’m diving deep into why that happens, how it affects your relationship, and most importantly—what you can do about it. In this episode, I’m joined by Allison Gilbert, co-author with the iconic Dr. Ruth Westheimer on her last book "The Joy of Connections." We’ll explore how a lack of intimacy in your relationship can leave you feel...
2024-09-2423 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyWhy Making Friends as an Adult is so HARD... and How to Cultivate a CommunityWhere did everyone go?? At some point, many/most adults look up one day to realize that all their old friends have either moved to Austin or are completely buried in #babylife or never-ending home improvement projects… and they have nobody to spontaneously get a beer with on a Tuesday night. Can you relate? It's not just you. Did you know that, on average, most people lose more friends every year than they gain? Over time, your life can become increasingly lonely unless you’re actively working to build and maintain friendships. But here’s the thing: making new friends as an...
2024-09-1757 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyAre You Making Major Relationship Mistakes Without Realizing It?Could you be accidentally and unintentionally DESTROYING your relationship? Pro tip from a marriage counselor: Many, many people are... and literally have no idea. I think I know why. Everyone with an Instagram account is posting things about what they think you should do to have a great relationship—communication tips, romantic date ideas, etc.—but let’s be real... sometimes, it's more important to know what NOT to do! And nobody talks about that!! That’s why today, we’re flipping the script on the usual relationship advice you hear. 💥 In this episode, we’re breaking down the 12 Most Effective Ways to...
2024-09-1048 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#417: Natural Anxiety Relief feat. Dr. Nicole Cain🎧 Forget Everything You Knew About Anxiety – This Changes Everything! 🎧 Ever feel like anxiety has a grip on your life? Here’s the game-changing truth: You can heal anxietyy, not just manage the symptoms. 💥 In this transformative episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Nicole Cain, a holistic anxiety expert and author of the upcoming book Panic Proof, to discuss a revolutionary approach to healing anxiety from the inside out. 🌱 👉 Imagine freeing yourself from anxiety by nurturing your body, mind, and soul. Together, we dive into practical strategies that blend psychology and holistic medicine to uncover...
2024-09-0359 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyWhy Your Therapist is Weird: Behind The ScenesWondering why your therapist acts a little... strange? What are all those long, awkward silences about? Why won't they follow you on social media? You made DIRECT EYE CONTACT with them at the grocery store but they didn't acknowledge your presence. Why?? In this episode, we’re diving into the surprising truth behind therapist boundaries and why they matter for your personal growth. In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m pulling back the curtain on some of the “weird” things therapists do (like, why won’t they just give you a hug already?!), and why those boundaries are actuall...
2024-08-2747 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#415 How To Become More CONFIDENTReady to shake off low self esteem for good, and grow into the confident, competent person you want to be? Good news: Confidence isn't born, it's BUILT, meaning you have more control over how you feel about yourself than you might think. On today’s podcast you’ll learn the essence of authentic self-worth, and how to grow into the kind of person that exudes confidence (in a good way). As a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified coach, I’m sharing why confidence isn’t just a feeling you magically have—it’s something you build through consistent...
2024-08-1947 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#414: How to Control Anger in a RelationshipAnger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve. In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' we’re not just talking about managing anger in relationships—we’re transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, I’ve got some incredibl...
2024-08-1332 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyTrapped in a Job By "Golden Handcuffs?" How to Break Free....Feeling trapped in a high-paying job you hate? 😔💸 Welcome to the golden handcuffs dilemma, where financial success comes at the expense of your happiness and mental well-being. In today's episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges of breaking free from a lucrative but unfulfilling career. You'll learn how to reclaim your freedom, reignite your passion, and find true fulfillment without sacrificing financial security. 🚀✨ Specifically, we’re discussing: 00:00 Breaking the Chains: Intro to Escaping Golden Handcuffs 00:20 The Golden Cage: Understanding Why High Pay Can Trap You 05:08 Real Stories, Real Struggles: Listener Questions and Insights 08:02 The Silent Suffering: Emotional and Psychologica...
2024-08-0641 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#412: Want To Improve Your Relationship FAST? TRY THIS!7 WEIRD Things That Will Improve Your Relationship Are you wondering, "How can I improve my relationship?" 🤔 You're in the right place! In this episode of "Love, Happiness, and Success," I’m sharing the most surprising and counterintuitive tips to dramatically enhance your relationship. From giving each other more space to embracing healthy anxiety, these strategies are strange - but they are based on research… and they are game-changers! 🌟 What we’re discussing: 00:00 Introduction: Improving Your Relationship 02:00 Counterintuitive Tip #1: Give Each Other Space 04:07 Counterintuitive Tip #2: Embrace Healthy Anxiety 05:53 Counterintuitive Tip #3: Embrace the Daily Grind 07:45 Counterintuitive Tip #4: Focus on Yourself 11:58 Counterintuitive Tip #5: Prioritize Sexuali...
2024-07-3028 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyDid You Marry The Wrong Person?? How to Tell...Today we’re diving into a question I hear a lot: "Did I marry the wrong person?" If your relationship feels hard and you're starting to wonder if you made the right choice, you’re in the right place. We’ll tackle four essential areas to help you gain clarity: compatibility, communication, alignment, and growth opportunities. By the end of this episode, you’ll have some fresh ideas and a clear plan to create positive change, whether with your partner or on your own. Specifically, we’re discussing: 0:00 Introduction: Are You Married to the Wrong Person? 00:39 Understanding Relationship Challenges 06:46 The Importance...
2024-07-2338 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#410: It's Okay to Be AMAZING! How to Stop Playing Small...🔥 STOP PLAYING SMALL! 🔥 Discover the secrets to growing more confident and comfortable with putting yourself out there. 🌟 Are you constantly minimizing yourself, feeling guilty for setting boundaries, or believing that good things are meant for others but not for you? If so, it's time to break free from these limiting beliefs and start living unapologetically! In this powerful episode, we dive deep into why we play small and how to overcome it, empowering you to step into your greatness. Today I'm sharing actionable strategies and inspiring insights to help you become your own hero. Whether it's in your relationships, career, or person...
2024-07-1635 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyFeeling Unheard in a Relationship? Try This!One of my listeners wrote in saying, "Dear Lisa, https://www.growingself.com/feeling-unheard-in-relationship right now. I try to talk about how I feel, but I'm just not getting through. It seems like my partner is either not hearing me or not understanding me, and I feel so lonely. How do I change this situation?" Honestly: This is one of the most common issues I hear about as a marriage counselor. In today’s podcast, I’m diving into why you might feel unheard in your relationship and sharing practical strategies to change that dynamic. If this resonates with you, stick a...
2024-07-0932 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#408 — Are You In an Enmeshed Relationship? What to Do!Is your relationship emotionally enmeshed? If it is... you probably don't realize it! So how can you know? And what can you do about it? Tune into this one to find out! On this episode, we're talking about what emotional enmeshment is, and how you can untangle your heart strings and create a better relationship in the process. When couples are struggling with communication or conflict, emotional enmeshment is often the root issue. Once you address the enmeshment, your entire relationship can feel lighter and more enjoyable. But first you have to recognize enmeshment for what it is, and this e...
2024-07-0240 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyLove on the LOOSE: How to have a great time traveling with (or without) your partner.Traveling with your partner can be so fun, but it can also be stressful and lead to conflict. Whether you're wondering why vacations sometimes lead to arguments or how to navigate different travel styles, this episode is packed with insights and practical strategies to help you have a great time adventuring together—or apart. Main Takeaways: Understand the common conflicts that arise on trips and how to address them constructively. Learn how to appreciate and respect your partner's travel preferences. Discover how to plan trips that satisfy both you and your partner. Explore the benefits of solo travel for a he...
2024-06-2537 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyLet's Talk About YOU! Thursdays @ 12pm MTHave you ever listened to an episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast and thought, "I wish I could talk to Dr. Lisa about this"? Now you can! When: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time) Where: Live on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook Each week, after dropping a new podcast episode on Monday, I'll host a live stream on Thursday to discuss that week's topic, answer your questions, and give you personalized advice. How to Participate: Live: Tune in on any of my social channels: YouTube, Instagram, Facebook. Submit Questions in Advance: Visit growingself.com/dear-lisa...
2024-06-2001 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby406: Is it a mistake to get back together with an ex?Have you been thinking about getting back together with your ex? It's completely natural to wonder if getting back together with an ex is a mistake, or if it might be the beginning of a beautiful new chapter in your relationship. In this episode, I'm here to offer you the clarity you need. We'll walk through FOUR ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS that you must ask yourself and your ex before getting back together. These questions are designed to help you understand whether giving your relationship another chance is the right move. Doing this introspective work will either set you up...
2024-06-1834 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#404 - Taking Your Power Back After a BreakupOne of the most difficult things about a breakup is the way it can leave you feeling disempowered. Getting your heart smashed by the one you love most sends you on a journey you never wanted to go on... but taking charge of your life in the aftermath of a breakup helps you emerge from the experience better than ever. Today, we're talking about how you can take your power back after a breakup, rebuild your self-esteem, and use your heartbreak to fuel powerful personal growth. As a couples counselor who has seen my fair share of breakups and divorces, I...
2024-06-1133 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#403 - Overcoming the Fear of Being 'Single Forever'Will you be single forever? If you've been dating for a while and struggling to find your person, then I'll bet this thought has crossed your mind at some point. Maybe it's something you think about a lot. And the prospect of being single forever can be scary! We all crave deep connection and true, enduring love. The possiblity of never finding the relationship we desire is daunting, especially if your dating experiences have been grinding you down. But facing the fear of being alone may just be the key to not only loving your life as a single person, b...
2024-06-0433 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#403 - Sex After InfidelityHow do you have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner after the trauma of infidelity? It's possible, and in fact, going through the process of healing your relationship together together can bring you closer in unexpected ways. But the road to recovery is not an easy one, especially when it comes to sex. Many couples struggle to heal, reconnect, and feel safe again after feeling violated by an affair. But there is a path to repair — for your relationship and your sex life — and that's what we're talking about on today's episode. Tune in to learn about: 04:32 The Mental and Emo...
2024-05-2740 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#402 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Money, Without Fighting!Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship? This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood. It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship. On today's episode, I'm going to tell you how to ta...
2024-05-2132 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#401 - How Introverts Can Win in the WorkplaceIntroverts are the unsung heroes of the workplace. They're thoughtful, analytical, and they excel at working independently. Still, if you have an introverted personality type, getting ahead at work can be a challenge. This podcast episode is going to tell you how to leverage your introvert superpowers (because I promise, you have them) and WIN in the workplace as an introvert. Although introverts can be assets to a team, they struggle with visibility. They may hesitate to speak up in meetings and spend lunch hours munching a salad in their car rather than socializing with coworkers. Unfortunately, upper management might m...
2024-05-1441 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#400 - Mindset: How to Live an Abundant LifeDo you want to feel happier, have more success, and live your full potential? The key is your mindset. Specifically, whether you've cultivated an abundance mindset, or whether you're living with a scarcity mindset. On this week's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're talking about what the abundance mindset is, and how you can put it to work for you in every domain of life. When you have an abundance mindset, you see possibilities everywhere you look. You're aware of your incredible power to make good things happen in your life, and you can maintain motivation to w...
2024-05-0740 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#399 - How to Break Generational CyclesWe all inherit some baggage from our families of origin — and often, we don't even realize we're carrying it! On today's episode, I'm talking about how you can explore the intergenerational cycles that may be holding you back, and then make some intentional choices about what you want to keep, and what you want to leave behind. Breaking generational cycles is a self-affirming process. It frees you from ways of thinking and behaving that may have felt like "just the way things are," and allows you to become who you truly are at your core. And if you're parent, breaking gen...
2024-04-3033 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#398 - How to Self-Soothe Anxious AttachmentWhen you have an anxious attachment style, it's hard to feel secure in your most important relationships. But learning how to self-soothe anxious attachment and create a stronger relationship with yourself can be the path to emotional freedom. On today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're discussing how you can stop relying on the people around you to regulate your anxiety, and learn to manage anxious feelings internally. This not only helps you have better relationships, it makes you stronger, happier, and more resilient. My guest is attachment expert Thais Gibson, a counselor, YouTuber, and founder of th...
2024-04-2343 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#397 - After Divorce: The Gift of RegretIf you've lived through a divorce, or you're going through one now, you know that ending a marriage comes with a lot of regrets. You might regret not trying harder to save your marriage when you had the chance, or, if the divorce was your choice, you might have difficult moments when you regret your decision. You might even regret marrying your Ex in the first place! Whatever flavor of divorce regret you're experiencing, this episode is for you. I'm talking about how you can not only cope with regret after divorce, but how you can use it to start...
2024-04-1634 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#396 - Are You an Over-Giver in Relationships? How to Start ReceivingDo you have a habit of giving too much in relationships? Maybe you say "yes" when you really want to say no, or you offer much more emotional and material support than you receive in return. All of this sounds noble, but overgiving is a habit that will eventually wear you down (and, that will keep you from having truly satisfying relationships based on mutuality). So how can you stop being an "over-giver" and start creating healthy give and take in your relationships? That's what we're talking about on today's episode. I've worked with many clients over the years who wer...
2024-04-0931 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#395 — Dear Lisa: 'My Sexless Marriage Is Killing Me!'Has the sexual intimacy in your relationship dwindled to almost nothing? Or, do you long to feel desired by your partner, but instead feel like you're being rejected? If so, this episode is for you. You'll learn why sexless marriages (or sexless relationships of any kind) happen, and how to reignite the spark with your partner and cultivate the physical and emotional intimacy you crave. When couples stop having sex, it can be a sign that their relationships are suffering in other ways as well. They may be feeling lonely and emotionally disconnected from each other. Often, there's resentment or a...
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Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyIntroducing Love, Happiness, and Success FOR THERAPISTS!Lisa here with exciting news! I've launched a new podcast, Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists, designed specifically for therapists seeking support and community. If you're a therapist, I hope you join me! (And if you know a therapist, I hope you pass this on to them!) Every week on this podcast I'll be speaking with thought leaders in our field, and drawing from years of experience as a clinical supervisor and leader Growing Self — a mission driven, growth oriented private practice that supports and cares for 50+ therapists. We'll be fearlessly tackling the unique challenges we face, while focusing on pe...
2024-03-2805 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#394 - Worried There's No Chemistry In Your Relationship? What to Do!Chemistry in relationships: it’s that spark, that zing that draws you to someone and makes you crave their touch. When it’s missing, we worry that something’s wrong. (And sometimes, it is). But did you know that intense chemistry can also sometimes be a relationship red flag? And that healthy, strong relationships may not always have as much sizzle? AND it’s also possible to cultivate the chemistry you crave. Ready for more? On today’s episode, you’ll learn: What chemistry really is (and what it isn’t) How to avoid the relationship problems chemistry can create How to cultivat...
2024-03-2543 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#393 - What to Do when Your Boss Is ToxicSo, you've got a bad boss. If you're lucky, this will be your last... but unfortunately, toxic leadership is not unheard of. Knowing the signs of a toxic boss can help you protect yourself, manage yoru expectations, and move on to a better situation when the time is right. A toxic boss can stimy your ability to do your best work, which will not only hold back the company, it can damage your career. They can foster work environments where people feel drained, resentful, or constantly at odds with their coworkers. And when it comes to your emotional wellbeing, working f...
2024-03-1842 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#392 — How to Forgive Your PartnerWhen you're hurt or angry with your partner, it's like the love in your heart is dimmed. You can't be open with your feelings when you're nursing emotional wounds. And it's hard to receive love until you're able to forgive your partner. But, emotional pain is always a component of long-term relationships. Part of giving your heart to someone is opening yourself up to the possibility of being hurt. This can happen in big ways — like infidelity, rejection, or abandonment. But it can also happen in small ways, like moments that left you feeling uncared for, unappreciated, or unloved. We al...
2024-03-1137 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#391 - How to Be 'Good with People'Do you wish you were "good with people?" Many of us do! But we're not often taught the one skill that will not only help you connect with others, but also make you happier and more successful in every single area of your life: emotional intelligence, the key to love, happiness, and success. Raising your emotional intelligence has all kinds of benefits, including increased: Contentment Motivation Adaptibility Resilience Empathy for others Self-Awareness And, it will make every relationship in your life stronger. Truly, emotional intelligence is the secret sauce that makes you "good with people" — and so much more. So, how c...
2024-03-0552 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#390 - Silencing Your Inner CriticDo you have a tough internal critic? When you are always talking to yourself in a negative, unkind way, it impacts how you feel about yourself, how you show up in your relationships with others, and how much resilience you have to achieve your goals. Learning how to recognize your inner critic and talk back to it moves you forward. That's what we're talking about on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. You'll learn: What the inner critic sounds like Where the inner critic comes from How self-criticism impacts your confidence and self-esteem How to silence your inn...
2024-02-2728 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#389 - How to Stop Feeling InsecureAre your insecurities holding you back? We all have things that we feel insecure about, but many people feel trapped by shame and self doubt, or like they're never quite good enough. And this can create major problems. Unchecked insecurity can keep you from taking risks, achieving your potential, getting close to others, and enjoying your life. A little insecurity can be healthy, leading to humility and an openness to the perspectives of others. True security doesn’t come from being perfect, it comes from accepting your imperfections and loving yourself regardless. So how can you stop being insecure, and start...
2024-02-2025 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#388 - How to Stop Walking on Eggshells in Your RelationshipDo you feel like you're always walking on eggshells around your partner? When you feel like you have to be extremely careful about what you say, otherwise your partner will blow up, get defensive, or feel hurt, something has to change. So what's your path forward? That's what we're talking about on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast. You'll learn: What causes us to walk on eggshells in a relationship Why this dynamic is bad for you, your partner, and your connection How to communicate in a way that minimizes defensiveness When it's time to get help fo...
2024-02-1335 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#387 - Navigating Your 20s with Jemma SbegAh, your 20s... a decade full of so much promise, potential, and radical growth. And yet, as a therapist and a life coach, I know that your 20s can also be uniquely difficult, especially when you expect that they're "supposed to be" the best years of your life! Young adults have always been challenged to explore their identities, learn about the complexities of romantic relationships, and start establishing themselves professionally. But in 2024, they're also grappling with student debt, outrageous housing costs, the mental health minefield of social media, and the weirdness of online dating. It's a lot! To help you un...
2024-02-0651 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#386 - Are You Stuck in a Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic? How to Break FreeAs a couples counselor, I can tell you that one of the most pernicious and common relationship patterns that couples get stuck in is the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic. This happens when one partner handles conflict by approaching it head-on, and the other has a tendency to pull away, shut down, or withdraw. The more the pursuer pursues, the more the withdrawer withdraws, and the pattern can become very intense and even a little scary. The pursuer may start getting emotionally elevated, raising their voice, or even physically following their partner from room to room. The withdrawer, meanwhile, feels totally overwhelmed and u...
2024-01-3035 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#385 - Blindsided by a Breakup? How to Deal & HealBreakups are always hard. But when you're completely blindsided by a breakup, moving forward can be especially tough. It's normal to ruminate non-stop about what happened and the signs that you missed. And your ex likely didn't stick around long enough to give you answers either — if they avoided important conversations during your relationship, chances are they're really avoiding them now. So how can you make sense of this uniquely painful experience, heal your heart, and eventually, feel safe opening yourself up to love again? That's what we're talking about on this episode of the podcast. You'll learn about: Why blinds...
2024-01-2252 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#384: How to Simplify Your Life... By Getting Clear About Your Purpose (feat. Bonnie Wan)🌟 Feeling overwhelmed by the chaos of life? You're not alone. Today, we're delving into the art of simplifying your life... by getting clear about your mission and purpose Here's the truth: Simplifying isn't just about decluttering your space. It's about aligning your daily life with your core values, leading to a more fulfilling and less frazzled existence. How? That's what you'll learn in this episode! 🔹 Special Guest: Today, I'm thrilled to have Bonnie Wan, author of “The Life Brief: A Playbook for No Regrets Living,” sharing her insights with you, on how to create a life of clarity and purpose. 🔸 Key Discussion...
2024-01-1638 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#383: F The Fairy Tale! Relationship Myths That Keep You SingleAre you navigating the single scene or maybe feeling a bit disheartened by relationships that just don't seem to click? You're not alone. Often, the biggest hurdle in our quest for love is the sneaky, self-limiting beliefs that quietly hold us back. These relationship myths are like invisible scripts dictating our love lives, and we've all got them. In today's episode, we're going to uncover these hidden culprits! You'll learn how to spot them and, more importantly, how to stop them from meddling in your journey to love. To make this conversation even more exciting (and meaningful) we'll have the...
2024-01-0946 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#382 - Signs Your Relationship Is in DistressWhen relationships are in distress, things change. Conflict is more hurtful and less productive. Couples stop seeing each other's points of view, and stop trusting each other's good intentions. But as an experience couples counselor, I know that the biggest obstacle to healing these relationships is something else — the negative narratives that distressed couples start to believe about each other, without realizing that they're both reacting to the dynamic itself, rather than something essential about their partner. Understanding what a distressed relationship looks and feels like is important. It can help you get help for your relationship when you need it...
2024-01-0242 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#381 - How to Discover Your StrengthsWhat are you good at? Where do you shine? And how can you use your natural strengths to build a happy, fulfilling life? These are the questions you need to be asking yourself along your personal growth journey. But all too often, we focus more on the things we're not so good at, beating ourselves up for our "shortcomings" and pouring precious time and energy into correcting them. I hope this episode convinces you that there's a better way. You can get much further in life by focusing on your strengths, and building upon them to magnify your power and...
2023-12-2553 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#380 - Why Your Marriage Is Worth SavingIf you've been going through a rough patch in your marriage for awhile now, it's understandable if you're questioning whether you should continue fighting. But many couples get discouraged before they've had a chance to engage in the process that makes transformation possible in relationships. If you're interested in fighting for your marriage, this episode is for you. Our relationships are the most precious things we have, and your marriage probably has more potential for growth and renewal than you realize. On this episode, I'm telling you why your marriage is worth saving, and what you can do to turn a...
2023-12-1858 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#379 - How to Figure Out What You Want in LifeIf you are a smart, growth-oriented person, the possibilities for your life are infinite. So how are you supposed to choose a life path? Figuring out what you want in life is easier said than done. It takes self-reflection, courage, and a belief in yourself, even when your choices disappoint others. This episode will help you learn how to figure out what you want in life so that you can live a life that honors your dreams, values, and unique gifts. Join me! Love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — If you'd like some expert support with finding clarity and direc...
2023-12-1143 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#378 - How to Build Trust in RelationshipsTrust is an essential ingredient in healthy relationships. But building trust can be easier said than done. Especially if you or your partner have been betrayed or mistreated in the past, you may have lingering trust issues that make it hard to feel secure and connected. I created this podcast episode to help you learn how to build trust in relationships. I'm discussing the benefits of trust, what happens when trust is missing, and how you can overcome "trust issues" and build solid, trusting relationships. Join me! Love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — If you would like expert support with...
2023-12-041h 08Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#377 - Growing Closer: How to Build Emotional IntimacyDo you long for closer, more connected relationships? The key is emotional intimacy. But there are barriers to emotional intimacy that can keep you from forming the loving connections you crave. Learn how to address "intimacy issues," increate your capacity for intimacy within yourself, and build emotional intimacy in your most important relationships with others. All of that and more on today's show. I hope you'll join me. Love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — If you want expert support for improving the emotional intimacy in your relationships, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/
2023-11-2749 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#376 - Communication Issues? What to Do!Are communication issues making your relationship feel hard? Most couples who arrive in couples counseling tell me that they want to improve communication in their relationships. The tricky part is knowing what's at the root of "communication issues," which can have so many causes, from people pleasing, to emotional reactivity, to defensiveness. Usually the answer is a combination. If you would like a new perspective on communication challenges, this episode is for you. I hope you find it helpful. Love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — If you would like support from a good couples counselor to improve communciation in your...
2023-11-211h 05Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#375 - What to Do When Your Partner Pulls AwayIs your partner pulling away? It can be an unnerving experience, especially when you don't know why your partner seems checked out lately. But you can use this as an opportunity to gain clarity about how your partner is feeling in your relationship and start a conversation that brings you closer today. Join me for a discussion all about what to do when your partner pulls away. You'll learn about some of the common reasons that people grow emotionally distant in their relationships, how to start the conversation, and how to address some of the root issues before they pose a...
2023-11-1358 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#374 - How to Develop a Secure Attachment StyleHaving a secure attachment style allows you to feel close and connected to others, while keeping your emotional independence and sense of self firmly intact. But if you weren't lucky enough to develop a secure attachment style as a child, how can you become securely attached as an adult? Luckily, there are some effective strategies for "earning" secure attachment, and this episode will show you the way. I am discussing the qualities of a securely attached person and the steps you can take to address your attachment patterns and gain connection and freedom. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. —...
2023-11-061h 00Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#373 - Breaking Free from Old Relationship PatternsDo you have habitual ways of showing up in your relationships that feel hard to change? We all do! Old relationship patterns are at the root of so many struggles, from dating emotionally unavailable partners, to feeling mistreated again and again. Getting clear about what your relationship patterns are is the first step in shifting them, so you can have a better experience and create the love and connection you deserve. If you want to learn how to break free from old relationship patterns, this episode is for you! I hope you'll find it helpful. Love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S...
2023-10-3047 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#372 - How to Stop Ruminating feat. Dr. John DelonyThere are few things worse than wishing you could stop ruminating about the past or worrying about the future, and not knowing how. Rumination happens when our minds aren’t at peace with not having all the answers. You’ll chew on a painful memory, a lost relationship, or an uncertain future, trying to find solve the problem or find “the answer” that will make it all make sense. Unfortunately, there is no benefit to rumination. It's not productive problem solving. All rumination does is add to your anxiety, drain your energy, and often, make you feel bad about yourself. So, how ca...
2023-10-2455 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#371 - How to Get Out of Your Own WayWhat’s standing in between you and your most important goals? It might not be what you think. In this episode you'll learn about the hidden, inner obstacles that most of us face, and that can become barriers to our self actualization unless we know how to handle them. Today, you'll get insight into yourself, learn how to get out of your own way, and how to make the shifts that will help you create the love, happiness, and success that you deserve — with special guest, Dr. Sophie Mort. I hope you’ll join us! With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby grow...
2023-10-1749 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#370 - Low Sex Drive Ruining Your Relationship? What to do!Is low sex drive ruining your relationship? All long term couples experience sexual dry spells, whether it's due to stress, hormonal changes, emotional disconnection, or simply being too tired to get frisky at the end of a long day (pro tip: sex does not have to happen at bed time!). Luckily, it doesn't matter how often you're "doing it" — what matters is that you and your partner know how to navigate periods of low sex drive while keeping your relationship healthy and strong. It's totally possible, and this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast will show you the way...
2023-10-1055 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#369 - How to Talk to Your Partner about Couples CounselingIs it time to have “The Talk?” Getting into couples counseling may be the best choice you ever make for your relationship… but first, you have to talk to your partner about going to couples counseling, and that can be tricky. This podcast is about how you can approach this conversation in a way that gives you the best shot at getting your relationship the help it needs. I hope you’ll join me! With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com
2023-10-031h 02Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#368 - Post-Traumatic GrowthPost traumatic growth is a real phenomenon. After traumatic things happen to us, we don’t stay broken forever. We learn and grow from our most difficult experiences and use them to live more meaningful lives. But all of that can feel out of reach when you’re in the depths of a traumatic loss. This episode will help you begin to move in the direction of growth and healing, so you can reap the benefits of post traumatic growth. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com
2023-09-2643 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#367 - Tools for Surviving InfidelityYou know that infidelity is survivable… but it doesn’t always feel that way when it’s happening to you. Being cheated on by someone you love and trust is a profoundly painful experience. You need some practical tools to process what happened, heal your heart, and begin moving forward again. This episode is about the tools that will help you survive infidelity and come out the other side stronger than before. I hope you’ll join me. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com
2023-09-191h 01Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#366 - How to Connect with an Emotionally Unavailable PartnerWhen you feel like you can’t connect deeply with someone you love, it’s painful. It’s common for people in relationships with emotionally unavailable partners to blame themselves, and believe that if they could just be perfect enough, then their emotionally unavailable partner would magically become responsive and available for the kind of relationship that they want to have. This mindset makes you feel bad about yourself, and unfortunately, it can push your emotionally unavailable partner even further away. So what should you do? That’s what we’re exploring on this episode of the podcast. I hope it helps yo...
2023-09-1247 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#365 - Setting Boundaries at WorkWhen you struggle to set boundaries at work, it doesn’t just intrude on your personal life, it makes it harder for you to achieve your vision of career success. Learn how to set healthy limits with coworkers, achieve work-life balance, and deal with a boss that doesn’t respect your boundaries. All of that and more on this episode of the podcast. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com
2023-09-0558 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#364 - How to Let Go of the PastDo you feel haunted by the past? Whether you’re struggling with regret, anger, or grief, having unfinished business with the past can keep you feeling stuck. But you can let go of the past and begin moving forward, and this episode will show you how. I hope you join me for this one, all about how to let go of the past and start looking forward. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com
2023-08-2958 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#363 - Why We Fall Out of Love (and What to Do About It)Long term relationships can get a little stale when you don’t know how to keep love alive over the long haul. It’s very common for couples to believe they’ve fallen out of love when this happens. But a stronger, more fulfilling relationship is possible, and on this episode of the podcast, I’m going to tell you how. I hope it gives you hope for your relationship and guidance on how to bridge the gap so you can feel in love with your partner again. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com
2023-08-2254 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#362 - Navigating Pregnancy as a TeamSmart couples recognize that pregnancy is more than a growing-a-baby waiting game. It is a prime opportunity to work through important relationship issues and strengthen your relationship. Having a baby can feel like it’s the Pregnant Lady Show, rather than an experience that you and your partner are working through together. But the journey of pregnancy, and the challenges it offers, are opportunities for growth — for both of you. Using these moments during pregnancy will help you know how to work as a team, improve your communication, increase your emotional intimacy, support your emotional wellbeing, and lay the foundation for t...
2023-08-151h 00Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#361 - Avoid the Communication Killer: Negative Sentiment OverrideThere’s a sneaky relationship killer lurking in your communication… but you’ve probably never heard of it. Negative sentiment override happens when you get into the habit of reacting negatively to your partner because of bad past experiences, even when it’s not really called for in the present. It makes it hard to let go of the past and make positive changes for the future, and it can keep you feeling bogged down in unsatisfying relationship patterns. In this episode, I’m teaching you what negative sentiment override is, why it happens, and how you can break the cycle for a...
2023-08-0843 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#360 - How to Deal with Difficult CoworkersYou know that coworker who drives you nuts? Whether you’re dealing with a controlling coworker, a deadweight, or a bully, difficult people in the workplace can drag down your job satisfaction and performance. So what can you do? This episode is all about how you can deal with the difficult coworker in your life and continue to succeed at work, no matter what. I hope you’ll tune in! Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com
2023-08-0155 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#359 - Why You Miss Your Ex (and What to Do About It)If you’re going through a breakup, you know that missing your Ex is one of the toughest parts of the heartbreak experience. Even if you know the relationship is ultimately not right for you, it’s normal to look back on the happy memories and feel sad that your Ex can no longer be in your life. You might even question whether breaking up was the right choice, or if you should reach out and try to be friends. This episode will help you understand why you miss your Ex, what it means, and how you can transform those diff...
2023-07-2559 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#358 - Communication Skills: Reacting Versus RespondingWe've all been there: Your partner says something that just inflames you, and you say something you regret later. Or you instinctively defend yourself and withdraw when things get tense, rather than leaning into a healthy and productive courageous conversation. We all know that being able to react vs. respond is a cornerstone of emotional intelligence, and healthy relationships. But that can be easier said than done in the middle of a heated conflict. When you’re frustrated, hurt, or stressed, you might raise your voice, say something you don’t mean, or make an impulsive decision with long-lasting consequences. All of...
2023-07-1851 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#357 - Are You In an Emotionally Enmeshed Relationship?If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner, or work WAY harder than you should to make sure they're comfy (often at the expense of your own needs), my friend, you may be in an emotionally enmeshed relationship. In fact, over many years of experience as a couples counselor and relationship coach, I've often found that the true underlying issue behind many relationship conflicts is due to emotional enmeshment and it's sister, codependence. This creates resentment, reactivity, pursuit/withdrawal dynamics and more. Good relationships require individuation, and a healthy self awareness of personal responsibility and he...
2023-07-1140 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#356 - Power Struggles In RelationshipsDo you feel like you and your partner get stuck in a power struggle where you feel one way, they feel another, and you just cannot compromise? Today's episode brings real-world relationship advice to help you communicate differently, so that you can break through the gridlock and get back on the same page. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com
2023-07-0441 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#355 - Betrayal Trauma RecoveryWhen someone we love, trust, and rely on betrays us, it creates a deep, painful wound that doesn’t always heal on its own. As a couples therapist who often works with people around heartbreak recovery after a bad breakup or divorce, and helping couples heal after infidelity, and even in my work as a dating coach, I know that betrayal trauma, or “relationship trauma,” is real, and it can linger on for months or even years without the right care, just like other kinds of trauma. Even though relationship trauma is very common, it isn’t always recognized by our cultu...
2023-06-2754 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#354 - How to Make a Career Transition Making a career transition can be a daunting task, especially if you’ve spent years building your expertise in a particular field only to discover you don’t love your work. How can you know what career would actually feel more satisfying? If you already know where you'd like to go, how can you begin getting there? If you are ready for a career change, this episode will give you some pointers on where to begin. It’s a conversation between myself and my colleague Susan H., M.A., LPCC, a career counselor, coach, and professional development expert on our team at...
2023-06-2057 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#353 - 7 Things that Will Sabotage Couples CounselingGetting into couples counseling is a fantastic idea... but you have to know how to engage with the process in order to have a good experience. Unfortunately, it's very easy to make one or more of the super common mistakes that can sabotage couples counseling. I hope this episode helps you avoid that outcome, and get the help for your relationship you need and deserve. My guest is Jenna P., a marriage counselor and relationship coach on our team at Growing Self. She’s sharing her perspective on the seven things that can sabotage couples counseling, and how to have an...
2023-06-131h 00Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#352 - How to Help Someone Get HelpWondering how you can help someone get help? You have the power to have a positive impact on the lives of the people you care about, and this episode will show you how. We all will be a concerned friend or family member at some point in our lives. And while none of us has the power to rescue others, fight their battles, or override their choices, we do have an important role to play in the lives of the people we care about: holding up a mirror that reflects what we see, with compassion and honesty. That is how...
2023-06-061h 03Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#351 - Why You Need a Professional Development PlanMany people who are unhappy with their working lives are looking for answers. They see other people getting ahead and loving their work, and they wonder why they feel so stuck and unsatisfied. I can tell you that the missing ingredient is never some mysterious quality that makes some people shinier and more successful than others — although I know it can look that way from the outside. More often, the difference is pretty basic: Some people are skilled at professional development planning, and others aren’t yet. In general, most of us don’t spend enough time planning our lives. We’re t...
2023-05-301h 00Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#350 - How to Deal with RegretKnowing how to deal with regret helps you build a life that is authentic, ethical, and meaningful. Without regret, you wouldn’t have good information about who you are, what you need, and where you have opportunities to grow. But if you don’t know how to deal with regret in a healthy way, it’s easy to become trapped in a vortex of guilt and shame that makes you feel hopeless, defeated, or irredeemably flawed. But it’s possible to create something positive out of regret, by transforming it into an opportunity to grow and evolve. This episode of the podca...
2023-05-231h 02Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#349 - Signs Your Relationship Is FailingWas that just a nasty fight? Or a sign that your relationship is failing? As a longtime marriage counselor, I know that it can be hard to spot the difference. Some forms of conflict are healthy and even beneficial for relationships, while others are a signal that your emotional bond is on the rocks. You can prevent a breakup or divorce and keep your connection healthy and strong by learning what a failing relationship really looks like — and what you should be doing right now if your relationship is in trouble. I hope this episode arms you with all the info...
2023-05-1658 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#348 - How to Love YourselfWe all hear “you have to love yourself first.” But what if you don't know how to love yourself? This episode is all about authentic self love: What it really means, why having compassion and care for yourself matters so much, and how to love yourself even if (and especially if) you don't always feel like it. You are worthy of love and respect, and today's podcast will help you build your relationship... with yourself. With love and gratitude for the gift that is YOU, xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com P.S. — For even more support in creating a health...
2023-05-091h 07Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#347 - How to Get ClosureAny kind of loss hurts, but the pain is prolonged when you don't know how to get closure and move forward. Unfortunately, closure isn’t something that anyone else can give to you. It’s also not something that just happens. It's an active process that creates healing, and restores your wellbeing. On this episode of the podcast, I’m talking about how you can do that. No matter what kind of loss you're currently dealing with, I hope the ideas I'm sharing today help you take the next step on your journey of healing. You deserve that. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Ma...
2023-05-0259 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#346 - How to Deal with a Defensive PartnerThere are few things more frustrating than trying to figure out how to deal with a defensive partner. You just want them to understand how you feel and what you need, but they’re too busy defending themselves to truly listen. Unfortunately, defensive reactions can make it difficult to have constructive conversations. Without good communication, the systems for resolving problems in relationships begin to break down — and that’s when your relationship gets in serious trouble. The good news: There are so many actionable strategies that work to create positive change in this dynamic. With new skills and a different perspec...
2023-04-251h 03Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#345 - Gretchen Rubin On How to Be More PresentIf you’re like most people, you're so often in your head that you feel disconnected from your life. When our minds are racing, or we're constantly distracted by, well, everything, we miss out on the best parts of our life, and our relationships. But: you can learn how to be more present, and it doesn't involve an hour a day on a meditation pillow. In fact, your senses are powerful tools for returning to the present moment and appreciating it fully, and this episode is all about how to use them. My guest is Gretchen Rubin, the author of se...
2023-04-181h 02Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#344 - How to Stop Caring what People ThinkWouldn’t it be cool if you could just stop caring what people think? Imagine how confident you would feel if criticism bounced off your psyche like pebbles off a suit of armor. Imagine all the mental and emotional energy you could free up if other people’s opinions stopped taking up space in your head. The fear of judgment or rejection would no longer be a concern for you. You’d be an unstoppable force, ready to conquer the world! Of course, not caring at all about other people’s thoughts isn’t a goal you’re likely to achieve. And you...
2023-04-1056 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#343 - When Anxious Meets AvoidantWhy are people with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles drawn to each other? Can anxious-avoidant relationships work, and most importantly, can they be healthy and satisfying? Yes, they can. But the key is through your understanding of yourself, and of your partner. When you develop true understanding and empathy for your differences, you can create profound connection, and a genuinely secure and healing relationship for both of you. This episode is going to show you how. If you’re in an anxious-avoidant relationship, or have been in one before, I hope it helps you understand these dynamics from a ne...
2023-04-0357 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#342 - How to Be More ResilientDo you ever wonder why some people bounce back quickly from anything life throws at them, while others struggle mightily to get back to baseline, even after minor setbacks? The difference is resilience. Today, you'll learn about the nature of resilience, and how you can build the “protective factors” into your life that will help you manage stress, recover from difficult experiences, and adapt to change — so you can thrive no matter what life throws at you. Here's to growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com P.S. — I have a library of free content available for you on becoming more resi...
2023-03-2754 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#341 - Cultivating Emotionally Healthy SpiritualityMany people find meaning, comfort, and connection through religion or a spiritual practice. But it’s also not uncommon to have negative religious experiences that can complicate your relationship with spirituality. As kids, we all need to be encouraged and affirmed as we explore our identities and develop into our true selves. Unfortunately, many of us are subjected to guilt, shame, and pressure to conform with belief systems that aren’t authentically ours. Some children receive the message that if they think or act in ways that don’t match up with these belief systems, they’re bad people, unworthy of love wi...
2023-03-2047 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#340 - Turn Conflict Avoidance Into Courageous ConversationsDo you feel like your partner shuts you down or tells you whatever you want to hear in order to stop a conversation that makes them feel [anxious / tense / criticized / fill in the blank] even though that is not your intention? Or do you get emotionally flooded even *thinking* about having an honest conversation about something that is really bothering you because you worry will lead to upset feelings? My friend: No matter what side of this you're on, this episode is for you! If you or your partner have a tendency to avoid conflict in your relationship, this episode wil...
2023-03-131h 01Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#339 - Am I Ready For a Baby?Having a child is one of the coolest, most meaningful experiences a human being can have. It’s also a mind-blowingly huge responsibility. How can you decide if you want to become a parent? And if that is your heart’s desire, how can you know when you’re ready for a baby? As a longtime marriage and family therapist, I know that many individuals and couples can remain stuck at this particular crossroads for years. It’s one thing to want a baby, but getting all of the pieces in order to make that dream a reality can be complicate...
2023-03-0743 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#338 - How to Get Through to Your Partner“My husband doesn’t listen to me. He just tells me whatever he thinks I want to hear so that I’ll go away and leave him alone.” “I’m sick of not being heard in my relationship. Whenever I try to have a conversation about a problem we’re having, she just waits until it’s her turn to talk so she can tell me I’m wrong.” I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard complaints like these from new arrivals to couples counseling. It’s no secret that “listening to each other” is a vital skill for healthy relations...
2023-02-2857 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#337 - Cold Feet Before the Wedding? Here’s How to DealYou’ve hired the caterer, booked the venue, and spent hours curating a playlist that is danceable and family friendly, while also conveying the story of your love. You think you should be feeling excited for your wedding — you love your partner deeply and this is supposed to be the best day of your life! But instead you’re feeling a little bit nauseous, and considering possible escape routes à la Julia Roberts in “Runaway Bride.” If this is sounding familiar, then you my friend have a case of cold feet before the wedding. It’s a common occurrence, and something that premarital...
2023-02-2151 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#336 - Addicted to a Toxic RelationshipToxic relationships are more than unhealthy. They can be an addiction. During the early stages of romantic love, our brains light up with flashes of ecstasy and excitement. The same chemical reward systems that are implicated in a cocaine habit also get us “addicted” to romantic partners, even when they’re inconsistent, unavailable, or downright destructive to our wellbeing. Unfortunately, toxic relationships can be even more addictive than healthy relationships. Being in a toxic relationship feels like swinging wildly between anxiety and relief, and living for honeymoon periods that feel even more blissful because of all the terrible things that are happen...
2023-02-1459 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#335 - How to Be Single and HappyDo you believe being single is a bad thing? Or that it’s a problem that needs to be resolved as quickly as possible? I hope your reflexive answer to these questions is “absolutely not!” But, even if you’re not aware of it, you may have echoes of these cultural attitudes boomeranging around your brain, and they can make it hard for you to feel fulfilled and happy outside of a committed relationship. Now, don’t get me wrong — I think loving relationships are absolutely fabulous. In fact, I’ve devoted my life to helping people create and maintain healthy relationsh...
2023-02-0750 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#334 - Megan Hyatt Miller on Changing Your MindsetWhat is the greatest obstacle standing between you and the things you want in life? It’s easy to believe it’s bad luck, or some personal failing, or simply the hand you were dealt at birth. But in my experience helping people overcome their personal barriers in therapy and coaching, I’ve found there’s a culprit that’s much more common, though harder to detect: your mindset. Your mindset is like the lens you look through to view the world. While it’s invisible to you, it has a big impact on what you expect from life, how you respond to...
2023-01-3159 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#333 - Becoming Emotionally MatureYour body has changed radically since the day you were born, and your mind is continually growing and changing based on your experiences. But what about your emotional world? What does it mean to become emotionally mature, and how can you build your emotional maturity? Unlike gray hairs and forehead wrinkles, emotional maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age. It’s something we have to cultivate with intention by building our self-awareness, empathy, and understanding. It’s not always easy work (in fact, our most difficult experiences are the ones that spur the greatest emotional growth), but the benefits are endless...
2023-01-2453 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#332 - How Do People See YouHave you ever been told that “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it?” As maddening as this can be to hear (especially if it’s lobbed at you in the middle of a disagreement), it’s also true: The way we deliver a message impacts the way it’s received just as much as the message itself. In fact, most of what we communicate to the people around us is not in the form of words. We are all constantly communicating through subtle cues that we give off unintentionally, running each other’s messages through the filter...
2023-01-171h 04Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#331 - How to Stop Emotional InvalidationFeeling invalidated is at the core of communication issues. When couples fight, they're usually fighting to be heard. Feeling shut down, or bulldozed by your partner is not just frustrating — if it happens routinely it can damage your relationship. Today, learn why emotional invalidation happens and what you can do to stop it. By the end of the episode, you’ll have some actionable takeaways to help you feel heard, valued, and understood. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com
2023-01-101h 05Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#330 - Achieving Your Couple GoalsWhat goals do you have for your relationship? If an answer immediately sprang to your mind, that’s fantastic. You already know what you’d like to work on with your partner, and doing that work together will help you create a stronger, happier, and more sustainable relationship. But if you’re like most people, you might not have clear “couple goals” that you’re working toward. Even if you’re someone who sets goals for your career, your finances, and even your hobbies, you may not yet think about your relationship as an area where you can build skills, develop yourself...
2023-01-0349 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#329 - Cultivating ContentmentWouldn't it be amazing if you just felt genuinely happy with yourself, and your life, and like things were just the way they should be? Contentment is more than a mood state; it’s a mindset you can cultivate. It encompasses happy feelings, but also appreciation, gratitude, satisfaction, and peace. While happiness always wants more, contentment takes pleasure in what is. If contentment had a mantra it would be this: All is well in my world and I am so grateful to be exactly where I am. While that is truly what we all want, it can also feel anxiety pro...
2022-12-2758 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#328 - How to Feel Your FeelingsYou know that it's important to stay in touch with your self by tuning into your feelings, but how? And, which ones? Knowing how to tap into your emotions in healthy ways puts you in touch with your values, it provides empathy for others, and it helps you know who you are, what you want, and how to show up for others. Unfortunately, most of us don’t receive much help building these skills and the result is often that we feel overwhelmed by confusing feelings... or don't feel much at all. I hope this episode of the podcast helps yo...
2022-12-201h 04Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#327 - How to Make a Hard DecisionHow can you make a hard decision when you have no idea what the future holds? Should you quit your job? Cut off contact with your difficult friend? Buy the condo, or the house? Marry your partner? Dump your partner? These are all complex questions with many variables, and it can feel incredibly confusing to weigh the pros and cons of each — particularly when you know that the decision may have a big impact on your life trajectory. Help is here. This episode of the podcast will teach you how to make hard decisions using your internal wisdom, and the incomp...
2022-12-1357 minLove, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby#326 - How to Be a Good BossIf you’re a hardworking, talented, and career-driven person, you probably aspire to be a leader some day. It’s easy to understand why. “Being a boss” can feel like a natural next step after years or even decades of hard work and professional achievement. But being a good boss requires a number of skills that are separate from the ones that probably got you promoted. When you become a leader, your talents for writing code, or planning weddings, or stamping out widgets at the widget factory become insignificant overnight, and your career success begins to depend instead on how well you c...
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