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When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 80 Sara Easterly: Co-Author of Adoption Unfiltered & founder of Adoptee Voices Today we have an adoptee who was a guest on episode 50 where we discussed the dangers of calling adoption a blessing. Sara Easterly is an adoptee, essayist, and author of books that include Adoption Unfiltered: Revelations from Adoptees, Birth Parents, Adoptive Parents, and Allies, and award-winning spiritual memoir, Searching for Mom. She is the founder of Adoptee Voices, which supports adoptees in their storytelling. She is also a trained course facilitator with the Neufeld Institute, with special interest in the intersection of attachment, child development, brain science, and adoption.We discuss:Check in on...2025-03-0236 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 79 Rae "Adoptee Reclaimed" & 5 Tips For a Better LifeHi again! The idea of adoptees reclaiming themselves have perplexed certain people for awhile now. If you aren’t adopted or haven’t had an in-depth conversation with someone who is adopted you might wonder “What do they need to reclaim?” Today’s guest is Rae from Adoptee Reclaimed. Rae is trauma-informed and versed in child development, brain-body integration, and addiction and abuse recovery coaching. Rae borrows somatic methods and Internal Family Systems which she customizes for adoptees. I stumbled across Rae from her Poetry contest.We discuss:Using our voice in a Poetic formWhy I’v...2025-02-2242 min
Hairitage TalksHairitage Talks S2 Ep 3: Black History, Identity, and the Transracial Adoption ExperienceIt’s Black History Month! In this episode, Tamekia Swint talks with Lanise Antoine Shelley, a transracial adoptee, about her experience with Black History, her connection to it, and the development of identity growing up!2025-02-1251 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 78 Eunnuri Lee: The power of content creating & Operation Olive BranchHappy New Year! This conversation is a great inspiration for this next chapter. Eunnuri Lee is a Korean-American activist, visual artist, and adoptee who I stumbled across on Tik Tok. I was instantly intrigued by her multidimensional content, her whimsical makeup and Megan thee Stallion commentary. And the fact that she is an adoptee as well was sprinkles on the top. This conversation covers just about everything. We discuss the importance of sex education and her partners app that he’s developing around conscious coupling.We talk about: Eunnuri's visual artworkWhy transparency aroun...2025-01-1155 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 77 Shania Ives : The Dunbar Project & Family PreservationHey there, love! Today we have Shania Ives as a guest! Shania is an adult adoptee from the UK, the Founding Director of The Dunbar Project, and a trainee integrative psychotherapist. Her mission is to create spaces for empowerment and growth within marginalized communities.Shania is the very first adoptee I’ve met whose adoptive parents strove to preserve Shania’s connection with her biological family. The story on how her Adoptive parents understood and organized themselves around her trauma is breathtaking. We discuss:The atmosphere of adoption in the UKShania's biological father’s struggle...2024-12-2256 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 76 Becca Flatt: An Expert on Estrangement & What is Forced EmpathyToday I chat with Becca Flatt, who is a therapist and advocate specializing in adoption-related trauma, grief, and estrangement. A queer, Black, interracial biracial adoptee, she provides therapy exclusively for adoptees and consultations for both adoptees and adoptive parents. Becca facilitates an estrangement support group for adoptees with Adoption Mosaic and teaches an estrangement course for adoptive parents, helping clients navigate relational challenges with compassion, boundaries, and clarity.We discuss:-How she found the balance between accountability and understanding. - How she defines what “Forced Empathy” looks like-What accountability looks like when...2024-12-081h 20When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 75 SOLO 3 Things to help close out the year!Hey, loves! Today I give you three actionables (including a book) that will shift the way you react to people and the situations around you. As well as a tip to release expectations. The holiday season can be disappointing with unmet expectations, I think I know something that will help :)BOOK: Addicted to Drama by Dr. Scott Lyons Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees...2024-12-0119 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEpisode 74. Tara Nolan: Adoptees Born in China Podcast & The Chinese adoption lawsToday I sit with Tara Nolan who is the co-hosts of the podcast (ABC) Adoptees Born in China show, where adoptees from China can listen to and share their adoption stories. This is a deeply thought provoking conversation around the Chinese laws to abolish international adoption and the emotional outcry of the Chinese adoptees who are the last adoptees from that region of the world. We discuss:- Art and its impact on our lives - The timeline of Chinese laws from the 1982 one child Nation Mandate- Tara's insights on the change in...2024-11-231h 17When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 73 Ryan Jafar Artes: Afrofuturism and how to be walking poetryToday I have the pleasure of chatting with Ryan Jafar Artes, the host of adoptee Open Mic Tuesday zoom events and an award winning poet. We discuss: The act of Reparenting ourselvesAnd how through the clear lens of sobriety, Ryan chose the community that poured into him. We touch on the imperative of supporting younger generations of adoptees, Afrofuturism and endofuturism that has inspired a more authentic existence where we can make mistakes and explore numerous outcomes. And we talk about what communities make us feel safe. Ryan also teaches us how to put our stories down with each...2024-11-161h 08When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp 72. SOLO: Election, Estrangement, Project 2025 & Now what?Hi friends, It's been a ruthless week but I'm here for you. Today I dive into the 5 things I've learned the past year on hiatus. Please note that I speak about my suicide ideations, mental health as well as mention the convictions of our president elect. I'll leave you with some nuggets of hope though. Sending you grace. Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: B...2024-11-1029 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 71 Gretchen Sisson: Relinquished: The politics of Adoption and the privilege of American MotherhoodToday I have the pleasure of chatting with Dr. Gretchen Sisson about her critically acclaimed book "Relinquished: The Politics of Adoption and the Privilege of American Motherhood." Gretchen is a sociologist with Advancing New Standards in Reproductive Health at the University of California, San Francisco, where she studies adoption and abortion. We discuss:-How national crisis create opportunities for adoption -The views of white mothers on relinquishing their biracial children to white adopters-The laws behind kinship care and valuing children staying in their original culture -The definition of tra...2024-11-021h 22When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 70 Adoptees are the heroes of their own stories (Bonus episode)I was a guest on the podcast Adoption: The Long View, hosted by Lori Holden. In this episode I am interviewed by Lori who asks the vital question "How can adoptees be the hero of their own stories?" Because that is what I believe we should be. Lori is one of the co-writers for the book, "Adoption Unfiltered: Revelations by Adoptees, Birth parents, and Adoptive parents." The following is what we talk about. Disclaimer: This listen is for adults only. 00:00 Intro00:47 Video greeting from Lanise11: 01 Interview with Lori Holden begins11:59 Lanise starts her adoption...2024-09-081h 12
Adoption: The Long View Podcast508: Lanise Antoine Shelley on Centering the Adoptee In Their StoryA story looks different depending on who is telling it. This is why, as the very first tellers of our child's adoption story, adoptive parents need to be mindful of the role we cast ourselves in and what is left for the adoptee. Lanise Antoine Shelley, actress and adoptee activist, shares how (and why) to center the adoptee as the hero of their own story.2024-09-0637 minAdoption: The Long View Podcast508: Lanise Antoine Shelley on Centering the Adoptee In Their StoryA story looks different depending on who is telling it. This is why, as the very first tellers of our child's adoption story, adoptive parents need to be mindful of the role we cast ourselves in and what is left for the adoptee. Lanise Antoine Shelley, actress and adoptee activist, shares how (and why) to center the adoptee as the hero of their own story.2024-09-0637 minAdoption: The Long View508: Lanise Antoine Shelley on Centering the Adoptee In Their StoryBestselling author Robyn Gobbel shares insights in dealing with big baffling behaviors. How to provide connection and felt-safety? Tune in!2024-09-0637 min
Black Adoptees IdentitiesBlack Adoptees Identities - Episode 17 - Lanise Antoine ShelleyIn this episode Christelle Pellecuer is in conversation with Lanise Antoine-Shelley, an Haitian born interracial adoptee. Lanise shared her experience of coming out of the fog and the impact of adoption on her identity. They discussed grief, adopters narrative about adoption and impact of suppressing emotions for long time. Lanise also talked about her podcast “When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees”, her creative work and her inner work.
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Adoptees OnLanise Antoine Shelley261 | Lanise Antoine Shelley Today’s guest is actor, director, playwright and podcaster, Lanise Antoine Shelley. Lanise shares about being adopted from a Haitian orphanage at age 4 by her single white adoptive mother and how exploring the impact of adoption over the last three years has challenged her connections with her adoptive family. Lanise also tells us about when she realized that her removal from Haiti left a huge hole for her entire biological family that was left behind, including her mother and father. Full Show Notes Here This podcast is f...2023-10-0650 min
Unraveling AdoptionHow to Be an Anti-Racist in Adoptive Families with Lanise Antoine Shelley - Ep 102How To Be an Anti-Racist in Adoptive Families with Lanise Antoine Shelley "It's vital to feel a sense of connectivity to your name, to your environment, and to the people that you choose to love." - Lanise Antoine Shelley If you're an adoptee who's feeling a constant sense of disconnection and confusion as you try to fit into a world that doesn't fully understand or appreciate your unique transracial adoptee experience, then you are not alone! Many adoptees may find themselves struggling to navigate their identity, grasping at societal norms and expectations that do not align with...2023-07-1750 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 69 SOLO: The Attachment StylesToday we talk about the science of attachment styles inspired by the book "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller. This book has revolutionized how I approach all of my relationships. These are my reasons why you should read this book and how I now use it to healthfully allow people to be as they are. REFERENCES:Attached written by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller Disordered Attachment Article Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE H...2023-07-0924 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 68 Shelby Redfield Kilgore: Behind the LensToday our guest is Shelby Redfield Kilgore who is a two time Emmy award-winning filmmaker and author of the blog, “Behind the Lens” and also co-writer of the book “Rooted in Adoption: A Collection of Adoptee Reflections”.Today's topics:Her filmmaking and how she found her artistic voiceHow the stories she collects have informed her own adoption journeyThe societal pressures of single mothers in Korea and The resentment that surfaced toward her culture because of what happened to her mother.The imperative of adoptive parent’s get thorough education before adoptingAnd her courage through her Breast cancer jou...2023-06-2544 min