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When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 80 Sara Easterly: Co-Author of Adoption Unfiltered & founder of Adoptee Voices Today we have an adoptee who was a guest on episode 50 where we discussed the dangers of calling adoption a blessing. Sara Easterly is an adoptee, essayist, and author of books that include Adoption Unfiltered: Revelations from Adoptees, Birth Parents, Adoptive Parents, and Allies, and award-winning spiritual memoir, Searching for Mom. She is the founder of Adoptee Voices, which supports adoptees in their storytelling. She is also a trained course facilitator with the Neufeld Institute, with special interest in the intersection of attachment, child development, brain science, and adoption.We discuss:Check in on...
2025-03-0236 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 79 Rae "Adoptee Reclaimed" & 5 Tips For a Better LifeHi again! The idea of adoptees reclaiming themselves have perplexed certain people for awhile now. If you aren’t adopted or haven’t had an in-depth conversation with someone who is adopted you might wonder “What do they need to reclaim?” Today’s guest is Rae from Adoptee Reclaimed. Rae is trauma-informed and versed in child development, brain-body integration, and addiction and abuse recovery coaching. Rae borrows somatic methods and Internal Family Systems which she customizes for adoptees. I stumbled across Rae from her Poetry contest.We discuss:Using our voice in a Poetic formWhy I’v...
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Hairitage TalksHairitage Talks S2 Ep 3: Black History, Identity, and the Transracial Adoption ExperienceIt’s Black History Month! In this episode, Tamekia Swint talks with Lanise Antoine Shelley, a transracial adoptee, about her experience with Black History, her connection to it, and the development of identity growing up!
2025-02-1251 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 78 Eunnuri Lee: The power of content creating & Operation Olive BranchHappy New Year! This conversation is a great inspiration for this next chapter. Eunnuri Lee is a Korean-American activist, visual artist, and adoptee who I stumbled across on Tik Tok. I was instantly intrigued by her multidimensional content, her whimsical makeup and Megan thee Stallion commentary. And the fact that she is an adoptee as well was sprinkles on the top. This conversation covers just about everything. We discuss the importance of sex education and her partners app that he’s developing around conscious coupling.We talk about: Eunnuri's visual artworkWhy transparency aroun...
2025-01-1155 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 77 Shania Ives : The Dunbar Project & Family PreservationHey there, love! Today we have Shania Ives as a guest! Shania is an adult adoptee from the UK, the Founding Director of The Dunbar Project, and a trainee integrative psychotherapist. Her mission is to create spaces for empowerment and growth within marginalized communities.Shania is the very first adoptee I’ve met whose adoptive parents strove to preserve Shania’s connection with her biological family. The story on how her Adoptive parents understood and organized themselves around her trauma is breathtaking. We discuss:The atmosphere of adoption in the UKShania's biological father’s struggle...
2024-12-2256 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 76 Becca Flatt: An Expert on Estrangement & What is Forced EmpathyToday I chat with Becca Flatt, who is a therapist and advocate specializing in adoption-related trauma, grief, and estrangement. A queer, Black, interracial biracial adoptee, she provides therapy exclusively for adoptees and consultations for both adoptees and adoptive parents. Becca facilitates an estrangement support group for adoptees with Adoption Mosaic and teaches an estrangement course for adoptive parents, helping clients navigate relational challenges with compassion, boundaries, and clarity.We discuss:-How she found the balance between accountability and understanding. - How she defines what “Forced Empathy” looks like-What accountability looks like when...
2024-12-081h 20When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 75 SOLO 3 Things to help close out the year!Hey, loves! Today I give you three actionables (including a book) that will shift the way you react to people and the situations around you. As well as a tip to release expectations. The holiday season can be disappointing with unmet expectations, I think I know something that will help :)BOOK: Addicted to Drama by Dr. Scott Lyons Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees...
2024-12-0119 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEpisode 74. Tara Nolan: Adoptees Born in China Podcast & The Chinese adoption lawsToday I sit with Tara Nolan who is the co-hosts of the podcast (ABC) Adoptees Born in China show, where adoptees from China can listen to and share their adoption stories. This is a deeply thought provoking conversation around the Chinese laws to abolish international adoption and the emotional outcry of the Chinese adoptees who are the last adoptees from that region of the world. We discuss:- Art and its impact on our lives - The timeline of Chinese laws from the 1982 one child Nation Mandate- Tara's insights on the change in...
2024-11-231h 17When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 73 Ryan Jafar Artes: Afrofuturism and how to be walking poetryToday I have the pleasure of chatting with Ryan Jafar Artes, the host of adoptee Open Mic Tuesday zoom events and an award winning poet. We discuss: The act of Reparenting ourselvesAnd how through the clear lens of sobriety, Ryan chose the community that poured into him. We touch on the imperative of supporting younger generations of adoptees, Afrofuturism and endofuturism that has inspired a more authentic existence where we can make mistakes and explore numerous outcomes. And we talk about what communities make us feel safe. Ryan also teaches us how to put our stories down with each...
2024-11-161h 08When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp 72. SOLO: Election, Estrangement, Project 2025 & Now what?Hi friends, It's been a ruthless week but I'm here for you. Today I dive into the 5 things I've learned the past year on hiatus. Please note that I speak about my suicide ideations, mental health as well as mention the convictions of our president elect. I'll leave you with some nuggets of hope though. Sending you grace. Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: B...
2024-11-1029 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 71 Gretchen Sisson: Relinquished: The politics of Adoption and the privilege of American MotherhoodToday I have the pleasure of chatting with Dr. Gretchen Sisson about her critically acclaimed book "Relinquished: The Politics of Adoption and the Privilege of American Motherhood." Gretchen is a sociologist with Advancing New Standards in Reproductive Health at the University of California, San Francisco, where she studies adoption and abortion. We discuss:-How national crisis create opportunities for adoption -The views of white mothers on relinquishing their biracial children to white adopters-The laws behind kinship care and valuing children staying in their original culture -The definition of tra...
2024-11-021h 22When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 70 Adoptees are the heroes of their own stories (Bonus episode)I was a guest on the podcast Adoption: The Long View, hosted by Lori Holden. In this episode I am interviewed by Lori who asks the vital question "How can adoptees be the hero of their own stories?" Because that is what I believe we should be. Lori is one of the co-writers for the book, "Adoption Unfiltered: Revelations by Adoptees, Birth parents, and Adoptive parents." The following is what we talk about. Disclaimer: This listen is for adults only. 00:00 Intro00:47 Video greeting from Lanise11: 01 Interview with Lori Holden begins11:59 Lanise starts her adoption...
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Adoption: The Long View Podcast508: Lanise Antoine Shelley on Centering the Adoptee In Their StoryA story looks different depending on who is telling it. This is why, as the very first tellers of our child's adoption story, adoptive parents need to be mindful of the role we cast ourselves in and what is left for the adoptee. Lanise Antoine Shelley, actress and adoptee activist, shares how (and why) to center the adoptee as the hero of their own story.
2024-09-0637 minAdoption: The Long View Podcast508: Lanise Antoine Shelley on Centering the Adoptee In Their StoryA story looks different depending on who is telling it. This is why, as the very first tellers of our child's adoption story, adoptive parents need to be mindful of the role we cast ourselves in and what is left for the adoptee. Lanise Antoine Shelley, actress and adoptee activist, shares how (and why) to center the adoptee as the hero of their own story.
2024-09-0637 minAdoption: The Long View508: Lanise Antoine Shelley on Centering the Adoptee In Their StoryBestselling author Robyn Gobbel shares insights in dealing with big baffling behaviors. How to provide connection and felt-safety? Tune in!
2024-09-0637 min
Black Adoptees IdentitiesBlack Adoptees Identities - Episode 17 - Lanise Antoine ShelleyIn this episode Christelle Pellecuer is in conversation with Lanise Antoine-Shelley, an Haitian born interracial adoptee. Lanise shared her experience of coming out of the fog and the impact of adoption on her identity. They discussed grief, adopters narrative about adoption and impact of suppressing emotions for long time. Lanise also talked about her podcast “When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees”, her creative work and her inner work.
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2024-01-1650 min
Adoptees OnLanise Antoine Shelley261 | Lanise Antoine Shelley Today’s guest is actor, director, playwright and podcaster, Lanise Antoine Shelley. Lanise shares about being adopted from a Haitian orphanage at age 4 by her single white adoptive mother and how exploring the impact of adoption over the last three years has challenged her connections with her adoptive family. Lanise also tells us about when she realized that her removal from Haiti left a huge hole for her entire biological family that was left behind, including her mother and father. Full Show Notes Here This podcast is f...
2023-10-0650 min
Unraveling AdoptionHow to Be an Anti-Racist in Adoptive Families with Lanise Antoine Shelley - Ep 102How To Be an Anti-Racist in Adoptive Families with Lanise Antoine Shelley "It's vital to feel a sense of connectivity to your name, to your environment, and to the people that you choose to love." - Lanise Antoine Shelley If you're an adoptee who's feeling a constant sense of disconnection and confusion as you try to fit into a world that doesn't fully understand or appreciate your unique transracial adoptee experience, then you are not alone! Many adoptees may find themselves struggling to navigate their identity, grasping at societal norms and expectations that do not align with...
2023-07-1750 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 69 SOLO: The Attachment StylesToday we talk about the science of attachment styles inspired by the book "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller. This book has revolutionized how I approach all of my relationships. These are my reasons why you should read this book and how I now use it to healthfully allow people to be as they are. REFERENCES:Attached written by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller Disordered Attachment Article Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE H...
2023-07-0924 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 68 Shelby Redfield Kilgore: Behind the LensToday our guest is Shelby Redfield Kilgore who is a two time Emmy award-winning filmmaker and author of the blog, “Behind the Lens” and also co-writer of the book “Rooted in Adoption: A Collection of Adoptee Reflections”.Today's topics:Her filmmaking and how she found her artistic voiceHow the stories she collects have informed her own adoption journeyThe societal pressures of single mothers in Korea and The resentment that surfaced toward her culture because of what happened to her mother.The imperative of adoptive parent’s get thorough education before adoptingAnd her courage through her Breast cancer jou...
2023-06-2544 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 67 Melissa Guida-Richards: The rise of Adoptee ThoughtsToday we have author, activist, podcaster, and educative content creator Melissa Guida Richards; who was also a guest on episode 6 ,and a panelist on my 2020 panel series. A lot has happened since we last chatted a few years ago; Melissa's second book launched and her tik tok / IG platforms now have a huge following of people who want to learn more. Topics today include:The ramification of Separating siblingsHer relationship with her adoptive mother, and what it was like to be on the Cameron Hall show with her adoptive mother. What it means to filter content through an...
2023-06-1858 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp 66. matthew anthony: "You Can Not Burn The Sun" A Book of PoetryToday I speak with poet, artist, and activist matthew anthony. Matthew has a podcast called "Little Did You Know" and a vibrant poetry book called "You Can Not Burn The Sun."We discuss:- Reclaiming ones name- Rehoming and separating siblings - What "with-ness" is in regards to solidarity - And the resiliency of a black spirit brought up in a Sun Down townGUEST: matthew anthonyhttps://drum.io/cantburnthesun?fbclid=IwAR0XqFmMZsW8-XJwJO4UiyiJugu-LIgsbWJIt9UMHj-vtGBOCU9reHZk8N4REFERENCES:James Baldwin “The Fire Next Time...
2023-06-1046 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 65 Lorah Gerald: The Adopted ChameleonToday, we speak with Lorah Gerald (aka The Adopted Chameleon). It was a delight to have a light worker with such a profound grasp of a plethora of healing modalities. Lorah is a trauma-informed Kundalini Yoga instructor, Intuitive, Tarot & Tea reader, and Reiki healer. You can find her on Instagram @theadopteechamelean sharing her gifts as a healer through movement and mindful practices. We talk about:The adoption summit she attended called “Untangling Our Roots”Lorah’s Medium energy workerHer Kundalini Yoga practiceThe healing powers of wearing colors to brighten your moodThe Baby Scoop era that she was born...
2023-06-031h 04When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 64 SOLO: Why is May Mental Health Awareness Month & Asian, Asian American & Pacific Islander Month?Today it’s just me.This month has been many things for me. Officially it’s Mental Health awareness month and Asian, Asian American, Pacific Islander Heritage Month. I want to take the time to honor both things. First I’ll tell you why Mental Health awareness is so imperative on a personal level and on a community level.REFERENCES:Film One Child NationAsian Nation Bloghttps://www.asian-nation.org/index.shtmlAsian American Contributions:https://www.nyxt.nyc/blog/asian-american-pacific-american-heritage-5-facts/Tran...
2023-05-2819 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 63 Lori May Mier: A Story of ResiliencyToday's guest is Lori May Mier who is the author of Marin and Her Very Bright Star; a story of resiliency which is available on her website. She also is an activator in her community. Find out why I use the word "activator" instead of "activist" in the episode. We talk about:The difference between Grief and lossNarrative therapy and how reimagining your story can change your perspectiveLori's experience with parental lossThe abuse Lori endured at the hands of her caregiversLori shares how generational grief shows up in parentingLori unpacks what it means to witness ones own co...
2023-05-2147 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 62 Nelson De Witt: The Disappeared Children of El SalvadorMy guest today is Nelson De Witt who is an author, film maker and technologist. This conversation was fascinating. Nelson was born in El Salvador and raised here on East Coast. We discuss:-Coping mechanisms for his Dyslexia (and my dyslexia, because we both have it)- Joseph Campbell’s Heroes Journey, which is the most prevalent template for stories that involve a hero. The hero goes on an adventure, is victorious in battle, and comes home changed or transformed. -The complexities of reunifying with his biological family and how he balances both worlds of ado...
2023-05-131h 06When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 61 Solo: What is An Inner Child?This week it's all me. I discuss healing the inner child and how that has benefited my life. There are many ways to go about it this powerful work. Listen and find out how incredibly useful it can be to acknowledge and connect with ones inner children.REFERENCES:What is An Inner Child & What Does It knowhttps://integrativepsych.co/new-blog/what-is-an-inner-child#:~:text=Your%20%E2%80%9Cinner%20child%E2%80%9D%20is%20a,and%20dreams%20for%20the%20future.10 Exercises to Heal Your Inner Childhttps://psychcentral.com/health/how-to-heal-your-inner-childFinding and...
2023-05-0712 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 60 Nikki Webster: A Miracle of TenacityToday's guest, Nikki Webster is the illustrator Nikki Often, heart warming comics that "Punch you in the gut." We discuss the following:Allowing your child to sleep with you for as long as possibleNikki's work comicsWhat is a "miracle of tenacity"How to overcome feelings of not being enough as we both dabble in public speaking. GUEST: Nikki Websterhttps://www.nikkioften.com/@nikkioften Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my He...
2023-04-291h 02When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 59 Anne Heffron: You Don't Look AdoptedToday's guest is the author, film maker and coach, Anne Heffron. Anne wrote “You Don’t Look Adopted,” “Making a Mess: Writing and Pooping,” “Truth Agency: Writing Ideas for people who were adopted,” and she co-wrote the film “Phantom Halo.” Anne facilitates writing workshops and retreats designed to empower, instill confidence and make people excited to be alive.We discuss:Approaching life and trauma from an angleAdoptee's relationship with Enough-ness and financial securityHow yoga and other healing modalities have shaped our livesWhat it means to be extraordinary vs ordinaryGUEST: Anne Heffronhttps://www.anneheffron.com/
2023-04-221h 10When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 58 Isaac Etter: Founding IDENTITY to equip parents and empower childrenToday I speak with Isaac Etter, a social entrepreneur, transracial adoptee, founder of Identity a startup focused on using technology to help foster and adoptive families thrive, and the owner of a small business strategy agency called, Etter Consulting. Identity is dedicated to equiping parents so that the children are empowered. GUEST: Isaac Etterhttps://isaacetter.com/RECOURCES:Heart and Mind Therapy15% Discount links below!!! Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH he...
2023-04-151h 01When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 57 Emma Stevens: Book "The Gathering Place: An Adoptee's Story"Our guest Emma Stevens is an mother, trainer and the author of "The Gathering Place: An adoptee's Story" and newly released, "A Fire is Coming." We unpack the uses of the healing modality, EMDR Therapy (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing), and she touches on her tumultuous childhood with her adoptive parents, the gift of learning how to take up space, Benefits of tapping as another tool of healing, how she chose life after years of alcoholism, and how deconstructing belief systems led to writing her book, and thereby teaching her how to help others get unstuck. And finally she b...
2023-04-0852 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 56 Patrick Armstrong: Dear Asian AmericansToday's guest, Patrick Armstrong (he/him) discusses creating his podcasts and what that entails, how he builds empathy with and for the community outside of the adoption constellation, and how "adoptee" is an identity that one inhabits. We also delve into what differentiates an activist from advocate and how he navigates the construct of "whiteness". Patrick is an adoptee from Korea, a podcaster, speaker, and community facilitator. He is one of the hosts of the Janchi Show, a podcast that explores and celebrates the experiences and stories of Korean adoptees . Patrick is a producer and editor on the...
2023-04-011h 11When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp.55 SOLO: Calling In Vs Calling OutWe start this season off with a one-on-one "calling in." I talk about the adverse affects of conflict avoidance and the true promise of accountability.REFERENCES:Victoria Albina "Feminine Wellness"https://victoriaalbina.com/podcast/Calling In vs calling Outhttps://edib.harvard.edu/files/dib/files/calling_in_and_calling_out_guide_v4.pdf?m=1625683246 Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees
2023-03-2523 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 54 End of Season 3: Why "Courage, My Love?"This is the last episode in Season 3! Hoorah! And before we go on a short hiatus, I want to breakdown why and what I mean by "Where can you apply courage?" and "Courage, my love." This word is the the bedrock of this work, so let's find out why. References:Brene BrownWilliam Ernest Henley "Invictus" Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees
2022-07-1015 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 53 Sandy White Hawk: We Must Keep Our Birth NamesToday’s guest is Sandy White Hawk who is the Executive Director at First Nations Repatriation Institute. She and I take the gloves off with this one. We discuss white supremacy in indigenous communities, systematic removal and problematic placements of adoptees, changing of adoptee names, and what unconditional love looks like. The mainstream doesn’t talk about what happens when the adoptee is adopted into an unsafe or unsupportive household. You hear stories of re-homing because the child had special needs or didn’t get along with the biblical children, but conversely the adoptive child’s perspective is just as valua...
2022-07-021h 08When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 52 Julie Ryan McGue: Twice A DaughterJulie McGue graces my podcast today. We talk about the journey she took to write the extraordinary memoir, “Twice A Daughter” with her twin sister. Julie and I delve into the challenge of asking adoptive parents for adoption information, and how important it is to know your medical history. She also found some kismet moments where writing her story opened new up conversations and opportunities for healingGUEST: Julie McGuehttps://juliemcgueauthor.com/Angela Rye:Comments on Supreme Court ruling on abortion:https://www.instagram.com/tv/CfM3g_qDgY...
2022-06-2634 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 51 Lina Vanegas: Rescripting The NarrativeMy guest today is Lina Vanegas who is an advocate for Displaced adoptee rights, mental health awareness, suicide prevention and is also the co-host of the podcast “Rescripting The Narrative”. We discuss how war is a prime opportunity for displaced children ending up in the adoption cycle, what advocacy can looking like in the adoption community, and suicide preventions for adoptees. GUEST: Lina Venegas@linaleadswithlove Rescripting The Narrative Podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rescripting-the-narrative/id1577193193 Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.com
2022-06-1950 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 50 Sara Easterly: The Dangers of Calling Adoption A BlessingOur guest today, Sara Easterly is an author and essayist who wrote a spiritual memoir called “Searching for Mom”. She writes about adoption, parenting, and grief through the lens of her Christian faith. We go into how using faith to justify adoption can make adoptees feel alienated and insignificant by framing adoption as a “blessing”. And her answer to my final question “where to apply courage” was one of my favorites. Let's lean in! GUEST: Sara Easterlyhttps://saraeasterly.com/ Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshel...
2022-06-1131 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 49 Jill Ashley Hoffman: How to trust your bodyToday, Jill Ashley Hoffman helps me unpack cultural programing and conditioning around relationship with food, learning how food can be medicine and addressing thyroid disorders. Jill is a healing artist; Reiki healer, Health coach, thyroid health coach, graphic designer and #1 Best selling Co-author. Jill is here to guide us towards a healthier and holistic path. I’m so about this conversation, y’all! Let’s lean in. GUEST: Jill Hoffmanhttps://jillashleyhoffman.com/@embodydmentor Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWAT...
2022-06-0529 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 48 Brandi Ebersol: Bring My Whole Self AlwaysThis week in light of all the collective heart-breaks I wanted check in with everyone. How is your heart? My guest is the perfect person to share space in this tender moment. She is such a light in this world, as a mentor and adoptive parent herself. She helps to shatter the myth that BIPOC people don't adopt--they do! And she just happens to be an adoptee to boot. We chat about how being a Korean adoptee informed her path as an adoptive parent of a little black boy and how people reference her story when talking about adoption. Wh...
2022-05-2833 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 47 Schai Schairer: Haitian Heritage MonthSchai Schairer returns to talk about Haitian Heritage Month! Listen as we fellowship on what this month means to us! We discuss reclaiming our Haitian culture as interracial adoptees, building identity by immersing ourselves in various communities, and celebrating our advocacies. The authenticity of our friendship made it difficult to end this episode. We hope you enjoy hearing our vibrant conversation on our country of origin: Haiti! GUEST:: Schai Schairer www.fistdc.org/ team IG: @diabolically.haitianFB: Schai Schairer Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee
2022-05-2153 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 46 Kevin Hofmann: The Book "Growing Up Black in White"Kevin Hofmann is biracial who was adopted into a White family. Listen as he uses humor to discuss the sense of belonging, imposter syndrome, and identity. His candid experiences are written in his book, “Growing Up Black in White” in which he further explores dealing with racial tensions, his loving family, and developing into a trainer to teach others various ways to coexist with someone different than you. Get ready to be encouraged while you laugh!GUEST:: Kevin Hofmannhttps://www.growingupblackinwhite.com/aboutIG: @kevininclusion Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST...
2022-05-1430 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 45 Mindy Stern: Abortion and The Better Life NarrativeWe've all heard of the "Better life narrative" where people tell you that no matter what your present circumstances are they are better than your pre-adoption life. Well, that's not true nor is it healthy to perpetuate. My guest Mindy Stern and I break down why!GUEST::cMindy Stern@minster12 Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp...
2022-05-0734 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 44 Solo episode: Wellness of the mind, body and heartToday I go solo to give you some key things that helped me survive this monstrous year. It is all about a higher quality of life, my beloveds.Journel Prompt:What am I feeling this way?What can I do to shift this circumstance?Write 5 things that you’re grateful for. Write 5 lessons that you are learning from this situation.Mind Love:https://www.mindlove.com/Cathy Heller:https://www.dontkeepyourdayjob.com/To Be Magnetic:h...
2022-05-0112 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEP. 43 Lydia Faye Berkey: Self-Actualization & Building a Social Media PresenceToday’s episode has Lydia Fay Berkey, who is an interracial adoptee. You’ll hear Lydia discuss how to build an Instagram presence, how Maslow's hierarchy of needs applies to transracial adoptees, how to protect your peace, and the struggle to decolonize Eurocentric beauty standards. The infectious laugher of Lydia will make it easy to stay engaged as she discusses her development into her authentic self who is now working as an Adoption Case Worker. Hearing her passion for the adoption community explains her success on Instagram where she continues to speak her truth, helps adoptees heal, and educates adop...
2022-04-2333 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 42 Edward Di Gangi: The Gift Best GivenToday Ed and I discuss his wonderful book "The Gift best Given". Ed has an inspiring perspective on how it's never too late to search for the answers. GUEST: Edward Di Gangihttps://www.digangiauthor.com/about-my-book Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE!DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products15% off Code: WTWY A...
2022-04-1633 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp.41 Dr Juliana Olson Deans: The Drama TriangleWe launch this season with a discussion on what it means to be stuck in a drama triangle where you're constantly playing either the role of victim, prosecutor or rescuers. Adoptee, friend and biological aunt, Dr. Juliana Olson Deans helps me unpack it all. The world at large is definitely stuck in at least one of these mindsets, but you don't have to stay stuck. Let's figure out how!GUEST: Dr. Juliana Olson Deans@Dr_juliana_deansDifferentiation of Self:https://www.thebowencenter.org/differentiation-of-selfhttps://www.goodtherapy.org/famous-psychologists/murray-bowen.html
2022-04-0946 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesSeason 3 Teaser!!!We're back! Come join me this Saturday for another round. I'm so excited!@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comDONATE TO THE SHOW:https://ko-fi.com/whentheywereyoungSupport the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE!DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products15% off Code: WTWY ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:14 through18, and...
2022-04-0600 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 40 Solo: Forgotten First Languages Leave An Imprint On The BrainToday in this solo episode I wanted to talk to you about lost languages. I stumbled across this article called “Forgotten First Languages Leave An Imprint On The Brain.” For those of you feeling overwhelmed (like me) with the idea of re-learning your mother-tongue this article gave me so much comfort and hope. REFERENCES:Adoptees who taught themselves their native language:Jacob Taylor Mosquera from Colombia ep.39William Uhlaub from Haiti ep.8BOOK:Embers in the Ashes by Sabaa TahirArticlehttps://www.myenglishlanguage.com/2017/01/29/forgotten-first-languages-leave-imprint-on-brain/?fbclid=IwAR3TFhD8C...
2021-08-0710 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 39 Jacob Taylor Mosquera: I Met Myself In October: A Memoir of BelongingJacob Taylor Mosquera is a Colombian adoptee who taught himself Spanish in two years and now teaches Spanish in Seattle. He is the author of, “I Met Myself In October: A Memoir of Belonging.” He shares his extraordinary journey of discovery, self-actualization and identity. This is going to be a good one! GUEST:: Jacob Taylor Mosquerahttps://www.imetmyselfmemoir.com/ Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees
2021-07-311h 03When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 38 Astrid Castro: The Adoptee MosaicOur guest today is Astrid Castro. You’ve heard me talk about how much I love the phrase “The Adoptee Constellation” before, and I first heard it from her. Astrid’s works in both the private and public sectors of various adoption organizations such the Oregon Post Adoption Resource Center (ORPARC), Holt International, Rocky Mountain Adoption Exchange to name just a few. She is the creator of The Adoption Mosaic which is a platform for compassionate, informed education, training and resources to the adoption constellation/community. This was such an illuminating conversation-- let's go!GUEST:: Astrid Castro www...
2021-07-2451 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 37 Moses Farrow: #TRUTHISLOUDERToday’s guest has one of the gentlest spirits I’ve ever encountered. Moses Farrow is a very active activists and a long time family therapist. In this conversation he gives some actionable steps to come back to yourself and begin the work to reconnecting with who you are. Moses Farrow is an advocate for mental health, adoption reform and suicide prevention.GUEST:: Moses Farrow#truthislouderhttps://mosesfarrow.com/about-1Websitehttps://mosesfarrow.com/ Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.com
2021-07-1739 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 36 The Co-Founders of The Adoptee Collective The co-founder and executive director of The Adoptee Collective reached out to me about a possible collaboration. She and I instantly hit it off. Heather Enright is not an adoptee but has an in-depth perspective having worked as a social worker for 19 years. After watching my panel series she had the intuitive ping to leave her current job and start a journey as an advocacy for adoptee . The first thing she said to me was, “I wait to be invited to the table, I don’t expect a seat.” My mind was blown—Such grace and humility from a non-adopt...
2021-07-101h 03When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 35 Isaac Etter: Ethical AdoptionThis conversation is incredibly important if you have a child of another race, if your family is of another race, or if you live on this planet. You will walk away more informed. My guest Issac Etter is an incredible educator, consultant, speaker, activist and social entrepreneur. He’s the co-founder of SafeHouse Lancaster, where he is the co-executive director. Isaac also serves on the board of directors for The Keystone Business Alliance.Heather Enright : Isaac Etterhttps://isaacetter.com/ Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.lani...
2021-07-0358 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 34 Solo: PerfectionismThis week is a solo episode to share some actionable steps to unlearn perfectionism. This is something that I am constantly working on and have finally gained some ground on through meditation and thought work. I've included some links to people who've helped me along the way. REFERENCES:Joe Dispenza:https://youtu.be/oFB6KDftGPYVictory Albino:https://victoriaalbina.com/Expanded Podcast:Episode on Perfectionismhttps://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast/2021/152 Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.c...
2021-06-2611 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 33 Amy Geller: Inspiring Authenticity & Empowering FreedomToday’s episode takes a deep dive into my perfectionism, boundaries and people pleasing. I did not intend for it to play out that way, but when I met Amy Geller, today’s guest, I was disarmed. She has a magical--Jedi way of getting down to the root of the issue in a matter of minutes—I could have spoken with her for hours. I can see why she is so successful in her work helping clients through depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, loss and adoption. Amy is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Professional Advocate Member Association for Training and Attach...
2021-06-1941 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 32 Dr. Charmaine Borda & Dr Juliana Olson Deans: Sisterhood In Times of GriefI lost my grandmother, and my aunt Juliana lost her mother about a month ago.We asked Dr. Charmaine Borda to interview myself and my biological aunt, Dr Juliana Olson- Deans, because Charmaine is a close friend of Juliana’s and I have loved getting to know her this last year. Both of these women are adoptees who work as clinical psychologists in the world— they have a beautifully 3 dimension view of the trauma, truth and the healing that encases adoption.I’m deeply grateful that they have returned yet again to impart wisdom and sister ship.
2021-06-121h 09When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 31 Solo chat: Let Me Tell You How I'm DoingI just wanted to check in with you on all the things happening in my life, and give you some tricks to overcome even the deepest sorrow. It's summer time in Chicago and I churn this heat into opportunity, here's how! Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE!DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products15% off...
2021-06-0510 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 30 Obakeng Beddny: A voice from BotswanaToday’s interview is a testament a perseverance. I connected with Obakeng Beddny three times because of technical difficulties. Obakeng is a natural orator who will spur you to stand up, no matter what your beliefs may be, and invite you to recognize the love that already resides in you. He is such a brilliant mind and radiant force in this world.GUEST: Obakeng Beddny@Obakengbeddny Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my H...
2021-05-2959 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp.29 (Part 2) Jamie-Lyn Richartz: My Mother Is My Best Friend This episode Jamie-Lyn Richartz returns to chat with me about how she felt the convo with her mother went. See episode 28 for part 2.We are modeling how to have a conversation about adoption with a loved one. You’d think that it was easy, but let me tell you—I have friends who’ve never talked to their husbands or adoptive families about their adoption. Again, I’m not saying that you need to talk about adoption all the time, or ever-- for that matter. I am simply examining why aren’t we talking about? Is it because o...
2021-05-2252 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 28 (Part 1) Jamie-Lyn Richartz: Adoptee Interview! Mother and DaughterWe are modeling how to have a conversation about adoption with a loved one. You’d think that it was easy, but let me tell you—I have friends who’ve never talked to their husbands or adoptive families about their adoption. Again, I’m not saying that you need to talk about adoption all the time, or ever-- for that matter. I am simply examining why aren’t we talking about? Is it because of fear? This episode Jamie-Lyn Richartz has a lovely conversation with her adoptive mother, Denise. This will inspired you to speak from the heart mor...
2021-05-151h 17When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 27 Solo for Mother's Day WeekendI share what I do while in self-preservation mode, and how I get back into a space where I can feel the full spectrum of my emotions--without it consuming me. And of course, we talk about mothers and what that means to me as an adoptee this Mother's Day weekend. Material:Poem by William Butler Yeats "Heaven's Embroidered Cloths" Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, m...
2021-05-0812 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 26 Kevin Barhydt: The author of the book "Dear Stephen Michael's Mother"My guest, Kevin Barhydt is the author of “Dear Stephen Micheal’s Mother” and the host of an educative youtube channel. His wisdom is astounding. The depth of his vulnerability and authenticity truly inspired me. Kevin shares how he pivoted out of fear into faith by building a foundation of courage.** Please note that this episode mentions sexual assault, abuse, and addiction but doesn't go into detail.GUEST: Kevin Barhydthttps://www.kevinbarhydt.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpcB8oqL-10LcGkGbn23fIA Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@yo...
2021-05-0147 min
Pivot Arts PodcastLeading Towards the FutureMultidisciplinary artist, Jovan Landry, and Tony Award-winning director and Artistic Director of Chicago's Goodman Theatre, Robert Falls, talk about deepening their artistic work and leading during times of crisis. We'll learn about Synergy, the first all women hip-hop album and then hear an excerpt from that work. The episode closes out with a segment from School Girls; Or, The African Mean Girls Play by Jocelyn Bioh and directed by Lili-Anne Brown. The play was scheduled to open in March of 2020 and will resume performances when it's safe to gather."Interlude: Chicago Woman Hip-Hop", from Synergy, t...
2021-04-2750 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 25 Nicole Koharik: The Adoptee In Me BlogToday’s guest has a blog called The Adoptee In Me. She speaks so beautifully about her connection to her son and father. Like me, she came from a single parent household. It’s rare that we have adoptees raised by just a father. Lionel in season one episode 14 is the only other adoptee I know. She and I connected instantly over the topics of family, worthiness and belonging. GUEST: Nicole Koharikhttps://theadopteeinme.com/https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/ Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.lanis...
2021-04-2425 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesSeason 2 Trailer! April Launch!We will be back this month! I have been on hiatus but preparing to go live with some exciting new conversations. Thank you for your continued support. Thanks for writing an itunes review :) Missed you!Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE!DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products15% o...
2021-04-0101 min
The Actor’s WishBEAUTIFUL, POWERFUL, GORGEOUS with Lanise Antoine ShelleyWe have an incredible guest for you today: Lanise Antoine Shelley!! I had the privilege of watching Lanise perform at Stratford Festival in Ontario, Canada years ago and have admired her work and journey ever since.
Lanise Antoine Shelley is a multi-passionate Haitian actress, director, playwright, podcast host and visual artist. You may know her from Chicago Fire, Chicago Med, Empire, Discovery World, and Stratford Shakespeare Festival's Macbeth HD.
She has had the immense pleasure of studying abroad six times while achieving a BFA from Cornish College of the Arts, MFA from...
2021-02-231h 06When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 23 Happy Glorious New Year To You!Hey loves! This week I just want to give you three books that have helped me create more than I ever have before this past year. Even though the sky was falling outside I continued to flourish in my artistic life. I want to share with you ways you can set, accomplish and hold fast to anything you set out to do. This is going to be a triumphant year! Let's fly! REFERENCES:Podcast "Don't Keep Your Day Job" with Cathy Hellerhttps://www.dontkeepyourdayjob.com/“Co-dependent No More" by Melody Beattiehtt...
2021-01-0211 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 22 (Part 2) Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans: "I'm proud of my hubby"Merry Holidays! We check in with Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans to see how she feels last week's convo with her husband went. She's been married for 20 years! I had to find out her advice on enduring partnerships and figure out what it was like for her dating as an adoptee. Whether we know it or not our adoption impacts every relationship. It's up to you as to whether that impact is good or bad. GUEST: Dr Juliana Olson Deans@_dr_juliana_DeansREFERENCES:Esther Perel:https://www.estherperel.com/ Support the s...
2020-12-2643 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 21 (Part 1) Dr Juliana Olson-Deans: Adoptee Interview! Wife talks to HusbandDr. Juliana Olson Deans is back! She is a licensed professional counselor, mental health counselor, and national certified counselor who imparted great wisdom in episode 5 and co-founded the Interracial Adoptee Panel series with me this past summer. Juliana is here with her husband Derek. As I said before, these familial chats are the most challenging conversations to have yet these conversations can change a life. I personally have experienced that. It’s all in pursuit of stronger relationships and diffusing the tension within the subject of adoption, until one day you’ve harnessed the situation and no part o...
2020-12-1937 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 20 Christine Heimann: The Adoptee BridgeToday I chat with Christine Heimann who is the co-founder and executive director of Adoptee Bridge where they offer education, mentorships and support for international adoptees and their families from any age. GUEST: Christine Heimann Organization "Adoptee Bridge":https://www.adopteebridge.org/ Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE!DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair pr...
2020-12-1230 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 19 Marissa Lichwick: The French Film, "He Even Has Your Eyes"I want to highlight one of my favorite films, the light hearted comedic French film “He even has your eyes” available on Netflix. It’s about a Congolese couple who want to adopt and end up with a Caucasian blue eyed baby. If you were shocked by that image, that's exactly why they made the film to address the double standards and prejudices in interracial adoption. The way they highlight the social workers and family responses is hilarious, but true. Marissa Lichwick is an actress and filmmaker with a powerful new film out called "Yellow Dress." She and I talk a...
2020-12-0551 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 18 (Part 2) Schai Belair Toussaint Schairer: Adoptee Interview! "My Brothers With Good Souls"Part of the Adoptive parent conversation series!We are back withe Schai who graced us in episode 4 with her poetry. This is the conclusion of Schai’s conversation with her brothers Manny and Jaccen. They go in about their own individual adoption journeys and give us some advice on how we can do adoption better. At the very end I check in with Schai to see how she thought the interview went, so stay tuned for that. This trio is incredibly inspiring! I love how they support and uplift one another. Biological family or not, their love is s...
2020-11-2845 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 17 (Part 1) Schai Belair Toussiant Schairer: Adoptee Interview! Two Brothers One FamilyPart of Adoptive parent conversation series! We are back with sister soldier Schai, who interviews her two brothers; one is biological and the other is adopted. She leads them through a conversation on how she met her twin in adulthood, how they think adoption could be improved and what it means to have them all get along within this complicated familial web. What a beautiful model of a whole hearted conversation. GUEST: Schai Belair-Toussaint Schairerwww.fistdc.org Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoines
2020-11-2146 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 16 Laurie Nordahl: Adoptee Interview! An illuminating chat with her White ParentsPart of Adoptive parent conversation series! Interracial Adoptee Panelist, Laurie Nordahl chats with her parents about how the family received her when they brought her home from Colombia, ethics behind adoption and the importance of consent when someone needs space to process their feelings. I gave Laurie core questions and she created her own powerful conversations that surprised even her. Such incredible work! GUEST: Laurie Nordahl Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am m...
2020-11-141h 21When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 15 (Part 2) Lionel Boisvert: Adoptee Interview! A White Father & Black Son Discuss AdoptionPart of Adoptive parent conversation series! This is the conclusion of a conversation with Richard and Lionel Boisvert tackles the efficacy of adoption support groups and how one prepares a black child for the black community and the police. At the very end, I check-in with Lionel to see how it went for him. Lionel Boivert is a Haitian adoptee who came from the same orphanage as me, "Haiti Home For Children." We might have even been at the orphanage the same time but officially met this year when he spoke on the Interracial Adoptee Panels I fac...
2020-11-0755 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 14 (Part 1) Lionel Boisvert: Adoptee Interview! A White Father & Black Son Discuss AdoptionPart of Adoptive parent conversation series! In this compelling conversation a white father and black son discuss growing up in South Carolina in an all white community, their support systems and what prompted the father to adopt as a single parent. GUEST: Lionel Boisvert (Adoptee) & Richard Boisvert (Father) Support the showCONNECT WITH HOST:@youngadoptee@lantoineswww.laniseantoineshelley.comWATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" TeesSPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE!
2020-10-311h 00When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 13 Indigo Ciochetti: My Grandfather Would Have Shot MeThis week performer and artist Indigo Ciochetti and I chat about the book My Grandfather Would Have Shot Me by German adoptee, Jennifer Teege. Teege discovers that she has an ancestral connection to the Nazi’s, most specifically Amon Goeth, an infamous commander of a concentration camp featured in Schindler's List. She, of course, is distraught by this revelation considering that she is a half black half white German adoptee who'd spent time studying in Israel. At the outset she has just discovered that her biological grandfather was one of the most prolific murderers during the holocaust. The book chronic...
2020-10-2431 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 12 Lanise Antoine Shelley: Bornday ReflectionsThis week I give reflections of my journey into the adoption community. October 17th is my birthday, so I am celebrating it in different ways. Many adoptees (including myself) find it hard to truly celebrate themselves, birthdays and holidays. These things can trigger scarcity and shame. I'd like to invite you to celebrate your worthy existence. If you take note of the bad, why not celebrate the small and large triumphs of the everyday. There are many aspects of my life that are not ideal at the moment, nonetheless I acknowledge that my life has value no matter my...
2020-10-1713 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 11 Kim Noonan: "Multiracial White Boy" PodcastKim Noonan is a filmmaker and the host of the podcast "Multi-Racial White Boy." Kim and I talk about the idea of “whiteness” which is pervasive in the interracial adoptee community. Some adoptees grow up wanting to “be white” in order to fit in. I was lucky enough to have black role models in the dance world who encouraged me to love my skin.James Baldwin wrote an exquisite short essay called “White…and other lies,” which I've included in show notes below. As participants in this community we must acknowledge how detrimental it is to perpetuate whiteness as something o...
2020-10-1046 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 10 Amanda Transue-Woolston: The Lost DaughtersWarning! This episode mentions sexual violence.This episode unpacks the healing powers of the blog "The Lost Daughters." Amanda created the blog, whose group of adoptee contributors is ever growing, to propagate her mission of empowerment and peace. I found the blog on facebook and submitted a piece on racism. Amanda is a licensed master social worker, a therapist, an author, a speaker, podcast host and teacher. She is also the co-founder and co-owner of Roots Incorporated. This conversation illuminates the importance of holding our stories sacred, being our authentic selves no matter the history, and embracing...
2020-10-0341 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 9 Brigit Wilson: Orphans in Shakespeare and Other ClassicsThis week I spend time with my dear friend, Canadian actress Brigit Wilson. She and I played witches in stratford Shakespeare Festival's 2016 production of Macbeth. This week we examine the definition of "orphan" and how it has been depicted throughout our favorite plays in Shakespeare and stories like Anne of Green Gables. Brigit graced the boards of stratford for 14 years in acclaimed roles in As You Like It, The Alchemist, King John, Pericles, Peter Pan and many others. One day in rehearsal we discovered that we were both adoptees and became sisters for life. www.laniseantoineshelley.com
2020-09-2653 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp.8 William Uhrlaub: From Prodigal Son to Master of His CultureI sit down with William Uhrlaub, a Haitian adoptee who has taught himself Creole after reunifying with his biological family. He was a panelist on the Interracial Adoptee Panel Series: Biological Family where he shared his reunification story and how he managed to assimilate into Haitian culture. William encapsulates the power of finding your "people" and merging your life with a culture you thought you had lost. He found it, ya'll! Let this inspire you to do the same. GUEST: William UhrlaubLINKS:Coach Kel (Pure Barre)https://youtu.be/QYncATlC3Mg
2020-09-1943 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp.7 Dr. Charmaine Borda: The importance of self-care for doctorsDr Borda, PHD, LMFT, LMHC, ACC, CHT joined us as an expert for the third panel: Myth Busters. She returns to give us an in-depth view of her work in the adoption realm, combating “compassion fatigue” for doctors, the re-traumatizing nature of “re-homing” children who’ve been adopted into the wrong family and grief counseling for parents who’ve struggled having a child biologically. Dr. Borda founded The Wellness Project, Inc for practitioners suffering from exhaustion fatigue to increase their own wellness and self-care and to normalize that they don’t have to be perfect. The non-profit creates support for those who...
2020-09-1244 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 6 Melissa Guida-Richards: Unpacking Abby Johnson's commentsI reached out to Melissa who is actively on the front lines of educating people in the adoption community. We discuss the harmful language Abby Johnson uses to describe her own adopted son in the infamous youtube video. There are misconceptions about the black community that she perpetuates with alarming conviction. Melissa is a formidable essayist, mother, blogger, author (THE WHITE SAVIOR MENTALITY will be out in Fall 2021) and podcast host. GUEST: Melissa Guida-Richards guida-richards.com https://adopteethoughts.com/https://www.mother.ly/u/melissaguida-richardshttps://spoonie-mama.com/index.php/about-melissa-guida-richards/
2020-09-0541 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp. 5 Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans: Enneagram ChallengeThis week I reach out to my biological aunt Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans who is a fellow adoptee as well as an adoption therapist. We discuss the 9 character types of the enneagram and how we're using the information to navigate our budding relationship. You may recognize Dr. Deans from the Interracial Adoptee Panel series, where she was co-host.I was first introduced to the Enneagram by Dr. Barbara Rila's podcast on Trauma and adoption. This episode distills how important it is to process one's grief and trauma through acknowledging the traits that either help or hinder your healing journey.
2020-08-2936 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp.4 Schai Belair-Toussaint Schairer: Diabolically HaitianThis week I discuss the exquisite poetry of Schai Belair-Toussaint Schairer, a fellow sister in adoption, spoken word poet and founder of F.I.S.T. (Fighting Injustice Standing Together) a non-profit organization working to empower incarcerated women through writing. Schai was a panelist on three of the four International Adoptee Panels sponsored by USFCH. She and I unpack her motivation for writing and confront our own privilege, resilience and Haitian pride.GUEST: Schai Belair-Toussaint Schairerwww.fistdc.orgWatch panels:https://www.facebook.com/USFCH/videos/806431379903046Resources:www.laniseantoineshelley...
2020-08-2257 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp.3 The Women Who Raised MeI have the rare opportunity to interview my mother, Karla Shelley-Albert and my godmother Heidi Husted-Armstrong. It’s an incredibly unique thing for an adoptee to interview their parental figures, most parents refuse, but mine were eager to support me in this endeavor. They, like myself are committed to educating the adoption community, which means getting vulnerable and embracing all perspectives. Throughout this podcast series you will hear more conversations with adoptees and parents as we strive to deepen connections and broaden our understanding of each other’s journey. GUEST: Karla Shelley-Albert & Heidi Husted Armstr...
2020-08-1551 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp.2 Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part 2)I continue my conversation with The president and CEO of Fondation pour les Enfants d’Haiti, Gladys Thomas. Gladys addresses why she stopped facilitating adoptions, how she introduced her adopted son to his family and what adoptees should do under the pressure of supporting their biological family once they grow up. She is the recipient of recipient of its 2013 William Jefferson Clinton and Goodwill for Haiti Award.GUEST: Gladys Thomashttp://www.usfch.org/Watch panels:https://www.facebook.com/USFCH/videos/806431379903046Therapists:https://www.laniseantoineshelley.com/blog
2020-08-0847 minWhen They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of AdopteesEp.1 Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part 1)Episode 1. Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part. 1)The president and CEO of Fondation Pour Les Enfants d'Haiti (sister organization to US Foundation for the Children of Haiti) the organization helming the orphanage I came from, once called Haiti Home for Children and later was known as Rainbow of Love Nursery. Gladys is one of the most powerful voices in adoption. She is an adoptive mother herself, administrator, leader, nurse, woman of faith and visionary. She has spent 39 years at the helm of these organizations that have nurtured orphans, students and children with disabilities. She is the recipient of r...
2020-07-2833 min