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The Partnership PodcastIs Masturbation OK in Long-Term Relationships?In this candid episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into the messy, beautiful, and often misunderstood topic of masturbation within long-term relationships—the good, the bad, and the ugly.They open up about real moments in their own sex life, from Lauren recently asking Trey to “hold your cum for me” to their conversations about “tingle time” and what it really means to have mutually pleasurable sex.At 4:04, Lauren shares how they first introduced the term tingle time—and how Trey wasn’t a fan at first! They discuss the power of withholding, w...2025-08-0426 min
The Partnership PodcastHow Men Can Build the Emotional & Relational Tools Women Really Desire in Dating & RelationshipsIn this episode, Lauren and Trey pick up where they left off—exploring the inner work men need to do so they can connect authentically with the women they truly desire. Trey opens up about how his experience as a Human Design Projector means running on a finite battery. Lauren, as a Generator, offers steady energy and support within the relationship.Trey shares how their conversation sparked a realization they hadn’t discussed: Human Design has been a game‑changer for them as a couple, helping them understand and support each other on a deeper level.Laur...2025-07-2833 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Become the Man She’s Looking For | Why Women Are Evolving Faster & What Men Can Do NowWhat do emotionally available men do differently in sex and dating? Trey interviews Lauren about how straight men can unlearn old patterns, attract real connection, and become the sexual partners they truly want to be.Trey shares the story of a pivotal rejection that sparked his growth journey and gets honest about his disappointment in the questions men have been asking at Lauren’s recent Soho House events. While the women show up with curiosity and self-awareness, many of the straight men seem stuck in meta-level thinking—and Trey doesn’t hold back....2025-07-2140 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Heal Wounds in Relationship | Trey’s Memory from 1994, Adam Sandler & Active ImaginationIn this short but powerful episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey pick up right where they left off.Lauren invites Trey to share what he’s been exploring around his source wound, and he opens up about a childhood memory from 1994 — sitting in a car, hearing Adam Sandler’s “The Chanukah Song,” and feeling an intense response in his 10-year-old body.With the help of a meditative practice inspired by Dr. Joe Dispenza, and guided by Lauren, Trey revisits this memory using active imagination — and discovers how much healing...2025-07-1413 min
The Partnership PodcastSeparating Love from Criticism | Roles, Repair & Repatterning After the WoundIn this deeply honest episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey revisit the rupture they first discussed after their NYC trip — but now, they’re speaking from the other side of a powerful coaching session with their person, Dr. Joli Hamilton.They explore how separating roles in their partnership has transformed the way they handle feedback, support, and stress. Lauren introduces the term “Vision Carrier,” a phrase that finally captures the role Trey has long played in her life. At 10:42, Lauren shares the moment she felt real validation — when their coach and Trey both affir...2025-07-0727 min
The Partnership PodcastWhat If Touch Didn’t Mean Sex? Exploring the 3-Minute Game Without ArousalCan you play The 3-Minute Game without it leading to arousal?In this powerful episode, Trey and Lauren demonstrate how to play a completely platonic version of the 3-Minute Game - a core practice from Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent®. They explain how this version builds self-awareness, trust, and clear boundaries without courting arousal or triggering old patterns.At minute 18:23, tune in to watch them play live, bringing real-time curiosity, discomfort, and delight to the table. They show how clear requests and responses can strengthen relational dynamics - e...2025-06-3046 min
The Partnership PodcastShadow Boxing & Success Hangovers: When Celebration Triggers the PastAfter Lauren’s standing-room-only Soho House event, she and Trey pull back the curtain on what happened behind the scenes—and why big wins can sometimes bring up big shadows.Lauren introduces her inner "Sissy," the part of her that believes she's only lovable if she's working hard, never celebrating. She opens up about the shame spiral that followed her success and how it led to a painful rupture with Trey. Trey shares his raw truth about feeling like “the help” while everyone else gets the best version of Lauren—and the resentment that can build...2025-06-2346 min
The Partnership PodcastCan Angry Sex Be Healthy? Rage, Repair & the Psychology of the "Hot F*ck"“So, we’re on the elevator—and we’re angry.”In this raw and revealing follow-up to last week’s episode, Lauren picks up right where they left off: the hotel hallway tension, the slammed door, and the unforgettable, rage-fueled sex that followed. Clothes were ripped off, bodies thrown against walls, and a deep desire to be chosen and wanted took over.Lauren and Trey reflect on the erotic electricity of that night—what made it so charged, why they’ve never had sex like that before, and how it left them both breathless… and then laughing when...2025-06-0922 min
The Partnership PodcastWhy Is Hotel Sex So Hot? Exploring the Psychology Behind the PassionWhy is hotel sex so hot? In this juicy and joy-filled episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren explore the psychology behind the passion—why sex in a hotel room often feels freer, more exciting, and more connected.Trey opens with a hilarious hotel story from Amarillo, TX, and shares how heightened sensations and novelty make intimacy feel brand new. Lauren adds her insights about anticipation, freedom from responsibility, and the gift of being cared for instead of caretaking. She breaks down the difference between support and caretaking, referencing their past episode and th...2025-06-0227 min
The Partnership PodcastWhen Love Turns Into Caretaking: How We Fall Into Unhealthy Patterns in PartnershipIn this vulnerable follow-up to last week's episode on opening up their relationship, Lauren and Trey share how they’re really doing—and the deeper attachment patterns that were activated in the aftermath.Lauren opens up about her coach’s reflection that she often strives to “do it all” to protect Trey from pain. Trey reveals his own avoidant tendencies, formed in childhood, to escape disappointment and judgment when others fail him. Together, they explore how these strategies, shaped by their families of origin, play out in long-term partnership.They unpack why words from outside voices—coaches, mentors, and therapists—c...2025-05-2628 min
The Partnership Podcast"What If We Opened Our Relationship?”: The Conversation We’ve Never Shared—Until NowIn this raw and deeply honest episode, Lauren and Trey open up about a conversation they’ve never shared publicly before—one that rocked the foundation of their partnership. At minute 06:49, you’ll hear Trey’s exact words at the bar: “What would it look like if we opened our relationship?” What followed was a weekend of intense reflection, body-based reactions, and tender reckoning.Lauren, a professional sexuality educator and relationship coach, shares the real-time emotional and physical impact of that moment—not the polished version, but the full, human one. At 10:29, she reveals just how vulne...2025-05-1946 min
The Partnership PodcastWe’re Breaking Up (With Old Patterns) | Marriage, Dreams & Attachment StylesThis week, Lauren and Trey dive into a big, juicy topic: breaking up—but not with each other. (Don't worry, they're still together!)When Trey invites Lauren to share about a date night she requested, the conversation turns deeply personal. Lauren opens up about a core pattern in her attachment style: the fear of being “too much” and the impulse to protect others from her bigness—especially when she’s on the edge of growth.She shares the origin of that story, the somatic response our bodies have to perceived...2025-05-1228 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Handle Your Partner’s Ego (Can Great Sex Trigger an Emotional Crash?)What do you do when your partner’s ego takes the wheel? In this deeply honest episode, Lauren and Trey explore how to handle ego in real-time partnership. Trey opens up about recent struggles with his inner critic, replaying imaginary arguments, and how it’s made him short-tempered. Lauren gently suggests this might not be "stupid" behavior—but actually part of the work of real, evolving partnership.They unpack a pivotal moment that came to a head over ice cream, when Trey’s defensiveness flared in response to their 14-year-old. Lauren accessed anger in a way sh...2025-05-0553 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Say "No" to Sex Without Leaving Your Partner Feeling RejectedIn this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey share how they've learned to say "No" to sex — without creating distance, resentment, or feelings of rejection.They start by introducing a powerful game from Dr. Betty Martin 's WHEEL OF CONSENT: -Like A Pro Training called "No Three Ways," and reflect on how it helped rebuild trust between them after a traumatic experience at a tantra party earlier that year. (Catch that story HERE)Lauren and Trey explore:- How childhood experiences around "No...2025-04-2854 min
The Partnership PodcastShe Wanted to Change Him. He Needed Freedom. | Relationship Repair & Personal Growth (Part 2)After the cameras stopped rolling in “She Got Triggered. He Got Scared,” (LISTEN NOW) Trey and Lauren weren’t done. In this raw and revealing follow-up, Trey shares what happened immediately after filming ended—and why he wasn’t OK with having his ability to see a better way shut down. Lauren recounts their intense phone call and the moment Trey asked her, “How are you going to attend to this?” Her response? A scheduled TRE session with her coach, Robyn. Trey’s reaction? Deep respect.Together, they unpack what’s theirs to work on individually—an...2025-04-2134 min
The Partnership PodcastShe Got Triggered. He Got Scared. What Happened Next Might Surprise You (Emergency Episode - Part 1)In this raw and unfiltered emergency episode of Season 2, Lauren and Trey sit down early the morning after a seemingly casual Friday kitchen conversation triggered one of Lauren’s deepest source wounds. If you saw her 11-minute Instagram video (watch it here), you already know this moment hit hard—activating powerful, body-based beliefs and a flood of old, painful stories.What was meant to be a lighthearted recap of how far they’ve come as a couple turns into something far more intense. Lauren vulnerably shares the inner chaos that took over—memories tied to scarc...2025-04-1430 min
The Partnership PodcastHairgate — How to Argue with Love (When He Doesn't Feel Heard & She Feels Insecure)In this vulnerable and emotionally-rich episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey unpack a recent argument that started with Trey’s new hairstyle—but quickly spiraled into deeper feelings of not being heard, not feeling prioritized, and long-standing insecurities.Trey bravely shares how hurt he felt when Lauren made a seemingly small but painful comment, and how it led to a moment where he didn’t feel safe taking his hat off in public. Lauren opens up about her fear of “angering the dragon,” and the shame that creeps in when she feels like she’s...2025-04-0745 min
The Partnership PodcastLaunches & Landings: How To Strengthen Your Relationship Through Daily RitualsHow do the simple rituals we share each day shape the security and connection in our relationship? In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into "Launches & Landings"—the daily practices that start and end their days together.Lauren recently finished Wired for Love (Second Edition) by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT (📖 Get the book here) and was surprised to learn the science behind the rituals they've naturally developed over the years. They explore:☕ Morning Launches—How Lauren signals Trey for coffee in bed, the small moments that ligh...2025-03-3145 min
The Partnership PodcastWhat If I Just Don’t Want To? Sexual Boundaries & ConsentWhat happens when one partner wants something sexually, but the other doesn’t? In this episode, Lauren and Trey respond to an audience member’s question about sexual boundaries in relationships. Lauren shares one of her favorite Betty Dodson quotes: "The first principle of pleasure is the freedom of personal choice."—reminding us that if you don’t want to do something in bed, you don’t have to. Period.They explore past experiences, why relationships don’t begin or end over just one preference, and how mutual enjoyment plays a role in long-term intimacy. Pl...2025-03-2428 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Talk About Sex in Long-Term RelationshipsTalking about sex in a long-term relationship can feel awkward, vulnerable, or even impossible—but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into how to have hard conversations about your sexual relationship and create the sex life you both want.They unpack societal scripts that shape men's and women’s experiences of desire, share real feelings from couples—including feeling stuck and trapped—and explore Esther Perel’s insight: “It is not a crisis of desire, it is a crisis of imagination.”Together, they walk through six steps to reinvigorate...2025-03-1743 min
The Partnership PodcastWhat Is Grapefruiting? How to Ask for More in the Bedroom with RespectEver heard of “grapefruiting” but weren’t quite sure what it meant? 🍊 In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break it all down—starting with the viral technique made famous by Auntie Angel and its unforgettable moment in Girls Trip (yes, we’re linking that scene below 👀).But this conversation isn’t just about technique—it’s about communication and how to ask for more of what you love without guilt, pressure, or entitlement. Lauren also shares her recent experience creating content for Lovers, sparking an open and hilarious discussion on pleasure, requests, an...2025-03-1039 min
The Partnership PodcastWhen They Walk In… How To Keep the Passion Alive as ParentsHow do you keep the passion alive when you have kids at home—especially when they walk in at the worst possible moment? 😳 In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey get hilariously real about the awkward (but inevitable) challenges of maintaining an intimate life as parents.They share the cringe-worthy story of a recent mishap, Trey's knee-jerk reaction to blame Lauren, and how they all repaired after the shock wore off. Plus, they offer practical tips for finding time to connect, getting creative with privacy, and why it's actually healthy for teens...2025-03-0342 min
The Partnership PodcastBlake Lively vs. Justin Baldoni: The Stories We Tell Ourselves (Part 2)In part two of this deep dive, Lauren and Trey challenge the narratives shaping the Blake Lively vs. Justin Baldoni case. Lauren refutes the idea that "once a cheater, always a cheater," while Trey shares his teenage Nickelodeon stardom experience—including a moment on set with Blake Lively. They explore trust, attraction, and power, with Lauren questioning if she would have reason to fear if Trey worked alongside a beautiful, dynamic woman who had done the work. Trey asks Lauren’s take on Baldoni’s and Lively’s character, and Lauren introduces Elizabeth Lesser’s "Old Story vs. New Story Powe...2025-02-2445 min
The Partnership PodcastBlake Lively vs. Justin Baldoni: Power, Gender, and the Stories We Tell (Part 1)In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into the Blake Lively vs. Justin Baldoni case, unpacking the narratives, power hierarchies, and gender dynamics shaping the conversation. Lauren shares intimate details about her own divorce and the fear of being deposed, connecting personal experience to public scrutiny. Together, they explore how jealousy, silencing, and cultural norms shape relationships and question how these dynamics might play out in Blake and Ryan’s partnership. Don’t miss part one of this powerful two-part series.Want to work on old narratives that affect the way you approach hard conversations with...2025-02-1755 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Prioritize Sex & Negotiate Desire Without Pressure or RejectionIn this Season 2 premiere of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break down how to prioritize sex and negotiate intimacy in a way that feels good for both partners. They explore the stories we create about our relationships—often shaped by insecurity—and ask, Is your partner actually avoidant, or is that just a narrative in your head?Lauren shares why safety-seeking behaviors aren’t inherently wrong, but as adults, we get to decide whether we still want to feel their impact. They discuss the differences in arousal times, how Lauren uses a vibrator and er...2025-02-1043 min
The Partnership Podcast🎙️ Season Finale: Answering Your Questions on Sex, Dishes & Conservative Town LifeIn the Season One finale of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Trey and Lauren answer listener questions on relationships, intimacy, and personal growth. They discuss navigating mismatched libido, overcoming body insecurities, and living in a conservative town while raising a teen who could tune in. Trey shares insights from his meditation practice, gives an update on how he’s handling the dishes in the sink, and reflects with Lauren on the most valuable lessons they’ve learned about each other after 100 episodes. Plus, they reveal exciting details about the guests joining them in Season Two.
Tune in for an honest, enga...2025-02-031h 10
The Partnership PodcastErotic Self-Focus & an On-Camera ConflictIn this raw and unfiltered episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren dives into her favorite topic of the moment: erotic self-focus. With passion and purpose, she breaks down how centering yourself in your most erotic fantasies can be a transformative act of self-love and empowerment—especially for women.
But what starts as a liberating conversation takes a sharp turn when Trey voices his discomfort in the recording chair. What unfolds is an unexpected on-camera conflict that lays bare their vulnerabilities. Lauren wrestles with her inner urge to tell Trey to "buck the fuck up," wh...2025-01-2748 min
The Partnership PodcastToo Busy for Sex? Rebuilding Intimacy After a Stressful WeekNote: We’re redesigning our podcast studio, so the visuals might look a little different over the next few episodes!
In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren opens up about her biggest fears around overworking and neglecting her family. She and Trey share a new image that helped them get on the same page and discuss how they found their way back to one another sexually after a hectic work week. Hear how they turned toward each other even without the presence of desire, why it felt awkward, and how it ultimately worked to deepen their connection. Tune in...2025-01-2147 min
The Partnership PodcastHow Holiday Stress Can Build Sexual Arousal: Anxiety, Surprise & Sneaky TricksIn this festive 25-minute Christmas episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into the surprising role anxiety plays in arousal—especially during the holidays. They explore how visiting your childhood home can be a turn-on or turn-off, and the three key moments that can make you desire your partner more: missing them, seeing them in their element, or being surprised by them.
They also share hilarious and sexy stories about sneaking away for private moments (like a stinky NYE bathroom and slipping into a hotel conference room—no breaking and entering, promise!). Lear...2024-12-2328 min
The Partnership PodcastEthical Casual Dating, Spicy Confessions, and Lessons from the Slut EraIn this quick, 25-minute episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey revisit the topic of casual sex, diving deeper into tools and resources for those navigating casual dating with ethics. Trey asks Lauren for practical advice on how to take care of yourself and the people you're dating. Lauren shares her top 5 tools for Ethical Casual Dating, including getting clear on your wants, practicing safer sex, and diversifying your emotional "portfolio."
The episode heats up when Trey confesses to waiting for women to ask, "Where is this going?" and Lauren challenges him to reflect on whether...2024-12-1625 min
The Partnership PodcastRelational Sex vs. Recreational Sex: Trey Reflects on His Dating PastIn this candid episode, Lauren and Trey discuss the difference between relational and recreational sex. Lauren dives deep into Trey's years of casual sex and dating multiple people, uncovering a story she's never heard before. Trey reflects on his past, takes ownership of mistakes, and shares how he wishes he'd had the tools to communicate better with women.
At 21:42, Trey asks, "How do women prevent getting led on? What red flags should they look for if they're being used just for sex?"
At 26:00, Trey shares a shocking story about a casual dating...2024-12-0959 min
The Partnership PodcastSleepy Side Sex & The Art of Offers, Requests, and InvitationsIn this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break down "Sleepy Side Sex" in response to an audience question. They explore the nuances of Offers, Requests, and Invitations, inspired by Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent. Discover how these concepts can transform intimacy and communication. For deeper insights, check out Dr. Martin’s book The Art of Giving and Receiving. (https://amzn.to/3CJ6Rdi)
13:47 What are the differences between offers, requests, and invitations?
15:39 What is desire smuggling?
16:45 How do you get curious about your wanting?
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The Partnership PodcastThe Truth About Fancy Sex Positions & How Parentified Sons Affect RelationshipsIn Episode 93 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey explore powerful topics inspired by a recent post from The Holistic Psychologist. They dive into the parentified son's resentment of household responsibilities, codependency, and how childhood strategies may no longer serve us in adulthood.
Lauren shares a vacation story of choosing embodied joy by dancing solo when Trey needed time to himself—a breakthrough moment a year in the making. They discuss empathy, the danger of "desire smuggling," and how hearing wants can strengthen intimacy.
At 26:50, the conversation shifts to li...2024-11-1846 min
The Partnership PodcastDo You Want Your Partner to Be Your Perfect Parent?Do you ever want your partner to be your perfect parent? In this revealing episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into household responsibilities, exploring how childhood roles and unmet needs shape their relationship today. Trey opens up about his frustrations with household chores and how deep-seated resentments impact their partnership. Together, they unpack themes of projection, shadow work, and the desire for a partner to act as a "perfect parent." Join them as they work through real-time challenges and create a plan to reframe their daily dynamics with more understanding and compassion. Perfect for couples navigating...2024-11-1143 min
The Partnership PodcastSpecial Vacation EpisodeSPECIAL AUDIO-ONLY VACATION EPISODE - Your Questions Answered | Partnership Podcast Ep. 91If you would like to work with someone to craft your ideal partnered vacation, go to: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultJoin Lauren and Trey on this special vacation episode of The Partnership Podcast! This audio only episode was recorded in the Dominican Republic! Tune in as they dive into your questions, sharing insights on how they’ve worked to heal the wounds inflicted on their trip last year and open up about the journey over the past 12 months...2024-10-2544 min
The Partnership PodcastWhat Does It Really Mean to Love Someone? Reclaiming a Vacation Gone WrongWhat Does It Really Mean to Love Someone? Reclaiming a Vacation Gone Wrong & Building Resiliency | Partnership Podcast Ep. 90
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In Episode 90 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into reclaiming their "Vacation Gone Wrong" from last year. Kicking off with a powerful quote from Lauren's professor and colleague, Dené Logan, “We have been conditioned to believe that love means 'I keep people comfortable at all costs.' That is not love. T...2024-10-2140 min
The Partnership PodcastCan a Married Man Have Female Friends?Can a Married Man Have Female Friends? | Navigating Boundaries & Uncomfortable Conversations
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In episode 89 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey tackle the hot topic: Can a married man have female friends? They share their personal experience supporting each other's friendships with the opposite sex, while navigating trust, boundaries, and potential feelings of jealousy. Plus, they open up about Trey's 40th birthday, and how an ill-timed conversation led to ongoing discussions. Tune in for insights on friendship, managing jeal...2024-10-1450 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Set Emotional Boundaries in RelationshipsHow to Set Emotional Boundaries in Relationships | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 88
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In episode 88 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey explore how a partner's emotions can impact our well-being. They dive into Dr. Betty Martin’s concept of domains—"all the things we have a right to and responsibility for"—and Robyn Dalzen's insight that "every aspect of human relationship is a negotiation of the third domain, the space between us." Learn practical and kind ways to set boundaries with those you love. Lauren...2024-09-3047 min
The Partnership PodcastThe Wheel of Consent Explained: Lauren & Trey’s 'Like a Pro' Training ReviewThe Wheel of Consent Explained: Lauren & Trey’s 'Like a Pro' Training Review | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 87
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In this special episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey share their transformative experience after completing Dr. Betty Martin’s "Like a Pro" training on The Wheel of Consent. They rave about their incredible instructors, Carmen and Robyn, and dive deep into the exercises that resonated most with them—like the powerful "Listening Turn" which they practice on camera. Trey opens up a...2024-09-2354 min
The Partnership PodcastPreparing for DC: Wheel of Consent, Emotional Growth & Trey's First Training ExperiencePreparing for DC: Wheel of Consent, Emotional Growth & Trey's First Training Experience | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 86
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In Episode 86 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into their feelings as they prepare for Dr. Betty Martin's "Like a Pro" Training in Washington, DC, exploring The Wheel of Consent. For the first time, Trey steps into "Lauren's world" of training, sparking an insightful discussion about personal growth, boundaries, and emotional connection.
They also segue into lighter topics—Trey's golf obsession and his recent sadness—while Lauren reflects on her Sep...2024-09-0926 min
The Partnership PodcastProjection, Gaslighting & The Wheel of Consent: How to Handle Relational ConflictsProjection, Gaslighting & The Wheel of Consent: How to Handle Relational Conflicts | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 85
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In Episode 85 of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren dive into a real-time argument, uncovering how projection and gaslighting play out in relationships. They share a funny story about miscommunication with Lauren's daughter, leading to a candid discussion on setting boundaries and knowing our limits. Lauren and Trey explore the importance of seeking clarification and understanding, even from “the baby.” The episode takes a deeper turn when Trey opens up about his fears ar...2024-09-0250 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to build anticipation in long-term partnership: Why we don't text when we're apart.How to build anticipation in long-term partnership: Why we don't text when we're apart. | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 84
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In Episode 84 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey dive into the unique choice of not texting while apart to cultivate longing and anticipation in their relationship. They share personal stories of recent "ouches," how they took ownership of their actions, and the steps they're taking to prevent future hurt. Tune in to learn how creating distance can deepen connection...2024-08-2642 min
The Partnership PodcastWhat is Sex? Exploring New Perspectives & Roadmaps to PleasureWhat is Sex? Exploring New Perspectives and Roadmaps to Pleasure | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 83
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In Episode 83 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into the question, "What is sex?" Before their insightful conversation begins, they explore the triggers that left Trey unsettled that morning. Lauren offers a compassionate perspective on understanding his frustration, rooted in past hurts from female figures. As they unpack their definitions of sex, Lauren introduces a fresh view of pleasure, while Trey shares...2024-08-1954 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Attune to Your Partner's Needs: Balancing Autonomy and Connection in RelationshipsHow to Attune to Your Partner's Needs: Balancing Autonomy and Connection in Relationships | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 82
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In episode 82 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey navigate the complexities of attuning to each other’s needs, especially when one partner is under the weather. As Trey battles a summer cold, they explore Lauren's tendency to overfunction, the delicate dance between autonomy and connection, and how to let go of old strategies that no longer serve. Watch as La...2024-08-1237 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Break Taboos and Have Amazing Period SexLEARN MORE ABOUT HAVING GREAT PERIOD SEX https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
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In Episode 81 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey tackle the often taboo topic of period sex. They dive into hilarious past stories, personal discomforts, share practical tools to combat mess, and discuss how Lauren's emotional reaction after orgasming during her period brings a deeper understanding to the experience. The conversation takes a turn when Trey uses the...2024-08-0548 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Build Secure Connections vs. Secure Attachments & Learning Together with OMGYES!How to Build Secure Connections vs. Secure Attachments & Learning Together with OMGYES!
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In Episode 80 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey delve into the crucial difference between secure connections and secure attachments in the early stages of dating. They share their unique experience of watching OMGYES, (https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/3841222/1463336/17315) a vulva-centered educational platform, on a recent date. Lauren asks Trey about his thoughts on this...2024-07-2955 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to be curious instead of frustrated with family!LEARN HOW TO GO TO CURIOSITY INSTEAD OF FRUSTRATION https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Join Trey and Lauren in this episode of The Partnership Podcast as they chat about frustration with a menstruating teenager! It’s a constant struggle to parent differently than we were and these two show us how curiosity can help. Lauren asks Trey to share how he’s doing emotionally, intellectually, and sexually and he asks her the same. They explain their term Jelly-Bear for anyone who is not familiar with their term for low resiliency. Lauren shares how they made...2024-07-2235 min
The Partnership PodcastBedtime Smartphone Drama: Trey and Lauren's Real TalkBedtime Smartphone Drama: Trey and Lauren's Real Talk
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In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren dive into a surprisingly contentious topic: Trey's frustrations with Lauren's smartphone usage before bed. This episode almost didn't see the light of day because Lauren felt it was a silly conversation, but she hopes it helps others see that everyone argues over ridiculous things sometimes.
Join us as Lauren tries to ask Trey her signature question, "What...2024-07-0826 min
The Partnership PodcastNavigating Stepparent Frustrations & Enhancing Sexual RelationshipsNavigating Stepparent Frustrations & Enhancing Sexual Relationships
Learn how to take ownership of your own actions as a stepparent and enhance your sexual relationships: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren delve into the complexities of parenting a stepchild. Trey candidly shares how his frustrations build up, while Lauren lightens the mood with a heartwarming memory from a recent three-minute game. They reflect on Lauren's unwavering support for Trey and transition into a discussion on common issues faced by men in relationships.
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The Partnership PodcastSex isn't Everything, It's Just a Part of Everything: Navigating Money Conversations in PartnershipIn Episode 74 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into a recent challenging conversation about finances and explore how it led to an unexpected outcome. Lauren often says, "Sex isn't everything, it's just a part of everything," and this episode illustrates why.
The episode kicks off with a tense moment: after 24 hours of simmering frustration, Trey’s irritation with Lauren surfaces while they're waiting in line for coffee. They discuss the discomfort of sitting with unresolved issues and the resilience needed to navigate these rocky moments with compassion and curiosity. Despite the tension, th...2024-06-1046 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Recover From a Traumatic Event - Our Tantra Event Nightmare and Healing JourneyTrigger Warning: This episode discusses non-consensual touch.
In Episode 73 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey open up about their recent romantic getaway that took an unforeseen and distressing turn. During an exercise at a Tantra event, Lauren was non-consensually touched by another attendee, shattering their expectations of a serene retreat. This experience left them both in shock, grappling with feelings of fear and helplessness.
Lauren courageously shares how she sought immediate support, including a two-hour counseling session right in the midst of their getaway. They discuss Dr. Peter...2024-06-0344 min
The Partnership PodcastBad Orgasms: How to Discuss Disappointing Sex with Your PartnerIn episode 72 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into a candid conversation about how they bounced back from Lauren's recent bad orgasm. Lauren opens up about her choice to embrace a grumpy and irritated day, sharing her fear of hurting Trey's feelings in the process.
The duo also explore the new things they've been trying in their sexual relationship, and how they've discovered that new isn't always better. Trey's recent communication win on the golf course becomes a tool for Lauren to teach about sexual communication, highlighting the importance of clear and...2024-05-2735 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Center Pleasure and Prioritize Space for SexIn this heartfelt episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey delve into their choices to center pleasure in their relationship. They open up about the importance of prioritizing time and space for sexual connection, exploring how these intentional practices have brought them closer.
This episode discusses how they are repatterning their relationship to be distinct from the templates set by their parents, forging a path that's uniquely theirs.
Lauren and Trey also discuss the groundbreaking research of Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., from her latest book, COME TOGETHER. (https...2024-05-2048 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to stay sexually connected while apart!In Episode 70 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey dive deep into the intricacies of maintaining sexual tension and connection during a week apart. As they explore how to craft spaces for playful intimacy that don't feel obligatory upon reuniting, they share personal anecdotes and practical tips for keeping the passion alive.
Throughout the episode, Lauren and Trey candidly discuss the delicate balance between grief and care while separated. They reflect on how they supported each other emotionally during their time apart, even with the death of Holland’s dog, Ollie, ensuring that th...2024-05-1328 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to have age-appropriate conversations about sex!In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey tackle the tricky topic of discussing sexuality with children and teenagers. Lauren kicks off the conversation by highlighting breakthroughs her clients are experiencing, tracing many of their challenges back to their inaccurate and incomplete sexuality education.
Trey starts off feeling very uncomfortable, but by the end of the episode comes to see how his own adult experience is coloring his perspective.
Lauren equates the Sex Ed most kids receive to providing Fast and the Furious movies as Driver’s Ed...2024-04-2940 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to get out of your head during sex! (A true story...)Episode 68 of The Partnership Podcast delves into an intimate conversation between hosts Lauren and Trey as they candidly discuss a recent sexual encounter gone wrong! Just two days ago, they found themselves grappling with intrusive thoughts and old beliefs that threatened to derail their connection.
Trey opens up about the pressure he felt to maintain his erection, only to find himself losing it amidst the mental gymnastics of performance anxiety. Meanwhile, Lauren recounts the internal struggle of feeling pressured to climax quickly so Trey could pursue his plans for the day, only to feel...2024-04-2224 min
The Partnership PodcastLaughter, Coffee, and Honeymoon EffectsJoin Lauren and Trey for a whirlwind of laughter and joy in Episode 67 of The Partnership Podcast.
Lauren kicks things off by playfully mourning Trey, despite him being very much alive, setting the tone for the delightful banter that ensues.
As the conversation unfolds, they thank a client of Lauren's for her gift of coffee and touch upon Trey's aversion to marriage, a topic that never fails to spark some lively back-and-forth between the two.
Lauren shares her current fascination with cell biology and...2024-04-1523 min
The Partnership PodcastA Week of Revelations & IntegrationsWelcome back to Episode 66 of The Partnership Podcast! In this installment, Lauren and Trey dive deep into their reflections on integrating the valuable lessons learned from last week's on-camera breakdown. Lauren vulnerably shares her journey of self-discovery, revealing how a phone call with her sister led her to uncover the source of her emotional wounds. Trey eloquently describes this pivotal moment as a "First Fucking Time" inspired by the wisdom of Brene Brown, emphasizing his commitment to better support Lauren moving forward.
Despite their transformative insights, the duo also indulges in the lighter moments...2024-04-0842 min
The Partnership PodcastCommunication Breakdowns: or the most uncomfortable conversation we’ve ever had on cameraIn Episode 65 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey dive into the murky waters of miscommunication and confrontation. What begins as an attempt to address a communication failure from the previous night quickly spirals into the most uncomfortable onscreen conversation ever witnessed on the podcast.
Tensions run high as Lauren and Trey grapple with their own insecurities and frustrations, laid bare for their audience to witness. With raw emotions, they navigate the terrain of misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and unspoken expectations.
Listeners will find themselves captivated by the raw...2024-04-011h 11
The Partnership PodcastCoaching a Partner During SexIn Episode 64 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey delve into the vulnerable intricacies of coaching a partner during sex. However, before the podcast even begins, Lauren unintentionally hurts Trey's feelings. What ensues is a raw and honest conversation as they navigate simultaneously repairing the wound while discussing the topic at hand.
Lauren takes accountability for the harm she inflicted, demonstrating the importance of acknowledging and owning one's mistakes in a partnership. Trey is given the space he needs to process his hurt feelings in his own time, highlighting the significance of allowing each...2024-03-2550 min
The Partnership PodcastOvercoming Old Patterns, Money Matters, and Adventures in Intimacy!AUDIO ONLY EPISODE!
In Episode 63 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey delve into the depths of personal growth, financial perspectives, and intimate adventures. Trey opens up about the patterns and self-limiting beliefs he's conquering, while Lauren shares her insights into what money truly signifies for her, leading to an emotional moment where she describes its connection to self-worth.
Throughout the episode, Trey reflects on recent instances where he bottled up his emotions, resulting in natural consequences that prompted deep introspection. From missed opportunities for connection to feelings of frustration, Trey grapples with the effects of suppressing his feelings...2024-03-1859 min
The Partnership PodcastHow to Initiate Sex!In this sizzling episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey candidly explore the art of initiating sex in short-term to long-term relationships.
They kick things off with a hilarious tale from their own lives, recounting the time when a misguided attempt at sexual initiation went hilariously awry in their basement - a story you won't want to miss! Lauren also challenges the popular concept of the 5 Love Languages, arguing that everyone deserves each. The duo delves into the delicate subject of handling rejection and shares insights for when your partner turns down intimacy.
As...2024-03-1145 min
The Partnership PodcastFairways, Mansplaining, and Unwanted AttentionJoin Lauren and Trey in Episode 61 of The Partnership Podcast as they dive into the viral video that's been making waves in both of their online communities. Female Pro Golfer, Georgia Ball, finds herself being "mansplained" by a stranger while she films a practice session. (Here’s the LINK!) Lauren and Trey share their perspectives on this incident and her chosen response - shedding light on the broader issues of gender dynamics and the plight of “being polite.”
Trey opens up about his own experiences on the golf course, recounting similar encounters and the challe...2024-03-0438 min
The Partnership PodcastSex outside the Bedroom: The Living Room AdventureIn this episode of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey invite listeners into the intimate realm of their relationship as they recount the steamy playtime that unfolded upon Lauren's return from Washington, DC.
Far from the ordinary, this episode delves into the couple's journey of consensually communicating their desires, leading to a decision to transform their living room into a tantalizing play space. The duo shares their experience of navigating through the complexities of maintaining a healthy and exciting sexual connection, exploring the expansive possibilities of turning common spaces into realms of creativity and connection.
The narrative unfolds...2024-02-2641 min
The Partnership PodcastFemale Centered Orgasms: How to give great oral sex to a vulva!In Episode 59 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey openly explore the intricacies of great oral sex on the vulva. The duo candidly shares stories, including their first sexual encounter, setting the stage for an intimate, hilarious, and informative discussion.
Lauren shares common oral sex obstacles for both the giver and the receiver of oral and how she and Trey overcome these in the bedroom.
Trey unveils how he stumbled upon a Nina Hartley video, “how to eat p*ssy,” that became an unexpected source of inspiration for improving his techniques.
The episode concludes with some of Trey and Lauren's favo...2024-02-1935 min
The Partnership PodcastWhy do Heterosexual Men Still Fear Therapy?In this episode Trey surprises Lauren by diving deep into the lingering stigmas that heterosexual men often grapple with when it comes to seeking therapy. Together, they question generational patterns that have perpetuated the notion that seeking help is a sign of weakness.
Lauren and Trey shed light on the importance of giving partners the space they need to process emotions and challenges that arise during a private counseling session. They explore how breaking free from stereotypes, like crying, can lead to healthier relationships and personal growth.
As the...2024-02-1241 min
The Partnership Podcast4 Ways to Use the Cornerstones of Eroticism!In this scintillating episode, join Lauren and Trey as they invite listeners into the intimate realm of their long-term partnership. Delving deep into the dynamics of Longing & Anticipation, Violating Prohibitions, Searching for Power, and Overcoming Ambivalence, this episode unveils the secrets behind their enduring passion by exploring the profound influence of Jack Morin’s Four Cornerstones of Eroticism.
Lauren and Trey share their personal journey, discussing how these pillars of emotional intimacy, communication, novelty, and vulnerability have played pivotal roles in sustaining the fiery spark in their relationship. Through candid anecdotes and heartfelt conversations, they offer a raw and au...2024-02-0544 min
The Partnership PodcastCategorizing the Types of Sex we HaveAfter a recent sexual encounter that felt slow, nurturing, and wonderful, Lauren and Trey decided to categorize the different types of sex they have in order to help you (and enjoy some shared laughter!)
This episode is a quickie, but we hope it titillates you in all the right places.
These are the categories they came up with, what would you add?
Slow Sex
Sleepy Side Sex
On-Top Sex
Use the Space Sex
Semi-Public Sex
Selfish Sex
Quick Sex
...2024-01-2529 min
The Partnership PodcastTaking Accountability for the Roles we Play in ConflictTW: Spanking as child abuse.
They knew immediately that they could have done better. Episode 55 is a play-by-play of how a momentary problem turned into so much more. Watch or listen to hear how Lauren and Trey each take accountability for the individual roles they played in this brief conflict.
Trey shares how a resiliency check-in led, by Lauren speaking the words, “Jelly-Bear,” would have helped to dismantle the entire misunderstanding BEFORE it happened. They each expound on what this soft word means to them and how it would have...2024-01-1638 min
The Partnership PodcastSexual Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs in PartnershipEpisode 54 is a follow-up to Episode 53! Make sure you listen to that HERE. Trey and Lauren dive right into the concept of anxiety as a form of sexual arousal. This is directly connected to Jack Morin’s Erotic Equation: ATTRACTION + OBSTACLE = EXCITEMENT.
Lauren talks about how it turns her on to have sex when other people are somewhere in the house. Trey surprises her by sharing that the spicy sexual encounters they have in public spaces are because SHE is aroused by the sneakiness, NOT because it is enticing to him. This shocks her an...2024-01-0935 min
The Partnership PodcastSexual Arousal in PartnershipHappy Holidays! Lauren and Trey kick off this episode with a long conversation about arousal and erections! Lauren gives a quick anatomy lesson - sharing what IS and is NOT normal for a penis in a sexual encounter! Then they accidentally stumble into a hilarious discussion about porn, film sets, and fluffers. When Trey expresses doubts that fluffers even exist, Lauren gets SO embarrassed. It’s worth the watch for sure.
After normalizing different levels of “hardness” and the various things that can lead to lack of an erection, Lauren and Trey discuss the role o...2023-12-3136 min
The Partnership PodcastBuilding Bridges and Growing our Support TeamOn Episode 52 Lauren and Trey discuss the ways in which they are building bridges, growing their support teams, and allowing themselves to be witnessed.
They ponder why people raised male tend to avoid therapeutic interventions and Lauren challenges Trey on the level of success he feels like he has attained. Do the wounds of our parents affect the way we interact with our lovers? Trey will be figuring that out soon!
Lauren dissects the concept of “felt safety” and how as she and Trey grow closer they have the pote...2023-12-1938 min
The Partnership PodcastFinding our Way BackThey are finding their way back to each other - gently, slowly, and tenderly. This episode is full of the tools they are using and the insight they have sought from outside sources.
At minute 10:28 Trey shares how their joint Human Design reading with Andie Thueson provided wisdom they were craving! Click here to book your own: https://andiethueson.as.me/schedule.php Lauren explains how needed this reading was for her and they both share their biggest takeaways and how they are using them in this time of healing.
Lauren talks about their Anniversary Dinner and how she...2023-11-0651 min
The Partnership PodcastIs this the beginning of the end?Oh friends, Episode 47 is raw. You might remember Trey’s recent feelings of excessive output - well, it didn’t end. After two weeks of tallying and nit-picking, it all came to a nasty head on Monday night of last week.
Lauren shares how she was deeply hurt and how her body got her out of bed at 2:45am to journal. Trey describes how he came down to find her and details the conversation they had from 3:00am-5:00am Tuesday morning.
You’ll see how tired Lauren is and yet gr...2023-10-301h 15
The Partnership PodcastIndividual Discomfort & Public PartnershipsEpisode 46 is short and sweet! Trey and Lauren start off talking about the discomfort Lauren’s been experiencing in her body in this season of growth and how so many go through similar seasons!
At minute 3:14 Lauren talks about the nausea she’s been experiencing for the past month. Is she pregnant or is it a precursor for something else?
They review tools to combat anxiety and how to support one another as they step into something new!
Then they launch in the public part...2023-10-2328 min
The Partnership PodcastVasectomy Update & Partnership BurnoutTrey and Lauren open Episode 45 with the update you’ve been waiting for! Did Trey gather enough courage to orgasm?!?! You’ll have to tune-in to find out!
This episode was recorded 10-days-post-op and it’s hilarious to see Trey’s real-time reaction as well as Lauren’s attempt at describing a meme she sent to Trey as he was healing! Follow The Partnership Podcast on instagram to see the actual image!
Lauren asks about the quality of Trey’s orgasms post surgery and he shares that they do feel slightly less forceful as of right now, but promises to keep us a...2023-10-1634 min
The Partnership PodcastTrey’s Vasectomy Play-by-Play!Welcome to episode 44 where Lauren and Trey talk about their journey into and through Trey’s vasectomy! This episode was recorded just DAYS after he was snipped and while the whole experience is still VERY fresh in his mind!
Lauren opens storytime reminding the audience about her scare over the summer with a uterine fibroid. It was at that point that Trey decided to find a urologist and get on the books!
At minute 8:57 Lauren asks Trey to tell the story of his initial consult! He shares that he seriously felt like he...2023-10-1042 min
The Partnership PodcastFinding a partner and navigating disaster!So many giggles on Episode 43 of the Partnership Podcast where Lauren and Trey cover their original Partnership Yes/No Lists, the 3 C’s of Partnership, and their recent sexy getaway!
At minute 4:50 Lauren and Trey start unpacking the logical choice they made in choosing partnership with one another. Listeners will enjoy their short trip down memory lane as they approach their anniversary and giggle over Lauren’s most used word of the week, BEMOANING: to regard with displeasure, disapproval, or regret.
At minute 7:20 they start to unpack the “lists” they eac...2023-10-0252 min
The Partnership PodcastRenegotiating Trauma through PlayDo old wounds ever show up in your partnership when you’re trying to learn new things? Then Episode 42 is for you! Trey shares more than he EVER has as he tells Lauren the story of his weekend on the golf course and how his body internalized GOLF as trauma. Lauren invites him to share the origin story of his anger and how he’s working through rage now.
At minute 7:07 Trey remembers how his rage this past Saturday was directed at his mom. He shares the story of the time they were driving on the freeway in LA when...2023-09-2547 min
The Partnership PodcastNon-Sexual Foreplay & The Sex You WANT to Have
On Episode 41 Lauren and Trey discuss the different ways they “keep the door open to arousal” through non-sexual foreplay. They each share various actions the other does that allows them to remain open to desire.
At minute 6:45 Lauren shares an image of how small actions throughout the day enable her to clear a path through the imaginary jungle to Trey with a machete or a weed-wacker or a machete… you’ll get the idea!
Lauren explains that for centuries women have been relegated to objects of desire, and how, implementing non-sexual foreplay allows them to become subjects WHO desire. We are p...2023-09-1839 min
The Partnership PodcastOur Thoughts on the Barbie Movie: Pink, Patriarchy, and PolarityLauren and Trey FINALLY SAW THE BARBIE MOVIE!! Episode 38 is their hot take on the themes they observed including the hilarious jabs the film makes at the Patriarchy.
This episode marks ONE FULL YEAR of releasing podcasts out into the wild and Lauren and Trey sharing their thoughts with you in real time! :) Thanks for being here!
Lauren shares how many folks are frustrated with their partner’s lack of interest in seeing The Barbie Movie with them and how there’s really another question beneath that request. Trey shares the parts of the film he found most funny incl...2023-08-2830 min
The Partnership PodcastProblems vs. ConflictIn Episode 37 Lauren and Trey recap their recent travel and the result of the Event Planner and Day of Coordinator roles they brainstormed on Episode 36. Spoiler, it went wonderfully, despite feeling like they were being punked in the international terminal at LAX!
At minute 16:00 Trey gives a shout out to an audience member who flagged him down on the golf course! He shares how hilarious it is to him that after decades in film and television, it is this podcast that gets him recognized.
For the meat of the...2023-08-2140 min
The Partnership PodcastReal-Time Conflict: Revealing our patterns, conditioning, and juvenile responses.If you ever wonder what real human conflict looks like, just watch/listen to this podcast. There’s not much more to say about Episode 35. The moment Lauren sits down, Trey brings up the mortgage and the rest of this conflict happens in real time.
You will see these two on the struggle-bus for roughly 30 minutes straight. You’ll hear lengthy pauses and feel the awkward silences. You will see tears, hear juvenile thoughts, and feel Lauren’s feigned powerlessness.
Rewiring our brains is not easy. At minute 11:23 Lauren references the scarcity mindset and the concep...2023-07-2447 min
The Partnership PodcastForming a Sexual Game Plan with the Wheel of ConsentLet’s get right to it. Episode 34 talks about Oral Sex a LOT. If that’s not your cup of tea, this might be the episode for you!
Lauren has recently been re-reading Dr. Betty Martin's book, THE ART OF RECEIVING AND GIVING. At minute 1:50 she shares how Dr. Martin suggests that many folks might think they dislike receiving when REALLY they dislike enduring, tolerating and allowing.
At minute 13:40 Lauren unpacks the four quadrants of Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent and they both talk about how allowing is NOT the same as receiving.
At...2023-07-1733 min
The Partnership PodcastNavigating the Possibility of Bad NewsEpisode 30 finds Lauren and Trey right in the middle of an incredibly fragile morning full of fear and worry. After several months in physical therapy for a hamstring injury, Lauren was encouraged to get an ultrasound of her ovaries to check for the possibility of ovarian cysts. While this is a common frustration for people with uteruses, Lauren's grandmother died of ovarian cancer and her nervous system took a tailspin at the possibility.
Lauren struggles to put words to her feelings, and Trey's response to Lauren's feelings has Lauren feeling feelings. Friends, you are getting the unfiltered and raw “mo...2023-06-1938 min
The Partnership PodcastHillsong Documentary (Part 2) & Surprise Bonus Content on Love BombingWell, friends, this episode jumps immediately into the "intimate" details of a recent hike Lauren and Trey went on! If you do nothing else, make sure you watch Lauren's mortified face at minute 2:54! Also, if you think this episode is all about Hillsong, guess again! These two dive into shame, erotic imagination, cheating, love bombing and more!
After they get their mountain of a story out of the way they dive into some prepared questions to wrap up their viewing of the Hulu HILLSONG documentary.
Lauren asks Trey if he feels the corruption seen in "The Secrets of Hillsong...2023-06-121h 26
The Partnership PodcastThe Greatest Turn-Ons: and never before shared pieces of our story...Episode 27 is one of the most accidentally personal episodes Trey and Lauren have recorded so far! They begin their chat having no idea what they're gonna talk about and end up discovering how interconnected the birth of SEX ED FOR YOU is with their love story.
At minute 2:20, Lauren begins her highlight sharing a very exciting announcement and by minute 2:58 she's jumping right into storytelling! Trey recalls his personal and raw journey to realizing how deeply he still wanted to be with Lauren after leaving Virginia and returning to California during the 2020 pandemic. Lauren shares the huge m...2023-05-2939 min
The Partnership PodcastIs it love or cathexis?This episode discusses the difference between cathexis and love as Lauren is coming to understand the terms as she reads ALL ABOUT LOVE: NEW VISIONS by bell hooks.
Trey opens by asking Lauren about a recent "work-cation." She shares how she chose to show up for herself as CEO, COO, and CFO and some difficult and scary choices she had to make. At the end of the day, it is her job alone to care for herself so that she can care for Sex Ed for You.
The conversation centers around the verb, "CATHECT: to invest with mental or emotional...2023-05-2238 min
The Partnership PodcastInterdependence in Partnership: What if goals don’t align?On Episode 24 Lauren and Trey dissect a recent question from the audience that asked, “What if we don’t share the same goals?” Buckle-up, because they’re gonna take you on a wild ride!
At minute 8:57 Lauren shares how MANY of her clients are going through similar struggles right now as one partner deconstructs their evangelical faith, and another seeks to retain their beliefs. What IS the most loving thing to do?
They discuss one of their favorite terms, “interdependence” at minute 10:45 and how far it extends. They ask so many questions including: What happens when our goals...2023-05-0838 min
The Partnership PodcastPorn in Partnership: Pleasure, Panic, Pain & PatienceOn this Episode Lauren and Trey share about a recent instance where Lauren's body reacted negatively to Trey's mention of porn use earlier in the day. Despite "knowing" the benefits of porn and having a Relationship Agreement (Episode 5) that celebrates sexual privacy, Lauren's body still retains body-based sex-negative beliefs that reside in her due to decades of Purity Culture indoctrination. AND THERE IS SPACE FOR HER PAIN.
Trey shares how he felt when Lauren's body responded negatively to his open-hearted sharing and how they worked their way through the moment without further harm. And Lauren shares how...2023-04-3038 min
The Partnership PodcastTaking Responsibility for Feelings in SexOn Episode 22 Lauren and Trey share all the intimate details of a recent sex-cation and the responsibility they each took to make it happen! This weekend hotel stay started as a desire of Lauren's but took a game of catch to make it cum to fruition.
Watch or listen to this episode of the Partnership Podcast to see how the three minute game, raspberries, and sex toys contributed to this amazing sex-filled weekend!
If you feel confused at minute 24:30 when Lauren is talking about the 3 MINUTE GAME, you probably missed the whole episode devoted to this awesome game!! Click here to...2023-04-1753 min
The Partnership PodcastIndividual Growth: Inside of PartnershipsEpisode 19 almost went unshared. It's messy, unrehearsed, raw, and necessary. In their warm up conversation,Trey began telling Lauren about the ways in which he's pushing into the discomfort of growth in this season - habits he's attempting to curb and new disciplines he's hoping to develop. This reminded Lauren of the work so many of her clients are doing right now and so she began to ask how partners can be helpful when their partner is growing - and that conversation just kept rolling.
In this intimate episode Lauren and Trey discuss the...2023-03-2747 min
The Partnership PodcastPeriods in Partnerships! The Messy TruthThis episode begins with a silly little confession from Trey and leads into a deeper dive of the many health benefits of masturbation when used as a purposeful tool. Lauren believes that it's time to let go of the misinformation that continues to leave people feeling guilt and shame about a normal expression of the sexual self.
The REAL content of this episode revolves around the taboo of menstruation and period sex! As a menstruating person, Lauren has experienced GREAT period sex and hilarious period sex and she gets down and dirty with Trey as they talk...2023-03-0750 min
The Partnership PodcastIs curiosity the key to intimacy?Episode 17 unfolds differently than all the rest! When they embarked on this conversation Lauren thought they'd be discussing the power of self-actualization and the accessibility of self-help resources these days. But, as you'll see, the dialogue takes a much different turn. Lauren shares how, through the power of question asking, Trey encourages intimacy and makes her feel: un-known, exciting, and erotically expansive.
Trey shares how he first picked up the classic book, HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE (https://amzn.to/3SzH6jp), written in 1936 by Dale Carnegie, and how it became a game changer for h...2023-02-2439 min
The Partnership PodcastMonogamy and the Erotic MindIf sexual fantasies and the erotic make you uncomfortable this might not be the episode for you! On Episode 15, Lauren and Trey discuss one of their FAVORITE topics, the Erotic Imagination. They unpack how they protect one another's sexual privacy and what that looks like in their monogamous relationship.
They unpack one of @drjoli_hamilton 's terms, "Creative Monogamy" and the different ways they both practice sexual fantasy sharing. Lauren recently rewatched @estherperel 's Ted Talk on Long-Term relationships and she tosses questions at Trey about what flames desire in him!
This episode feels safe, playful, and sweet. Which after th...2023-02-0651 min
The Partnership PodcastHoliday traditions or obligations?Are you decompressing from the holidays? Us too! On Episode 11, we break down the holiday traditions we are building and the holiday obligations we are no longer choosing to participate in. Trey shares how we stumbled into Christmas Tree trauma early on in our relationship and Lauren explains how she attempts to protect his nervous system without sacrificing what is important to her.
We hope this episode provides you with the opportunity to chat with your partners about the traditions that do and do not serve you! You'll see us do it in real time!! If you'd...2023-01-0248 min
The Partnership PodcastMoney & Porn - Recent events that have us talking!On Episode 8 Lauren shares how she recently failed to communicate about a joint financial decision and Trey shares his newest thoughts on pornography. They walk through their juvenile insecurities and the surprisingly similar origins of their desire to conceal behaviors.
If money and sex are two of the most common reasons for divorce, you might want to give this raw episode a listen. Lauren and Trey come to unfiltered discoveries about the motivations behind each of their tendencies and how they can support one another as partners.
Watch as Lauren, a Professional Sexuality Educator, listens...2022-12-1259 min
The Partnership PodcastIn Conflict! (Part 1)Have you ever wished you could be a fly on the wall of someone else's disagreement? Well, look no further.
This episode of The Partnership Podcast finds Lauren and Trey right smack in the middle of an incredibly uncomfortable conversation. They stumble into childhood trauma, their responses trigger one another, and eventually they realize there's no true resolution other than time and space. (Watch them find their way back to one another in Part 2)
WARNING: You will FEEL the tension in this episode. It's not pretty and nothing gets tied up in a pretty bow, AND...2022-09-1954 min
The Partnership PodcastWhen attraction levels drop!Do you ever feel your attraction level for your partner dropping? Do you ever feel like their attraction for YOU is dropping? You are not alone!
On this episode Lauren and Trey unpack a recent partnership failure and how it made their sexual and romatic attraction levels for one another drop! They discuss how taking responsibility for communicating to our partners and holding space for our partner's words is hard, but oh-so-worth-it!
Both share two things that INCREASE and DECREASE their attraction levels for one another. HINT: you might be surprised at their answers...
2022-09-0526 min
The Partnership PodcastPartnership Podcast "WHY"On this introductory episode of The Partnership Podcast Lauren and Trey talk about their "why" for this content. They discuss who they hope their vulnerable conversations help, what led them to want to share their sucesses and failures, and how choosing partnership has been their most powerful decision to date.2022-08-3017 min